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Posted by Gemitati😂😂😂Posted by pisceswoman123I don’t know if you right but who needs a man who is ‘afraid of his feelings’? Not sexy!!! What’s next? Not comfortable to insert? Doubtful about frequency if frictions? Scared to cum? Oh, boy...😂💦😭👎Posted by Helen29He seems scared of what he is feeling. Be patient with him 😉
No, no don't worry I didn't think you were being mean. I just think I have been quietly firm and held my boundaries with him very carefully (If I hadn't he'd be gone lol)
Ha ha, I know how you feel. I don't feel insecure with him...just puzzled probably He acts like he's in love and then says we're "friends". It's just not what I am used to.click to expand
But I think they are doing well. She is being impatient. She wants to be secure about where things are going but is still early days. She cannot push it. To me he seems like he wants her.
Posted by pisceswoman123...but he is AFRAID OF HIS FEELINGS!Posted by Gemitati😂😂😂Posted by pisceswoman123I don’t know if you right but who needs a man who is ‘afraid of his feelings’? Not sexy!!! What’s next? Not comfortable to insert? Doubtful about frequency if frictions? Scared to cum? Oh, boy...😂💦😭👎Posted by Helen29He seems scared of what he is feeling. Be patient with him 😉
No, no don't worry I didn't think you were being mean. I just think I have been quietly firm and held my boundaries with him very carefully (If I hadn't he'd be gone lol)
Ha ha, I know how you feel. I don't feel insecure with him...just puzzled probably He acts like he's in love and then says we're "friends". It's just not what I am used to.
But I think they are doing well. She is being impatient. She wants to be secure about where things are going but is still early days. She cannot push it. To me he seems like he wants her.click to expand
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Posted by GemitatiThat is because he cares and loosing that control is scary. She needs to make sure that he knows that even if he is with her he is not going to loose himself. Aquarius needs the mental freedom.Posted by pisceswoman123...but he is AFRAID OF HIS FEELINGS!Posted by Gemitati😂😂😂Posted by pisceswoman123I don’t know if you right but who needs a man who is ‘afraid of his feelings’? Not sexy!!! What’s next? Not comfortable to insert? Doubtful about frequency if frictions? Scared to cum? Oh, boy...😂💦😭👎Posted by Helen29He seems scared of what he is feeling. Be patient with him 😉
No, no don't worry I didn't think you were being mean. I just think I have been quietly firm and held my boundaries with him very carefully (If I hadn't he'd be gone lol)
Ha ha, I know how you feel. I don't feel insecure with him...just puzzled probably He acts like he's in love and then says we're "friends". It's just not what I am used to.
But I think they are doing well. She is being impatient. She wants to be secure about where things are going but is still early days. She cannot push it. To me he seems like he wants her.
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Posted by pisceswoman123Losing what control? What’s worse can happen? Will anyone die? Or get sick? Or it’ll cause natural disaster?Posted by GemitatiThat is because he cares and loosing that control is scary. She needs to make sure that he knows that even if he is with her he is not going to loose himself. Aquarius needs the mental freedom.Posted by pisceswoman123...but he is AFRAID OF HIS FEELINGS!Posted by Gemitati😂😂😂Posted by pisceswoman123I don’t know if you right but who needs a man who is ‘afraid of his feelings’? Not sexy!!! What’s next? Not comfortable to insert? Doubtful about frequency if frictions? Scared to cum? Oh, boy...😂💦😭👎Posted by Helen29He seems scared of what he is feeling. Be patient with him 😉
No, no don't worry I didn't think you were being mean. I just think I have been quietly firm and held my boundaries with him very carefully (If I hadn't he'd be gone lol)
Ha ha, I know how you feel. I don't feel insecure with him...just puzzled probably He acts like he's in love and then says we're "friends". It's just not what I am used to.
But I think they are doing well. She is being impatient. She wants to be secure about where things are going but is still early days. She cannot push it. To me he seems like he wants her.
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He will lost himself? Fk! It’s the name of the game. Losing yourself in other...
How is it better to stare at her legs and as soon as she leaves - jerk himself off and banging his head against the wall...THATS losing it!!! And pretty stupid! She was just here...idiot!
