super irritated and confused Cancer Man Virgo Woman

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So I was talking to this cancer man and everything was going well. but OMG did he have a lot moments where it felt like we would take one step forward and he'd jump 20 step back immediately. So we both are looking for anything serious and agreed with going with the flow. Now we have spent almost every weekend and we both admitted to taking some space. so like two weekends we didn't see each other nor talk through text cause he said he was "busy at work" he is a workaholic though. Last weekend he wanted to which I was down to hang out, but when I made a suggestion he said he wasn't interested and when I gave two more options he said "I'm busy jesus Christ" so I went about my weekend and I said okay no problem let me know when you're free. Sunday he texted me out of no where and was like "i'm just to busy for a relationship, and I don't want to waste your time this isn't going to go anywhere. But I enjoyed meeting you. Best of luck to ya!"

i'm confused because I never pushed a relationship, we would talk about it when he brought it up and I reassured I would never force him into one.

but idk I feel like this was out of the blue

I feel like I failed or maybe did something.. but do I even try to communicate? it appears that he just doesn't care, hasn't texted me back
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Last weekend he wanted to which I was down to hang out, but when I made a suggestion he said he wasn't interested and when I gave two more options he said "I'm busy jesus Christ" so I went about my weekend and I said okay no problem let me know when you're free.

This run-on sentence makes no sense, please clarify. Did he want to hang out last weekend, or did you?

Regardless, you putting "busy at work" in quotations makes it seem as if you did not necessarily believe he was "busy at work". He is no longer interested in pursuing anything with you. He let you know he would be busy with work, and needed space to refocus on his work. That didn't mean that it would be forever, but for the time being. However, he probably felt you pushed him to hang out when he declined the first time you made a suggestion and you repeatedly made more suggestions.

More than likely he is busy at work, and more than likely you are requiring a lot more attention than you think you are, And he doesn't have the time to give you the attention you seek. That doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you as a person, that just means that he isn't capable of meeting the demands that you want from a potential partner. And if you require a certain amount of attention, that's 100% okay. You just need to find someone that will give you that, because he won't and more than likely will never be capable of giving that to you, which will be a point of contention if the relationship has progressed. So for you, in the long run, you can waste less time with someone who can't meet your demands.
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hey no sorry. he suggested hanging out this weekend. Told him I had plans with friends but we can do something or you can come with. after that he said thanks for the invite but no thanks, its to far. Which is when I made the comment that "I always drove to you lol but okay that's fine, let me know when you're free next and are interested" and he said "he's busy jesus Christ" again did not push it nor force anything. He said okay that's fine have fun. Then sunday text me saying "he's just to busy with work and doesn't have time to pursue a relationship, this probably isn't going anywhere and I don't want to waste your time. Best of luck to ya"

sorry about the run on there.
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hey no sorry. he suggested hanging out this weekend. Told him I had plans with friends but we can do something or you can come with. after that he said thanks for the invite but no thanks, its to far. Which is when I made the comment that "I always drove to you lol but okay that's fine, let me know when you're free next and are interested" and he said "he's busy jesus Christ" again did not push it nor force anything. He said okay that's fine have fun. Then sunday text me saying "he's just to busy with work and doesn't have time to pursue a relationship, this probably isn't going anywhere and I don't want to waste your time. Best of luck to ya"

sorry about the run on there.


The "I always drove to you" probably annoyed him.

I happened to go through your posting history with this guy, because I remembered you had made a few threads about him specifically. Quite honestly, for something that is at most, a few months old, I do not understand why you are wasting so much energy on him.

Again, I repeat, that there is nothing wrong with you needed a specific amount of attention from a partner. But he is incapable of meeting those demands for you. It is a waste of your time and energy to keep pursuing something with someone that essentially needs to be talked into dating you. And it seems to me, based off what little information you have divulged in the threads you have created, that that is what you are doing. He told you he wanted FWB, you called and thought you could talk your way out of that. Then he asks for space, but then talk about how you two agreed to pursue something serious, but go with the flow.

