@ladylibra21
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I officially hate him.
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Posted by Fun4Life
So just walk up to him slowly, open his lips, put the candy in his mouth and walk away!
That is sexy af, but we are at work someone would notice LOl.
Posted by ladylibra21
He just gave me a candy heart that said Love you and said here you go this is for you. I swear he is just fucking with me. He just loves to fuck with me. It makes me so angry!
is that the Aries - lol - wonder what he wants for the holiday tomorrow - lol
Posted by leowww
Lol...Why does it make you so angry?
& it does sound very cheeky capricorn like... 😆
Lol it is and it would be cute if he actually wanted a relationship. He knows how I feel about him why lead me on?
Posted by ladylibra21
He just gave me a candy heart that said Love you and said here you go this is for you. I swear he is just fucking with me. He just loves to fuck with me. It makes me so angry!is that the Aries - lol - wonder what he wants for the holiday tomorrow - lol
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no - it's a Capricorn - now I recall - sorry - but what a pizzer
Posted by ladylibra21
He just gave me a candy heart that said Love you and said here you go this is for you. I swear he is just fucking with me. He just loves to fuck with me. It makes me so angry!is that the Aries - lol - wonder what he wants for the holiday tomorrow - lol
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No the Aries was my ex from years ago. This is the Cap I have been dealing with for over a year
Posted by ladylibra21
He just gave me a candy heart that said Love you and said here you go this is for you. I swear he is just fucking with me. He just loves to fuck with me. It makes me so angry!
I'd say " this is what I think of your love" as I toss it in the bin in front of him.
Posted by ladylibra21
He just gave me a candy heart that said Love you and said here you go this is for you. I swear he is just fucking with me. He just loves to fuck with me. It makes me so angry!I'd say " this is what I think of your love" as I toss it in the bin in front of him.
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i had a vision of my self licking the candy heart and sticking it to his cheek haha
I just had tears coming out of my eyes.
Posted by Fun4Life
So just walk up to him slowly, open his lips, put the candy in his mouth and walk away!That is sexy af, but we are at work someone would notice LOl.
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Follow him to the bathroom and lock the door LOL
But I understand your frustration. It's like they KNOW how to F with you. I'm not letting my cap get to me. He can kiss my butt.
Posted by ParisianCappy
Yo pass me his number i'll talk to him
Bruh what is his problem!
Posted by Vageenka
Stop paying him attention.Make him work for your attention.
I literally don't I don't initiate conversation or anything. He just comes to my desk. I try to avoid my eyes he stands in front of me until I look up lol
Posted by Vageenka
Stop paying him attention.Make him work for your attention.
Plus my poker face has turned to shit these last couple of years even when I am annoyed I am amused because im thinking to myself are you serious. So it doesn't help that I smirk when I am annoyed maybe that is what is encouraging him.
Posted by ladylibra21
He just gave me a candy heart that said Love you and said here you go this is for you. I swear he is just fucking with me. He just loves to fuck with me. It makes me so angry!
Aww that's sweet!
if I were you, I'd give him a note saying "meet me in the elevator in 10min" go to the elevator, and grabbed his face and give him a kiss, say thank you and walk away! ?
He'd either stay frozen or grab you and kiss you
??
Posted by ladylibra21
He just gave me a candy heart that said Love you and said here you go this is for you. I swear he is just fucking with me. He just loves to fuck with me. It makes me so angry!I'd say " this is what I think of your love" as I toss it in the bin in front of him.
i had a vision of my self licking the candy heart and sticking it to his cheek haha
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If someone had fucked me about then I detach myself and I go ice cold but then my Libra moon after would be like argh why did you do that ?
Posted by ladylibra21
He just gave me a candy heart that said Love you and said here you go this is for you. I swear he is just fucking with me. He just loves to fuck with me. It makes me so angry!Aww that's sweet!
if I were you, I'd give him a note saying "meet me in the elevator in 10min" go to the elevator, and grabbed his face and give him a kiss, say thank you and walk away! ?
He'd either stay frozen or grab you and kiss you
??
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Way too risky plus I wont be making any more effort. He has to come to me now and if that is what he wants he better do it fast because I am on my way out! I tried meeting him half way.
Posted by ParisianCappy
Yo pass me his number i'll talk to himBruh what is his problem!
