I agree with that..and he has said something to that affect.
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Box,
You have him. He opened up with you. I was thinking how did you respond when he said all of it. You said he doesn't have plan to be with her or cheat with you.
Most human being not just cancer alone attached to their past until the right one arrive. It may take a long time for them to move on and start a new relationship again.
They need time. They need friend. all we have to do is to be there for them. We don't rush things that needs to grow.
yes cancer men are overwhelmed by their emotions sometimes. They even cried sometimes while talking. It's their sentiments. They are sentimental guys you know.
You have him. He opened up with you. I was thinking how did you respond when he said all of it. You said he doesn't have plan to be with her or cheat with you.
Most human being not just cancer alone attached to their past until the right one arrive. It may take a long time for them to move on and start a new relationship again.
They need time. They need friend. all we have to do is to be there for them. We don't rush things that needs to grow.
yes cancer men are overwhelmed by their emotions sometimes. They even cried sometimes while talking. It's their sentiments. They are sentimental guys you know.
Hey m! I'm not sure I actually do have him..he has told me this before I just thought he'd moved past it since he wanted to live with me. I know how sensitive they are and all that but part of me thinks if he could have her back he would. Hes said things like " you dont have to wait for me, that wouldn't be fair to you" and stuff so I'm not sure how willing he is to let go, really. I've been compassionate but also trying to help him move on..but tried to not to be a doormat either and let him do whatever he wants and think its ok.
Cancers are tricky because they go about everything in a sideways manner.
If he's being honest about his feelings for his ex, I can only say that in my personal experience, I pined after an ex for a few years. and even though I dated and bettered myself, etc. the only thing that really got me over him was dating the RIGHT guy. Dating other guys helped but when they ended I was right back to where I started. meeting the right person is key. Unfortunately it might just be that you are not the right person.
I can totally understand how much it hurts to make the right decision to leave him, but as many others have already said, it really is the best option for both of you. I think he needs some space and time to get his head straight, and if you stay with him, and try to help him work though it, it will make you more hurt if he leaves you anyway.
Think of it as an opportunity for both of you to decide if this is right for both of you, because a relationship shouldn't only focus on one person's feelings.
If he's being honest about his feelings for his ex, I can only say that in my personal experience, I pined after an ex for a few years. and even though I dated and bettered myself, etc. the only thing that really got me over him was dating the RIGHT guy. Dating other guys helped but when they ended I was right back to where I started. meeting the right person is key. Unfortunately it might just be that you are not the right person.
I can totally understand how much it hurts to make the right decision to leave him, but as many others have already said, it really is the best option for both of you. I think he needs some space and time to get his head straight, and if you stay with him, and try to help him work though it, it will make you more hurt if he leaves you anyway.
Think of it as an opportunity for both of you to decide if this is right for both of you, because a relationship shouldn't only focus on one person's feelings.
Thinktoomuch, I already post all the time haha..no that wont change..thanks for the advice shelly maybe I'm not the right person yr right..sadly. I think I'm just gonna slowly end communication with him. And he can make his own way. Just wish he hasn't said he loved me or wanted to take the next step...😢
Posted by boxcarmirntaI know exactly how you're feeling. But I'll say this to you. Some cancers can be very fickle. You may hold on to the sold dreams and the big picture he painted because you believed but he will just as easily turn around and say he's entitled to change his mind. Which you can't say anything to really. If he can't stick by his word he will forever hurt you and you will forever be living in fear with no sense of security. When building a home with someone you need security and stability. Fights and arguments will happen and you'll experience turbulence as with everything else in life but he can't even provide the most fundamental bricks and mortar and that's a recipe for disaster. Be strong and try and dettatch as much as you can so he no longer has such a hold on you.
Thinktoomuch, I already post all the time haha..no that wont change..thanks for the advice shelly maybe I'm not the right person yr right..sadly. I think I'm just gonna slowly end communication with him. And he can make his own way. Just wish he hasn't said he loved me or wanted to take the next step...😢
Thanks lib! Sad but true... Busyeyes, you have absolutely no idea what you are talking about, you do not know my story nor any of the details involved, and you are the first snarky response to stink up this thread. Piss off.
Posted by busyeyes88Sooo judgmental, you are. I've seen you're judgmental and argumentative responses on other threads as well. If you're so perfect, why do you troll this forum, looking for vulnerable people to cut down?Posted by boxcarmirntaWhy would you date someone who was still in love with an ex? Surely you would have given the person time to get over their ex and just be platonic friends. Then you even consider this person moving in with you?!!! How lowly are you?
