How can I put this Aries man in his place in a clever way?

So I’ve been having a fun, casual, relationship with this Aries man. I enjoyed us meeting up and having very passionate sex. I can honestly say the sex is amazing. But I’m starting to feel like I’m taken for granted, I can’t explain the feeling. Like I know it’s casual but I feel like he sees me as a guarantee and doesn’t appreciate my time and attention. When we are together he’s the one saying how much he has missed me, he’s very passionate, got a little upset that I didn’t say I missed him back, so I had said it not to hurt his feelings. When we text which isn’t often he wants to call me baby, his boo, etc. sends me kiss emojis. I even gave him a bday gift just cause I love giving and I found out it was his bday. During this pandemic I checked on him just like I checked on anyone else I know, I text him and said “I hope you’re doing ok, please stay safe” cause I genuinely care and was worried, his business is still open, but he never checks on me. I would also ask every once in awhile, how was your day today? He never does that. But yet he doesn’t want me having sex with another guy. If I catch a attitude with him cause of how he acts, he wants to be sweet calling me pet names.

I guess it’s the Aries in me that wants just a little attention. I know he’s not my boyfriend but he wants me but isn’t giving me the attention I want. So now I feel like he expects my eyes not to wander, thinks I’m not gonna go anywhere. How can I show him that I’m not just some girl that needs him? That I’m better than that? I want to do in one a clever way. I’m even considering ending it and I want to go out with a bang. A part of me doesn’t want to end it cause the sex is so good, but if I don’t end it, is there a way I can put him in his place without us falling out? I am a customer at his business so I don’t want to do anything too mean. Any advice? Aries men seem complicated.

So.. I think you can still have sex but after that tell him he needs to leave (or he needs to order you a taxi, depending on where you are), and tell him you can’t spend the whole night together because you aren’t GF/BF. This way to maintain the control. Act like you are there for the sex, and only the sex, and he will give you more attention.. when he starts to wonder what’s up.. tell him you want him to wish you good morning in the morning and ask you how your day has been in the evening... some shit like that. He might do it, he might not, but either way.. you are in control a bit more now.

Why not just ask him what’s up with the relationship instead of going out with a bang?

If he doesn’t care then you will be out of luck sexually but at least you’ll know. If you just leave without actually knowing what he was wanting or expecting, it could make you cave and come back for some more. It’s easier to fool yourself into thinking that the situation wasn’t so bad and wanting to reach out.

At least you can make an good judgment if he backs out and says he doesn’t want to go further.

Him checking on you and you wanting him to do the things that you do, is wasted energy in my opinion, it’s the way he is. People usually don’t change. They can try for a little bit, but they resort back to their normal behavior.

Everyone knows what they want out of a person. Remember that, the hard questions just need to be asked.

Posted by AriesJo

So.. I think you can still have sex but after that tell him he needs to leave (or he needs to order you a taxi, depending on where you are), and tell him you can’t spend the whole night together because you aren’t GF/BF. This way to maintain the control. Act like you are there for the sex, and only the sex, and he will give you more attention.. when he starts to wonder what’s up.. tell him you want him to wish you good morning in the morning and ask you how your day has been in the evening... some shit like that. He might do it, he might not, but either way.. you are in control a bit more now.

You completely understand what I was trying to say. I was trying to figure out a way to gain control a little. It’s been hard, I’ve never dealt romantically/sexually with a fellow Aries. He seems complicated. I’ve mentioned something about how I felt before, I snapped with a bit of a attitude. And he called me to talk and said that he’s busy all the time and he also doesn’t like texting. And I snapped and said I’m busy too, I’m a full time college student with a full time job but I check up on ppl like friends/acquaintances. I’ve just been debating with myself. A part of me is saying that cause it’s casual he’s not doing anything wrong. But then again he expects me not to have sex with anyone but him.

Posted by saggurl88

Why not just ask him what’s up with the relationship instead of going out with a bang?

If he doesn’t care then you will be out of luck sexually but at least you’ll know. If you just leave without actually knowing what he was wanting or expecting, it could make you cave and come back for some more. It’s easier to fool yourself into thinking that the situation wasn’t so bad and wanting to reach out.

At least you can make an good judgment if he backs out and says he doesn’t want to go further.

Him checking on you and you wanting him to do the things that you do, is wasted energy in my opinion, it’s the way he is. People usually don’t change. They can try for a little bit, but they resort back to their normal behavior.

Everyone knows what they want out of a person. Remember that, the hard questions just need to be asked.

You’re right. I mentioned it once in the past and he would call to talk to try to calm me down. He says hes always busy. And I snapped and said I be busy too, I have a full time job and go to school full time and still check on friends/acquaintances from time to time. I guess it’s just my personality I’m just a very caring person with anyone in general who is in my life. But he said he would try to communicate better but he keeps doing it. I’m not gonna be a nagger and keep bringing it up. It just frustrated me a bit that he doesn’t want another man touching me sexually but he doesn’t give me much attention unless we are together. I guess the Aries in new felt like he has the control and I didn’t and I wanted to show him that I don’t have to tolerate it, the sex is addictive at the same time. I was not to end it but a part of me doesn’t. I feel like I’m an idiot complaining cause it is casual sex, that’s what he wants and what I agreed to. I didn’t have a problem with us not being bf and gf it’s just the lack of attention got the best of me. And then we have sex and it’s so passionate and tie curling and I forget.

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Posted by saggurl88

Why not just ask him what’s up with the relationship instead of going out with a bang?

If he doesn’t care then you will be out of luck sexually but at least you’ll know. If you just leave without actually knowing what he was wanting or expecting, it could make you cave and come back for some more. It’s easier to fool yourself into thinking that the situation wasn’t so bad and wanting to reach out.

At least you can make an good judgment if he backs out and says he doesn’t want to go further.

