@malloryor
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he didn't keep his promise.. I guess it's over? (Page 2)
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Aww yayy! See he wasn't avoiding you to hurt you, he just has a lot going on. Glad to see he is making time for you 🙂
yeah he has a lot going on, I guess I will talk to him regarding how he likes to handle our communications as I want to find a middle point that is good for us both.
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Or maybe he is just avoiding the issue because he wants you to plan a surprise for him.Or he is avoiding the issue because he as a fuck fest planned with his homeboys
Illminati whats your sign?
Your fellow Virgo
Damn you are I thought you were a Cancer. Haha
Lol why?
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No reason hello fellow earth alien.
Allo bull girl
Aww yayy! See he wasn't avoiding you to hurt you, he just has a lot going on. Glad to see he is making time for you 🙂
yeah he has a lot going on, I guess I will talk to him regarding how he likes to handle our communications as I want to find a middle point that is good for us both.
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That is fair but (and this is ONLY based on this little thread) maybe it is more of a matter of you relaxing and not expecting the worst.
I say this because he did not disaapear for a week or more AND he did stay in touch via text telling you of how situation.
I think he was pretty communicative with you, just not available when you wanted him to be.
Ok let us know when he's not at the restaurant yet.
Yea I tend to overthink things, I do know things can get busy. However I feel like if someone is serious about you they would be excited to talk about when can they see you (even if its not often) instead of telling you what project they on to suggest why can't they see you.
no I haven't book a restuarnat for him. I'm going to bake his favorite dessert then resemble everything at his place. We worked out a time to meet. I asked him to meet me at the station closest to him, as I need his help to carry it. He doens't know what it is yet, its a surprise. No reply.
Sent him a sexy midnight birthday wish, No reply. I know he was online at like 2 am ...
I have a few friends who just had their birthday this week. Text them happy birthday and all responded in less than 5 minutes... just saying I feel like he doesn't even see me as a friend..
Tell him.
Whether or not this specific incident is a problem is completely up to you, OP.
Posted by kissmygrits
Tell him.
tell him what?
Posted by Poppyseeds
@malloryor @kissmygritsYea I tend to overthink things, I do know things can get busy. However I feel like if someone is serious about you they would be excited to talk about when can they see you (even if its not often) instead of telling you what project they on to suggest why can't they see you.
no I haven't book a restuarnat for him. I'm going to bake his favorite dessert then resemble everything at his place. We worked out a time to meet. I asked him to meet me at the station closest to him, as I need his help to carry it. He doens't know what it is yet, its a surprise. No reply.
Sent him a sexy midnight birthday wish, No reply. I know he was online at like 2 am ...
I have a few friends who just had their birthday this week. Text them happy birthday and all responded in less than 5 minutes... just saying I feel like he doesn't even see me as a friend..
How long have you been exclusive? Does he know you are exclusive? i.e. did he tell you or ask to be mutually exclusive to one another?
Posted by Poppyseeds
@malloryor @kissmygritsYea I tend to overthink things, I do know things can get busy. However I feel like if someone is serious about you they would be excited to talk about when can they see you (even if its not often) instead of telling you what project they on to suggest why can't they see you.
no I haven't book a restuarnat for him. I'm going to bake his favorite dessert then resemble everything at his place. We worked out a time to meet. I asked him to meet me at the station closest to him, as I need his help to carry it. He doens't know what it is yet, its a surprise. No reply.
Sent him a sexy midnight birthday wish, No reply. I know he was online at like 2 am ...
I have a few friends who just had their birthday this week. Text them happy birthday and all responded in less than 5 minutes... just saying I feel like he doesn't even see me as a friend..
How long have you been exclusive? Does he know you are exclusive? i.e. did he tell you or ask to be mutually exclusive to one another?
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been dating for 3 months, and last month we brought up the topic about if we are seeing others. he said he has been celebate since Jan. and he is not seeing others. then he asked about me. I told him I'm the same.
he added we both have serious intention and we are not seeing others. perhaps I should ask him again?
