Insane aqua thoughts?

I wanted your opinion on some thoughts I have.

This Aries guy I have been on 4 dates with, certainly likes me but is obsessed with another girl he cannot have (and he doesn't want to have these thoughts). He seemed almost in pain when he told me this, as if he doesn't want to lose me, but wanted to warn me that he cannot give me his 100% right now.

He left me in charge of our communication, whether we will speak again and how often and whether we will go out again sometime. No communication so far.

So. I am thinking... If I take some time to talk to him again (like a week) and then act interested but taking longer to reply and seeming busy and sortof but not completely moving on ("hard to get")... Will that be what's needed? He is intrigued, I think, by the fact that he cannot have this girl. He isn't hoping she will break up.

So if I seem unapproachable, like still there but never close enough... Won't that help?

I honestly like him so much, he has a beautiful heart and is so sweet and kind. I am trying to not be attached.

Do you think all this is irrational?

You know the safe way out of this, but that's not the way you'll do it.

my 2 cents is you'll ultimately try to "break him" through interaction and affection in the hopes of becoming #1.

Is it rational? Probably not. But the heart wants what the heart wants. (wild guess here)

Posted by Mr_Pinchy
You know the safe way out of this, but that's not the way you'll do it.

my 2 cents is you'll ultimately try to "break him" through interaction and affection in the hopes of becoming #1.
Is it rational? Probably not. But the heart wants what the heart wants. (wild guess here)

I don't want to make it obvious I want him and am chasing him... I want him to run to me T_T

Has anyone ever managed to become #1 this way?

Posted by helenaqua

Posted by Mr_Pinchy
You know the safe way out of this, but that's not the way you'll do it.

my 2 cents is you'll ultimately try to "break him" through interaction and affection in the hopes of becoming #1.
Is it rational? Probably not. But the heart wants what the heart wants. (wild guess here)

I don't want to make it obvious I want him and am chasing him... I want him to run to me T_T

Has anyone ever managed to become #1 this way? click to expand

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idk, probably not. That whole thing about the heart wanting what it wants works on him too. Since you know the answer to that......

Posted by helenaqua
I wanted your opinion on some thoughts I have.
This Aries guy I have been on 4 dates with, certainly likes me but is obsessed with another girl he cannot have (and he doesn't want to have these thoughts). He seemed almost in pain when he told me this, as if he doesn't want to lose me, but wanted to warn me that he cannot give me his 100% right now.
He left me in charge of our communication, whether we will speak again and how often and whether we will go out again sometime. No communication so far.
So. I am thinking... If I take some time to talk to him again (like a week) and then act interested but taking longer to reply and seeming busy and sortof but not completely moving on ("hard to get")... Will that be what's needed? He is intrigued, I think, by the fact that he cannot have this girl. He isn't hoping she will break up.
So if I seem unapproachable, like still there but never close enough... Won't that help?
I honestly like him so much, he has a beautiful heart and is so sweet and kind. I am trying to not be attached.
Do you think all this is irrational?

He is just letting you know as a typical honest Aries guy that if she is available whatever you have with him it will be over.

I don’t think you can become #1 with an Aries like that. She will be his number one until she disappoints him and he gets over her completely. Nothing much you can do about that.

But obviously he likes you as a #2.

So it’s really up to you if you want to be his #2 or find someone else that makes you his priority

Posted by Mr_Pinchy

Posted by helenaqua

Posted by Mr_Pinchy
You know the safe way out of this, but that's not the way you'll do it.

my 2 cents is you'll ultimately try to "break him" through interaction and affection in the hopes of becoming #1.
Is it rational? Probably not. But the heart wants what the heart wants. (wild guess here)

I don't want to make it obvious I want him and am chasing him... I want him to run to me T_T

Has anyone ever managed to become #1 this way? click to expand

idk, probably not. That whole thing about the heart wanting what it wants works on him too. Since you know the answer to that...... click to expand

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I know...

This certainly sounds rational.

Posted by pisceswoman123

Posted by helenaqua
I wanted your opinion on some thoughts I have.
This Aries guy I have been on 4 dates with, certainly likes me but is obsessed with another girl he cannot have (and he doesn't want to have these thoughts). He seemed almost in pain when he told me this, as if he doesn't want to lose me, but wanted to warn me that he cannot give me his 100% right now.
He left me in charge of our communication, whether we will speak again and how often and whether we will go out again sometime. No communication so far.
So. I am thinking... If I take some time to talk to him again (like a week) and then act interested but taking longer to reply and seeming busy and sortof but not completely moving on ("hard to get")... Will that be what's needed? He is intrigued, I think, by the fact that he cannot have this girl. He isn't hoping she will break up.
So if I seem unapproachable, like still there but never close enough... Won't that help?
I honestly like him so much, he has a beautiful heart and is so sweet and kind. I am trying to not be attached.
Do you think all this is irrational?