Quite honestly, it seems like you are grasping at straws trying to talk your way into believing it can work, when it won't. And again, I will repeat that the demands that you want from a partner are not wrong, but you need to find a partner willing to meet your demands as much as you are willing to meet theirs. He won't be able to ever do that. And you shouldn't ever have to talk someone into caring for you. It's not "giving up", its about finding an individual that is capable of being a true partner.

Stop trying to talk yourself into looking for more from people that aren't capable.
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hey no sorry. he suggested hanging out this weekend. Told him I had plans with friends but we can do something or you can come with. after that he said thanks for the invite but no thanks, its to far. Which is when I made the comment that "I always drove to you lol but okay that's fine, let me know when you're free next and are interested" and he said "he's busy jesus Christ" again did not push it nor force anything. He said okay that's fine have fun. Then sunday text me saying "he's just to busy with work and doesn't have time to pursue a relationship, this probably isn't going anywhere and I don't want to waste your time. Best of luck to ya"

sorry about the run on there.

It's probably because you didn't drop everything to go hang with him after he had been ignoring you for two weeks. You hurt his feeeelings with this tiny rejection and he expects an apology and you begging him to come back. Standard cancer men behavior. 🙄
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I agree with the others. He's not interested.

At least he's not stringing you along and he actually told you what was needed to get closure.

Even if you weren't looking for a relationship, with his words, he doesn't even seem to want to be friends. Cancers are famous for pretending to be friends when they like you, they just need to be close to the person of interest,so they do the fake friendship thing. He's not even willing to do that with you, so he is just flat out not interested.

Virgos seem to want to work through stuff and try to fix it, but there needs to be some level of interest or attraction for this to work. Once people aren't interested, it's hard to do, because people don't conform or work on things they have no interest in.

Start dating someone else and don't take this personally, sometimes people just don't fit together well. Attraction needs to be mutual for things to work out.
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I agree with the others. He's not interested.

At least he's not stringing you along and he actually told you what was needed to get closure.

Even if you weren't looking for a relationship, with his words, he doesn't even seem to want to be friends. Cancers are famous for pretending to be friends when they like you, they just need to be close to the person of interest,so they do the fake friendship thing. He's not even willing to do that with you, so he is just flat out not interested.

Virgos seem to want to work through stuff and try to fix it, but there needs to be some level of interest or attraction for this to work. Once people aren't interested, it's hard to do, because people don't conform or work on things they have no interest in.

Start dating someone else and don't take this personally, sometimes people just don't fit together well. Attraction needs to be mutual for things to work out.


after reading through virgo women threads, most of them are soooo clueless. what the actual fuck we can't be this naive. thank god we move on fast or else it's just sad.
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I agree with the others. He's not interested.

At least he's not stringing you along and he actually told you what was needed to get closure.

Even if you weren't looking for a relationship, with his words, he doesn't even seem to want to be friends. Cancers are famous for pretending to be friends when they like you, they just need to be close to the person of interest,so they do the fake friendship thing. He's not even willing to do that with you, so he is just flat out not interested.

Virgos seem to want to work through stuff and try to fix it, but there needs to be some level of interest or attraction for this to work. Once people aren't interested, it's hard to do, because people don't conform or work on things they have no interest in.

Start dating someone else and don't take this personally, sometimes people just don't fit together well. Attraction needs to be mutual for things to work out.

after reading through virgo women threads, most of them are soooo clueless. what the actual fuck we can't be this naive. thank god we move on fast or else it's just sad.
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Honestly, I'm finding that you guys pretty much sleep on people until it's too late and they try and move on. I don't know why that Jump starts you all into action.

Both Virgos that I've dealt with did this to exes and thought talking stuff through would work after the person was over them.

I guess if I want some Virgo attention, I have to practically dump him lol
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I agree with the others. He's not interested.

At least he's not stringing you along and he actually told you what was needed to get closure.

Even if you weren't looking for a relationship, with his words, he doesn't even seem to want to be friends. Cancers are famous for pretending to be friends when they like you, they just need to be close to the person of interest,so they do the fake friendship thing. He's not even willing to do that with you, so he is just flat out not interested.

