@Ram416
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What is affection to you? Words or actions?
Understanding Affection Through Words and Actions
Affection can be expressed through words like saying I love you or actions such as acts of kindness. Both are meaningful, but many value actions for their tangible demonstration of care, while words provide emotional reassurance. The preference varies based on individual needs and relationship dynamics.
*triggered*
Posted by Aliensusedourbogroll
Yeah I'm both. Cancer mars in the 3rd house and Taurus moon.
So Taurus moon, you especially like it if the person cooks for you?
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Posted by Aliensusedourbogroll
Yeah I'm both. Cancer mars in the 3rd house and Taurus moon.
Aww.... I have Cancer mars too 🤗
I like them both too. Though I prefer actions, sometimes I need to hear it. Random acts of love. A simple 'Did you reach home safely?', Offering to carry shopping bags kinda things are lovely too.
Posted by Aliensusedourbogroll
Yeah I'm both. Cancer mars in the 3rd house and Taurus moon.So Taurus moon, you especially like it if the person cooks for you?
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I'd love that.But I also love if he asks me to eat more everytime?
action
Posted by Aliensusedourbogroll
Yeah I'm both. Cancer mars in the 3rd house and Taurus moon.Aww.... I have Cancer mars too 🤗
I like them both too. Though I prefer actions, sometimes I need to hear it. Random acts of love. A simple 'Did you reach home safely?', Offering to carry shopping bags kinda things are lovely too.
And this is why i'm a rare breed of men.
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Posted by DickButt
A gentle touch. A meaningful stare. An understanding when others are oblivious. A reassurance of care. A quiet reminder of love.
Like a love language that others won't understand?
And yeah staring is a no-go for me.
Posted by Aliensusedourbogroll
Posted by Aliensusedourbogroll
Yeah I'm both. Cancer mars in the 3rd house and Taurus moon.Aww.... I have Cancer mars too 🤗
I like them both too. Though I prefer actions, sometimes I need to hear it. Random acts of love. A simple 'Did you reach home safely?', Offering to carry shopping bags kinda things are lovely too.
🤗
I like your examples, especially asking if you made it home safely.
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Ikr!! There's so much love in little things ?
Posted by DickButt
A gentle touch. A meaningful stare. An understanding when others are oblivious. A reassurance of care. A quiet reminder of love.Like a love language that others won't understand?
And yeah staring is a no-go for me.
Like, if we're at a party. And one of us is tired, the other one can tell while no one else knows. Basically talking without talking.
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That's so sweet❤
Posted by DickButt
A gentle touch. A meaningful stare. An understanding when others are oblivious. A reassurance of care. A quiet reminder of love.Like a love language that others won't understand?
And yeah staring is a no-go for me.
Like, if we're at a party. And one of us is tired, the other one can tell while no one else knows. Basically talking without talking.
That's so sweet❤
I yearn for it.
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Now I want a boyfriend!
Posted by DickButt
A gentle touch. A meaningful stare. An understanding when others are oblivious. A reassurance of care. A quiet reminder of love.Like a love language that others won't understand?
And yeah staring is a no-go for me.
Like, if we're at a party. And one of us is tired, the other one can tell while no one else knows. Basically talking without talking.
That's so sweet❤
I yearn for it.
Now I want a boyfriend!
And i want some steak
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If only getting a bf was as easy as getting steak ?
Posted by DickButt
A gentle touch. A meaningful stare. An understanding when others are oblivious. A reassurance of care. A quiet reminder of love.Like a love language that others won't understand?
And yeah staring is a no-go for me.
Like, if we're at a party. And one of us is tired, the other one can tell while no one else knows. Basically talking without talking.
That's so sweet❤
I yearn for it.
Now I want a boyfriend!
And i want some steak
If only getting a bf was as easy as getting steak ?
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Not easy to get good steak though. Especially where I am.
Not easy to get good steak though. Especially where I am.
Excuse me. Good steak is hard to come by.
@Ram416 @dickbutt
I know. But I'm still sticking to my original statement ??
It's a combination of both for me. I'm defiantly a giver by nature. Love to hear that someone cares or does a kind gesture just to show they care. Like finding that small thing that may be insignificant to someone else but means the world to them, I try to do that. So if another does the same in return it melts my heart. That shows affection for me. Having that understanding of your partner that is same wavelength type stuff.
Quoting gone wrong!! When will I learn ?
Posted by DickButt
A gentle touch. A meaningful stare. An understanding when others are oblivious. A reassurance of care. A quiet reminder of love.Like a love language that others won't understand?
