Best (healthy) ways to cope with a breakup you initiated...

Kind of done with getting drunk and getting stupid high lol please help

Write down all the shit he put you through and the reasons why it never worked and why you initiated the break up. When you feel weak or sad… because that’s when you only think of the good parts…

Pick up that pad and remind yourself why you walked in the first place!

...is to release your anger by fighting with your ex in your mind at a designated time of the day.

Make his "responses" as annoying as possible!

Getting high and sex with someone else.

Oh wait, you said healthy.....ummmmm...

Focus on a hobby or find a new hobby.

I started taking Tae Keon Do as a stress reliever after a break up. It aloud me to hurt people in a "healthy" way.

Cry as much as you need to. Fight it out in the gym or even at home (hitting pillows is underrated), talk to your closest friend's about it, just allow yourself to go through the motions unapologetically.

The more you try to rush it the harder it will be on you, just grieve.

Talking to a therapist really helped me

Some things we can’t do alone

Posted by SeaLion

Getting high and sex with someone else.

Oh wait, you said healthy.....ummmmm...

Focus on a hobby or find a new hobby.

I started taking Tae Keon Do as a stress reliever after a break up. It aloud me to hurt people in a "healthy" way.

HAHA that's literally what I've been doing the last few days smh

As broke as I am rn I just signed up for a gym membership yesterday and worked out for the first time in a few weeks, so now I'm gonna get my diet and daily habits right so that I'm ready for hot girl summer next summer hehe

Posted by alexscaries

I kept in touch and stayed friends.

Kudos to you for being able to do that because that's impossible for me to do lol

Posted by sweethearts

Write down all the shit he put you through and the reasons why it never worked and why you initiated the break up. When you feel weak or sad… because that’s when you only think of the good parts…

Pick up that pad and remind yourself why you walked in the first place!

I will once I get a notebook which I keep forgetting to actually get...

Posted by ImperfectStorm

Why did you initiate the breakup? Was the relationship unhealthy and toxic or were you in self sabotage mode? (Which is also unhealthy and toxic).

It wasn't healthy and I wasn't getting what I wanted out of the relationship. We were both controlling and manipulative to each other and took each other for granted, and I realized I've had feelings for someone I met three years ago and I can't ignore them anymore. I'm not trying to like instantly go back to him and confess or anything lmao but I didn't feel like it's right for me to stay with the Gem when I had feelings for someone else at the same time, and since the relationship wasn't healthy anyways, I just decided to cut ties with the Gem which has been taking a toll on me emotionally.

Posted by Antiphates

Go cold turkey on it.

Take a day or two where you have no distraction and basically just sit in your room or lie in your bed.

Lmao how did you know I've been doing everything to distract myself from this

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Why did you initiate the breakup? Was the relationship unhealthy and toxic or were you in self sabotage mode? (Which is also unhealthy and toxic).

It wasn't healthy and I wasn't getting what I wanted out of the relationship. We were both controlling and manipulative to each other and took each other for granted, and I realized I've had feelings for someone I met three years ago and I can't ignore them anymore. I'm not trying to like instantly go back to him and confess or anything lmao but I didn't feel like it's right for me to stay with the Gem when I had feelings for someone else at the same time, and since the relationship wasn't healthy anyways, I just decided to cut ties with the Gem which has been taking a toll on me emotionally.

Think about that some one else again . Will help you to get over

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I know. But I also wish this other person wasn't constantly on my mind because this shit is draining lol

It sounds like maybe you have some regrets about it? I could be totally wrong..

Take this time and focus on healing inner stuff. I have found the best time to do true healing is when I am hurt, as crazy as that sounds. While you focus on yourself, you will be able to find and see patterns with your life, partnerships, family, friends that perhaps was never fully healed. Yes, it will be painful, but the rewards after is amazing. Also, it will help keep your mind not focus on him or the relationship. Find your power within.

Forgive yourself for mistakes made and if you believe in God or a high power, surrender the emotions, feelings and turmoil over, so you can heal and forgive. Before anyone says forgiveness isn't necessary, that is for yourself and no-one else, it will open your heart up ( if its blocked).