Him checking on you and you wanting him to do the things that you do, is wasted energy in my opinion, it’s the way he is. People usually don’t change. They can try for a little bit, but they resort back to their normal behavior.

Everyone knows what they want out of a person. Remember that, the hard questions just need to be asked.

You’re right. I mentioned it once in the past and he would call to talk to try to calm me down. He says hes always busy. And I snapped and said I be busy too, I have a full time job and go to school full time and still check on friends/acquaintances from time to time. I guess it’s just my personality I’m just a very caring person with anyone in general who is in my life. But he said he would try to communicate better but he keeps doing it. I’m not gonna be a nagger and keep bringing it up. It just frustrated me a bit that he doesn’t want another man touching me sexually but he doesn’t give me much attention unless we are together. I guess the Aries in new felt like he has the control and I didn’t and I wanted to show him that I don’t have to tolerate it, the sex is addictive at the same time. I was not to end it but a part of me doesn’t. I feel like I’m an idiot complaining cause it is casual sex, that’s what he wants and what I agreed to. I didn’t have a problem with us not being bf and gf it’s just the lack of attention got the best of me. And then we have sex and it’s so passionate and tie curling and I forget.

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I understand completely. I’m not sure what advice to give other then to voice your opinions.

This is the type of personality that I have. I’m only present in person and usually don’t want to bother someone when they are out of sight. But I will if they contact me.

I need to learn what I’m supposed to be doing but I just don’t know how to change. Like what exactly the first step is supposed to be.

Maybe laying out your needs would help him. Just letting him know what you expect from him. If he doesn’t know what’s hurting you, then he can’t fix it, if he wants to and cares about you. There is still a friendship involved.

Good luck. I wish there were men that could explain things to me but those kinds are rare.

Posted by bmoon8

Aries men are actually simple creatures. Have you tried communicating at all with him?

Yeah I have in the past. I had snapped and got irritated about his communication skills and that made him finally call me and he said he doesn’t like texting and he is always busy. I be busy too, I work full time and go to college full time but I still check on ppl from time to time. He just said he’ll try to do better but he does the same thing. When I get upset about it he calls me. But when we are together, to meet up, he’s so passionate and I’m like the center of the attention. That’s why it’s Been so hard to break it off. The sex is so passionate and amazing, he explained ll tell me during how much he missed me, how amazing I am etc during sex but he frustrates me so much. He doesn’t want me having sex with anyone but him but doesn’t give me what I want.

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Why not just ask him what’s up with the relationship instead of going out with a bang?

If he doesn’t care then you will be out of luck sexually but at least you’ll know. If you just leave without actually knowing what he was wanting or expecting, it could make you cave and come back for some more. It’s easier to fool yourself into thinking that the situation wasn’t so bad and wanting to reach out.

At least you can make an good judgment if he backs out and says he doesn’t want to go further.

Him checking on you and you wanting him to do the things that you do, is wasted energy in my opinion, it’s the way he is. People usually don’t change. They can try for a little bit, but they resort back to their normal behavior.

Everyone knows what they want out of a person. Remember that, the hard questions just need to be asked.

You’re right. I mentioned it once in the past and he would call to talk to try to calm me down. He says hes always busy. And I snapped and said I be busy too, I have a full time job and go to school full time and still check on friends/acquaintances from time to time. I guess it’s just my personality I’m just a very caring person with anyone in general who is in my life. But he said he would try to communicate better but he keeps doing it. I’m not gonna be a nagger and keep bringing it up. It just frustrated me a bit that he doesn’t want another man touching me sexually but he doesn’t give me much attention unless we are together. I guess the Aries in new felt like he has the control and I didn’t and I wanted to show him that I don’t have to tolerate it, the sex is addictive at the same time. I was not to end it but a part of me doesn’t. I feel like I’m an idiot complaining cause it is casual sex, that’s what he wants and what I agreed to. I didn’t have a problem with us not being bf and gf it’s just the lack of attention got the best of me. And then we have sex and it’s so passionate and tie curling and I forget.

I understand completely. I’m not sure what advice to give other then to voice your opinions.

This is the type of personality that I have. I’m only present in person and usually don’t want to bother someone when they are out of sight. But I will if they contact me.

I need to learn what I’m supposed to be doing but I just don’t know how to change. Like what exactly the first step is supposed to be.

Maybe laying out your needs would help him. Just letting him know what you expect from him. If he doesn’t know what’s hurting you, then he can’t fix it, if he wants to and cares about you. There is still a friendship involved.

Good luck. I wish there were men that could explain things to me but those kinds are rare.

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Wow yeah you sound exactly like him. He’s present and focused on me in person, like Ik the center of his attention. But when we are apart he only gives me attention if I complain but I’m not doing that anymore. I’ve repeated myself too many times. And one time I got so tired of him that instead of meeting up I decided to get ready to go out with my friends, then started sexting me and I gave in, when I get mad at him he gives me rough passionate sex and I’m too tired to go on the date with another guy or out with my friends

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Why not just ask him what’s up with the relationship instead of going out with a bang?

If he doesn’t care then you will be out of luck sexually but at least you’ll know. If you just leave without actually knowing what he was wanting or expecting, it could make you cave and come back for some more. It’s easier to fool yourself into thinking that the situation wasn’t so bad and wanting to reach out.

At least you can make an good judgment if he backs out and says he doesn’t want to go further.

Him checking on you and you wanting him to do the things that you do, is wasted energy in my opinion, it’s the way he is. People usually don’t change. They can try for a little bit, but they resort back to their normal behavior.

Everyone knows what they want out of a person. Remember that, the hard questions just need to be asked.

