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P-Angel, really? get over it. if you think i'm so shallow and attention seeking, then aren't you kind of giving me attention by your continuing posts on here? I'm not gonna fight with someone I hardly even know over the internet. I was just responding back to that person's joke. And the fact that some posts you read on some random forum on the internet can make you this pissed off is kind of ridiculous.
Posted by roxyfalcon2006
P-Angel, really? get over it. if you think i'm so shallow and attention seeking, then aren't you kind of giving me attention by your continuing posts on here? I'm not gonna fight with someone I hardly even know over the internet. I was just responding back to that person's joke. And the fact that some posts you read on some random forum on the internet can make you this pissed off is kind of ridiculous.
I'm not pissed off ... to say the word "this" when referencing pissed off would suggest that you think to merely talk to you renders rage in me.
You really are that stupid, aren't you? I was hoping not, just as I hope everyone isn't ... then they do stupid shit, and I'm back to believing my original thought.
It appears that it's only the Virgos and Geminis who think in terms of fighting ... hmm = Mercury perhaps?
I'm not even close to arguing with you .... I'm making suggestions about you, to you ... you can't even get that, can you? Your puny mind thinks my talking is in place to engage you?
lol
Soon, the Cancer man will be loling with me ... and no doubt, you'll be scratching your head trying to figure out what's going on.
Why exactly would I want to get over it?
I'm having a good ole laugh at you thinking I would want to engage you in an arguement ... because it means that you are so deluded that you think, I would believe you to be capable ... which you're not.
You can't even get basic concepts ... and you definitely cannot get that you are incapable of arguing with a person.
Funny that you are that ignorant ... so why would I want to stop having a laugh at you?
I'm having a good ole laugh at you thinking I would want to engage you in an arguement ... because it means that you are so deluded that you think, I would believe you to be capable ... which you're not.
You can't even get basic concepts ... and you definitely cannot get that you are incapable of arguing with a person.
Funny that you are that ignorant ... so why would I want to stop having a laugh at you?
Like I said, I'm not fighting over the internet. Especially with someone old enough to be my mother. Sorry I offended you in anyway, but I'm not going to feed into this bull crap. I'm no longer going to respond to any of your posts, nothing I say or do will change your opinion anyways.
Posted by wineaux
i found the 'catch'...
Posted by roxyfalcon2006
He doesn't want sex, wants to take it slow.. acts like a total gentleman...
well, not anymore...
Posted by roxyfalcon2006
...is it real? I just know there HAS to be a motive or something...
or something
advice is hailing down on you from all directions...positive, negative, encouraging, discouraging. the point is the preverbal bed has been made and one of you has to lie in it (no pun intended). when boundaries get crossed too early on things continue to exponentially blur, leaving a huge mess of confusion in it's path. i'm not a big fan of dwelling on things i did wrong because it does nothing positive (no one needs to fester in their own shit). so focus solely on what you need to do in order to fix things and move forward. plan your speech (nefer is amazing at composing these things!!) and pick a day to do it. that's all. the end.
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thanks wineaux I'm doing it tonight, I wanted to yesterday but all his friends were there and I didn't get the chance. but he did say "tomorrow let's do something that doesn't involve people, just you and me." it was cute.. he better not mean sex though. he's also meeting my parents this weekend
Posted by roxyfalcon2006Posted by wineaux
i found the 'catch'...
but he did say "tomorrow let's do something that doesn't involve people, just you and me." it was cute.. he better not mean sex though.click to expand
oh he so means sex...
Agreed with shellshocker, you better get into that conversation post-haste tonight, because otherwise you will find yourself in a hot and heavy moment again that's hard to get out of.
gahhhh shit. well he was talking about seeing a movie so maybe he meant that. but I have a lot more gumption now so I'm not gonna let my guard down this time, also we won't be drunk on a campsite either
Posted by amethyst2002Posted by roxyfalcon2006
but he did say "tomorrow let's do something that doesn't involve people, just you and me." it was cute.. he better not mean sex though.
REALLY?? Maybe not directly, but you better bet your ass he's hoping to get laid tonight.click to expand
We'll see... he gets off work soon but I'm really thinking it was because his like douchey friend came over and he was kind of embarassed of him and wanted to do something more one-on-one, but I'm not going to play the innocent card here, you could be totally right. But at least I'll be prepared to not let that happen, lol.
