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Posted by roxyfalcon2006
no guy is this perfect... I finally saw my Cancer today, he's been gone for 2 weeks 2,000 miles away as his father passed away. totally shy but made all the contact with me the entire time, i sent him flowers but other than that i gave him space and he sent me tons of messages. he bough me a necklace (we aren't even officially dating yet!) and went out to dinner and he wants to see me tomorrow too, then we're camping all weekend! 😄
He doesn't want sex, wants to take it slow.. acts like a total gentleman, doesn't like to swear in front of me, holds doors open, pays for everything.
there has to be a catch. before i moved here he was the same in the gentleman sense but never contacted me. now that i'm living in his town he's showering me with attention, and as i said he's like the quietest person i know. AHH!
So.. I'm just wondering what you all think of this, is it real? I've never met a guy so out-of-the-book perfect like this, I just know there HAS to be a motive or something.. or he's like a serial killer waiting for the opportune moment..
or, I should just be happy and accept that maybe there is such thing as prince charming
The catch is that he is a freak underneath and is getting things nice and comfy. Once you both get together officially he is going to ravage you... Be ready for a volcanic overflow of lust...
things have been going really well. I'm slowly letting him in emotionally, letting myself be caught up for once. He met my parents this weekend and I was extremely impressed. He wasn't awkward or quiet.. he actually talked A LOT with them and seemed like he was really trying to get over his shyness. He even offered to go to church with us (even though I know he doesn't follow christianity anymore). He thinks my parents would get along great with his mom, and he left Sunday night... I decided to stay home a few more days to be with my extended family from out of town and apply to more jobs online. Monday after less than 24 hours of not seeing him he texted me saying I miss you come back. haha! I'm really happy, I'm still just worried that it's all going to end with a blink of an eye and I'll be hurt or something.. it still seems to be too good to be true but I'll take it as it is and see what happens.... *swoon* fight for those cancers girls.. they are soooo worth it!
How long have you known him?
Posted by roxyfalcon2006
things have been going really well. I'm slowly letting him in emotionally, letting myself be caught up for once. He met my parents this weekend and I was extremely impressed. He wasn't awkward or quiet.. he actually talked A LOT with them and seemed like he was really trying to get over his shyness. He even offered to go to church with us (even though I know he doesn't follow christianity anymore). He thinks my parents would get along great with his mom, and he left Sunday night... I decided to stay home a few more days to be with my extended family from out of town and apply to more jobs online. Monday after less than 24 hours of not seeing him he texted me saying I miss you come back. haha! I'm really happy, I'm still just worried that it's all going to end with a blink of an eye and I'll be hurt or something.. it still seems to be too good to be true but I'll take it as it is and see what happens.... *swoon* fight for those cancers girls.. they are soooo worth it!
we met in february.. i'm reading your pm right now
Well I'm done with my Cancer. I can't take it anymore. He's just CLUELESS !!!
Posted by roxyfalcon2006
we met in february.. i'm reading your pm right now
Ok one thing to correct, I don't be believe he didn't know his ex was a Virgin as every girl who is makes it known to the guy. Esp. if they are bf & gf. And for the second, and I mean not to be rude about it, but does he have a US residency? Do you have any idea how many canadians would kill to marry for a green card? TONS!!!! Every girl I know, including myself would flip herself for an American. Nothing to do with the job market but there is a lot more to be made there than here. So THAT may just be THE CATCH. And don't ask him, as he will obviously not tell you the truth.
Posted by roxyfalcon2006
no no no I didn't blow him in the basement! we got a little touchy-feely but that's it. and his friend was drunk in the room too so hell no!
and actually, another time we were making out a few weeks ago he was like "we should stop, I don't have protection or anything" and we were JUST MAKING OUT, it never went that far or anything until camping, after I had said multiple times I'm a virgin and don't want it, all his friends know I'm a virgin and they told me that his last ex was one too and he took her v-card but didn't know she was a virgin at the time.. anyways, I still think I had a right to be a little freaked out about the condoms, considering the farthest we got before camping was 2nd base and he knew multiple times that I don't plan on sex for a long time.
and as slutty as you all think I am, this was only my 2nd blow job ever, the last one was with the ex and it was only ONCE in our entire relationship. and that was 2 or so years ago
Lol, there's no way in hell I'm getting married anytime soon. I don't care how in love I am or what not, my dads a divorce lawyer and through the years Ive kind of learned what not to do... Not that getting married young is always a bad thing but i know it's not for me. He's only my 2nd boyfriend and I want a stable successful career and stuff before I even think about marriage. That's just me though.
That's Great!! 🙂 I just kept thinking about the catch and this is the only thing I could have thought of.
no that definitely makes sense and i'll keep an eye out for sure.. he does seem to be moving kind of fast. he left my hometown on sunday and by monday he was already texting me saying i miss you come back. I'm going back to Canada tomorrow and he wants to take me to Toronto and stay the night at a hotel.. I already had the sex talk with him so I don't think he'll try anything. Knowing him he just wants to be alone and we're always with friends so yeah...I DID however learn some interesting things about him this weekend after my friends drunkenly coerced him into a game of I Never.. he technically lost his virginity when he was 9. NINE YEARS OLD. And he's slept with 3 girls, one was a one night stand. He's 25 now...I dunno why but it kind of hurt me knowing he's been with other women, I know it's normal but I've only dated virgins before so yeah.
