Cody84
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Advice needed on Cap woman I work with!
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Alcohol, recent ex, company reputation.
Seems everytime she's loosening up she has a few drinks in her system, or she's in a loose setting(bar).
She's probably making out with no sex because her break up is recent and she probably is still attached to her ex emotionally.
The coldness could be due to the impression she's trying to make a work, plus she might just want you to play along in forgetting the nights before happened, which in a way sounds like she's using you.
I think you should avoid her forever in all honesty.
Seems everytime she's loosening up she has a few drinks in her system, or she's in a loose setting(bar).
She's probably making out with no sex because her break up is recent and she probably is still attached to her ex emotionally.
The coldness could be due to the impression she's trying to make a work, plus she might just want you to play along in forgetting the nights before happened, which in a way sounds like she's using you.
I think you should avoid her forever in all honesty.
Posted by Sagberrymy lovelife could often be called a comedy
For some reason I find this thread really really funny —
Posted by lnana04I did think Alcohol at first but both times she has stayed at mine, she was as loving and warm the following morning, as she was the night before, there was no change in the way she treated me.
Alcohol, recent ex, company reputation.
Seems everytime she's loosening up she has a few drinks in her system, or she's in a loose setting(bar).
She's probably making out with no sex because her break up is recent and she probably is still attached to her ex emotionally.
The coldness could be due to the impression she's trying to make a work, plus she might just want you to play along in forgetting the nights before happened, which in a way sounds like she's using you.
I think you should avoid her forever in all honesty.
also i forgot to mention she has told a co-worker that she really likes me!
Posted by Gob_Shitei know this, it was something i considered but i have spent time with her sober away from the office and she is still lovely to mePosted by lnana04
Alcohol, recent ex, company reputation.
Seems everytime she's loosening up she has a few drinks in her system, or she's in a loose setting(bar).
She's probably making out with no sex because her break up is recent and she probably is still attached to her ex emotionally.
The coldness could be due to the impression she's trying to make a work, plus she might just want you to play along in forgetting the nights before happened, which in a way sounds like she's using you.
I think you should avoid her forever in all honesty.
This.
A word of advice. Most people are completely different, after a couple of drinks. Just because they're friendly, when they have a glass of alcohol in their hands, it doesn't mean they'll be the same when completely sober.
Alcohol has a strange way of making others lose their inhibitions and, if you're not fully aware of this, it can be very deceptive.
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OP, this reminds me of someone I know who runs hot and cold. Very similar pattern.
You guys didn't really take it slow. You went too fast and now you caught feelings for someone who might be toying with you.
You don't really know her well enough to know if you like her as a person. You have feelings for her that might not be based on reality. I think you need to dial it way back, do your job, be cordial towards her and avoid socializing with her the way you have been.
At this point, it's impossible to say for sure if she's serious but reticent or just using you for a good time. You need to hang back and try to figure that out.
You guys didn't really take it slow. You went too fast and now you caught feelings for someone who might be toying with you.
You don't really know her well enough to know if you like her as a person. You have feelings for her that might not be based on reality. I think you need to dial it way back, do your job, be cordial towards her and avoid socializing with her the way you have been.
At this point, it's impossible to say for sure if she's serious but reticent or just using you for a good time. You need to hang back and try to figure that out.
Posted by Cody84Posted by Gob_Shitei know this, it was something i considered but i have spent time with her sober away from the office and she is still lovely to mePosted by lnana04
Alcohol, recent ex, company reputation.
Seems everytime she's loosening up she has a few drinks in her system, or she's in a loose setting(bar).
She's probably making out with no sex because her break up is recent and she probably is still attached to her ex emotionally.
The coldness could be due to the impression she's trying to make a work, plus she might just want you to play along in forgetting the nights before happened, which in a way sounds like she's using you.
I think you should avoid her forever in all honesty.
This.
A word of advice. Most people are completely different, after a couple of drinks. Just because they're friendly, when they have a glass of alcohol in their hands, it doesn't mean they'll be the same when completely sober.