...what will happen next?
I'm staying tuned o.o
I'm staying tuned o.o
I read a post she made on another thread. Apparently he took it ok.
My thoughts are he's going to shy away gradually tho.
My thoughts are he's going to shy away gradually tho.
please...
this chick drives up to see this guy after meeting him on vacation. do you know how many guys i've made out while on vacation or them visiting my country? it's pretty much 'free zone'. you get caught up in the romance of it all and then you/they get to leave. no complications.
but this chick FOLLOWS this guy home, gets all in with the parents and friends, then MOVES to his small town... now she tells him she ain't giving it up.
i'd slap the bitch cause she's used him for his hospitality, friends and a job opportunity and he gets.... what? the pleasure of her company?
if he sits and takes it he's a chump. sure he said he was fine with it because cancers have a delayed reaction to things, but once he broads over the position she's put him in ESPECIALLY with his friends and family...
it's not going to be pretty. but hey... i may be wrong
this chick drives up to see this guy after meeting him on vacation. do you know how many guys i've made out while on vacation or them visiting my country? it's pretty much 'free zone'. you get caught up in the romance of it all and then you/they get to leave. no complications.
but this chick FOLLOWS this guy home, gets all in with the parents and friends, then MOVES to his small town... now she tells him she ain't giving it up.
i'd slap the bitch cause she's used him for his hospitality, friends and a job opportunity and he gets.... what? the pleasure of her company?
if he sits and takes it he's a chump. sure he said he was fine with it because cancers have a delayed reaction to things, but once he broads over the position she's put him in ESPECIALLY with his friends and family...
it's not going to be pretty. but hey... i may be wrong
Posted by shellshocker
please...
but this chick FOLLOWS this guy home, gets all in with the parents and friends, then MOVES to his small town... now she tells him she ain't giving it up.
i'd slap the bitch cause she's used him for his hospitality, friends and a job opportunity and he gets.... what? the pleasure of her company?
if he sits and takes it he's a chump. sure he said he was fine with it because cancers have a delayed reaction to things, but once he broads over the position she's put him in ESPECIALLY with his friends and family...
it's not going to be pretty. but hey... i may be wrong
trust me, I totally see where you're coming from and it totally, 100% , absolutely looks like that. I swear to god that yeah, he's A reason for me moving here but it was more a change of scenery and wanting to get to Canada so I can work in film but eh, I know nothing I say will change your mind about that so I won't bother defending myself.
BUT considering I am absolutely aware of that, here's this shred of info:
So yeah, I met him on a cruise, and I'll admit I got pretty obsessed and wanted to figure him out, etc. So I came here to kind of vent and learn about cancer men. And yes, I visited him twice, and he never came to see me once even after he said he would. Sure he doesn't have a car but yeah, that sends red flags to me.
So now I'm here, seeing how I'm friends with all his friends, I've met all his family, and it looks like I'm some clingy chick that gets in with all the close people to sink her man.. totally not true. I'm friends with them because honestly, they are really awesome, friendly people that I just click with.
NOW, here's the funny part: so yes, before it was all me, And sure he did almost nothing besides messaging me a few times but if you were a guy, with no car, would you bother with some chick 3 hrs away? No. Not why I moved here but again, judge as you wish.
Now, despite how much I've posted on here and everything (because I'm such a freaking perfectionist and I should be studying for my exam but I'm taking a break) I REALLY cannot stress how not emotionally involved I am with him yet. He's sweet, he's enchanting with his whole prince charming deal, he's hot, etc etc. But I have not at all "fallen" yet. I've still got my emotional guard up. Maybe it's because he's so shy and I don't feel like we 100% click yet,
maybe we never will... but I can just assure you that if he had said no, I want sex, see ya later, I wouldn't cry or anything.
NOW, and as many of my friends have pointed out-HE seems like the one that's wayyy more emotionally invested. For instance, he bought an iPhone...after NEVER wanting or owning a phone before then. He texts me every day now, and I respond, but never initiate. He wants to buy a house. He wants to go get a college degree. He takes me out to eat every day, he's distancing himself from his friends and only hanging out with me (which is really worrying me because I don't need to see him EVERYDAY and I don't want him abandoning his friends for me!!)
HE brought up the subject of making it official, HE was wondering why I hadn't changed my facebook status yet...HE'S making plans to go to Thailand in 7 months with me as if our relationship will definitely still exist at that time. as my best friend put it.. he's in it for the long haul.