Posted by kissmygrits
Tell him.tell him what?
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Your fears, dreams, assumptions etc. I thought you guys were exclusively dating.
Posted by kissmygrits
Tell him.tell him what?
Your fears, dreams, assumptions etc. I thought you guys were exclusively dating.
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definitely will talk to him about it, as now I have guys asking me out and I told them the situation. so he can help me with the answer so I know if I'm actually free to date others.
Posted by kissmygrits
Tell him.tell him what?
Your fears, dreams, assumptions etc. I thought you guys were exclusively dating.
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with the things he said to me I thought we are too, but now I will ask him again
Deep breath and relax
Posted by Poppyseeds
@malloryor @kissmygritsYea I tend to overthink things, I do know things can get busy. However I feel like if someone is serious about you they would be excited to talk about when can they see you (even if its not often) instead of telling you what project they on to suggest why can't they see you.
no I haven't book a restuarnat for him. I'm going to bake his favorite dessert then resemble everything at his place. We worked out a time to meet. I asked him to meet me at the station closest to him, as I need his help to carry it. He doens't know what it is yet, its a surprise. No reply.
Sent him a sexy midnight birthday wish, No reply. I know he was online at like 2 am ...
I have a few friends who just had their birthday this week. Text them happy birthday and all responded in less than 5 minutes... just saying I feel like he doesn't even see me as a friend..
How long have you been exclusive? Does he know you are exclusive? i.e. did he tell you or ask to be mutually exclusive to one another?
been dating for 3 months, and last month we brought up the topic about if we are seeing others. he said he has been celebate since Jan. and he is not seeing others. then he asked about me. I told him I'm the same.
he added we both have serious intention and we are not seeing others. perhaps I should ask him again?
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No, do not ask him again if he said VERY CLEARLY and DIRECTLY that he is committed to you (or at least only wishes to be exclusive to you) and you to him.
If he just casually said you happened to be the only lady he was dating, that does not mean nevessarily you two are exclusive.
If he mentioned about serious intention and you are with each other only I can't see any problem.
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
Posted by Andalusia
Or maybe he is just avoiding the issue because he wants you to plan a surprise for him.Or he is avoiding the issue because he as a fuck fest planned with his homeboys
Illminati whats your sign?
Your fellow Virgo
Damn you are I thought you were a Cancer. Haha
lol me too, they do both have ways that seem complex but simple to themselves
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I'm not complex at all. Lol
my god, what a headache. why don't you spend that energy on something useful? like growing a business or something
It's mind numbing isn't it. 7 pages of this fuckery.
Posted by Poppyseeds
I do know things can get busy. However I feel like if someone is serious about you they would be excited to talk about when can they see you (even if its not often) instead of telling you what project they on to suggest why can't they see you.
You say that you understand that he's busy. But you really don't. You don't pass on any empathy to his situation, just bitch and moan that he isn't catering to you.
It's all about you, ALWAYS.
Here's a thought... why don't you try to be interested in his work? He's trying to share this important part of his life with you. But instead of engaging with him in the moment your all upset that he's not prioritizing you (some chick he's barely known for 3 months) over his job (the thing that puts a roof over his head and food in his mouth, and yours!).
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Somebody wished their virgo liked their stubborn shell butt this much and is in their feels again 🙂
+1
Posted by Poppyseeds
I do know things can get busy. However I feel like if someone is serious about you they would be excited to talk about when can they see you (even if its not often) instead of telling you what project they on to suggest why can't they see you.You say that you understand that he's busy. But you really don't. You don't pass on any empathy to his situation, just bitch and moan that he isn't catering to you.
It's all about you, ALWAYS.
Here's a thought... why don't you try to be interested in his work? He's trying to share this important part of his life with you. But instead of engaging with him in the moment your all upset that he's not prioritizing you (some chick he's barely known for 3 months) over his job (the thing that puts a roof over his head and food in his mouth, and yours!).
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Pisces martyr spirit. Take notes people. You must know poppy really well to suggest she is relying on him financially?