You’re right. I mentioned it once in the past and he would call to talk to try to calm me down. He says hes always busy. And I snapped and said I be busy too, I have a full time job and go to school full time and still check on friends/acquaintances from time to time. I guess it’s just my personality I’m just a very caring person with anyone in general who is in my life. But he said he would try to communicate better but he keeps doing it. I’m not gonna be a nagger and keep bringing it up. It just frustrated me a bit that he doesn’t want another man touching me sexually but he doesn’t give me much attention unless we are together. I guess the Aries in new felt like he has the control and I didn’t and I wanted to show him that I don’t have to tolerate it, the sex is addictive at the same time. I was not to end it but a part of me doesn’t. I feel like I’m an idiot complaining cause it is casual sex, that’s what he wants and what I agreed to. I didn’t have a problem with us not being bf and gf it’s just the lack of attention got the best of me. And then we have sex and it’s so passionate and tie curling and I forget.

I understand completely. I’m not sure what advice to give other then to voice your opinions.

This is the type of personality that I have. I’m only present in person and usually don’t want to bother someone when they are out of sight. But I will if they contact me.

I need to learn what I’m supposed to be doing but I just don’t know how to change. Like what exactly the first step is supposed to be.

Maybe laying out your needs would help him. Just letting him know what you expect from him. If he doesn’t know what’s hurting you, then he can’t fix it, if he wants to and cares about you. There is still a friendship involved.

Good luck. I wish there were men that could explain things to me but those kinds are rare.

Wow yeah you sound exactly like him. He’s present and focused on me in person, like Ik the center of his attention. But when we are apart he only gives me attention if I complain but I’m not doing that anymore. I’ve repeated myself too many times. And one time I got so tired of him that instead of meeting up I decided to get ready to go out with my friends, then started sexting me and I gave in, when I get mad at him he gives me rough passionate sex and I’m too tired to go on the date with another guy or out with my friends

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Wow. Well he sounds like a keeper! Tell him what you want. Lol.

But in a relationship, it might end up being the same. Most people just learn to deal with and compromise on stuff that they can’t change.

But maybe as a boyfriend you will see him more and the little things won’t really matter.

Posted by Genznation

So I’ve been having a fun, casual, relationship with this Aries man. I enjoyed us meeting up and having very passionate sex. I can honestly say the sex is amazing. But I’m starting to feel like I’m taken for granted, I can’t explain the feeling. Like I know it’s casual but I feel like he sees me as a guarantee and doesn’t appreciate my time and attention. When we are together he’s the one saying how much he has missed me, he’s very passionate, got a little upset that I didn’t say I missed him back, so I had said it not to hurt his feelings. When we text which isn’t often he wants to call me baby, his boo, etc. sends me kiss emojis. I even gave him a bday gift just cause I love giving and I found out it was his bday. During this pandemic I checked on him just like I checked on anyone else I know, I text him and said “I hope you’re doing ok, please stay safe” cause I genuinely care and was worried, his business is still open, but he never checks on me. I would also ask every once in awhile, how was your day today? He never does that. But yet he doesn’t want me having sex with another guy. If I catch a attitude with him cause of how he acts, he wants to be sweet calling me pet names.

I guess it’s the Aries in me that wants just a little attention. I know he’s not my boyfriend but he wants me but isn’t giving me the attention I want. So now I feel like he expects my eyes not to wander, thinks I’m not gonna go anywhere. How can I show him that I’m not just some girl that needs him? That I’m better than that? I want to do in one a clever way. I’m even considering ending it and I want to go out with a bang. A part of me doesn’t want to end it cause the sex is so good, but if I don’t end it, is there a way I can put him in his place without us falling out? I am a customer at his business so I don’t want to do anything too mean. Any advice? Aries men seem complicated.

Aries men ARE Complicated in my opinion. I was married to one!

I found him very much All or Nothing, His Way or The Highway. So put him in his place by being STRAIGHT with him. Firm and Straight but friendly.

Tell him how it is, in a firm but nice way, then smile.

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So I’ve been having a fun, casual, relationship with this Aries man. I enjoyed us meeting up and having very passionate sex. I can honestly say the sex is amazing. But I’m starting to feel like I’m taken for granted, I can’t explain the feeling. Like I know it’s casual but I feel like he sees me as a guarantee and doesn’t appreciate my time and attention. When we are together he’s the one saying how much he has missed me, he’s very passionate, got a little upset that I didn’t say I missed him back, so I had said it not to hurt his feelings. When we text which isn’t often he wants to call me baby, his boo, etc. sends me kiss emojis. I even gave him a bday gift just cause I love giving and I found out it was his bday. During this pandemic I checked on him just like I checked on anyone else I know, I text him and said “I hope you’re doing ok, please stay safe” cause I genuinely care and was worried, his business is still open, but he never checks on me. I would also ask every once in awhile, how was your day today? He never does that. But yet he doesn’t want me having sex with another guy. If I catch a attitude with him cause of how he acts, he wants to be sweet calling me pet names.

I guess it’s the Aries in me that wants just a little attention. I know he’s not my boyfriend but he wants me but isn’t giving me the attention I want. So now I feel like he expects my eyes not to wander, thinks I’m not gonna go anywhere. How can I show him that I’m not just some girl that needs him? That I’m better than that? I want to do in one a clever way. I’m even considering ending it and I want to go out with a bang. A part of me doesn’t want to end it cause the sex is so good, but if I don’t end it, is there a way I can put him in his place without us falling out? I am a customer at his business so I don’t want to do anything too mean. Any advice? Aries men seem complicated.

Aries men ARE Complicated in my opinion. I was married to one!

I found him very much All or Nothing, His Way or The Highway. So put him in his place by being STRAIGHT with him. Firm and Straight but friendly.

Tell him how it is, in a firm but nice way, then smile.

