Why rebounds? They are toxic!

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I heard some kind of relationship expert talking about how the sooner you start dating again, the quicker and more completely you get over a break-up. Maybe that's true for people who are good at just dating, but it sucks for people who tend to attach quickly.


What do you mean?

They work for me. But I get attached quickly. My longest and best relationship was a rebound.

It helps to have a clear mind of what you don’t want and what didn’t work in the last one. The longer you wait the more you fantasize it and the less clear you are. At least for me.

I normally have a I don’t care attitude after a relationship and that seems to attract the right ones 😄

Edit: and now that I think about the worst I had was after the longest gap in between relationships
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I heard some kind of relationship expert talking about how the sooner you start dating again, the quicker and more completely you get over a break-up. Maybe that's true for people who are good at just dating, but it sucks for people who tend to attach quickly.


What do you mean?

They work for me. But I get attached quickly. My longest and best relationship was a rebound.

It helps to have a clear mind of what you don’t want and what didn’t work in the last one. The loner you wait the more you fantasize it and the less clear you are. At least for me.

I normally have a I don’t care attitude after a relationship and that seems to attract the right ones 😄

Edit: and now that I think about the worst I had was after the longest gap in between relationships
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Good point! I have to take that into acct.

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I never move on from an ex until I find someone I actually really like and want to continue to date. This is hard because I’m super picky. I mean I’ll try to date others, but if I don’t like them, my heart isn’t going to move on from my ex. It also doesn’t help when my ex is still present in my life. That’s what my aqua is doing and I get such a high from the attention he gives me throughout the day every day. I’m just so addicted. I think he is too.
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I heard some kind of relationship expert talking about how the sooner you start dating again, the quicker and more completely you get over a break-up. Maybe that's true for people who are good at just dating, but it sucks for people who tend to attach quickly.




I normally have a I don’t care attitude after a relationship and that seems to attract the right ones 😄


There's the difference! Me for a good year after a break-up:

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I see 😌

I try to move on fast. If it’s doesn’t work it not point to keep wishing for it. And I am normally very clear in the things that didn’t work out. I want better.

Edit: plus I don’t want to be with a guy that doesn’t love me as much as I love him.

That will be a deal breaker for me
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I heard some kind of relationship expert talking about how the sooner you start dating again, the quicker and more completely you get over a break-up. Maybe that's true for people who are good at just dating, but it sucks for people who tend to attach quickly.




I normally have a I don’t care attitude after a relationship and that seems to attract the right ones 😄


There's the difference! Me for a good year after a break-up:

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I see 😌

I try to move on fast. If it’s doesn’t work it not point to keep wishing for it. And I am normally very clear in the things that didn’t work out. I want better.
That's a super healthy way to be. I've got attachment issues. Eek.

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You should work on that 😊

Why would you want a guy that doesn’t love you completely? You should be his everything. If’s not like that it’s not worth it.

You deserve better, don’t you think?
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I heard some kind of relationship expert talking about how the sooner you start dating again, the quicker and more completely you get over a break-up. Maybe that's true for people who are good at just dating, but it sucks for people who tend to attach quickly.




I normally have a I don’t care attitude after a relationship and that seems to attract the right ones 😄


There's the difference! Me for a good year after a break-up:

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I see 😌

I try to move on fast. If it’s doesn’t work it not point to keep wishing for it. And I am normally very clear in the things that didn’t work out. I want better.
That's a super healthy way to be. I've got attachment issues. Eek.



You should work on that 😊

Why would you want a guy that doesn’t love you completely? You should be his everything. If’s not like that it’s not worth it.

You deserve better, don’t you think?


Oooh, I didn't mean to make it seem like things aren't good now. My husband absolutely adores me and would do anything for me. We're both aware that we are codependent people, and we're working on it.

I'm just commenting on the way I've handled break-ups in the past...NOT WELL!

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Well, the past it’s the past 😄 No much you can do about it. I am sure you have learned a lot from it
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I heard some kind of relationship expert talking about how the sooner you start dating again, the quicker and more completely you get over a break-up. Maybe that's true for people who are good at just dating, but it sucks for people who tend to attach quickly.




I normally have a I don’t care attitude after a relationship and that seems to attract the right ones 😄


There's the difference! Me for a good year after a break-up:

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I see 😌

I try to move on fast. If it’s doesn’t work it not point to keep wishing for it. And I am normally very clear in the things that didn’t work out. I want better.
That's a super healthy way to be. I've got attachment issues. Eek.



You should work on that 😊

Why would you want a guy that doesn’t love you completely? You should be his everything. If’s not like that it’s not worth it.