Virgos seem to want to work through stuff and try to fix it, but there needs to be some level of interest or attraction for this to work. Once people aren't interested, it's hard to do, because people don't conform or work on things they have no interest in.

Start dating someone else and don't take this personally, sometimes people just don't fit together well. Attraction needs to be mutual for things to work out.

after reading through virgo women threads, most of them are soooo clueless. what the actual fuck we can't be this naive. thank god we move on fast or else it's just sad.

Honestly, I'm finding that you guys pretty much sleep on people until it's too late and they try and move on. I don't know why that Jump starts you all into action.

Both Virgos that I've dealt with did this to exes and thought talking stuff through would work after the person was over them.

I guess if I want some Virgo attention, I have to practically dump him lol
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i found out i wanted the cancer/virgo about half a year after i broke things off with him.

maybe it was a test to myself, to measure how much i really wanted it, how sure i am that i want it. had to make sure that i'm completely on board. don't wanna make a mistake.
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I agree with the others. He's not interested.

At least he's not stringing you along and he actually told you what was needed to get closure.

Even if you weren't looking for a relationship, with his words, he doesn't even seem to want to be friends. Cancers are famous for pretending to be friends when they like you, they just need to be close to the person of interest,so they do the fake friendship thing. He's not even willing to do that with you, so he is just flat out not interested.

Virgos seem to want to work through stuff and try to fix it, but there needs to be some level of interest or attraction for this to work. Once people aren't interested, it's hard to do, because people don't conform or work on things they have no interest in.

Start dating someone else and don't take this personally, sometimes people just don't fit together well. Attraction needs to be mutual for things to work out.

after reading through virgo women threads, most of them are soooo clueless. what the actual fuck we can't be this naive. thank god we move on fast or else it's just sad.

Honestly, I'm finding that you guys pretty much sleep on people until it's too late and they try and move on. I don't know why that Jump starts you all into action.

Both Virgos that I've dealt with did this to exes and thought talking stuff through would work after the person was over them.

I guess if I want some Virgo attention, I have to practically dump him lol

i found out i wanted the cancer/virgo about half a year after i broke things off with him.

maybe it was a test to myself, to measure how much i really wanted it, how sure i am that i want it. had to make sure that i'm completely on board. don't wanna make a mistake.
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Yeah, I get it, but don't understand it. I was even talking to this Virgo I'm dating now, about what happened with the last Virgo and he said that "Maybe he found out he liked you better then who he was dating" I told him it doesn't matter once a person has moved on and cut the other out of their life.

Both seem to love fence riding a little too much.

I'm almost worried that I'm gonna end up doing the same thing to this Virgo. I like him a lot but feeling are so detached. I'm not used to it.
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I agree with the others. He's not interested.

At least he's not stringing you along and he actually told you what was needed to get closure.

Even if you weren't looking for a relationship, with his words, he doesn't even seem to want to be friends. Cancers are famous for pretending to be friends when they like you, they just need to be close to the person of interest,so they do the fake friendship thing. He's not even willing to do that with you, so he is just flat out not interested.

Virgos seem to want to work through stuff and try to fix it, but there needs to be some level of interest or attraction for this to work. Once people aren't interested, it's hard to do, because people don't conform or work on things they have no interest in.

Start dating someone else and don't take this personally, sometimes people just don't fit together well. Attraction needs to be mutual for things to work out.

after reading through virgo women threads, most of them are soooo clueless. what the actual fuck we can't be this naive. thank god we move on fast or else it's just sad.

Honestly, I'm finding that you guys pretty much sleep on people until it's too late and they try and move on. I don't know why that Jump starts you all into action.

Both Virgos that I've dealt with did this to exes and thought talking stuff through would work after the person was over them.

I guess if I want some Virgo attention, I have to practically dump him lol

i found out i wanted the cancer/virgo about half a year after i broke things off with him.

maybe it was a test to myself, to measure how much i really wanted it, how sure i am that i want it. had to make sure that i'm completely on board. don't wanna make a mistake.

Yeah, I get it, but don't understand it. I was even talking to this Virgo I'm dating now, about what happened with the last Virgo and he said that "Maybe he found out he liked you better then who he was dating" I told him it doesn't matter once a person has moved on and cut the other out of their life.

