Cancer Man Breaking Up with You

I've been seeing this Cancer man since early December (Aries Male here). On Valentine's Day, we confirmed our relationship. We are both very busy people (he's a doctor, I'm a law student). I never met anyone who clicked with me the way he does.

This is both our first ever relationship. I have noticed he gets into moods sometimes. That's fine, but when I ask him how I can help fix it, he says he doesn't know. I want to apologize because I think it is me, but he says it's not. I ask what it is, and he says he doesn't know. I try to give him space about it.

Last night he said we should take a break. We discussed why. He said he didn't know and that he just had a feeling that something was off. We talked a little more and I left.

We texted a little today. I brought up fond memories and how I will miss him. I'll be in the North Carolina mountains next week and suggested we do not communicate and discuss when I get back. He agreed.

What are your thoughts?

Are you still withholding sex?

Posted by LadyNeptune

Are you still withholding sex?

No!

He’s a male born under the feminine sign of Cancer ... Moon ruled

Moody is something he will probably always experience...

Posted by MyStarsShine

He’s a male born under the feminine sign of Cancer ... Moon ruled

Moody is something he will probably always experience...

Yes he is. I am okay with moods, but I want to help him get out of it.

Posted by newtothis

Posted by MyStarsShine

He’s a male born under the feminine sign of Cancer ... Moon ruled

Moody is something he will probably always experience...

Yes he is. I am okay with moods, but I want to help him get out of it.

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I don’t think you can

From what i know of Cancer people, they just need to hide away from the World a lot of the time ....

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Posted by LadyNeptune

Are you still withholding sex?

how did you remember? lol

or you simply went to history. never crosses my mind.

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Gay couple, lawyer and doctor, it was memorable to me... idk.

I don't want to break up with him.

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Posted by newtothis

I've been seeing this Cancer man since early December (Aries Male here). On Valentine's Day, we confirmed our relationship. We are both very busy people (he's a doctor, I'm a law student). I never met anyone who clicked with me the way he does.

This is both our first ever relationship. I have noticed he gets into moods sometimes. That's fine, but when I ask him how I can help fix it, he says he doesn't know. I want to apologize because I think it is me, but he says it's not. I ask what it is, and he says he doesn't know. I try to give him space about it.

Last night he said we should take a break. We discussed why. He said he didn't know and that he just had a feeling that something was off. We talked a little more and I left.

We texted a little today. I brought up fond memories and how I will miss him. I'll be in the North Carolina mountains next week and suggested we do not communicate and discuss when I get back. He agreed.

What are your thoughts?

Ok. So follow through with your suggestion. Don’t communicate and discuss when you get back.

You can’t fix people. You have Virgo in your chart somewhere?

Can you post your chart, his chart, and the degrees?

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His chart:

Sun- Gemini-Cancer cusp

Moon- Pisces

Mercury- Cancer

Venus- Cancer

Mars- Taurus

Jupiter- Virgo

Saturn- Aquarius

Uranus- Capricorn

Neptune- Capricorn

Pluto- Scorpio

Lilith- Aquarius

N Node- Capricorn

My chart:

Sun- Pisces-Aries cusp

Moon- Libra

Mercury- Aries

Venus- Aries

Mars- Virgo

Jupiter- Aquarius

Saturn- Aries

Uranus- Aquarius

Neptune- Capricorn

Pluto- Sagittarius

Lilith- Virgo

N Node- Virgo

Posted by alexscaries

If you take a break and go back what does that say about him or you? A break for me means it is over.

I really don't know. Him and I have never been in any other relationship before.

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Posted by LadyNeptune

Are you still withholding sex?

No!

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Just take him at his word that he is busy with work. He is a doctor he is dealing with death and illness and that's gotta be depressive and heavy af.

Its a mistake to internalize his moods as your fault. Its an even bigger mistake to make it about you and have him assure you that it's not about you. Not helpful. And probably why he is asking for a break cause he feels guilty his moods are now negatively affecting you.