Posted by Poppyseeds
I do know things can get busy. However I feel like if someone is serious about you they would be excited to talk about when can they see you (even if its not often) instead of telling you what project they on to suggest why can't they see you.You say that you understand that he's busy. But you really don't. You don't pass on any empathy to his situation, just bitch and moan that he isn't catering to you.
It's all about you, ALWAYS.
Here's a thought... why don't you try to be interested in his work? He's trying to share this important part of his life with you. But instead of engaging with him in the moment your all upset that he's not prioritizing you (some chick he's barely known for 3 months) over his job (the thing that puts a roof over his head and food in his mouth, and yours!).
Pisces martyr spirit. Take notes people. You must know poppy really well to suggest she is relying on him financially?
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Lmao, where did I say relying financially?!
I only point out that he's put food in her mouth. I know because she's made 1 million threads on every minute they've spent together, all the dates they've gone on, and every meal they've eaten together.
Also if I had a martyr spirit I'd be pandering to her fuckery like you are. I'm doing the opposite here.
Posted by Poppyseeds
I do know things can get busy. However I feel like if someone is serious about you they would be excited to talk about when can they see you (even if its not often) instead of telling you what project they on to suggest why can't they see you.You say that you understand that he's busy. But you really don't. You don't pass on any empathy to his situation, just bitch and moan that he isn't catering to you.
It's all about you, ALWAYS.
Here's a thought... why don't you try to be interested in his work? He's trying to share this important part of his life with you. But instead of engaging with him in the moment your all upset that he's not prioritizing you (some chick he's barely known for 3 months) over his job (the thing that puts a roof over his head and food in his mouth, and yours!).
Pisces martyr spirit. Take notes people. You must know poppy really well to suggest she is relying on him financially?
Lmao, where did I say relying financially?!
I only point out that he's put food in her mouth. I know because she's made 1 million threads on every minute they've spent together, all the dates they've gone on, and every meal they've eaten together.
Also if I had a martyr spirit I'd be pandering to her fuckery like you are. I'm doing the opposite here.
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I'm awesome like that what can I say. That's how I deal with people like you.
Bottom line is he is busy, she is busy, we all make time for what's important.
op don't listen to those who never really read your list before they open their big mouth.
talk to him and if he's not stepping up just give him the flick.
Posted by Poppyseeds
I do know things can get busy. However I feel like if someone is serious about you they would be excited to talk about when can they see you (even if its not often) instead of telling you what project they on to suggest why can't they see you.You say that you understand that he's busy. But you really don't. You don't pass on any empathy to his situation, just bitch and moan that he isn't catering to you.
It's all about you, ALWAYS.
Here's a thought... why don't you try to be interested in his work? He's trying to share this important part of his life with you. But instead of engaging with him in the moment your all upset that he's not prioritizing you (some chick he's barely known for 3 months) over his job (the thing that puts a roof over his head and food in his mouth, and yours!).
Pisces martyr spirit. Take notes people. You must know poppy really well to suggest she is relying on him financially?
Lmao, where did I say relying financially?!
I only point out that he's put food in her mouth. I know because she's made 1 million threads on every minute they've spent together, all the dates they've gone on, and every meal they've eaten together.
Also if I had a martyr spirit I'd be pandering to her fuckery like you are. I'm doing the opposite here.
I'm awesome like that what can I say. That's how I deal with people like you.
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Lol 'deal with me'. As if I'm antagonizing you. Right.
You read my post that was not directed towards you and got involved. Your just proving how self absorbed Virgo's can be. Carry on.
God... Dont u get it? Get off his back already
Posted by Poppyseeds
I do know things can get busy. However I feel like if someone is serious about you they would be excited to talk about when can they see you (even if its not often) instead of telling you what project they on to suggest why can't they see you.You say that you understand that he's busy. But you really don't. You don't pass on any empathy to his situation, just bitch and moan that he isn't catering to you.
It's all about you, ALWAYS.