Posted by GemitatiPosted by pisceswoman123Losing what control? What’s worse can happen? Will anyone die? Or get sick? Or it’ll cause natural disaster?Posted by GemitatiThat is because he cares and loosing that control is scary. She needs to make sure that he knows that even if he is with her he is not going to loose himself. Aquarius needs the mental freedom.Posted by pisceswoman123...but he is AFRAID OF HIS FEELINGS!Posted by Gemitati😂😂😂Posted by pisceswoman123I don’t know if you right but who needs a man who is ‘afraid of his feelings’? Not sexy!!! What’s next? Not comfortable to insert? Doubtful about frequency if frictions? Scared to cum? Oh, boy...😂💦😭👎Posted by Helen29He seems scared of what he is feeling. Be patient with him 😉
No, no don't worry I didn't think you were being mean. I just think I have been quietly firm and held my boundaries with him very carefully (If I hadn't he'd be gone lol)
Ha ha, I know how you feel. I don't feel insecure with him...just puzzled probably He acts like he's in love and then says we're "friends". It's just not what I am used to.
But I think they are doing well. She is being impatient. She wants to be secure about where things are going but is still early days. She cannot push it. To me he seems like he wants her.
😡😂😱
He will lost himself? Fk! It’s the name of the game. Losing yourself in other...
How is it better to stare at her legs and as soon as she leaves - jerk himself off and banging his head against the wall...THATS losing it!!! And pretty stupid! She was just here...idiot!click to expand
Naaaa... some people need more time than others. They importante thing is that you see it or not. I normally can see it or feel it or whatever you want to call it, and then I just wait. You can’t rush love. We are all different.
Posted by airycap82Posted by pisceswoman123“We are all different.”Posted by GemitatiPosted by pisceswoman123Losing what control? What’s worse can happen? Will anyone die? Or get sick? Or it’ll cause natural disaster?Posted by GemitatiThat is because he cares and loosing that control is scary. She needs to make sure that he knows that even if he is with her he is not going to loose himself. Aquarius needs the mental freedom.Posted by pisceswoman123...but he is AFRAID OF HIS FEELINGS!Posted by Gemitati😂😂😂Posted by pisceswoman123I don’t know if you right but who needs a man who is ‘afraid of his feelings’? Not sexy!!! What’s next? Not comfortable to insert? Doubtful about frequency if frictions? Scared to cum? Oh, boy...😂💦😭👎Posted by Helen29He seems scared of what he is feeling. Be patient with him 😉
No, no don't worry I didn't think you were being mean. I just think I have been quietly firm and held my boundaries with him very carefully (If I hadn't he'd be gone lol)
Ha ha, I know how you feel. I don't feel insecure with him...just puzzled probably He acts like he's in love and then says we're "friends". It's just not what I am used to.
But I think they are doing well. She is being impatient. She wants to be secure about where things are going but is still early days. She cannot push it. To me he seems like he wants her.
😡😂😱
He will lost himself? Fk! It’s the name of the game. Losing yourself in other...
How is it better to stare at her legs and as soon as she leaves - jerk himself off and banging his head against the wall...THATS losing it!!! And pretty stupid! She was just here...idiot!
Naaaa... some people need more time than others. They importante thing is that you see it or not. I normally can see it or feel it or whatever you want to call it, and then I just wait. You can’t rush love. We are all different.
Major point that we often miss. Especially online. I’ve noticed our tendency to be rash and cruel with our language and judgement to one another.
I do appreciate this forum though and gaining a lot of insight from people’s words, thoughts, ideas, and very telling behavior.
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Edited to add: How much better of an atmosphere if we enter a discussion with respectful humor and desire for understanding. 😉
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Agree 😊
Posted by SpaceBirdHe wouldn’t sleep with her because he is afraid of his feelings...
sleep with him ..if he moves on you know he was player....if he stays ....he has fallen in love.
Posted by JadeAlexanderSo you overcame fear and it’s NORMAL!
I’m afraid of feelings. I recognize my feels but I’m afraid of it still.
