spiritofjosh
@spiritofjosh
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Why are Cancer women like this?
When they are done, they are done.
She knows you're maniplative.
The miscommunicaation here?
You're in denial about being manipulative.
The miscommunicaation here?
You're in denial about being manipulative.
"December 1st she broke up with me and now acts like she wants me dead. "
Control your mind.. As simple as that.
Control your mind.. As simple as that.
her rose colored glasses came off?
I'm not arrogant enough to be a narcissist. And her idea of manipulation is wanting to talk about everything in person and not through text because I feel like it isn't genuine. To her me talking to her face is "being manipulative" because I try and talk her out of trying to tell me how I feel.
For example; she says I never really loved or cared about her because I was worried about other things. I argue that I worry about other things because it puts a strain on us (financial issues, lack of work). To her this is her example of me trying to manipulate her.
For example; she says I never really loved or cared about her because I was worried about other things. I argue that I worry about other things because it puts a strain on us (financial issues, lack of work). To her this is her example of me trying to manipulate her.
Posted by Arielle83
Ok she sounds young.
I take back what I said about Pisces.
Something else must of happened.
Do you ridicule her or want her to agree with you a lot?
Thing is I didn't do a damn thing and she is young, 25 and I'm 32. A week after Thanksgiving she started getting all emotional so I tried backing her up like usual and she can think very irrational so I try and get her to see an unbiased side to things, not something in my favor or best interest. But this particular time she was getting worked up about her mother and how she's come and gone in her life so many times that it's a feel of abandonment. The feelings then transitioned to me and that she fears I'm the same way, that I'll abandon her one day (although I've never left her ever when she's left me twice before within the last two years). So after that we went to bed as normal and she said she loves me but is upset with me.
Next morning she kissed me goodbye, then a couple hours later said she decided to stay at her Aunts for a week or so until all these negative emotions blew over so she doesn't have them for me and we break up. I supported it and let her know she knew were to find me. That night she said goodnight and she loved me then added a bunch of pictures to a shared online album of us.
The following weekend (Dec 1st) I heard nothing from her, so I asked her what was up and she said she thinks we need to end it and that was when the bitterness and extreme anger began. I said or did nothing in between those few days. I tried understanding where it all came from and said it's not fair she's acting that way out of nowhere then called me a narcissist. I expressed my feelings that I don't understand why it's ending when I did nothing wrong then I got called manipulative. Now she'll answer me if I text her but is very short and blunt and if we're at the same place in public she won't even look at me.
My point to the story is I can't see where I was being narcissistic or manipulative here. I just wanted to get what I did wrong and try and get her to think logically because she clearly wasn't. I mean she's a Cancer and these wild mood swings, withdrawing and pushing me away aren't new but this has been the worst.
Posted by Arielle83Posted by spiritofjoshPosted by Arielle83
Ok she sounds young.
I take back what I said about Pisces.
Something else must of happened.
Do you ridicule her or want her to agree with you a lot?
Thing is I didn't do a damn thing and she is young, 25 and I'm 32. A week after Thanksgiving she started getting all emotional so I tried backing her up like usual and she can think very irrational so I try and get her to see an unbiased side to things, not something in my favor or best interest. But this particular time she was getting worked up about her mother and how she's come and gone in her life so many times that it's a feel of abandonment. The feelings then transitioned to me and that she fears I'm the same way, that I'll abandon her one day (although I've never left her ever when she's left me twice before within the last two years). So after that we went to bed as normal and she said she loves me but is upset with me.
Next morning she kissed me goodbye, then a couple hours later said she decided to stay at her Aunts for a week or so until all these negative emotions blew over so she doesn't have them for me and we break up. I supported it and let her know she knew were to find me. That night she said goodnight and she loved me then added a bunch of pictures to a shared online album of us.
The following weekend (Dec 1st) I heard nothing from her, so I asked her what was up and she said she thinks we need to end it and that was when the bitterness and extreme anger began. I said or did nothing in between those few days. I tried understanding where it all came from and said it's not fair she's acting that way out of nowhere then called me a narcissist. I expressed my feelings that I don't understand why it's ending when I did nothing wrong then I got called manipulative. Now she'll answer me if I text her but is very short and blunt and if we're at the same place in public she won't even look at me.