Here's a thought... why don't you try to be interested in his work? He's trying to share this important part of his life with you. But instead of engaging with him in the moment your all upset that he's not prioritizing you (some chick he's barely known for 3 months) over his job (the thing that puts a roof over his head and food in his mouth, and yours!).
Pisces martyr spirit. Take notes people. You must know poppy really well to suggest she is relying on him financially?
Lmao, where did I say relying financially?!
I only point out that he's put food in her mouth. I know because she's made 1 million threads on every minute they've spent together, all the dates they've gone on, and every meal they've eaten together.
Also if I had a martyr spirit I'd be pandering to her fuckery like you are. I'm doing the opposite here.
I'm awesome like that what can I say. That's how I deal with people like you.
Lol 'deal with me'. As if I'm antagonizing you. Right.
You read my post that was not directed towards you and got involved. Your just proving how self absorbed Virgo's can be. Carry on.
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If you don't wAnt anyone to get involve don't post anything in public.
Posted by Arielle83
Wow this thread is toxic af.Filled with bitterness regarding something that is so petty.
Where have you been?
Posted by Poppyseeds
I do know things can get busy. However I feel like if someone is serious about you they would be excited to talk about when can they see you (even if its not often) instead of telling you what project they on to suggest why can't they see you.You say that you understand that he's busy. But you really don't. You don't pass on any empathy to his situation, just bitch and moan that he isn't catering to you.
It's all about you, ALWAYS.
Here's a thought... why don't you try to be interested in his work? He's trying to share this important part of his life with you. But instead of engaging with him in the moment your all upset that he's not prioritizing you (some chick he's barely known for 3 months) over his job (the thing that puts a roof over his head and food in his mouth, and yours!).
Pisces martyr spirit. Take notes people. You must know poppy really well to suggest she is relying on him financially?
Lmao, where did I say relying financially?!
I only point out that he's put food in her mouth. I know because she's made 1 million threads on every minute they've spent together, all the dates they've gone on, and every meal they've eaten together.
Also if I had a martyr spirit I'd be pandering to her fuckery like you are. I'm doing the opposite here.
I'm awesome like that what can I say. That's how I deal with people like you.
Lol 'deal with me'. As if I'm antagonizing you. Right.
You read my post that was not directed towards you and got involved. Your just proving how self absorbed Virgo's can be. Carry on.
If you don't wAnt anyone to get involve don't post anything in public.
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Again where did I imply that I didn't want 'anyone to get involved'? Did you seriously not get it when I said "carry on".
I guess we can add purposefully dense to your growing list of winning characteristics.
This is starting to get amusing.
Posted by Poppyseeds
I do know things can get busy. However I feel like if someone is serious about you they would be excited to talk about when can they see you (even if its not often) instead of telling you what project they on to suggest why can't they see you.You say that you understand that he's busy. But you really don't. You don't pass on any empathy to his situation, just bitch and moan that he isn't catering to you.
It's all about you, ALWAYS.
Here's a thought... why don't you try to be interested in his work? He's trying to share this important part of his life with you. But instead of engaging with him in the moment your all upset that he's not prioritizing you (some chick he's barely known for 3 months) over his job (the thing that puts a roof over his head and food in his mouth, and yours!).
Pisces martyr spirit. Take notes people. You must know poppy really well to suggest she is relying on him financially?
Lmao, where did I say relying financially?!
I only point out that he's put food in her mouth. I know because she's made 1 million threads on every minute they've spent together, all the dates they've gone on, and every meal they've eaten together.
Also if I had a martyr spirit I'd be pandering to her fuckery like you are. I'm doing the opposite here.
I'm awesome like that what can I say. That's how I deal with people like you.
Lol 'deal with me'. As if I'm antagonizing you. Right.
You read my post that was not directed towards you and got involved. Your just proving how self absorbed Virgo's can be. Carry on.
If you don't wAnt anyone to get involve don't post anything in public.
Again where did I imply that I didn't want 'anyone to get involved'? Did you seriously not get it when I said "carry on".
I guess we can add purposefully dense to your growing list of winning characteristics.
This is starting to get amusing.