My marriage slowly broke me... everyday my feelings were broken just a little but more. Every year I cried because I believed it was all my fault he wasn’t happy. I have given years of my life and most of my soul to a person who crushed me.
I finally cut any emotional ties, decided I wanted to be alone forever and NEVER give a person that kind of control over me again.
Then I fell in love. And I know all too well how much pain that can bring to be with someone and not have it work out.
Feelings can be pretty scary when you’ve had to scrape yourself off the floor...
It doesn’t mean you have to run from them, but you can be selective whom you allow access to them.
Even if it’s a failure again. But you are gaining experience and knowledge!
That’s what I am saying...
Get rid of your doubts and go with the flow. I feel positive about this situation, please be careful and don't show you don't fully trust him.
Posted by JadeAlexanderHoney, baby, love...take it from the one who is been broken for almost decade!Posted by Gemitati....i’m so broken now it’s not even funny....Posted by JadeAlexanderSo you overcame fear and it’s NORMAL!
I’m afraid of feelings. I recognize my feels but I’m afraid of it still.
My marriage slowly broke me... everyday my feelings were broken just a little but more. Every year I cried because I believed it was all my fault he wasn’t happy. I have given years of my life and most of my soul to a person who crushed me.
I finally cut any emotional ties, decided I wanted to be alone forever and NEVER give a person that kind of control over me again.
Then I fell in love. And I know all too well how much pain that can bring to be with someone and not have it work out.
Feelings can be pretty scary when you’ve had to scrape yourself off the floor...
It doesn’t mean you have to run from them, but you can be selective whom you allow access to them.
Even if it’s a failure again. But you are gaining experience and knowledge!
That’s what I am saying...
In the end I don’t know if it was worth it and i’m not interested in allowing another person in.
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It’ll never pass but it’s yours to live with and you will survive! This pain will remind you that you are still alive...even if you feeling dead inside.
That’s what heart is for. To be challenged!
And mind is to torture it...I think.
And there is no other solution as to learn how to live with it. Hugs. Take care.
Lol, you guys are all great (except the mean guy).
@Gemitati I do think some people are afraid of their feelings in the sense that they are worried about being vulnerable. It's difficult for open, loving people who enjoy intimacy and feel safe with it to understand but there's about 20% of the population according to science who have a kind of ambivalent relationship with intimacy and commitment. Not that they're afraid they'll die or anything, but their childhood and lifetime experiences have made them feel on some level that intimacy causes pain and loving someone makes them weak. I have a very close female friend who is absolutely terrified.
As it goes though, I don't think this applies to him. Not fully anyway, although he does have high walls around him and he is slow to attach it's more because he is careful rather than terrified. I think with him it's that it is completely 100% ALL OR NOTHING. If he is going to be in, that's it - marriage, life together, the full shebang. He has no comprehension of the concept of "dating" and for him it's very much a serious thing to have a girlfriend and he takes it as a very serious commitment. He's already said this to me pretty clearly so it's more a case of him wanting to make the right decision I think and weighing it all up.
I think he has kind of a checklist going on inside. That sounds terrible, like I am an option, but I think it's the way his mind works. It's totally analytical and not very romantic and I think he'd be like that with any woman. I think when he DOES love it'll be with his whole heart and he'll never leave.
@Moonbutter, I am sorry about this fool and what he is saying to you. Guys like this find forums to come on and talk like that because in real life they don't have confidence. Happy people don't come on the internet and talk big and offend people.
@Gemitati I do think some people are afraid of their feelings in the sense that they are worried about being vulnerable. It's difficult for open, loving people who enjoy intimacy and feel safe with it to understand but there's about 20% of the population according to science who have a kind of ambivalent relationship with intimacy and commitment. Not that they're afraid they'll die or anything, but their childhood and lifetime experiences have made them feel on some level that intimacy causes pain and loving someone makes them weak. I have a very close female friend who is absolutely terrified.
As it goes though, I don't think this applies to him. Not fully anyway, although he does have high walls around him and he is slow to attach it's more because he is careful rather than terrified. I think with him it's that it is completely 100% ALL OR NOTHING. If he is going to be in, that's it - marriage, life together, the full shebang. He has no comprehension of the concept of "dating" and for him it's very much a serious thing to have a girlfriend and he takes it as a very serious commitment. He's already said this to me pretty clearly so it's more a case of him wanting to make the right decision I think and weighing it all up.
