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Understanding If an Aquarius Man Is Interested
An Aquarius man may cancel plans due to personal reasons or lack of romantic interest. Consistent effort and communication are better indicators of genuine interest than one missed appointment. Signs of attraction include frequent contact, sharing personal thoughts, and making plans. Pay attention to his actions over words to understand his feelings.
Hm tomorrow hit him up and be like how are you feeling?
Tell me about it. I am the most devoted gf. Time and time again. But I am starting to realize it was because I expected him to come to me all the time. All previous men just started turning up in my neighbourhood. I realize I need to start making a similar effort for him.
And then be like hey did you want to go see dead pool or get some dessert over the weekend like plan friday night.
I need to be more willing to make an effort to go to his neighbourhood.
And friend some of his friends.
And family
oh yeah baby
It's time his sister met his finance
I mean we are not even fb friends ...that is RIDCIULOUS...oh well time to reach out
awh even dressed like a man she is so so pretty.and her little pretty friends....FB friend request sent...love you guysxxx
Yes, normal.
Posted by BlondeAmbition
awh even dressed like a man she is so so pretty.and her little pretty friends....FB friend request sent...love you guysxxx
I just sent her a message too just telling her it was from her bros gf....just to be friends :-) I want to get in there with all his friends and family .make a good impression.
Maybe pop down to his neighbourhood and tennis club....meet his mama for the first time bring flowers etc.
He had a headache all day, figured it would go away, and didn't want to say anything in case it did go, but it didn't so now he has to text that hes not feeling well and look like a douche, this is so not the Aqua day. However about an hour into his favorite show, he'll forget all about it until he sees the text message again and feel bad.
Posted by BlondeAmbition
awh even dressed like a man she is so so pretty.and her little pretty friends....FB friend request sent...love you guysxxxI just sent her a message too just telling her it was from her bros gf....just to be friends :-) I want to get in there with all his friends and family .make a good impression.
Maybe pop down to his neighbourhood and tennis club....meet his mama for the first time bring flowers etc.
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A fb request is one thing. Popping up unexpectedly and uninvited on his family isn't cool. He should make the introductions.
Let him know it's important for you. If you blaze on in without his knowledge or consent your going to be burning a lot of bridges.
Boundaries
Posted by rungs
Do Aquarian men do this often?We planned to see each other today, plus he didn't stand me up the first time we hung out (last week) but the tonight he texted me like half hour before we were suppose to meet and said he couldn't come cause he had a headache. I would guess he's just not that into me but he wanted to see me, and I made the time for him. Is he into me or not? Or are there any signs that could help me figure out what I am to him - friend, future partner or something sexual.
Side note: there's another girl he's also interested in but i don't know much about their friendship/relationship.
Maybe ask him next time "I'll come kiss it better" to get a definitive answer whether he likes you or not.
Posted by rungs
Do Aquarian men do this often?We planned to see each other today, plus he didn't stand me up the first time we hung out (last week) but the tonight he texted me like half hour before we were suppose to meet and said he couldn't come cause he had a headache. I would guess he's just not that into me but he wanted to see me, and I made the time for him. Is he into me or not? Or are there any signs that could help me figure out what I am to him - friend, future partner or something sexual.
Side note: there's another girl he's also interested in but i don't know much about their friendship/relationship.
He didn't stand you up. He canceled. There is a difference, ya know. A stand up means they didn't show and didn't care enough to let you know. A cancel means they were considerate enough to give you notice he wasn't coming.
Maybe he really had a headache.
Geesh!
Posted by Fox
wow...half an hour before?! he's had the whole day to tell you. I'd lose my shit.
Maybe he took some meds and thought it would take care of it hoping the headache would go away. OR maybe it just started. Like how's he going to know earlier in the day he was going to get a headache?
Posted by Fox
Fact of the matter is, it's rude and extremely inconvenient.
Which is more inconvenient?
Her being put out because he let her know he wasn't coming?
Or him having to play nice when he is in pain?
Which is more rude?
Her getting pissed because he has a headache?
Or him having a headache?
And I get your point that he could have been faking...I'm just giving benefit of the doubt that he wasn't.
Posted by Fox
wow...half an hour before?! he's had the whole day to tell you. I'd lose my shit.
Nah if you love a guy ..you drop everything! Or you BRING YOURSELF TO HIM...and don't take no for an answer!