My point to the story is I can't see where I was being narcissistic or manipulative here. I just wanted to get what I did wrong and try and get her to think logically because she clearly wasn't. I mean she's a Cancer and these wild mood swings, withdrawing and pushing me away aren't new but this has been the worst.
If she just throws out labels to put you down so she can blame you for everything...that’s s type of emotional abuse.
She’s most likely unstable and trying to feel in control by vilifying and punishing you.
She’s praising and then deprecating you.
This is to confuse you to gain control.
Maybe she doesn’t want to be with you.
When you stop chasing, she’ll come back.
It’s manipulationclick to expand
This.
I was trying to tread lightly but I had to call her out on her behavior and say she was the one in fact being manipulative. Letting me know she loves me and everything will be ok and we can get past it, to silence and ME having to ask if she broke up with me; not even her coming out and telling me. Even worse is she wanted to discuss it all through text and not face to face. She tries telling me I need therapy but it seems pretty clear she does and I feel she may even be bipolar. She claims her dad is.
As of now I'm not communicating with her whatsoever. But I'd be lying if I said I didn't miss the hell out of her. She may be a little nutty but when she's normal or her best it's perfect in so many ways.
not sure what is going on but that is way too much drama and stress - too wishy washy / on and off ... I couldn't deal with that sort of bs
Posted by FishyDude
There must be more this story, OP, because if there isn't, then I don't want to meet a Cancerian woman if I'm ever single again.
There's always two sides. There were points where I had thought she was being dishonest about certain things and I had given off a controlling vibe but only because I didn't want to end up hurt. I've dated several Aquarius women and all of them lied to me about everything and I was always the idiot getting played, so it kind of came out as PTSD with the Cancer. Being a very sensitive person she took it to heart and a lot and it made her feel like she was someone who'd cheat on me or lie. Turns out each time I was being paranoid and she wasn't lying about anything and I felt bad questioning it. So I guess she took all of that way further in her head.
But on the positive side she was real with me, always knew how to handle me and whatever mood I was in and always made me feel better. I got along with her in every way (aside from what was mentioned here) and nothing she did really got on my nerves and we lived together for a year. Sucks she doesn't know how to handle emotions and has to make me feel like a monster.
I don't want to paint with a broad brush and say all Cancers are like this though. I was loosely involved with another Cancer years back and we clicked well but it wasn't as deep and they were very different people.
Posted by FishyDudePosted by spiritofjoshPosted by FishyDude
There must be more this story, OP, because if there isn't, then I don't want to meet a Cancerian woman if I'm ever single again.
There's always two sides. There were points where I had thought she was being dishonest about certain things and I had given off a controlling vibe but only because I didn't want to end up hurt. I've dated several Aquarius women and all of them lied to me about everything and I was always the idiot getting played, so it kind of came out as PTSD with the Cancer. Being a very sensitive person she took it to heart and a lot and it made her feel like she was someone who'd cheat on me or lie. Turns out each time I was being paranoid and she wasn't lying about anything and I felt bad questioning it. So I guess she took all of that way further in her head.
But on the positive side she was real with me, always knew how to handle me and whatever mood I was in and always made me feel better. I got along with her in every way (aside from what was mentioned here) and nothing she did really got on my nerves and we lived together for a year. Sucks she doesn't know how to handle emotions and has to make me feel like a monster.
I don't want to paint with a broad brush and say all Cancers are like this though. I was loosely involved with another Cancer years back and we clicked well but it wasn't as deep and they were very different people.
From my experience, Aqua women can do that to a male fish, but you have to learn how to play their game. I've been a gamer for 30 years, but not when it comes to relationships and certainly not when it comes to my marriage. Some Aquas and Pisces have successful relationships, and some don't, but from me, I wouldn't take a chance with another Aqua girl if I was single again.
Yeh, so you screwed up a bit with this Crab lady, life happens. I was with a Cancer girl in the early to mid 2000's, and we made a cute couple at the time, but we were better off as friends. I'm not saying avoid Cancer females, but maybe send her a text, apologizing. Just say the words 'I'm sorry', and ask her if she's willing to forgive you. There are some good crabs out there, and there are some bad crabs out there. Let's hope this one is a good crab. If all else fails, maybe find yourself a Capricorn or Virgo lady.click to expand
I never dated a Cap or Virgo and I only know one each. The cap is actually one of my exes best friends and she has a lot of negative things to say about me (taking my exes side, naturally) but has never been in a relationship and her actual best friend is her mom. Her idea of finding a boyfriend is who will declare their love for her via text before they even hang out, otherwise it's a waste of her time.