I think he has kind of a checklist going on inside. That sounds terrible, like I am an option, but I think it's the way his mind works. It's totally analytical and not very romantic and I think he'd be like that with any woman. I think when he DOES love it'll be with his whole heart and he'll never leave.
@Moonbutter, I am sorry about this fool and what he is saying to you. Guys like this find forums to come on and talk like that because in real life they don't have confidence. Happy people don't come on the internet and talk big and offend people.
@pisceswoman123 thank you for your good advice. I agree with you, it's very early days and I am probably overthinking. I do "feel" it, if I am honest with myself and he basically does everything a boyfriend would do; even nightly texts to see how my day was and stuff. Every single day. He's doing all the right stuff and I think we are headed into being together.
We have a date tomorrow night! I am excited 😄
We have a date tomorrow night! I am excited 😄
Posted by Helen29That is nice 👍 Enjoy tomorrow !!!
@pisceswoman123 thank you for your good advice. I agree with you, it's very early days and I am probably overthinking. I do "feel" it, if I am honest with myself and he basically does everything a boyfriend would do; even nightly texts to see how my day was and stuff. Every single day. He's doing all the right stuff and I think we are headed into being together.
We have a date tomorrow night! I am excited 😄
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What I can't do is FORCE him to feel romantically for me, so at the moment we are kind of friends which may or may not blossom so I have to really set some kind of limit on that. At the moment, we're pretty much dating and doing romantic activities so I guess if he starts dating someone else then that'll be it, over for me but if we continue as we are for a few weeks then maybe we come to a point of being official.
But you said he is still dating other people too? At the end of the day will you be content with having him just as a friend if one day he says he cannot be more. You have already told him you like him and it seems like he does not want or is afraid to commit but same time likes having you around. But you are not getting anything in return, maybe romantic dates but with no commitment. It's like he is having his cake and eating it too. Maybe he is changing, is getting serious about you, but you have to protect your heart. It is not easy to just stay friends with someone you have/had feelings for.
A positive update (progress anyway).
Our date was great. He took me to some really back street restaurant and we ate dim sum with this funny chinese owner who kept talking to us (he always finds such cool dates in strange places) and then we went to the movies in this retro theatre with cosy armchairs for seats. He was really affectionate all the way through the movie, with his hand rubbing my knee or holding my hand and when I leaned my head on his shoulder he snuggled into me. Then he kept leaning over in the dark and smiling at me and kissing me gently on the forehead /lips and face. Very sweet. I don';t think he had a hand off me for the entire three hours and if I moved away he moved closer.
We went to his place and talked /kissed for a while and he told me he was done dating other people. So big progress on that issue! He also talked to me about his womanising and why he felt he'd done it and said he'd lost interest in doing it anymore. He also explained he had a female friend here for a few days in a couple of weeks and he wanted me to know he didn't like her in a sexual way, so I guess he was reassuring me that he's being faithful even though it's never been explicitly stated.
He was just generally incredibly lovely to me- telling me how cute I am and how lovely and how pretty and stuff like that. Asking about my family and stuff and telling me lots of stories about when he was younger and all sorts. Every time we see each other it just gets more and more intimate and lovely so generally it's moving forward.
I got an uber home, he called to check I'd got home safe.
Still nothing official or stated outright, but I think we are kind of just evolving into a couple. It definitely feels exactly like that anyway so maybe that's ok!.
Our date was great. He took me to some really back street restaurant and we ate dim sum with this funny chinese owner who kept talking to us (he always finds such cool dates in strange places) and then we went to the movies in this retro theatre with cosy armchairs for seats. He was really affectionate all the way through the movie, with his hand rubbing my knee or holding my hand and when I leaned my head on his shoulder he snuggled into me. Then he kept leaning over in the dark and smiling at me and kissing me gently on the forehead /lips and face. Very sweet. I don';t think he had a hand off me for the entire three hours and if I moved away he moved closer.
