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my husband is always looking at other women ,not just at a glance, he goes out of his way to do it . i cant even have friends because he flirts with them to the point it ruins my friendships. its been years since i have had a friend because its not worth the humiliation.what is your opinion of this?

I DON'T UNDERSTAND WHY SOME MEN ACT LIKE THAT. IF YOUR NOT HAPPY WITH WHAT YOU HAVE, WHY STAY. IN ANY RELATIONSHIP ANYTHING UNDER 100% IS NOT GOOD ENOUGH. MAYBE YOU SHOULD GIVE HIM SOME OF THIS OWN MEDICINE!

Hi! I think it is awful that he shows such an overt lack of respect for you! What sign is he? The problem with giving him some of his own medicine is that it may not have the desired outcome. It could just lead into a horrible fight, because it is my guess that his problem is insecurity. Maybe if you start developing more outside interests (you are fire and exciting!), and not give him so much of your focus...the mystery (of you) may just get to him...
Have you tried openly communicating with him about your feelings?
Wishing you the best,
Bellezza

Since you have so many concerns in which doesn't make you feel good about your husband. Then your job is to make sure that "he" understands "your" feelings. Girl there are to many men out there for you to be letting one disrespectlike that. I mean do you really think that your "husband" would be there before one of yor girls. That's only if you can come to your mind and get some real female friends. All that there is left to say is that you now know and it is all on you.

Dear Shasta:

It seems to me that you suffer from low self-esteem. Just because your husband is not good to you does not mean that you can not be good to yourself! Treat yourself to some of the finer things in life such as dining,recreating, or talking things over with a trusted confidant. Now, as for your husband, you two need to talk about his lack of respect for you concerning his infidelities. Do not allow him to dictate your life like that; you should be able to have friends ,too. If the two of you and not reach an amiable agreement concerning the relationship, then seek marital counseling. If this doesn't work, and you believe the marriage is not salvagable, divorce; life is too short to practise misery with an insensitive creep. Drop that ZERO, and get yourself a HERO!