And the Virgo was my best friends girlfriend for 7 years and her and I were alike in so many ways but she was a little too laid back in personality for my taste, very stoner-like. Not sure if that's a trait of theirs or not but I like more silly-type, outgoing ladies and my ex Cancer was very much like that and so was the previous Cancer I was briefly involved with. So far I'll say I like Cancers.
Posted by Arielle83Posted by spiritofjoshPosted by Arielle83
Ok she sounds young.
I take back what I said about Pisces.
Something else must of happened.
Do you ridicule her or want her to agree with you a lot?
Thing is I didn't do a damn thing and she is young, 25 and I'm 32. A week after Thanksgiving she started getting all emotional so I tried backing her up like usual and she can think very irrational so I try and get her to see an unbiased side to things, not something in my favor or best interest. But this particular time she was getting worked up about her mother and how she's come and gone in her life so many times that it's a feel of abandonment. The feelings then transitioned to me and that she fears I'm the same way, that I'll abandon her one day (although I've never left her ever when she's left me twice before within the last two years). So after that we went to bed as normal and she said she loves me but is upset with me.
Next morning she kissed me goodbye, then a couple hours later said she decided to stay at her Aunts for a week or so until all these negative emotions blew over so she doesn't have them for me and we break up. I supported it and let her know she knew were to find me. That night she said goodnight and she loved me then added a bunch of pictures to a shared online album of us.
The following weekend (Dec 1st) I heard nothing from her, so I asked her what was up and she said she thinks we need to end it and that was when the bitterness and extreme anger began. I said or did nothing in between those few days. I tried understanding where it all came from and said it's not fair she's acting that way out of nowhere then called me a narcissist. I expressed my feelings that I don't understand why it's ending when I did nothing wrong then I got called manipulative. Now she'll answer me if I text her but is very short and blunt and if we're at the same place in public she won't even look at me.
My point to the story is I can't see where I was being narcissistic or manipulative here. I just wanted to get what I did wrong and try and get her to think logically because she clearly wasn't. I mean she's a Cancer and these wild mood swings, withdrawing and pushing me away aren't new but this has been the worst.
If she just throws out labels to put you down so she can blame you for everything...that’s s type of emotional abuse.
She’s most likely unstable and trying to feel in control by vilifying and punishing you.
She’s praising and then deprecating you.
This is to confuse you to gain control.
Maybe she doesn’t want to be with you.
When you stop chasing, she’ll come back.
It’s manipulationclick to expand
I had the same thoughts. I think she just doesn't want to be with you and wants to make up an excuse to walk away because she can't just say that she wants to break up.
Don't worry about that age gap, Cancers don't get any smarter with age.
Cancers are stupid, irrational beyond the boundaries of sanity and selfish-af. They might feel inclined to apologize....eventually, but only after they've made your life a living hell and have thrown a million psycho tantrums.
A relationship is only as worthwhile as its lowest points. And unfortunately your lowest points are pretty frikkin low. The bad seems to largely outweigh the good. That's the last thing you need in your sensitive condition (you said you've had a rough year).
Yeah she might very well be bipolar, but when you also have your own issues to deal with, that's the last thing you need on your plate. Like one of my favorite songs says "first you save yourself, then you save the world". Otherwise, her problems will compound yours and it's an even bigger disaster waiting to happen.
It most likely doesn't feel like it, but it's a blessing in disguise.
Cancers are stupid, irrational beyond the boundaries of sanity and selfish-af. They might feel inclined to apologize....eventually, but only after they've made your life a living hell and have thrown a million psycho tantrums.
A relationship is only as worthwhile as its lowest points. And unfortunately your lowest points are pretty frikkin low. The bad seems to largely outweigh the good. That's the last thing you need in your sensitive condition (you said you've had a rough year).
Yeah she might very well be bipolar, but when you also have your own issues to deal with, that's the last thing you need on your plate. Like one of my favorite songs says "first you save yourself, then you save the world". Otherwise, her problems will compound yours and it's an even bigger disaster waiting to happen.
It most likely doesn't feel like it, but it's a blessing in disguise.
Posted by FishyDudePosted by spiritofjoshPosted by FishyDudePosted by spiritofjoshPosted by FishyDude
There must be more this story, OP, because if there isn't, then I don't want to meet a Cancerian woman if I'm ever single again.