He is just letting you know as a typical honest Aries guy that if she is available whatever you have with him it will be over.

I don’t think you can become #1 with an Aries like that. She will be his number one until she disappoints him and he gets over her completely. Nothing much you can do about that.
But obviously he likes you as a #2.

So it’s really up to you if you want to be his #2 or find someone else that makes you his priority click to expand

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It sounds so disappointing... I had high expectations and hopes and dreams, I don't want to settle for something like that.

But then again, I am certainly changing my behaviour. I'll start dating other people too.

Btw, his Venus in Taurus is in the 12th house... Could be why he is so obsessed

Posted by helenaqua
I wanted your opinion on some thoughts I have.
This Aries guy I have been on 4 dates with, certainly likes me but is obsessed with another girl he cannot have (and he doesn't want to have these thoughts). He seemed almost in pain when he told me this, as if he doesn't want to lose me, but wanted to warn me that he cannot give me his 100% right now.
He left me in charge of our communication, whether we will speak again and how often and whether we will go out again sometime. No communication so far.
So. I am thinking... If I take some time to talk to him again (like a week) and then act interested but taking longer to reply and seeming busy and sortof but not completely moving on ("hard to get")... Will that be what's needed? He is intrigued, I think, by the fact that he cannot have this girl. He isn't hoping she will break up.
So if I seem unapproachable, like still there but never close enough... Won't that help?
I honestly like him so much, he has a beautiful heart and is so sweet and kind. I am trying to not be attached.
Do you think all this is irrational?

This isn't real coming from an Aqua. This has to be a troll post.

Posted by STILL

Posted by helenaqua
I wanted your opinion on some thoughts I have.
This Aries guy I have been on 4 dates with, certainly likes me but is obsessed with another girl he cannot have (and he doesn't want to have these thoughts). He seemed almost in pain when he told me this, as if he doesn't want to lose me, but wanted to warn me that he cannot give me his 100% right now.
He left me in charge of our communication, whether we will speak again and how often and whether we will go out again sometime. No communication so far.
So. I am thinking... If I take some time to talk to him again (like a week) and then act interested but taking longer to reply and seeming busy and sortof but not completely moving on ("hard to get")... Will that be what's needed? He is intrigued, I think, by the fact that he cannot have this girl. He isn't hoping she will break up.
So if I seem unapproachable, like still there but never close enough... Won't that help?
I honestly like him so much, he has a beautiful heart and is so sweet and kind. I am trying to not be attached.
Do you think all this is irrational?

This isn't real coming from an Aqua. This has to be a troll post. click to expand

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Moon in Taurus 😇 I started having feelings

Posted by helenaqua

Posted by STILL

Posted by helenaqua
I wanted your opinion on some thoughts I have.
This Aries guy I have been on 4 dates with, certainly likes me but is obsessed with another girl he cannot have (and he doesn't want to have these thoughts). He seemed almost in pain when he told me this, as if he doesn't want to lose me, but wanted to warn me that he cannot give me his 100% right now.
He left me in charge of our communication, whether we will speak again and how often and whether we will go out again sometime. No communication so far.
So. I am thinking... If I take some time to talk to him again (like a week) and then act interested but taking longer to reply and seeming busy and sortof but not completely moving on ("hard to get")... Will that be what's needed? He is intrigued, I think, by the fact that he cannot have this girl. He isn't hoping she will break up.
So if I seem unapproachable, like still there but never close enough... Won't that help?
I honestly like him so much, he has a beautiful heart and is so sweet and kind. I am trying to not be attached.
Do you think all this is irrational?

This isn't real coming from an Aqua. This has to be a troll post. click to expand

Moon in Taurus 😇 I started having feelings click to expand

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It's ok to have feelings. To chase a man who wants someone else, isn't. Have some pride. You deserve to be with someone who is hung up on you, like he is on her.