Both seem to love fence riding a little too much.

I'm almost worried that I'm gonna end up doing the same thing to this Virgo. I like him a lot but feeling are so detached. I'm not used to it.
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don't act like other mutables don't do this shit.
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I agree with the others. He's not interested.

At least he's not stringing you along and he actually told you what was needed to get closure.

Even if you weren't looking for a relationship, with his words, he doesn't even seem to want to be friends. Cancers are famous for pretending to be friends when they like you, they just need to be close to the person of interest,so they do the fake friendship thing. He's not even willing to do that with you, so he is just flat out not interested.

Virgos seem to want to work through stuff and try to fix it, but there needs to be some level of interest or attraction for this to work. Once people aren't interested, it's hard to do, because people don't conform or work on things they have no interest in.

Start dating someone else and don't take this personally, sometimes people just don't fit together well. Attraction needs to be mutual for things to work out.

after reading through virgo women threads, most of them are soooo clueless. what the actual fuck we can't be this naive. thank god we move on fast or else it's just sad.

Honestly, I'm finding that you guys pretty much sleep on people until it's too late and they try and move on. I don't know why that Jump starts you all into action.

Both Virgos that I've dealt with did this to exes and thought talking stuff through would work after the person was over them.

I guess if I want some Virgo attention, I have to practically dump him lol

i found out i wanted the cancer/virgo about half a year after i broke things off with him.

maybe it was a test to myself, to measure how much i really wanted it, how sure i am that i want it. had to make sure that i'm completely on board. don't wanna make a mistake.

Yeah, I get it, but don't understand it. I was even talking to this Virgo I'm dating now, about what happened with the last Virgo and he said that "Maybe he found out he liked you better then who he was dating" I told him it doesn't matter once a person has moved on and cut the other out of their life.

Both seem to love fence riding a little too much.

I'm almost worried that I'm gonna end up doing the same thing to this Virgo. I like him a lot but feeling are so detached. I'm not used to it.

don't act like other mutables don't do this shit.
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I'm not chasing after anyone if they don't show interest in me and tries to leave. I actually told the Virgo this last weekend. I told him he's always free to walk away at any time. And he said "Wow, that's cool to have that way of thinking."

But you're right, Gemini and Pisces have no shame at all. Sag has too much pride. But at least I know how to manipulate my way around you Virgos if I need some attention 😄

I just like stuff too easy going and I'm scared of the repercussions, I don't like games and being mistreated or being fake and having to go to this extent. It's exhausting.

Why can't two people just mutually agree to hang out often and not have drama. UGH so annoying.
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I agree with the others. He's not interested.

At least he's not stringing you along and he actually told you what was needed to get closure.

Even if you weren't looking for a relationship, with his words, he doesn't even seem to want to be friends. Cancers are famous for pretending to be friends when they like you, they just need to be close to the person of interest,so they do the fake friendship thing. He's not even willing to do that with you, so he is just flat out not interested.

Virgos seem to want to work through stuff and try to fix it, but there needs to be some level of interest or attraction for this to work. Once people aren't interested, it's hard to do, because people don't conform or work on things they have no interest in.

Start dating someone else and don't take this personally, sometimes people just don't fit together well. Attraction needs to be mutual for things to work out.

after reading through virgo women threads, most of them are soooo clueless. what the actual fuck we can't be this naive. thank god we move on fast or else it's just sad.

Honestly, I'm finding that you guys pretty much sleep on people until it's too late and they try and move on. I don't know why that Jump starts you all into action.

Both Virgos that I've dealt with did this to exes and thought talking stuff through would work after the person was over them.

I guess if I want some Virgo attention, I have to practically dump him lol

i found out i wanted the cancer/virgo about half a year after i broke things off with him.

maybe it was a test to myself, to measure how much i really wanted it, how sure i am that i want it. had to make sure that i'm completely on board. don't wanna make a mistake.

Yeah, I get it, but don't understand it. I was even talking to this Virgo I'm dating now, about what happened with the last Virgo and he said that "Maybe he found out he liked you better then who he was dating" I told him it doesn't matter once a person has moved on and cut the other out of their life.