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Pfft
Posted by Poppyseeds
I do know things can get busy. However I feel like if someone is serious about you they would be excited to talk about when can they see you (even if its not often) instead of telling you what project they on to suggest why can't they see you.You say that you understand that he's busy. But you really don't. You don't pass on any empathy to his situation, just bitch and moan that he isn't catering to you.
It's all about you, ALWAYS.
Here's a thought... why don't you try to be interested in his work? He's trying to share this important part of his life with you. But instead of engaging with him in the moment your all upset that he's not prioritizing you (some chick he's barely known for 3 months) over his job (the thing that puts a roof over his head and food in his mouth, and yours!).
Pisces martyr spirit. Take notes people. You must know poppy really well to suggest she is relying on him financially?
Lmao, where did I say relying financially?!
I only point out that he's put food in her mouth. I know because she's made 1 million threads on every minute they've spent together, all the dates they've gone on, and every meal they've eaten together.
Also if I had a martyr spirit I'd be pandering to her fuckery like you are. I'm doing the opposite here.
I'm awesome like that what can I say. That's how I deal with people like you.
Lol 'deal with me'. As if I'm antagonizing you. Right.
You read my post that was not directed towards you and got involved. Your just proving how self absorbed Virgo's can be. Carry on.
If you don't wAnt anyone to get involve don't post anything in public.
Again where did I imply that I didn't want 'anyone to get involved'? Did you seriously not get it when I said "carry on".
I guess we can add purposefully dense to your growing list of winning characteristics.
This is starting to get amusing.
Pfft
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*Adds eloquent communicator to the list
Hmmm.. I think that's her question as well. If she knew the answer, I don't think she would be posting the message.
Posted by Koniuchaa
What was his reason for not calling you? And why didn't he just call you back later?
enefit of the doubts.. I am cancerian also.
Posted by Koniuchaa
What was his reason for not calling you? And why didn't he just call you back later?He was at a work event and didn't finish until late. He text me in the day saying he will call later in afternoon before going into a meeting.
Then I haven;t heard from him, so I text him at night. .as he never broke his promise before...
He text back to apologize saying he forgot he invited his parents over for dinner .when he finish work they called him to say they are coming over. He ran to buy food to cook, he apologized again to have worried me. He said if they are leaving soon he will call if not tomorrow morning ...
Have you ever spoken on the phone? Sounds like a lot of 'forgetting' really.
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make it to the 6th page. I think I gave u advice before. This is the same guy that was trying to get his life together right? Any who, if it were me I would let him go. Yes you invested time, but not enough to consider it a total loss. It's his loss. If he doesn't want to be bothered, which is what it's sounding like, then leave him be. Maybe he will come around, maybe he won't. But the fact that you're going out of your way to try and do something for HIS birthday, and he is "forgetting" to call back says to me that he just isn't interested in what you have planned. I am a cancer as well, and yes sometimes I truly do forget to call people back, well "friends" I should say. If it's someone I'm interested in, girl there's no forgetting lol. If it's someone who's heavily interested in me and I'm truly not interested I would also "forget" to call back, or throw some excuse out there if I were asked about why I didn't call back. I think you should let this one go. Stay away from us cancers. lol we can be a little confusing at times, and if there are any other cancers like me well we're good at pushing people away, especially when too close..... It'll be okay. He doesn't sound like a good catch. There are plenty of other fish 🙂
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Based on what you said I think it was an honest mistake. You do have the right to be sad though, so be sad, wait for him to make it up to you somehow.I was sad and i was really worrying... he is the man of his word.. so i was worrying he would have an accident.. then I jumped the gun and thought may be he changed his mind.. I guess first birthday does add pressure...
will let him call me tomorrow about what to do for his birthday..