I think he lost you
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You think he knows I am detaching and this is a desperate attempt to reel me back in?
Posted by ladylibra21
He just gave me a candy heart that said Love you and said here you go this is for you. I swear he is just fucking with me. He just loves to fuck with me. It makes me so angry!Aww that's sweet!
if I were you, I'd give him a note saying "meet me in the elevator in 10min" go to the elevator, and grabbed his face and give him a kiss, say thank you and walk away! ?
He'd either stay frozen or grab you and kiss you
??
Way too risky plus I wont be making any more effort. He has to come to me now and if that is what he wants he better do it fast because I am on my way out! I tried meeting him half way.
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I think he's being playful!
My cap and I are always playful...even around other people he comes and low key grabs my butt. Or if I'm doing something he comes and surprisingly kisses me, and I usually play him too, or he teases me and when he really wants to kiss me I look away and sometimes he can't hold it and grabs me.
I'd say just go with the flo' ?
Posted by Vageenka
Stop paying him attention.Make him work for your attention.
I literally don't I don't initiate conversation or anything. He just comes to my desk. I try to avoid my eyes he stands in front of me until I look up lol
Damn...
Why the hell won't this man commit to you if he knows how you feel? Has he ever told you?
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Yes. His main excuses were we work together, he isnt sure what type of relationship he would have to have with my son's father, and he has been extremely hurt and knows in order for it to work he would have to open up more and he is not sure if he can do that.
Posted by CAPR1LICIOUS
@ladylibra21 Since you are on talking terms with him, why not just ask him what's going on?Also tell him how his behaviour affects you.
Just appears like he respects your feelings, but doesn't know what to do about them. Ignoring you around this time would hurt you and doing something obvious would be leading you on. Therefore, the antics...
But he knows it bothers me because when we had our where is this going talk I told him his mixed signals were driving me crazy. His response was what is wrong with a little playful flirting.
Posted by Vageenka
Stop paying him attention.Make him work for your attention.
I literally don't I don't initiate conversation or anything. He just comes to my desk. I try to avoid my eyes he stands in front of me until I look up lol
Damn...
Why the hell won't this man commit to you if he knows how you feel? Has he ever told you?
Yes. His main excuses were we work together, he isnt sure what type of relationship he would have to have with my son's father, and he has been extremely hurt and knows in order for it to work he would have to open up more and he is not sure if he can do that.
Well I guess that's honest, straightforward and acceptable.
But he shouldn't be stringing you along like this. Not cool to play with people's feelings.
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My thoughts exactly it is all a game to him!
Posted by Capri-sun
Tell him no thank you & give it back or say thanks & let it collect dust on your desk & keep ignoring him
I would do the exact same thing. Saying thanks in the most nonchalant way ever and keep it moving.
As you know I don't have much sympathy for this guy. However, in all fairness, I don't think he is stringing you a long at all. He gave you clear, rational reasons as to why he was unsure if he should pursue something with you.
Further, he has continued to communicate with you, most likely cause he has to. This is indeed an unfortunate side-effect of trying to date co-workers. If he ignored you and went out of his way not to speak to you, then he would (rightly) be condemned for that. If he tries to keep things somewhat similar to the way they were before, he is condemned for that also (cause you feel he is stringing you along). This situation is inherently awkward so there is bound to be miscues along the way.
However, I would argue you a reading in to his behavior far too much. Which, to be honest, is strange behavior on your part if you are truly "done" with this situation. It shouldn't matter what he does at this point- you are supposedly no longer interested correct? The only way someone can string you along is if you keep holding on to the string.
Posted by daron76
As you know I don't have much sympathy for this guy. However, in all fairness, I don't think he is stringing you a long at all. He gave you clear, rational reasons as to why he was unsure if he should pursue something with you.Further, he has continued to communicate with you, most likely cause he has to. This is indeed an unfortunate side-effect of trying to date co-workers. If he ignored you and went out of his way not to speak to you, then he would (rightly) be condemned for that. If he tries to keep things somewhat similar to they were before, he is condemned for that also (cause you feel he is stringing you along). This situation is inherently awkward so there is bound to be miscues along the way.
However, I would argue you a reading in to his behavior far too much. Which, to be honest, is strange behavior on your part if you are truly "done" with this situation. It shouldn't matter what he does at this point- you are supposedly no longer interested correct? The only way someone can string you along is if you keep holding on to the string.