Both seem to love fence riding a little too much.

I'm almost worried that I'm gonna end up doing the same thing to this Virgo. I like him a lot but feeling are so detached. I'm not used to it.

don't act like other mutables don't do this shit.

I'm not chasing after anyone if they don't show interest in me and tries to leave. I actually told the Virgo this last weekend. I told him he's always free to walk away at any time. And he said "Wow, that's cool to have that way of thinking."

But you're right, Gemini and Pisces have no shame at all. Sag has too much pride. But at least I know how to manipulate my way around you Virgos if I need some attention 😄

I just like stuff too easy going and I'm scared of the repercussions, I don't like games and being mistreated or being fake and having to go to this extent. It's exhausting.

Why can't two people just mutually agree to hang out often and not have drama. UGH so annoying.
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coz virgos are insecure. how many times i gotta tell you? if you give them too much attention, they'd think you're fake. hell i think people are fake when they do that to me or they're too nice to me. libra placements are highly suspect.
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I agree with the others. He's not interested.

At least he's not stringing you along and he actually told you what was needed to get closure.

Even if you weren't looking for a relationship, with his words, he doesn't even seem to want to be friends. Cancers are famous for pretending to be friends when they like you, they just need to be close to the person of interest,so they do the fake friendship thing. He's not even willing to do that with you, so he is just flat out not interested.

Virgos seem to want to work through stuff and try to fix it, but there needs to be some level of interest or attraction for this to work. Once people aren't interested, it's hard to do, because people don't conform or work on things they have no interest in.

Start dating someone else and don't take this personally, sometimes people just don't fit together well. Attraction needs to be mutual for things to work out.

after reading through virgo women threads, most of them are soooo clueless. what the actual fuck we can't be this naive. thank god we move on fast or else it's just sad.

Honestly, I'm finding that you guys pretty much sleep on people until it's too late and they try and move on. I don't know why that Jump starts you all into action.

Both Virgos that I've dealt with did this to exes and thought talking stuff through would work after the person was over them.

I guess if I want some Virgo attention, I have to practically dump him lol

i found out i wanted the cancer/virgo about half a year after i broke things off with him.

maybe it was a test to myself, to measure how much i really wanted it, how sure i am that i want it. had to make sure that i'm completely on board. don't wanna make a mistake.

Yeah, I get it, but don't understand it. I was even talking to this Virgo I'm dating now, about what happened with the last Virgo and he said that "Maybe he found out he liked you better then who he was dating" I told him it doesn't matter once a person has moved on and cut the other out of their life.

Both seem to love fence riding a little too much.

I'm almost worried that I'm gonna end up doing the same thing to this Virgo. I like him a lot but feeling are so detached. I'm not used to it.

don't act like other mutables don't do this shit.

I'm not chasing after anyone if they don't show interest in me and tries to leave. I actually told the Virgo this last weekend. I told him he's always free to walk away at any time. And he said "Wow, that's cool to have that way of thinking."

But you're right, Gemini and Pisces have no shame at all. Sag has too much pride. But at least I know how to manipulate my way around you Virgos if I need some attention 😄

I just like stuff too easy going and I'm scared of the repercussions, I don't like games and being mistreated or being fake and having to go to this extent. It's exhausting.

Why can't two people just mutually agree to hang out often and not have drama. UGH so annoying.

coz virgos are insecure. how many times i gotta tel you? if you give them too much attention, they'd think you're fake. hell i think people are fake when they do that to me or they're too nice to me. libra placements are highly suspect.
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LMAO

I'm finding drenching him in attention when I see him and not reaching out at all is working wonders for me lol

He had an ex Sagittarius that he was with for years, so he knows how we are. He actually was confused of how we shut down and don't communicate when we are in a relationship and I had to tell him why.

I love how curious Virgos are and how they need info to make a puzzle go together. He and I have really great talks.

We both have Libra Risings so we understand the fake charm we emit. We were talking about that too.

