is it a good sign when a cancer man say "he want me in his future, he just can't tell me when "?

Profile picture of coldwateryvirgo
INTJ emotionally conflicted virgo
@coldwateryvirgo
8 Years500+ PostsVirgo

Comments: 132 · Posts: 837 · Topics: 85


Is this a good thing coming from a cancer guy? or does this fall into the manipulation category like most people post about cancer leading you on



"We need to take it slow. I want you in my future, you're one of the coolest and kindest person I know, but idk when will get to be together, only god knows that "?

I get a genuine vibe though and that he just want to take it slow right now?
Profile picture of peo
peo
@peo
8 Years

Comments: 0 · Posts: 196 · Topics: 6
The wording is not very affirming imo. He doesn't specify how he wants you in his future (could be just friends) and the "cool and kind" is also a very bleh. I would use that language if I'd let someone know I'm not interested, so the last sentence makes it weird/annoying to me. Especially the fact that he gives it into the hands of a higher power. He's taking no responsibility it accountability whatsoever!

If you want to wait it out, that's absolutely up to you, but I'd still go out with other people in the meantime. Ignore him, be courteous but clipped, do your thing. (Cancerians hate being ignored.)
Profile picture of RamOfPeace
RamOfPeace
@RamOfPeace
10 Years1,000+ Posts

Comments: 379 · Posts: 2442 · Topics: 172
"The pussy is good, but I'm not into you, and I'm trying to make myself feel better (because I'm a douche, but I love myself too much to admit it), so I'm sugarcoating it for you, and being very passive. I don't want to take the responsebility for inducing any cray behavior, so I won't spell out shit for you, and just give you an evasive answer. Mind games"

I'm not fluent in douchespeak, but google translate wasn't necessary. Find a better person to invest your time in.
Profile picture of LadyNeptune
LadyNeptune
@LadyNeptune
10 Years25,000+ Posts

Comments: 11076 · Posts: 35718 · Topics: 110
Posted by RamOfPeace
"The pussy is good, but I'm not into you, and I'm trying to make myself feel better (because I'm a douche, but I love myself too much to admit it), so I'm sugarcoating it for you, and being very passive. I don't want to take the responsebility for inducing any cray behavior, so I won't spell out shit for you, and just give you an evasive answer. Mind games"

I'm not fluent in douchespeak, but google translate wasn't necessary. Find a better person to invest your time in.
See I read it as, "I would like to continue to fuck you but don't want a relationship with you, now or ever, so in order to keep that pussy coming at me I'm gonna be evasive and give you hope for a future that's never gonna happen. Holla at me gurl".
Profile picture of LadyNeptune
LadyNeptune
@LadyNeptune
10 Years25,000+ Posts

Comments: 11076 · Posts: 35718 · Topics: 110
Posted by coldwateryvirgo
Is this a good thing coming from a cancer guy? or does this fall into the manipulation category like most people post about cancer leading you on



"We need to take it slow. I want you in my future, you're one of the coolest and kindest person I know, but idk when will get to be together, only god knows that "?

I get a genuine vibe though and that he just want to take it slow right now?
LMAO @Only god knows.

Men don't randomly get struck by lightning and realize that your gf/wifey material. If they see something they want then they go after it. Why? To lock you down so another guy can't get at you.

Anything else is just lip service to keep you on the back burner until they meet 'the one'.

Keep dating other people...please.

Profile picture of RamOfPeace
RamOfPeace
@RamOfPeace
10 Years1,000+ Posts

Comments: 379 · Posts: 2442 · Topics: 172
Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by RamOfPeace
"The pussy is good, but I'm not into you, and I'm trying to make myself feel better (because I'm a douche, but I love myself too much to admit it), so I'm sugarcoating it for you, and being very passive. I don't want to take the responsebility for inducing any cray behavior, so I won't spell out shit for you, and just give you an evasive answer. Mind games"

I'm not fluent in douchespeak, but google translate wasn't necessary. Find a better person to invest your time in.
See I read it as, "I would like to continue to fuck you but don't want a relationship with you, now or ever, so in order to keep that pussy coming at me I'm gonna be evasive and give you hope for a future that's never gonna happen. Holla at me gurl".
click to expand

Yep, the assholenese version is also quite on point.