Also what bothered me is we were talking today and I was saying how I hold really high standards for myself (like wanting a big career and I'm really self-critical) and he was like really, you're dating a garden boy (he works at a landscape place)-totally devaluing himself, I felt so bad 😢
I told him about the no sex thing (as awkwardly as humanly possible, ugh) and he said it's fine and it doesn't matter to him-we both kept that awkward convo short but he doesn't mind it.
He's even coming home with me this weekend to meet my parents.
And, this always seems to happen... I really like him and stuff, but when a man starts to get clingy with me it kind of freaks me out a bit. this time I think I'll get over it, but in all seriousness-he's way more into it than I am.
NOW, and as many of my friends have pointed out-HE seems like the one that's wayyy more emotionally invested. For instance, he bought an iPhone...after NEVER wanting or owning a phone before then. He texts me every day now, and I respond, but never initiate. He wants to buy a house. He wants to go get a college degree. He takes me out to eat every day, he's distancing himself from his friends and only hanging out with me (which is really worrying me because I don't need to see him EVERYDAY and I don't want him abandoning his friends for me!!)
HE brought up the subject of making it official, HE was wondering why I hadn't changed my facebook status yet...HE'S making plans to go to Thailand in 7 months with me as if our relationship will definitely still exist at that time. as my best friend put it.. he's in it for the long haul.
Also what bothered me is we were talking today and I was saying how I hold really high standards for myself (like wanting a big career and I'm really self-critical) and he was like really, you're dating a garden boy (he works at a landscape place)-totally devaluing himself, I felt so bad 😢
I told him about the no sex thing (as awkwardly as humanly possible, ugh) and he said it's fine and it doesn't matter to him-we both kept that awkward convo short but he doesn't mind it.
He's even coming home with me this weekend to meet my parents.
And, this always seems to happen... I really like him and stuff, but when a man starts to get clingy with me it kind of freaks me out a bit. this time I think I'll get over it, but in all seriousness-he's way more into it than I am.
Posted by wineaux
^^roxy...if you don't like clingy, it's best you get out now unless you're ready to deal with the crabsequences. he's already (a) pulling away from his friends (b) requesting facebook status changing (4) discussing future out of the country vacation plans (4) bought a phone. these are all signs of someone in it for the long haul. introducing him to your family sends mixed messages that you are in it as well. other than the sex talk, he's completely clueless of where you stand/feel right now.
you should really rethink this if these thoughts your having are real and not just fleeting moments of 'i'm just not that in to him'. if it's going too fast and intense for you, you should also consider telling him you want to take it S L O W E R and more casual. especially if you went from 'he's too good to be true!' to having major second thoughts.
think about it...if he were to read any of the things you've written about him on here, how do you think he'd react? take a step back and decide how deep you want to get into this. his sensitivity to you WILL grow. he WILL want to see you everyday. he WILL smother you with affection. he WILL be ultra sensitive to your reactions. he WILL sometimes self-deprecate. he WILL want more from you emotionally. he WILL cling!
a cancer's mantra is 'I FEEL' and he will continue to feel his way through your relationship. you will devastate this boy if you let him get in any deeper without letting him know that you're having all of these reservations and if you don't let him know that there is a possibility of you moving in the fall.
cute and sweet is what gets you hooked...but do you need balls and brawn to get you to stay?
I agree with what you're saying.. and I'm not totally against the clingy thing, I'm just not used to it. This is only my 2nd boyfriend and my ex was a Gem and really independent and I did way more of the relationship work with him, it was exhausting. Add that to having so many crushes in my life that never liked me back---it's just weird to me to have someone so interested. I'm not saying I don't want to be in it for the "long haul"...I'm just I guess a little scared about territory I haven't crossed yet-aka falling in love with someone. I'd be crazy to give up this great guy who treats me like a queen, considering what a shit head the gemini was, I'm just being cautious because
You lure him in .... with reminding him you are a virgin ***smiles** and how wonderful for him that he gets to meet .............................................. The Parents !! Puts bait on hook > cast ......
And then turns around and comments about how you don't like it that he's so attentive, and makes you a priority ....
acting completely stupid about what you know you are doing = he is doing exactly as you want him to do, he swallowed the bait, and now is waiting for you to take the hook out, or throw him back in.