Posted by rungs
Do Aquarian men do this often?We planned to see each other today, plus he didn't stand me up the first time we hung out (last week) but the tonight he texted me like half hour before we were suppose to meet and said he couldn't come cause he had a headache. I would guess he's just not that into me but he wanted to see me, and I made the time for him. Is he into me or not? Or are there any signs that could help me figure out what I am to him - friend, future partner or something sexual.
Side note: there's another girl he's also interested in but i don't know much about their friendship/relationship.
Maybe ask him next time "I'll come kiss it better" to get a definitive answer whether he likes you or not.
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I'm a Taurus so there's absolutely no way I'm doing this lol. We don't usually make the first move unless we're sure the person we like likes us more than a friend.
Posted by rungs
Do Aquarian men do this often?We planned to see each other today, plus he didn't stand me up the first time we hung out (last week) but the tonight he texted me like half hour before we were suppose to meet and said he couldn't come cause he had a headache. I would guess he's just not that into me but he wanted to see me, and I made the time for him. Is he into me or not? Or are there any signs that could help me figure out what I am to him - friend, future partner or something sexual.
Side note: there's another girl he's also interested in but i don't know much about their friendship/relationship.
He didn't stand you up. He canceled. There is a difference, ya know. A stand up means they didn't show and didn't care enough to let you know. A cancel means they were considerate enough to give you notice he wasn't coming.
Maybe he really had a headache.
Geesh!
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OK ok ok ok, but you get what I mean. I was pretty much already ready to see him I just had to drive out when I got the text.
I didn't expect so many people to debate about this. Ok so I'm not pissed off about it, I just don't understand why he done if a half an hour before we planned to meet, like I'm a girl and it took me like 2 hours to get ready. And yes maybe he actually dd have a headache or maybe he didn't, Im not going to guess and make myself feel bad that's why I'm asking for advice dudes. Like I wanted to see if they make up excuses when they don't like someone or could this have been something that usually do and not purposely like does he like me, am I still a friend in progress. Do they lie like this. Idk. None of you really answered a anything. I'm dissapointed. Can all the Aquarians Jolla @ me pls.
Posted by rungs
I didn't expect so many people to debate about this. Ok so I'm not pissed off about it, I just don't understand why he done if a half an hour before we planned to meet, like I'm a girl and it took me like 2 hours to get ready. And yes maybe he actually dd have a headache or maybe he didn't, Im not going to guess and make myself feel bad that's why I'm asking for advice dudes. Like I wanted to see if they make up excuses when they don't like someone or could this have been something that usually do and not purposely like does he like me, am I still a friend in progress. Do they lie like this. Idk. None of you really answered a anything. I'm dissapointed. Can all the Aquarians Jolla @ me pls.
Sorry for all the bad English, I just woke up and auto correct is not on my.side.
Posted by rungs
Do Aquarian men do this often?We planned to see each other today, plus he didn't stand me up the first time we hung out (last week) but the tonight he texted me like half hour before we were suppose to meet and said he couldn't come cause he had a headache. I would guess he's just not that into me but he wanted to see me, and I made the time for him. Is he into me or not? Or are there any signs that could help me figure out what I am to him - friend, future partner or something sexual.
Side note: there's another girl he's also interested in but i don't know much about their friendship/relationship.
He didn't stand you up. He canceled. There is a difference, ya know. A stand up means they didn't show and didn't care enough to let you know. A cancel means they were considerate enough to give you notice he wasn't coming.
Maybe he really had a headache.
Geesh!
OK ok ok ok, but you get what I mean. I was pretty much already ready to see him I just had to drive out when I got the text.
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Listen, when I first started seeing mine, he ASKED ME if I wanted to go to a river beach party spot with him and some friends. Asked me to my face. I told him I'd have to go home and get changes but yeah, I wanted to go.
By tye time I went home and came back, they were gone. Pissed me the hell OFF, and I let him have it later.
Now something like that is rude.
What yours did was just typical.
Posted by Fox
Fact of the matter is, it's rude and extremely inconvenient.Which is more inconvenient?
Her being put out because he let her know he wasn't coming?
Or him having to play nice when he is in pain?Which is more rude?
Her getting pissed because he has a headache?
Or him having a headache?And I get your point that he could have been faking...I'm just giving benefit of the doubt that he wasn't.
How is her being put out that he wasn't coming inconvenient? LMAO
At no point did i say he would have to play nice when he is in pain, but 30minutes beforehand is taking the piss.