Be careful then! 🙂 I've dated so many guys and have so many of their tricks in my head it's mind blowing. I have a pretty cool website to show you though I'm not sure if I can post it here. It's a guy answering women's questions about men.
If you're here for the weekend and want to make a new friend let me know, we can meet for a coffee 🙂 lol Hope you don't think THIS is strange I always like making new friends around the globe. 😄 Up to you.. you can send me your email through "pm" ...
If you're here for the weekend and want to make a new friend let me know, we can meet for a coffee 🙂 lol Hope you don't think THIS is strange I always like making new friends around the globe. 😄 Up to you.. you can send me your email through "pm" ...
Posted by roxyfalcon2006
no that definitely makes sense and i'll keep an eye out for sure.. he does seem to be moving kind of fast. he left my hometown on sunday and by monday he was already texting me saying i miss you come back. I'm going back to Canada tomorrow and he wants to take me to Toronto and stay the night at a hotel.. I already had the sex talk with him so I don't think he'll try anything. Knowing him he just wants to be alone and we're always with friends so yeah...I DID however learn some interesting things about him this weekend after my friends drunkenly coerced him into a game of I Never.. he technically lost his virginity when he was 9. NINE YEARS OLD. And he's slept with 3 girls, one was a one night stand. He's 25 now...I dunno why but it kind of hurt me knowing he's been with other women, I know it's normal but I've only dated virgins before so yeah.
Posted by roxyfalcon2006
no that definitely makes sense and i'll keep an eye out for sure.. he does seem to be moving kind of fast. he left my hometown on sunday and by monday he was already texting me saying i miss you come back. I'm going back to Canada tomorrow and he wants to take me to Toronto and stay the night at a hotel.. I already had the sex talk with him so I don't think he'll try anything. Knowing him he just wants to be alone and we're always with friends so yeah...I DID however learn some interesting things about him this weekend after my friends drunkenly coerced him into a game of I Never.. he technically lost his virginity when he was 9. NINE YEARS OLD. And he's slept with 3 girls, one was a one night stand. He's 25 now...I dunno why but it kind of hurt me knowing he's been with other women, I know it's normal but I've only dated virgins before so yeah.
Cancer's are known for moving fast. But they're also known for listening well when you say "no." (you just have to be capable of it.)
This guy has had sex with three other women, and you really expect him to wait MONTHS to have sex with you? Did you tell him this before you started your relationship or weeks into it? It was dishonest if you didn't. Especially knowing that he is not a virgin. I'm dating a virgin because I wanted to take it slow, and we knew all of this weeks before our first date.
You're holding off on doing what SOCIETY considers immoral, to still be considered chaste by SOCIETY. God never said it was alright if your hymen was intact (if that was true I lost my virginity to a fucking fence and I'm going to hell). God never said shit to anyone. So stop saying this religious bullshit, your doing this because you want society to think your a GOOD women. Live your life for yourself. Do what you think is right. Which imo, if a guy cares enough about you to trust you, and to help you out, you help him out.
SOCIETY is fucked up. Half of people are born with social disorders that make them evil. If you're lucky enough to get out with a half way decent mentality and a nice guy to boot; appreciate what you have and stay the fuck out. Why do you want to go back in and impress them so much? Grow a self-confidence in yourself and your own decisions. You DON'T need external validation for your choices.
^^ AiryBri you are such a wise lil thing... it's delightful and renews my faith in the youth of today.
No wonder you're with a cancer and it's cooooooool like that 😉
No wonder you're with a cancer and it's cooooooool like that 😉
Posted by CancerGeminia...no guy is this perfect... I finally saw my Cancer today, he's been gone for 2 weeks 2,000 miles away as his father passed away. totally shy but made all the contact with me the entire time, i sent him flowers but other than that i gave him space and he sent me tons of messages. he bough me a necklace (we aren't even officially dating yet!) and went out to dinner and he wants to see me tomorrow too, then we're camping all weekend! 😄
He doesn't want sex, wants to take it slow.. acts like a total gentleman, doesn't like to swear in front of me, holds doors open, pays for everything.
there has to be a catch. before i moved here he was the same in the gentleman sense but never contacted me. now that i'm living in his town he's showering me with attention, and as i said he's like the quietest person i know. AHH!
So.. I'm just wondering what you all think of this, is it real? I've never met a guy so out-of-the-book perfect like this, I just know there HAS to be a motive or something.. or he's like a serial killer waiting for the opportune moment..
or, I should just be happy and accept that maybe there is such thing as prince charming
The catch is that he is a freak underneath and is getting things nice and comfy. Once you both get together officially he is going to ravage you... Be ready for a volcanic overflow of lust...
