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Posted by pinkbird03November/start of December when mine started going aloof too!!Posted by Gemgal101Posted by pinkbird03Trying to embrace that attitude...:-)Posted by Gemgal101Itās his loss if he doesnāt want you. No more wasting your time on him if thatās the case. You could find someone else. Plenty of fish in the seaPosted by pinkbird03I know. Something has to be said....Posted by Gemgal101Say it to him. After 18 months, you deserve exclusivity at the least.Posted by pinkbird03I had many a convo in my head recently about how I would bring up the situation and exclusiveness was in there possibly saying to him that I didn't mind the unofficial side but would want exclusiveness...I feel in a way that the fact that I know he may/May not be with other people makes me lose respect for myself. That I'm an option and not a choice.Posted by Gemgal101Posted by pinkbird03I will. As for you, sounds like who will give in first and text but love your attitude for standing your ground.Posted by Gemgal101Posted by pinkbird03I do think about him always but just more wondering what he's thinking and because it's sort of a limbo relationship I guess I think about what will be in the future instead of just taking it a day at a time...anxious is my middle nameš
Do you obsess over him a lot? Because I do.....
lol aww. Try to be positive. I think he will come around!
I feel confident about it, oddly. I think itās because he hasnāt disappeared and he still shows interest even though itās indirectly.
I think itās a good sign your guy still talks to you. Somehow you gotta take it to the next level. Would you ever ask him to be exclusive??
lol Iām really for this no contact strategy. Before I started this, I felt desperate, depressed, hopeless, frustrated, low, not in control, etc. I was in the same boat. We talked, but a lot less than before and definitely not very lovey dovey. He had been aloof since November, but still here.
Now I feel confident, powerful, valued, etc.
It just shows the guy, hey I know Iām amazing and I donāt need you. (Even though I secretly want you)
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You know, I really like your strategy. Makes perfect sense. I need to show him that I can live my life (don't need someone) but that I secretly want him.
I'm usually the one to initiate texts/calls so this would be unusual in his eyes for me to not initiate. And if he wants me in my life, he will make the effort otherwise it will prove I'm not what he wants. They do have to make that decision. Can't mess with free will and distance sometimes makes people reassess what is important in their life and what isn't.
Posted by Leo188881Makes sense lion lol gotta stay true to yourself. Good luck! Let us know how it goes!Posted by pinkbird03I'm a Leo... grand gestures... yada yada. I can't move on without closure, so I guess this is me going after what I want instead of sitting back waiting for life to happen. Maybe it's too forward, but confronting your fears is how you grow and move forward. I think he's a good enough man and worth taking a chance on, so i will give him a chance.Posted by Leo188881Do you really think going to his work is really going to get you what you want? It just seems too forced. Not what he wants naturally. My thought process has been- he needs to make the decision on his own to be with me and make the effort to be with me. Thereās nothing I can say or do to get him to come to that conclusion. The space apart helps him figure it out and if he comes back to me, it will be the sweetest victory because he did it on his own š if not, then it really wasnāt meant to be. I like this way of breaking up lol. Itās easier on me.Posted by pinkbird03If i had to deal with 2 weeks of nothing, after trying with him, I'd be over him and consider it finished. But i would try to fix it first.Posted by Leo188881Do you think going to his work is a good idea?? 2 weeks has been freaking hard. Every day is a struggle. But Iām hoping the saying is true. That men fall in love with you in your absence. Would you consider trying it? This strategy is definitely my last effort before I do move on if he doesnāt come around. I mean letās face it, they arenāt the best communicators. Itās too hard to get them to talk about feelings and emotional stuff when they donāt want to. I just donāt think itās a good idea to go to his garage. Believe me, Iāve considered it too!!Posted by pinkbird03Posted by Leo188881Posted by pinkbird03Posted by Leo188881Nope. Itās been two weeks today I believe. Hes still trying to get my attention and he looks at my Snapchat stories. Iāve only posted 2 though because Iām keeping my distance but still living my life ya know what I mean. He looked at one of them within 4 minutes. It made me happy. Yes, breadcrumbs make me happy..... kinda sad. Wish heād text me.. at this point I think heās being stubborn. I think we both donāt want to be the first one to text the other.Posted by pinkbird03Have you heard from your guy yet or are you both still ghosting?
Do you obsess over him a lot? Because I do.....
How long are you going to keep it up before you decide it's finished?
Iāll probably text him after 30 days tbh. Hopefully Iāll make it that long!! But Iād love for him to text me first because I havenāt given up on our relationship. I actually think the time apart has been a good thing.
I haven't heard from my Aqua in 2 days. I'm giving him til Monday. If i haven't heard from him, I'm going to his work to talk to his face and work out what's next. I couldn't handle 2 weeks in limbo. I don't know how you do it.
He hates surprises but I told him ages ago he can't get rid of me and if he ever tries I'll come to his work and seduce him so he's been warned and I'm executing my right to cash in on that threat.
I don't like games and i would rather talk face to face, so if this is how it has to happen, so be it. I'm too old to waste my time waiting around for something that might not happen. Maybe if i show him that he's worth the effort to me, he wont be so guarded. The worst that will happen is we agree it's not going to work and go our separate ways and go on with our lives.
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Posted by Gemgal101Exactly! Seems like our relationships are almost the exact same!! Lol are you going to try NC? Honestly I think thatās our best bet. Because itās obvious they care about us. They are still in our lives. But they arenāt 100% sure. Pushing them doesnāt do any good!! But space does. Iām thinking good things for both of us!!Posted by pinkbird03November/start of December when mine started going aloof too!!Posted by Gemgal101Posted by pinkbird03Trying to embrace that attitude...:-)Posted by Gemgal101Itās his loss if he doesnāt want you. No more wasting your time on him if thatās the case. You could find someone else. Plenty of fish in the seaPosted by pinkbird03I know. Something has to be said....Posted by Gemgal101Say it to him. After 18 months, you deserve exclusivity at the least.Posted by pinkbird03I had many a convo in my head recently about how I would bring up the situation and exclusiveness was in there possibly saying to him that I didn't mind the unofficial side but would want exclusiveness...I feel in a way that the fact that I know he may/May not be with other people makes me lose respect for myself. That I'm an option and not a choice.Posted by Gemgal101Posted by pinkbird03I will. As for you, sounds like who will give in first and text but love your attitude for standing your ground.Posted by Gemgal101Posted by pinkbird03I do think about him always but just more wondering what he's thinking and because it's sort of a limbo relationship I guess I think about what will be in the future instead of just taking it a day at a time...anxious is my middle nameš
Do you obsess over him a lot? Because I do.....
lol aww. Try to be positive. I think he will come around!
I feel confident about it, oddly. I think itās because he hasnāt disappeared and he still shows interest even though itās indirectly.
I think itās a good sign your guy still talks to you. Somehow you gotta take it to the next level. Would you ever ask him to be exclusive??
lol Iām really for this no contact strategy. Before I started this, I felt desperate, depressed, hopeless, frustrated, low, not in control, etc. I was in the same boat. We talked, but a lot less than before and definitely not very lovey dovey. He had been aloof since November, but still here.
Now I feel confident, powerful, valued, etc.
It just shows the guy, hey I know Iām amazing and I donāt need you. (Even though I secretly want you)
You know, I really like your strategy. Makes perfect sense. I need to show him that I can live my life (don't need someone) but that I secretly want him.
I'm usually the one to initiate texts/calls so this would be unusual in his eyes for me to not initiate. And if he wants me in my life, he will make the effort otherwise it will prove I'm not what he wants. They do have to make that decision. Can't mess with free will and distance sometimes makes people reassess what is important in their life and what isn't.
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Posted by pinkbird03Will do!Posted by Leo188881Makes sense lion lol gotta stay true to yourself. Good luck! Let us know how it goes!Posted by pinkbird03I'm a Leo... grand gestures... yada yada. I can't move on without closure, so I guess this is me going after what I want instead of sitting back waiting for life to happen. Maybe it's too forward, but confronting your fears is how you grow and move forward. I think he's a good enough man and worth taking a chance on, so i will give him a chance.Posted by Leo188881Do you really think going to his work is really going to get you what you want? It just seems too forced. Not what he wants naturally. My thought process has been- he needs to make the decision on his own to be with me and make the effort to be with me. Thereās nothing I can say or do to get him to come to that conclusion. The space apart helps him figure it out and if he comes back to me, it will be the sweetest victory because he did it on his own š if not, then it really wasnāt meant to be. I like this way of breaking up lol. Itās easier on me.Posted by pinkbird03If i had to deal with 2 weeks of nothing, after trying with him, I'd be over him and consider it finished. But i would try to fix it first.Posted by Leo188881Do you think going to his work is a good idea?? 2 weeks has been freaking hard. Every day is a struggle. But Iām hoping the saying is true. That men fall in love with you in your absence. Would you consider trying it? This strategy is definitely my last effort before I do move on if he doesnāt come around. I mean letās face it, they arenāt the best communicators. Itās too hard to get them to talk about feelings and emotional stuff when they donāt want to. I just donāt think itās a good idea to go to his garage. Believe me, Iāve considered it too!!Posted by pinkbird03Posted by Leo188881Posted by pinkbird03Posted by Leo188881Nope. Itās been two weeks today I believe. Hes still trying to get my attention and he looks at my Snapchat stories. Iāve only posted 2 though because Iām keeping my distance but still living my life ya know what I mean. He looked at one of them within 4 minutes. It made me happy. Yes, breadcrumbs make me happy..... kinda sad. Wish heād text me.. at this point I think heās being stubborn. I think we both donāt want to be the first one to text the other.Posted by pinkbird03Have you heard from your guy yet or are you both still ghosting?
Do you obsess over him a lot? Because I do.....
How long are you going to keep it up before you decide it's finished?
Iāll probably text him after 30 days tbh. Hopefully Iāll make it that long!! But Iād love for him to text me first because I havenāt given up on our relationship. I actually think the time apart has been a good thing.
I haven't heard from my Aqua in 2 days. I'm giving him til Monday. If i haven't heard from him, I'm going to his work to talk to his face and work out what's next. I couldn't handle 2 weeks in limbo. I don't know how you do it.
