Why are you so rude

This whole situation is funny, life can't be funnier, can it?

I have two jobs, one as a mentor at a startup incubator and the other one as a backup head chef, i do that at nights, im doing that five nights a week. That being said, there is this new entrepreneur im mentoring, one

of his staff is this woman who is very passionate about the product. Things were going fine until a couple of weeks, when she invited me for a couple of beers, very nonchalantly. I told her about my other job and that i wouldn't be able to. So after a couple of days when i wasn't going to my night job she asked me to accompany her to this bar. I told her as nice as possible that i wasn't interested and that it wouldn't be appropriate either, as im mentoring the whole project.

Since then, everyday she comes to the incubator, she says hi to everyone but me lol. In our country we say hi with a kiss on a cheek and she does this to everyone but me and everyone notices obviously. Her birthday was the 17th of this month, so she is an aqua and yes i was the only one not invited.

Yesterday we were all going to a restaurant nerby, and we were all gathering in a circle and she asked loudly why was i going, there was this awkward silence and every one went mute. Lol, i broke the ice saying to everyone look i gotta do some paperwork why don't you all go, I'll stay. And people were like wtf is going on. But im not sure either, but i felt hurt.

So the thought in my head that i want to vent in here is why are you aquas so rude, im minding my own business being happy and like life sends your kind to cause harm and be mean lol.

Mates, I don't actually think all aquas are mean, even though personal experience proves it, mind you. Im just venting, no harm or ill feelings intended to you all.

Vent away mang, but... In the words of Willam Belli

aquas want attention as much as leos

Posted by Aquarelle

Can I ask you this: Why do you care?

Let her be her rude self. it says more about her than it says about you.

Maybe she felt rejected by you, but then still: why do you even care? I'm sure there are more rude people, not just her?

Did you feel like she put you on the spot by saying "why are you going?"

Hi Aquarelle!

I care because i don't want people seeding conflict in the office, it doesn't go with what we believe in the company. And that kind of attitude won't help the project push forward.

As long as she is part of what im mentoring i have to care. I've appointed a meeting with her in my office for today after lunch. Im going to have the difficult talk with her. What exhausts me is all this petty drama people create when we have the chance to be part of something greater.

Anyhow.

It has very little to do with her being an aqua.

Women aren’t equipped to deal well with romantic rejection.

Why are you giving in to her? You should have a talk with her and you need to tell her to act more professional. She’s acting like a child. The fact that everyone else notices too! You have tons of patience cause she’s being super disrespectful to you.

Hopefully you get a handle on it. And tell her to stop acting like a child in front of other colleagues.

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Posted by saggurl88

Why are you giving in to her? You should have a talk with her and you need to tell her to act more professional. She’s acting like a child. The fact that everyone else notices too! You have tons of patience cause she’s being super disrespectful to you.

Hopefully you get a handle on it. And tell her to stop acting like a child in front of other colleagues.

Yea, the fact that she is behaving like this means that he was right in his initial assessment of not wanting to get involved with her.

I actually feel really bad for men who have to deal with women like this in the work place. It’s like he was damned if he went out with her, and damned if he didn’t 🙄🙄

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She would've been disrespected by me right back, but in a "kill her with kindness" kind of way.

It's an embarrassment and undermines who he is. That type of behavior probably wouldn't even let me work with her, as a man, and I would boot her out of the program if she continued it. She's not worried about learning and getting mentored.

Posted by Tinnedglass

This whole situation is funny, life can't be funnier, can it?

I have two jobs, one as a mentor at a startup incubator and the other one as a backup head chef, i do that at nights, im doing that five nights a week. That being said, there is this new entrepreneur im mentoring, one

of his staff is this woman who is very passionate about the product. Things were going fine until a couple of weeks, when she invited me for a couple of beers, very nonchalantly. I told her about my other job and that i wouldn't be able to. So after a couple of days when i wasn't going to my night job she asked me to accompany her to this bar. I told her as nice as possible that i wasn't interested and that it wouldn't be appropriate either, as im mentoring the whole project.

Since then, everyday she comes to the incubator, she says hi to everyone but me lol. In our country we say hi with a kiss on a cheek and she does this to everyone but me and everyone notices obviously. Her birthday was the 17th of this month, so she is an aqua and yes i was the only one not invited.

Yesterday we were all going to a restaurant nerby, and we were all gathering in a circle and she asked loudly why was i going, there was this awkward silence and every one went mute. Lol, i broke the ice saying to everyone look i gotta do some paperwork why don't you all go, I'll stay. And people were like wtf is going on. But im not sure either, but i felt hurt.

So the thought in my head that i want to vent in here is why are you aquas so rude, im minding my own business being happy and like life sends your kind to cause harm and be mean lol.

Mates, I don't actually think all aquas are mean, even though personal experience proves it, mind you. Im just venting, no harm or ill feelings intended to you all.

Bruised ego

Posted by Aquarelle

Can I ask you this: Why do you care?