We went to his place and talked /kissed for a while and he told me he was done dating other people. So big progress on that issue! He also talked to me about his womanising and why he felt he'd done it and said he'd lost interest in doing it anymore. He also explained he had a female friend here for a few days in a couple of weeks and he wanted me to know he didn't like her in a sexual way, so I guess he was reassuring me that he's being faithful even though it's never been explicitly stated.
He was just generally incredibly lovely to me- telling me how cute I am and how lovely and how pretty and stuff like that. Asking about my family and stuff and telling me lots of stories about when he was younger and all sorts. Every time we see each other it just gets more and more intimate and lovely so generally it's moving forward.
I got an uber home, he called to check I'd got home safe.
Still nothing official or stated outright, but I think we are kind of just evolving into a couple. It definitely feels exactly like that anyway so maybe that's ok!.
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A positive update (progress anyway).
Our date was great. He took me to some really back street restaurant and we ate dim sum with this funny chinese owner who kept talking to us (he always finds such cool dates in strange places) and then we went to the movies in this retro theatre with cosy armchairs for seats. He was really affectionate all the way through the movie, with his hand rubbing my knee or holding my hand and when I leaned my head on his shoulder he snuggled into me. Then he kept leaning over in the dark and smiling at me and kissing me gently on the forehead /lips and face. Very sweet. I don';t think he had a hand off me for the entire three hours and if I moved away he moved closer.
We went to his place and talked /kissed for a while and he told me he was done dating other people. So big progress on that issue! He also talked to me about his womanising and why he felt he'd done it and said he'd lost interest in doing it anymore. He also explained he had a female friend here for a few days in a couple of weeks and he wanted me to know he didn't like her in a sexual way, so I guess he was reassuring me that he's being faithful even though it's never been explicitly stated.
He was just generally incredibly lovely to me- telling me how cute I am and how lovely and how pretty and stuff like that. Asking about my family and stuff and telling me lots of stories about when he was younger and all sorts. Every time we see each other it just gets more and more intimate and lovely so generally it's moving forward.
I got an uber home, he called to check I'd got home safe.
Still nothing official or stated outright, but I think we are kind of just evolving into a couple. It definitely feels exactly like that anyway so maybe that's ok!.
He may never make the official statement to you. When he refers to you as his girlfriend to others in front of you, that's probably how you'll get the message
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Sigh.
So after such a great day and big progress, he messages me this afternoon to say he thinks we are "great as friends and have a lot of chemistry". I asked him if he felt friends was all he wanted and he said, "for now, yes I think it is". I said to him that was okay, but that with all the chemistry being friends wasn't working and that I was out / walking away. He said his heart feels like it's been stabbed.
Geezo. This man is just not ready for a relationship and I can't give him whatever it is he wants. A pretend girlfriend?!
So after such a great day and big progress, he messages me this afternoon to say he thinks we are "great as friends and have a lot of chemistry". I asked him if he felt friends was all he wanted and he said, "for now, yes I think it is". I said to him that was okay, but that with all the chemistry being friends wasn't working and that I was out / walking away. He said his heart feels like it's been stabbed.
Geezo. This man is just not ready for a relationship and I can't give him whatever it is he wants. A pretend girlfriend?!
Wow... yeah ok I guess he could be scared of falling for you but why? Has he been so hurt before in a relationship? How old are you guys? You did the right thing to walk as now he needs to face what his hang up is.
He's had one relationship that hurt him, not because she dumped him but I think she was kind of belittling and cold or whatever and he's not had any since. He's never been in love or had a really happy relationship with anybody. We're late twenties.
It really does suck, I've been crying for a lot of hours now. He was upset, but we said out goodbyes and the friendship is over.
It really does suck, I've been crying for a lot of hours now. He was upset, but we said out goodbyes and the friendship is over.
Chemistry and friends don't work together. He liked you, but you started to question him and he backed up, because they never go forward. If confronted, Aquas will not admit it. Don't ruin it. Go forward, but allow him to cool down for a while. Rejection is terrible.