He hates surprises but I told him ages ago he can't get rid of me and if he ever tries I'll come to his work and seduce him so he's been warned and I'm executing my right to cash in on that threat.
I don't like games and i would rather talk face to face, so if this is how it has to happen, so be it. I'm too old to waste my time waiting around for something that might not happen. Maybe if i show him that he's worth the effort to me, he wont be so guarded. The worst that will happen is we agree it's not going to work and go our separate ways and go on with our lives.
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Posted by pinkbird03Stupid me but what's NC?.Posted by Gemgal101Exactly! Seems like our relationships are almost the exact same!! Lol are you going to try NC? Honestly I think thatās our best bet. Because itās obvious they care about us. They are still in our lives. But they arenāt 100% sure. Pushing them doesnāt do any good!! But space does. Iām thinking good things for both of us!!Posted by pinkbird03November/start of December when mine started going aloof too!!Posted by Gemgal101Posted by pinkbird03Trying to embrace that attitude...:-)Posted by Gemgal101Itās his loss if he doesnāt want you. No more wasting your time on him if thatās the case. You could find someone else. Plenty of fish in the seaPosted by pinkbird03I know. Something has to be said....Posted by Gemgal101Say it to him. After 18 months, you deserve exclusivity at the least.Posted by pinkbird03I had many a convo in my head recently about how I would bring up the situation and exclusiveness was in there possibly saying to him that I didn't mind the unofficial side but would want exclusiveness...I feel in a way that the fact that I know he may/May not be with other people makes me lose respect for myself. That I'm an option and not a choice.Posted by Gemgal101Posted by pinkbird03I will. As for you, sounds like who will give in first and text but love your attitude for standing your ground.Posted by Gemgal101Posted by pinkbird03I do think about him always but just more wondering what he's thinking and because it's sort of a limbo relationship I guess I think about what will be in the future instead of just taking it a day at a time...anxious is my middle nameš
Do you obsess over him a lot? Because I do.....
lol aww. Try to be positive. I think he will come around!
I feel confident about it, oddly. I think itās because he hasnāt disappeared and he still shows interest even though itās indirectly.
I think itās a good sign your guy still talks to you. Somehow you gotta take it to the next level. Would you ever ask him to be exclusive??
lol Iām really for this no contact strategy. Before I started this, I felt desperate, depressed, hopeless, frustrated, low, not in control, etc. I was in the same boat. We talked, but a lot less than before and definitely not very lovey dovey. He had been aloof since November, but still here.
Now I feel confident, powerful, valued, etc.
It just shows the guy, hey I know Iām amazing and I donāt need you. (Even though I secretly want you)
You know, I really like your strategy. Makes perfect sense. I need to show him that I can live my life (don't need someone) but that I secretly want him.
I'm usually the one to initiate texts/calls so this would be unusual in his eyes for me to not initiate. And if he wants me in my life, he will make the effort otherwise it will prove I'm not what he wants. They do have to make that decision. Can't mess with free will and distance sometimes makes people reassess what is important in their life and what isn't.
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Posted by Gemgal101Posted by pinkbird03Stupid me but what's NC?.Posted by Gemgal101Exactly! Seems like our relationships are almost the exact same!! Lol are you going to try NC? Honestly I think thatās our best bet. Because itās obvious they care about us. They are still in our lives. But they arenāt 100% sure. Pushing them doesnāt do any good!! But space does. Iām thinking good things for both of us!!Posted by pinkbird03November/start of December when mine started going aloof too!!Posted by Gemgal101Posted by pinkbird03Trying to embrace that attitude...:-)Posted by Gemgal101Itās his loss if he doesnāt want you. No more wasting your time on him if thatās the case. You could find someone else. Plenty of fish in the seaPosted by pinkbird03I know. Something has to be said....Posted by Gemgal101Say it to him. After 18 months, you deserve exclusivity at the least.Posted by pinkbird03I had many a convo in my head recently about how I would bring up the situation and exclusiveness was in there possibly saying to him that I didn't mind the unofficial side but would want exclusiveness...I feel in a way that the fact that I know he may/May not be with other people makes me lose respect for myself. That I'm an option and not a choice.Posted by Gemgal101Posted by pinkbird03I will. As for you, sounds like who will give in first and text but love your attitude for standing your ground.Posted by Gemgal101Posted by pinkbird03I do think about him always but just more wondering what he's thinking and because it's sort of a limbo relationship I guess I think about what will be in the future instead of just taking it a day at a time...anxious is my middle nameš
Do you obsess over him a lot? Because I do.....
lol aww. Try to be positive. I think he will come around!
I feel confident about it, oddly. I think itās because he hasnāt disappeared and he still shows interest even though itās indirectly.
I think itās a good sign your guy still talks to you. Somehow you gotta take it to the next level. Would you ever ask him to be exclusive??
lol Iām really for this no contact strategy. Before I started this, I felt desperate, depressed, hopeless, frustrated, low, not in control, etc. I was in the same boat. We talked, but a lot less than before and definitely not very lovey dovey. He had been aloof since November, but still here.
Now I feel confident, powerful, valued, etc.
It just shows the guy, hey I know Iām amazing and I donāt need you. (Even though I secretly want you)
You know, I really like your strategy. Makes perfect sense. I need to show him that I can live my life (don't need someone) but that I secretly want him.
I'm usually the one to initiate texts/calls so this would be unusual in his eyes for me to not initiate. And if he wants me in my life, he will make the effort otherwise it will prove I'm not what he wants. They do have to make that decision. Can't mess with free will and distance sometimes makes people reassess what is important in their life and what isn't.
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Posted by Leo188881Lol yes very truePosted by pinkbird03Posted by Leo188881Makes sense lion lol gotta stay true to yourself. Good luck! Let us know how it goes!Posted by pinkbird03I'm a Leo... grand gestures... yada yada. I can't move on without closure, so I guess this is me going after what I want instead of sitting back waiting for life to happen. Maybe it's too forward, but confronting your fears is how you grow and move forward. I think he's a good enough man and worth taking a chance on, so i will give him a chance.Posted by Leo188881Do you really think going to his work is really going to get you what you want? It just seems too forced. Not what he wants naturally. My thought process has been- he needs to make the decision on his own to be with me and make the effort to be with me. Thereās nothing I can say or do to get him to come to that conclusion. The space apart helps him figure it out and if he comes back to me, it will be the sweetest victory because he did it on his own š if not, then it really wasnāt meant to be. I like this way of breaking up lol. Itās easier on me.Posted by pinkbird03If i had to deal with 2 weeks of nothing, after trying with him, I'd be over him and consider it finished. But i would try to fix it first.Posted by Leo188881Do you think going to his work is a good idea?? 2 weeks has been freaking hard. Every day is a struggle. But Iām hoping the saying is true. That men fall in love with you in your absence. Would you consider trying it? This strategy is definitely my last effort before I do move on if he doesnāt come around. I mean letās face it, they arenāt the best communicators. Itās too hard to get them to talk about feelings and emotional stuff when they donāt want to. I just donāt think itās a good idea to go to his garage. Believe me, Iāve considered it too!!Posted by pinkbird03Posted by Leo188881Posted by pinkbird03Posted by Leo188881Nope. Itās been two weeks today I believe. Hes still trying to get my attention and he looks at my Snapchat stories. Iāve only posted 2 though because Iām keeping my distance but still living my life ya know what I mean. He looked at one of them within 4 minutes. It made me happy. Yes, breadcrumbs make me happy..... kinda sad. Wish heād text me.. at this point I think heās being stubborn. I think we both donāt want to be the first one to text the other.Posted by pinkbird03Have you heard from your guy yet or are you both still ghosting?
Do you obsess over him a lot? Because I do.....
How long are you going to keep it up before you decide it's finished?
Iāll probably text him after 30 days tbh. Hopefully Iāll make it that long!! But Iād love for him to text me first because I havenāt given up on our relationship. I actually think the time apart has been a good thing.
I haven't heard from my Aqua in 2 days. I'm giving him til Monday. If i haven't heard from him, I'm going to his work to talk to his face and work out what's next. I couldn't handle 2 weeks in limbo. I don't know how you do it.
He hates surprises but I told him ages ago he can't get rid of me and if he ever tries I'll come to his work and seduce him so he's been warned and I'm executing my right to cash in on that threat.
I don't like games and i would rather talk face to face, so if this is how it has to happen, so be it. I'm too old to waste my time waiting around for something that might not happen. Maybe if i show him that he's worth the effort to me, he wont be so guarded. The worst that will happen is we agree it's not going to work and go our separate ways and go on with our lives.
Yep! If he likes me, the crazy is included.
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Posted by Leo188881There is a fine line I guess but even just one day of me not calling/texting is a lot for me. Couldn't not communicate with him for weeks but some distance I think might be good. I think sometimes I can be a bit much in the texting/calling category but it's only because I care so much but I think some guys in general can get overwhelmed by it.Posted by Gemgal101Just be careful that distancing yourself isn't giving him the impression that you're no longer interested if that's not what you want. It can easily be misread. He's a guy and guys are stupid so he's going to understand it as you don't like him anymore, not that you want him to chase you more.Posted by pinkbird03November/start of December when mine started going aloof too!!Posted by Gemgal101Posted by pinkbird03Trying to embrace that attitude...:-)Posted by Gemgal101Itās his loss if he doesnāt want you. No more wasting your time on him if thatās the case. You could find someone else. Plenty of fish in the seaPosted by pinkbird03I know. Something has to be said....Posted by Gemgal101Say it to him. After 18 months, you deserve exclusivity at the least.Posted by pinkbird03I had many a convo in my head recently about how I would bring up the situation and exclusiveness was in there possibly saying to him that I didn't mind the unofficial side but would want exclusiveness...I feel in a way that the fact that I know he may/May not be with other people makes me lose respect for myself. That I'm an option and not a choice.Posted by Gemgal101Posted by pinkbird03I will. As for you, sounds like who will give in first and text but love your attitude for standing your ground.Posted by Gemgal101Posted by pinkbird03I do think about him always but just more wondering what he's thinking and because it's sort of a limbo relationship I guess I think about what will be in the future instead of just taking it a day at a time...anxious is my middle nameš
Do you obsess over him a lot? Because I do.....
lol aww. Try to be positive. I think he will come around!