Posted by STILL

Posted by helenaqua
I wanted your opinion on some thoughts I have.
This Aries guy I have been on 4 dates with, certainly likes me but is obsessed with another girl he cannot have (and he doesn't want to have these thoughts). He seemed almost in pain when he told me this, as if he doesn't want to lose me, but wanted to warn me that he cannot give me his 100% right now.
He left me in charge of our communication, whether we will speak again and how often and whether we will go out again sometime. No communication so far.
So. I am thinking... If I take some time to talk to him again (like a week) and then act interested but taking longer to reply and seeming busy and sortof but not completely moving on ("hard to get")... Will that be what's needed? He is intrigued, I think, by the fact that he cannot have this girl. He isn't hoping she will break up.
So if I seem unapproachable, like still there but never close enough... Won't that help?
I honestly like him so much, he has a beautiful heart and is so sweet and kind. I am trying to not be attached.
Do you think all this is irrational?

This isn't real coming from an Aqua. This has to be a troll post. click to expand

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What’s up with everyone on this site assuming everything with emotion is a troll post? Are y’all just emotionally retarded? Some of my closest friends are Aquarius and emotional af. You’re a big dumb idiot

Ok, well I have done the same thing recently. I was kinda hung up on someone and she was moving away, it was inevitable it was going to end. I went on a date with someone else, but I wasn’t ready. She started messaging me but 1.5 weeks after the date, I told her I was hung up on someone else. I said I was sorry. The thing is, I kinda wanted her to respect what I’d asked for, time. She was trying to be my friend, and kept chasing even though I wasn’t open. I do not know what would have happened if she hadn’t chased but I think it would have been much more likely to go on another date if she hadn’t chased, and just left me to it.

Now I have met someone else, when the girl I was hung up on left, I met someone else. And I’ve told the one that was chasing me, that I want her as a friend. She goes on about how she wanted me, but nothing can happen now.

Maybe it is just me. But when I’m honest and I say I’m not open, and the women chases, I just don’t think I trust her, like I just don’t trust that in the future she will do what’s best for me or respect what I want? If she’d done what I’d asked then maybe I would have asked her out when I was ready.

I think your situation might be different, but if he isn’t ready, it’s better to wait for him to be ready, and have no contact, because any contact makes you a friend, simply put, he’s not seeing you as a potential partner until he’s open.

Posted by AriesAngel92

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Posted by helenaqua
I wanted your opinion on some thoughts I have.
This Aries guy I have been on 4 dates with, certainly likes me but is obsessed with another girl he cannot have (and he doesn't want to have these thoughts). He seemed almost in pain when he told me this, as if he doesn't want to lose me, but wanted to warn me that he cannot give me his 100% right now.
He left me in charge of our communication, whether we will speak again and how often and whether we will go out again sometime. No communication so far.
So. I am thinking... If I take some time to talk to him again (like a week) and then act interested but taking longer to reply and seeming busy and sortof but not completely moving on ("hard to get")... Will that be what's needed? He is intrigued, I think, by the fact that he cannot have this girl. He isn't hoping she will break up.
So if I seem unapproachable, like still there but never close enough... Won't that help?
I honestly like him so much, he has a beautiful heart and is so sweet and kind. I am trying to not be attached.
Do you think all this is irrational?

This isn't real coming from an Aqua. This has to be a troll post. click to expand

What’s up with everyone on this site assuming everything with emotion is a troll post? Are y’all just emotionally retarded? Some of my closest friends are Aquarius and emotional af. You’re a big dumb idiot click to expand

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You're a big dumb idiot for making assumptions. Read my 2nd response to op for clarification, big dumb idiot!

From my experience with Aries if they want you you will definitely know. If he has actually told you he is into another girl it is time for you to move it along because he doesn't want you and probably never will. They like a girl who is hard to get and then they move in an conquer her. You are not a challenge for him so there is nothing to win that will feed his heart and ego.

Posted by helenaqua

Posted by pisceswoman123

Posted by helenaqua
I wanted your opinion on some thoughts I have.
This Aries guy I have been on 4 dates with, certainly likes me but is obsessed with another girl he cannot have (and he doesn't want to have these thoughts). He seemed almost in pain when he told me this, as if he doesn't want to lose me, but wanted to warn me that he cannot give me his 100% right now.
He left me in charge of our communication, whether we will speak again and how often and whether we will go out again sometime. No communication so far.
So. I am thinking... If I take some time to talk to him again (like a week) and then act interested but taking longer to reply and seeming busy and sortof but not completely moving on ("hard to get")... Will that be what's needed? He is intrigued, I think, by the fact that he cannot have this girl. He isn't hoping she will break up.
So if I seem unapproachable, like still there but never close enough... Won't that help?
I honestly like him so much, he has a beautiful heart and is so sweet and kind. I am trying to not be attached.
Do you think all this is irrational?