Alcohol has a strange way of making others lose their inhibitions and, if you're not fully aware of this, it can be very deceptive.
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If I'm being hot/cold, it's usually because I like the person, I'm shy, and I don't know really how to act around them. It sounds like to me she likes you, but is confused on what to do herself with all of the circumstances. She also might be afraid of rejection, and is waiting for you to show more.
Don't mirror her, or she will go into her shell and it will eventually be very hard to get her back out and even longer to open up to you. We Need to know where your feelings are on everything first, before we will take any more steps.
In my opinion, the alcohol seems to just bring out more how she really feels..
Ok....I know a Cap female in a week relationship so I'm going to give you my observations on her. I'm not sure if it will even pertain to this situation.
1.she doesn't want people at work to know that they are together so they barely speak or look at each other. (We all know anyways cause it's obvious)
2. BUT she wants to stake her claim so if he even speaks to another girl she gets really angry. Half the time, the poor guy is totally clueless but the rest of us can see it.
She may want to keep work separate.
Are you flirty with other women? They may make her upset.
1.she doesn't want people at work to know that they are together so they barely speak or look at each other. (We all know anyways cause it's obvious)
2. BUT she wants to stake her claim so if he even speaks to another girl she gets really angry. Half the time, the poor guy is totally clueless but the rest of us can see it.
She may want to keep work separate.
Are you flirty with other women? They may make her upset.
she needs you to go after her shamelessly. if you mirror her, it'd never go anywhere
Posted by iCloud9
she needs you to go after her shamelessly. if you mirror her, it'd never go anywhere
Exactly..
Posted by HeartSighthat was why i could never work out with virgos lol. i needed a man with passion and emotionally forwardPosted by iCloud9
she needs you to go after her shamelessly. if you mirror her, it'd never go anywhere
Exactly..
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Posted by Cody84Hi..This is going to sound weird but I actually get her behaviour. I'm a Cap woman myself. We like to take things slow and I myself Love the frustration if just kissing for hours and not actually having sex. It turns me on.
Can any Caps out there offer my some advice on a very confusing situation I have with this Cap woman. We work together and for the first few weeks she worked at the company she seemed to not really pay me much attention, then the first night we all went out for staff drinks she just seemed to follow me around all evening, I was aware she would always be in the circle of people I was talking to. The following week we all went out again and this time she came on really strong towards the end of the night, pretty much said she wanted me to take her home. We ended up back at mine and chatted and drank for a few hours and she said that she doesn't want us to sleep together as she likes me too much, I told her I really liked her too and would rather not jump into anything too quickly either as we didn't know each other and had to work together, we made out and got into bed and had the strangest experience of pretty much staying up all night kissing and both getting really frustrated and not going any further. She stayed at mine the whole following day, kissing, watching movies, she kept telling me how much she liked me, it was a lovely day.
Since that night she has been totally hot and cold with me. Over the following week I texted her a couple of times, each time she would reply either a day later or ignore the message altogether, in the office she would not even make eye contact with me unless it was totally necessary. Come Friday we go out for work drinks and as soon as we hit the bar she is back to being really nice to me, we kiss, go back to mine again we don't sleep together but sit up kissing and talking, all is wonderful, I'm happy!
Of course Monday I don't exist, same Tuesday and then Wednesday, when we make eye contact she gives me this look like I'm satans-spawn and looks away instantaneously! That week I did ask her to lunch on one occasion which she refused saying she was too busy.
The last time we spoke in person was a week ago at the bar, she was back to being her normal flirty self with me but she was with a friend and towards the end of the night just gave me a hug and left. She was however constantly going on at her friend infront of me, about how great I am, it was a bit strange yet nice.
Since then I have not contacted her and just gone around at work acting normally, shes not said a word all week to me and even when we were alone together in the office for around 20 mins she never said a word to me. admittedly I never said anything to her as i feel she just wants me to dissappear.