You deserve better, don’t you think?


Oooh, I didn't mean to make it seem like things aren't good now. My husband absolutely adores me and would do anything for me. We're both aware that we are codependent people, and we're working on it.

I'm just commenting on the way I've handled break-ups in the past...NOT WELL!



Well, the past it’s the past 😄 No much you can do about it. I am sure you have learned a lot from it


The thing is, when you've been in a long-term relationship for years, you sometimes don't know you still have issues lurking because nothing is happening to activate them. We had some problems a while back, and I relearned some of mine, as did he.
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I know what you mean. Something just triggers it when you least expect it.
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I heard some kind of relationship expert talking about how the sooner you start dating again, the quicker and more completely you get over a break-up. Maybe that's true for people who are good at just dating, but it sucks for people who tend to attach quickly.




I normally have a I don’t care attitude after a relationship and that seems to attract the right ones 😄


There's the difference! Me for a good year after a break-up:

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I feel like that right now. But somehow, he popped into my life. Why, oh why? I don't even want anything! I just need to cool down...
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I never move on from an ex until I find someone I actually really like and want to continue to date. This is hard because I’m super picky. I mean I’ll try to date others, but if I don’t like them, my heart isn’t going to move on from my ex. It also doesn’t help when my ex is still present in my life. That’s what my aqua is doing and I get such a high from the attention he gives me throughout the day every day. I’m just so addicted. I think he is too.
This is how I do things as well. I don't mind being single and not dating though. It's a choice for me. I just hate starting over and the beginning stages of getting to know someone. So I'd rather wait and see what falls into my lap lol

I had a dream last night about my Aqua friend. Its annoying how much I think about him and wish I could just shoo him away. Now he's invading my self conscious and I can't control it. I need to meet someone new but I'm too lazy. 😢
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You can't even conquer one and there's another one?

Back to your crazy self aren't you compy?
Totally crazy, yep. I don't even want this one. He's just all over me. Meh!
That's Libra women. They're always think that all men are all over them. Particularly Aquarius men. Meh!
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You made my day 🙂)

No Meh this time 🙂)
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I never move on from an ex until I find someone I actually really like and want to continue to date. This is hard because I’m super picky. I mean I’ll try to date others, but if I don’t like them, my heart isn’t going to move on from my ex. It also doesn’t help when my ex is still present in my life. That’s what my aqua is doing and I get such a high from the attention he gives me throughout the day every day. I’m just so addicted. I think he is too.
This is how I do things as well. I don't mind being single and not dating though. It's a choice for me. I just hate starting over and the beginning stages of getting to know someone. So I'd rather wait and see what falls into my lap lol

I had a dream last night about my Aqua friend. Its annoying how much I think about him and wish I could just shoo him away. Now he's invading my self conscious and I can't control it. I need to meet someone new but I'm too lazy. 😢
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Aww I know the feeling!! What’s the latest update with him?
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I never think of people as rebounds for some reason. I always go into dates and stuff with a fresh mind cause I've made the choice to cut off the previous person for my own happiness. Guess I'm optimistic in this way too. #SagPower
Maybe you should try it for once lol
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I'm not lonely and I don't feel like dealing with someone else's bullshit and conforming to their needs! 😛
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I never think of people as rebounds for some reason. I always go into dates and stuff with a fresh mind cause I've made the choice to cut off the previous person for my own happiness. Guess I'm optimistic in this way too. #SagPower
Maybe you should try it for once lol
I'm not lonely and I don't feel like dealing with someone else's bullshit and conforming to their needs! 😛
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Are you saying you're not like a Libra? 😛
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I never think of people as rebounds for some reason. I always go into dates and stuff with a fresh mind cause I've made the choice to cut off the previous person for my own happiness. Guess I'm optimistic in this way too. #SagPower
Maybe you should try it for once lol
I'm not lonely and I don't feel like dealing with someone else's bullshit and conforming to their needs! 😛
Are you saying you're not like a Libra? 😛
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😄 I can balance out things but I am mostly fire and water lol No, I'm not gonna sit around and wait for what I want lol
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I never move on from an ex until I find someone I actually really like and want to continue to date. This is hard because I’m super picky. I mean I’ll try to date others, but if I don’t like them, my heart isn’t going to move on from my ex. It also doesn’t help when my ex is still present in my life. That’s what my aqua is doing and I get such a high from the attention he gives me throughout the day every day. I’m just so addicted. I think he is too.
This is how I do things as well. I don't mind being single and not dating though. It's a choice for me. I just hate starting over and the beginning stages of getting to know someone. So I'd rather wait and see what falls into my lap lol

I had a dream last night about my Aqua friend. Its annoying how much I think about him and wish I could just shoo him away. Now he's invading my self conscious and I can't control it. I need to meet someone new but I'm too lazy. 😢

Aww I know the feeling!! What’s the latest update with him?

