How do you deal with dating someone who is dating others too?

This topic was created in the Dating forum by AriesJo on Friday, February 16, 2018 and has 13 replies.

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@AriesJo
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Hi fellow Aries people, how do you deal with serial daters or dating someone who is keeping their options open? Been on three dates but noticed she went on another date in between. Not sure best way forward. Have ideas but wondered what other Aries would do?

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@Ram416
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Posted by Parkourler

I have a stupid question: What is wrong with that? At least in the beginning. When I am not in a relationship,

I want to see who I am most compatible with.

Nothing wrong with that. At least OP knows her options are open and won't put all his eggs in one basket.

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@AriesJo
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It is true, I was merely trying to get other opinions. The problem I think is I was trying to be romantic by the third date, but seeing how she's dating someone else, it might come across clingy, like I'm giving myself too soon. Plus the new guy will have an advantage as new things are more exciting?

But who knows, maybe he wont get a second date, and I have one already planned. My plan was to kinda ask her if she minds if I date someone else? couldn't decide. But then at the same time, she read my last message to her yesterday, but she didn't reply, so I'm thinking I might have lost out already. And who knows about the next date we have planned, just waiting to see.

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@AriesJo
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I think I need to calm down and stop overthinking, I feel like I've had 25 cups of coffee of something. Yeah I wont ask her that, it seems silly now I think about it.

I think it's more the fact I'm too impatient, and I need to slow down.

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@Viper7717
8 Years

Doesn't bother me. Its just dating, not full blown commitment. I assume anyone I go on a few dates with must have other options too, especially in today's era with online dating. Until I hear that they want to be with me and only me, I consider myself and them, single.

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@ChocolateHazelnut
8 YearsSagittarius

A Sag girls advice is.... Tell them if you like me too I would like you as long as we date to be exclusive. And thats the true. If he/she was a normal person and really likes you he/she wouldn't have the need/desire to date others too. Dating is not like shopping.

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@IamTheRam
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Wait a minute....date ?!...

Dude...always treat the woman you are facing for what she is and nothing more...haa date..

That wold be the day...a "date" with someone who dates others...haaaa man...get a grip on yourself.

And btw, this is the reason why you lost this one.

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@LibraLovesHim
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So in the very early stages of my Aries and us "seeing each other" I mean after one month-another guy asked me to dinner and I asked Aries how he felt about it-his Q was, is this a friend or does he have more serious interest in you-which the guy did, I told him the truth and I think he wasnt approving, instead he said let ME take you for that dinner 😉

From that day forward I never did go out to dinner with guys interested in me in that way.

BUT I was treading very carefully with him, I impressed myself with how I managed at the beginning-I dont give such things much thought.

Back to the Q. I think he would have accepted it, ONCE had he realised I had no intentions with other guys. But if I was doing this continually after us speaking about it, NAH! Not one to be taken for a ride, or be a pearl on that pearl necklace 😉