If you see yourself being with this person long term you need to come up with a strategy to deal with his moods. Give him space, don't take it personally, be ok with not having his full attention.

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If you take a break and go back what does that say about him or you? A break for me means it is over.

I really don't know. Him and I have never been in any other relationship before.

Ultimately it's down to you. Sounds like you are still friends, but I don't know why someone would need long break. Fair enough if it's a few weeks because they need to be alone.

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I will be in the North Carolina mountains with no service and a stack novels. It worked out well to be forced to distance.

If you’re a pushy type of Aries, be careful as that may piss him off and drive him further back into his shell.

Im talking from experience ...

I'm pisces aries cusp also with a gemini cancer cusp with a cancer mercury.

Your dude has a lot of cancer energy tho.

My guy can sometimes be moody, but so can I. We both value having some space and solo time. Recharge our batteries after the work day and commute.

One of the greatest parts of a solid relationship, imo, is when you can be cuddled up in the same space but not need to fill the silence. Just be doing your own thing and its comfortable vibes.

Since this is your first real relationship, for both of you, expectations seem a little unrealistic. No one can be 100% happy and 'on' all the time. And that's ok! You want to see your partner at their worst. That's when you know whether this thing is gonna last.

Posted by MyStarsShine

If you’re a pushy type of Aries, be careful as that may piss him off and drive him further back into his shell.

Im talking from experience ...

I don't think I'm a pushy Aries. He is more nurturing, I am not.

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Posted by newtothis

I've been seeing this Cancer man since early December (Aries Male here).

This is both our first ever relationship.

Have you considered that maybe he's having problems coming to terms with his sexuality?

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That is more me than him tbh. I am a few years younger.

Posted by LadyNeptune

I'm pisces aries cusp also with a gemini cancer cusp with a cancer mercury.

Your dude has a lot of cancer energy tho.

My guy can sometimes be moody, but so can I. We both value having some space and solo time. Recharge our batteries after the work day and commute.

One of the greatest parts of a solid relationship, imo, is when you can be cuddled up in the same space but not need to fill the silence. Just be doing your own thing and its comfortable vibes.

Since this is your first real relationship, for both of you, expectations seem a little unrealistic. No one can be 100% happy and 'on' all the time. And that's ok! You want to see your partner at their worst. That's when you know whether this thing is gonna last.

Very true. Also thing that both of us work 60+ hour weeks most of the time. We can really only see each other twice or three times a week.

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Posted by MyStarsShine

If you’re a pushy type of Aries, be careful as that may piss him off and drive him further back into his shell.

Im talking from experience ...

I don't think I'm a pushy Aries. He is more nurturing, I am not.

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Where are both your moons?

Edit...sorry just saw Pisces and Libra and you’ve no Water?

Very different emotional approaches

Moons- His is Pisces, Mine is Libra

We have had long talks about it. Both of our parents do not know.

I don’t have anything constructive to add except that he’s annoying. 😒

No solid reason, he’s just bored or what?

Does he have a case of FOMO?

Ugh 😑

See why I detach so easily? It would’ve been✌️ For me.

Posted by saggurl88

I don’t have anything constructive to add except that he’s annoying. 😒

No solid reason, he’s just bored or what?

Does he have a case of FOMO?

Ugh 😑

See why I detach so easily? It would’ve been✌️ For me.

He said something felt off and it was all him. I asked him if there is anything I need to work on and he said no.

Posted by Krabss

Posted by MyStarsShine

If you’re a pushy type of Aries, be careful as that may piss him off and drive him further back into his shell.

Im talking from experience ...

i just wanted to say the same thing.

aries can be overwhelming for a cancer, if you professed undying love and such...

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It really can be for Water placements in general ...

Posted by Krabss

ladyneptune is spot on, talking in the name of cancers. but one thing worries me. that he doesn't know or he doesn't want to tell you what is off. don't blame yourself.

not the topic but working 60h+ is fucking insane. unless you see your job as a fun thing to do.