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I told him in the past about how I felt. I feel like I don’t want to keep nagging him about the same thing all over again. In the past I got an attitude about the communication and he said he doesn’t like texting and that he’s busy. Im a full time college student and full time worker and I still check on friends/acquaintances from time to time. When I would complain to him he would call me to talk. But I don’t feel like I should have to keep complaining. When I do text him he responds but I have to contact him. Since we are in a casual sex relationship Is that what should he expected with the lack of communication? Every time I think about ending it we have sex and it’s so passionate and intense. In person he’s amazing to me. He tells me how much he’s missed me while having we’d but yet doesn’t contact me. And doesn’t want me sleeping with anyone else. One time I got so mad and told him I’m not coming to see him and instead going out with friends. He told me to come see him to talk first. The sex was so passionate and intense, rough but amazing that I was too tired to go out with my friends and just went to sleep.

Posted by Skeleton

You expect to much from him despite thet you're just his customer.

That’s why I said I’m just gonna not say anything anymore. I might just leave but every time I try he makes it hard. He shouldn’t expect me not to be with another man too.

Most men, whether in a relationship or just casually having sex with you do not want you having sex with other men. No man wants sloppy seconds or to get a disease from another man's dick. Don't be flattered by that talk. Unless you are in a relationship with this Aries you can bet if the right peace of ass walked by he would charge. Do what you want to do until he makes it clear you belong to him. Then make your demands.

Your op is confusing af.

You say he is overly affectionate and calls you pet names and is passionate with you. And yet you feel taken for granted. Huh? That doesn't add up. At all.

Either your fine with a fwb casual thing or you aren't. Don't expect bf behavior from a fuck buddy.

And if casual sex makes you feel used and taken for granted then don't engage in it.

Posted by LadyNeptune

Your op is confusing af.

You say he is overly affectionate and calls you pet names and is passionate with you. And yet you feel taken for granted. Huh? That doesn't add up. At all.

Either your fine with a fwb casual thing or you aren't. Don't expect bf behavior from a fuck buddy.

And if casual sex makes you feel used and taken for granted then don't engage in it.

I don’t blame you for saying I’m confusing. I’ve been confusing myself. I’m not saying anymore complaints about communication, I haven’t in awhile. I’ve been thinking about leaving for awhile. Every time I tried he made it hard, the aw is a bit addictive. If I do stay I’m not gonna complain but tell him he had no right to get upset if I go on a date like he has in the past

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Your op is confusing af.

You say he is overly affectionate and calls you pet names and is passionate with you. And yet you feel taken for granted. Huh? That doesn't add up. At all.

Either your fine with a fwb casual thing or you aren't. Don't expect bf behavior from a fuck buddy.

And if casual sex makes you feel used and taken for granted then don't engage in it.

Yeah in person that’s how it is. But when we are not around one another there is lack of communication. But I’m not gonna complain anymore, I’ve stopped for awhile now. But next time he gets mad that I’m with another guy on a date I’m gonna say something cause he has no right

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Most men, whether in a relationship or just casually having sex with you do not want you having sex with other men. No man wants sloppy seconds or to get a disease from another man's dick. Don't be flattered by that talk. Unless you are in a relationship with this Aries you can bet if the right peace of ass walked by he would charge. Do what you want to do until he makes it clear you belong to him. Then make your demands.

I wasn’t flattered by it, just irritated me a bit cause he would get upset if I go on a date but you don’t communicate with me outside of us being together so of course I’m gonna talk to other guys. Even if I say he’s a friend he gets irritated or would try to sabotage me doing on a date. I never doubted that he would chase another woman, that’s what I expected from him and I wouldn’t be mad.

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Your op is confusing af.

You say he is overly affectionate and calls you pet names and is passionate with you. And yet you feel taken for granted. Huh? That doesn't add up. At all.

Either your fine with a fwb casual thing or you aren't. Don't expect bf behavior from a fuck buddy.

And if casual sex makes you feel used and taken for granted then don't engage in it.

Yeah in person that’s how it is. But when we are not around one another there is lack of communication. But I’m not gonna complain anymore, I’ve stopped for awhile now. But next time he gets mad that I’m with another guy on a date I’m gonna say something cause he has no right

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Why even tell him your going on a date? Your not together or dating him even. So he has no right to know if your dating other people.

You should 100% let him know if your going to fuck someone else because he has the right to protect his health. But if he isn't trying to step up to the plate and lock you down, he can't cry that others are interested in buying the goods.

Good sex isn't enough to sustain your needs, clearly as your unhappy with the arrangement to some degree because you are asking internet strangers to help. So just live your life. And if you meet someone with a better connection cut it off with the Aries.

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It doesn’t often end well when you try to get clever with these kinds of guys.

They like the idea of a college student dependent on them, and the less options you have the better for them.

The problem is when you find out their soft spots, it’s very rare they don’t flip out.

Imo I would slow fade out of this if I were you.

I was thinking of just not saying anything and just decline sex if he offers, stay cordial cause I attend his place of employment that he owns every 2 weeks, I don’t want to find another place to get my services, it’s a good place

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Your op is confusing af.

You say he is overly affectionate and calls you pet names and is passionate with you. And yet you feel taken for granted. Huh? That doesn't add up. At all.

Either your fine with a fwb casual thing or you aren't. Don't expect bf behavior from a fuck buddy.

And if casual sex makes you feel used and taken for granted then don't engage in it.

Yeah in person that’s how it is. But when we are not around one another there is lack of communication. But I’m not gonna complain anymore, I’ve stopped for awhile now. But next time he gets mad that I’m with another guy on a date I’m gonna say something cause he has no right

Why even tell him your going on a date? Your not together or dating him even. So he has no right to know if your dating other people.

You should 100% let him know if your going to fuck someone else because he has the right to protect his health. But if he isn't trying to step up to the plate and lock you down, he can't cry that others are interested in buying the goods.

