I am laughing but also upset

NO! It’s not going to be a thread about me fucking Cancer...lmao

It’s about my mom. Who is Cancer and she hated my ex Cap with all her might since the beginning of our recently ended marriage of 25 years.

After that BDay party I’ve talked about ex spent night at the house while me and Aries went to his place and stayed there.

Ex was talking to my mom while she made him a meal next day. She is secretly enjoying his suffering with his new wife...so she sold her soul to listen to his stories while he is drinking and pouring his heart out to her.

When Aries brought me back Cap was still at the house. Aries left (they had not seen each other) and I sat down and listened to Caps idiotic story about how his new wife insulted him for missing toilet bowl and he called her names and they had stopped talking. So he came to that party alone and Aries kept saying that he is feeling bad for him...I did too. But...what can I do right?

So me mom and ex are talking and he is getting drunk and finding my pic 10 years ago where I was fat. I said wow! I was really fat! He said - see what I was supposed to deal with...

I said...man with no dick must be happy to have anybody cooking for them and listening to a bullshit!

He left and told our daughter he will never come to the house again...

Wednesday he came to the house while I was at work and told my mom he is going on a date with a new woman. So he need to kill an hour that’s why he came over. She fed him and layer he left.

Last night my mom called him for legit reason and asked how is he doing and he asked if he can come over if I am not home. She said yes. She is bored when I am with Aries so she was happy she can have someone to torture...

I am at work waiting for an Aries to come for me and mom just called that Cap is already in the house. She is about to cook dinner and spend probably few days with him until Sunday when I return...

How fucked up is it?

And what’s even more fucked up is that I am feeling sorry for Cap because he has nowhere to go for Thanksgiving!!! And we spending it with our daughter, her bf, their dog, Aries, his son and his dog...and Cap is all alone...

I need a hit over my head with a heavy object! Please go!

And NO I am not attracted to Cap for 15 years now.

And I admire Aries and can’t wait to grab his ass in a few hours...

I am just fucking feeling bad for an ex!!!

I would LOVE for him to meet a good woman so we can all live in peace.

Hit me now! Don’t hold back...

That's totally normal for you to feel bad. But fuck him, let him figure his shit out like a grown man. #toughlove

Also it's nice he gets to confide with his mom...lord knows he needs it.

Why did he get in that toxic relationship? Is he not financially well off to be doing his own thing?

Posted by Black-Mamba

Posted by stillstillwater

That's totally normal for you to feel bad. But fuck him, let him figure his shit out like a grown man. #toughlove

Also it's nice he gets to confide with his mom...lord knows he needs it.

Why did he get in that toxic relationship? Is he not financially well off to be doing his own thing?

At that age? He ain't changing. Might as well set up a dinner plate at the Thanksgiving table.

click to expand

Well who cares if he changes but i mean if she doesn't want to make room for him in her life she doesn't have to.

But you're right after 25 years and kid(s) he's family.

Saturn still burdening you 🌚

Jesus, what a predicament....the problem is when you've had a child with soemeone, that bond is unbreakable.

Maybe him and your Mum can get married 😆

Your mom sounds boring & has no life

Posted by stillstillwater

That's totally normal for you to feel bad. But fuck him, let him figure his shit out like a grown man. #toughlove

Also it's nice he gets to confide with his mom...lord knows he needs it.

Why did he get in that toxic relationship? Is he not financially well off to be doing his own thing?

You are so nice...

He married her because as he told me he CANT live alone because since he was born his mom and aunt wiped his ass and then he had divorced every woman who weren’t like mom until he met stupid me!

When I went he forgot that not everybody like me so he married this one who needs papers to stay in USA but sumbfucking woman can’t even PRETEND for her own benefits!

And Cap is very sensitive and high maintenance.

So he is t happy.

Posted by Black-Mamba

LMAO - This Cap is just pathetic - and your mom needs someone to baby- wow

Invite him over for thanksgiving. That's the only thing you can do. He's family.

I honestly would but he doesn’t want to see Aries.

Beggar but chooser!

Posted by MyStarsShine

Saturn still burdening you 🌚

Jesus, what a predicament....the problem is when you've had a child with soemeone, that bond is unbreakable.

Maybe him and your Mum can get married 😆

That’s what my boss Aqua said. He soon be your daddy!

Funny is that me and him and him and mom are 10 y/apart...same difference!

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by stillstillwater

That's totally normal for you to feel bad. But fuck him, let him figure his shit out like a grown man. #toughlove

Also it's nice he gets to confide with his mom...lord knows he needs it.

