@Stensco21
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How do men feel about dating a woman with four kids?
Men's Feelings About Dating Women with Four Kids
Men's reactions to dating women with four children vary based on individual values and circumstances. Some see it as rewarding and are open to building a blended family, while others may feel overwhelmed or unsure about the responsibilities involved. Clear communication and understanding are key to navigating these relationships successfully.
Wakward.
lol just wondering if it's a turn off?
I am sure men looking forward to it.
Don’t you guys?
Personally I would swipe left.
I thought some guys liked Chicks with families.
I think it's desperate to be with a girl who has four kids
Posted by Soul
Personally I would swipe left.
😢
Posted by Stensco21
I think it's desperate to be with a girl who has four kids
Wow I’m disliking this thread very much. Lol.
The only guys I see w woman who have kids couldn't get the person they wanted so they settled
Posted by Soul
Personally I would swipe left.😢
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Sorry if that offends you lol. My life style couldn't afford 4 kids though. Unless she was made of money and somehow fell in love with me I'm not going to pretend I can afford things I can't lol.
I wouldn't be with a man who has kids...probably would even less be likely for that option if I was a man lol luckily for all of us not everyone thinks the same 🙂
btw asking that on forum might put you down, you'll better of not knowing those answers because women with 4 kids is not what you are. You're much more than that and as much as this idea may be repulsive to people, knowing you in person and on a deeper level may attract good people in your life who eventually wouldn't care if you're free or with kids.
I have four. Cap and I met though our kids. He has one, I have four. They’re not in diapers though. We both have pasts and everyone gets along. I don’t mind his ex, we’ve spent time together and get along.
The one time we spent time with my was uncomfortable. My ex was competing and it just felt so immature.
My younger Aries son said many times he wishes the Cap was his Dad and treats him better than his own.
I don’t think he’s desperate, women and men flock to him. But he’s magnetic. I can’t fault him for that.
We went to this thing at Church, and someone walked up to me and said ‘Where did you find him? He looks at you and just waits for your answer, hold onto him. He’ll do anything for you’
I have a lot of baggage I guess. I’m still a human being who needs what everyone else does. And he didn’t write me off as a post cause. Because I’m not one.
Some people can’t deal with all the extra, and that’s ok. Your standards and what you want are you own. I’m just not a believer in someone being desperate because they fall in love with someone who has more to worry about and love.
Once you get past a certain age everyone in your dating pool has been married and has kids or they are peter pans.
Posted by Soul
Personally I would swipe left.😢
Sorry if that offends you lol. My life style couldn't afford 4 kids though. Unless she was made of money and somehow fell in love with me I'm not going to pretend I can afford things I can't lol.
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No it’s your feelings, it doesn’t offend me. Say you fell in love with someone, and then she sprung it upon you 6 or 8 months later that she had four kids, what would you do? You’re completely in love, feeling like you would do anything to be with her. Would you still feel the same? Or is that a major turnoff and you’d feel overwhelmed by the situation and try to find a way out?
How many baby daddys though
Back to my music. I don’t want to oarticate in this thread anymore, lol 😬
Dang it sorry many typos.
Posted by Soul
Personally I would swipe left.😢
Sorry if that offends you lol. My life style couldn't afford 4 kids though. Unless she was made of money and somehow fell in love with me I'm not going to pretend I can afford things I can't lol.
No it’s your feelings, it doesn’t offend me. Say you fell in love with someone, and then she sprung it upon you 6 or 8 months later that she had four kids, what would you do? You’re completely in love, feeling like you would do anything to be with her. Would you still feel the same? Or is that a major turnoff and you’d feel overwhelmed by the situation and try to find a way out?
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I'd be a little upset. Something like that is a pretty big deal to keep a secret. I mean if I was 40 and her kids already moved out I wouldn't care as much. At 27 though I would wonder how she kept that a secret so long, and how my Scorpio moon didn't discover that sooner.
Let's put it this way, if I was out and about and met a women I felt I connected deeply with and we related in many ways i would be a lot more comfortable with it. If she has multiple kids and can successful take care of them being single I would feel more secure about it. Seeing it on a dating profile would be an instant no though. I'm getting to the point I'll likely have to accept being a step dad though. 27 and no wife or kids? Yea I'm going to end up being someone's step dad lol.