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Posted by Islandgal24
So, I didnt make it to the 6th page. I think I gave u advice before. This is the same guy that was trying to get his life together right? Any who, if it were me I would let him go. Yes you invested time, but not enough to consider it a total loss. It's his loss. If he doesn't want to be bothered, which is what it's sounding like, then leave him be. Maybe he will come around, maybe he won't. But the fact that you're going out of your way to try and do something for HIS birthday, and he is "forgetting" to call back says to me that he just isn't interested in what you have planned. I am a cancer as well, and yes sometimes I truly do forget to call people back, well "friends" I should say. If it's someone I'm interested in, girl there's no forgetting lol. If it's someone who's heavily interested in me and I'm truly not interested I would also "forget" to call back, or throw some excuse out there if I were asked about why I didn't call back. I think you should let this one go. Stay away from us cancers. lol we can be a little confusing at times, and if there are any other cancers like me well we're good at pushing people away, especially when too close..... It'll be okay. He doesn't sound like a good catch. There are plenty of other fish 🙂Posted by libraqueen
Based on what you said I think it was an honest mistake. You do have the right to be sad though, so be sad, wait for him to make it up to you somehow.I was sad and i was really worrying... he is the man of his word.. so i was worrying he would have an accident.. then I jumped the gun and thought may be he changed his mind.. I guess first birthday does add pressure...
will let him call me tomorrow about what to do for his birthday..
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That's some good advice here. He framed it as he "forgot he invited his parents" and went into panic mode to do whatever to get ready. If he is really that forgetful or disorganized he is still a bad choice even if he is really interested.
@kissmygrits @Illuminati @malloryor
He replied in the morning, he thanked me and wished me a good day. responded to the funny side of the birthday wish but not the sexy side. I won't contact him anymore. Let him enjoy his boys time and he will contact me on Sunday before we meet. If he "forgets" like what he did to his parents, I know it's time to let him go.
Posted by Arielle83
Wow this thread is toxic af.Filled with bitterness regarding something that is so petty.
Arielle, how is this toxic? isn't this fair to judge someone by their action? Such as doing what they said they will?
Posted by Poppyseeds
I do know things can get busy. However I feel like if someone is serious about you they would be excited to talk about when can they see you (even if its not often) instead of telling you what project they on to suggest why can't they see you.You say that you understand that he's busy. But you really don't. You don't pass on any empathy to his situation, just bitch and moan that he isn't catering to you.
It's all about you, ALWAYS.
Here's a thought... why don't you try to be interested in his work? He's trying to share this important part of his life with you. But instead of engaging with him in the moment your all upset that he's not prioritizing you (some chick he's barely known for 3 months) over his job (the thing that puts a roof over his head and food in his mouth, and yours!).
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Lady if you have read all of my million posts like you mentioned, you probably already know I also have a career that is very demanding. Regarding "food" I actually make more than he does and I always try to contribute on our date or take turns early on.
I do take interest in his work. Not sure how you jumped to the conclusion that I don't.
@Islandgal24 hey thanks for your advise. yes it is about the same guy we talked about previously.
He didn't forget about me or our date. sorry the thread has been dragged into 8 pages with probably half are people fighting with each other...
anyway what happen on that night was he was meant to call me in the afternoon but his parents told him they are coming over because he forget he invited them. Then he rushed to get food and cook.
When he call me the next day he told me he was in panic mode as his parents always tell him how unorganized and he wants to prove to them that he is not what they think. (i think his parents are right about him)
So far he hasn't forgotten any of our dates or communication, even phone is newly introduced. Let's hope he wont forget our next date, and also time to have a talk with him regarding status.. I know we both are exclusive base on what he told me, still good to have it reconfirmed. Will go from there..
Posted by Poppyseeds
@kissmygrits @Illuminati @malloryorHe replied in the morning, he thanked me and wished me a good day. responded to the funny side of the birthday wish but not the sexy side. I won't contact him anymore. Let him enjoy his boys time and he will contact me on Sunday before we meet. If he "forgets" like what he did to his parents, I know it's time to let him go.
Sounds like a great plan! I don't think men appreciate the same romantic gestures as we do, for them I think especially for a first bday celebration as an "item" they prefer for the lady to just act relaxed, maybe treat them to a round of drinks but mostly step back and let them go hang with the boys.