Thanks @compy
I didn't confront him or question him though. I asked how he was feeling this morning and he replied "We are good as friends blah blah". I questioned him AFTER that, asking him to clarify if friendship was all he wanted, but he'd woken up feeling like he needed to get the message over to me that I was just a friend.
I am sympathetic to everyone - but you know, you don't take a girl out on a date and kiss her and do all that stuff and the text her in the morning to remind her she's just a friend. It's kinda cruel actually to do that.
I didn't confront him or question him though. I asked how he was feeling this morning and he replied "We are good as friends blah blah". I questioned him AFTER that, asking him to clarify if friendship was all he wanted, but he'd woken up feeling like he needed to get the message over to me that I was just a friend.
I am sympathetic to everyone - but you know, you don't take a girl out on a date and kiss her and do all that stuff and the text her in the morning to remind her she's just a friend. It's kinda cruel actually to do that.
Posted by Helen29So you confronted him.
Thanks @compy
I didn't confront him or question him though. I asked how he was feeling this morning and he replied "We are good as friends blah blah". I questioned him AFTER that, asking him to clarify if friendship was all he wanted, but he'd woken up feeling like he needed to get the message over to me that I was just a friend.
I am sympathetic to everyone - but you know, you don't take a girl out on a date and kiss her and do all that stuff and the text her in the morning to remind her she's just a friend. It's kinda cruel actually to do that.
Come on. you're being a bit unfair there.
If someone came to your house in the morning and knocked on the door and said "you're fired" and you said "So I am fired?" would you have confronted that person? Of course not. He raised the conversation and I asked him to clarify
How I feel also matters.
If someone came to your house in the morning and knocked on the door and said "you're fired" and you said "So I am fired?" would you have confronted that person? Of course not. He raised the conversation and I asked him to clarify
How I feel also matters.
Posted by Helen29He is numb to your feelings. He did his part. Two different planets, I know, but yet the same feelings. Just different waves.
Come on. you're being a bit unfair there.
If someone came to your house in the morning and knocked on the door and said "you're fired" and you said "So I am fired?" would you have confronted that person? Of course not. He raised the conversation and I asked him to clarify
How I feel also matters.
If it’s not meant to be then there is someone much better suited for you that will truly make your heart sing. I really believe that as I have experienced it myself and in others 😊 this guy was just a step to finding the right one... there may be more. only you know if you really know what you want, and when you are ready you will find it. It took me a long ass time 😝 but it’s totally worth it in the end... all the heartache, disappointment, it purified me to be ready and know what I finally want and not let it go when I found it.
Posted by airycap82Thank you 🤗 one more very important thing. Write down a list of what you want in a guy like for me I wanted someone that would smile and be happy every time they saw me. Also, I wanted someone adventurous , funny, etc... and I got all I asked and maybe even more. But definitely write that list!Posted by Moonbutter
If it’s not meant to be then there is someone much better suited for you that will truly make your heart sing. I really believe that as I have experienced it myself and in others 😊 this guy was just a step to finding the right one... there may be more. only you know if you really know what you want, and when you are ready you will find it. It took me a long ass time 😝 but it’s totally worth it in the end... all the heartache, disappointment, it purified me to be ready and know what I finally want and not let it go when I found it.
This is good advice.
I really think knowing ourselves and what we really value in our core allows us to have clarity in our relationship choices.
Once those things are nailed down, I felt more free. It also felt easier to let it go. 😊
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Oh that's lovely (I love Brene Brown and Anne Lammont). I might get working on my list.
Posted by airycap82Posted by MoonbutterI love that!Posted by airycap82Thank you 🤗 one more very important thing. Write down a list of what you want in a guy like for me I wanted someone that would smile and be happy every time they saw me. Also, I wanted someone adventurous , funny, etc... and I got all I asked and maybe even more. But definitely write that list!Posted by Moonbutter
If it’s not meant to be then there is someone much better suited for you that will truly make your heart sing. I really believe that as I have experienced it myself and in others 😊 this guy was just a step to finding the right one... there may be more. only you know if you really know what you want, and when you are ready you will find it. It took me a long ass time 😝 but it’s totally worth it in the end... all the heartache, disappointment, it purified me to be ready and know what I finally want and not let it go when I found it.