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Nothing. We don't talk anymore lol. I have no clue. Wherever he is, I hope he's as miserable thinking about me as I am thinking about him. 😂😂😂

#ImSelfish
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I never move on from an ex until I find someone I actually really like and want to continue to date. This is hard because I’m super picky. I mean I’ll try to date others, but if I don’t like them, my heart isn’t going to move on from my ex. It also doesn’t help when my ex is still present in my life. That’s what my aqua is doing and I get such a high from the attention he gives me throughout the day every day. I’m just so addicted. I think he is too.
This is how I do things as well. I don't mind being single and not dating though. It's a choice for me. I just hate starting over and the beginning stages of getting to know someone. So I'd rather wait and see what falls into my lap lol

I had a dream last night about my Aqua friend. Its annoying how much I think about him and wish I could just shoo him away. Now he's invading my self conscious and I can't control it. I need to meet someone new but I'm too lazy. 😢

Aww I know the feeling!! What’s the latest update with him?


Nothing. We don't talk anymore lol. I have no clue. Wherever he is, I hope he's as miserable thinking about me as I am thinking about him. 😂😂😂

#ImSelfish

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Lol 😂 I hope so too!!
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Are you the rebound or is the other person the rebound? And if you have no feelings what's toxic? Also, how do you cheat on yourself and what are you talking about?


He's basically the clone of my Aqua man. From tip to toe. He comes from the same area (9 km apart, if it matters). And we are talking about a LDR (internet talks), so what are the chances to meet a similar Aqua man in such a short time, from the same region, with the same mindset, with the same quirky ideas, and make him think like - wow, someone finally understands me! No, it's not a coincidence, just "been there, done that" before. It's not fair at all. Because I am not only fuelling my own pain, but also his, since there is nothing I want from him.
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Are you the rebound or is the other person the rebound? And if you have no feelings what's toxic? Also, how do you cheat on yourself and what are you talking about?


He's basically the clone of my Aqua man. From tip to toe. He comes from the same area (9 km apart, if it matters). And we are talking about a LDR (internet talks), so what are the chances to meet a similar Aqua man in such a short time, from the same region, with the same mindset, with the same quirky ideas, and make him think like - wow, someone finally understands me! No, it's not a coincidence, just "been there, done that" before. It's not fair at all. Because I am not only fuelling my own pain, but also his, since there is nothing I want from him.

I'm really confused. Why are you in a LDR with someone you have no feelings for....?

Or is this some random you just met on a dating site yesterday?

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Are you the rebound or is the other person the rebound? And if you have no feelings what's toxic? Also, how do you cheat on yourself and what are you talking about?


He's basically the clone of my Aqua man. From tip to toe. He comes from the same area (9 km apart, if it matters). And we are talking about a LDR (internet talks), so what are the chances to meet a similar Aqua man in such a short time, from the same region, with the same mindset, with the same quirky ideas, and make him think like - wow, someone finally understands me! No, it's not a coincidence, just "been there, done that" before. It's not fair at all. Because I am not only fuelling my own pain, but also his, since there is nothing I want from him.

I'm really confused. Why are you in a LDR with someone you have no feelings for....?

Or is this some random you just met on a dating site yesterday?


I am an air sign. Relationship for me means friendship, nothing more. Mind that!

Do you call friendships with females who live far away long distance relationships as well or does it just apply to males. It's just very difficult to understand what you mean if you aren't specific. Obviously none of us know the backstory or what the situation is sorry it sounds like you're describing it in riddles. I'm asking questions to try and understand what you're talking about that's all

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Just venting. There is no question involved. No feelings. Just a very weird coincidence. And the consequences I feel, which are not ok. That's all. This is not a love story.
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Are you the rebound or is the other person the rebound? And if you have no feelings what's toxic? Also, how do you cheat on yourself and what are you talking about?


He's basically the clone of my Aqua man. From tip to toe. He comes from the same area (9 km apart, if it matters). And we are talking about a LDR (internet talks), so what are the chances to meet a similar Aqua man in such a short time, from the same region, with the same mindset, with the same quirky ideas, and make him think like - wow, someone finally understands me! No, it's not a coincidence, just "been there, done that" before. It's not fair at all. Because I am not only fuelling my own pain, but also his, since there is nothing I want from him.

I'm really confused. Why are you in a LDR with someone you have no feelings for....?