It's more rude that he left it 30 minutes beforehand.At no point have i said he's rude because he has a headache smh truecap.
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You automatically assumed he didn't have a headache, though, and made a judgement on it without all the facts. We don't know if it was real or not and we don't know when the onset happened if it were real. That's all I was trying to point out.
Posted by Fox
Would be interested on whether he set up another date or not. That would show some more about his intent.
I'm curious, too. This would tell the truth.
Posted by rungs
I didn't expect so many people to debate about this. Ok so I'm not pissed off about it, I just don't understand why he done if a half an hour before we planned to meet, like I'm a girl and it took me like 2 hours to get ready. And yes maybe he actually dd have a headache or maybe he didn't, Im not going to guess and make myself feel bad that's why I'm asking for advice dudes. Like I wanted to see if they make up excuses when they don't like someone or could this have been something that usually do and not purposely like does he like me, am I still a friend in progress. Do they lie like this. Idk. None of you really answered a anything. I'm dissapointed. Can all the Aquarians Jolla @ me pls.
Mine has canceled at the last minute because he all of a sudden had some tummy issues (he has diabetes and this happens).
Mine has been late because he fell asleep.
Mine has changed plans on what he wanted to do at the last minute - I get dressed up and instead of going out he gets in the mood to grill at home. Not a problem.
It is typical.
As long as he makes and effort to make it up to you, then that's what really matters.
Posted by Fox
Fact of the matter is, it's rude and extremely inconvenient.Which is more inconvenient?
Her being put out because he let her know he wasn't coming?
Or him having to play nice when he is in pain?Which is more rude?
Her getting pissed because he has a headache?
Or him having a headache?And I get your point that he could have been faking...I'm just giving benefit of the doubt that he wasn't.
How is her being put out that he wasn't coming inconvenient? LMAO
At no point did i say he would have to play nice when he is in pain, but 30minutes beforehand is taking the piss.
It's more rude that he left it 30 minutes beforehand.At no point have i said he's rude because he has a headache smh truecap.
You automatically assumed he didn't have a headache, though, and made a judgement on it without all the facts. We don't know if it was real or not and we don't know when the onset happened if it were real. That's all I was trying to point out.
i didn't automatically assume he didnt have a headache?.... wtf.
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I apologize if I misread your post, but it seemed like you didn't believe him.
It's so very easy to let your imagination run wild. Why speculate when you can just ask him and get an answer directly from the horse's mouth, so to speak?
A lot of smart intelligent women on this.site will tell you straight up that he's not giving you mixed signals but that he is being clear as day that he's just not into you! The good news is that there's plenty of men in the world that are willing to give u what you need
OK now we're getting somewhere. I guess I don't want to come off as too attached if I ask if he had made other plans with someone else. I mean, I already know there's another girl that he likes and even though I'm a natural born Taurus the jealousy won't kick in until I at least know he likes me more than a friend, but at the moment the vibes I'm getting are that we're only friends. So I don't feel the need to hit him with 21 questions. And yes I can see everyone trying to prove my post isn't a big deal, ok yes that's fine I've just never dealt with an aqua man and am confused but, thank all you helpful people.
Posted by rungs
I didn't expect so many people to debate about this. Ok so I'm not pissed off about it, I just don't understand why he done if a half an hour before we planned to meet, like I'm a girl and it took me like 2 hours to get ready. .
He cancelled BEFORE you were leaving to meet him. How on earth could he have guessed you needed TWO hours to get ready for the date? If I were him, I would dump you just because of that. I imagine you didn't prepare by reading the news and looking for some conversation topics on Quora...
Posted by VirgowScorpiMoon
I think aquas are really honest. Most likely he was sick. However, if it's last minute cancel a lot I'd think differently about your situation. Most of the time, they will change plans, see you later but not cancel all together. Except unless he has weak physique and getting sick is normal for him or something.
I like to give people benefit of the doubt. If it happens once or twice over time, it's not a big issue. However, it it happens a lot and becomes a pattern, then there's a problem.
Posted by rungs
OK now we're getting somewhere.You posted this right after eleventh sign said what he said. You sound like you just wanted to hear validation that he's not into you to satisify your insecurities.
You do seem a little insecure about him and your insecurity will kill any attraction he has for you. Aqua men like and need strong, confident, independent women. If that's not you, then move along now before you get too attached. See, aqua men can make even the strongest most confident women feel insecure -even if that aqua is 100% into you. You have to maintain and find confidence in yourself.