Let her be her rude self. it says more about her than it says about you.

Maybe she felt rejected by you, but then still: why do you even care? I'm sure there are more rude people, not just her?

Did you feel like she put you on the spot by saying "why are you going?"

yes she is putting him on the spot. I would have said to her "why is that a problem for you' since the others had already noticed her ignorance

she will continue this until she is done with you - weird aquas

Didn’t you just reject her offer to go to a bar?

I don’t think it got something to do with her being an Aqua. Most women are just petty like that.

If it bothers you that much, have a private conversation with her. Like what gives?

We can’t answer for her why she’s being rude towards you.

Edit: You’re both adults too. It’s understandable you’re ranting about it. But if you’re going to keep it professional in the working field you’re going to have to confront her. I am sure you already know that since you want the peace in the room

Yes, how very assuming she was and then got butthurt when her plan caved. Stay professional and do what you need to do. She's a shark.

Watch yout back tho. You may want a 3rd party in the room.

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Posted by DMV

Watch yout back tho. You may want a 3rd party in the room.

I agree. She could turn this around saying you were hitting on her. This a very sticky situation.

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exactly, then she gets your job - get smart

maybe she's a really sick bytch and is going to claim that she's trying to stay away from you because you did something to her … be careful

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Posted by Aquarelle

Can I ask you this: Why do you care?

Let her be her rude self. it says more about her than it says about you.

Maybe she felt rejected by you, but then still: why do you even care? I'm sure there are more rude people, not just her?

Did you feel like she put you on the spot by saying "why are you going?"

yes she is putting him on the spot. I would have said to her "why is that a problem for you' since the others had already noticed her ignorance

she will continue this until she is done with you - weird aquas

Just this immature one. We are not all like that.

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No of course not - and I mean that. It's like that for all the signs and just people in general although the level and degree of dickness varies; once people get older most of them come to their senses …

Posted by Echo

Didn’t you just reject her offer to go to a bar?

I don’t think it got something to do with her being an Aqua. Most women are just petty like that.

If it bothers you that much, have a private conversation with her. Like what gives?

We can’t answer for her why she’s being rude towards you.

Edit: You’re both adults too. It’s understandable you’re ranting about it. But if you’re going to keep it professional in the working field you’re going to have to confront her. I am sure you already know that since you want the peace in the room

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Posted by LadyNeptune

It has very little to do with her being an aqua.

Women aren’t equipped to deal well with romantic rejection.

Yes!

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Posted by Aquarelle

Can I ask you this: Why do you care?

Let her be her rude self. it says more about her than it says about you.

Maybe she felt rejected by you, but then still: why do you even care? I'm sure there are more rude people, not just her?

Did you feel like she put you on the spot by saying "why are you going?"

Hi Aquarelle!

I care because i don't want people seeding conflict in the office, it doesn't go with what we believe in the company. And that kind of attitude won't help the project push forward.

As long as she is part of what im mentoring i have to care. I've appointed a meeting with her in my office for today after lunch. Im going to have the difficult talk with her. What exhausts me is all this petty drama people create when we have the chance to be part of something greater.

Anyhow.

Hi there! You are right. She is being petty, but will probably hesitate to admit that. Some people just don't get that bigger picture and think its all about them. Seems like she doesn't get how she is making others feel awkward too. Gosh I wish you could meet a mature Aqua one day.....that would be a different experience and maybe even a good one 😉

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Yes i don't blame it on the zodiac signs but i don't know, this reminded me when i was first meeting the other aqua woman i wrote last year about, that long long sad story, you know? The first months she would also let it be known amongst everyone she hated/loathed me and got me thinking, do all aquas do this? Treat you bad, like a disease, is that a stage they go through? And then they finally decide to like you/befriend you?

But anyhow, we talked and i thanked her for asking me out and chuckled cause really i told her, i never get asked out like this and i am flattered you have no idea how much, but i am gay. Please keep it a secret, I'm confiding in you.

I know, i messed up with that answer, it was very inmature from my part, but she became so receptive after that and said sorry to me, that she didn't know and i don't look like i am so yeah.

I feel it was one of those situations where a white lie was needed, anything else would have hurt her or leave doors open. Maybe it will backfire one day, but i don't really care if people think i am, and couldn't bother to explain her why i am closed off from dating and all that. And it would have been too personal to tell her about it too.

So yeah, i am standing beside my lie to her.

Everything is good, back to work.

Cheers.

Posted by notreally

maybe she's a really sick bytch and is going to claim that she's trying to stay away from you because you did something to her … be careful

I'm willing to bet that this will be her next move.

I said I'm sorry bitch! Damn!

From my experience when you hurt their ego they want to get revenge. I’m still dealing with this crap from an aqua ex from 3 years ago! Ugh 😑 such jerks

Damn...that whole office lacks maturity it seems.

She ask you out, you say no, shes throws a passive aggressive tantrum.

You call a meeting, bring it up, tell her your gay and you're not?

Integrity and maturity.