So that's it in a nutshell! I'm totally confused, I do really like this girl, I'd love to be with her and take the world on together, I just don't get why she seems so into me one minute and looks like she can't stand me the next.
I do know she came out of a long relationship 4 months ago, he was apparently an ass to her, also she is trying to make a good impression at the company, all of which I understand, I just wish she would let me in!
Sorry this was so long, any advice would be awesome!
Now with her blowing hot & cold it's probably because you both work together and she feels a bit awkward - hence why she won't sleep with you yet. She is probably taking her time to work out how you both can behave around each other when at work - I'm guessing no-one knows about your relationship yet? She's probably not comfortable yet. I wouldn't be. In fact she's probably fantasising about you at work but can't do anything about it - obviously - So she's keeping things professional between you to avoid any embarrassment.
Once you both are alone together THEN she will be all over you because outside of work its Okay to be ?
Once she works out how to behave around you when you are both at work, she may start to relax a little.
Hope this all makes sense?
Posted by Cody84
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The last time we spoke in person was a week ago at the bar, she was back to being her normal flirty self with me but she was with a friend and towards the end of the night just gave me a hug and left. She was however constantly going on at her friend infront of me, about how great I am, it was a bit strange yet nice.
THIS above. .
I have done this in the past - when I was single.
This is her way of Flirting with you while at work. She wants you to not feel rejected but also wants to give you attention at the same time. It's what I would call Professional Flirting x
BUT it comes across as blowing hot & cold sadly..
Now you say she hasn't spoken to you in a week and you haven't spoken to her. She probably feels rejected. So..try her tactic of Professional Flirting x
It means you can give her attention in a way that only she knows but nobody else ?
Forget her....
Posted by iCloud9Posted by HeartSighthat was why i could never work out with virgos lol. i needed a man with passion and emotionally forwardPosted by iCloud9
she needs you to go after her shamelessly. if you mirror her, it'd never go anywhere
Exactly..
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Wow, Virgos mirror? I know Taurus do.
I know for a fact that I need an emotionally forward guy. If a guy mirrors me he is screwed.
Posted by lnana04not sure whether they were mirroring me but they acted like females lolPosted by iCloud9Posted by HeartSighthat was why i could never work out with virgos lol. i needed a man with passion and emotionally forwardPosted by iCloud9
she needs you to go after her shamelessly. if you mirror her, it'd never go anywhere
Exactly..
Wow, Virgos mirror? I know Taurus do.
I know for a fact that I need an emotionally forward guy. If a guy mirrors me he is screwed.
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Posted by pooface222well i never spoke to her in person, the only time i had her semi-alone was when i walked into a room she was in to do some work, i said hello and she just looked up, avoided eye contact and kind of muttered something that I could not make out. i then just did my work but she sat there and never said a word to me. i did message her a few hours later to ask her if she was ok, she replied straight away saying she was fine and never said anything else. then around 20 mins later (i shouldnt of sent this i admit) i sent another message asking why she was being so off with me of late and she just replied that she wasnt, she was just busy. that was like 5 days ago and we have not spoken sincePosted by Cody84
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The last time we spoke in person was a week ago at the bar, she was back to being her normal flirty self with me but she was with a friend and towards the end of the night just gave me a hug and left. She was however constantly going on at her friend infront of me, about how great I am, it was a bit strange yet nice.
THIS above. .
I have done this in the past - when I was single.
This is her way of Flirting with you while at work. She wants you to not feel rejected but also wants to give you attention at the same time. It's what I would call Professional Flirting x
BUT it comes across as blowing hot & cold sadly..
Now you say she hasn't spoken to you in a week and you haven't spoken to her. She probably feels rejected. So..try her tactic of Professional Flirting x
It means you can give her attention in a way that only she knows but nobody else ?