That is the life. You just have to grind and enjoy life.

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Posted by Krabss

Posted by MyStarsShine

If you’re a pushy type of Aries, be careful as that may piss him off and drive him further back into his shell.

Im talking from experience ...

i just wanted to say the same thing.

aries can be overwhelming for a cancer, if you professed undying love and such...

It really can be for Water placements in general ...

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I have a lot of Virgo placements, too. Apparently I have Virgo energy from people who meet me.

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I don’t have anything constructive to add except that he’s annoying. 😒

No solid reason, he’s just bored or what?

Does he have a case of FOMO?

Ugh 😑

See why I detach so easily? It would’ve been✌️ For me.

He said something felt off and it was all him. I asked him if there is anything I need to work on and he said no.

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Smh. This is too wishy washy for me.

Hopefully he misses you while you are gone.

Maybe you don’t treat him like shit enough. Cancers love to be treated poorly 😅😂 You must be too nice 🤣

Don’t mind me. I can’t stand the indecisiveness.

A month earlier and it was all good and now something is off? 🗑

At least as an Aries you will try all avenues and fight for it. I applaud it, so good luck and hopefully it works out to your benefit.

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Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by Krabss

Posted by MyStarsShine

If you’re a pushy type of Aries, be careful as that may piss him off and drive him further back into his shell.

Im talking from experience ...

i just wanted to say the same thing.

aries can be overwhelming for a cancer, if you professed undying love and such...

It really can be for Water placements in general ...

I have a lot of Virgo placements, too. Apparently I have Virgo energy from people who meet me.

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Just Mars and N node?

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I don’t have anything constructive to add except that he’s annoying. 😒

No solid reason, he’s just bored or what?

Does he have a case of FOMO?

Ugh 😑

See why I detach so easily? It would’ve been✌️ For me.

He said something felt off and it was all him. I asked him if there is anything I need to work on and he said no.

Smh. This is too wishy washy for me.

Hopefully he misses you while you are gone.

Maybe you don’t treat him like shit enough. Cancers love to be treated poorly 😅😂 You must be too nice 🤣

Don’t mind me. I can’t stand the indecisiveness.

A month earlier and it was all good and now something is off? 🗑

At least as an Aries you will try all avenues and fight for it. I applaud it, so good luck and hopefully it works out to your benefit.

lol

no we don't! to be treated poorly. but when someone is too nice, welcome paranoia.

the "i don't know, something is off" annoys me too.

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You guys need something to make you dote on a person. He needs to pretend like he’s mad or something 😜

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I don’t have anything constructive to add except that he’s annoying. 😒

No solid reason, he’s just bored or what?

Does he have a case of FOMO?

Ugh 😑

See why I detach so easily? It would’ve been✌️ For me.

He said something felt off and it was all him. I asked him if there is anything I need to work on and he said no.

Smh. This is too wishy washy for me.

Hopefully he misses you while you are gone.

Maybe you don’t treat him like shit enough. Cancers love to be treated poorly 😅😂 You must be too nice 🤣

Don’t mind me. I can’t stand the indecisiveness.

A month earlier and it was all good and now something is off? 🗑

At least as an Aries you will try all avenues and fight for it. I applaud it, so good luck and hopefully it works out to your benefit.

lol

no we don't! to be treated poorly. but when someone is too nice, welcome paranoia.

the "i don't know, something is off" annoys me too.

Ironically I know of two cancer men who do weird things to get with a woman. One cleaned out the roofing gutters AFAIK went nowhere, another made bullshit excuses to stay the night about not being able to get transport home - went nowhere.

That to me is creeping behaviour. Not saying all Cancers are like that.

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They are all like this. And then when you don’t appreciate their efforts they get pissed 🤣🤣

It’s the side stepping behavior. But they have a great knack for knowing practical things that a person needs. I actually like that about them. Super giving for no reason at all, just because they want to.