Posted by Stensco21
I think it's desperate to be with a girl who has four kids
Is that what your ex is doing?
Like I'm dating a possum
Posted by Stensco21
I think it's desperate to be with a girl who has four kidsIs that what your ex is doing?
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Yea like a butter face w four kids and he's still blowing up my phone!
Posted by TheRabbit
I guess it would depend on everyone's stage in life.
31 yr old man
Posted by Soul
Personally I would swipe left.😢
Sorry if that offends you lol. My life style couldn't afford 4 kids though. Unless she was made of money and somehow fell in love with me I'm not going to pretend I can afford things I can't lol.
No it’s your feelings, it doesn’t offend me. Say you fell in love with someone, and then she sprung it upon you 6 or 8 months later that she had four kids, what would you do? You’re completely in love, feeling like you would do anything to be with her. Would you still feel the same? Or is that a major turnoff and you’d feel overwhelmed by the situation and try to find a way out?
I'd be a little upset. Something like that is a pretty big deal to keep a secret. I mean if I was 40 and her kids already moved out I wouldn't care as much. At 27 though I would wonder how she kept that a secret so long, and how my Scorpio moon didn't discover that sooner.
Let's put it this way, if I was out and about and met a women I felt I connected deeply with and we related in many ways i would be a lot more comfortable with it. If she has multiple kids and can successful take care of them being single I would feel more secure about it. Seeing it on a dating profile would be an instant no though. I'm getting to the point I'll likely have to accept being a step dad though. 27 and no wife or kids? Yea I'm going to end up being someone's step dad lol.
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Lol, you might not though. I would definitely react the way you would about being thrown that info so many months in. I have a hard time with understanding people that keep that info private.
The best way is to be honest and upfront. Maybe not first date if you’re into dating? But when is the right time really.
I do understand why some might not want to introduce the kids and S/O for a while.
I just don’t see it as baggage, I guess because I have it? But my kids are so happy and good, I don’t know where they got it from. I think I’m good for them and they say it, but I don’t believe it.
I’m having a mental crisis, I want November over :/
But I’m just trying to help them little kiddos that rule my life, and I know I’m only the first chapter. They’ll live on. Fall in love. Have families. Move away from me and make there own life. Or not, and just move on and forward. This right now for them, isn’t forever.
As an adult, when you think about it. Your childhood isn’t your everything. It helped you, it changes and molds you, but it isn’t your life in its entirety. We all live on and start out next journey, so if a guy can’t deal with me doing that for my kids, I feel like they’re the one with the problem.
My oldest only lives with me for 3 days a week, and my 14 year old is so ready for high school and baseball. So obsessed. Never stops talking about college. Before I know it, he’ll be gone.
Eventually they’ll all be on there way. And I hope I have a positive impact on there life. I don’t want to be baggage to them or anyone else.
I’ve told them on a few occasions if I get that way please punch me in the face. Guilt is a useless emotion. I don’t ever want them to feel it.
Dang it. Lol.
Posted by GC02
My cousin has 5 kids from 4 diff baby daddies...she’s insane. She still gets guys though.She doesn’t know who the oldest ones dad is so she lied to him and said his dad died in the war.
And then the other one who doesn’t know his real dad think one of the other kids dad is also his dad.
She’s currently lying to the last baby daddy saying it’s his kid when it’s not.
She’s a Gemini.
It's safe to say your cousin is a ho 🙂
and she has absolutely no right to take offense lol
that's way over the line and I feel sorry for children of such mothers...God bless them and help them in life
and that poor guy she's lying to, hopefully he runs away from such an awful person
Posted by GC02
My cousin has 5 kids from 4 diff baby daddies...she’s insane. She still gets guys though.She doesn’t know who the oldest ones dad is so she lied to him and said his dad died in the war.
And then the other one who doesn’t know his real dad think one of the other kids dad is also his dad.
She’s currently lying to the last baby daddy saying it’s his kid when it’s not.
She’s a Gemini.
Which war?