......OMG cancergem!! You are sooooo right on the money!!! Its true....beware of the lust of a beast when you two do finally experience intimacy!! So right on its scary! Lmao
He doesn't want sex, wants to take it slow.. acts like a total gentleman, doesn't like to swear in front of me, holds doors open, pays for everything.
there has to be a catch. before i moved here he was the same in the gentleman sense but never contacted me. now that i'm living in his town he's showering me with attention, and as i said he's like the quietest person i know. AHH!
So.. I'm just wondering what you all think of this, is it real? I've never met a guy so out-of-the-book perfect like this, I just know there HAS to be a motive or something.. or he's like a serial killer waiting for the opportune moment..
or, I should just be happy and accept that maybe there is such thing as prince charming
The catch is that he is a freak underneath and is getting things nice and comfy. Once you both get together officially he is going to ravage you... Be ready for a volcanic overflow of lust...
......OMG cancergem!! You are sooooo right on the money!!! Its true....beware of the lust of a beast when you two do finally experience intimacy!! So right on its scary! Lmao
Let's not fight guys lol.. Look at me I moved to Canada to get a job lol.
He apparently missed me so much that he wants to take me to Toronto for 2 days.. He got a hotel and everything. A nice one! It's like $ 200 a night. I don't know what hes planning but my virginity can't be bought! Lol.
And I told him I was a virgin and planned on staying that way before we started dating, just to clear that up.
He apparently missed me so much that he wants to take me to Toronto for 2 days.. He got a hotel and everything. A nice one! It's like $ 200 a night. I don't know what hes planning but my virginity can't be bought! Lol.
And I told him I was a virgin and planned on staying that way before we started dating, just to clear that up.
Yes you keep it locked up! Boys are like piranhas when it comes to it. :p
Posted by roxyfalcon2006
Let's not fight guys lol.. Look at me I moved to Canada to get a job lol.
He apparently missed me so much that he wants to take me to Toronto for 2 days.. He got a hotel and everything. A nice one! It's like $ 200 a night. I don't know what hes planning but my virginity can't be bought! Lol.
And I told him I was a virgin and planned on staying that way before we started dating, just to clear that up.
I'm not giving it up, nope. If I do it with him, it's gonna have to be really special and a lot longer of dating period. I know "all men are pigs" but I really don't think he wants it right now.. he's the one wanting to take it slow and it's usually me attacking him in the bedroom.. and he's the one saying we should stop. BUT I'm not so stupid to look at this whole hotel thing without some suspicion.. but I guess we shall see. I honestly thinks he just wants to go to Toronto lol...
my best friend met him over the weekend and she thinks that he's super insecure and thinks he's not good enough for me without spending all this money on me. I don't like that at all...but his friend told me he paid for everything for his ex so it's not like I'm some kind of anomaly with him. I guess we shall see what happens this weekend.
and pr princess I have dual USA/Canadian citizenship so I guess I get the best of both worlds :-) but also.. you guys make way more in Canada then the states.. at least that's what I've seen. then again you get taxed higher though so maybe it evens out.
my best friend met him over the weekend and she thinks that he's super insecure and thinks he's not good enough for me without spending all this money on me. I don't like that at all...but his friend told me he paid for everything for his ex so it's not like I'm some kind of anomaly with him. I guess we shall see what happens this weekend.
and pr princess I have dual USA/Canadian citizenship so I guess I get the best of both worlds :-) but also.. you guys make way more in Canada then the states.. at least that's what I've seen. then again you get taxed higher though so maybe it evens out.
Posted by roxyfalcon2006
my best friend met him over the weekend and she thinks that he's super insecure and thinks he's not good enough for me without spending all this money on me. I don't like that at all...but his friend told me he paid for everything for his ex so it's not like I'm some kind of anomaly with him. I guess we shall see what happens this weekend.
Your best friend met him once and decided he's not good enough? She decided anything about him at all? She can't possibly know him. The term "not good enough" in general is shallow. No person is better than another in a relationship. Relationships suffer because of a lack of compatibility/mutual interests or abuse by one or both partners (and apparently one partner not being mentally ready for a relationship...).
If you worry about being too good or bad, you're basing the relationship off of looks, money, background, or a combination of the three (societal judgments).
airybri nooo no you read that wrong.. she thinks HE thinks he's not good enough for me unless he spends all this money.. she likes him! but she thinks he's insecure
AiryBri .......
... I'm speechless ... you have single-handedly rendered me so awed that I cannot help myself except to bow down to you.
Are you seriously 18 years old?
What is your birthdate?
... I'm speechless ... you have single-handedly rendered me so awed that I cannot help myself except to bow down to you.
Are you seriously 18 years old?
What is your birthdate?
Posted by roxyfalcon2006
He apparently missed me so much that he wants to take me to Toronto for 2 days.. He got a hotel and everything. A nice one! It's like $ 200 a night. I don't know what hes planning but my virginity can't be bought! Lol.
You say your virginity cannot be bought .. yet, include a $ sign when talking about what he does for you.
To even be thinking in terms of what he does for you, as it pertains to your virginity, is in fact planting seeds that you are using your virginity as leverage for your manipulation.