Or is this some random you just met on a dating site yesterday?


I am an air sign. Relationship for me means friendship, nothing more. Mind that!

Do you call friendships with females who live far away long distance relationships as well or does it just apply to males. It's just very difficult to understand what you mean if you aren't specific. Obviously none of us know the backstory or what the situation is sorry it sounds like you're describing it in riddles. I'm asking questions to try and understand what you're talking about that's all


Just venting. There is no question involved. No feelings. Just a very weird coincidence. And the consequences I feel, which are not ok. That's all. This is not a love story.
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Then making a new friend is not a rebound. Are you Asexual or have a sexual dysfunction about yourself? You say you never had sex with your other Aqua but you had a great understanding and now you've met this new one.

How are you getting intimacy? How are you sexually fulfilled? I'm actually really curious, not being sarcastic at all. Maybe this is a second chance to have a little bit of courage and do something crazy.
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I never move on from an ex until I find someone I actually really like and want to continue to date. This is hard because I’m super picky. I mean I’ll try to date others, but if I don’t like them, my heart isn’t going to move on from my ex. It also doesn’t help when my ex is still present in my life. That’s what my aqua is doing and I get such a high from the attention he gives me throughout the day every day. I’m just so addicted. I think he is too.
what kind of attention he gives you throughout the day every day?
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Are you the rebound or is the other person the rebound? And if you have no feelings what's toxic? Also, how do you cheat on yourself and what are you talking about?


He's basically the clone of my Aqua man. From tip to toe. He comes from the same area (9 km apart, if it matters). And we are talking about a LDR (internet talks), so what are the chances to meet a similar Aqua man in such a short time, from the same region, with the same mindset, with the same quirky ideas, and make him think like - wow, someone finally understands me! No, it's not a coincidence, just "been there, done that" before. It's not fair at all. Because I am not only fuelling my own pain, but also his, since there is nothing I want from him.
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have you met in person? what does it mean that you are fuelling his pain, since there is nothing you want from him...? self-centered a bit? 🙂 fuelling his pain, lol

you are in a serious need of a reality-check, I am sorry to say

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I never move on from an ex until I find someone I actually really like and want to continue to date. This is hard because I’m super picky. I mean I’ll try to date others, but if I don’t like them, my heart isn’t going to move on from my ex. It also doesn’t help when my ex is still present in my life. That’s what my aqua is doing and I get such a high from the attention he gives me throughout the day every day. I’m just so addicted. I think he is too.
what kind of attention he gives you throughout the day every day?

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Well we talk sometimes, but I post stories throughout the day on Snapchat because I want him to see. It’s just for him even though others can see. And he looks at everything usually within 30 minutes, sometimes it’s less than 5 minutes. There’s no notification so he has to keep checking. He knows I do it for him and I know he does this for me. I think we both get a high from it and it’s why we are addicted. We used to do the same with sharing our locations. Until I got upset and shut mine off then he shut his off. We are such stalkers of each other. I make us sound crazy.
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I never move on from an ex until I find someone I actually really like and want to continue to date. This is hard because I’m super picky. I mean I’ll try to date others, but if I don’t like them, my heart isn’t going to move on from my ex. It also doesn’t help when my ex is still present in my life. That’s what my aqua is doing and I get such a high from the attention he gives me throughout the day every day. I’m just so addicted. I think he is too.
what kind of attention he gives you throughout the day every day?


Well we talk sometimes, but I post stories throughout the day on Snapchat because I want him to see. It’s just for him even though others can see. And he looks at everything usually within 30 minutes, sometimes it’s less than 5 minutes. There’s no notification so he has to keep checking. He knows I do it for him and I know he does this for me. I think we both get a high from it and it’s why we are addicted. We used to do the same with sharing our locations. Until I got upset and shut mine off then he shut his off. We are such stalkers of each other. I make us sound crazy.
I believe there is a notification if your contacts posted a story on snapchat. Circle thing turns blue. Not sure if he is like me, but I get so bothered with notifications i tend to just open it for the sake of it and just skip through all the stories so I dont get bothered with the blue notification on there. Doesnt mean I am interested. I just hate the notification and it bothers me.
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Hmm I’ve never seen that on Snapchat. I think you’re thinking of Instagram. My aqua loves the games. He’s been playing games for months. They haven’t all been the same either. He switches it up. I know he’s doing it because he’s interested in me. We have a lot of history now and he’s still in my life. The question is how much he’s interested. Hopefully I’ll find out soon
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I never move on from an ex until I find someone I actually really like and want to continue to date. This is hard because I’m super picky. I mean I’ll try to date others, but if I don’t like them, my heart isn’t going to move on from my ex. It also doesn’t help when my ex is still present in my life. That’s what my aqua is doing and I get such a high from the attention he gives me throughout the day every day. I’m just so addicted. I think he is too.
what kind of attention he gives you throughout the day every day?