I feel confident about it, oddly. I think itās because he hasnāt disappeared and he still shows interest even though itās indirectly.
I think itās a good sign your guy still talks to you. Somehow you gotta take it to the next level. Would you ever ask him to be exclusive??
lol Iām really for this no contact strategy. Before I started this, I felt desperate, depressed, hopeless, frustrated, low, not in control, etc. I was in the same boat. We talked, but a lot less than before and definitely not very lovey dovey. He had been aloof since November, but still here.
Now I feel confident, powerful, valued, etc.
It just shows the guy, hey I know Iām amazing and I donāt need you. (Even though I secretly want you)
You know, I really like your strategy. Makes perfect sense. I need to show him that I can live my life (don't need someone) but that I secretly want him.
I'm usually the one to initiate texts/calls so this would be unusual in his eyes for me to not initiate. And if he wants me in my life, he will make the effort otherwise it will prove I'm not what he wants. They do have to make that decision. Can't mess with free will and distance sometimes makes people reassess what is important in their life and what isn't.
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Posted by Leo188881I am not being my true self either for fear of him losing interest and I think he can see I'm not being true. He actually likes when I stand up for myself and tell him off for something he's said to me or done.Posted by Gemgal101Posted by Leo188881There is a fine line I guess but even just one day of me not calling/texting is a lot for me. Couldn't not communicate with him for weeks but some distance I think might be good. I think sometimes I can be a bit much in the texting/calling category but it's only because I care so much but I think some guys in general can get overwhelmed by it.Posted by Gemgal101Just be careful that distancing yourself isn't giving him the impression that you're no longer interested if that's not what you want. It can easily be misread. He's a guy and guys are stupid so he's going to understand it as you don't like him anymore, not that you want him to chase you more.Posted by pinkbird03November/start of December when mine started going aloof too!!Posted by Gemgal101Posted by pinkbird03Trying to embrace that attitude...:-)Posted by Gemgal101Itās his loss if he doesnāt want you. No more wasting your time on him if thatās the case. You could find someone else. Plenty of fish in the seaPosted by pinkbird03I know. Something has to be said....Posted by Gemgal101Say it to him. After 18 months, you deserve exclusivity at the least.Posted by pinkbird03I had many a convo in my head recently about how I would bring up the situation and exclusiveness was in there possibly saying to him that I didn't mind the unofficial side but would want exclusiveness...I feel in a way that the fact that I know he may/May not be with other people makes me lose respect for myself. That I'm an option and not a choice.Posted by Gemgal101Posted by pinkbird03I will. As for you, sounds like who will give in first and text but love your attitude for standing your ground.Posted by Gemgal101Posted by pinkbird03I do think about him always but just more wondering what he's thinking and because it's sort of a limbo relationship I guess I think about what will be in the future instead of just taking it a day at a time...anxious is my middle nameš
Do you obsess over him a lot? Because I do.....
lol aww. Try to be positive. I think he will come around!
I feel confident about it, oddly. I think itās because he hasnāt disappeared and he still shows interest even though itās indirectly.
I think itās a good sign your guy still talks to you. Somehow you gotta take it to the next level. Would you ever ask him to be exclusive??
lol Iām really for this no contact strategy. Before I started this, I felt desperate, depressed, hopeless, frustrated, low, not in control, etc. I was in the same boat. We talked, but a lot less than before and definitely not very lovey dovey. He had been aloof since November, but still here.
Now I feel confident, powerful, valued, etc.
It just shows the guy, hey I know Iām amazing and I donāt need you. (Even though I secretly want you)
You know, I really like your strategy. Makes perfect sense. I need to show him that I can live my life (don't need someone) but that I secretly want him.
I'm usually the one to initiate texts/calls so this would be unusual in his eyes for me to not initiate. And if he wants me in my life, he will make the effort otherwise it will prove I'm not what he wants. They do have to make that decision. Can't mess with free will and distance sometimes makes people reassess what is important in their life and what isn't.
I understand. I've been that way in the past. With this guy, I've held back a lot because i didn't want to appear clingy or needy or too into him and now i regret doing that. I regret fear holding me back and walking on egg shells and not saying enough. I'm realising now that i shouldn't be afraid to lose him, he should be afraid to lose me. So don't forget your value.
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Ok so i just texed him š
I just wrote hi š
No reply yet I'm assuming?. Does he respond to funny stuff and like it cos it made him laugh?
Posted by Leo188881Posted by Gemgal101Posted by Leo188881I am not being my true self either for fear of him losing interest and I think he can see I'm not being true. He actually likes when I stand up for myself and tell him off for something he's said to me or done.Posted by Gemgal101Posted by Leo188881There is a fine line I guess but even just one day of me not calling/texting is a lot for me. Couldn't not communicate with him for weeks but some distance I think might be good. I think sometimes I can be a bit much in the texting/calling category but it's only because I care so much but I think some guys in general can get overwhelmed by it.Posted by Gemgal101Just be careful that distancing yourself isn't giving him the impression that you're no longer interested if that's not what you want. It can easily be misread. He's a guy and guys are stupid so he's going to understand it as you don't like him anymore, not that you want him to chase you more.Posted by pinkbird03November/start of December when mine started going aloof too!!Posted by Gemgal101Posted by pinkbird03Trying to embrace that attitude...:-)Posted by Gemgal101Itās his loss if he doesnāt want you. No more wasting your time on him if thatās the case. You could find someone else. Plenty of fish in the seaPosted by pinkbird03I know. Something has to be said....Posted by Gemgal101Say it to him. After 18 months, you deserve exclusivity at the least.Posted by pinkbird03I had many a convo in my head recently about how I would bring up the situation and exclusiveness was in there possibly saying to him that I didn't mind the unofficial side but would want exclusiveness...I feel in a way that the fact that I know he may/May not be with other people makes me lose respect for myself. That I'm an option and not a choice.Posted by Gemgal101Posted by pinkbird03I will. As for you, sounds like who will give in first and text but love your attitude for standing your ground.Posted by Gemgal101Posted by pinkbird03I do think about him always but just more wondering what he's thinking and because it's sort of a limbo relationship I guess I think about what will be in the future instead of just taking it a day at a time...anxious is my middle nameš
Do you obsess over him a lot? Because I do.....
lol aww. Try to be positive. I think he will come around!
I feel confident about it, oddly. I think itās because he hasnāt disappeared and he still shows interest even though itās indirectly.
I think itās a good sign your guy still talks to you. Somehow you gotta take it to the next level. Would you ever ask him to be exclusive??
lol Iām really for this no contact strategy. Before I started this, I felt desperate, depressed, hopeless, frustrated, low, not in control, etc. I was in the same boat. We talked, but a lot less than before and definitely not very lovey dovey. He had been aloof since November, but still here.
Now I feel confident, powerful, valued, etc.
It just shows the guy, hey I know Iām amazing and I donāt need you. (Even though I secretly want you)
You know, I really like your strategy. Makes perfect sense. I need to show him that I can live my life (don't need someone) but that I secretly want him.
I'm usually the one to initiate texts/calls so this would be unusual in his eyes for me to not initiate. And if he wants me in my life, he will make the effort otherwise it will prove I'm not what he wants. They do have to make that decision. Can't mess with free will and distance sometimes makes people reassess what is important in their life and what isn't.
I understand. I've been that way in the past. With this guy, I've held back a lot because i didn't want to appear clingy or needy or too into him and now i regret doing that. I regret fear holding me back and walking on egg shells and not saying enough. I'm realising now that i shouldn't be afraid to lose him, he should be afraid to lose me. So don't forget your value.
You know whatā Screw all the advice! What I've said and what everyone else has said and be you! Isn't that who you want him tonlike anywayā
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The more I write in this topic the more I realise that. If he doesn't like me for me then it isn't meant to be. We only have one life and no point in not living the life being who you are..
Posted by Leo1888812 minutes pretty good!!Posted by Gemgal101He replied but it took him 2 minutes for the first one and 1 minute for the 2nd one... the third message is still pending šPosted by Leo188881š š
Ok so i just texed him š
I just wrote hi š
No reply yet I'm assuming?. Does he respond to funny stuff and like it cos it made him laugh?click to expand
He replied though...
Posted by Leo188881Mine loves funny stuff too...Posted by Gemgal101Yeah he always does. That's one good thing about him.Posted by Leo1888812 minutes pretty good!!Posted by Gemgal101He replied but it took him 2 minutes for the first one and 1 minute for the 2nd one... the third message is still pending šPosted by Leo188881š š
Ok so i just texed him š
I just wrote hi š
No reply yet I'm assuming?. Does he respond to funny stuff and like it cos it made him laugh?
He replied though...click to expand
As for your previous post..yes..need to just be me - the crazy, worrisome, anxious yet funny and goofy me!
Posted by Leo188881Thank you..I've got no more words but thank you..šPosted by Gemgal101Posted by Leo188881Mine loves funny stuff too...Posted by Gemgal101Yeah he always does. That's one good thing about him.Posted by Leo1888812 minutes pretty good!!Posted by Gemgal101He replied but it took him 2 minutes for the first one and 1 minute for the 2nd one... the third message is still pending šPosted by Leo188881š š
Ok so i just texed him š
I just wrote hi š
No reply yet I'm assuming?. Does he respond to funny stuff and like it cos it made him laugh?
He replied though...
As for your previous post..yes..need to just be me - the crazy, worrisome, anxious yet funny and goofy me!
Yep! You do that. That you is probably the one that got his attention to begin with. We need to stop trying to fit in a box and stop living by relationship rules and not do and act the way we think we're supposed to.
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Posted by Leo188881That is so something I would have done and have done. When I would get a little crazy over the phone he would say that he can't handle it.Posted by Gemgal101Posted by Leo188881Thank you..I've got no more words but thank you..šPosted by Gemgal101Posted by Leo188881Mine loves funny stuff too...Posted by Gemgal101Yeah he always does. That's one good thing about him.Posted by Leo1888812 minutes pretty good!!Posted by Gemgal101He replied but it took him 2 minutes for the first one and 1 minute for the 2nd one... the third message is still pending šPosted by Leo188881š š
Ok so i just texed him š
I just wrote hi š
No reply yet I'm assuming?. Does he respond to funny stuff and like it cos it made him laugh?