In everything you've stated here, in all your points you make ... it all references back to your virginity, which means your virginity isn't in place for your own sense of honor, it's in place to use for your benefit.
A woman who is chaste for purposes of her own sense of honor, doesn't draw attention to it .. you appear to not only HAVE to keep drawing attention to it, you also mentioned (I think in the OP, or maybe second post), that all his friends know you're a virgin. So, this is definitely something you keep throwing out there to use.
I have to agree with P-angel....I find it strange that you have said in numerous posts that your a virgin...are you really? or are you just trying to convince yourself that you are by repeating it over and over? I personally don't understand going around telling the whole world.....it seems to be an attention thing.
no, it's just something that is important to me and I'm open about this kind of stuff with everyone...I can talk about basically every subject that's considered taboo to people and I know most people don't go around talking about their sexual stuff but I guess that's just who I am. I'm sorry I keep mentioning it, I'll stop. But I do stand firm in the can't be bought thing.. I don't care how many hotels he takes me to or things he buys for me, I'm not doing anything until I'm in love (if I even fall in love with him, it's possible it may never happen) and I feel ready and willing. I'm not going to do it because I feel like I "owe" him for doing all this stuff for me.
I have side cramps from laughing so hard
Posted by roxyfalcon2006
no, it's just something that is important to me and I'm open about this kind of stuff with everyone...I can talk about basically every subject that's considered taboo to people and I know most people don't go around talking about their sexual stuff but I guess that's just who I am. I'm sorry I keep mentioning it, I'll stop. But I do stand firm in the can't be bought thing.. I don't care how many hotels he takes me to or things he buys for me, I'm not doing anything until I'm in love (if I even fall in love with him, it's possible it may never happen) and I feel ready and willing. I'm not going to do it because I feel like I "owe" him for doing all this stuff for me.click to expand
What I get out of these posts is a yearning to be special. "most people aren't comfortable talking about this but I am" "I'm 22 and haven't lost it!" etc, etc. The hard truth is that we are all very similar in our desires and needs. We try to appear special by taking advantage of what has already happened in our lives.
But deep down, you know, that had you met a guy that appeared decent and in heavy pursuit of you back when you were 16, you probably would have lost it then. You just want to pretend that you wouldn't have by making it appear difficult now.
"I'm not going to do it because I feel like I "owe" him for doing all this stuff for me."
This is one thing I agree with you whole heartedly on. But that's why you don't accept 200 $ hotel stays or presents. You tell him "I would rather just stay in a motel" or better yet "I'll just wait for you to get back and spend time with you for free then"
Accepting gifts and money is like saying "Yes, I'll trade my v-card for a present" but not coming through on your side of the deal.
If you don't like that he is offering material goods for sex in the first place, find a different guy. I left half the guys I dated for that very reason, they offered too much too soon or wouldn't let me pay for anything. They try and force you to accept a gift for sex.
I have several guy friends and one even told me once "If I paid for everything on a date, she should at least let me get to second base..." If you don't want him to feel that way, don't let him pay. Or better yet, leave him.
If a guy thinks girls can be bought, and he thinks he bought you, he might just try and take what he thinks he deserves. Danger.
Posted by P-Angel
AiryBri .......
... I'm speechless ... you have single-handedly rendered me so awed that I cannot help myself except to bow down to you.
Are you seriously 18 years old?
What is your birthdate?
04/04/1993
honestly, say what you want about me, but I really have no desire to do it right now. Yes, I have a high sex drive, and yes, I enjoy other things, but I really don't WANT to have sex with him, or anyone. that is my 100% honest truth. I am completely satisfied doing other things and I don't need the risks involved with sex...be it pregnancy, std's, or losing it to him. When I WANT to have sex I'll do it. I would not have wanted it at 16 for sure. I'm the oldest kid (which tends to be the most naive) and grew up very sheltered, I don't think I even knew what it was til I was 13 and I definitely wasn't interested in doing it when I found out. I remember when I first started my period I cried for days because I was growing up and I told my mom I wanted surgery to take my uterus out..haha. If that puts it in perspective I'm kind of a late bloomer? I'm not saving myself just to say I'm special for not doing it. I'm just afraid of it right now and I have no interest in going further at this point in time. I know it's hard for most people to understand what I mean but maybe I'm just weird, I dunno.
and airybri, I agree with what you're saying about not accepting stuff as "presents" but I don't even KNOW if they're meant to be that... like it appears that way but it's very possible he just wants to see Toronto. As I mentioned before his friend said he paid for everything for his ex so maybe that's just what he does. I've offered to pay almost every single time we've gone out and he won't let me. He's done nothing to indicate he's trying to "buy" me for sex at all, I'm just being paranoid but cautious. I know that I won't give it up just because he's paid for stuff.. I value myself way more than that. But I don't want to feel like he thinks I SHOULD or something. not that he does at all..... but you never know.
thank you moongirl!! that's really nice to hear, a positive side for once haha! what sign are you and why did you push him away? before, in the beginning I totally obsessed over him but now I feel as if he is falling hard and fast and now I'm still trying to figure out my feelings for him. I fall fast in the beginning but it's just lust...it takes me a really long time to actually fall in love I'm assuming, since I've never been in love before
and the reason I keep repeating myself is because you all keep saying "you ain't no virgin" etc etc. and that I'm a cocktease and all that.. I don't know how to stress my point without repeating myself...