And yeah staring is a no-go for me.
Like, if we're at a party. And one of us is tired, the other one can tell while no one else knows. Basically talking without talking.
That's so sweet❤
I yearn for it.
Now I want a boyfriend!
And i want some steak
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medium, medium rare, or rare? wrong answer gets you a burnt one!
Posted by DickButt
A gentle touch. A meaningful stare. An understanding when others are oblivious. A reassurance of care. A quiet reminder of love.Like a love language that others won't understand?
And yeah staring is a no-go for me.
Like, if we're at a party. And one of us is tired, the other one can tell while no one else knows. Basically talking without talking.
That's so sweet❤
I yearn for it.
Now I want a boyfriend!
And i want some steak
medium, medium rare, or rare? wrong answer gets you a burnt one!
medium well
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Wooosssh good answer! you shall win a lifetime supply of top choice steaks!
Sign up here ...www.beststeaksevar .com
Not everyone knows how to cook though so for me I say maybe it's planning a trip somewhere once I was comfortable and have known you awhile.
Not easy to get good steak though. Especially where I am.
Excuse me. Good steak is hard to come by.
@Ram416 @dickbutt
I know. But I'm still sticking to my original statement ??
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Posted by Teena
Quoting gone wrong!! When will I learn ?even i'm having trouble fixing it.
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That makes me feel better 😄
Maybe a hug cause I lacked it in my childhood but not from anyone just the one I'm interested in.
I probably hugged three people last year. I still get people wanting a hug I just don't give them out.
Two guys one is kinda shy and ackward but the way he hugs is like weird like he's nervous. But I like his arms. Another guy I don't even know one day I guess he just gave me a hug and since then I get a hug from him like it's mandatory. The others were a Cancer, Libra, and Aquarius females only. That I can recall. So affectionate people is needed in my life. Cause I lack it. The more I trust the more you get a hug, then food, then sex. Fuck idk.
Not easy to get good steak though. Especially where I am.
Excuse me. Good steak is hard to come by.
@Ram416 @dickbutt
I know. But I'm still sticking to my original statement ??
i tried, came pretty dam close... stop breaking things teena!
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Not easy to get good steak though. Especially where I am.
Excuse me. Good steak is hard to come by.
@Ram416 @dickbutt
I know. But I'm still sticking to my original statement ??
i tried, came pretty dam close... stop breaking things teena!
click to expandWow!! Very close yeah.
I'm just clumsy like that JAG
@teena noooo you're adorable lol you aren't the only one that breaks quotes, it's the trying to delete other stuff from the chain quoted that does it.
some just break quotes when its just one thing to quote...
this site does not like the less than an more than symbols, its used in the coding.
Posted by justagirl
@teena noooo you're adorable lol you aren't the only one that breaks quotes, it's the trying to delete other stuff from the chain quoted that does it.some just break quotes when its just one thing to quote...
this site does not like the less than an more than symbols, its used in the coding.
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Phew!! This is better when we don't know how to quote. Just tag the person n write a fresh post.
?? @ "this site does not like the less than an more than symbols"
Posted by AdmiraI
Whyizdisindacancaforum?
Cos it's meant for cancers. But other signs are welcome to answer too.
Taurus here: definitely for me it's actions 🙂
Posted by Sure
Actions, and sweet nothings in your ear just whispers.Hold you so close, stroke your head softly and kiss you on your forehead.
Everything is ok, you are safe now.
I like to do the forehead kissing, you do the on the cheeks 🙂
I love to be silent. You just there no words no trying to understant the other, explanation, argument. There is nothing but staring in the eye, instant connection and knowing.
I learned a lot while being silent. Silence speaks the most.
Both, but as a Gem moon and Venus I'll absorb affectionate words like a sponge.
Both! If one is missing, im anxiously awaiting the other. I love sweet text messages, and check in's. Actions are great too, helping me put my coat on, asking if i need anything when he goes into the store. Just the thoughtfulness of it all makes me feel bullet proof. Totally wouldve ended up with Ross from the friends cast.
Both will do for me. I want you to tell me how special i am to you and show it at the same time. Turns me on?
Virgo sun
Scorpio moon
Venus libra
Mars gemini
Libra rising
Actions, especially little thoughtful gestures.
This past weekend my bf gave my dog a bath while I took a nap. When I woke up I found her wrapped in a towel sitting on the sofa all clean and happy. Just about melted my heart with all the feels.
Posted by Ram416
Which do you prefer? Give examples.
