Pls help with advice

I met this cancer guy last ear. We work in the same company but different departments. We never dated but every time we met he would smile to me; touch my hand; whenever we talked he came very close, no space left between us; always there to help when I asked him to; talking about places abd music we both like; his hobbies; etc. I was thinking that he is just being nice and flirts just for fun, that's why I smiled back, enjoyed the talks but did nothing. Being a little unsecure aquarius, I was thinking he was not interested in me and hoped that at least we could be friends. Afther a few months his behaviour changed completely, he stopped smiling to me when we met, he even passed by me without saying hello, as if we did not knew each other. He is not as happy as he used to be, seems sad... I had the felling that he or someone from his family was unwell, but I never gathered the courage to go and ask him... In some days I see him staring at me as if he want's to ask something, but then just leaves... If by chance we met to solve some job related issues the tension that I feel between us is so high that I can bearly speak. I don't know if he feel it too.. So this is how it is now. Sometimes we smile, we salute, other times we act like we never met.

What should I do? Do I have to make the first step and ask him out or should I go on with my life and let him be?

Sorry for the grammar errors, english is not my first language 🙂

The cancer i dated, he would always do the same thing as your guy, he always needed a little nudge from me though, i had to make an effort to show him i'm interested like complimenting him, texting him pretty often, i never asked him out i just showed interest all the time until after 2 months later he asked me out, he wasn't shy in anyway though, very sensitive and afraid of rejection YES.

Your guy might be the same, he needs some encouragement maybe to feel comfortable

Agree with @Alley08

Cancer men are very sensitive to rejection, and perhaps your behavior seemed to him somewhat detached and uninterested in a romantic connection? So he probably decided it was better to hide in his shell.

Maybe you could strike up a flirtatious conversation, something light-hearted but that shows youre interested in him?

The question is, does he act this way with everyone or just you. If it’s everyone, then stalk his Facebook. See what you can find about him. Might reveal why he’s acting depressed.

You are right, like-an-ocean.

I was thinking at my behaviour and yes, I've been a little distant. This is because I didn't had luck with guys in the past, so when I realized that he might be interesed in me I acted a little cold with him.

But only remembering how well we were getting along and how his face lit up every time he saw me, makes me think that I should pass my fears and try and see what will happen..

Posted by pinkbird03
The question is, does he act this way with everyone or just you. If it’s everyone, then stalk his Facebook. See what you can find about him. Might reveal why he’s acting depressed.

Actually we are not friends on fb, but this will not help anyway as he did not updated his fb page for almost two years.

As far as I can tell, he acts this way only with me, but I'm not 100pct sure..

Posted by Vicky83

Posted by pinkbird03
The question is, does he act this way with everyone or just you. If it’s everyone, then stalk his Facebook. See what you can find about him. Might reveal why he’s acting depressed.

Actually we are not friends on fb, but this will not help anyway as he did not updated his fb page for almost two years.

As far as I can tell, he acts this way only with me, but I'm not 100pct sure..

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If he only acts this way with you, then it has something to do with you. It seems like he’s uncomfortable with you. Anything that would make him feel that way? Something with a little meaning?

Posted by Vicky83
You are right, like-an-ocean.

I was thinking at my behaviour and yes, I've been a little distant. This is because I didn't had luck with guys in the past, so when I realized that he might be interesed in me I acted a little cold with him.

But only remembering how well we were getting along and how his face lit up every time he saw me, makes me think that I should pass my fears and try and see what will happen..

Aww, thats understandable.

Maybe you should start being a little warm to him? Dont be too intense, because that also might make him uneasy (depends on other placements too, Leo/Aries placements love the attention).

Just go slow, and see how it goes. It could be him or someone else, keep your options open and trust your instinct! 🙂 Good luck

Sounds like he was crushing on you and when you didn’t reciprocate he felt, well, crushed. You will have to make the first move... be open, friendly and flirty. Go slow, show intention and maybe get him a lil something like a snack or you can get him lunch and day next one on him... stuff like that and keep progressing. Word of warning though.. you may take 1 step forward and 2 steps back before you guys really get together. The 🦀 is all about self preservation when it comes to ❤️

Just hope it's not to late to change anything now. I will try and see what happens 🙂

Posted by Vicky83
Just hope it's not to late to change anything now. I will try and see what happens 🙂

Go get yo 🦀 man 👍

Don't make the first move. If he likes you enough he'll make a move in his own time. In the meanwhile look for something more promising. Trust me.

Posted by STILL
Don't make the first move. If he likes you enough he'll make a move in his own time. In the meanwhile look for something more promising. Trust me.

Unless he thinks she’s not interested...

Posted by Moonbutter

Posted by STILL
Don't make the first move. If he likes you enough he'll make a move in his own time. In the meanwhile look for something more promising. Trust me.

Unless he thinks she’s not interested...

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Exactly.

Even more reason to go about her business.

@Vicky83, Don't fall for all that shy sensitive stuff. They will use that to their advantage to bate you in only for attention. Especially if you're pretty.

Posted by Moonbutter

Posted by STILL
Don't make the first move. If he likes you enough he'll make a move in his own time. In the meanwhile look for something more promising. Trust me.

Unless he thinks she’s not interested...

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I thought you said unless he thinks she's not interesting.

My advice still remains.