Good sex isn't enough to sustain your needs, clearly as your unhappy with the arrangement to some degree because you are asking internet strangers to help. So just live your life. And if you meet someone with a better connection cut it off with the Aries.

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I have a bad habit of being honest when i shouldn’t be, even with my parents. Like he would call and ask what I’m I doing tonight and I would say I’m going on a date, and immediately get frustrated with myself, I have to remind myself to lie lol. But definitely I always told him if I was going to have sexual with anyone else I’ll definitely let him know. Like for example when I accident sally said I was going on a date he said “Oh you’re giving up your p**ssy to just anyone” I got so angry and was like just cause I go on a date does not mean I’m gonna have sexual, actually when I date I take my time with having sex, I don’t want to rush that. It ticks him off. But anyway lesson learned, wanting more from him made me realize that I do have my physically needs taken care of which is great but now I need to continuing dating to find the right one.

I am not saying the other guy isnt at a little bit of fault here because he is. But this whole scenario is why I avoid doing fwb with younger women .

Because its generally a undercover wanting a relationship but pretending to be cool with being casual type scam.

To be fair there are some younger women that can do the fwb thing with ease. But they are not as prevalent as they used to be

Off-topic slightly but how does a man or woman fall in love with someone based off of just good sex and no mental connection? That sounds very 16 year oldish to me If I have nothing in common with a girl other than she is hot and I like the sex we have together, sorry but I am not to go 500 days of summer on her.

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I am not saying the other guy isnt at a little bit of fault here because he is. But this whole scenario is why I avoid doing fwb with younger women .

Because its generally a undercover wanting a relationship but pretending to be cool with being casual type scam.

To be fair there are some younger women that can do the fwb thing with ease. But they are not as prevalent as they used to be

Off-topic slightly but how does a man or woman fall in love with someone based off of just good sex and no mental connection? That sounds very 16 year oldish to me If I have nothing in common with a girl other than she is hot and I like the sex we have together, sorry but I am not to go 500 days of summer on her.

Wow no I’m not in love at all. I didn’t have any problem being casual, we both talked it out beforehand and agreeed mutually. I’m not in love, I care about him like I do a friend. Like I previously said, I shouldn’t judge someone based on them contacting me. Cause I’m so used to checking up on my friends/acquaintances cause I have a big heart and just care about ppls well being. That’s what I am dating to find love. And I don’t mind if he has sex with anyone else, I told him that. He’s the one that gets upset if I go on a date or even mention another man. He gets irritated and assuming I’m having sexual with any male I hang around.

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I am not saying the other guy isnt at a little bit of fault here because he is. But this whole scenario is why I avoid doing fwb with younger women .

Because its generally a undercover wanting a relationship but pretending to be cool with being casual type scam.

To be fair there are some younger women that can do the fwb thing with ease. But they are not as prevalent as they used to be

Off-topic slightly but how does a man or woman fall in love with someone based off of just good sex and no mental connection? That sounds very 16 year oldish to me If I have nothing in common with a girl other than she is hot and I like the sex we have together, sorry but I am not to go 500 days of summer on her.

I’m actually currently falling in love with a male demons of mine. He likes me too but we are taking it very slow so we don’t ruin our awesome friendship. The Aries I’m discussing also doesn’t like me handing around him. If he knows I’m going out to handle with friends he tries to distract me with sex.

Just cut him loose then Its none of his business who you hook up with if you are not under exclusive contract with him

He sounds like an undercover Joe from You. I dont play that game with women If I am interested in pursuing a relationship I communicate with the woman instead of this push/pull stuff

Cut it off with him otherwise at this point its your fault because you are enabling the situation by continuing to hook up or even see him This isnt a guy you want to be friends with as he is being manipulative That's toxic to me

@Tiziani-

I would die to meet someone who strictly enjoys casual for what it is actually. But there is too many early 20's where I live and i get a they would cling if we hooked up on a regular basis vibe to them unfortunately

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@Tiziani-

I would die to meet someone who strictly enjoys casual for what it is actually. But there is too many early 20's where I live and i get a they would cling if we hooked up on a regular basis vibe to them unfortunately

One thing that irritated me the most is that I’m expected to be the clingy one cause of my age but when we first started when we first started, I treated it as purely sexual. Didn’t pay attention to him outside of hooking up. Wouldn’t contact him at all unless it was to meet up. And if I was busy hanging out with friends or going on dates, and couldn’t meet up with him, he would get upset and get a attitude. So I tried being more friendly and checking on him, not even frequently like once a week to see how’s he doing, I’d how his business is going. He would also ask me to keep him updated on things. I just eventually got irritated that he expected that from me, to give him attention but wasn’t doing the same. But now I’m just through with it. I’m not attached to him. I don’t love him, just see him as a friend. I’m dating to find love

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I am not saying the other guy isnt at a little bit of fault here because he is. But this whole scenario is why I avoid doing fwb with younger women .

Because its generally a undercover wanting a relationship but pretending to be cool with being casual type scam.

To be fair there are some younger women that can do the fwb thing with ease. But they are not as prevalent as they used to be

Off-topic slightly but how does a man or woman fall in love with someone based off of just good sex and no mental connection? That sounds very 16 year oldish to me If I have nothing in common with a girl other than she is hot and I like the sex we have together, sorry but I am not to go 500 days of summer on her.

I’m actually currently falling in love with a male demons of mine. He likes me too but we are taking it very slow so we don’t ruin our awesome friendship. The Aries I’m discussing also doesn’t like me handing around him. If he knows I’m going out to handle with friends he tries to distract me with sex.

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Why does the Aries even know you hang out with other guys? I agree it's none of his business. Are you telling him about these guys to create jealousy? If he asks what you're doing just say going out with friends.

