Bf on his phone a lot

My boyfriend and I are both 26 and have been with each other for half a year. It is both our first love and we go very well together.

He is really sweet and thoughtful, possibly one of the most empathetic and unselfish persons I've ever met. He remembers things I tell him and goes out of his way to please me. We laugh all the time and can talk for hours, and never argue except for once about a month ago, but it is an issue that is starting to affect me.

What happened was that we had just met up at a pub after work and he was talking to me about something, and I was listening. Then when I began talking he immediately went on his phone and started reading text messages from his friends and laughing. This has happened many times before, we will be talking and then he will suddenly start looking at memes online or read his WhatsApp messages mid conversation. This can happen at a restaurant, bar, cafe, on transport... he seems to be addicted to his phone.

I normally just sit there and eat in silence but this time really upset me and I started crying a bit. He asked me what was wrong and I told him and he immediately grabbed me, hugged me and apologised and said he wasn't aware of what he was doing. He said that at work people are always interrupting each other and it is what he is used to (he would interrupt me while I'm talking as well).

Since then whenever we are talking he makes an effort to listen to me which I appreciate, and doesn't interrupt me anymore. But he still uses his phone a lot. At meals after ordering he will grab his phone and start looking at instagram or during Valentine's dinner he was texting friends while we were eating.

Yesterday we were talking about books we were reading and while he was talking he just stopped mid conversation to open a message he had received. I feel disrespected and like crying whenever it happens. I don't know how to deal with it. I've brought it up once and don't want to bring it up every time. I haven't told anybody else because I don't want them to just insult him. What would you do? Should I talk to him about it, or just accept it is the way he is?

He is cancer with gemini moon. I am taurus with Aries moon. We both have Venus in cancer. Thank you xx

You're doomed.

He is just a byproduct of his generation.

Funny story is I had a crush on a pisces sun aries mooner who would do the same thing your bf did.

Everytime she did I would just leave...even if we were hanging out alone and in the midst of a conversation.



It's called self respect.

Social media addiction is revenge of all the nerdy programmers who couldn't have a relationship in HS/college and now their creation is destroying everyone else's relationships.

Posted by Adreamuponwaking
You're doomed.

He is just a byproduct of his generation.

Funny story is I had a crush on a pisces sun aries mooner who would do the same thing your bf did.

Everytime she did I would just leave...even if we were hanging out alone and in the midst of a conversation.



It's called self respect.

Did you guys talk about it as well? Him and I have had one conversation about it but it was mainly about him not listening to me rather than his addiction to the phone. Blaahhhh it's making me lose attraction

Posted by Mr_Pinchy
Social media addiction is revenge of all the nerdy programmers who couldn't have a relationship in HS/college and now their creation is destroying everyone else's relationships.

Hahahha revenge of the nerds, wish I could just get rid of their creation for the times I am with bf!

Posted by frenchie
My boyfriend and I are both 26 and have been with each other for half a year. It is both our first love and we go very well together.

He is really sweet and thoughtful, possibly one of the most empathetic and unselfish persons I've ever met. He remembers things I tell him and goes out of his way to please me. We laugh all the time and can talk for hours, and never argue except for once about a month ago, but it is an issue that is starting to affect me.

What happened was that we had just met up at a pub after work and he was talking to me about something, and I was listening. Then when I began talking he immediately went on his phone and started reading text messages from his friends and laughing. This has happened many times before, we will be talking and then he will suddenly start looking at memes online or read his WhatsApp messages mid conversation. This can happen at a restaurant, bar, cafe, on transport... he seems to be addicted to his phone.

Memes, killing relationships since 2012

Based on his reaction the first time it was brought up, he just needs to get away from the phone thing - you could suggest that when you spend time together that he turn the phone off or better yet, leave it in his car - it's an addiction and although he doesn't want to be intentionally rude, it is rude. It seems to be some sort of norm in today's society however it is also an addiction and should be treated as such. Be gentle but firm and bring it up again. If you let it go, it will never change.

I people watch when I go out, and most of the time I see these couples that don't even talk to each other. Both are usually on their phones and it's really discerning to watch.

You have to bring it up to him, and tell him. It sounds like he is willing to make choices to make you happy. And if he doesn't then you have to decide if it's a deal breaker for you, or something you can compromise on.

For me, my boyfriend's parents taught their kids that cell phones are to be left in a basket at dinner.

Victim of this generation. Its quite sad, maybe you can help him somehow. And if it upsets you that much,"just accepting the way he is" won't work. Talk to him, but don't attack, be open and honest, AND understanding.

Red flag.

Dump him.

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Posted by frenchie

Posted by Adreamuponwaking
You're doomed.

He is just a byproduct of his generation.

Funny story is I had a crush on a pisces sun aries mooner who would do the same thing your bf did.

Everytime she did I would just leave...even if we were hanging out alone and in the midst of a conversation.



It's called self respect.

Did you guys talk about it as well? Him and I have had one conversation about it but it was mainly about him not listening to me rather than his addiction to the phone. Blaahhhh it's making me lose attraction

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yeah it's such a turn off

I never really had a formal conversation with her but she got the picture as there was an obvious pattern.lol

Take him camping! Lol that’ll do it

Posted by tctao
Based on his reaction the first time it was brought up, he just needs to get away from the phone thing - you could suggest that when you spend time together that he turn the phone off or better yet, leave it in his car - it's an addiction and although he doesn't want to be intentionally rude, it is rude. It seems to be some sort of norm in today's society however it is also an addiction and should be treated as such. Be gentle but firm and bring it up again. If you let it go, it will never change.

This ☝️

Younger generations Gemini mooners and their phones...

Not solvable by others, addicted af.

Call him on his phone when you are together so he won't ignore you

Lol