Why did he get in that toxic relationship? Is he not financially well off to be doing his own thing?

You are so nice...

He married her because as he told me he CANT live alone because since he was born his mom and aunt wiped his ass and then he had divorced every woman who weren’t like mom until he met stupid me!

When I went he forgot that not everybody like me so he married this one who needs papers to stay in USA but sumbfucking woman can’t even PRETEND for her own benefits!

And Cap is very sensitive and high maintenance.

So he is t happy.

click to expand

damn low key feel bad for him.... are you going to invite him to Thanksgiving??

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by MyStarsShine

Saturn still burdening you 🌚

Jesus, what a predicament....the problem is when you've had a child with soemeone, that bond is unbreakable.

Maybe him and your Mum can get married 😆

That’s what my boss Aqua said. He soon be your daddy!

Funny is that me and him and him and mom are 10 y/apart...same difference!

click to expand

So when's the wedding then? 😀

He could spend thanksgiving with your mom

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by MyStarsShine

Saturn still burdening you 🌚

Jesus, what a predicament....the problem is when you've had a child with soemeone, that bond is unbreakable.

Maybe him and your Mum can get married 😆

That’s what my boss Aqua said. He soon be your daddy!

Funny is that me and him and him and mom are 10 y/apart...same difference!

So when's the wedding then? 😀

click to expand

She still hates him yet...

Posted by Biboroon

He could spend thanksgiving with your mom

She lives with ME! Lol

Wtf!!! Tell him to find another wife 😂😂

He’s not your responsibility anymore & is totally pathetic.

Sounds like your Aries has zero standards and you have no boundaries.

I would never invite my ex into my home repeatedly, have my mother cook for him, let him spend the night, have him over for dinner or holidays. It doesn’t matter that you’ve moved onto someone else and so has he, that’s the way it’s intended to be. It didn’t work for a long time....so why would you tolerate this now?

Just as you’ve moved on and created a new life and kept it all together, made a new home, lost weight, new relationship and improved yourself.........it’s NOW also his responsibility to do the same for himself and do it successfully.

Women feeling guilty that a man can’t get it together and making excuses for them are exactly why these types of men can easily guilt women and fall back on making them take care of them. This is exactly what your mother and you are falling into.

No self respecting Aries should settle for that. Everyone should have pride....pride of their home, their work and their relationship. How can he hold this in his life with pride when your ex has a physical place at your table? This isn’t a indicator for a modern relationship so don’t be thinking this is healthy and new age, it’s not.......this ain’t the Brady Bunch. Y’all fucked and treated one another like shit and did nasty things to one another for years and degraded what was left of your marriage.........the respect you’re showing him right now isn’t earned.

1- stop enabling his codependent toxic behaviour

2- start treating your current bf with some dignity and set up boundaries

3- learn from your past

It’s not your job to ensure your ex has a nice life...it’s not your job that he moves on and functions normally. It’s also not your responsibility to ensure he has a nice holiday. Your job......ended when the divorce ended. I don’t see you placing important for him to help you in any aspect of your life to move on or enjoy your new life......you’re doing his bidding at the cost of giving up privacy for yours.

Also, your mother is an enabler. It’s typical of people from that generation to want to tolerate this type of male focused tolerance after the divorce.

It’s no different than feeding a stray dog scraps at the back door. The dog will keep coming back and that exactly what you’re doing by feeling a narcissist.

I’m going to assume you’re able to do things on your own and know when things are wrong.



In what way do you think what you’re doing now with your ex is right? Who does it benefit? Does your new relationship take a back seat to an old one?

So many things don’t make sense.

Posted by Romz-

Also, your mother is an enabler. It’s typical of people from that generation to want to tolerate this type of male focused tolerance after the divorce.

It’s no different than feeding a stray dog scraps at the back door. The dog will keep coming back and that exactly what you’re doing by feeling a narcissist.

I’m going to assume you’re able to do things on your own and know when things are wrong.



In what way do you think what you’re doing now with your ex is right? Who does it benefit? Does your new relationship take a back seat to an old one?

So many things don’t make sense.

It’s because you have no sense...

You are killing fun for everyone!?

You need to suck some dick...

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Wtf!!! Tell him to find another wife 😂😂

He’s not your responsibility anymore & is totally pathetic.

I guess finding him another wife would be my responsibility lmao

Posted by MareInfame

I’m going to be annoying here and say, I’d talk it over with the Aries and if he’s ok with it, I’d invite the Cap for thanksgiving.