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Posted by slowdive80

I am not saying the other guy isnt at a little bit of fault here because he is. But this whole scenario is why I avoid doing fwb with younger women .

Because its generally a undercover wanting a relationship but pretending to be cool with being casual type scam.

To be fair there are some younger women that can do the fwb thing with ease. But they are not as prevalent as they used to be

Off-topic slightly but how does a man or woman fall in love with someone based off of just good sex and no mental connection? That sounds very 16 year oldish to me If I have nothing in common with a girl other than she is hot and I like the sex we have together, sorry but I am not to go 500 days of summer on her.

I’m actually currently falling in love with a male demons of mine. He likes me too but we are taking it very slow so we don’t ruin our awesome friendship. The Aries I’m discussing also doesn’t like me handing around him. If he knows I’m going out to handle with friends he tries to distract me with sex.

Why does the Aries even know you hang out with other guys? I agree it's none of his business. Are you telling him about these guys to create jealousy? If he asks what you're doing just say going out with friends.

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No not telling him. He would ask me to hat I’m doing and tonight and I would say sorry I can’t meet up, I’m going to hang with friends and he asked do you have make friends and I was like yeah. And that’s when it started, with him getting mad about it. I answered honestly, didn’t expect the reaction cause like he said multiple times, he only wants casual sex. So I don’t think answering honestly was a big deal.

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I am not saying the other guy isnt at a little bit of fault here because he is. But this whole scenario is why I avoid doing fwb with younger women .

Because its generally a undercover wanting a relationship but pretending to be cool with being casual type scam.

To be fair there are some younger women that can do the fwb thing with ease. But they are not as prevalent as they used to be

Off-topic slightly but how does a man or woman fall in love with someone based off of just good sex and no mental connection? That sounds very 16 year oldish to me If I have nothing in common with a girl other than she is hot and I like the sex we have together, sorry but I am not to go 500 days of summer on her.

I’m actually currently falling in love with a male demons of mine. He likes me too but we are taking it very slow so we don’t ruin our awesome friendship. The Aries I’m discussing also doesn’t like me handing around him. If he knows I’m going out to handle with friends he tries to distract me with sex.

Why does the Aries even know you hang out with other guys? I agree it's none of his business. Are you telling him about these guys to create jealousy? If he asks what you're doing just say going out with friends.

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He also sees how much attention I get in public, guys always hitting on me. Even at his job.

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Posted by slowdive80

I am not saying the other guy isnt at a little bit of fault here because he is. But this whole scenario is why I avoid doing fwb with younger women .

Because its generally a undercover wanting a relationship but pretending to be cool with being casual type scam.

To be fair there are some younger women that can do the fwb thing with ease. But they are not as prevalent as they used to be

Off-topic slightly but how does a man or woman fall in love with someone based off of just good sex and no mental connection? That sounds very 16 year oldish to me If I have nothing in common with a girl other than she is hot and I like the sex we have together, sorry but I am not to go 500 days of summer on her.

I’m actually currently falling in love with a male demons of mine. He likes me too but we are taking it very slow so we don’t ruin our awesome friendship. The Aries I’m discussing also doesn’t like me handing around him. If he knows I’m going out to handle with friends he tries to distract me with sex.

You're falling in love with what? A male demons?

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Lol sorry texting without my glasses and I don’t know how I did that I meant my male friend. I’m developing feelings, have before I met the Aries. But want to take it very slow cause we both really value our friendship. I just have a high sex drive and I didn’t want to jump into bed with my friend who I really care about and that’s why I got into the casual relationship with the Aries to blow of steam, I was always extremely horny

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Posted by slowdive80

I am not saying the other guy isnt at a little bit of fault here because he is. But this whole scenario is why I avoid doing fwb with younger women .

Because its generally a undercover wanting a relationship but pretending to be cool with being casual type scam.

To be fair there are some younger women that can do the fwb thing with ease. But they are not as prevalent as they used to be

Off-topic slightly but how does a man or woman fall in love with someone based off of just good sex and no mental connection? That sounds very 16 year oldish to me If I have nothing in common with a girl other than she is hot and I like the sex we have together, sorry but I am not to go 500 days of summer on her.

I’m actually currently falling in love with a male demons of mine. He likes me too but we are taking it very slow so we don’t ruin our awesome friendship. The Aries I’m discussing also doesn’t like me handing around him. If he knows I’m going out to handle with friends he tries to distract me with sex.

You're falling in love with what? A male demons?

Lol sorry texting without my glasses and I don’t know how I did that I meant my male friend. I’m developing feelings, have before I met the Aries. But want to take it very slow cause we both really value our friendship. I just have a high sex drive and I didn’t want to jump into bed with my friend who I really care about and that’s why I got into the casual relationship with the Aries to blow of steam, I was always extremely horny

The things you’re saying don’t add up. Might want to get honest with yourself before asking for advice.

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I am being honest. I was getting upset with him cause he wanted my full attention but wasn’t giving me the same so I felt it was hypocritical. I

Was making the efforts to check on him and he wasn’t doing the same. That’s why I was mad. I’m not in love, I don’t mind us not being bf and gf. I have no reason to lie. I’ve been dating before I met him and I still am.

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So I’ve been having a fun, casual, relationship with this Aries man. I enjoyed us meeting up and having very passionate sex. I can honestly say the sex is amazing. But I’m starting to feel like I’m taken for granted, I can’t explain the feeling. Like I know it’s casual but I feel like he sees me as a guarantee and doesn’t appreciate my time and attention. When we are together he’s the one saying how much he has missed me, he’s very passionate, got a little upset that I didn’t say I missed him back, so I had said it not to hurt his feelings. When we text which isn’t often he wants to call me baby, his boo, etc. sends me kiss emojis. I even gave him a bday gift just cause I love giving and I found out it was his bday. During this pandemic I checked on him just like I checked on anyone else I know, I text him and said “I hope you’re doing ok, please stay safe” cause I genuinely care and was worried, his business is still open, but he never checks on me. I would also ask every once in awhile, how was your day today? He never does that. But yet he doesn’t want me having sex with another guy. If I catch a attitude with him cause of how he acts, he wants to be sweet calling me pet names.