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Posted by pooface222Posted by Cody84Hi..This is going to sound weird but I actually get her behaviour. I'm a Cap woman myself. We like to take things slow and I myself Love the frustration if just kissing for hours and not actually having sex. It turns me on.
Can any Caps out there offer my some advice on a very confusing situation I have with this Cap woman. We work together and for the first few weeks she worked at the company she seemed to not really pay me much attention, then the first night we all went out for staff drinks she just seemed to follow me around all evening, I was aware she would always be in the circle of people I was talking to. The following week we all went out again and this time she came on really strong towards the end of the night, pretty much said she wanted me to take her home. We ended up back at mine and chatted and drank for a few hours and she said that she doesn't want us to sleep together as she likes me too much, I told her I really liked her too and would rather not jump into anything too quickly either as we didn't know each other and had to work together, we made out and got into bed and had the strangest experience of pretty much staying up all night kissing and both getting really frustrated and not going any further. She stayed at mine the whole following day, kissing, watching movies, she kept telling me how much she liked me, it was a lovely day.
Since that night she has been totally hot and cold with me. Over the following week I texted her a couple of times, each time she would reply either a day later or ignore the message altogether, in the office she would not even make eye contact with me unless it was totally necessary. Come Friday we go out for work drinks and as soon as we hit the bar she is back to being really nice to me, we kiss, go back to mine again we don't sleep together but sit up kissing and talking, all is wonderful, I'm happy!
Of course Monday I don't exist, same Tuesday and then Wednesday, when we make eye contact she gives me this look like I'm satans-spawn and looks away instantaneously! That week I did ask her to lunch on one occasion which she refused saying she was too busy.
The last time we spoke in person was a week ago at the bar, she was back to being her normal flirty self with me but she was with a friend and towards the end of the night just gave me a hug and left. She was however constantly going on at her friend infront of me, about how great I am, it was a bit strange yet nice.
Since then I have not contacted her and just gone around at work acting normally, shes not said a word all week to me and even when we were alone together in the office for around 20 mins she never said a word to me. admittedly I never said anything to her as i feel she just wants me to dissappear.
So that's it in a nutshell! I'm totally confused, I do really like this girl, I'd love to be with her and take the world on together, I just don't get why she seems so into me one minute and looks like she can't stand me the next.
I do know she came out of a long relationship 4 months ago, he was apparently an ass to her, also she is trying to make a good impression at the company, all of which I understand, I just wish she would let me in!
Sorry this was so long, any advice would be awesome!
Now with her blowing hot & cold it's probably because you both work together and she feels a bit awkward - hence why she won't sleep with you yet. She is probably taking her time to work out how you both can behave around each other when at work - I'm guessing no-one knows about your relationship yet? She's probably not comfortable yet. I wouldn't be. In fact she's probably fantasising about you at work but can't do anything about it - obviously - So she's keeping things professional between you to avoid any embarrassment.
Once you both are alone together THEN she will be all over you because outside of work its Okay to be ?
Once she works out how to behave around you when you are both at work, she may start to relax a little.
Hope this all makes sense?click to expand
Well at first we both agreed to keep it away from the office, then we got caught alone in the bar one night by ALL the other girls in our office, I said we should try and sneak out so know-one saw us and it was actually her that said and i quote... "lets just get it out of the way they will find out at some point anyway"
also she has a friend in the office she knows from the past. the very first night we kissed she told me that she had said to this friend that she was infatuated with me.
so it is still not open knowledge but a few people know something is going on and it was actually her that seemed fine with it coming out?!!?
Posted by Deedee86i dont really flirt with any of the other girls in the office as i dont want her to think im playing games with her. that being said i was chatting with one girl we work with and i said something that is an "in joke" between us and i did see her snap her head up and look over at us briefly, not sure if she heard it or not, she always looks unhappy or angry when she looks at me so i cant really say if her mood changed.
Ok....I know a Cap female in a week relationship so I'm going to give you my observations on her. I'm not sure if it will even pertain to this situation.