I think I'm just worried about his Aries moon, since he likes arguing but we don't argue at all. He said all the things that usually annoy him about the person are things I don't do. I just told him to start a fight on purpose if he needs to, and we can go a round lol
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I agree with the others. He's not interested.

At least he's not stringing you along and he actually told you what was needed to get closure.

Even if you weren't looking for a relationship, with his words, he doesn't even seem to want to be friends. Cancers are famous for pretending to be friends when they like you, they just need to be close to the person of interest,so they do the fake friendship thing. He's not even willing to do that with you, so he is just flat out not interested.

Virgos seem to want to work through stuff and try to fix it, but there needs to be some level of interest or attraction for this to work. Once people aren't interested, it's hard to do, because people don't conform or work on things they have no interest in.

Start dating someone else and don't take this personally, sometimes people just don't fit together well. Attraction needs to be mutual for things to work out.

after reading through virgo women threads, most of them are soooo clueless. what the actual fuck we can't be this naive. thank god we move on fast or else it's just sad.

Honestly, I'm finding that you guys pretty much sleep on people until it's too late and they try and move on. I don't know why that Jump starts you all into action.

Both Virgos that I've dealt with did this to exes and thought talking stuff through would work after the person was over them.

I guess if I want some Virgo attention, I have to practically dump him lol

i found out i wanted the cancer/virgo about half a year after i broke things off with him.

maybe it was a test to myself, to measure how much i really wanted it, how sure i am that i want it. had to make sure that i'm completely on board. don't wanna make a mistake.

Yeah, I get it, but don't understand it. I was even talking to this Virgo I'm dating now, about what happened with the last Virgo and he said that "Maybe he found out he liked you better then who he was dating" I told him it doesn't matter once a person has moved on and cut the other out of their life.

Both seem to love fence riding a little too much.

I'm almost worried that I'm gonna end up doing the same thing to this Virgo. I like him a lot but feeling are so detached. I'm not used to it.

don't act like other mutables don't do this shit.

I'm not chasing after anyone if they don't show interest in me and tries to leave. I actually told the Virgo this last weekend. I told him he's always free to walk away at any time. And he said "Wow, that's cool to have that way of thinking."

But you're right, Gemini and Pisces have no shame at all. Sag has too much pride. But at least I know how to manipulate my way around you Virgos if I need some attention 😄

I just like stuff too easy going and I'm scared of the repercussions, I don't like games and being mistreated or being fake and having to go to this extent. It's exhausting.

Why can't two people just mutually agree to hang out often and not have drama. UGH so annoying.

coz virgos are insecure. how many times i gotta tell you? if you give them too much attention, they'd think you're fake. hell i think people are fake when they do that to me or they're too nice to me. libra placements are highly suspect.
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Hey what happened this weekend? Did you see your Cancer? Did everything go well?

I cancelled on my Virgo on Friday but then he told me he was available on Saturday so I went to see him. I was supposed to see him Sunday too but was too tired and it felt weird to see him two days in a row, so I backed out and told him I was tired and not to be a stranger 😄
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I agree with the others. He's not interested.

At least he's not stringing you along and he actually told you what was needed to get closure.

Even if you weren't looking for a relationship, with his words, he doesn't even seem to want to be friends. Cancers are famous for pretending to be friends when they like you, they just need to be close to the person of interest,so they do the fake friendship thing. He's not even willing to do that with you, so he is just flat out not interested.

Virgos seem to want to work through stuff and try to fix it, but there needs to be some level of interest or attraction for this to work. Once people aren't interested, it's hard to do, because people don't conform or work on things they have no interest in.

Start dating someone else and don't take this personally, sometimes people just don't fit together well. Attraction needs to be mutual for things to work out.

after reading through virgo women threads, most of them are soooo clueless. what the actual fuck we can't be this naive. thank god we move on fast or else it's just sad.

Honestly, I'm finding that you guys pretty much sleep on people until it's too late and they try and move on. I don't know why that Jump starts you all into action.

Both Virgos that I've dealt with did this to exes and thought talking stuff through would work after the person was over them.

I guess if I want some Virgo attention, I have to practically dump him lol

i found out i wanted the cancer/virgo about half a year after i broke things off with him.

maybe it was a test to myself, to measure how much i really wanted it, how sure i am that i want it. had to make sure that i'm completely on board. don't wanna make a mistake.