I guess it’s the Aries in me that wants just a little attention. I know he’s not my boyfriend but he wants me but isn’t giving me the attention I want. So now I feel like he expects my eyes not to wander, thinks I’m not gonna go anywhere. How can I show him that I’m not just some girl that needs him? That I’m better than that? I want to do in one a clever way. I’m even considering ending it and I want to go out with a bang. A part of me doesn’t want to end it cause the sex is so good, but if I don’t end it, is there a way I can put him in his place without us falling out? I am a customer at his business so I don’t want to do anything too mean. Any advice? Aries men seem complicated.

Are you Pisces moon or Leo moon? Are you Gemini or Taurus sun? Just guessing I could be way wrong.

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I’m not sure at all. I don’t know my time of birth, my parents don’t remember either.

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Your op is confusing af.

You say he is overly affectionate and calls you pet names and is passionate with you. And yet you feel taken for granted. Huh? That doesn't add up. At all.

Either your fine with a fwb casual thing or you aren't. Don't expect bf behavior from a fuck buddy.

And if casual sex makes you feel used and taken for granted then don't engage in it.

Yeah in person that’s how it is. But when we are not around one another there is lack of communication. But I’m not gonna complain anymore, I’ve stopped for awhile now. But next time he gets mad that I’m with another guy on a date I’m gonna say something cause he has no right

Why even tell him your going on a date? Your not together or dating him even. So he has no right to know if your dating other people.

You should 100% let him know if your going to fuck someone else because he has the right to protect his health. But if he isn't trying to step up to the plate and lock you down, he can't cry that others are interested in buying the goods.

Good sex isn't enough to sustain your needs, clearly as your unhappy with the arrangement to some degree because you are asking internet strangers to help. So just live your life. And if you meet someone with a better connection cut it off with the Aries.

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💯💯💯

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Your op is confusing af.

You say he is overly affectionate and calls you pet names and is passionate with you. And yet you feel taken for granted. Huh? That doesn't add up. At all.

Either your fine with a fwb casual thing or you aren't. Don't expect bf behavior from a fuck buddy.

And if casual sex makes you feel used and taken for granted then don't engage in it.

Yeah in person that’s how it is. But when we are not around one another there is lack of communication. But I’m not gonna complain anymore, I’ve stopped for awhile now. But next time he gets mad that I’m with another guy on a date I’m gonna say something cause he has no right

Why even tell him your going on a date? Your not together or dating him even. So he has no right to know if your dating other people.

You should 100% let him know if your going to fuck someone else because he has the right to protect his health. But if he isn't trying to step up to the plate and lock you down, he can't cry that others are interested in buying the goods.

Good sex isn't enough to sustain your needs, clearly as your unhappy with the arrangement to some degree because you are asking internet strangers to help. So just live your life. And if you meet someone with a better connection cut it off with the Aries.

💯💯💯

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I’ve been dating before I met and still continue to. I started this casual relationship cause I have a high sex drive and it was frustrating me. When I date I don’t want to have sex too quickly with guys cause I want it to be a serious relationship. All I had was sex on my mind 24/7 but now my physical needs have been more than satisfied and I’ve been taking my time getting to know guys.

It’s fwb though

Treat him just like that and watch him change

Right now you’re acting like a girlfriend and or someone who wants more.



Treat him Accordingly

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It’s fwb though

Treat him just like that and watch him change

Right now you’re acting like a girlfriend and or someone who wants more.



Treat him Accordingly

You’re absolutely right. Haven’t contacted him in a week and I’m not going to at all, still considering ending it just cause of his attitude when it comes to me being around other guys, like I’m automatically gonna have sex with them, like seriously? “You can’t give your pu**y to just anybody” Is your first response smh. If I don’t end it that’s exactly what I’m gonna do. Not gonna let him cuddle me afterwards, I’m not even a cuddle person but I let him anyway, I’m gonna treat him like a fwb. Any other tips on how to treat him like a hookup? I’m such a big hearted person, I’m always trying to be super nice and caring, I would appreciate your advice

I’m confused... why are you telling him when you go on other dates?

Also being one of the guys here.. why do you want to talk? What is talking? Please don’t go on and explain to him anything, or get emotional with him, and don’t say anything you will regret. It’s this simple, you are chasing him, and you need to switch it round. He needs to chase you.. the moment you go blah blah about your feelings, you won’t get anything from him.

It seems to be this simple, obtain more control over the situation and see other men (but don’t tell him), have sex with him, if you already have plans when he asks you out then you should keep with your original plans, try not to meet up on the same day if he asks you to meet for that day (just suggest a later date), and reduce you text conversation. Texting is for absolute losers, no guy should be relying on text messages, it’s been proven many many times, you cannot build a connection over texts but you have the risk of saying something stupid... start giving short one word answers.. and only use texts to arrange a meet-up. Or asking if he is ok is fine too, but once he replies then that should be end of conversation. I feel like I’m explaining basics here.