Seems like Aries was also feeling bad for him...

Cap is family. Maybe not your favorite person in the world, but it’s the father of your children and he’s family. I’m sure you care on some level. Even if it annoys the hell out of you.



I don’t know... I’d be very inclined to invite him 🤭🤭🤭🤭

Cap is the one who doesn’t want to even be introduced to an Aries...

Posted by MareInfame

I’m going to be annoying here and say, I’d talk it over with the Aries and if he’s ok with it, I’d invite the Cap for thanksgiving.

Seems like Aries was also feeling bad for him...

Cap is family. Maybe not your favorite person in the world, but it’s the father of your children and he’s family. I’m sure you care on some level. Even if it annoys the hell out of you.



I don’t know... I’d be very inclined to invite him 🤭🤭🤭🤭

You sound very mature and kind ❤️

@MareInfame

Are you a water sign?

Posted by Romz-

Also, your mother is an enabler. It’s typical of people from that generation to want to tolerate this type of male focused tolerance after the divorce.

It’s no different than feeding a stray dog scraps at the back door. The dog will keep coming back and that exactly what you’re doing by feeling a narcissist.

I’m going to assume you’re able to do things on your own and know when things are wrong.



In what way do you think what you’re doing now with your ex is right? Who does it benefit? Does your new relationship take a back seat to an old one?

So many things don’t make sense.

It’s different when you’ve had a child with someone. I’d agree with you otherwise but being parents is a whole different story. That man is the father of your child

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by Romz-

Also, your mother is an enabler. It’s typical of people from that generation to want to tolerate this type of male focused tolerance after the divorce.

It’s no different than feeding a stray dog scraps at the back door. The dog will keep coming back and that exactly what you’re doing by feeling a narcissist.

I’m going to assume you’re able to do things on your own and know when things are wrong.



In what way do you think what you’re doing now with your ex is right? Who does it benefit? Does your new relationship take a back seat to an old one?

So many things don’t make sense.

It’s because you have no sense...

You are killing fun for everyone!?

You need to suck some dick...

click to expand

You’re sick if you think this works or is healthy

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by Romz-

Also, your mother is an enabler. It’s typical of people from that generation to want to tolerate this type of male focused tolerance after the divorce.

It’s no different than feeding a stray dog scraps at the back door. The dog will keep coming back and that exactly what you’re doing by feeling a narcissist.

I’m going to assume you’re able to do things on your own and know when things are wrong.



In what way do you think what you’re doing now with your ex is right? Who does it benefit? Does your new relationship take a back seat to an old one?

So many things don’t make sense.

It’s different when you’ve had a child with someone. I’d agree with you otherwise but being parents is a whole different story. That man is the father of your child

click to expand

Father of a grown child, it’s an excuse to enable toxic behaviour and the desire to be needed.

Empty nest syndrome

Posted by Romz-

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by Romz-

Also, your mother is an enabler. It’s typical of people from that generation to want to tolerate this type of male focused tolerance after the divorce.

It’s no different than feeding a stray dog scraps at the back door. The dog will keep coming back and that exactly what you’re doing by feeling a narcissist.

I’m going to assume you’re able to do things on your own and know when things are wrong.



In what way do you think what you’re doing now with your ex is right? Who does it benefit? Does your new relationship take a back seat to an old one?

So many things don’t make sense.

It’s different when you’ve had a child with someone. I’d agree with you otherwise but being parents is a whole different story. That man is the father of your child

Father of a grown child, it’s an excuse to enable toxic behaviour and the desire to be needed.

Empty nest syndrome

click to expand

No, whatever age your child becomes it’s very important to treat the other parent with respect...to behave like a mature human being. I’ve lived through it so understand the need to be kind

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by Romz-

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by Romz-

Also, your mother is an enabler. It’s typical of people from that generation to want to tolerate this type of male focused tolerance after the divorce.

It’s no different than feeding a stray dog scraps at the back door. The dog will keep coming back and that exactly what you’re doing by feeling a narcissist.

I’m going to assume you’re able to do things on your own and know when things are wrong.



In what way do you think what you’re doing now with your ex is right? Who does it benefit? Does your new relationship take a back seat to an old one?

So many things don’t make sense.

It’s different when you’ve had a child with someone. I’d agree with you otherwise but being parents is a whole different story. That man is the father of your child

Father of a grown child, it’s an excuse to enable toxic behaviour and the desire to be needed.