Every woman knows that a man wants a virgin ... this is the very reason why you keep reminding him of it.
Other people may believe you ..... I know you're the kind of bitch that Plays men, which ruins them for the rest of the REAL women out there who want a man who will trust her, but he doesn't, because he got fucked over by the cock-teases, like you.
:::::: shakes head :::::::
And then turns around and comments about how you don't like it that he's so attentive, and makes you a priority ....
acting completely stupid about what you know you are doing = he is doing exactly as you want him to do, he swallowed the bait, and now is waiting for you to take the hook out, or throw him back in.
Every woman knows that a man wants a virgin ... this is the very reason why you keep reminding him of it.
Other people may believe you ..... I know you're the kind of bitch that Plays men, which ruins them for the rest of the REAL women out there who want a man who will trust her, but he doesn't, because he got fucked over by the cock-teases, like you.
:::::: shakes head :::::::
Posted by P-Angel
You lure him in .... with reminding him you are a virgin ***smiles** and how wonderful for him that he gets to meet .............................................. The Parents !! Puts bait on hook > cast ......
And then turns around and comments about how you don't like it that he's so attentive, and makes you a priority ....
acting completely stupid about what you know you are doing = he is doing exactly as you want him to do, he swallowed the bait, and now is waiting for you to take the hook out, or throw him back in.
Every woman knows that a man wants a virgin ... this is the very reason why you keep reminding him of it.
Other people may believe you ..... I know you're the kind of bitch that Plays men, which ruins them for the rest of the REAL women out there who want a man who will trust her, but he doesn't, because he got fucked over by the cock-teases, like you.
:::::: shakes head :::::::
In all honesty, I swear to god that isn't true. I kept saying I was a virgin because I don't want to lose my virginity.. it had NOTHING to do with luring him in. And I'm really, really not trying to play him or break his heart. As I said before, I'm just not used to someone liking me like this. It's not like I spent all this time trying to catch him so that I could just fuck with his mind for a few months and then throw him back all damaged. I'm just inexperienced and my initial attraction to him was the mystery, I didn't expect him to fall this quickly, I assumed I was the one way more into him but now it's reversed. I'm not saying I want to dump him.. that's not what I'm saying at all! I'm just trying to get over MY OWN weird, unexplainable tendency to assume that if a guy likes me.. he must be weird or something. I was really overweight and stuff most of my life until 3 years ago and I lost weight in college, but I was super boy-crazy since like, kindgarden.. and spent all my years in a fantasy world of crushes and wishing they'd like me back.. but I had no self confidence and 60 extra pounds on me, so I learned to deal with unrequited love, and I got used to it. Then I dropped the weight-hot Mr. Gemini all of a sudden likes me and boosts my confidence, and suddenly I have guys liking me and I don't really know how to deal with it.
It's NOT be being a maneater, or some bitch who wants to break men's hearts. It's a lifetime
of rejection that has made me insecure and inexperienced and wondering what the hell I'm supposed to do with the unobtainable crush once I've finally won him over.
I just feel so bad for this guy. 😢 I sincerely hope he has at least one friend who will shatter his idealistic, romantic view of you and sees you for what you really are...
an opportunistic, parasite who talks out both sides of her mouth to justify her self-serving ways. you are the epitome of why so many men believe, "women be BITCHES"
an opportunistic, parasite who talks out both sides of her mouth to justify her self-serving ways. you are the epitome of why so many men believe, "women be BITCHES"
Posted by shellshocker
I just feel so bad for this guy. 😢 I sincerely hope he has at least one friend who will shatter his idealistic, romantic view of you and sees you for what you really are...
an opportunistic, parasite who talks out both sides of her mouth to justify her self-serving ways. you are the epitome of why so many men believe, "women be BITCHES"
Think what you want of me, I'm not like that. Just confused and trying to get over my own insecurities. I just need to get used to the whole dating thing again, and over time I think my emotional barriers will crumble gradually and I'll finally be able to give myself to someone, which I haven't let myself do before.