He replied though...
As for your previous post..yes..need to just be me - the crazy, worrisome, anxious yet funny and goofy me!
Yep! You do that. That you is probably the one that got his attention to begin with. We need to stop trying to fit in a box and stop living by relationship rules and not do and act the way we think we're supposed to.
I took my own advice and lost my shit... i might have gone one step further than what is mentally stable š
I asked him if i annoy him or if he wants me to leave him alone and his response was "omg" so i told him im not psychic and proceeded to download a magic 8ball app and asked that instead and sent him screen shots of the answers because he didn't give one. The 8ball said he thinks im annoying and he doesn't want me to contact him. At first he thought it was funny... And then it got serious. i asked if i should believe the 8ball and he said do whatever you want so i said you really dont care huh so I'll leave you alone.. and again, all i got was omg. So then i sent him a big text about how can i know if he wants me or not if he doesn't say or do anything to show me. And i told him i don't even know what this situation is. If he's a fk buddy or is it nothing or what is it?
Took him an hour to reply.. he said I'll call you soon. So now i have to wait and see what happens. Maybe i was too crazy but i guess I'll get my answer.
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I would then often send a text apologising and saying how I felt. He would either send me a text pointing out things that he wouldn't have done for me or with me if he wasn't interested. After that it's often left and never spoken. That's why I'm hesitant to talk to him about it because I need to remain calm and perhaps get him at a time when he has time to talk.
Let me know how you go though. Just be calm when you talk but maybe get your point across but in a "I care about you a lot kinda way" if that makes sense?
Posted by Leo188881Can relate to what happened so much. I hope too he is prepared to come to something to which works for both of you to keep moving forward. They make you crazy but you care so much..Posted by Gemgal101Posted by Leo188881That is so something I would have done and have done. When I would get a little crazy over the phone he would say that he can't handle it.Posted by Gemgal101Posted by Leo188881Thank you..I've got no more words but thank you..šPosted by Gemgal101Posted by Leo188881Mine loves funny stuff too...Posted by Gemgal101Yeah he always does. That's one good thing about him.Posted by Leo1888812 minutes pretty good!!Posted by Gemgal101He replied but it took him 2 minutes for the first one and 1 minute for the 2nd one... the third message is still pending šPosted by Leo188881š š
Ok so i just texed him š
I just wrote hi š
No reply yet I'm assuming?. Does he respond to funny stuff and like it cos it made him laugh?
He replied though...
As for your previous post..yes..need to just be me - the crazy, worrisome, anxious yet funny and goofy me!
Yep! You do that. That you is probably the one that got his attention to begin with. We need to stop trying to fit in a box and stop living by relationship rules and not do and act the way we think we're supposed to.
I took my own advice and lost my shit... i might have gone one step further than what is mentally stable š
I asked him if i annoy him or if he wants me to leave him alone and his response was "omg" so i told him im not psychic and proceeded to download a magic 8ball app and asked that instead and sent him screen shots of the answers because he didn't give one. The 8ball said he thinks im annoying and he doesn't want me to contact him. At first he thought it was funny... And then it got serious. i asked if i should believe the 8ball and he said do whatever you want so i said you really dont care huh so I'll leave you alone.. and again, all i got was omg. So then i sent him a big text about how can i know if he wants me or not if he doesn't say or do anything to show me. And i told him i don't even know what this situation is. If he's a fk buddy or is it nothing or what is it?
Took him an hour to reply.. he said I'll call you soon. So now i have to wait and see what happens. Maybe i was too crazy but i guess I'll get my answer.
I would then often send a text apologising and saying how I felt. He would either send me a text pointing out things that he wouldn't have done for me or with me if he wasn't interested. After that it's often left and never spoken. That's why I'm hesitant to talk to him about it because I need to remain calm and perhaps get him at a time when he has time to talk.
Let me know how you go though. Just be calm when you talk but maybe get your point across but in a "I care about you a lot kinda way" if that makes sense?
Lol thanks. I don't feel so crazy anymore. I do the sorry text too but now I'm like.. why am i sorry for having feelings or being upset?
I'll try to be calm. Usually i pretend it's fine and then i don't get to say what i need to. It's like covering it up temporarily but never really fixing it so i end up in this loop that keeps repeating. I'm going to tell him if he can't give me enough of his time because of work, he needs to be prepared to give me reassurance to make up for it and sometimes I'm going to be needy. Hopefully he likes me a massive amount and is prepared to make it work together. If not, I'll be ok on my own.click to expand
I dont read all. Update please š
Posted by Leo188881Posted by Gemgal101Posted by Leo188881That is so something I would have done and have done. When I would get a little crazy over the phone he would say that he can't handle it.Posted by Gemgal101Posted by Leo188881Thank you..I've got no more words but thank you..šPosted by Gemgal101Posted by Leo188881Mine loves funny stuff too...Posted by Gemgal101Yeah he always does. That's one good thing about him.Posted by Leo1888812 minutes pretty good!!Posted by Gemgal101He replied but it took him 2 minutes for the first one and 1 minute for the 2nd one... the third message is still pending šPosted by Leo188881š š
Ok so i just texed him š
I just wrote hi š
No reply yet I'm assuming?. Does he respond to funny stuff and like it cos it made him laugh?
He replied though...
As for your previous post..yes..need to just be me - the crazy, worrisome, anxious yet funny and goofy me!
Yep! You do that. That you is probably the one that got his attention to begin with. We need to stop trying to fit in a box and stop living by relationship rules and not do and act the way we think we're supposed to.
I took my own advice and lost my shit... i might have gone one step further than what is mentally stable š
I asked him if i annoy him or if he wants me to leave him alone and his response was "omg" so i told him im not psychic and proceeded to download a magic 8ball app and asked that instead and sent him screen shots of the answers because he didn't give one. The 8ball said he thinks im annoying and he doesn't want me to contact him. At first he thought it was funny... And then it got serious. i asked if i should believe the 8ball and he said do whatever you want so i said you really dont care huh so I'll leave you alone.. and again, all i got was omg. So then i sent him a big text about how can i know if he wants me or not if he doesn't say or do anything to show me. And i told him i don't even know what this situation is. If he's a fk buddy or is it nothing or what is it?
Took him an hour to reply.. he said I'll call you soon. So now i have to wait and see what happens. Maybe i was too crazy but i guess I'll get my answer.
I would then often send a text apologising and saying how I felt. He would either send me a text pointing out things that he wouldn't have done for me or with me if he wasn't interested. After that it's often left and never spoken. That's why I'm hesitant to talk to him about it because I need to remain calm and perhaps get him at a time when he has time to talk.
Let me know how you go though. Just be calm when you talk but maybe get your point across but in a "I care about you a lot kinda way" if that makes sense?
Lol thanks. I don't feel so crazy anymore. I do the sorry text too but now I'm like.. why am i sorry for having feelings or being upset?
I'll try to be calm. Usually i pretend it's fine and then i don't get to say what i need to. It's like covering it up temporarily but never really fixing it so i end up in this loop that keeps repeating. I'm going to tell him if he can't give me enough of his time because of work, he needs to be prepared to give me reassurance to make up for it and sometimes I'm going to be needy. Hopefully he likes me a massive amount and is prepared to make it work together. If not, I'll be ok on my own.click to expand
Howād the call go?
Posted by AerialViewOh we all get breadcrumbs, but want the whole loaf š
I dont read all. Update please š
What Iām realizing is that being less emotional is just who they are. Thereās nothing wrong with it. Maybe itās actually a good thing for me. A good balance. Good to know hes a large rock that doesnāt budge in my fast moving stream. Thatās truly what I need.
Iām also realizing that love is a journey. It takes awhile to get from point A to point B. Donāt rush it, enjoy it.
Lots of metaphors tonight lol...
Posted by Leo188881Lol yea follow up with a text. Itās nice he said heād call š seems like he does care!Posted by pinkbird03Posted by Leo188881Posted by Gemgal101Posted by Leo188881That is so something I would have done and have done. When I would get a little crazy over the phone he would say that he can't handle it.Posted by Gemgal101Posted by Leo188881Thank you..I've got no more words but thank you..šPosted by Gemgal101Posted by Leo188881Mine loves funny stuff too...Posted by Gemgal101Yeah he always does. That's one good thing about him.Posted by Leo1888812 minutes pretty good!!Posted by Gemgal101He replied but it took him 2 minutes for the first one and 1 minute for the 2nd one... the third message is still pending šPosted by Leo188881š š
Ok so i just texed him š
I just wrote hi š
No reply yet I'm assuming?. Does he respond to funny stuff and like it cos it made him laugh?
He replied though...
As for your previous post..yes..need to just be me - the crazy, worrisome, anxious yet funny and goofy me!
Yep! You do that. That you is probably the one that got his attention to begin with. We need to stop trying to fit in a box and stop living by relationship rules and not do and act the way we think we're supposed to.
I took my own advice and lost my shit... i might have gone one step further than what is mentally stable š
I asked him if i annoy him or if he wants me to leave him alone and his response was "omg" so i told him im not psychic and proceeded to download a magic 8ball app and asked that instead and sent him screen shots of the answers because he didn't give one. The 8ball said he thinks im annoying and he doesn't want me to contact him. At first he thought it was funny... And then it got serious. i asked if i should believe the 8ball and he said do whatever you want so i said you really dont care huh so I'll leave you alone.. and again, all i got was omg. So then i sent him a big text about how can i know if he wants me or not if he doesn't say or do anything to show me. And i told him i don't even know what this situation is. If he's a fk buddy or is it nothing or what is it?
Took him an hour to reply.. he said I'll call you soon. So now i have to wait and see what happens. Maybe i was too crazy but i guess I'll get my answer.
I would then often send a text apologising and saying how I felt. He would either send me a text pointing out things that he wouldn't have done for me or with me if he wasn't interested. After that it's often left and never spoken. That's why I'm hesitant to talk to him about it because I need to remain calm and perhaps get him at a time when he has time to talk.