Iraq
What if he fights in the war too coz his daddy did? Oh noez
But I prefer to be lied to than the dad being present and the mom always trashing the dad
Papa was a hero boy he died in the war
I’ll take it over
Your deadbeat dad didn’t send money
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Lmao papa was a hero boy
Posted by GC02
My cousin has 5 kids from 4 diff baby daddies...she’s insane. She still gets guys though.She doesn’t know who the oldest ones dad is so she lied to him and said his dad died in the war.
And then the other one who doesn’t know his real dad think one of the other kids dad is also his dad.
She’s currently lying to the last baby daddy saying it’s his kid when it’s not.
She’s a Gemini.
Kinda hard to believe till I red her sign 😂😂😂😂
It depends on his own situation. If he also has kids (or just likes kids), he probably won't mind. Some guys don't want kids, but have no problem dating a woman who does.
I think a man would run from the idea but if he had to meet someone and he really liked her then it wouldn’t phase him
Posted by miriyahhh
I thought some guys liked Chicks with families.Wat
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My cap ex said he preferred a women with kids
He didn't have any and I don't either
Posted by miriyahhh
I thought some guys liked Chicks with families.Wat
My cap ex said he preferred a women with kids
Lol I bet he did.
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I sense sarcasm🙄🤔
Some of the comments in this thread is judgememtal as hell. The comment about the food stamps is ignorant. I have 4 kids all by the same father..... my soon to be ex husband. Him and I expected to be together for the rest of our lives. I only expected to have two... but my two boys... both I didn’t find out I was pregnant until I was very late in my pregnancies. I get paid very well so I can take care of all 4 of my kids by myself... nevertheless their dad is very much involved and wouldn’t expect another man to come in and take care of his kids nor would I. It’s crazy some people’s perceptions on mothers of 4.... but I guess that’s what I’m up against and everyone is entitled to their own opinions. I don’t seem to have issues attracting men who are very much aware I have 4 and they don’t want just sex. I’m pretty sure if my new guys ex would consider him desperate for dating me because I have four kids it’s because she’s butt hurt because 1. I’m pretty 2. Truly it’s not her mf’ing business.
Posted by Wineaux15
Some of the comments in this thread is judgememtal as hell. The comment about the food stamps is ignorant. I have 4 kids all by the same father..... my soon to be ex husband. Him and I expected to be together for the rest of our lives. I only expected to have two... but my two boys... both I didn’t find out I was pregnant until I was very late in my pregnancies. I get paid very well so I can take care of all 4 of my kids by myself... nevertheless their dad is very much involved and wouldn’t expect another man to come in and take care of his kids nor would I. It’s crazy some people’s perceptions on mothers of 4.... but I guess that’s what I’m up against and everyone is entitled to their own opinions. I don’t seem to have issues attracting men who are very much aware I have 4 and they don’t want just sex. I’m pretty sure if my new guys ex would consider him desperate for dating me because I have four kids it’s because she’s butt hurt because 1. I’m pretty 2. Truly it’s not her mf’ing business.You're an outlier
Statistically women fair much much worse after a divorce add 4 kids than yeah most will struggle
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I agree. I know most people with that many kids suffer after a divorce due to lack of money/ financial support. I thank God that my ex may haven’t been the best husband, but he’s a great father, so the support is there. But I just hate the perception people have... Like many other perceptions it just irks me because there’s always more than the eyes can see.
Hell one kid is too much for me freaking four 
Posted by LentoBull91
Hell one kid is too much for me freaking four
Lmao
Posted by Gemitati
I am sure men looking forward to it.Don’t you guys?
😂😂😂 Yes! I think they will be in a line waiting 😂😂😂
My cousin married a woman that already had 8 kids and then they had 1. They very much love each other and my family treats her kids as if they were our blood.
Posted by Soul
Personally I would swipe left.😢
Sorry if that offends you lol. My life style couldn't afford 4 kids though. Unless she was made of money and somehow fell in love with me I'm not going to pretend I can afford things I can't lol.
No it’s your feelings, it doesn’t offend me. Say you fell in love with someone, and then she sprung it upon you 6 or 8 months later that she had four kids, what would you do? You’re completely in love, feeling like you would do anything to be with her. Would you still feel the same? Or is that a major turnoff and you’d feel overwhelmed by the situation and try to find a way out?