Empty nest syndrome

No, whatever age your child becomes it’s very important to treat the other parent with respect...to behave like a mature human being. I’ve lived through it so understand the need to be kind

click to expand

I have to agree.

I've witnessed what happens when when parents disrespect each other after a divorce ( the son was 25 years old by that time).

Posted by Ram416

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by Romz-

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by Romz-

Also, your mother is an enabler. It’s typical of people from that generation to want to tolerate this type of male focused tolerance after the divorce.

It’s no different than feeding a stray dog scraps at the back door. The dog will keep coming back and that exactly what you’re doing by feeling a narcissist.

I’m going to assume you’re able to do things on your own and know when things are wrong.



In what way do you think what you’re doing now with your ex is right? Who does it benefit? Does your new relationship take a back seat to an old one?

So many things don’t make sense.

It’s different when you’ve had a child with someone. I’d agree with you otherwise but being parents is a whole different story. That man is the father of your child

Father of a grown child, it’s an excuse to enable toxic behaviour and the desire to be needed.

Empty nest syndrome

No, whatever age your child becomes it’s very important to treat the other parent with respect...to behave like a mature human being. I’ve lived through it so understand the need to be kind

I have to agree.

I've witnessed what happens when when parents disrespect each other after a divorce ( the son was 25 years old by that time).

click to expand

Yes it can be devastating. Our son has friends where the parents don’t communicate maturely and it has a profound effect on them. Adults can be so selfish at times and the kids always suffer. Thankfully Virgo and I have remained civilised.

Posted by MareInfame

Posted by MyStarsShine

@MareInfame

Are you a water sign?

Yes 🙃



Scorpio

click to expand

Aaah right 🙂

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by Romz-

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by Romz-

Also, your mother is an enabler. It’s typical of people from that generation to want to tolerate this type of male focused tolerance after the divorce.

It’s no different than feeding a stray dog scraps at the back door. The dog will keep coming back and that exactly what you’re doing by feeling a narcissist.

I’m going to assume you’re able to do things on your own and know when things are wrong.



In what way do you think what you’re doing now with your ex is right? Who does it benefit? Does your new relationship take a back seat to an old one?

So many things don’t make sense.

It’s different when you’ve had a child with someone. I’d agree with you otherwise but being parents is a whole different story. That man is the father of your child

Father of a grown child, it’s an excuse to enable toxic behaviour and the desire to be needed.

Empty nest syndrome

No, whatever age your child becomes it’s very important to treat the other parent with respect...to behave like a mature human being. I’ve lived through it so understand the need to be kind

click to expand

Sure, being responsible adults after a divorce is key but taking that past that point.....into something way more personal isn’t healthy.

It hasn’t even been a year. I don’t have children but I’ve watched my parents go through divorcing one another twice lol, you have to live entirely separate lives for your own mental health and theirs but also show them you’re able to adapt and work together.

This is way more personal than that imo but not my issue.

Communicating effectively is entirely separate than what she’s explaining is going on right now.

Communication does not mean you allow someone to cross boundaries and insert themselves into your new home life, your parents, holidays etc.

Getting along together to talk, release stress and make plans for your child....healthy. Having your ex sleep in your home, get his meals from your mother amongst other things is a very unhealthy dynamic.

If the true focus here WAS creating healthy communication and relationships.....then you clearly wouldn’t need to write about this “issue” because it is an issue.

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Wtf!!! Tell him to find another wife 😂😂

He’s not your responsibility anymore & is totally pathetic.

I guess finding him another wife would be my responsibility lmao

click to expand

Haha of course 🤦‍♀️

Posted by MareInfame

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by MareInfame

I’m going to be annoying here and say, I’d talk it over with the Aries and if he’s ok with it, I’d invite the Cap for thanksgiving.

Seems like Aries was also feeling bad for him...

Cap is family. Maybe not your favorite person in the world, but it’s the father of your children and he’s family. I’m sure you care on some level. Even if it annoys the hell out of you.



I don’t know... I’d be very inclined to invite him 🤭🤭🤭🤭

Cap is the one who doesn’t want to even be introduced to an Aries...

Just invite him... let him figure it out whether he wants to face him or not. He can’t be protected forever.

click to expand

I would! I do t mind him but I am also thinking him seeing me with another man would probably be a blow! I wish I could invite some woman to keep him company and I do t know anybody...

Posted by Romz-

Communicating effectively is entirely separate than what she’s explaining is going on right now.

Communication does not mean you allow someone to cross boundaries and insert themselves into your new home life, your parents, holidays etc.