Here's the thing - if he keeps contacting you and coming around, that's the sign that he's into you. Those of of that stick it out find sweet, sweet rewards down the road.
As far as the other girl goes, how do you know he likes her? Do you just suspect? Did he tell you this? Did someone else tell you this?
If he told you, then well, I'd pack it up. But if it's only suspicion, then don't worry about her. You're fantastic! Who wouldn't want to be with you?!! (that's how confident women think).
Posted by rungs
OK now we're getting somewhere. I guess I don't want to come off as too attached if I ask if he had made other plans with someone else. I mean, I already know there's another girl that he likes and even though I'm a natural born Taurus the jealousy won't kick in until I at least know he likes me more than a friend, but at the moment the vibes I'm getting are that we're only friends. So I don't feel the need to hit him with 21 questions. And yes I can see everyone trying to prove my post isn't a big deal, ok yes that's fine I've just never dealt with an aqua man and am confused but, thank all you helpful people.how do you know he likes another girl? Did he tell you?
click to expandYes there's me and one other girl that he's "interested in"
Posted by rungs
I didn't expect so many people to debate about this. Ok so I'm not pissed off about it, I just don't understand why he done if a half an hour before we planned to meet, like I'm a girl and it took me like 2 hours to get ready. .He cancelled BEFORE you were leaving to meet him. How on earth could he have guessed you needed TWO hours to get ready for the date? If I were him, I would dump you just because of that. I imagine you didn't prepare by reading the news and looking for some conversation topics on Quora...
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OK you obviously did read anything because 1) I'm not his girlfriend, we're just "seeing each other" and 2) I didn't expect him to just know, I just thought it was worth mentioning that it took me that long to get ready, and that he told me a half an hour before we were meant to see each other that he couldn't come and that didn't make sense to me. You're not helpful at all, pls leave.
Posted by rungs
OK now we're getting somewhere.You posted this right after eleventh sign said what he said. You sound like you just wanted to hear validation that he's not into you to satisify your insecurities.
You do seem a little insecure about him and your insecurity will kill any attraction he has for you. Aqua men like and need strong, confident, independent women. If that's not you, then move along now before you get too attached. See, aqua men can make even the strongest most confident women feel insecure -even if that aqua is 100% into you. You have to maintain and find confidence in yourself.
Here's the thing - if he keeps contacting you and coming around, that's the sign that he's into you. Those of of that stick it out find sweet, sweet rewards down the road.
As far as the other girl goes, how do you know he likes her? Do you just suspect? Did he tell you this? Did someone else tell you this?
If he told you, then well, I'd pack it up. But if it's only suspicion, then don't worry about her. You're fantastic! Who wouldn't want to be with you?!! (that's how confident women think).click to expand"Ok now we're getting somewhere"
I said it because there started being less debate about whether his headache was real or not and more actually helpful answers. I'm a Taurus, I'm shy, not insecure.guess I can see how I can come off insecure in this post but I'm not, there's no real feelings for this guy yet so I really have nothing to lose, I'd just rather find out now than when I end up getting feelings, I can see potential and am at an age (of maturity) where I'd rather not waste time on people who won't matter. This is a girl he has told me about, he never said he has feelings he just said he likes her the way he likes me. I take it as it is tbh, as in, may the better girl win lol. But he is always the one who contacts me first and mentions that he wants to see me often, I don't contact him first at all yet only because he's more of a friend and I only really put effort into people I have feelings for. Anyways, hope I made it more clear
1) One could also dump someone they were just dating.
2) You are annoyed with him for something he is not directly responsible for : your over the top grooming time.
Posted by Undine
1) One could also dump someone they were just dating.2) You are annoyed with him for something he is not directly responsible for : your over the top grooming time.
We're not even dating...we're nothing official.
And I'm not annoyed, I just didn't understand why
3) YOURE STILL NOT HELPING
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Do Aquarian men do this often?
We planned to see each other today, plus he didn't stand me up the first time we hung out (last week) but the tonight he texted me like half hour before we were suppose to meet and said he couldn't come cause he had a headache. I would guess he's just not that into me but he wanted to see me, and I made the time for him. Is he into me or not? Or are there any signs that could help me figure out what I am to him - friend, future partner or something sexual.
Side note: there's another girl he's also interested in but i don't know much about their friendship/relationship.