..he's STILL in love with his ex I've recently been informed...even tho he's still talking of moving in with me..7mos of him.being here then going, getting scared coming back you know the drill..me being compassionate as f*ck!! Facepalm....I don't think I can live with someone who still pines for his ex....so..compassionate care or kick his ass to the curb? I kinda already know the answer but might as well weigh in anyway and have my ass handed to me. Cheers y'all..click to expand
Posted by HoneybunniieMy Cancer has been telling me we need to cut ties for an entire year. Each time I say "ok" and then he contacts me again and again only to be hurt that I still feel the same as I did when we broke up nearly two years ago.Posted by boxcarmirntaYea my optimistic Aqua moon gets me into a lot of trouble lol. I'm not a Cancer but he remind me of my now ex Cancer. He couldn't let go of an event that happen with his ex fiancé. He was all lovey Dovey with me but I guess I reminded him of the feelings he had when he was in love with, he freaked out on me. He recently today told me that he wants us Cut contact each other. He says it's better that way so it wouldn't hurt so bad. I think they block themselves of real happiness. Hopefully your Cancer will not be so extreme and learn to accept the fact that he deserved to be happy and that u can provide that to himPosted by Honeybunniie
I'm sorry you are going through this. The logical thing to do is break free and move on. Sounds easy right—
I say follow your gut. We all go through phrase in life and we certainly encounter ppl not by chance. We all play a role in ppl lives. You may be in his life to help him grow and move forward or to teach him what real love is. Only time and patience will tell. Follow your intuition and pray.
I really love your optimism! And I do feel like I'm in his life for a reason and maybe he in mine too..and I do wanna let him.know what real love is, he was betrayed by her and it really messed him.up. But I dont wanna give love at the expense of my own well being.click to expand
Posted by BlackMambaDO NOT FOLLOW THIS ADVICE PLEASE. Moving in with someone is a big deal, it isn't a decision that should be made to improve a situation that's grim...it's a decision that should be made when things are already great and healthy and only have room to get better. That's like an unhappily married couple deciding to have a baby in hopes it will bring them closer and repair their marriage. NO.Posted by boxcarmirntaMove in with him. Feelings change with intimacy.
..he's STILL in love with his ex I've recently been informed...even tho he's still talking of moving in with me..7mos of him.being here then going, getting scared coming back you know the drill..me being compassionate as f*ck!! Facepalm....I don't think I can live with someone who still pines for his ex....so..compassionate care or kick his ass to the curb? I kinda already know the answer but might as well weigh in anyway and have my ass handed to me. Cheers y'all..click to expand
Posted by dontgetmewrongI like you.Posted by boxcarmirntaI'd tell him to go after her, wish him luck then slam the door in his face amd then id turn around amd laugh at myself.
..he's STILL in love with his ex I've recently been informed...even tho he's still talking of moving in with me..7mos of him.being here then going, getting scared coming back you know the drill..me being compassionate as f*ck!! Facepalm....I don't think I can live with someone who still pines for his ex....so..compassionate care or kick his ass to the curb? I kinda already know the answer but might as well weigh in anyway and have my ass handed to me. Cheers y'all..click to expand
Posted by BlackMambaI hope this was all sarcasm. Why would you diss yourself? Looks are temporary but inner morals and character are what ppl fall in love with. Never talk down about yourself ever again. This has nothing to do with ego but self love
People ego's too big. I know the Virgo can do way better than me, not in terms of what i bring to the table, but in terms of looks, and younger pussy.
oh well....i prefer he settles on my azz.
Posted by ashley1734And what are your feelings?Posted by HoneybunniieMy Cancer has been telling me we need to cut ties for an entire year. Each time I say "ok" and then he contacts me again and again only to be hurt that I still feel the same as I did when we broke up nearly two years ago.Posted by boxcarmirntaYea my optimistic Aqua moon gets me into a lot of trouble lol. I'm not a Cancer but he remind me of my now ex Cancer. He couldn't let go of an event that happen with his ex fiancé. He was all lovey Dovey with me but I guess I reminded him of the feelings he had when he was in love with, he freaked out on me. He recently today told me that he wants us Cut contact each other. He says it's better that way so it wouldn't hurt so bad. I think they block themselves of real happiness. Hopefully your Cancer will not be so extreme and learn to accept the fact that he deserved to be happy and that u can provide that to himPosted by Honeybunniie
I'm sorry you are going through this. The logical thing to do is break free and move on. Sounds easy right—
I say follow your gut. We all go through phrase in life and we certainly encounter ppl not by chance. We all play a role in ppl lives. You may be in his life to help him grow and move forward or to teach him what real love is. Only time and patience will tell. Follow your intuition and pray.