He is just letting you know as a typical honest Aries guy that if she is available whatever you have with him it will be over.

I don’t think you can become #1 with an Aries like that. She will be his number one until she disappoints him and he gets over her completely. Nothing much you can do about that.
But obviously he likes you as a #2.

So it’s really up to you if you want to be his #2 or find someone else that makes you his priority click to expand

It sounds so disappointing... I had high expectations and hopes and dreams, I don't want to settle for something like that.
But then again, I am certainly changing my behaviour. I'll start dating other people too.

Btw, his Venus in Taurus is in the 12th house... Could be why he is so obsessed click to expand

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No. Definitely is his Aries sun doing the obsessing. Typical Aries.

Just don’t let him walk over you. If you care for him just let him go. As long as you are around he won’t respect you and you will catch more feelings and things will never change.

For you to have a chance the only way is to ignore him completely. If he thinks you’re worth it he will come to you.

I have being #1 for my Aries ex. I know that if I want him back he would live any girl he is with. He has done it before. And he will do it again and again. Don’t be that girl that gets thrown away.

Posted by Squishy_Marshmallow

Posted by helenaqua
I wanted your opinion on some thoughts I have.
This Aries guy I have been on 4 dates with, certainly likes me but is obsessed with another girl he cannot have (and he doesn't want to have these thoughts). He seemed almost in pain when he told me this, as if he doesn't want to lose me, but wanted to warn me that he cannot give me his 100% right now.
He left me in charge of our communication, whether we will speak again and how often and whether we will go out again sometime. No communication so far.
So. I am thinking... If I take some time to talk to him again (like a week) and then act interested but taking longer to reply and seeming busy and sortof but not completely moving on ("hard to get")... Will that be what's needed? He is intrigued, I think, by the fact that he cannot have this girl. He isn't hoping she will break up.
So if I seem unapproachable, like still there but never close enough... Won't that help?
I honestly like him so much, he has a beautiful heart and is so sweet and kind. I am trying to not be attached.
Do you think all this is irrational?

Idk. My Aries best friend kinda loves me. Okay he loves me a lot. Lots of girls would die to date him... They find him desirable.
I have never had anything romantic or physical with him. But he picks me over everybody else.
I know I should distance myself from him, but idk I'm not doing it. He pretty much walked out and I brought him back... Ugh! I'm bad.
Idk man. I think they want what they can't have? Is he in touch with the other girl? What happens if the other girl goes away? click to expand

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He cannot avoid seeing the other girl in his school. Also he's terribly busy this coming month. That's why he said maybe something can happen in summer, but he seemed so confused about all of it.

He has liked her for almost a year and known for the most part about her relationship. Is he ever going to be ready...?

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Posted by helenaqua
I wanted your opinion on some thoughts I have.
This Aries guy I have been on 4 dates with, certainly likes me but is obsessed with another girl he cannot have (and he doesn't want to have these thoughts). He seemed almost in pain when he told me this, as if he doesn't want to lose me, but wanted to warn me that he cannot give me his 100% right now.
He left me in charge of our communication, whether we will speak again and how often and whether we will go out again sometime. No communication so far.
So. I am thinking... If I take some time to talk to him again (like a week) and then act interested but taking longer to reply and seeming busy and sortof but not completely moving on ("hard to get")... Will that be what's needed? He is intrigued, I think, by the fact that he cannot have this girl. He isn't hoping she will break up.
So if I seem unapproachable, like still there but never close enough... Won't that help?
I honestly like him so much, he has a beautiful heart and is so sweet and kind. I am trying to not be attached.
Do you think all this is irrational?

This isn't real coming from an Aqua. This has to be a troll post. click to expand

What’s up with everyone on this site assuming everything with emotion is a troll post? Are y’all just emotionally retarded? Some of my closest friends are Aquarius and emotional af. You’re a big dumb idiot click to expand

You're a big dumb idiot for making assumptions. Read my response to op for clarification, big dumb idiot! click to expand

Don't make me turn this board around kids!

Anyway!
I think the best way to solve this issue is to stop contacting him. Don't like block him out of your life. Keep him in your phone or social media or whatever. If things go the right way hes going to eventually close things out with this other girl and start contacting you. Because you're wasting energy idolizing a brick wall. click to expand

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It sounds like the right thing to do. I hope they go the right way!