I'd be a little upset. Something like that is a pretty big deal to keep a secret. I mean if I was 40 and her kids already moved out I wouldn't care as much. At 27 though I would wonder how she kept that a secret so long, and how my Scorpio moon didn't discover that sooner.
Let's put it this way, if I was out and about and met a women I felt I connected deeply with and we related in many ways i would be a lot more comfortable with it. If she has multiple kids and can successful take care of them being single I would feel more secure about it. Seeing it on a dating profile would be an instant no though. I'm getting to the point I'll likely have to accept being a step dad though. 27 and no wife or kids? Yea I'm going to end up being someone's step dad lol.
Lol, you might not though. I would definitely react the way you would about being thrown that info so many months in. I have a hard time with understanding people that keep that info private.
The best way is to be honest and upfront. Maybe not first date if you’re into dating? But when is the right time really.
I do understand why some might not want to introduce the kids and S/O for a while.
I just don’t see it as baggage, I guess because I have it? But my kids are so happy and good, I don’t know where they got it from. I think I’m good for them and they say it, but I don’t believe it.
I’m having a mental crisis, I want November over :/
But I’m just trying to help them little kiddos that rule my life, and I know I’m only the first chapter. They’ll live on. Fall in love. Have families. Move away from me and make there own life. Or not, and just move on and forward. This right now for them, isn’t forever.
As an adult, when you think about it. Your childhood isn’t your everything. It helped you, it changes and molds you, but it isn’t your life in its entirety. We all live on and start out next journey, so if a guy can’t deal with me doing that for my kids, I feel like they’re the one with the problem.
My oldest only lives with me for 3 days a week, and my 14 year old is so ready for high school and baseball. So obsessed. Never stops talking about college. Before I know it, he’ll be gone.
Eventually they’ll all be on there way. And I hope I have a positive impact on there life. I don’t want to be baggage to them or anyone else.
I’ve told them on a few occasions if I get that way please punch me in the face. Guilt is a useless emotion. I don’t ever want them to feel it.
Dang it. Lol.
You look super young
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The day someone guesses my age is the day I’ll say bye to this cruel world and hop off a cliff, lol.
I looked 12 in High School. It’s finally paid off 🙏
Posted by Mutabull
This post and most responses are so full of salt, ignorance and immaturity, lol. I would defend all the capable and successful mothers of 4, including myself, who have no problem finding good men.. but there is no point having grown up discussions with naive children. 🤷♀️
Listen ladies, this is going to sound like an asshole thing to say to you guys.
Let's face it, the more kids you got, the more shit you better have to make up for it, when it comes to a good partner. Even if a guy says he "doesn't mind", he does. So for a guy, you better have other aspects that counter that "deficiency"
The more kids you got, the more shit you better have to offer.
That's just the fucking truth.
Posted by Soul
Personally I would swipe left.
ROFLMAO!!! "Laughter is the BEST medicine!"
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
Terrified ? 👀😲
Posted by Sagiluv27
Too many kids noWell my boyfriend has 4 and I don't mind I have 2 of my own
Wow. Six kids. Damn. How old? I have 3 myself
Posted by nikkistar
Listen ladies, this is going to sound like an asshole thing to say to you guys.Let's face it, the more kids you got, the more shit you better have to make up for it, when it comes to a good partner. Even if a guy says he "doesn't mind", he does. So for a guy, you better have other aspects that counter that "deficiency"
The more kids you got, the more shit you better have to offer.
That's just the fucking truth.
Maybe he just wanted to give you the 5th kid and be on his way
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My 2nd to 4th kid ended up being flushed down the toilet. They were too dark and a little muddy too.
@therabbit knows about them.
Posted by nikkistar
Listen ladies, this is going to sound like an asshole thing to say to you guys.Let's face it, the more kids you got, the more shit you better have to make up for it, when it comes to a good partner. Even if a guy says he "doesn't mind", he does. So for a guy, you better have other aspects that counter that "deficiency"
The more kids you got, the more shit you better have to offer.
That's just the fucking truth.
Maybe he just wanted to give you the 5th kid and be on his way
My 2nd to 4th kid ended up being flushed down the toilet. They were too dark and a little muddy too.
@therabbit knows about them.
My kids are so corny.
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Those darn little nugglets.
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How do men feel about dating a woman with four kids?