-_- this is just getting ridiculous. If I didn't care about him so much I would never have joined this board. I really do like him and I'm not out to hurt him.
and since when is it a turn-on for a girl to be a virgin anyways? I thought guys (especially shy guys) liked women with experience.. that's why they watch porn, women know what they're doing on there. not luring him in with my virginity, trust me
Posted by everevolvingepithetPosted by shellshocker
I just feel so bad for this guy. 😢 I sincerely hope he has at least one friend who will shatter his idealistic, romantic view of you and sees you for what you really are...
an opportunistic, parasite who talks out both sides of her mouth to justify her self-serving ways. you are the epitome of why so many men believe, "women be BITCHES"
It's only one woman ultimately.
Hopefully he talks to other ones and she doesn't know ?click to expand
god... i hope so
Posted by shellshockerPosted by everevolvingepithetPosted by shellshocker
I just feel so bad for this guy. 😢 I sincerely hope he has at least one friend who will shatter his idealistic, romantic view of you and sees you for what you really are...
an opportunistic, parasite who talks out both sides of her mouth to justify her self-serving ways. you are the epitome of why so many men believe, "women be BITCHES"
It's only one woman ultimately.
Hopefully he talks to other ones and she doesn't know ?
god... i hope soclick to expand
I guess I'll come crying to these boards if that happens and you can all say "I told you so."
Posted by roxyfalcon2006
-_- this is just getting ridiculous. If I didn't care about him so much I would never have joined this board. I really do like him and I'm not out to hurt him.
you don't give a shit. this guys dad DIED like 2 weeks ago! It doesn't matter if they were close or not... he's a Cancer and his father died!
Yet all you're on here about is your fake ass virtue/virginity and whining that he's getting too clingy. me, me, me, me....
Posted by everevolvingepithetPosted by shellshockerPosted by roxyfalcon2006
-_- this is just getting ridiculous. If I didn't care about him so much I would never have joined this board. I really do like him and I'm not out to hurt him.
you don't give a shit. this guys dad DIED like 2 weeks ago! It doesn't matter if they were close or not... he's a Cancer and his father died!
Yet all you're on here about is your fake ass virtue/virginity and whining that he's getting too clingy. me, me, me, me....
That's a serious concern though, I'll admit.click to expand
Yeah, you're right... it's kind of been pushed on the back burner because he doesn't like talking about it and he said he's just relieved it's over now (it's been a long time coming) But don't you think it's unhealthy for him to start a relationship after having gone through such a loss, forget about me being in the picture.. but anyone trying to fill a gap with a lost loved one might end up hurting even more later. I don't know how to help him with it because he is not the emotion-showing type, and I don't want to push past his boundaries.
I get you think I'm a bitch. My question to you is, then, what do you suggest I do?
Posted by everevolvingepithet
I don't think your a bitch.
I don't think it's a question of healthy/unhealthy, I think you need to be straight with him and stop taking the mickey/abusing the situation, and take what comes of it after you've done all the work from here on out and let him be the judge of that.
Although I'd say this to any situation where a girl things she's cakey eaty so you situation isn't exactly unique (I have issues with pedestals is all, nothing shocking. But then again I'm right so that's not really a concern 😛)
I'm sorry, but I don't really get what you mean. Be straight with him how? Just tell him I'm looking for a boyfriend right now, not a husband, let's take it slow? You can't exactly stop someone from feeling a certain way.. just because he might not ACT as clingy doesn't mean he's going to pull back emotionally
Posted by everevolvingepithet
P.S: You're clingy, no contest. 🙂
Psh way to generalize women.. haha. I'm not "clingy" in the sense that I have to be with someone 24/7 but I do admit that I'd get jealous if he was looking at other girls and stuff. So I guess it depends on what your definition of clingy is. To me clingy is whining about not spending enough time with eachother, going everywhere with him, not giving him space to be with his friends, insisting on pet names and all that bs.
roxy: you are posting comments on some other thread about "the game" that must be played. Then you are on this thread talking about being so inexperienced and naive. That's why nobody believes you. Or at least that's why I find it hard to believe you. In short your age is showing. And yes your inexperience is showing. Your "knowledge" from book learnings has you all twisted about, but in the end you are still playing a game (on purpose or not). There isn't really anything authentic or genuine coming from you at this point (in your dealings with him I mean). You are asking for advice from others, and then acting upon it (which is fine, if you so choose - not genuine though), but hardly the actions of someone who is a self-proclaimed girl who can think for herself. It's all very hypocritical, thus making it hard to buy into especially from the posters on the cynical internet forum.