There's always two sides. There were points where I had thought she was being dishonest about certain things and I had given off a controlling vibe but only because I didn't want to end up hurt. I've dated several Aquarius women and all of them lied to me about everything and I was always the idiot getting played, so it kind of came out as PTSD with the Cancer. Being a very sensitive person she took it to heart and a lot and it made her feel like she was someone who'd cheat on me or lie. Turns out each time I was being paranoid and she wasn't lying about anything and I felt bad questioning it. So I guess she took all of that way further in her head.
But on the positive side she was real with me, always knew how to handle me and whatever mood I was in and always made me feel better. I got along with her in every way (aside from what was mentioned here) and nothing she did really got on my nerves and we lived together for a year. Sucks she doesn't know how to handle emotions and has to make me feel like a monster.
I don't want to paint with a broad brush and say all Cancers are like this though. I was loosely involved with another Cancer years back and we clicked well but it wasn't as deep and they were very different people.
From my experience, Aqua women can do that to a male fish, but you have to learn how to play their game. I've been a gamer for 30 years, but not when it comes to relationships and certainly not when it comes to my marriage. Some Aquas and Pisces have successful relationships, and some don't, but from me, I wouldn't take a chance with another Aqua girl if I was single again.
Yeh, so you screwed up a bit with this Crab lady, life happens. I was with a Cancer girl in the early to mid 2000's, and we made a cute couple at the time, but we were better off as friends. I'm not saying avoid Cancer females, but maybe send her a text, apologizing. Just say the words 'I'm sorry', and ask her if she's willing to forgive you. There are some good crabs out there, and there are some bad crabs out there. Let's hope this one is a good crab. If all else fails, maybe find yourself a Capricorn or Virgo lady.
I never dated a Cap or Virgo and I only know one each. The cap is actually one of my exes best friends and she has a lot of negative things to say about me (taking my exes side, naturally) but has never been in a relationship and her actual best friend is her mom. Her idea of finding a boyfriend is who will declare their love for her via text before they even hang out, otherwise it's a waste of her time.
And the Virgo was my best friends girlfriend for 7 years and her and I were alike in so many ways but she was a little too laid back in personality for my taste, very stoner-like. Not sure if that's a trait of theirs or not but I like more silly-type, outgoing ladies and my ex Cancer was very much like that and so was the previous Cancer I was briefly involved with. So far I'll say I like Cancers.
Well then you need to find another Cancer lady.
My wife is a Cap and she's not like one of your exes best friends. We met on a dating site and texted each other from there, until we met in person. I declared my love for her when I asked her to be my wife, and we generally make a good couple. I will say though, that if I'm ever single again, I might want to find another crab woman, or Virgo female.click to expand
You're not happy with cap.
Posted by FishyDudePosted by spiritofjoshPosted by FishyDudePosted by spiritofjoshPosted by FishyDude
There must be more this story, OP, because if there isn't, then I don't want to meet a Cancerian woman if I'm ever single again.
There's always two sides. There were points where I had thought she was being dishonest about certain things and I had given off a controlling vibe but only because I didn't want to end up hurt. I've dated several Aquarius women and all of them lied to me about everything and I was always the idiot getting played, so it kind of came out as PTSD with the Cancer. Being a very sensitive person she took it to heart and a lot and it made her feel like she was someone who'd cheat on me or lie. Turns out each time I was being paranoid and she wasn't lying about anything and I felt bad questioning it. So I guess she took all of that way further in her head.
But on the positive side she was real with me, always knew how to handle me and whatever mood I was in and always made me feel better. I got along with her in every way (aside from what was mentioned here) and nothing she did really got on my nerves and we lived together for a year. Sucks she doesn't know how to handle emotions and has to make me feel like a monster.
I don't want to paint with a broad brush and say all Cancers are like this though. I was loosely involved with another Cancer years back and we clicked well but it wasn't as deep and they were very different people.
From my experience, Aqua women can do that to a male fish, but you have to learn how to play their game. I've been a gamer for 30 years, but not when it comes to relationships and certainly not when it comes to my marriage. Some Aquas and Pisces have successful relationships, and some don't, but from me, I wouldn't take a chance with another Aqua girl if I was single again.