I would love this sweetness with out all the attitude.

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I don’t have anything constructive to add except that he’s annoying. 😒

No solid reason, he’s just bored or what?

Does he have a case of FOMO?

Ugh 😑

See why I detach so easily? It would’ve been✌️ For me.

He said something felt off and it was all him. I asked him if there is anything I need to work on and he said no.

Smh. This is too wishy washy for me.

Hopefully he misses you while you are gone.

Maybe you don’t treat him like shit enough. Cancers love to be treated poorly 😅😂 You must be too nice 🤣

Don’t mind me. I can’t stand the indecisiveness.

A month earlier and it was all good and now something is off? 🗑

At least as an Aries you will try all avenues and fight for it. I applaud it, so good luck and hopefully it works out to your benefit.

lol

no we don't! to be treated poorly. but when someone is too nice, welcome paranoia.

the "i don't know, something is off" annoys me too.

Ironically I know of two cancer men who do weird things to get with a woman. One cleaned out the roofing gutters AFAIK went nowhere, another made bullshit excuses to stay the night about not being able to get transport home - went nowhere.

That to me is creeping behaviour. Not saying all Cancers are like that.

They are all like this. And then when you don’t appreciate their efforts they get pissed 🤣🤣

It’s the side stepping behavior. But they have a great knack for knowing practical things that a person needs. I actually like that about them. Super giving for no reason at all, just because they want to.

I would love this sweetness with out all the attitude.

Doing favours with the sole purpose to get in a woman's pants doesn't sit right with me.

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I think it’s the way they flirt. There’s a friendliness about it. I like it. It’s not in your face or gross. There’s an innocence that is attractive to me. It’s almost refreshing.

Most women know what a guy wants at the end of the day. Cancers will brush up on you close, while they are doing this type of thing, so women shouldn’t be completely caught off guard.

Or you can just act dumb and give him a honey do list and see how much stuff gets done, while he pretends to be your friend 😜

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I don’t have anything constructive to add except that he’s annoying. 😒

No solid reason, he’s just bored or what?

Does he have a case of FOMO?

Ugh 😑

See why I detach so easily? It would’ve been✌️ For me.

He said something felt off and it was all him. I asked him if there is anything I need to work on and he said no.

Smh. This is too wishy washy for me.

Hopefully he misses you while you are gone.

Maybe you don’t treat him like shit enough. Cancers love to be treated poorly 😅😂 You must be too nice 🤣

Don’t mind me. I can’t stand the indecisiveness.

A month earlier and it was all good and now something is off? 🗑

At least as an Aries you will try all avenues and fight for it. I applaud it, so good luck and hopefully it works out to your benefit.

lol

no we don't! to be treated poorly. but when someone is too nice, welcome paranoia.

the "i don't know, something is off" annoys me too.

Ironically I know of two cancer men who do weird things to get with a woman. One cleaned out the roofing gutters AFAIK went nowhere, another made bullshit excuses to stay the night about not being able to get transport home - went nowhere.

That to me is creeping behaviour. Not saying all Cancers are like that.

They are all like this. And then when you don’t appreciate their efforts they get pissed 🤣🤣

It’s the side stepping behavior. But they have a great knack for knowing practical things that a person needs. I actually like that about them. Super giving for no reason at all, just because they want to.

I would love this sweetness with out all the attitude.

Doing favours with the sole purpose to get in a woman's pants doesn't sit right with me.

I think it’s the way they flirt. There’s a friendliness about it. I like it. It’s not in your face or gross. There’s an innocence that is attractive to me. It’s almost refreshing.

Most women know what a guy wants at the end of the day. Cancers will brush up on you close, while they are doing this type of thing, so women shouldn’t be completely caught off guard.