You keep asking how it is you should be behaving. What should you do. The only real answer to that is authenticity and genuineness. But I gather that's not big in the play book of young 20 somethings (as a rule, not exception), and I'm not sure some women ever mature enough to be able to handle that type of interaction (past their young years).
If you have to ask what is authentic or genuine - you're doing it wrong. And nobody can tell you what is authentic or genuine to you, they can only point out how it may be perceived from another point of view.
You keep asking how it is you should be behaving. What should you do. The only real answer to that is authenticity and genuineness. But I gather that's not big in the play book of young 20 somethings (as a rule, not exception), and I'm not sure some women ever mature enough to be able to handle that type of interaction (past their young years).
If you have to ask what is authentic or genuine - you're doing it wrong. And nobody can tell you what is authentic or genuine to you, they can only point out how it may be perceived from another point of view.
eh, I feel like I've kind of burned this topic out. Yes deezie, you're right...I've treated winning a man over like a science and I don't know what to do after that point. I'm a really loving person with family and friends, but sometimes I feel like I don't know how to let myself be myself and love someone romantically. He texted me this morning wishing me good luck on my exam, I'm starting to think that he really is being genuine (but then so many people hear say he's just in it for sex) I'm gonna try really hard to go with the flow and let my guard down and try to use my own instincts instead of having to ask people for advice all the time. As I said before, I'm a perfectionist.. so I like to know what I'm doing and always be in control of the situation. But there's no fun or risk in that either so I'll put my heart out a little bit and see what happens.
Posted by deezie
roxy: you are posting comments on some other thread about "the game" that must be played. Then you are on this thread talking about being so inexperienced and naive.
Are you serious .... JfuckingC
It's all one big deception, then.
Posted by roxyfalcon2006
...I've treated winning a man over like a science and I don't know what to do after that point.
.... I don't know how to let myself be myself and love someone romantically.
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ Virgo ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
Posted by roxyfalcon2006
yeah I'm still 22 haha but I am actually very inexperienced in the realm of dating.. just because, having had SO much experience in the whole "unrequited love" thing.. I'm more of an expert on knowing if the guy is interested and how to hook him than what to DO WITH HIM when you actually do get him. Totally know how to get the guy and when to drop him, but I'm kind of like a cat with a mouse.. it finally gets the mouse and then it's like, "okay now what?" so yes, I'm mature in that respect, but very inexperienced and naive in how to be someone's girlfriend, if that makes sense.
This all makes so much sense now. You got the mouse, and now you don't know what to do with it. LOL, Yes, Rox, quite the inexperienced "cat" you are...
...I know you didn't expect him to talk house w/White picket fence, and 2.5 kids so soon, BUT, welcome to the world of the at first mysterious-aloof-intriguing-hard-to-pin-down-seemingly-committment-phobe Cancer man who suddenly turns the table on your ass and is getting ready to sink his teeth in and hold on for dear life!
Also, I have a sneaking suspicion that when you talk about "hooking" a guy, your MO for Mr. Cancer was to give him a BJ, and maybe do just about every and anything else sexually, all the while knowing that you had zero intentions of giving it up. I think you knew exactly what you were doing, Roxy. You have a bit of an type A personality, you like a challenge, and when you set your sights on something/have a goal in mind, you make it your business to obtain it (and perhaps sometimes by any means necessary, hence the reason you moved out to Canada in the first place.) You are quite tenacious.
Listen, girl, I say heed the advice of the others and either take it slow so that you can get past the confusion and clearly come to terms with and understand what you want, or get out now before you really hurt him. I understand when you speak of confusion, and I get exactly where you are coming from when you speak of inexperience and not knowing how to be someone's girlfriend, and I know that you probably didn't expect the "cling" so quickly, and due to your lack of experience, it's only normal that you are now trying to figure this all out. If however, you realize sooner than later that you don't want to be with him, I would say end it right away, and move on with your life.
virgovixxxeen and wineaux you guys have it pretty much right. I have mentioned recently that I need to be in LA for my career, today I told him I need to go bed since I pulled an all-nighter studying last night, but I can't back out of him meeting the family-I invited him a LONG time ago because we always have this huge family party with all my cousins for independence day so this was in the works way before we started dating...not the "meet my parents because I want them to be your future in-laws" kind of meeting. although virgovixxxen I will defend to the death that those were not my intentions for doing all that sexual stuff with him, we were just drinking and everytime I drink my high sex drive comes out and I get pretty aggressive, it had nothing to do with trying to be some kind of sexual prowess to him or something because I'm totally inexperienced and very self-conscious with that kind of stuff and in order to seduce someone properly you actually have to know what you're doing!