Yeh, so you screwed up a bit with this Crab lady, life happens. I was with a Cancer girl in the early to mid 2000's, and we made a cute couple at the time, but we were better off as friends. I'm not saying avoid Cancer females, but maybe send her a text, apologizing. Just say the words 'I'm sorry', and ask her if she's willing to forgive you. There are some good crabs out there, and there are some bad crabs out there. Let's hope this one is a good crab. If all else fails, maybe find yourself a Capricorn or Virgo lady.
I never dated a Cap or Virgo and I only know one each. The cap is actually one of my exes best friends and she has a lot of negative things to say about me (taking my exes side, naturally) but has never been in a relationship and her actual best friend is her mom. Her idea of finding a boyfriend is who will declare their love for her via text before they even hang out, otherwise it's a waste of her time.
And the Virgo was my best friends girlfriend for 7 years and her and I were alike in so many ways but she was a little too laid back in personality for my taste, very stoner-like. Not sure if that's a trait of theirs or not but I like more silly-type, outgoing ladies and my ex Cancer was very much like that and so was the previous Cancer I was briefly involved with. So far I'll say I like Cancers.
Well then you need to find another Cancer lady.
My wife is a Cap and she's not like one of your exes best friends. We met on a dating site and texted each other from there, until we met in person. I declared my love for her when I asked her to be my wife, and we generally make a good couple. I will say though, that if I'm ever single again, I might want to find another crab woman, or Virgo female.click to expand
I didnt know you love crab women lol
Posted by FishyDudePosted by EchoPosted by FishyDudePosted by spiritofjoshPosted by FishyDudePosted by spiritofjoshPosted by FishyDude
There must be more this story, OP, because if there isn't, then I don't want to meet a Cancerian woman if I'm ever single again.
There's always two sides. There were points where I had thought she was being dishonest about certain things and I had given off a controlling vibe but only because I didn't want to end up hurt. I've dated several Aquarius women and all of them lied to me about everything and I was always the idiot getting played, so it kind of came out as PTSD with the Cancer. Being a very sensitive person she took it to heart and a lot and it made her feel like she was someone who'd cheat on me or lie. Turns out each time I was being paranoid and she wasn't lying about anything and I felt bad questioning it. So I guess she took all of that way further in her head.
But on the positive side she was real with me, always knew how to handle me and whatever mood I was in and always made me feel better. I got along with her in every way (aside from what was mentioned here) and nothing she did really got on my nerves and we lived together for a year. Sucks she doesn't know how to handle emotions and has to make me feel like a monster.
I don't want to paint with a broad brush and say all Cancers are like this though. I was loosely involved with another Cancer years back and we clicked well but it wasn't as deep and they were very different people.
From my experience, Aqua women can do that to a male fish, but you have to learn how to play their game. I've been a gamer for 30 years, but not when it comes to relationships and certainly not when it comes to my marriage. Some Aquas and Pisces have successful relationships, and some don't, but from me, I wouldn't take a chance with another Aqua girl if I was single again.
Yeh, so you screwed up a bit with this Crab lady, life happens. I was with a Cancer girl in the early to mid 2000's, and we made a cute couple at the time, but we were better off as friends. I'm not saying avoid Cancer females, but maybe send her a text, apologizing. Just say the words 'I'm sorry', and ask her if she's willing to forgive you. There are some good crabs out there, and there are some bad crabs out there. Let's hope this one is a good crab. If all else fails, maybe find yourself a Capricorn or Virgo lady.
I never dated a Cap or Virgo and I only know one each. The cap is actually one of my exes best friends and she has a lot of negative things to say about me (taking my exes side, naturally) but has never been in a relationship and her actual best friend is her mom. Her idea of finding a boyfriend is who will declare their love for her via text before they even hang out, otherwise it's a waste of her time.
And the Virgo was my best friends girlfriend for 7 years and her and I were alike in so many ways but she was a little too laid back in personality for my taste, very stoner-like. Not sure if that's a trait of theirs or not but I like more silly-type, outgoing ladies and my ex Cancer was very much like that and so was the previous Cancer I was briefly involved with. So far I'll say I like Cancers.
Well then you need to find another Cancer lady.
My wife is a Cap and she's not like one of your exes best friends. We met on a dating site and texted each other from there, until we met in person. I declared my love for her when I asked her to be my wife, and we generally make a good couple. I will say though, that if I'm ever single again, I might want to find another crab woman, or Virgo female.