Yeah, I get it, but don't understand it. I was even talking to this Virgo I'm dating now, about what happened with the last Virgo and he said that "Maybe he found out he liked you better then who he was dating" I told him it doesn't matter once a person has moved on and cut the other out of their life.

Both seem to love fence riding a little too much.

I'm almost worried that I'm gonna end up doing the same thing to this Virgo. I like him a lot but feeling are so detached. I'm not used to it.

don't act like other mutables don't do this shit.

I'm not chasing after anyone if they don't show interest in me and tries to leave. I actually told the Virgo this last weekend. I told him he's always free to walk away at any time. And he said "Wow, that's cool to have that way of thinking."

But you're right, Gemini and Pisces have no shame at all. Sag has too much pride. But at least I know how to manipulate my way around you Virgos if I need some attention 😄

I just like stuff too easy going and I'm scared of the repercussions, I don't like games and being mistreated or being fake and having to go to this extent. It's exhausting.

Why can't two people just mutually agree to hang out often and not have drama. UGH so annoying.

coz virgos are insecure. how many times i gotta tell you? if you give them too much attention, they'd think you're fake. hell i think people are fake when they do that to me or they're too nice to me. libra placements are highly suspect.

Hey what happened this weekend? Did you see your Cancer? Did everything go well?

I cancelled on my Virgo on Friday but then he told me he was available on Saturday so I went to see him. I was supposed to see him Sunday too but was too tired and it felt weird to see him two days in a row, so I backed out and told him I was tired and not to be a stranger 😄
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got cancelled, going to see him this weekend
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I agree with the others. He's not interested.

At least he's not stringing you along and he actually told you what was needed to get closure.

Even if you weren't looking for a relationship, with his words, he doesn't even seem to want to be friends. Cancers are famous for pretending to be friends when they like you, they just need to be close to the person of interest,so they do the fake friendship thing. He's not even willing to do that with you, so he is just flat out not interested.

Virgos seem to want to work through stuff and try to fix it, but there needs to be some level of interest or attraction for this to work. Once people aren't interested, it's hard to do, because people don't conform or work on things they have no interest in.

Start dating someone else and don't take this personally, sometimes people just don't fit together well. Attraction needs to be mutual for things to work out.

after reading through virgo women threads, most of them are soooo clueless. what the actual fuck we can't be this naive. thank god we move on fast or else it's just sad.

Honestly, I'm finding that you guys pretty much sleep on people until it's too late and they try and move on. I don't know why that Jump starts you all into action.

Both Virgos that I've dealt with did this to exes and thought talking stuff through would work after the person was over them.

I guess if I want some Virgo attention, I have to practically dump him lol

i found out i wanted the cancer/virgo about half a year after i broke things off with him.

maybe it was a test to myself, to measure how much i really wanted it, how sure i am that i want it. had to make sure that i'm completely on board. don't wanna make a mistake.

Yeah, I get it, but don't understand it. I was even talking to this Virgo I'm dating now, about what happened with the last Virgo and he said that "Maybe he found out he liked you better then who he was dating" I told him it doesn't matter once a person has moved on and cut the other out of their life.

Both seem to love fence riding a little too much.

I'm almost worried that I'm gonna end up doing the same thing to this Virgo. I like him a lot but feeling are so detached. I'm not used to it.

don't act like other mutables don't do this shit.

I'm not chasing after anyone if they don't show interest in me and tries to leave. I actually told the Virgo this last weekend. I told him he's always free to walk away at any time. And he said "Wow, that's cool to have that way of thinking."

But you're right, Gemini and Pisces have no shame at all. Sag has too much pride. But at least I know how to manipulate my way around you Virgos if I need some attention 😄

I just like stuff too easy going and I'm scared of the repercussions, I don't like games and being mistreated or being fake and having to go to this extent. It's exhausting.

Why can't two people just mutually agree to hang out often and not have drama. UGH so annoying.

coz virgos are insecure. how many times i gotta tell you? if you give them too much attention, they'd think you're fake. hell i think people are fake when they do that to me or they're too nice to me. libra placements are highly suspect.