Or you can just act dumb and give him a honey do list and see how much stuff gets done, while he pretends to be your friend 😜

I'm adding an extra layer of complexity to this, but the issue is if the woman is lonely or has issues with boundaries then it doesn't seem fair or even honest. To me it feels like the opposite of innocence, but I'm basing it on these two guys.

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Well of course. But as you said, it didn’t go anywhere.

Anyone being taken advantage of is poor behavior on the predators part. But that happens with any sign.

A guy that has to fake that he doesn’t have a ride home has no game anyways. Lol.

These type of guys rarely get far, unless there is a women who is actually interested and thinks it’s endearing or they are desperate and just don’t care.

There’s all types in this world 🌍

Sorry OP. I told you I didn’t have anything useful to offer and my derailment proves it.

Sorry again babes 🥰🥰😘😘😘

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I'm pisces aries cusp also with a gemini cancer cusp with a cancer mercury.

Your dude has a lot of cancer energy tho.

My guy can sometimes be moody, but so can I. We both value having some space and solo time. Recharge our batteries after the work day and commute.

One of the greatest parts of a solid relationship, imo, is when you can be cuddled up in the same space but not need to fill the silence. Just be doing your own thing and its comfortable vibes.

Since this is your first real relationship, for both of you, expectations seem a little unrealistic. No one can be 100% happy and 'on' all the time. And that's ok! You want to see your partner at their worst. That's when you know whether this thing is gonna last.

Very true. Also thing that both of us work 60+ hour weeks most of the time. We can really only see each other twice or three times a week.

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We went through the same thing. Both working crazy long hours to build our careers plus commuting to see each other.

What saved us was having every Sunday as our day. Making sure we got some quality time together, phones down.

Re frame it in your mind as a positive. You don’t get to see each other much which means the spark won’t burn out. Your not gonna get tired of always being around him. You get to look forward all week to when you get to see each other. If this is someone who you see long term potential your not exhausting every topic and getting bored because you have time to miss each other.

Bonus points for both being in demanding career paths so you can empathize about being workaholics and having limited time. You have that built in understanding because you are experiencing a similar schedule.

I wish someone would tell me that they needed a break.

I will give you the longest break in history.

Dead to me

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I don’t have anything constructive to add except that he’s annoying. 😒

No solid reason, he’s just bored or what?

Does he have a case of FOMO?

Ugh 😑

See why I detach so easily? It would’ve been✌️ For me.

He said something felt off and it was all him. I asked him if there is anything I need to work on and he said no.

Smh. This is too wishy washy for me.

Hopefully he misses you while you are gone.

Maybe you don’t treat him like shit enough. Cancers love to be treated poorly 😅😂 You must be too nice 🤣

Don’t mind me. I can’t stand the indecisiveness.

A month earlier and it was all good and now something is off? 🗑

At least as an Aries you will try all avenues and fight for it. I applaud it, so good luck and hopefully it works out to your benefit.

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no we don't! to be treated poorly. but when someone is too nice, welcome paranoia.

the "i don't know, something is off" annoys me too.

You guys need something to make you dote on a person. He needs to pretend like he’s mad or something 😜

i tried to find the meaning of the word "dote" and got contradicting results. maybe one day i will learn the language.

idk i think i'm really an evolved person lmao - this sounds so bad. one thing i did learn, i know what is wrong and i will tell you. but thinking, back then, 20yo or more, it was very hard to do it. and plus this is a specific situation. i don't think the cancer is out.

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Doting is being nurturing. One who takes care of all your needs with lots of love and attention.

I know cancers speak their mind and have no problem telling someone what bothers them. That’s a great quality as a cancer sun. Having a cancer moon is like the opposite for me. I just hide and hope the issue goes away in its own 😅

Im mostly just teasing your sign based on what I noticed in the cancers around me. It’s all generalized and generic. Don’t take it too personally. I’m just instigating 😅😇

Thanks for all the replies. I have time to think about it. I need to analyze all the angles and possible scenarios, both long and short term. Not good to make drastic decisions emotionally.