I really love your optimism! And I do feel like I'm in his life for a reason and maybe he in mine too..and I do wanna let him.know what real love is, he was betrayed by her and it really messed him.up. But I dont wanna give love at the expense of my own well being.click to expand
Posted by BlackMambaIn my world Rams n Bulls are like oil and water, like rims on a bikes, like black shoes with white socks... They just don't mix lolPosted by ImpulsvU effed up. Allowed your insecurities to overcome you.Posted by Infinite8AriesPosted by ImpulsvWhat was her sign? Do you know?
She treated him like crap, walked all over him . N married another.
Seems like he vowed to never become that vulnerable.
An Aries and Taurus, lol that would never work!click to expand
Posted by BlackMambaOkay. I see what Ya mean. Yea I dnt understand men. How long have you and the virgo bn together? Lol they are probably right about you being too good. Lol I'm being bias for a moment. I dated a virgo for 8 years... A nightmarePosted by HoneybunniieI'm trying to be practical about men. They seek different things then us woman.Posted by BlackMambaI hope this was all sarcasm. Why would you diss yourself? Looks are temporary but inner morals and character are what ppl fall in love with. Never talk down about yourself ever again. This has nothing to do with ego but self love
People ego's too big. I know the Virgo can do way better than me, not in terms of what i bring to the table, but in terms of looks, and younger pussy.
oh well....i prefer he settles on my azz.
i don't think im talking badly about myself for realizing the truth. Most men are dirtbags. Most men are going to mistreat you eventually.
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Ugh yea I have a thing for virgos too...whyyyyyyy!!! Well, he's being super sweet to me today after our emotional talk and me getting upset about it, rightfully so....sigh..yes it still seems grim and i dont wanna get stuck in a bad situation.
Posted by BlackMambaGosh idk!! I was addicted to who I thought he was becoming. He seem so promising but then I realize he wore many different masks. When I finally met the real him, he was nothing but a fraud. He taught me a lot of lessons and more about myself tho. Anyhoot we were the same way. Break up the. Make up but i realize that virgo's critism becomes a bit too much esp if they aren't taking their own advice. I hated the whole play victim crap. Like if u fck up then own it. Don't put the blame on me. Yea I'm glad I'm done with that chapter of life.
yeah its' been a nightmare...one solid year now, 6 months prior to that, but then also an additional year of stringing along and then retalking....blah blah blah
why is the nightmare addictive?click to expand
Criticism*
Posted by boxcarmirntaSo what have you decided to do?
Ugh yea I have a thing for virgos too...whyyyyyyy!!! Well, he's being super sweet to me today after our emotional talk and me getting upset about it, rightfully so....sigh..yes it still seems grim and i dont wanna get stuck in a bad situation.
Well I'm gonna hang out tonight and see how it goes...and perhaps have "the talk".
Hello Box,
song for you lady. Have faith.
Omg @m143 that is so sweet! Thank you! It makes me cry for him. We had such a great time last night I couldn't bring myself to let him go..think I'll proceed with caution...and maybe in time things will change..he was so attentive and sweet almost like he knew I was planning on moving on. So intuitive these cancers..
Posted by boxcarmirntaThere is hope.. He needs you to be there for him. Somehow his past still lingers in his memory. Soon it will fade as long as you don't push him away.
Omg @m143 that is so sweet! Thank you! It makes me cry for him. We had such a great time last night I couldn't bring myself to let him go..think I'll proceed with caution...and maybe in time things will change..he was so attentive and sweet almost like he knew I was planning on moving on. So intuitive these cancers..
Like I said. It takes a woman to understand her man. 🙂.
Aww thx guys Å
That's my experience.....
@MagicPowas I cant reply to your pm, think you need to change your settings..you can totally chime in here if you want.. But just lettin ya know 🙂
Oh dont worry about it magic..its old and tired anyway..just wanted to respond to your message.
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