1.she doesn't want people at work to know that they are together so they barely speak or look at each other. (We all know anyways cause it's obvious)
2. BUT she wants to stake her claim so if he even speaks to another girl she gets really angry. Half the time, the poor guy is totally clueless but the rest of us can see it.
She may want to keep work separate.
Are you flirty with other women? They may make her upset.
Posted by iCloud9how do i strike a balance between "pursuing shamelessly" and "looking like a stalker"? haha.
she needs you to go after her shamelessly. if you mirror her, it'd never go anywhere
I have honestly tried to give her space the past few weeks while still making enough effort to let her know i still want her. pretty much message her once a week to see how she is or ask her to lunch. whenever i tried to start a text conversation with her its like talking to a brick wall, she either replies a day later or replies immediatley and then just stops replying mid conversation.
and im a taurus so yes im probably guilty of mirroring her atleast once this past week
Posted by HeartSighi wouldnt say ive been mirroring her, ive just given her space and only really contacted her once in the past week to ask her anything. i did have this weird moment when we were alone in a room for a while and she ignored me so i never bothered saying anything to her, i guess that was mirroring, but anyone could have walked in at any point, so it was not a good time to tell her i think she amazing and we should elope to vegas 😉Posted by Cody84Posted by Gob_Shitei know this, it was something i considered but i have spent time with her sober away from the office and she is still lovely to mePosted by lnana04
Alcohol, recent ex, company reputation.
Seems everytime she's loosening up she has a few drinks in her system, or she's in a loose setting(bar).
She's probably making out with no sex because her break up is recent and she probably is still attached to her ex emotionally.
The coldness could be due to the impression she's trying to make a work, plus she might just want you to play along in forgetting the nights before happened, which in a way sounds like she's using you.
I think you should avoid her forever in all honesty.
This.
A word of advice. Most people are completely different, after a couple of drinks. Just because they're friendly, when they have a glass of alcohol in their hands, it doesn't mean they'll be the same when completely sober.
Alcohol has a strange way of making others lose their inhibitions and, if you're not fully aware of this, it can be very deceptive.
If I'm being hot/cold, it's usually because I like the person, I'm shy, and I don't know really how to act around them. It sounds like to me she likes you, but is confused on what to do herself with all of the circumstances. She also might be afraid of rejection, and is waiting for you to show more.
Don't mirror her, or she will go into her shell and it will eventually be very hard to get her back out and even longer to open up to you. We Need to know where your feelings are on everything first, before we will take any more steps.
In my opinion, the alcohol seems to just bring out more how she really feels..
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Posted by Bricks195this is exactly what im trying to do, its just getting that balance between doing that and letting her know i still like her
OP, this reminds me of someone I know who runs hot and cold. Very similar pattern.
You guys didn't really take it slow. You went too fast and now you caught feelings for someone who might be toying with you.
You don't really know her well enough to know if you like her as a person. You have feelings for her that might not be based on reality. I think you need to dial it way back, do your job, be cordial towards her and avoid socializing with her the way you have been.
At this point, it's impossible to say for sure if she's serious but reticent or just using you for a good time. You need to hang back and try to figure that out.
Posted by Cody84Posted by Bricks195this is exactly what im trying to do, its just getting that balance between doing that and letting her know i still like her
OP, this reminds me of someone I know who runs hot and cold. Very similar pattern.
You guys didn't really take it slow. You went too fast and now you caught feelings for someone who might be toying with you.
You don't really know her well enough to know if you like her as a person. You have feelings for her that might not be based on reality. I think you need to dial it way back, do your job, be cordial towards her and avoid socializing with her the way you have been.
At this point, it's impossible to say for sure if she's serious but reticent or just using you for a good time. You need to hang back and try to figure that out.click to expand
Yeah, I hear ya. If she's really interested, she probably won't drop you just because she isn't sure where she stands anymore, but I know what it's like to worry about that.
Sometimes you just have to run the risk and have some faith that the right person wouldn't give up on you that fast.