Getting along together to talk, release stress and make plans for your child....healthy. Having your ex sleep in your home, get his meals from your mother amongst other things is a very unhealthy dynamic.

If the true focus here WAS creating healthy communication and relationships.....then you clearly wouldn’t need to write about this “issue” because it is an issue.

I am writing it because I need to write things down to process better and hear others opinion just because I feel like here is lots of people who are fun and joy and actually smarter than me...

Do you realize that you are the only one here who is acting like a pure shcmuck? So far you are THE only one! And it’s not a good thing...for you!

Posted by Romz-

Sounds like your Aries has zero standards and you have no boundaries.

I would never invite my ex into my home repeatedly, have my mother cook for him, let him spend the night, have him over for dinner or holidays. It doesn’t matter that you’ve moved onto someone else and so has he, that’s the way it’s intended to be. It didn’t work for a long time....so why would you tolerate this now?

Just as you’ve moved on and created a new life and kept it all together, made a new home, lost weight, new relationship and improved yourself.........it’s NOW also his responsibility to do the same for himself and do it successfully.

Women feeling guilty that a man can’t get it together and making excuses for them are exactly why these types of men can easily guilt women and fall back on making them take care of them. This is exactly what your mother and you are falling into.

No self respecting Aries should settle for that. Everyone should have pride....pride of their home, their work and their relationship. How can he hold this in his life with pride when your ex has a physical place at your table? This isn’t a indicator for a modern relationship so don’t be thinking this is healthy and new age, it’s not.......this ain’t the Brady Bunch. Y’all fucked and treated one another like shit and did nasty things to one another for years and degraded what was left of your marriage.........the respect you’re showing him right now isn’t earned.

1- stop enabling his codependent toxic behaviour

2- start treating your current bf with some dignity and set up boundaries

3- learn from your past

It’s not your job to ensure your ex has a nice life...it’s not your job that he moves on and functions normally. It’s also not your responsibility to ensure he has a nice holiday. Your job......ended when the divorce ended. I don’t see you placing important for him to help you in any aspect of your life to move on or enjoy your new life......you’re doing his bidding at the cost of giving up privacy for yours.

Listen poor thing...

It was written as a lighthearted haha shit and YOU making it into a ducking drama as your life IS!

Stop thinking you can tell me what to do and deeply analyzing shit that doesn’t need any deep analyzing!

I wasn’t looking for any of the shit like you posting.

Quit it! Now everyone’s life is such horror as yours.

Lighten up. Do you need help pulling that stick out that up your ass?

Posted by Black-Mamba

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by Black-Mamba

LMAO - This Cap is just pathetic - and your mom needs someone to baby- wow

Invite him over for thanksgiving. That's the only thing you can do. He's family.

I honestly would but he doesn’t want to see Aries.

Beggar but chooser!

Tell him to suck it up.

What's his placements?

click to expand

Sun Capricorn 3° 48' in house 10

Moon Taurus 24° 44' in house 2

Mercury Capricorn 16° 3' in house 11

Venus Aquarius 2° 35' in house 11

Mars Scorpio 17° 45' in house 8

Jupiter Virgo 1° 23' in house 6

Saturn Scorpio 28° 18' in house 8

Uranus Leo 1° 22' in house 5

Neptune Scorpio 0° 2' in house 7

Pluto Leo 28° 27' in house 6

North Node mean Saggitarius 16° 23' in house 9

North Node true Saggitarius 17° 18' in house 9

Ascendant Pisces 9° 57' in house 1

Medium Coeli Saggitarius 20° 38' in house 10

Zodiac Tropical

Time Zone: -3 hours EAST

Latitude & Longitude: 46N28 30E44

Aspects y Orbs:

Conjunction: 9 Degrees

Opposition: 8 Degrees

Sqaure: 8 Degrees

Trine: 8 Degrees

Sextile: 5 Degrees

I get why you're bothered by your mom spending so much time with him. However, he is the father of your kids, I would invite him over for Thanksgiving dinner.

If he doesn't come, that's his choice. I wish my ex and I had a more copacetic relationship.

Posted by Ram416

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by Romz-

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by Romz-

Also, your mother is an enabler. It’s typical of people from that generation to want to tolerate this type of male focused tolerance after the divorce.

It’s no different than feeding a stray dog scraps at the back door. The dog will keep coming back and that exactly what you’re doing by feeling a narcissist.

I’m going to assume you’re able to do things on your own and know when things are wrong.