Let me know how you go though. Just be calm when you talk but maybe get your point across but in a "I care about you a lot kinda way" if that makes sense?
Lol thanks. I don't feel so crazy anymore. I do the sorry text too but now I'm like.. why am i sorry for having feelings or being upset?
I'll try to be calm. Usually i pretend it's fine and then i don't get to say what i need to. It's like covering it up temporarily but never really fixing it so i end up in this loop that keeps repeating. I'm going to tell him if he can't give me enough of his time because of work, he needs to be prepared to give me reassurance to make up for it and sometimes I'm going to be needy. Hopefully he likes me a massive amount and is prepared to make it work together. If not, I'll be ok on my own.
Howād the call go?
He hasn't called yet. He's still at work so I have no idea when he will finish... maybe i should have replied? Lol i kind of just left it without say ok or anything
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Posted by pinkbird03ššššPosted by AerialViewOh we all get breadcrumbs, but want the whole loaf š
I dont read all. Update please š
What Iām realizing is that being less emotional is just who they are. Thereās nothing wrong with it. Maybe itās actually a good thing for me. A good balance. Good to know hes a large rock that doesnāt budge in my fast moving stream. Thatās truly what I need.
Iām also realizing that love is a journey. It takes awhile to get from point A to point B. Donāt rush it, enjoy it.
Lots of metaphors tonight lol...
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I'm liking your post. Really mature.
Posted by AerialViewPosted by pinkbird03ššššPosted by AerialViewOh we all get breadcrumbs, but want the whole loaf š
I dont read all. Update please š
What Iām realizing is that being less emotional is just who they are. Thereās nothing wrong with it. Maybe itās actually a good thing for me. A good balance. Good to know hes a large rock that doesnāt budge in my fast moving stream. Thatās truly what I need.
Iām also realizing that love is a journey. It takes awhile to get from point A to point B. Donāt rush it, enjoy it.
Lots of metaphors tonight lol...
I'm liking your post. Really mature.click to expand
Thank you! I think the space apart is helping me understand things better. In a less emotional way/more logical way!
Posted by pinkbird03You're welcome!Posted by AerialViewPosted by pinkbird03ššššPosted by AerialViewOh we all get breadcrumbs, but want the whole loaf š
I dont read all. Update please š
What Iām realizing is that being less emotional is just who they are. Thereās nothing wrong with it. Maybe itās actually a good thing for me. A good balance. Good to know hes a large rock that doesnāt budge in my fast moving stream. Thatās truly what I need.
Iām also realizing that love is a journey. It takes awhile to get from point A to point B. Donāt rush it, enjoy it.
Lots of metaphors tonight lol...
I'm liking your post. Really mature.
Thank you! I think the space apart is helping me understand things better. In a less emotional way/more logical way!
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Coming from a Cancer/Scorpio moon š
Just like OP, your man kinda slow too isnt it? š
Posted by Leo188881Posted by pinkbird03Posted by Leo188881Lol yea follow up with a text. Itās nice he said heād call š seems like he does care!Posted by pinkbird03Posted by Leo188881Posted by Gemgal101Posted by Leo188881That is so something I would have done and have done. When I would get a little crazy over the phone he would say that he can't handle it.Posted by Gemgal101Posted by Leo188881Thank you..I've got no more words but thank you..šPosted by Gemgal101Posted by Leo188881Mine loves funny stuff too...Posted by Gemgal101Yeah he always does. That's one good thing about him.Posted by Leo1888812 minutes pretty good!!Posted by Gemgal101He replied but it took him 2 minutes for the first one and 1 minute for the 2nd one... the third message is still pending šPosted by Leo188881š š
Ok so i just texed him š
I just wrote hi š
No reply yet I'm assuming?. Does he respond to funny stuff and like it cos it made him laugh?
He replied though...
As for your previous post..yes..need to just be me - the crazy, worrisome, anxious yet funny and goofy me!
Yep! You do that. That you is probably the one that got his attention to begin with. We need to stop trying to fit in a box and stop living by relationship rules and not do and act the way we think we're supposed to.
I took my own advice and lost my shit... i might have gone one step further than what is mentally stable š
I asked him if i annoy him or if he wants me to leave him alone and his response was "omg" so i told him im not psychic and proceeded to download a magic 8ball app and asked that instead and sent him screen shots of the answers because he didn't give one. The 8ball said he thinks im annoying and he doesn't want me to contact him. At first he thought it was funny... And then it got serious. i asked if i should believe the 8ball and he said do whatever you want so i said you really dont care huh so I'll leave you alone.. and again, all i got was omg. So then i sent him a big text about how can i know if he wants me or not if he doesn't say or do anything to show me. And i told him i don't even know what this situation is. If he's a fk buddy or is it nothing or what is it?
Took him an hour to reply.. he said I'll call you soon. So now i have to wait and see what happens. Maybe i was too crazy but i guess I'll get my answer.
I would then often send a text apologising and saying how I felt. He would either send me a text pointing out things that he wouldn't have done for me or with me if he wasn't interested. After that it's often left and never spoken. That's why I'm hesitant to talk to him about it because I need to remain calm and perhaps get him at a time when he has time to talk.
Let me know how you go though. Just be calm when you talk but maybe get your point across but in a "I care about you a lot kinda way" if that makes sense?
Lol thanks. I don't feel so crazy anymore. I do the sorry text too but now I'm like.. why am i sorry for having feelings or being upset?
I'll try to be calm. Usually i pretend it's fine and then i don't get to say what i need to. It's like covering it up temporarily but never really fixing it so i end up in this loop that keeps repeating. I'm going to tell him if he can't give me enough of his time because of work, he needs to be prepared to give me reassurance to make up for it and sometimes I'm going to be needy. Hopefully he likes me a massive amount and is prepared to make it work together. If not, I'll be ok on my own.
Howād the call go?
He hasn't called yet. He's still at work so I have no idea when he will finish... maybe i should have replied? Lol i kind of just left it without say ok or anything
I just sent him a š in case he's forgotten but i know he's still working.
When we're together it feels like he's in love with me. It's just the in between that feels empty. He doesn't plan to see me again and that gets to me because I don't know when I'll see him so it doesn't feel like he looks forward to it.
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Because work is a priority. Youāre important too. Donāt doubt it. Trust him.
Has he always been like this? It might just be who he is and that probably wonāt change. But I donāt see anything wrong with it. I mean, he could be a lot worse!!! But he isnāt.
Posted by Leo188881Posted by pinkbird03Posted by Leo188881Posted by pinkbird03Posted by Leo188881Lol yea follow up with a text. Itās nice he said heād call š seems like he does care!Posted by pinkbird03Posted by Leo188881Posted by Gemgal101Posted by Leo188881That is so something I would have done and have done. When I would get a little crazy over the phone he would say that he can't handle it.Posted by Gemgal101Posted by Leo188881Thank you..I've got no more words but thank you..šPosted by Gemgal101Posted by Leo188881Mine loves funny stuff too...Posted by Gemgal101Yeah he always does. That's one good thing about him.Posted by Leo1888812 minutes pretty good!!Posted by Gemgal101He replied but it took him 2 minutes for the first one and 1 minute for the 2nd one... the third message is still pending šPosted by Leo188881š š
Ok so i just texed him š
I just wrote hi š
No reply yet I'm assuming?. Does he respond to funny stuff and like it cos it made him laugh?
He replied though...
As for your previous post..yes..need to just be me - the crazy, worrisome, anxious yet funny and goofy me!
Yep! You do that. That you is probably the one that got his attention to begin with. We need to stop trying to fit in a box and stop living by relationship rules and not do and act the way we think we're supposed to.
I took my own advice and lost my shit... i might have gone one step further than what is mentally stable š
I asked him if i annoy him or if he wants me to leave him alone and his response was "omg" so i told him im not psychic and proceeded to download a magic 8ball app and asked that instead and sent him screen shots of the answers because he didn't give one. The 8ball said he thinks im annoying and he doesn't want me to contact him. At first he thought it was funny... And then it got serious. i asked if i should believe the 8ball and he said do whatever you want so i said you really dont care huh so I'll leave you alone.. and again, all i got was omg. So then i sent him a big text about how can i know if he wants me or not if he doesn't say or do anything to show me. And i told him i don't even know what this situation is. If he's a fk buddy or is it nothing or what is it?
Took him an hour to reply.. he said I'll call you soon. So now i have to wait and see what happens. Maybe i was too crazy but i guess I'll get my answer.
I would then often send a text apologising and saying how I felt. He would either send me a text pointing out things that he wouldn't have done for me or with me if he wasn't interested. After that it's often left and never spoken. That's why I'm hesitant to talk to him about it because I need to remain calm and perhaps get him at a time when he has time to talk.
Let me know how you go though. Just be calm when you talk but maybe get your point across but in a "I care about you a lot kinda way" if that makes sense?
Lol thanks. I don't feel so crazy anymore. I do the sorry text too but now I'm like.. why am i sorry for having feelings or being upset?
I'll try to be calm. Usually i pretend it's fine and then i don't get to say what i need to. It's like covering it up temporarily but never really fixing it so i end up in this loop that keeps repeating. I'm going to tell him if he can't give me enough of his time because of work, he needs to be prepared to give me reassurance to make up for it and sometimes I'm going to be needy. Hopefully he likes me a massive amount and is prepared to make it work together. If not, I'll be ok on my own.
Howād the call go?
He hasn't called yet. He's still at work so I have no idea when he will finish... maybe i should have replied? Lol i kind of just left it without say ok or anything
I just sent him a š in case he's forgotten but i know he's still working.
When we're together it feels like he's in love with me. It's just the in between that feels empty. He doesn't plan to see me again and that gets to me because I don't know when I'll see him so it doesn't feel like he looks forward to it.
Because work is a priority. Youāre important too. Donāt doubt it. Trust him.
Has he always been like this? It might just be who he is and that probably wonāt change. But I donāt see anything wrong with it. I mean, he could be a lot worse!!! But he isnāt.
He was better in the beginning. Then slowly less and less. The problem is, the less effort he makes, the more i get used to it and the less i feel for him. My guard is coming up to protect my heart instead of dropping. If we don't look after our relationship, it will die and i don't want to kill it. So I need him to help me with it if he wants to keep it.