Posted by roxyfalcon2006
and airybri, I agree with what you're saying about not accepting stuff as "presents" but I don't even KNOW if they're meant to be that... like it appears that way but it's very possible he just wants to see Toronto. As I mentioned before his friend said he paid for everything for his ex so maybe that's just what he does. I've offered to pay almost every single time we've gone out and he won't let me. He's done nothing to indicate he's trying to "buy" me for sex at all, I'm just being paranoid but cautious. I know that I won't give it up just because he's paid for stuff.. I value myself way more than that. But I don't want to feel like he thinks I SHOULD or something. not that he does at all..... but you never know.
You have to be careful. I know a women who married a guy she knew for 9 months, never seeing a red flag, and he turned out to be a totally abusive man, who stalked her for years after they divorced. People can be crazy. All you have to do is give them a reason, and they'll maim and kill you. He might be looking for a reason. Which means he could be hoping that you'll go down fighting about paying or accepting gifts, and then give into it anyway. I'm not saying this is the situation, but a very real and scary possibility.
Honestly, unless you have given a man real (identifiable) reasons for him to make sacrifices for you, you should be extremely cautious. People assume life is like the movies, where "soulmate" bs will make a guy who barely knows a "special" girl move mountains to be with her. Not only is that unrealistic, it's stupid. Why would I want a guy who barely knows me (who hasn't even gotten past the "playing games" stage of the relationship) to make huge romantic gestures or give me extravagant gifts? When you get past the "Oh look at how special I look and feel in front of my frieds" feeling, you realize it doesn't have any meaning.
I would rather have a shotgun wedding with a man I have created a million memories with, that I could spend my life with, that I love and trust more than anything in the world, then a million dollar wedding with stranger. At the end, the pictures and memories will fade, the man next to you, and the honest truth of the situation, will not.
((In fact, I would prefer the shotgun wedding with good man, to a million dollar wedding with the same man. To me it feels like all that additional shit
((In fact, I would prefer the shotgun wedding with good man, to a million dollar wedding with the same man. To me it feels like all that additional shit is for the other people. I want it to be just about me and him; save the money for our kids trust fund. If he truly loves you, he doesn't have to prove it to you or anyone else.))
Posted by roxyfalcon2006
honestly, say what you want about me, but I really have no desire to do it right now. Yes, I have a high sex drive, and yes, I enjoy other things, but I really don't WANT to have sex with him, or anyone. that is my 100% honest truth. I am completely satisfied doing other things and I don't need the risks involved with sex...be it pregnancy, std's, or losing it to him. When I WANT to have sex I'll do it. I would not have wanted it at 16 for sure. I'm the oldest kid (which tends to be the most naive) and grew up very sheltered, I don't think I even knew what it was til I was 13 and I definitely wasn't interested in doing it when I found out. I remember when I first started my period I cried for days because I was growing up and I told my mom I wanted surgery to take my uterus out..haha. If that puts it in perspective I'm kind of a late bloomer? I'm not saving myself just to say I'm special for not doing it. I'm just afraid of it right now and I have no interest in going further at this point in time. I know it's hard for most people to understand what I mean but maybe I'm just weird, I dunno.
airybri you're right about the whole "it's weird for a guy you hardly know to move mountains for you" thing and it's really taken me off-guard too... I don't think he's capable of being a psychopathic killer or something but I do think it's possible that if/when our relationship ends, which hopefully won't be for a while since we just started... but he's going to be crushed if he's made his whole life revolve around me. It's not like he's given me EXTRAVAGANT gifts or anything like that but little things here and there...it adds up quickly though.
I'm not sure if he's doing this for the reason you said though.. for me to give him more bjs and stuff, because we really never have any alone time to do that anyways. He still lives with his mom so he's always coming over to my house and I have roommates and even when we're alone all he wants to do is sit in the living room with his arm around me on the couch. He never makes any kind of move like that, the most I get from him in one day is a kiss hello and a kiss good-bye and then he has to go home and sleep before work the next day. I'd RATHER be doing more stuff with him, so it's not like he's trying to coax me into the bedroom or anything...our relationship is hard to explain I guess. In all seriousness, and I am NOT a twilight fan at ALL, but all his friends joke that he acts like Edward Cullen and it's freakishly true. The staring, protectiveness, gifts, wanting to wait to do things, he'd always tell the girl they'd have to stop when they were making out and stuff..it's ridiculous how similar our relationship is to that cheesy shitty novel but it's true. I WISH he would do more stuff, honestly.