Well we talk sometimes, but I post stories throughout the day on Snapchat because I want him to see. It’s just for him even though others can see. And he looks at everything usually within 30 minutes, sometimes it’s less than 5 minutes. There’s no notification so he has to keep checking. He knows I do it for him and I know he does this for me. I think we both get a high from it and it’s why we are addicted. We used to do the same with sharing our locations. Until I got upset and shut mine off then he shut his off. We are such stalkers of each other. I make us sound crazy.
I believe there is a notification if your contacts posted a story on snapchat. Circle thing turns blue. Not sure if he is like me, but I get so bothered with notifications i tend to just open it for the sake of it and just skip through all the stories so I dont get bothered with the blue notification on there. Doesnt mean I am interested. I just hate the notification and it bothers me.
Hmm I’ve never seen that on Snapchat. I think you’re thinking of Instagram. My aqua loves the games. He’s been playing games for months. They haven’t all been the same either. He switches it up. I know he’s doing it because he’s interested in me. We have a lot of history now and he’s still in my life. The question is how much he’s interested. Hopefully I’ll find out soon
No. Its def snapchat. I use it everyday. When youre uploading something, circle turns yellow. Turns blue if its a new post. If youve seen it there is no color. Instagram notifications are red. Why would he play games with you if he knows youre interested? Sorry i have no idea about your backstory. Usually, aquas move quite quickly with women if they like the woman a lot. But of course, that means they can lose interest quickly too.
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He was my bf. Technically no breakup but I consider him my ex because he doesn’t have time for a relationship due to owning 3 business- two of which he started in the fall. He knows how I feel about him because I’ve told him a bunch of times and he still talks to me even after I tell him everything. He’s told me in the past that he still wants me in his life when things slow down. He’s apologized for being so insanely busy. So I’m still hoping for more again, but I’m not sure if and when that will be possible again. Snapchat is just a way to be present in each other’s life without actually being there. I believe we both get comfort from this.
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I never move on from an ex until I find someone I actually really like and want to continue to date. This is hard because I’m super picky. I mean I’ll try to date others, but if I don’t like them, my heart isn’t going to move on from my ex. It also doesn’t help when my ex is still present in my life. That’s what my aqua is doing and I get such a high from the attention he gives me throughout the day every day. I’m just so addicted. I think he is too.
what kind of attention he gives you throughout the day every day?


Well we talk sometimes, but I post stories throughout the day on Snapchat because I want him to see. It’s just for him even though others can see. And he looks at everything usually within 30 minutes, sometimes it’s less than 5 minutes. There’s no notification so he has to keep checking. He knows I do it for him and I know he does this for me. I think we both get a high from it and it’s why we are addicted. We used to do the same with sharing our locations. Until I got upset and shut mine off then he shut his off. We are such stalkers of each other. I make us sound crazy.
How long are you planning on dealing with this? Forever?
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I’m content with how things are right now. He’s worth it to me. I actually support him and everything he is doing in his life. You don’t have to judge me anymore. Thanks though.
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Are you the rebound or is the other person the rebound? And if you have no feelings what's toxic? Also, how do you cheat on yourself and what are you talking about?


He's basically the clone of my Aqua man. From tip to toe. He comes from the same area (9 km apart, if it matters). And we are talking about a LDR (internet talks), so what are the chances to meet a similar Aqua man in such a short time, from the same region, with the same mindset, with the same quirky ideas, and make him think like - wow, someone finally understands me! No, it's not a coincidence, just "been there, done that" before. It's not fair at all. Because I am not only fuelling my own pain, but also his, since there is nothing I want from him.
have you met in person? what does it mean that you are fuelling his pain, since there is nothing you want from him...? self-centered a bit? 🙂 fuelling his pain, lol

you are in a serious need of a reality-check, I am sorry to say

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Me or him? I feel guilty for listening to his stories, for seeing me for what I cannot provide him, even though he tries to court me. It's a little bit comforting for me to relive past feelings, to feel wanted if you wish, but by no means I can say yes. There is a huge distance and a huge responsibility I cannot be accounted for. As I said before, I am a little bit thrilled by the quirky coincidence and comforted by it, but this cannot go farther than that.

As for his pain, it's his personal thing, I do not wish to disclose it, but it also has to do with the title of the topic.