Posted by Cody84Hmm. ..I'm a bit confused by that too actually ?Posted by pooface222well i never spoke to her in person, the only time i had her semi-alone was when i walked into a room she was in to do some work, i said hello and she just looked up, avoided eye contact and kind of muttered something that I could not make out. i then just did my work but she sat there and never said a word to me. i did message her a few hours later to ask her if she was ok, she replied straight away saying she was fine and never said anything else. then around 20 mins later (i shouldnt of sent this i admit) i sent another message asking why she was being so off with me of late and she just replied that she wasnt, she was just busy. that was like 5 days ago and we have not spoken sincePosted by Cody84
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The last time we spoke in person was a week ago at the bar, she was back to being her normal flirty self with me but she was with a friend and towards the end of the night just gave me a hug and left. She was however constantly going on at her friend infront of me, about how great I am, it was a bit strange yet nice.
THIS above. .
I have done this in the past - when I was single.
This is her way of Flirting with you while at work. She wants you to not feel rejected but also wants to give you attention at the same time. It's what I would call Professional Flirting x
BUT it comes across as blowing hot & cold sadly..
Now you say she hasn't spoken to you in a week and you haven't spoken to her. She probably feels rejected. So..try her tactic of Professional Flirting x
It means you can give her attention in a way that only she knows but nobody else ?
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Posted by iCloud9I had two Virgos in my life that were very persistent, full of passion, and emotionally forward. But, they both also turned out to be drug addicts. The other Virgos who have been in my life, definitely not emotionally forward and definitely wouldn't work out. Not in the long run, anyway..Posted by HeartSighthat was why i could never work out with virgos lol. i needed a man with passion and emotionally forwardPosted by iCloud9
she needs you to go after her shamelessly. if you mirror her, it'd never go anywhere
Exactly..
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The female Virgos, I love. Especially Starwars.
Posted by Cody84i'd have said forget about her if not because all the undeniable signs that she is into you -Posted by iCloud9how do i strike a balance between "pursuing shamelessly" and "looking like a stalker"? haha.
she needs you to go after her shamelessly. if you mirror her, it'd never go anywhere
I have honestly tried to give her space the past few weeks while still making enough effort to let her know i still want her. pretty much message her once a week to see how she is or ask her to lunch. whenever i tried to start a text conversation with her its like talking to a brick wall, she either replies a day later or replies immediatley and then just stops replying mid conversation.
and im a taurus so yes im probably guilty of mirroring her atleast once this past weekclick to expand
"...pretty much said she wanted me to take her home...she kept telling me how much she liked me, it was a lovely day."
"She was however constantly going on at her friend infront of me, about how great I am"
"she has told a co-worker that she really likes me!"
geez. how more direct can a capricorn be lol
and you pretty much know why she is either trying to figure out what's next or trying to take it as slow as possible -
"I do know she came out of a long relationship 4 months ago, he was apparently an ass to her, also she is trying to make a good impression at the company, all of which I understand, I just wish she would let me in!"
if she is taking her new job seriously, logically, she may not want to mess with a coworker in the first place but just couldn't resist your charm and lost control after a drink or something. that'd explain her hot and cold and short text replies. also, she may still have some emotional hangups form her last LTR so she may not want to rush anything
i say you keep your cool and wait until the next 'losing control' 1.5 day Friday night event lol to talk to her when it's romantic and relaxing. reassure her your interest and how you think you two can work it out
yes there are risks involved but hey that's what makes life interesting, no?
Posted by HeartSighactually i was thinking that i wasn't being fair with my previous statement about virgos but i was just too lazy to put more thoughts into editing lolPosted by iCloud9I had two Virgos in my life that were very persistent, full of passion, and emotionally forward. But, they both also turned out to be drug addicts. The other Virgos who have been in my life, definitely not emotionally forward and definitely wouldn't work out. Not in the long run, anyway..Posted by HeartSighthat was why i could never work out with virgos lol. i needed a man with passion and emotionally forwardPosted by iCloud9
she needs you to go after her shamelessly. if you mirror her, it'd never go anywhere
Exactly..