I'm not sure if he's doing this for the reason you said though.. for me to give him more bjs and stuff, because we really never have any alone time to do that anyways. He still lives with his mom so he's always coming over to my house and I have roommates and even when we're alone all he wants to do is sit in the living room with his arm around me on the couch. He never makes any kind of move like that, the most I get from him in one day is a kiss hello and a kiss good-bye and then he has to go home and sleep before work the next day. I'd RATHER be doing more stuff with him, so it's not like he's trying to coax me into the bedroom or anything...our relationship is hard to explain I guess. In all seriousness, and I am NOT a twilight fan at ALL, but all his friends joke that he acts like Edward Cullen and it's freakishly true. The staring, protectiveness, gifts, wanting to wait to do things, he'd always tell the girl they'd have to stop when they were making out and stuff..it's ridiculous how similar our relationship is to that cheesy shitty novel but it's true. I WISH he would do more stuff, honestly.
Roxyfalcon2006...
Im not too familiar with cancer men.. Im also trying to figure them out myself.
However I could say that Cancer men have a very sick sense and actually do have the ability to read into you.. So yes we all understand ur a virgin.. But I have a feeling that ur guy is sensing that u are ready to crack in 2.2 seconds.. Meaning that u overly talk about ur virginity and how srtong minded u are to keep it.. However with some alcohol in ur system .. Hmmm yayeee he gets a blow job.. Now put urself in his shoes.. This man is feeling teased but knows exactly what to do to make u simmer to his sexual desire.. So he is thinking.. Hmmm, ok so we did the whole camping thing and I got a blow job out of it.. Now let me treat her to a nice hotel.. just the two of us .. put alcohol in her system and BOOM.. Imma get that A**.. lol Sorry but thats how i see it..
If u are sooooooo into ur virginity thing.. Why are u putting urself in those type of situations.. Meaning.. Alone in a tent, romantic hotel.. All of those scream SEXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX.. Why dont u tell him str8 up that u dont feel comfortable in those type of environments because u dont wanna give him mix messages.. Because im sorry u are giving him mixed message and yes I do agree with everyone else.. A tease is some sort.. Go for dinners, movies, parcs, walks ... Public places until u fell 100% comfortable being alone with him..
OYYYYY POOR GUY.. Ur giving him blue balls ;s
Im not too familiar with cancer men.. Im also trying to figure them out myself.
However I could say that Cancer men have a very sick sense and actually do have the ability to read into you.. So yes we all understand ur a virgin.. But I have a feeling that ur guy is sensing that u are ready to crack in 2.2 seconds.. Meaning that u overly talk about ur virginity and how srtong minded u are to keep it.. However with some alcohol in ur system .. Hmmm yayeee he gets a blow job.. Now put urself in his shoes.. This man is feeling teased but knows exactly what to do to make u simmer to his sexual desire.. So he is thinking.. Hmmm, ok so we did the whole camping thing and I got a blow job out of it.. Now let me treat her to a nice hotel.. just the two of us .. put alcohol in her system and BOOM.. Imma get that A**.. lol Sorry but thats how i see it..
If u are sooooooo into ur virginity thing.. Why are u putting urself in those type of situations.. Meaning.. Alone in a tent, romantic hotel.. All of those scream SEXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX.. Why dont u tell him str8 up that u dont feel comfortable in those type of environments because u dont wanna give him mix messages.. Because im sorry u are giving him mixed message and yes I do agree with everyone else.. A tease is some sort.. Go for dinners, movies, parcs, walks ... Public places until u fell 100% comfortable being alone with him..
OYYYYY POOR GUY.. Ur giving him blue balls ;s
Posted by everevolvingepithet
Surely the guy is a dumb ass if he's prolonging the 'agony' too ?
It doesn't fully add up imo.
lol.... Indeed.. but I think he knows exactly what he's doin... And waiting for Roxy to catch the bait..
So again.. Dont put urself in that situation if u dont wanna have sex with him..
FYI.. Thats why ur getting the chicken tease comments.. Not hurtful in any way however from our point of u and most guys and this board.. Ur action say otherwise..
Posted by moongirljj
I don't know why people are saying you are being a cock tease, but most people experiment before going all the way. It's a way to ease yourself in to sex. As long as you're not taking men to the point of no return then denying them a release I would say you're not doing any harm.
People say it because she lays next to him while they are completely naked, while they kiss and fondle .. then when he tries to get the goods, or if he reaches for a condom, or makes any suggestion that he wants to be relieved .. then she yells no, stop and pulls away upset because he's trying to take advantage of her.
The other reason why people say this is because she talks about the importance of maintaining her virginity and this is the reason why she makes conform to her virtue ... then turns around and sucks his dick, which of course, get's his motors running again ... then says no again to the snatch, while talking about how important her virtue is to her, and constantly reminds him that he isn't going to get any from her ... then sucks his dick.
That is a person who is a user, and not a person who honors their virtue.
I doubt he's waiting .. she is willing to suck him off
Posted by moongirljj
I don't know whats been said about your virginity but I think it's your business. It's nice to see someone who treats it as a precious thing, too many women are far too quick to give it up.
The problem here is that she makes it everyones business .. she's quite to tell people about her virginity .. she said that her boyfriend's friends know too .. so this means she makes sure to tell people. In this thread alone, she mentions her virginity in nearing every post, to insinuate that he's not getting it = she telling us how she uses it as bait.
check out the below that comes from a different thread, where she was talking about how she knows how to play the game of hooking a man .... so, she's not this naive and innocent kitten she portrays to be in here.