I didnt know you love crab women lol
Well I wouldn't say I LOVE crab women, as I haven't had that much experience with them. I only dated one Cancerian lady, but we were better off as friends.
The ever elusive Cancer female. I sometimes wonder what would have happened if I had met and married a Cancer girl instead of a Capricorn lady. Maybe I would have been more compatible with another crab female, who knows. The thing is, I am married to a Cap woman, and we have a child together, and I love and care for my wife.click to expand
Better to have a good marriage than wondering if you'll ever find happiness
Posted by LaMadrinaPosted by spiritofjosh
I'm a Pisces male and have been with a Cancer lady for over two years. We have been living together for over a year now. December 1st she broke up with me and now acts like she wants me dead. She won't speak to me face to face, we've had to go to mutual friends birthdays in the recent two weeks and she avoids being near me and if we do talk it's only through text and she's incredibly bitter and angry. When we broke up she said she is so mad and angry at me because the past year she's been an emotional punching bag for me and that I'm "narcissistic and controlling."
Going into her now over-inflated, overly negative and exaggerated description of me I did have a very rough year financially, mentally, etc. But she's withdrawn from me twice before when we first started dating and then after we moved in together the whole time we had no real issues. All this hatred towards me came out of nowhere and she's now staying at her Aunt's until she eventually moves out completely.
I'm just trying really hard to understand.
playing innocent doesn't work. water signs feel the bullshit from a mile away. cancers nor any other water sign woman will act like this for NO reason. come clean, fish.click to expand
I did in following posts. I'm far from innocent overall here but within the timeframe of us breaking up I did nothing to provoke it. It literally went from everything being normal around Thanksgiving, to her being upset over things she was thinking, not me at the time doing, to her taking a few days away at her Aunts and "everything will be fine, don't worry" to silence and then breakup. All the while I gave her space and support if she wanted it. I didn't push, ask too many questions, confront or argue during this time.
Posted by LaMadrinaPosted by spiritofjoshPosted by LaMadrinaPosted by spiritofjosh
I'm a Pisces male and have been with a Cancer lady for over two years. We have been living together for over a year now. December 1st she broke up with me and now acts like she wants me dead. She won't speak to me face to face, we've had to go to mutual friends birthdays in the recent two weeks and she avoids being near me and if we do talk it's only through text and she's incredibly bitter and angry. When we broke up she said she is so mad and angry at me because the past year she's been an emotional punching bag for me and that I'm "narcissistic and controlling."
Going into her now over-inflated, overly negative and exaggerated description of me I did have a very rough year financially, mentally, etc. But she's withdrawn from me twice before when we first started dating and then after we moved in together the whole time we had no real issues. All this hatred towards me came out of nowhere and she's now staying at her Aunt's until she eventually moves out completely.
I'm just trying really hard to understand.
playing innocent doesn't work. water signs feel the bullshit from a mile away. cancers nor any other water sign woman will act like this for NO reason. come clean, fish.
I did in following posts. I'm far from innocent overall here but within the timeframe of us breaking up I did nothing to provoke it. It literally went from everything being normal around Thanksgiving, to her being upset over things she was thinking, not me at the time doing, to her taking a few days away at her Aunts and "everything will be fine, don't worry" to silence and then breakup. All the while I gave her space and support if she wanted it. I didn't push, ask too many questions, confront or argue during this time.
well...what can you do but move on
Exactly. I haven't said a single thing to her since Monday and that is not a long time at all but she's texted me after that and I just haven't responded which is usually something I do the opposite of. What sucks most is we basically share all the same friends and they seem to be taking her side so it's like me vs the world at the moment.click to expand
Maybe she doesn’t feel heard if you’ve doubted her in the past and you’re offering logic and rationalization when she’s hoping for understanding. Could be why she prefers expressing herself in writing.
I’m married to a Pisces, he can get caught up in his own worries and endeavours. I can read his emotions well and know how to handle them. Him not so much, but in return he lets me have my nutjob moments. He stays silent while I vent because he knows it has nothing to do with him. If he starts offering insensitive or badly timed/worded advice, it can become about him very quickly.
But if she’s done this twice before… stop chasing and looking for an explanation. Stay silent
I’m married to a Pisces, he can get caught up in his own worries and endeavours. I can read his emotions well and know how to handle them. Him not so much, but in return he lets me have my nutjob moments. He stays silent while I vent because he knows it has nothing to do with him. If he starts offering insensitive or badly timed/worded advice, it can become about him very quickly.