In what way do you think what you’re doing now with your ex is right? Who does it benefit? Does your new relationship take a back seat to an old one?

So many things don’t make sense.

It’s different when you’ve had a child with someone. I’d agree with you otherwise but being parents is a whole different story. That man is the father of your child

Father of a grown child, it’s an excuse to enable toxic behaviour and the desire to be needed.

Empty nest syndrome

No, whatever age your child becomes it’s very important to treat the other parent with respect...to behave like a mature human being. I’ve lived through it so understand the need to be kind

I have to agree.

I've witnessed what happens when when parents disrespect each other after a divorce ( the son was 25 years old by that time).

click to expand

For sure! I rather her to tell me that he is high maintenance than me saying it.

I am never going to be the one who talking shit about her father to her. But maybe it’s because he actually hadn’t hurt me and I don’t hate him.

If I did - I don’t know what would I do. Honestly.

Posted by WateryGem

I get why you're bothered by your mom spending so much time with him. However, he is the father of your kids, I would invite him over for Thanksgiving dinner.

If he doesn't come, that's his choice. I wish my ex and I had a more copacetic relationship.

I am not sure because Aries and his son coming to spend this day with me instead of his parents who are his childs grandparents and me throwing ‘surprise’ - meet my husband - doesn’t seem like a fair move. Aries doesn’t care because he had sat at the same table with an ex but I’ve been told by Cap NOT to introduce them so I didn’t.

He called my mom today to tell her his wife is trying to make up but he isn’t ready...🤦‍♀️🤔🙏🏻

Posted by Marai

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by WateryGem

I get why you're bothered by your mom spending so much time with him. However, he is the father of your kids, I would invite him over for Thanksgiving dinner.

If he doesn't come, that's his choice. I wish my ex and I had a more copacetic relationship.

I am not sure because Aries and his son coming to spend this day with me instead of his parents who are his childs grandparents and me throwing ‘surprise’ - meet my husband - doesn’t seem like a fair move. Aries doesn’t care because he had sat at the same table with an ex but I’ve been told by Cap NOT to introduce them so I didn’t.

He called my mom today to tell her his wife is trying to make up but he isn’t ready...🤦‍♀️🤔🙏🏻

Damn where are the boundaries Tati. Poor Cap sounds so sad and lonely.

As for Thanksgiving. Give Cap the brunch shift and Aries and son the afternoon/dinner shift. Everyone happy!

click to expand

Yeah...Cap is married remember? Lol

No shifts! Aries coming for weekends from another state on Wednesday so...poor Cap will have to eat WAWA turkey bowl or make up with his wife.

Posted by Marai

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by Marai

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by WateryGem

I get why you're bothered by your mom spending so much time with him. However, he is the father of your kids, I would invite him over for Thanksgiving dinner.

If he doesn't come, that's his choice. I wish my ex and I had a more copacetic relationship.

I am not sure because Aries and his son coming to spend this day with me instead of his parents who are his childs grandparents and me throwing ‘surprise’ - meet my husband - doesn’t seem like a fair move. Aries doesn’t care because he had sat at the same table with an ex but I’ve been told by Cap NOT to introduce them so I didn’t.

He called my mom today to tell her his wife is trying to make up but he isn’t ready...🤦‍♀️🤔🙏🏻

Damn where are the boundaries Tati. Poor Cap sounds so sad and lonely.

As for Thanksgiving. Give Cap the brunch shift and Aries and son the afternoon/dinner shift. Everyone happy!

Yeah...Cap is married remember? Lol

No shifts! Aries coming for weekends from another state on Wednesday so...poor Cap will have to eat WAWA turkey bowl or make up with his wife.

That's not a marriage he's having, that's a disaster! Would make me feel lonely too.

Aries is more important now. Ditch Cap, he needs to find his own buddies to vent. And if Aries agrees, Cap can come but with boundaries (= dinner only and then bounce)

click to expand

Cap doesn’t bounce! He drinks until sunrise! Lmao

Why did the Cap stop fucking you? Cuz you gained weight?

Posted by enfant_terrible

Why did the Cap stop fucking you? Cuz you gained weight?

No. He aged and his drinking went up in liters...so...that I think is the reason.

Posted by Marai

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by Marai

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by Marai

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by WateryGem

I get why you're bothered by your mom spending so much time with him. However, he is the father of your kids, I would invite him over for Thanksgiving dinner.

If he doesn't come, that's his choice. I wish my ex and I had a more copacetic relationship.