Posted by roxyfalcon2006
If he's not calling, not initiating, not giving you affection, romantic gifts (I took a relationships class and they said that if he's buying stuff like vacuums instead of jewelry, he doesn't think of you romantically) he's just not that into you.
.... just think back to all those guys who showed interest in you who were decent but you were kind of bored with them...it's because they put all their cards out on the table and screwed themselves. It's a game, as shallow is that statement is. Don't let anyone see your cards.
Posted by roxyfalcon2006
yeah I'm still 22 haha but I am actually very inexperienced in the realm of dating.. just because, having had SO much experience in the whole "unrequited love" thing.. I'm more of an expert on knowing if the guy is interested and how to hook him than what to DO WITH HIM when you actually do get him. Totally know how to get the guy and when to drop him ...
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Posted by roxyfalcon2006
honestly, say what you want about me, but I really have no desire to do it right now. Yes, I have a high sex drive, and yes, I enjoy other things, but I really don't WANT to have sex with him, or anyone. that is my 100% honest truth. I am completely satisfied doing other things and I don't need the risks involved with sex...be it pregnancy, std's, or losing it to him. When I WANT to have sex I'll do it. I would not have wanted it at 16 for sure. I'm the oldest kid (which tends to be the most naive) and grew up very sheltered, I don't think I even knew what it was til I was 13 and I definitely wasn't interested in doing it when I found out. I remember when I first started my period I cried for days because I was growing up and I told my mom I wanted surgery to take my uterus out..haha. If that puts it in perspective I'm kind of a late bloomer? I'm not saving myself just to say I'm special for not doing it. I'm just afraid of it right now and I have no interest in going further at this point in time. I know it's hard for most people to understand what I mean but maybe I'm just weird, I dunno.
Posted by PurringInTheRain
I'm a little bit blown away that the death of his father isn't being discussed more. I'm sorry, but all of this tent blowjob virginity hotel talk just seems so petty in comparison to the recent death of a parent.
How is he grieving? Does it talk to you about it?
He doesn't like to talk about it.. or his emotions or anything like that. He wasn't very close with his dad and there's some bad blood there but I think for him it was more a relief than anything because his father was suffering for a long time. He's really quiet and shy and doesn't like to make himself vulnerable... I've tried talking to him about it but I kinda get the vibe that he doesn't like bringing it up. I'm not really sure what else I should do about it? I sent him flowers to the place he was staying when he went out there, which he said he really appreciated, but I don't really know how I can help him emotionally if he won't open up about it? His twin's the same way too.. they just don't really seem upset about on the surface (I'm sure they do inside though)
I had a great 2 days with him in Toronto! We went to a museum and shopping and then drank in the hotel room (I drank super slowly and only got buzzed.. I didn't want to make any mistakes like the infamous tent). He got pretty tipsy though and started pouring his heart out to me. He kept saying how he didn't want to do anything to hurt me and that out of everyone else he's dated before, I'm his favorite. He said I'm the only thing he thinks about all day at work and he just wants to be with me all the time. Then we started talking about our exes (he brought it up)... This time he said he's had sex with 5 girls even though before he said it was 3...I didn't say it to him but that really bugged me... 3 was an okay number but 5 seems like a lot to me. He said he didn't really care about any of those girls he slept with (again, I'm taking all this with a grain of salt). But he did open up about his past and how his father was an alcoholic who used to beat his mom, so she left him and for a while they had to live in a battered woman's home. He said he tried a lot of drugs and did stupid things and he was a really nerdy kid in high school. He said one day some people found out where he was living and they made fun of him saying "why don't you go home to daddy so he can beat you" so he just dropped out of school. He said that's the biggest thing he's ever regretted and hes trying really hard to finish now because he wants to get rid of that past mistake. He's also talking about wanting to go to college but he has no idea what he wants to do and doesn't want to waste money on studying something he doesnt enjoy.
I really felt like I got to know him so much better. He didn't try anything with me and we both talked about that stuff and how his best girlfriend got taken advantage of when she was drunk and ended up getting taken advantage of and pregnant, and how the guy wouldn't admit it. So my bf paid half of the DNA test for her an it was in fact that guys kid but he still wouldn't admit it, my bf even offered to put his name as the father on the child's birth certificate because he felt so bad for hisfriend and said he'd take care if something ever happened but she said no she just wanted to raise it herself.
So anyways... Ive seen a glimpse of his past and I'm starting to understand now why he does the things he does and why he acts the way he acts. Yes his past was very heartbreaking for me, and he said when he visited my family it made him think I had the
I really felt like I got to know him so much better. He didn't try anything with me and we both talked about that stuff and how his best girlfriend got taken advantage of when she was drunk and ended up getting taken advantage of and pregnant, and how the guy wouldn't admit it. So my bf paid half of the DNA test for her an it was in fact that guys kid but he still wouldn't admit it, my bf even offered to put his name as the father on the child's birth certificate because he felt so bad for hisfriend and said he'd take care if something ever happened but she said no she just wanted to raise it herself.