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The same thing happened with my guy. He was amazing in the beginning. Then his effort became less. The beginning was just the honeymoon phase. How he behaves now, is who he truly is.
Iām just thinking that we need to accept them for who they are and realize thereās nothing really wrong with the relationship. They still care and love us. But not in the most obvious/direct way.
It seems like youāre not happy with this and you want more. I just donāt know if an aqua can give you exactly what youāre seeking emotionally. I hope so and wish you so much luck. But it might be best to look for a water or fire sign.
Posted by Leo188881Sounds like progress and he Does care about you..Posted by pinkbird03Posted by Leo188881Posted by pinkbird03Posted by Leo188881Posted by pinkbird03Posted by Leo188881Lol yea follow up with a text. Itās nice he said heād call š seems like he does care!Posted by pinkbird03Posted by Leo188881Posted by Gemgal101Posted by Leo188881That is so something I would have done and have done. When I would get a little crazy over the phone he would say that he can't handle it.Posted by Gemgal101Posted by Leo188881Thank you..I've got no more words but thank you..šPosted by Gemgal101Posted by Leo188881Mine loves funny stuff too...Posted by Gemgal101Yeah he always does. That's one good thing about him.Posted by Leo1888812 minutes pretty good!!Posted by Gemgal101He replied but it took him 2 minutes for the first one and 1 minute for the 2nd one... the third message is still pending šPosted by Leo188881š š
Ok so i just texed him š
I just wrote hi š
No reply yet I'm assuming?. Does he respond to funny stuff and like it cos it made him laugh?
He replied though...
As for your previous post..yes..need to just be me - the crazy, worrisome, anxious yet funny and goofy me!
Yep! You do that. That you is probably the one that got his attention to begin with. We need to stop trying to fit in a box and stop living by relationship rules and not do and act the way we think we're supposed to.
I took my own advice and lost my shit... i might have gone one step further than what is mentally stable š
I asked him if i annoy him or if he wants me to leave him alone and his response was "omg" so i told him im not psychic and proceeded to download a magic 8ball app and asked that instead and sent him screen shots of the answers because he didn't give one. The 8ball said he thinks im annoying and he doesn't want me to contact him. At first he thought it was funny... And then it got serious. i asked if i should believe the 8ball and he said do whatever you want so i said you really dont care huh so I'll leave you alone.. and again, all i got was omg. So then i sent him a big text about how can i know if he wants me or not if he doesn't say or do anything to show me. And i told him i don't even know what this situation is. If he's a fk buddy or is it nothing or what is it?
Took him an hour to reply.. he said I'll call you soon. So now i have to wait and see what happens. Maybe i was too crazy but i guess I'll get my answer.
I would then often send a text apologising and saying how I felt. He would either send me a text pointing out things that he wouldn't have done for me or with me if he wasn't interested. After that it's often left and never spoken. That's why I'm hesitant to talk to him about it because I need to remain calm and perhaps get him at a time when he has time to talk.
Let me know how you go though. Just be calm when you talk but maybe get your point across but in a "I care about you a lot kinda way" if that makes sense?
Lol thanks. I don't feel so crazy anymore. I do the sorry text too but now I'm like.. why am i sorry for having feelings or being upset?
I'll try to be calm. Usually i pretend it's fine and then i don't get to say what i need to. It's like covering it up temporarily but never really fixing it so i end up in this loop that keeps repeating. I'm going to tell him if he can't give me enough of his time because of work, he needs to be prepared to give me reassurance to make up for it and sometimes I'm going to be needy. Hopefully he likes me a massive amount and is prepared to make it work together. If not, I'll be ok on my own.
Howād the call go?
He hasn't called yet. He's still at work so I have no idea when he will finish... maybe i should have replied? Lol i kind of just left it without say ok or anything
I just sent him a š in case he's forgotten but i know he's still working.
When we're together it feels like he's in love with me. It's just the in between that feels empty. He doesn't plan to see me again and that gets to me because I don't know when I'll see him so it doesn't feel like he looks forward to it.
Because work is a priority. Youāre important too. Donāt doubt it. Trust him.
Has he always been like this? It might just be who he is and that probably wonāt change. But I donāt see anything wrong with it. I mean, he could be a lot worse!!! But he isnāt.
He was better in the beginning. Then slowly less and less. The problem is, the less effort he makes, the more i get used to it and the less i feel for him. My guard is coming up to protect my heart instead of dropping. If we don't look after our relationship, it will die and i don't want to kill it. So I need him to help me with it if he wants to keep it.
The same thing happened with my guy. He was amazing in the beginning. Then his effort became less. The beginning was just the honeymoon phase. How he behaves now, is who he truly is.
Iām just thinking that we need to accept them for who they are and realize thereās nothing really wrong with the relationship. They still care and love us. But not in the most obvious/direct way.
It seems like youāre not happy with this and you want more. I just donāt know if an aqua can give you exactly what youāre seeking emotionally. I hope so and wish you so much luck. But it might be best to look for a water or fire sign.
When we're together he is really affectionate and i love that and we talk for hours and laugh and are perfect. It's just the time in between that's been a problem. I think i could happily marry this guy if i saw him a bit more.
We spoke for an hour and i got it all out. He asked me if he can call me again later. I think i just need to tell him when I'm feeling needy and neglected instead of pretending I'm ok and letting it eat away at me. I told him that i will be cracking the shits at him and consulting the magic 8ball regularly from now on and he said i can crack the shits whenever I want and he'll still like me so i feel better now.
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Posted by Leo188881He showed you affection when you were in a physically together š. Now just see if he tries to make changes.Posted by pinkbird03Posted by Leo188881Posted by pinkbird03Posted by Leo188881Posted by pinkbird03Posted by Leo188881Lol yea follow up with a text. Itās nice he said heād call š seems like he does care!Posted by pinkbird03Posted by Leo188881Posted by Gemgal101Posted by Leo188881That is so something I would have done and have done. When I would get a little crazy over the phone he would say that he can't handle it.Posted by Gemgal101Posted by Leo188881Thank you..I've got no more words but thank you..šPosted by Gemgal101Posted by Leo188881Mine loves funny stuff too...Posted by Gemgal101Yeah he always does. That's one good thing about him.Posted by Leo1888812 minutes pretty good!!Posted by Gemgal101He replied but it took him 2 minutes for the first one and 1 minute for the 2nd one... the third message is still pending šPosted by Leo188881š š
Ok so i just texed him š
I just wrote hi š
No reply yet I'm assuming?. Does he respond to funny stuff and like it cos it made him laugh?
He replied though...
As for your previous post..yes..need to just be me - the crazy, worrisome, anxious yet funny and goofy me!
Yep! You do that. That you is probably the one that got his attention to begin with. We need to stop trying to fit in a box and stop living by relationship rules and not do and act the way we think we're supposed to.
I took my own advice and lost my shit... i might have gone one step further than what is mentally stable š
I asked him if i annoy him or if he wants me to leave him alone and his response was "omg" so i told him im not psychic and proceeded to download a magic 8ball app and asked that instead and sent him screen shots of the answers because he didn't give one. The 8ball said he thinks im annoying and he doesn't want me to contact him. At first he thought it was funny... And then it got serious. i asked if i should believe the 8ball and he said do whatever you want so i said you really dont care huh so I'll leave you alone.. and again, all i got was omg. So then i sent him a big text about how can i know if he wants me or not if he doesn't say or do anything to show me. And i told him i don't even know what this situation is. If he's a fk buddy or is it nothing or what is it?
Took him an hour to reply.. he said I'll call you soon. So now i have to wait and see what happens. Maybe i was too crazy but i guess I'll get my answer.
I would then often send a text apologising and saying how I felt. He would either send me a text pointing out things that he wouldn't have done for me or with me if he wasn't interested. After that it's often left and never spoken. That's why I'm hesitant to talk to him about it because I need to remain calm and perhaps get him at a time when he has time to talk.
Let me know how you go though. Just be calm when you talk but maybe get your point across but in a "I care about you a lot kinda way" if that makes sense?
Lol thanks. I don't feel so crazy anymore. I do the sorry text too but now I'm like.. why am i sorry for having feelings or being upset?
I'll try to be calm. Usually i pretend it's fine and then i don't get to say what i need to. It's like covering it up temporarily but never really fixing it so i end up in this loop that keeps repeating. I'm going to tell him if he can't give me enough of his time because of work, he needs to be prepared to give me reassurance to make up for it and sometimes I'm going to be needy. Hopefully he likes me a massive amount and is prepared to make it work together. If not, I'll be ok on my own.
Howād the call go?
He hasn't called yet. He's still at work so I have no idea when he will finish... maybe i should have replied? Lol i kind of just left it without say ok or anything
I just sent him a š in case he's forgotten but i know he's still working.
When we're together it feels like he's in love with me. It's just the in between that feels empty. He doesn't plan to see me again and that gets to me because I don't know when I'll see him so it doesn't feel like he looks forward to it.
Because work is a priority. Youāre important too. Donāt doubt it. Trust him.
Has he always been like this? It might just be who he is and that probably wonāt change. But I donāt see anything wrong with it. I mean, he could be a lot worse!!! But he isnāt.
He was better in the beginning. Then slowly less and less. The problem is, the less effort he makes, the more i get used to it and the less i feel for him. My guard is coming up to protect my heart instead of dropping. If we don't look after our relationship, it will die and i don't want to kill it. So I need him to help me with it if he wants to keep it.
The same thing happened with my guy. He was amazing in the beginning. Then his effort became less. The beginning was just the honeymoon phase. How he behaves now, is who he truly is.
Iām just thinking that we need to accept them for who they are and realize thereās nothing really wrong with the relationship. They still care and love us. But not in the most obvious/direct way.
It seems like youāre not happy with this and you want more. I just donāt know if an aqua can give you exactly what youāre seeking emotionally. I hope so and wish you so much luck. But it might be best to look for a water or fire sign.
When we're together he is really affectionate and i love that and we talk for hours and laugh and are perfect. It's just the time in between that's been a problem. I think i could happily marry this guy if i saw him a bit more.