But if she’s done this twice before… stop chasing and looking for an explanation. Stay silent
Posted by shellshocker
Maybe she doesn’t feel heard if you’ve doubted her in the past and you’re offering logic and rationalization when she’s hoping for understanding. Could be why she prefers expressing herself in writing.
I’m married to a Pisces, he can get caught up in his own worries and endeavours. I can read his emotions well and know how to handle them. Him not so much, but in return he lets me have my nutjob moments. He stays silent while I vent because he knows it has nothing to do with him. If he starts offering insensitive or badly timed/worded advice, it can become about him very quickly.
But if she’s done this twice before… stop chasing and looking for an explanation. Stay silent
For her the only thing I know how to do is stay silent. I don't know her rising sign but I know she's Cancer sun, Aries moon and Gemini venus I believe. Not sure what any of that can say about my situation though.
Posted by spiritofjosh
But this particular time she was getting worked up about her mother and how she's come and gone in her life so many times that it's a feel of abandonment. The feelings then transitioned to me and that she fears I'm the same way, that I'll abandon her one day (although I've never left her ever when she's left me twice before within the last two years). So after that we went to bed as normal and she said she loves me but is upset with me.
Irrational tantrums, abandonment issues and pushing ppl away to get the illusion of control, absent or neglective mother figure..
Sounds like issues of someone with Borderline Personality Disorder.
Posted by FishyDude
The ever elusive Cancer female. I sometimes wonder what would have happened if I had met and married a Cancer girl instead of a Capricorn lady. Maybe I would have been more compatible with another crab female, who knows. The thing is, I am married to a Cap woman, and we have a child together, and I love and care for my wife.
Brahh are you ok?
Posted by Arielle83
Omg Aries moon. They just love to fight and argue and blame. Good luck
Oh, I've noticed. Her younger sister is an Aries and all she does is fight with my ex and their dad.
she probably cheated
LOL. The guy had to run a gauntlet of condescending remarks by dxp trash which is itching for a like so they can feel webvalidated before someone actually offered him advice.
"YOU'RE MANIHPULATINGMUNG".....fucking pleb LMFAO
"YOU'RE MANIHPULATINGMUNG".....fucking pleb LMFAO
Posted by Arielle83Posted by Mr_Pinchy
LOL. The guy had to run a gauntlet of condescending remarks by dxp trash which is itching for a like so they can feel webvalidated before someone actually offered him advice.
"YOU'RE MANIHPULATINGMUNG".....fucking pleb LMFAO
Wutclick to expand
The whole first page is just awful, with tangents from "you're manipulative, you're manipulating us" that are really written just so the authors of this divine wisdom can feel good about themselves collecting likes to downright trashing the poor guy by wishing him "merry christmas" as in..."have fun your girl dropped you , happy holidays bro"
Just trash doing a circle jerk 24/7.
Posted by Arielle83Posted by Mr_PinchyPosted by Arielle83Posted by Mr_Pinchy
LOL. The guy had to run a gauntlet of condescending remarks by dxp trash which is itching for a like so they can feel webvalidated before someone actually offered him advice.
"YOU'RE MANIHPULATINGMUNG".....fucking pleb LMFAO
Wut
The whole first page is just awful, with tangents from "you're manipulative, you're manipulating us" that are really written just so the authors of this divine wisdom can feel good about themselves collecting likes to downright trashing the poor guy by wishing him "merry christmas" as in..."have fun your girl dropped you , happy holidays bro"
Just trash doing a circle jerk 24/7.
I didn’t do that!!click to expand
Well, you did kinda want to trash him a bit. 😄 But after that you were at least trying to help without the "worst case scenario" being mentioned all the time. So kudos for that.
Pisces always say they’re innocent. But Pisces always manages to do SOMETHING.
Except Mr. Rogers. That man was the closes we’ll ever get to a saint.
Except Mr. Rogers. That man was the closes we’ll ever get to a saint.
The critical thing is to find a Crab girl who shows you respect and appreciation.
If there is one thing I don't tolerate, it is a lack of respect and appreciation.
Once that becomes clear, out the door she goes!
If there is one thing I don't tolerate, it is a lack of respect and appreciation.
Once that becomes clear, out the door she goes!
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