So anyways... Ive seen a glimpse of his past and I'm starting to understand now why he does the things he does and why he acts the way he acts. Yes his past was very heartbreaking for me, and he said when he visited my family it made him think I had the
Perfect life that he always wanted ..family wise I mean. Like parents still together and we eat dinner together at the table every night, stuff like that. I think that's why he's so loving and caring because he had to deal with all that pain before and he doesn't want to make the same mistakes his father did. We also talked about love and I said ive never been in love before and he said he hadnt either, and never told anyone the "L" word And I said I'd never say it first because I'm afraid of rejection. I really am starting to fall for him though. Something still doesn't sit right with me though..I'm not sure what it is.
He's not perfect, not by a long shot.....I'm guessing he's seen his father pull the wool over his mom's eyes numerous times, I can also guess he's been through the abusive cycle of honeymooning the family into believing he's changed only to turn abusive again, so he's pretty proficient at honeymooning women into letting her defenses down, something he most likely through that toxic pattern of abuse thru his father, what he'll do once he realizes you are completely head over heels in love with him, I dunno, my guess is he'll begin to play some king of abusive behavior, maybe not physical, probably more mental and emotional.
I don't blame you for feeling alarmed...
A few things that sit out to me is
1.He has a history of abuse in his background and he hasn't sought out any help for it
2.Alcoholism runs in the family and he seems to drink beyond buzzed...not saying he's an alcoholic though
3.He hasn't finished high school, I can only believe he has some self esteem problems which will rear it's head at some point
4.He lied, I don't like liars, if he lie about something so trivial as how many women he's slept with, what else is he lying about
5.He said "He kept saying how he didn't want to do anything to hurt me" Why would he say that unless he already know he's going to do something to hurt you, people that don't have a history of hurting others don't make these kind of statements
" Something still doesn't sit right with me though..I'm not sure what it is."
Because like many men and women do....They pretend to be perfect b/c of a painful past and that can mislead the other person (specifically you) into believing he's safe to be vulnerable with, only to find out later that he's really one f*cked up guy....Many times men with a history of abuse will seek out the most lily white girl to hide behind, you make him appear normal.
Keep being observant...It'll all reveal itself soon
I don't blame you for feeling alarmed...
A few things that sit out to me is
1.He has a history of abuse in his background and he hasn't sought out any help for it
2.Alcoholism runs in the family and he seems to drink beyond buzzed...not saying he's an alcoholic though
3.He hasn't finished high school, I can only believe he has some self esteem problems which will rear it's head at some point
4.He lied, I don't like liars, if he lie about something so trivial as how many women he's slept with, what else is he lying about
5.He said "He kept saying how he didn't want to do anything to hurt me" Why would he say that unless he already know he's going to do something to hurt you, people that don't have a history of hurting others don't make these kind of statements
" Something still doesn't sit right with me though..I'm not sure what it is."
Because like many men and women do....They pretend to be perfect b/c of a painful past and that can mislead the other person (specifically you) into believing he's safe to be vulnerable with, only to find out later that he's really one f*cked up guy....Many times men with a history of abuse will seek out the most lily white girl to hide behind, you make him appear normal.
Keep being observant...It'll all reveal itself soon
meant to say learned through that toxic
Giiiirrl...
"He said one day some people found out where he was living and they made fun of him saying "why don't you go home to daddy so he can beat you" so he just dropped out of school."
LMAO
you should've laughed in his face and called'em a soft crabcake..thats the only way you will get to see the real him
LMAO
you should've laughed in his face and called'em a soft crabcake..thats the only way you will get to see the real him
".our relationship is hard to explain I guess. In all seriousness, and I am NOT a twilight fan at ALL, but all his friends joke that he acts like Edward Cullen and it's freakishly true. The staring, protectiveness, gifts, wanting to wait to do things, he'd always tell the girl they'd have to stop when they were making out and stuff..it's ridiculous how similar our relationship is to that cheesy shitty novel but it's true. I WISH he would do more stuff, honestly."
So he act like a psychopath....Wake up girl....Didn't the Craiglist killer appear to be normal only to end up being a complete sociopath....I would be creeped out if someone said my fiance act like Edward Cullen *shudders*
Is it me or does this guy appear to be mimicking, the staring is what pyschopaths do and it's creeeeepy, it's as if he's PRETENDING to be perfect.
Be careful
So he act like a psychopath....Wake up girl....Didn't the Craiglist killer appear to be normal only to end up being a complete sociopath....I would be creeped out if someone said my fiance act like Edward Cullen *shudders*
Is it me or does this guy appear to be mimicking, the staring is what pyschopaths do and it's creeeeepy, it's as if he's PRETENDING to be perfect.
Be careful
Posted by DAMEN VI
"He said one day some people found out where he was living and they made fun of him saying "why don't you go home to daddy so he can beat you" so he just dropped out of school."
LMAO
you should've laughed in his face and called'em a soft crabcake..thats the only way you will get to see the real him
LMAO
I agree, it's time to stop letting him play this I'm perfect role with you and rattle his cage a bit....
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