Honestly, what you've all said calms me down, internally. Thank you!

A friend has suggested I just go up and kiss the Aries guy. That him saying he likes me means that he would forget the other girl if I started something.

I believe that's wrong and disrespectful and that it wouldn't lead to a relationship anyways. This friend is a guy with low self-esteem in relationships.

What do you think?

Posted by vixen14
Why on earth would you want a guy that is emotionally absent? He doesn’t want this chick because he can’t have her, it’s because he probably loves her.

Aries men will sit around and wait for the one they want to be with. They will entertain other females but if they want you, you won’t need to do the work. They’ll do it for you.

I can confirm this from experience, my Aries patiently waited for me to end things with my X and when I was done we got together and he cut off the females he was dealing with.

I have decided to follow your advice. We haven't talked since the last time we met, and I'm not going to text him again. My nameday is in 4 days, we'll see if he texts then. I'll update.

His school is a few minutes from my house, I met him in the street randomly once. If I meet him again, I imagine I should act like nothing happened? Politely interested or detached?

Also, what if he wants to talk to me again but decides not to, out of respect for my choice to not text him again, to move on?

Posted by vixen14

Posted by helenaqua
I have decided to follow your advice. We haven't talked since the last time we met, and I'm not going to text him again. My nameday is in 4 days, we'll see if he texts then. I'll update.
His school is a few minutes from my house, I met him in the street randomly once. If I meet him again, I imagine I should act like nothing happened? Politely interested or detached?
Also, what if he wants to talk to me again but decides not to, out of respect for my choice to not text him again, to move on?

You’re over thinking it. If it’s gonna happen, it’s gonna happen organically. Anything forced, fails. You can’t force something to happen between you two. If you move on and he doesn’t chase, so what? Why are you gonna sit around and wait for a guy that doesn’t want you badly enough to pursue?

Trust me, Aries men are not ashamed of going after what they want no matter the obstacles. If he doesn’t come back or disappears then it wasn’t meant to be. Don’t fall for an illusion, fall for the reality. click to expand

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Okay, I will do my best to move on. I needed to hear this, thanks.

Of all the signs, Aries men are the ones that will throw themselves at you😍

Good luck moving on

Posted by vixen14
Why on earth would you want a guy that is emotionally absent? He doesn’t want this chick because he can’t have her, it’s because he probably loves her.

Aries men will sit around and wait for the one they want to be with. They will entertain other females but if they want you, you won’t need to do the work. They’ll do it for you.

Aries men expert has spoken.

OP you better listen to her.

Posted by helenaqua

Posted by Mr_Pinchy
You know the safe way out of this, but that's not the way you'll do it.

my 2 cents is you'll ultimately try to "break him" through interaction and affection in the hopes of becoming #1.
Is it rational? Probably not. But the heart wants what the heart wants. (wild guess here)

I don't want to make it obvious I want him and am chasing him... I want him to run to me T_T

Has anyone ever managed to become #1 this way? click to expand

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Honey, that's like asking if anyone has ever bought love? You can't buy love it has to be given freely. I can guarantee you that if you continue chasing an Aries man who is interested in someone else it will definitely turn him off.

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Posted by helenaqua

Posted by Mr_Pinchy
You know the safe way out of this, but that's not the way you'll do it.

my 2 cents is you'll ultimately try to "break him" through interaction and affection in the hopes of becoming #1.
Is it rational? Probably not. But the heart wants what the heart wants. (wild guess here)

I don't want to make it obvious I want him and am chasing him... I want him to run to me T_T

Has anyone ever managed to become #1 this way? click to expand

Honey, that's like asking if anyone has ever bought love? You can't buy love it has to be given freely. I can guarantee you that if you continue chasing an Aries man who is interested in someone else it will definitely turn him off. click to expand

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You are right... Now that I am starting to be more emotionally distant I am thinking that if he came back, it would most probably be for the wrong reasons. He should have figured out he wanted me during the month we were going out and talking, not now.

On a soul level a person with an exalted venus connected to Neptunian energy will have developed a high love nature at some point in their existence. Simply put their love nature will be more astral/high vibe type than physical (even though Taurus means some physical orientation).

So, what a mess (I have this too). Some women will pick up on this high hidden love nature. This guy is swimming in a sea of unworldly feelings and thoughts about love - for good or bad. He has focused on someone who will never be his.