Make a list daily of the blessings in your life and focus on those, try to add something new each day. By focusing on the positive things in life, you will not focus on the negative or emotionally draining things.

Establish realistic goals of what you want to accomplish in the next month, 60 days, 3 months so on.

Hope some of the above helps and if this isn't your type of thing...

Try to focus on diet, exercise and healthy habits.

Posted by kachi_cake

It's the Gemini right?

Yeah

Posted by RollergirlOrc

It sounds like maybe you have some regrets about it? I could be totally wrong..

No you're right, I do.

Burn their pictures in a fire pit! Cleanse yourself with sage afterwards.

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Posted by ImperfectStorm

Why did you initiate the breakup? Was the relationship unhealthy and toxic or were you in self sabotage mode? (Which is also unhealthy and toxic).

It wasn't healthy and I wasn't getting what I wanted out of the relationship. We were both controlling and manipulative to each other and took each other for granted, and I realized I've had feelings for someone I met three years ago and I can't ignore them anymore. I'm not trying to like instantly go back to him and confess or anything lmao but I didn't feel like it's right for me to stay with the Gem when I had feelings for someone else at the same time, and since the relationship wasn't healthy anyways, I just decided to cut ties with the Gem which has been taking a toll on me emotionally.

Sounds like you may be suffering from

The lack of control now that you extracted yourself from the situation. Keep no contact, focus on yourself. Like the gym and working out like you stated.

Maybe flirt, talk to someone.

Get your mind going elsewhere the pain will subside.

I went through this last summer. I was tore up wondering if I made the right decision or not.. after a couple weeks I felt great as if I knew I did the right thing. I was working out, going out having fun and i didn’t look back. I still cared about my ex but he wasn’t the one for me.

After the initial adjustment is made you should feel relieved

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Yeah still going through the whole adjustment thing... Idk I'll figure it out. I'm just really stressed out and annoyed about everything and have no energy for anything.

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Posted by ImperfectStorm

Why did you initiate the breakup? Was the relationship unhealthy and toxic or were you in self sabotage mode? (Which is also unhealthy and toxic).

It wasn't healthy and I wasn't getting what I wanted out of the relationship. We were both controlling and manipulative to each other and took each other for granted, and I realized I've had feelings for someone I met three years ago and I can't ignore them anymore. I'm not trying to like instantly go back to him and confess or anything lmao but I didn't feel like it's right for me to stay with the Gem when I had feelings for someone else at the same time, and since the relationship wasn't healthy anyways, I just decided to cut ties with the Gem which has been taking a toll on me emotionally.

Sounds like you may be suffering from

The lack of control now that you extracted yourself from the situation. Keep no contact, focus on yourself. Like the gym and working out like you stated.

Maybe flirt, talk to someone.

Get your mind going elsewhere the pain will subside.

I went through this last summer. I was tore up wondering if I made the right decision or not.. after a couple weeks I felt great as if I knew I did the right thing. I was working out, going out having fun and i didn’t look back. I still cared about my ex but he wasn’t the one for me.

After the initial adjustment is made you should feel relieved

Yeah still going through the whole adjustment thing... Idk I'll figure it out. I'm just really stressed out and annoyed about everything and have no energy for anything.

Don't you feel more relieved though?

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Not really. Yesterday I got drunk and when a friend of mine asked me how I've been holding up I finally cried when I talked about the Taurus I've been back and forth with for the last three years and that was the first time I cried about it

And then today I found a song that literally explains how I feel about the whole thing and I cried my eyes out again but sober this time

Give yourself time to think go on a vacation. Delete his photos, number, chat, and remainder from your life. After vacation, Keep yourself busy doing some stuff.

Im really sorry to hear this, girl!! But its probably for the best so that’s good. I’d say detox and give yourself some clear headspace to move past this as soon as possible. Otherwise you risk just burying it inside and not actually dealing with it and letting it go. It’s gonna suck before it gets better—but it does get better and you’ll be way happier for it! I wish you energy and clarity. Keep up with the exercise and that will definitely give you more physical energy to help you deal.