He has a feeling something is off. Sounds like he doesn’t think you two are a match romantically. Unfortunately that happens. Don’t take it personally.

I don’t like Pisces moon on males… especially if it’s a Gemini or Cancer sun (I don’t believe in cusps). Plus he has a Cancer Venus! I don’t like Libra moons and Aries venuses either but let’s focus on him. I don’t think I like anything on his chart... nor yours… definitely would’ve bailed on someone if I pulled up a chart like that. I know I hate how astrologically discriminating I am which is why I’ve banned myself in drawing up charts. BUT, I always encourage people in law and medical fields to date amongst each other. There usually is more understanding of each other’s demanding careers.

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I don’t have anything constructive to add except that he’s annoying. 😒

No solid reason, he’s just bored or what?

Does he have a case of FOMO?

Ugh 😑

See why I detach so easily? It would’ve been✌️ For me.

He said something felt off and it was all him. I asked him if there is anything I need to work on and he said no.

Smh. This is too wishy washy for me.

Hopefully he misses you while you are gone.

Maybe you don’t treat him like shit enough. Cancers love to be treated poorly 😅😂 You must be too nice 🤣

Don’t mind me. I can’t stand the indecisiveness.

A month earlier and it was all good and now something is off? 🗑

At least as an Aries you will try all avenues and fight for it. I applaud it, so good luck and hopefully it works out to your benefit.

lol

no we don't! to be treated poorly. but when someone is too nice, welcome paranoia.

the "i don't know, something is off" annoys me too.

Ironically I know of two cancer men who do weird things to get with a woman. One cleaned out the roofing gutters AFAIK went nowhere, another made bullshit excuses to stay the night about not being able to get transport home - went nowhere.

That to me is creeping behaviour. Not saying all Cancers are like that.

They are all like this. And then when you don’t appreciate their efforts they get pissed 🤣🤣

It’s the side stepping behavior. But they have a great knack for knowing practical things that a person needs. I actually like that about them. Super giving for no reason at all, just because they want to.

I would love this sweetness with out all the attitude.

Doing favours with the sole purpose to get in a woman's pants doesn't sit right with me.

I think it’s the way they flirt. There’s a friendliness about it. I like it. It’s not in your face or gross. There’s an innocence that is attractive to me. It’s almost refreshing.

Most women know what a guy wants at the end of the day. Cancers will brush up on you close, while they are doing this type of thing, so women shouldn’t be completely caught off guard.

Or you can just act dumb and give him a honey do list and see how much stuff gets done, while he pretends to be your friend 😜

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I know a Leo like this. Then he gets mad when the woman takes advantage.. 😂😂 I told him it’s his own fault. I, by the way, refuse to let him do things for me. I had dated him for 4 months, broke up with him & now we are so-called friends lol. So not just cancers.

Thank you.

I thought it was going well and we compatible. I am more romantic than him for sure. I want to text him today but understand it is not right to do so.

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Thanks for all the replies. I have time to think about it. I need to analyze all the angles and possible scenarios, both long and short term. Not good to make drastic decisions emotionally.

What about not thinking at all? Not analyzing.

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That would be nice. My brain does not turn off.

Anyway, I think I messed up. He had a presentation on Tuesday and I sent him a pic of me in the mountains and said "I hope your presentation goes well." He said thanks and have fun.

I said "will do and I hope you do not think I am overstepping your boundaries." No reply.

You should have stopped at “will do”

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Thanks for all the replies. I have time to think about it. I need to analyze all the angles and possible scenarios, both long and short term. Not good to make drastic decisions emotionally.

What about not thinking at all? Not analyzing.

That would be nice. My brain does not turn off.

Anyway, I think I messed up. He had a presentation on Tuesday and I sent him a pic of me in the mountains and said "I hope your presentation goes well." He said thanks and have fun.

I said "will do and I hope you do not think I am overstepping your boundaries." No reply.