Doesn't take a WHOLE lot to be able to seduce most men properly. Their standards on having the right moves aren't that rigid.
Posted by deezie
Doesn't take a WHOLE lot to be able to seduce most men properly. Their standards on having the right moves aren't that rigid.
Of course...what does she think he's a women? Men don't need much to get a boner ;P They're very visual, unlike women who need all this mental stimulation.
Ya, we're such a fucking pain in the ass 🙂 hahaha
Posted by roxyfalcon2006
virgovixxxeen and wineaux you guys have it pretty much right. I have mentioned recently that I need to be in LA for my career, today I told him I need to go bed since I pulled an all-nighter studying last night, but I can't back out of him meeting the family-I invited him a LONG time ago because we always have this huge family party with all my cousins for independence day so this was in the works way before we started dating...not the "meet my parents because I want them to be your future in-laws" kind of meeting. although virgovixxxen I will defend to the death that those were not my intentions for doing all that sexual stuff with him, we were just drinking and everytime I drink my high sex drive comes out and I get pretty aggressive, it had nothing to do with trying to be some kind of sexual prowess to him or something because I'm totally inexperienced and very self-conscious with that kind of stuff and in order to seduce someone properly you actually have to know what you're doing!
Ok Roxy, and do forgive me if I came off a little abrasive. The fact of the matter is that it is your life and at the end of the day you can do whatever you wish. I'm not saying that it's wrong to pursue a man, and as we all know, being tenacious and goal-driven is a good thing (well, depending on what you're tenacious and goal-driven about). It's just that many of us have been following your progress with Mr. Cancer since your inception (and we were all rooting for you of course) and when I read today that you were on another thread discussing "gaming" (paraphrasing here) it just seemed suspect to me so I went to check it out for myself, and the quote that I posted above with you talking about "knowing how to hook a man" did in fact make it seem like it was all some sort of game for you.
I know that you are not malicious and I know that you really care for this guy and if the feelings are not there (and if they never come), they just aren't. Period. Nothing you can do about that. What happened to you is a classic case of what happens with ALOT of women who deal with Cancer men. They go for months trying to figure him out wondering if he is interested, dealing with his lack of communication, the push/pull factor, etc., and then when he finally does that 360 and jumps in full mind, body, and soul, and those infamous pincers come out,
(Continued)
they start heading for the hills!
You spent all of this time sort of in the dark about his romantic interest in you that I think you were so siked and up to the challenge to find out exactly where you stood, and that after you had him (so to speak), the thrill of the chase was gone. Game over.
It would be nice if things work out but even if they don't, at least you would have learned a few good lessons in the end??_no? All in all, this is how you get your life experience. Through everyday situations like this. I do commend you for having the talk and being straight out with him, and I would suggest trying to let your walls down bit by bit (provided that there's a reason to). There's a lot that Cancers can teach Virgos about emotional expression that can be very rewarding and satisfying for both parties. Also, try not to overanalyze so much (I know, it's like breathing air for us) or you??ll constantly find yourself in a state of confusion, and try not to be so hard on yourself. Believe it or not, you don't have to be perfect at everything you do. I think you??ll feel much better if you just relax a little more.
Question: Do you know if you will be returning to LA?
they start heading for the hills!
You spent all of this time sort of in the dark about his romantic interest in you that I think you were so siked and up to the challenge to find out exactly where you stood, and that after you had him (so to speak), the thrill of the chase was gone. Game over.
It would be nice if things work out but even if they don't, at least you would have learned a few good lessons in the end??_no? All in all, this is how you get your life experience. Through everyday situations like this. I do commend you for having the talk and being straight out with him, and I would suggest trying to let your walls down bit by bit (provided that there's a reason to). There's a lot that Cancers can teach Virgos about emotional expression that can be very rewarding and satisfying for both parties. Also, try not to overanalyze so much (I know, it's like breathing air for us) or you??ll constantly find yourself in a state of confusion, and try not to be so hard on yourself. Believe it or not, you don't have to be perfect at everything you do. I think you??ll feel much better if you just relax a little more.
Question: Do you know if you will be returning to LA?