Please do not be a typical Aries woman and try to boss him around, remember you are a woman and you should be feminine.. sorry if this sounds sexist or something, but men like women, and when I see a lot of Aries women, they usually give off super high masculine energy... it will be in your body language and the way you sit down and especially in your shoulders when you go in for a bossy conversation.. I sort of think Aries women have strengths and weaknesses just like all signs, but it’s using what you have to your advantage and not showing things which are not attractive, hope this makes sense... do not square off your shoulders. You can be direct and emotional and sexy, but do not chase him by asking for more out of the relationship, you should look at it this way.. and even tell him this if you want.. tell him that “you want a guy” (notice how I don’t actually say him) “to know that you are worth fighting for”.. “a guy that can make an effort regardless of how busy he is” ... because basically this is the truth (and logical) and this is how you should be looking at the situation.. if he isn’t that guy then you will still be looking for other “real men” and you won’t hesitate to move on when you find someone who is trying. So, why are you chasing him again? You want to beg him for attention or something?

I think you need to stop fooling yourself that you want to be just his FWB. He knocked your socks off with the sex and now you're hooked. Tell him directly what you want from him and if he can't be that then move on and go NC before you get really hurt.

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I’m confused... why are you telling him when you go on other dates?

Also being one of the guys here.. why do you want to talk? What is talking? Please don’t go on and explain to him anything, or get emotional with him, and don’t say anything you will regret. It’s this simple, you are chasing him, and you need to switch it round. He needs to chase you.. the moment you go blah blah about your feelings, you won’t get anything from him.

It seems to be this simple, obtain more control over the situation and see other men (but don’t tell him), have sex with him, if you already have plans when he asks you out then you should keep with your original plans, try not to meet up on the same day if he asks you to meet for that day (just suggest a later date), and reduce you text conversation. Texting is for absolute losers, no guy should be relying on text messages, it’s been proven many many times, you cannot build a connection over texts but you have the risk of saying something stupid... start giving short one word answers.. and only use texts to arrange a meet-up. Or asking if he is ok is fine too, but once he replies then that should be end of conversation. I feel like I’m explaining basics here.

Please do not be a typical Aries woman and try to boss him around, remember you are a woman and you should be feminine.. sorry if this sounds sexist or something, but men like women, and when I see a lot of Aries women, they usually give off super high masculine energy... it will be in your body language and the way you sit down and especially in your shoulders when you go in for a bossy conversation.. I sort of think Aries women have strengths and weaknesses just like all signs, but it’s using what you have to your advantage and not showing things which are not attractive, hope this makes sense... do not square off your shoulders. You can be direct and emotional and sexy, but do not chase him by asking for more out of the relationship, you should look at it this way.. and even tell him this if you want.. tell him that “you want a guy” (notice how I don’t actually say him) “to know that you are worth fighting for”.. “a guy that can make an effort regardless of how busy he is” ... because basically this is the truth (and logical) and this is how you should be looking at the situation.. if he isn’t that guy then you will still be looking for other “real men” and you won’t hesitate to move on when you find someone who is trying. So, why are you chasing him again? You want to beg him for attention or something?

He would ask me what am I doing tonight, and I was being honest and I would text back, I’m on a date right ttyl, he would get mad. And like I said before when I wasn’t giving him attention in the beginning, he would get mad and asked for me to respond to his messages and text him more so I did. But when I started doing it, he wasn’t really responding. It made me mad how he asked for it, and would get mad about me going on dates but wasn’t giving me his full attention but wanted my full attention. It was just irritating me cause it didn’t make sense. I never bosses him around, I would call him out on his BS though. If I don’t decide to end it, I’m gonna stop doing what I was before. I haven’t contacted him for almost 2 weeks now and I’m not.

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I think you need to stop fooling yourself that you want to be just his FWB. He knocked your socks off with the sex and now you're hooked. Tell him directly what you want from him and if he can't be that then move on and go NC before you get really hurt.

I will admit I was a bit hooked. Sex with him was the first time I would constantly orgasm from intercourse and sex with him is exactly how I’ve always wanted it. I guess cause we are both Aries it’s perfect sexually. And yes I do want a relationship but not from him. I have feelings for my male friend but we are taking it very slow cause we don’t want to ruin the awesome friendship. I’m also still dating. But you are right, I got hooked and was expecting too much. He was the one who asked me to start texting him more and telling me about my day but wasn’t reciprocating but expecting me to do it. And not liking me going on dates ir hanging around other males.

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Yep i don’t get what the issue is, after reading this whole thread.

Maybe you’re thinking too much and like to sabotage yourself.

You’re right. Also I was frustrated with his he asked me in the beginning to keep in contact with him and text him not, cause at first I didn’t, and when I do it he barely responds. He wants my full attention but doesn’t reciprocate, doesn’t make sense. He can continue to get mad about me dating, I’m still gonna do it.

Time to move on then, wasting time with this guy just means you miss your opportunity to meet the right guy. Plenty of guys out there to have sex with and trust me, you can always find better. You just feel like you’ve lost a fight, that’s all, but winning can start right now if you chose to walk away. Walking away and ignoring him it always much better than trying to go out with a bang, as you so put it.

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I think you need to stop fooling yourself that you want to be just his FWB. He knocked your socks off with the sex and now you're hooked. Tell him directly what you want from him and if he can't be that then move on and go NC before you get really hurt.

I will admit I was a bit hooked. Sex with him was the first time I would constantly orgasm from intercourse and sex with him is exactly how I’ve always wanted it. I guess cause we are both Aries it’s perfect sexually. And yes I do want a relationship but not from him. I have feelings for my male friend but we are taking it very slow cause we don’t want to ruin the awesome friendship. I’m also still dating. But you are right, I got hooked and was expecting too much. He was the one who asked me to start texting him more and telling me about my day but wasn’t reciprocating but expecting me to do it. And not liking me going on dates ir hanging around other males.

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I don't understand your reasoning. You are having sex with one man while waiting to be in a relationship with another, and still dating others. Why don't you put ALL of your energy into trying to build a relationship with your male friend you're in love with? Why do you think he wants to make someone his gf who is having sex with another guy as a FWB? Why is he getting left overs?