I think baking a cake, or cooking them dinner or doing all this grand stuff can freak them out when they are in that weird emotional place of "I could love her but not just yet" idk men are strange.
But maybe it is nothing to fear at all, hopefully you will hear from him on Sunday.
When is his b? You keep saying it's coming up, but I don't think I've seen the exact date mentioned yet.
Posted by Poppyseeds
@kissmygrits @Illuminati @malloryorHe replied in the morning, he thanked me and wished me a good day. responded to the funny side of the birthday wish but not the sexy side. I won't contact him anymore. Let him enjoy his boys time and he will contact me on Sunday before we meet. If he "forgets" like what he did to his parents, I know it's time to let him go.
Sounds like a great plan! I don't think men appreciate the same romantic gestures as we do, for them I think especially for a first bday celebration as an "item" they prefer for the lady to just act relaxed, maybe treat them to a round of drinks but mostly step back and let them go hang with the boys.
I think baking a cake, or cooking them dinner or doing all this grand stuff can freak them out when they are in that weird emotional place of "I could love her but not just yet" idk men are strange.
But maybe it is nothing to fear at all, hopefully you will hear from him on Sunday.
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He already made me dinner and breakfast before, so I think we are fine with cooking 🙂
Yea I'm happy he goes out with his boys, male bonding can help them to relax, especially with so much going on.
Not going to make him dinner this time, but I'm making his favorite dessert and would give him the baking pan to keep and use. I'm happy to take him out to dinner depending on what he wants.
So far he hasn't forgotten anything with me, lets hope he won't!
Posted by Poppyseeds
@kissmygrits @Illuminati @malloryorHe replied in the morning, he thanked me and wished me a good day. responded to the funny side of the birthday wish but not the sexy side. I won't contact him anymore. Let him enjoy his boys time and he will contact me on Sunday before we meet. If he "forgets" like what he did to his parents, I know it's time to let him go.
Sounds like a great plan! I don't think men appreciate the same romantic gestures as we do, for them I think especially for a first bday celebration as an "item" they prefer for the lady to just act relaxed, maybe treat them to a round of drinks but mostly step back and let them go hang with the boys.
I think baking a cake, or cooking them dinner or doing all this grand stuff can freak them out when they are in that weird emotional place of "I could love her but not just yet" idk men are strange.
But maybe it is nothing to fear at all, hopefully you will hear from him on Sunday.
He already made me dinner and breakfast before, so I think we are fine with cooking 🙂
Yea I'm happy he goes out with his boys, male bonding can help them to relax, especially with so much going on.
Not going to make him dinner this time, but I'm making his favorite dessert and would give him the baking pan to keep and use. I'm happy to take him out to dinner depending on what he wants.
So far he hasn't forgotten anything with me, lets hope he won't!
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Yeah, from what I read he sounds like a decent man. Idk other posters seem to know more than me but I think you two will be fine. I really do hope he appreciates your effort and acknowledges it when you see each other. For now go pamper yourself *hugs*
Posted by Poppyseeds
@kissmygrits @Illuminati @malloryorHe replied in the morning, he thanked me and wished me a good day. responded to the funny side of the birthday wish but not the sexy side. I won't contact him anymore. Let him enjoy his boys time and he will contact me on Sunday before we meet. If he "forgets" like what he did to his parents, I know it's time to let him go.
Sounds like a great plan! I don't think men appreciate the same romantic gestures as we do, for them I think especially for a first bday celebration as an "item" they prefer for the lady to just act relaxed, maybe treat them to a round of drinks but mostly step back and let them go hang with the boys.
I think baking a cake, or cooking them dinner or doing all this grand stuff can freak them out when they are in that weird emotional place of "I could love her but not just yet" idk men are strange.
But maybe it is nothing to fear at all, hopefully you will hear from him on Sunday.
He already made me dinner and breakfast before, so I think we are fine with cooking 🙂
Yea I'm happy he goes out with his boys, male bonding can help them to relax, especially with so much going on.