Hey what happened this weekend? Did you see your Cancer? Did everything go well?

I cancelled on my Virgo on Friday but then he told me he was available on Saturday so I went to see him. I was supposed to see him Sunday too but was too tired and it felt weird to see him two days in a row, so I backed out and told him I was tired and not to be a stranger 😄

got cancelled, going to see him this weekend
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Ok Nice. Well good luck!
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hey no sorry. he suggested hanging out this weekend. Told him I had plans with friends but we can do something or you can come with. after that he said thanks for the invite but no thanks, its to far. Which is when I made the comment that "I always drove to you lol but okay that's fine, let me know when you're free next and are interested" and he said "he's busy jesus Christ" again did not push it nor force anything. He said okay that's fine have fun. Then sunday text me saying "he's just to busy with work and doesn't have time to pursue a relationship, this probably isn't going anywhere and I don't want to waste your time. Best of luck to ya"

sorry about the run on there.

It's probably because you didn't drop everything to go hang with him after he had been ignoring you for two weeks. You hurt his feeeelings with this tiny rejection and he expects an apology and you begging him to come back. Standard cancer men behavior. 🙄

Cancer men don't ignore people for 2 weeks
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Correction, Cancer men won't ignore people they actually care about for 2 weeks. lol
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I agree...after the few threads and back and forth, I think I'm a fixer when it comes to these things and yes I'd rather talk it through then cold shoulder someone that's my nurturing character but you're right I HATE the mind games lol hopefully next thread will not be about this! =) well thanks to those who allowed me to vent, just know when there is so much pull and push with one person it can def get super confusing so that's the only reason why I post updates, but after reading everything an going back and thinking about it ya there's no point.

thank you all ❤️
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I agree...after the few threads and back and forth, I think I'm a fixer when it comes to these things and yes I'd rather talk it through then cold shoulder someone that's my nurturing character but you're right I HATE the mind games lol hopefully next thread will not be about this! =) well thanks to those who allowed me to vent, just know when there is so much pull and push with one person it can def get super confusing so that's the only reason why I post updates, but after reading everything an going back and thinking about it ya there's no point.

thank you all ❤️


wish you luck 🙂
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I agree...after the few threads and back and forth, I think I'm a fixer when it comes to these things and yes I'd rather talk it through then cold shoulder someone that's my nurturing character but you're right I HATE the mind games lol hopefully next thread will not be about this! =) well thanks to those who allowed me to vent, just know when there is so much pull and push with one person it can def get super confusing so that's the only reason why I post updates, but after reading everything an going back and thinking about it ya there's no point.

thank you all ❤️

I'm just you'll be back with a he texted me message
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Really? Do Cancers lie and fake noninterest when they are mad/ or busy? I didn't think they were capable of that.
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I agree...after the few threads and back and forth, I think I'm a fixer when it comes to these things and yes I'd rather talk it through then cold shoulder someone that's my nurturing character but you're right I HATE the mind games lol hopefully next thread will not be about this! =) well thanks to those who allowed me to vent, just know when there is so much pull and push with one person it can def get super confusing so that's the only reason why I post updates, but after reading everything an going back and thinking about it ya there's no point.

thank you all ❤️

I'm just you'll be back with a he texted me message

Really? Do Cancers lie and fake noninterest when they are mad/ or busy? I didn't think they were capable of that.

if someone was kissing our a $ $ and nobody else is at that moment, we might play cat and mouse with someone we ignored in the past, just for attention
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Oh yeah, I can see that lol Even I do that. It keeps me distracted while I wait around for what I want.
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guys relax lol I snapped the hell out of It I definitely appreciate everyones input

I simply had to snap out of it especially when he texted me again and was like "hey how are you" like nothing happened...so all I can say is, I blocked him deleted him and sorry no Virgo's will work it out until we can but once we sense it ain't worth it we may try to convince ourselves but once we made up our mind its done deal

just is exactly what I did =). I haven't taken this post down but ya no this was a done deal, to many back and forth and to much BS is all