When the actions match the words. When they differ it is a huge red flag that does not go unnoticed.
Actions, mostly.
For me I'm literally like clay. I will become influenced by my surroundings so I'm kind of universal when it comes to adapting to a person. Maybe its my Cancer rising or Cancer Venus. The confusing part is how attracted I get to a person. I have a great potential to hang around and adapt to a person I really like, but I have an equal chance of running away if I find their mind and life choices really bother me.
As for looks I'm not necessary attracted to what society would consider the best looking. I can see an average looking person that just has a specific feature I find highly attractive. All it takes is one main feature I can't resist and I will be deeply attracted. These features could be completely basic or odd as well.
I'd say I'm kind of picky but not at the same time. In the end I really just want a person with a good head on their shoulders I can trust and adapt to. I'm smart enough to resist the urge for sex despite a high sex drive and avoid those who are wrong for me, so I'm pretty much just waiting for the right one. I'd rather have nothing at all then become attracted and spend time on an illusion that is bad for me.
Posted by Aliensusedourbogroll
Posted by Aliensusedourbogroll
Yeah I'm both. Cancer mars in the 3rd house and Taurus moon.Aww.... I have Cancer mars too 🤗
I like them both too. Though I prefer actions, sometimes I need to hear it. Random acts of love. A simple 'Did you reach home safely?', Offering to carry shopping bags kinda things are lovely too.
🤗
I like your examples, especially asking if you made it home safely.
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I've picked up the phone and talking to you duh— Lol
Posted by Moonlover02
Both will do for me. I want you to tell me how special i am to you and show it at the same time. Turns me on?Virgo sun
Scorpio moon
Venus libra
Mars gemini
Libra rising
You have some lovely placements but I hope you're a woman lol
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Really? U find them lovely?? That's really nice to hear haha?? and yes i'm a woman
Very long meaningful hugs, holding tight at night, being reassured that we are loved, being told that we are beautiful as goddesses, receiving love poems, simple things. Secluted 2 days vacations in a far away town we've never been, something sweet and simple. Nature, poetry, meaningful connection, soulmate attachment. Be gentle to us, take us slow and when we open up, you will notice the true volcano of emotions. To me love is trust. Create a bond of trust. A world of dreams that is all ours, where we escape together. And you will win our heart. Listen to us. Talk to us. Caress our hair. Smile🙂 and again, hold us.
Posted by Moonlover02
Both will do for me. I want you to tell me how special i am to you and show it at the same time. Turns me on?Virgo sun
Scorpio moon
Venus libra
Mars gemini
Libra rising
You have some lovely placements but I hope you're a woman lol
Really? U find them lovely?? That's really nice to hear haha?? and yes i'm a woman
Lol ya I do think that.my Mars in sag loves Virgos, not sure if you're all the same but the one I dated loved having secret public sex and I loved it!!! I also have a Venus Libra so it's like extra naughty lol. I'm very attractive to Libra rising females since I'm a Aries rising and I'm Venusian dominant so my eyes will lock on you out of a crowd.
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Woww sounds like a good match haha ? i love venusian dominant people??
Posted by DivaCanLeo
to the OP why did you ask CRABS this question...curious, what is it you're wanting to learn?
Partly out of curiosity, partly for my own personal reasons.
Definitely actions,since im an action person myself your words are bullshit in my ear if you cant prove it,yes i wanna hear it sometimes but i wanna see it in the way you move,the way you care about me,touching is important if a person is not afraid to touch me and to show affection with me then they are slowly but surely creeping its way into my heart
call me babe even when i'm being a bitch. that's true affection lol
Posted by Arielle
Very long meaningful hugs, holding tight at night, being reassured that we are loved, being told that we are beautiful as goddesses, receiving love poems, simple things. Secluted 2 days vacations in a far away town we've never been, something sweet and simple. Nature, poetry, meaningful connection, soulmate attachment. Be gentle to us, take us slow and when we open up, you will notice the true volcano of emotions. To me love is trust. Create a bond of trust. A world of dreams that is all ours, where we escape together. And you will win our heart. Listen to us. Talk to us. Caress our hair. Smile🙂 and again, hold us.you're getting mad poetic in your pain Arielle. I notice that little lamb in jesus hands as well.
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🙂 Day by day it is getting better
🙂
Posted by DivaCanLeo
to the OP why did you ask CRABS this question...curious, what is it you're wanting to learn?Partly out of curiosity, partly for my own personal reasons.
Ok as a crab words turn me on and can help ease me out of my shell ...but actions show me that you value me. that you're into me.
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