Ok Roxy, and do forgive me if I came off a little abrasive. The fact of the matter is that it is your life and at the end of the day you can do whatever you wish. I'm not saying that it's wrong to pursue a man, and as we all know, being tenacious and goal-driven is a good thing (well, depending on what you're tenacious and goal-driven about). It's just that many of us have been following your progress with Mr. Cancer since your inception (and we were all rooting for you of course) and when I read today that you were on another thread discussing "gaming" (paraphrasing here) it just seemed suspect to me so I went to check it out for myself, and the quote that I posted above with you talking about "knowing how to hook a man" did in fact make it seem like it was all some sort of game for you.
I know that you are not malicious and I know that you really care for this guy and if the feelings are not there (and if they never come), they just aren't. Period. Nothing you can do about that. What happened to you is a classic case of what happens with ALOT of women who deal with Cancer men. They go for months trying to figure him out wondering if he is interested, dealing with his lack of communication, the push/pull factor, etc., and then when he finally does that 360 and jumps in full mind, body, and soul, and those infamous pincers come out,
I definitely chose my words wrong when describing it as "hooking" and "games"...the game of love if you will. But I think I just initially freaked out over nothing, and I found myself missing him today while taking my test... he texted me first thing in the morning wishing me good luck and afterwards to ask how I did. I'd be crazy to not keep a man like this around. I have a leo friend who is very similar to me (I think I'm more of a leo actually, and according to sidereal astrology, I am a leo) she told me she does the same thing with the cold feet, but you just have to push through it and eventually it goes away. I'm gonna try...he really is worth it. :-)
Shit!
Sorry everyone for all of the hidden posts. They were just repeats. WTH is going on DUNCAN—!!!!!
Sorry everyone for all of the hidden posts. They were just repeats. WTH is going on DUNCAN—!!!!!
Yes I will be returning to LA some point in the fairly near future, but right now all the films are kind of leaving LA and heading to other states and/or Toronto. I don't like Chicago and Toronto is an equal distance from my home in Michigan, so my parents are thrilled at the thought of me working on films there for a while before I make the big move. But yeah he does know I eventually need to go there. I wouldn't expect him to follow me, and I'd feel bad taking him away from all his friends and family, but who knows what will happen.
^^^some famous porn star's understudy...hence the inexperience LOL I'm just kidding 😛
Posted by LostinmyMind11
^^^some famous porn star's understudy...hence the inexperience LOL I'm just kidding 😛
LOL!
haha to the porn star thing.. I want to produce/direct. I was executive producer for 6 tv shows at my university and I was nominated for 2 emmys in may, I also worked on "The Office" and helped develop the show "Community".. yeah, he said how much he loves Canada and hates leaving it today (he met my parents.. doing surprisingly EXCELLENT considering how shy he is, my parents talk a lot though but he was really talking a lot too!) LA is where I need to be, eventually.
Moving to TO? lol that's where I'm from! 🙂
Posted by roxyfalcon2006
I wanted to suck his dick.. just because I don't wanna have sex with him doesn't mean I can't do other things
Also, I moved here to find employment because there are no jobs where I'm from. His town is just a temporary job situation until the next season of tv series start shooting in Toronot in September, then I'm moving there.
Rox! I sent you a message 🙂 Pls read 😄
Posted by roxyfalcon2006
no guy is this perfect... I finally saw my Cancer today, he's been gone for 2 weeks 2,000 miles away as his father passed away. totally shy but made all the contact with me the entire time, i sent him flowers but other than that i gave him space and he sent me tons of messages. he bough me a necklace (we aren't even officially dating yet!) and went out to dinner and he wants to see me tomorrow too, then we're camping all weekend! 😄
He doesn't want sex, wants to take it slow.. acts like a total gentleman, doesn't like to swear in front of me, holds doors open, pays for everything.
there has to be a catch. before i moved here he was the same in the gentleman sense but never contacted me. now that i'm living in his town he's showering me with attention, and as i said he's like the quietest person i know. AHH!
So.. I'm just wondering what you all think of this, is it real? I've never met a guy so out-of-the-book perfect like this, I just know there HAS to be a motive or something.. or he's like a serial killer waiting for the opportune moment..
or, I should just be happy and accept that maybe there is such thing as prince charming
A pm? I didn't get it.. But yeah Im moving to Toronto in the fall!
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