We spoke for an hour and i got it all out. He asked me if he can call me again later. I think i just need to tell him when I'm feeling needy and neglected instead of pretending I'm ok and letting it eat away at me. I told him that i will be cracking the shits at him and consulting the magic 8ball regularly from now on and he said i can crack the shits whenever I want and he'll still like me so i feel better now.
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Heās the most responsive one. Youre lucky. I have to have a similar talk with my aqua someday. In person though.
Posted by Leo188881Posted by pinkbird03If he's important to you and worth the risk, you should try. And I hope it goes well for you.Posted by Leo188881He showed you affection when you were in a physically together š. Now just see if he tries to make changes.Posted by pinkbird03Posted by Leo188881Posted by pinkbird03Posted by Leo188881Posted by pinkbird03Posted by Leo188881Lol yea follow up with a text. Itās nice he said heād call š seems like he does care!Posted by pinkbird03Posted by Leo188881Posted by Gemgal101Posted by Leo188881That is so something I would have done and have done. When I would get a little crazy over the phone he would say that he can't handle it.Posted by Gemgal101Posted by Leo188881Thank you..I've got no more words but thank you..šPosted by Gemgal101Posted by Leo188881Mine loves funny stuff too...Posted by Gemgal101Yeah he always does. That's one good thing about him.Posted by Leo1888812 minutes pretty good!!Posted by Gemgal101He replied but it took him 2 minutes for the first one and 1 minute for the 2nd one... the third message is still pending šPosted by Leo188881š š
Ok so i just texed him š
I just wrote hi š
No reply yet I'm assuming?. Does he respond to funny stuff and like it cos it made him laugh?
He replied though...
As for your previous post..yes..need to just be me - the crazy, worrisome, anxious yet funny and goofy me!
Yep! You do that. That you is probably the one that got his attention to begin with. We need to stop trying to fit in a box and stop living by relationship rules and not do and act the way we think we're supposed to.
I took my own advice and lost my shit... i might have gone one step further than what is mentally stable š
I asked him if i annoy him or if he wants me to leave him alone and his response was "omg" so i told him im not psychic and proceeded to download a magic 8ball app and asked that instead and sent him screen shots of the answers because he didn't give one. The 8ball said he thinks im annoying and he doesn't want me to contact him. At first he thought it was funny... And then it got serious. i asked if i should believe the 8ball and he said do whatever you want so i said you really dont care huh so I'll leave you alone.. and again, all i got was omg. So then i sent him a big text about how can i know if he wants me or not if he doesn't say or do anything to show me. And i told him i don't even know what this situation is. If he's a fk buddy or is it nothing or what is it?
Took him an hour to reply.. he said I'll call you soon. So now i have to wait and see what happens. Maybe i was too crazy but i guess I'll get my answer.
I would then often send a text apologising and saying how I felt. He would either send me a text pointing out things that he wouldn't have done for me or with me if he wasn't interested. After that it's often left and never spoken. That's why I'm hesitant to talk to him about it because I need to remain calm and perhaps get him at a time when he has time to talk.
Let me know how you go though. Just be calm when you talk but maybe get your point across but in a "I care about you a lot kinda way" if that makes sense?
Lol thanks. I don't feel so crazy anymore. I do the sorry text too but now I'm like.. why am i sorry for having feelings or being upset?
I'll try to be calm. Usually i pretend it's fine and then i don't get to say what i need to. It's like covering it up temporarily but never really fixing it so i end up in this loop that keeps repeating. I'm going to tell him if he can't give me enough of his time because of work, he needs to be prepared to give me reassurance to make up for it and sometimes I'm going to be needy. Hopefully he likes me a massive amount and is prepared to make it work together. If not, I'll be ok on my own.
Howād the call go?
He hasn't called yet. He's still at work so I have no idea when he will finish... maybe i should have replied? Lol i kind of just left it without say ok or anything
I just sent him a š in case he's forgotten but i know he's still working.
When we're together it feels like he's in love with me. It's just the in between that feels empty. He doesn't plan to see me again and that gets to me because I don't know when I'll see him so it doesn't feel like he looks forward to it.
Because work is a priority. Youāre important too. Donāt doubt it. Trust him.
Has he always been like this? It might just be who he is and that probably wonāt change. But I donāt see anything wrong with it. I mean, he could be a lot worse!!! But he isnāt.
He was better in the beginning. Then slowly less and less. The problem is, the less effort he makes, the more i get used to it and the less i feel for him. My guard is coming up to protect my heart instead of dropping. If we don't look after our relationship, it will die and i don't want to kill it. So I need him to help me with it if he wants to keep it.
The same thing happened with my guy. He was amazing in the beginning. Then his effort became less. The beginning was just the honeymoon phase. How he behaves now, is who he truly is.
Iām just thinking that we need to accept them for who they are and realize thereās nothing really wrong with the relationship. They still care and love us. But not in the most obvious/direct way.
It seems like youāre not happy with this and you want more. I just donāt know if an aqua can give you exactly what youāre seeking emotionally. I hope so and wish you so much luck. But it might be best to look for a water or fire sign.
When we're together he is really affectionate and i love that and we talk for hours and laugh and are perfect. It's just the time in between that's been a problem. I think i could happily marry this guy if i saw him a bit more.
We spoke for an hour and i got it all out. He asked me if he can call me again later. I think i just need to tell him when I'm feeling needy and neglected instead of pretending I'm ok and letting it eat away at me. I told him that i will be cracking the shits at him and consulting the magic 8ball regularly from now on and he said i can crack the shits whenever I want and he'll still like me so i feel better now.
Heās the most responsive one. Youre lucky. I have to have a similar talk with my aqua someday. In person though.
I'm very warm and affectionate so i bring it out in him. He's said he never really hugged his exes but with me he wraps his arms around me and puts his leg over me and he doesn't know why. He's no good at saying sweet words so that's why I need to see him more because I don't need words if i can feel them and then i won't have to wonder how he feels about me all the time.
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Iāll talk to him when the timing is right. Iām all for space right now. I think thatās whatās best for my relationship and Iām not worried about losing him at this point. Heās still very much here and he shows me that.
Do you think he understood you and is going to try to see you more?
Posted by Leo188881Awesome šPosted by pinkbird03I think so... we talked again later last night and he said he was talking to his friend about getting another driver for his truck. He's waiting for him to get back to him about when he can get the other guy to start. So it sounds like he might not be working nights anymore soon šPosted by Leo188881Posted by pinkbird03If he's important to you and worth the risk, you should try. And I hope it goes well for you.Posted by Leo188881He showed you affection when you were in a physically together š. Now just see if he tries to make changes.Posted by pinkbird03Posted by Leo188881Posted by pinkbird03Posted by Leo188881Posted by pinkbird03Posted by Leo188881Lol yea follow up with a text. Itās nice he said heād call š seems like he does care!Posted by pinkbird03Posted by Leo188881Posted by Gemgal101Posted by Leo188881That is so something I would have done and have done. When I would get a little crazy over the phone he would say that he can't handle it.Posted by Gemgal101Posted by Leo188881Thank you..I've got no more words but thank you..šPosted by Gemgal101Posted by Leo188881Mine loves funny stuff too...Posted by Gemgal101Yeah he always does. That's one good thing about him.Posted by Leo1888812 minutes pretty good!!Posted by Gemgal101He replied but it took him 2 minutes for the first one and 1 minute for the 2nd one... the third message is still pending šPosted by Leo188881š š
Ok so i just texed him š
I just wrote hi š
No reply yet I'm assuming?. Does he respond to funny stuff and like it cos it made him laugh?
He replied though...
As for your previous post..yes..need to just be me - the crazy, worrisome, anxious yet funny and goofy me!
Yep! You do that. That you is probably the one that got his attention to begin with. We need to stop trying to fit in a box and stop living by relationship rules and not do and act the way we think we're supposed to.
I took my own advice and lost my shit... i might have gone one step further than what is mentally stable š
I asked him if i annoy him or if he wants me to leave him alone and his response was "omg" so i told him im not psychic and proceeded to download a magic 8ball app and asked that instead and sent him screen shots of the answers because he didn't give one. The 8ball said he thinks im annoying and he doesn't want me to contact him. At first he thought it was funny... And then it got serious. i asked if i should believe the 8ball and he said do whatever you want so i said you really dont care huh so I'll leave you alone.. and again, all i got was omg. So then i sent him a big text about how can i know if he wants me or not if he doesn't say or do anything to show me. And i told him i don't even know what this situation is. If he's a fk buddy or is it nothing or what is it?
Took him an hour to reply.. he said I'll call you soon. So now i have to wait and see what happens. Maybe i was too crazy but i guess I'll get my answer.
I would then often send a text apologising and saying how I felt. He would either send me a text pointing out things that he wouldn't have done for me or with me if he wasn't interested. After that it's often left and never spoken. That's why I'm hesitant to talk to him about it because I need to remain calm and perhaps get him at a time when he has time to talk.
Let me know how you go though. Just be calm when you talk but maybe get your point across but in a "I care about you a lot kinda way" if that makes sense?
Lol thanks. I don't feel so crazy anymore. I do the sorry text too but now I'm like.. why am i sorry for having feelings or being upset?
I'll try to be calm. Usually i pretend it's fine and then i don't get to say what i need to. It's like covering it up temporarily but never really fixing it so i end up in this loop that keeps repeating. I'm going to tell him if he can't give me enough of his time because of work, he needs to be prepared to give me reassurance to make up for it and sometimes I'm going to be needy. Hopefully he likes me a massive amount and is prepared to make it work together. If not, I'll be ok on my own.
Howād the call go?
He hasn't called yet. He's still at work so I have no idea when he will finish... maybe i should have replied? Lol i kind of just left it without say ok or anything
I just sent him a š in case he's forgotten but i know he's still working.
When we're together it feels like he's in love with me. It's just the in between that feels empty. He doesn't plan to see me again and that gets to me because I don't know when I'll see him so it doesn't feel like he looks forward to it.
Because work is a priority. Youāre important too. Donāt doubt it. Trust him.
Has he always been like this? It might just be who he is and that probably wonāt change. But I donāt see anything wrong with it. I mean, he could be a lot worse!!! But he isnāt.