I am not sure because Aries and his son coming to spend this day with me instead of his parents who are his childs grandparents and me throwing ‘surprise’ - meet my husband - doesn’t seem like a fair move. Aries doesn’t care because he had sat at the same table with an ex but I’ve been told by Cap NOT to introduce them so I didn’t.

He called my mom today to tell her his wife is trying to make up but he isn’t ready...🤦‍♀️🤔🙏🏻

Damn where are the boundaries Tati. Poor Cap sounds so sad and lonely.

As for Thanksgiving. Give Cap the brunch shift and Aries and son the afternoon/dinner shift. Everyone happy!

Yeah...Cap is married remember? Lol

No shifts! Aries coming for weekends from another state on Wednesday so...poor Cap will have to eat WAWA turkey bowl or make up with his wife.

That's not a marriage he's having, that's a disaster! Would make me feel lonely too.

Aries is more important now. Ditch Cap, he needs to find his own buddies to vent. And if Aries agrees, Cap can come but with boundaries (= dinner only and then bounce)

Cap doesn’t bounce! He drinks until sunrise! Lmao

Yeah, warm milk and a sleeping pill

click to expand

To go? 🤔

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by Romz-

Sounds like your Aries has zero standards and you have no boundaries.

I would never invite my ex into my home repeatedly, have my mother cook for him, let him spend the night, have him over for dinner or holidays. It doesn’t matter that you’ve moved onto someone else and so has he, that’s the way it’s intended to be. It didn’t work for a long time....so why would you tolerate this now?

Just as you’ve moved on and created a new life and kept it all together, made a new home, lost weight, new relationship and improved yourself.........it’s NOW also his responsibility to do the same for himself and do it successfully.

Women feeling guilty that a man can’t get it together and making excuses for them are exactly why these types of men can easily guilt women and fall back on making them take care of them. This is exactly what your mother and you are falling into.

No self respecting Aries should settle for that. Everyone should have pride....pride of their home, their work and their relationship. How can he hold this in his life with pride when your ex has a physical place at your table? This isn’t a indicator for a modern relationship so don’t be thinking this is healthy and new age, it’s not.......this ain’t the Brady Bunch. Y’all fucked and treated one another like shit and did nasty things to one another for years and degraded what was left of your marriage.........the respect you’re showing him right now isn’t earned.

1- stop enabling his codependent toxic behaviour

2- start treating your current bf with some dignity and set up boundaries

3- learn from your past

It’s not your job to ensure your ex has a nice life...it’s not your job that he moves on and functions normally. It’s also not your responsibility to ensure he has a nice holiday. Your job......ended when the divorce ended. I don’t see you placing important for him to help you in any aspect of your life to move on or enjoy your new life......you’re doing his bidding at the cost of giving up privacy for yours.

Listen poor thing...

It was written as a lighthearted haha shit and YOU making it into a ducking drama as your life IS!

Stop thinking you can tell me what to do and deeply analyzing shit that doesn’t need any deep analyzing!

I wasn’t looking for any of the shit like you posting.

Quit it! Now everyone’s life is such horror as yours.

Lighten up. Do you need help pulling that stick out that up your ass?

click to expand

I notice a lot of people telling you now, that you need boundaries. I’m not trying to be a cunt to you in this thread.

I seriously do think partners who are divorced should have boundaries. It hasn’t even been a year and already this seems like a huge amount of personal space being shared after such a short momentary meeting at a birthday party?

My parents love one another and are respectful and help one another out and discuss us all the time but they keep it cordial and separate. They both have partners that they have to respect and me and my siblings know that the love they have will always be there. I love them together but I’m happy they’re apart and they both are in love with other people that suit them better.

Yes you share a bond but I think it’s more important to work on that bond with your new relationship rather than spreading yourself thin for an old relationship.

There are boundary issues. If you’re comfortable with it then you don’t need to talk about it.

Good luck with it all Gem

Remember in the grand scheme of things, it's not too monumental. If you have good intentions and come from a loving ❤️you can't go wrong.

You will probably look back and laugh, but not be annoyed/stressed

Sending some peace over the pond

😊

Posted by MyStarsShine

Good luck with it all Gem

Remember in the grand scheme of things, it's not too monumental. If you have good intentions and come from a loving ❤️you can't go wrong.