This is good advice.
I really think knowing ourselves and what we really value in our core allows us to have clarity in our relationship choices.
Once those things are nailed down, I felt more free. It also felt easier to let it go. 😊
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Yes. I actually have a list 😂😅
Also, when i start feeling overwhelmed with emotions (loneliness, sadness, anger, whatever) instead of lashing out or texting others, I open up my Notes app and write whatever I wanna say. Brené Brown (borrowing the term from writer-novelist, Anne Lammont) calls it SFD “Shitty First Draft”, basically processing through writing. 😂🤪
That item on your list, smiles and happy every time they see you is 👌🏽 (Also if they make you smile.) Thank you for sharing that! 💕
Sorry to hear he chickened out, but I think his honesty is very telling. Go on about your life (as will he) but don't be surprised to hear from him again soon. I went through this multiple times with my Aqua. Eventually they either stop contacting or settle down.
Posted by sultrykittyAbsolutely, he reminds me of the guy I was crushing for a long time cuz I kept getting mixed messages. but ultimately that means something is off and it’s best to move on.
Sorry to hear he chickened out, but I think his honesty is very telling. Go on about your life (as will he) but don't be surprised to hear from him again soon. I went through this multiple times with my Aqua. Eventually they either stop contacting or settle down.
Posted by MoonbutterPosted by airycap82Posted by MoonbutterI love that!Posted by airycap82Thank you 🤗 one more very important thing. Write down a list of what you want in a guy like for me I wanted someone that would smile and be happy every time they saw me. Also, I wanted someone adventurous , funny, etc... and I got all I asked and maybe even more. But definitely write that list!Posted by Moonbutter
If it’s not meant to be then there is someone much better suited for you that will truly make your heart sing. I really believe that as I have experienced it myself and in others 😊 this guy was just a step to finding the right one... there may be more. only you know if you really know what you want, and when you are ready you will find it. It took me a long ass time 😝 but it’s totally worth it in the end... all the heartache, disappointment, it purified me to be ready and know what I finally want and not let it go when I found it.
This is good advice.
I really think knowing ourselves and what we really value in our core allows us to have clarity in our relationship choices.
Once those things are nailed down, I felt more free. It also felt easier to let it go. 😊
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Yes. I actually have a list 😂😅
Also, when i start feeling overwhelmed with emotions (loneliness, sadness, anger, whatever) instead of lashing out or texting others, I open up my Notes app and write whatever I wanna say. Brené Brown (borrowing the term from writer-novelist, Anne Lammont) calls it SFD “Shitty First Draft”, basically processing through writing. 😂🤪
That item on your list, smiles and happy every time they see you is 👌🏽 (Also if they make you smile.) Thank you for sharing that! 💕
Posted by MoonbutterMost of the time you kind of 'know' whether it's a futile exercise to keep at it, regardless of outside voices. I'm (sort of) glad I put up with it. Would things have moved faster or more decisively if I had put my foot down sooner? Who knows. Maybe. But I always had a feeling there was more underneath than what I was being shown. Turned out good for me, but everyone has to decide for themselves.Posted by sultrykittyAbsolutely, he reminds me of the guy I was crushing for a long time cuz I kept getting mixed messages. but ultimately that means something is off and it’s best to move on.
Sorry to hear he chickened out, but I think his honesty is very telling. Go on about your life (as will he) but don't be surprised to hear from him again soon. I went through this multiple times with my Aqua. Eventually they either stop contacting or settle down.click to expand
Sometimes though you have to feel like you tried right?
I am not sorry I gave him a chance -if I didn't I'd have always wondered.
"smiles and happy every time they see you " - such a great thought and makes me smile sitting here 🙂
I am not sorry I gave him a chance -if I didn't I'd have always wondered.
"smiles and happy every time they see you " - such a great thought and makes me smile sitting here 🙂
Posted by Helen29Yes, of course! No regrets 😊
Sometimes though you have to feel like you tried right?
I am not sorry I gave him a chance -if I didn't I'd have always wondered.
"smiles and happy every time they see you " - such a great thought and makes me smile sitting here 🙂
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