He was better in the beginning. Then slowly less and less. The problem is, the less effort he makes, the more i get used to it and the less i feel for him. My guard is coming up to protect my heart instead of dropping. If we don't look after our relationship, it will die and i don't want to kill it. So I need him to help me with it if he wants to keep it.
The same thing happened with my guy. He was amazing in the beginning. Then his effort became less. The beginning was just the honeymoon phase. How he behaves now, is who he truly is.
Iām just thinking that we need to accept them for who they are and realize thereās nothing really wrong with the relationship. They still care and love us. But not in the most obvious/direct way.
It seems like youāre not happy with this and you want more. I just donāt know if an aqua can give you exactly what youāre seeking emotionally. I hope so and wish you so much luck. But it might be best to look for a water or fire sign.
When we're together he is really affectionate and i love that and we talk for hours and laugh and are perfect. It's just the time in between that's been a problem. I think i could happily marry this guy if i saw him a bit more.
We spoke for an hour and i got it all out. He asked me if he can call me again later. I think i just need to tell him when I'm feeling needy and neglected instead of pretending I'm ok and letting it eat away at me. I told him that i will be cracking the shits at him and consulting the magic 8ball regularly from now on and he said i can crack the shits whenever I want and he'll still like me so i feel better now.
Heās the most responsive one. Youre lucky. I have to have a similar talk with my aqua someday. In person though.
I'm very warm and affectionate so i bring it out in him. He's said he never really hugged his exes but with me he wraps his arms around me and puts his leg over me and he doesn't know why. He's no good at saying sweet words so that's why I need to see him more because I don't need words if i can feel them and then i won't have to wonder how he feels about me all the time.
Iāll talk to him when the timing is right. Iām all for space right now. I think thatās whatās best for my relationship and Iām not worried about losing him at this point. Heās still very much here and he shows me that.
Do you think he understood you and is going to try to see you more?
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Posted by Leo188881Thanks hun..
Just checking up to see if you're ok...
have been quite distracted last few days with helping other people which has been a good thing..
He called yesterday letting me know where he's at and that he was travelling to next location today. Was just a nice happy convo bout what we've both been up too...he also texted just before he left location (which I always ask him to do cos he knows I worry.).
He's due back in a week now instead of 2..
So anxious and so trying not to dwell on it too much but I have a busy week this week too so it will help pass the time better...
How about you and your man?
Posted by Leo188881Communication is better than anticipated but I'm trying not to read into it and think about it too much. Just taking it for what it is until he gets back..xPosted by Gemgal101Posted by Leo188881Thanks hun..
Just checking up to see if you're ok...
have been quite distracted last few days with helping other people which has been a good thing..
He called yesterday letting me know where he's at and that he was travelling to next location today. Was just a nice happy convo bout what we've both been up too...he also texted just before he left location (which I always ask him to do cos he knows I worry.).
He's due back in a week now instead of 2..
So anxious and so trying not to dwell on it too much but I have a busy week this week too so it will help pass the time better...
How about you and your man?
That's good that you're keeping busy. Hopefully the next week will pass quickly. It sounds like you're doing better with the communication which is nice. ā¤
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Posted by Leo188881My Venus is in Leo.Posted by Gemgal101Out of curiosity where is your venus?Posted by Leo188881Communication is better than anticipated but I'm trying not to read into it and think about it too much. Just taking it for what it is until he gets back..xPosted by Gemgal101Posted by Leo188881Thanks hun..
Just checking up to see if you're ok...
have been quite distracted last few days with helping other people which has been a good thing..
He called yesterday letting me know where he's at and that he was travelling to next location today. Was just a nice happy convo bout what we've both been up too...he also texted just before he left location (which I always ask him to do cos he knows I worry.).
He's due back in a week now instead of 2..
So anxious and so trying not to dwell on it too much but I have a busy week this week too so it will help pass the time better...
How about you and your man?
That's good that you're keeping busy. Hopefully the next week will pass quickly. It sounds like you're doing better with the communication which is nice. ā¤
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The rest is
Sun Gemini
Moon Gemini
Mercury Gemini
Mars Aries
Jupiter Aries
Saturn Cancer
Uranus Libra
Neptune Sagittarius
Pluto Libra
Lilith Pisces
Asc nodeSagittarius
I don't really understand my natal chart. Trying to but all new to me... Do you understand it? and if so, feel free to shed any light my way..x
Posted by Leo188881I can relate to a lot of that - not just in current situation but past situations too and perhaps why things didn't work out.
I have no idea really. I've just been reading lots about my venus and watching videos on youtube. It's virgo which is awful and I've realised all of my insecurities and relationship problems are from this placement and i am overly critical and have a fear of intimacy. I self sabotage and make excuses about why it wont work instead of focusing on positives. My expectations are way too high. I'm trying to be aware of the problems being my issues, rather than thinking he's the one doing something wrong or not giving me enough. I need to work on myself so i don't screw it up. I thought maybe yours was like mine. But it's probably my sun relating to your venus.
This one is yours...
Venus in Leo
When Venus in Leo people are in love, they are proud, even boastful. This position of Venus can turn humble Virgo Suns or retiring Cancer Suns into somewhat demanding lovers. Venus in Leo loves to court and be courted, and they need to feel very special. They are warm, generous, and even grand. Though really quite loyal to their partners (remember that love is THE most important thing in Leoās life), they thrive on romantic attention. Be prepared for their displays: they will tell you about any advances made on them. Remember, theyāre just showing off to you, and itās likely harmless. Itās a different story if you do the same, however. Thatās when youāll hear the lion roarā¦and, no doubt, youāll want to keep these cats purring. Venus in Leo wants to appear experienced in love, even if they have little or no experience whatsoever!
Venus in Leo men and women have high expectations, but once you know that these expectations revolve only around how much attention you are giving them, youāll see that they are really quite big-hearted about most everything else. They are threatened by a relationship that appears to have settled too much, or one thatās lost its spark. They are also threatened by indifferent or impersonal behavior on your part.
Although their needs for physical expression through sex are generally quite strong, their need for love is perhaps even stronger. It is hard for Venus in Leo people to separate love and sex, and even their most erotic fantasies are infused with love and affection. For this reason, few Venus in Leo folk would last long in a relationship that is mostly sexual. On the flip side, they may last longer in a love-only relationship in the absence of satisfying sex, but they are unlikely to feel very satisfied.
Pleasing Venus in Leo involves paying loads of attention to them. If youāre willing to make only one adjustment in your ways, it should be to remind Leo how wonderful they are. Respect and appreciate them, always. Put up with their childlike moments and their tall tales. They want to be seen as attractive by you, so avoid (at all costs!) putting them down in this area. They actually lose interest when they perceive the slightest loss of interest in their partner, and you can expect that any letdown will be acted out in a dramatic fashion. Remind them, in a gentle way, that your emotions count too. If you are feeling a little jealous, let them know. Remember, to Venus in Leo, your small jealousies are affirmations that you find them attractive and expect the rest of the world to as well. Let them decide where to go on a date, and let them pay too. When Venus in Leo feels loved and appreciated, they reward you with loyalty, a big sense of fun, and plenty of physical expressions of their love.
My Personal Ad Bio: āIām warm-hearted and fun. Iām funny, and experienced. Let me show you a good time.ā
Love is magnificent and grand to Venus in Leo people. They take pride in love and their love relationships, and they are typically generous with their money. This is a warmhearted, teasing, expressive, proud, and extravagant placement for Venus. Love is a bit of a gameāa game that is perpetual, as Venus in Leo is forever stuck in the romance stage of a relationship. They feed on attention, acknowledgement, validation, and adoration. Venus in Leo loves to be adored, pampered, and admired. They have a strong ego investment in their love lives. The negative expression of this placement is overstating of feelings simply for the effect, as well as extravagance.
Venus in Leo people may spend a lot on entertainment or sometimes just to show off! They generally are big tippers and give special and generous gifts. They are attracted to art, furnishings, clothing, and music that is bold and passionate, renaissance, lush or opulent, lavishly comfortable, and romantic.
There are bits that make me laugh when I read cos I think "yep. That's Me!!
Thank you heaps. So interesting to read!!š
To any one here wanting to know how things went, well, we had the talk and funnily enough I had a light bulb moment. I think I have expected too much from him with everything he's been thru and for now, I am happy to just be friends. We both went into this pretty fast and hard from day one and it's all come to a head because of what we both want. I need to just go with the flow and wherever the future takes us is what is meant to be (whether just a friendship or a relationship). Sometimes timing has a lot to do with it and i think for both of us at the moment need to focus on what we (as individuals) want before we can bring someone else into our lives as a partner. I appreciate everyone's input and it's helped to understand him from others perspectives of what Aquarians do/Don't do etc.. but sometimes u have to look at them as just a human being who's life has also been shaped by there past.
We both love each other but he's not at the stage I'm at (which he told me). Whether he gets there or not is something only time will tell but he has become such an important part of my life that I don't want to lose him as a person and whatever will be, will be!š
We both love each other but he's not at the stage I'm at (which he told me). Whether he gets there or not is something only time will tell but he has become such an important part of my life that I don't want to lose him as a person and whatever will be, will be!š
I swear! Everytime I read stuff about the timing being wrong or not "right", it drives me crazy lol.
The only time it should be off is if you're in a relationship with someone else. Everyone makes room when they want someone in their life. There is never a perfect time to do something.
2 single people should be able to date and see eachother if they want. I can understand holding off and putting a title, but to say the timing is wrong but I still want you in my life and still want to sleep with you is bullshit.
This is just my opinion though. Lol.
The only time it should be off is if you're in a relationship with someone else. Everyone makes room when they want someone in their life. There is never a perfect time to do something.
2 single people should be able to date and see eachother if they want. I can understand holding off and putting a title, but to say the timing is wrong but I still want you in my life and still want to sleep with you is bullshit.
This is just my opinion though. Lol.
I appreciate your input and perhaps u are right because I too believe there is never a right time for anything but they're my words and I guess that's how it feels but maybe wrong choice of words? It is more holding off for now than anything because even if we hadve met at a later stage, what's to say it would be any better or worse. No one knows..
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