The female Virgos, I love. Especially Starwars.
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i was gonna say there were 2 types of virgo men i encountered - the first type (w/ leo influences) was passionate and forward. the 2nd type was emotionally handicapped. of course, i was never into the 1st type otherwise life would have been too easy lol
and yes, like you (again), i find female virgos very different
Posted by iCloud9she was very direct, very upfront about her feelings,its just weird that she went from that to not even being able to make eye contact with me and giving me dirty looks if she does make eye contact. I have even noticed her going out of her way in the office to not be near me, she will avoid any proximity to me if she can.Posted by Cody84i'd have said forget about her if not because all the undeniable signs that she is into you -Posted by iCloud9how do i strike a balance between "pursuing shamelessly" and "looking like a stalker"? haha.
she needs you to go after her shamelessly. if you mirror her, it'd never go anywhere
I have honestly tried to give her space the past few weeks while still making enough effort to let her know i still want her. pretty much message her once a week to see how she is or ask her to lunch. whenever i tried to start a text conversation with her its like talking to a brick wall, she either replies a day later or replies immediatley and then just stops replying mid conversation.
and im a taurus so yes im probably guilty of mirroring her atleast once this past week
"...pretty much said she wanted me to take her home...she kept telling me how much she liked me, it was a lovely day."
"She was however constantly going on at her friend infront of me, about how great I am"
"she has told a co-worker that she really likes me!"
geez. how more direct can a capricorn be lol
and you pretty much know why she is either trying to figure out what's next or trying to take it as slow as possible -
"I do know she came out of a long relationship 4 months ago, he was apparently an ass to her, also she is trying to make a good impression at the company, all of which I understand, I just wish she would let me in!"
if she is taking her new job seriously, logically, she may not want to mess with a coworker in the first place but just couldn't resist your charm and lost control after a drink or something. that'd explain her hot and cold and short text replies. also, she may still have some emotional hangups form her last LTR so she may not want to rush anything
i say you keep your cool and wait until the next 'losing control' 1.5 day Friday night event lol to talk to her when it's romantic and relaxing. reassure her your interest and how you think you two can work it out
yes there are risks involved but hey that's what makes life interesting, no?
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i know what you mean about keeping cool and seeing what happens the next time we are all at the bar together. I will try my best, its just hard waiting until then, you could cut the chemistry between us in the office with a knife, its so palpable its untrue
This has been here for some time.. what's the status now?
If she only behaves cold at work but then warm again outside work, I would think she's simply trying to separate work and stay professional. Just act around her like any other colleague at work, then be however you want outside. After some time, after she gets more into the relationship, she may change her attitude at work. If a cap cherishes you then they give you a lot of respect, and if she falls hard then her work "ethic" might loosen a bit.
Just don't stick to her and keep observing her at work, act nonchalant like you do to any other colleague, she will appreciate you much for that.
If she only behaves cold at work but then warm again outside work, I would think she's simply trying to separate work and stay professional. Just act around her like any other colleague at work, then be however you want outside. After some time, after she gets more into the relationship, she may change her attitude at work. If a cap cherishes you then they give you a lot of respect, and if she falls hard then her work "ethic" might loosen a bit.
Just don't stick to her and keep observing her at work, act nonchalant like you do to any other colleague, she will appreciate you much for that.
i am a CAP female and I am like that... I do it because I really like them and I do not want to seem like I am chasing him lol. She wants you to chase her lol.... especially in the begining. also it could be thatshe wants to keep it professional at work?
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i am a CAP female and I am like that... I do it because I really like them and I do not want to seem like I am chasing him lol. She wants you to chase her lol.... especially in the begining. also it could be thatshe wants to keep it professional at work?
I agree. As a Cappy, I'm like this too..
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