You will probably look back and laugh, but not be annoyed/stressed

Sending some peace over the pond

😊

I really AM more laughing than worry because I know what I would like to do and what I will do is 2 different things. And none of it is tragic or dramatic. I was just lmao at my mom being such a bitch by being nice. And as always it took a wrong turn and derailed...again! 🤦‍♀️😂

Thanks and yeah...peace! 🙌

P.S. just for you...there is no ducking way I am having first Thanksgiving dinner with Aries AND Cap at the same table. That would be beyond stupid and making ALL uncomfortable. And thread was not about that anyway...🥳

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by MyStarsShine

Good luck with it all Gem

Remember in the grand scheme of things, it's not too monumental. If you have good intentions and come from a loving ❤️you can't go wrong.

You will probably look back and laugh, but not be annoyed/stressed

Sending some peace over the pond

😊

I really AM more laughing than worry because I know what I would like to do and what I will do is 2 different things. And none of it is tragic or dramatic. I was just lmao at my mom being such a bitch by being nice. And as always it took a wrong turn and derailed...again! 🤦‍♀️😂

Thanks and yeah...peace! 🙌

P.S. just for you...there is no ducking way I am having first Thanksgiving dinner with Aries AND Cap at the same table. That would be beyond stupid and making ALL uncomfortable. And thread was not about that anyway...🥳

click to expand

I knew what you meant....❤️

Chill out and .....

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by MyStarsShine

Good luck with it all Gem

Remember in the grand scheme of things, it's not too monumental. If you have good intentions and come from a loving ❤️you can't go wrong.

You will probably look back and laugh, but not be annoyed/stressed

Sending some peace over the pond

😊

I really AM more laughing than worry because I know what I would like to do and what I will do is 2 different things. And none of it is tragic or dramatic. I was just lmao at my mom being such a bitch by being nice. And as always it took a wrong turn and derailed...again! 🤦‍♀️😂

Thanks and yeah...peace! 🙌

P.S. just for you...there is no ducking way I am having first Thanksgiving dinner with Aries AND Cap at the same table. That would be beyond stupid and making ALL uncomfortable. And thread was not about that anyway...🥳

I knew what you meant....❤️

Chill out and .....

https://media.giphy.com/media/1RlnA9XAzinKw/giphy.gif

class="bqfade">click to expand

I am...can I be more chill listening to Beatles and Aries singing along...(no! He can’t sing...lmao)

😂😂😂

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by MyStarsShine

Good luck with it all Gem

Remember in the grand scheme of things, it's not too monumental. If you have good intentions and come from a loving ❤️you can't go wrong.

You will probably look back and laugh, but not be annoyed/stressed

Sending some peace over the pond

😊

I really AM more laughing than worry because I know what I would like to do and what I will do is 2 different things. And none of it is tragic or dramatic. I was just lmao at my mom being such a bitch by being nice. And as always it took a wrong turn and derailed...again! 🤦‍♀️😂

Thanks and yeah...peace! 🙌

P.S. just for you...there is no ducking way I am having first Thanksgiving dinner with Aries AND Cap at the same table. That would be beyond stupid and making ALL uncomfortable. And thread was not about that anyway...🥳

I knew what you meant....❤️

Chill out and .....

I am...can I be more chill listening to Beatles and Aries singing along...(no! He can’t sing...lmao)

😂😂😂

click to expand

😛 Sounds like fun....fire sign men🔥🎉....your good karma after being with the boring old earth sign for so long.... lol

Which songs...did you listen to?

Love this one

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by MyStarsShine

Good luck with it all Gem

Remember in the grand scheme of things, it's not too monumental. If you have good intentions and come from a loving ❤️you can't go wrong.

You will probably look back and laugh, but not be annoyed/stressed

Sending some peace over the pond

😊

I really AM more laughing than worry because I know what I would like to do and what I will do is 2 different things. And none of it is tragic or dramatic. I was just lmao at my mom being such a bitch by being nice. And as always it took a wrong turn and derailed...again! 🤦‍♀️😂

Thanks and yeah...peace! 🙌

P.S. just for you...there is no ducking way I am having first Thanksgiving dinner with Aries AND Cap at the same table. That would be beyond stupid and making ALL uncomfortable. And thread was not about that anyway...🥳

I knew what you meant....❤️

Chill out and .....

I am...can I be more chill listening to Beatles and Aries singing along...(no! He can’t sing...lmao)

😂😂😂

😛 Sounds like fun....fire sign men🔥🎉....your good karma after being with the boring old earth sign for so long.... lol

Which songs...did you listen to?

Love this one

class="bqfade">click to expand

Here is the mix of ‘stuff’...















There is so much more and good thing is that all comes with a stories and history I am listening to as well...who when where and why. Lol

❤️🤝