Don't waste your time. A relationship shouldn't feel like you can't say anything.

this is true as well. don't like that this is dragging for so long.

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It is official. We sat and talk for about thirty minutes dissecting everything. I started crying. He did not.

He said he would not think it would be wise to see each other at all. I think he saw how much he hurt me though.

I'm devastated and heartbroken.

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It is official. We sat and talk for about thirty minutes dissecting everything. I started crying. He did not.

He said he would not think it would be wise to see each other at all. I think he saw how much he hurt me though.

I'm devastated and heartbroken.

With your birthday right around the corner, feel what you must now but don’t ruminate on this for much longer even if your heart is hurting. Like Frank Sinatra voiced in “That’s Life” you can be riding high one month, literally or metaphorically shot down the next. As long you’re still breathing you can always find the road again.

Your season is the real start of the new year in my eyes, dust yourself off and keep it pushing.

I’m really sorry. Fkn shit hurts! I had to go back to your first post. “I have noticed he gets into moods sometimes. That's fine, but when I ask him how I can help fix it, he says he doesn't know. “

He didn’t know because he didn’t want to know. Dude was checked out way before that comment and probably wondering how to tell you. As much as you tried to believe and get on the same page, he was not feeling it for whatever reason.

Cancers usually come back around but do some real work on yourself in the meantime. Don’t mold yourself to what you think he wants. Let yourself feel it and then let it make you stronger and more available to the right person. And ffs don’t wait for him!

Your Aries Venus makes you want to fight for it. Don’t.

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Thanks for all the replies. I have time to think about it. I need to analyze all the angles and possible scenarios, both long and short term. Not good to make drastic decisions emotionally.

What about not thinking at all? Not analyzing.

That would be nice. My brain does not turn off.

Anyway, I think I messed up. He had a presentation on Tuesday and I sent him a pic of me in the mountains and said "I hope your presentation goes well." He said thanks and have fun.

I said "will do and I hope you do not think I am overstepping your boundaries." No reply.

Don't waste your time. A relationship shouldn't feel like you can't say anything.

this is true as well. don't like that this is dragging for so long.

It is official. We sat and talk for about thirty minutes dissecting everything. I started crying. He did not.

He said he would not think it would be wise to see each other at all. I think he saw how much he hurt me though.

I'm devastated and heartbroken.

I'm so sorry 😢 hugs.

Did you understand why?

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No, I do not. He kept saying I did nothing wrong and it was his moods, work schedule, and tiredness.

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I’m really sorry. Fkn shit hurts! I had to go back to your first post. “I have noticed he gets into moods sometimes. That's fine, but when I ask him how I can help fix it, he says he doesn't know. “

He didn’t know because he didn’t want to know. Dude was checked out way before that comment and probably wondering how to tell you. As much as you tried to believe and get on the same page, he was not feeling it for whatever reason.

Cancers usually come back around but do some real work on yourself in the meantime. Don’t mold yourself to what you think he wants. Let yourself feel it and then let it make you stronger and more available to the right person. And ffs don’t wait for him!

I won't be dating anyone for a long time. I might reach out to him in late May or June.

I will probably just watch old shows that make me think of my family and good memories- Murder, She Wrote comes to mind.

I'm a pathetic man lol

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I’m really sorry. Fkn shit hurts! I had to go back to your first post. “I have noticed he gets into moods sometimes. That's fine, but when I ask him how I can help fix it, he says he doesn't know. “

He didn’t know because he didn’t want to know. Dude was checked out way before that comment and probably wondering how to tell you. As much as you tried to believe and get on the same page, he was not feeling it for whatever reason.

Cancers usually come back around but do some real work on yourself in the meantime. Don’t mold yourself to what you think he wants. Let yourself feel it and then let it make you stronger and more available to the right person. And ffs don’t wait for him!

I won't be dating anyone for a long time. I might reach out to him in late May or June.

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Why prolong the agony?

Why reach out?