Not going to make him dinner this time, but I'm making his favorite dessert and would give him the baking pan to keep and use. I'm happy to take him out to dinner depending on what he wants.
So far he hasn't forgotten anything with me, lets hope he won't!
Yeah, from what I read he sounds like a decent man. Idk other posters seem to know more than me but I think you two will be fine. I really do hope he appreciates your effort and acknowledges it when you see each other. For now go pamper yourself *hugs*
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Thanks! Already have lots of plans before I see him. Will keep you posted, have a great long weekend in US!
Glad you cleared a few points up there ? Good luck hun, hope you both work out x
Posted by Poppyseeds
@kissmygrits @Illuminati @malloryorHe replied in the morning, he thanked me and wished me a good day. responded to the funny side of the birthday wish but not the sexy side. I won't contact him anymore. Let him enjoy his boys time and he will contact me on Sunday before we meet. If he "forgets" like what he did to his parents, I know it's time to let him go.
Sounds like a great plan! I don't think men appreciate the same romantic gestures as we do, for them I think especially for a first bday celebration as an "item" they prefer for the lady to just act relaxed, maybe treat them to a round of drinks but mostly step back and let them go hang with the boys.
I think baking a cake, or cooking them dinner or doing all this grand stuff can freak them out when they are in that weird emotional place of "I could love her but not just yet" idk men are strange.
But maybe it is nothing to fear at all, hopefully you will hear from him on Sunday.
He already made me dinner and breakfast before, so I think we are fine with cooking 🙂
Yea I'm happy he goes out with his boys, male bonding can help them to relax, especially with so much going on.
Not going to make him dinner this time, but I'm making his favorite dessert and would give him the baking pan to keep and use. I'm happy to take him out to dinner depending on what he wants.
So far he hasn't forgotten anything with me, lets hope he won't!
Yeah, from what I read he sounds like a decent man. Idk other posters seem to know more than me but I think you two will be fine. I really do hope he appreciates your effort and acknowledges it when you see each other. For now go pamper yourself *hugs*
Thanks! Already have lots of plans before I see him. Will keep you posted, have a great long weekend in US!
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Thank you and yes keep me posted :*
@kissmygrits @Illuminati @malloryor @piscespoppy
Hi ladies,
We talked a lot and when I asked are we exclusive? He looked shock and said OF COURSE WE ARE! I said ok thought I would check as you never asked, all we talked about is we are not dating / sleeping with others. He said it's you just know, I never ask in my life.
He refers our pre sex days as "old days" he asked oh you feeling nostalgic? that's very cute. We don't get to see each other as often like others do. I let him know I miss being so close to him face to face. He looked surprised and happy and said really you miss this?
I met his roommate and we all sat down and chatted for about an hour or so.
Thank you for your support all along!
Posted by Poppyseeds
I do know things can get busy. However I feel like if someone is serious about you they would be excited to talk about when can they see you (even if its not often) instead of telling you what project they on to suggest why can't they see you.You say that you understand that he's busy. But you really don't. You don't pass on any empathy to his situation, just bitch and moan that he isn't catering to you.
It's all about you, ALWAYS.
Here's a thought... why don't you try to be interested in his work? He's trying to share this important part of his life with you. But instead of engaging with him in the moment your all upset that he's not prioritizing you (some chick he's barely known for 3 months) over his job (the thing that puts a roof over his head and food in his mouth, and yours!).
Amen!!! The whining and moaning and acting like some victim and lack of caring for more than self is overwhelming...this guy will probably dump her when he gets wind of who she reAlly is...especially the clingy needy behavior no guy likes that
Also she as you mentioned doesn't seem to care much about who he really is and what his world is like so no matter what happens now based on the way she talks about things I predict it will end and he will start looking for a girl who can handle him having his own life and will actually get to know him outside of how much attention he can provide her. I'd suggest things but I think it would fall on deaf ears
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So all of a sudden you know everything about us, perhaps I should have been asking you from advice since day 1
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Aww yayy! See he wasn't avoiding you to hurt you, he just has a lot going on. Glad to see he is making time for you 🙂