I totally agree and it's not that I am done but I am trying to be done. There is a difference. As much as he went on about how he doesn't lead people on why does he keep playing like that. Maybe I am reading too much into it.
Posted by daron76
As you know I don't have much sympathy for this guy. However, in all fairness, I don't think he is stringing you a long at all. He gave you clear, rational reasons as to why he was unsure if he should pursue something with you.Further, he has continued to communicate with you, most likely cause he has to. This is indeed an unfortunate side-effect of trying to date co-workers. If he ignored you and went out of his way not to speak to you, then he would (rightly) be condemned for that. If he tries to keep things somewhat similar to they were before, he is condemned for that also (cause you feel he is stringing you along). This situation is inherently awkward so there is bound to be miscues along the way.
However, I would argue you a reading in to his behavior far too much. Which, to be honest, is strange behavior on your part if you are truly "done" with this situation. It shouldn't matter what he does at this point- you are supposedly no longer interested correct? The only way someone can string you along is if you keep holding on to the string.
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Look who's back!!!!
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Nice.
So right before he left he gave me another candy heart that said call me I looked at it then threw it at him. He said fine then don't. I said why, you never call me then turned away from him. When I looked back he was just standing there he didn't have anything to say then he left.
Posted by ladylibra21
So right before he left he gave me another candy heart that said call me I looked at it then threw it at him. He said fine then don't. I said why, you never call me then turned away from him. When I looked back he was just standing there he didn't have anything to say then he left.He's trying. It's totally on you to take it or leave it.
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I don't know maybe we need to talk again. I don't think he understands how I am feeling. I am not totally dismissing his feelings, but I feel like I always take his into consideration and he never takes in mine.
Posted by Capri-sun
Guys are dumb
I think you're reading too much into this.. just follow him. He already told you he likes you but you two probably haven't spent enough time together to actually make you his girlfriend and if you are just gonna be "upset " or "cold" Because he shows you affection then he's probably confused if you like him or not.
Guys like to make girls to fall for them, it'd be boring to have a relationship where you meet the person and after walking and talking they become bf/gf and he never gave her anything to make her fall for him.
What do you like about him—??
He just wants to make you feel happy by giving you notes, and kissy things.
I think it was sweet!
Posted by ladylibra21
So right before he left he gave me another candy heart that said call me I looked at it then threw it at him. He said fine then don't. I said why, you never call me then turned away from him. When I looked back he was just standing there he didn't have anything to say then he left.He's trying. It's totally on you to take it or leave it.
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He's not trying though, that's the thing. He's taking the approach that women usually do (stereotypically speaking).
Signaling interest but not pursuing.
If they'd only known each other for a little bit or if she hadn't already expressed her interest in him, I'd say he was testing the waters. However, given that they've known each other for awhile, she's confessed her feelings, and he already ("jokingly" of course) went into an adult toy store with her, I'd say he's poking at her resolve trying to find holes.
He's not dumb - he's just playing like he is.
He's not playing her per-say, but he's not exactly being considerate of her or her feelings either.
Then again, I could be projecting. This is the kind of shit the Cap i recently posted about would do.
Posted by ladylibra21
So right before he left he gave me another candy heart that said call me I looked at it then threw it at him. He said fine then don't. I said why, you never call me then turned away from him. When I looked back he was just standing there he didn't have anything to say then he left.He's trying. It's totally on you to take it or leave it.
He's not trying though, that's the thing. He's taking the approach that women usually do (stereotypically speaking).
Signaling interest but not pursuing.
If they'd only known each other for a little bit or if she hadn't already expressed her interest in him, I'd say he was testing the waters. However, given that they've known each other for awhile, she's confessed her feelings, and he already ("jokingly" of course) went into an adult toy store with her, I'd say he's poking at her resolve trying to find holes.
He's not dumb - he's just playing like he is.
He's not playing her per-say, but he's not exactly being considerate of her or her feelings either.
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How is he going to pursue if this is the way she's reacting to his "flirting".
She just wants him to jump in the commitment and act like bf/gf stuff without flirting, then this is when she will complain later that he was never sweet, he's like a robot, I give him cards and get doesn't give me anything... I've seen this happen.
Women want guys that are sweet and do cute little details but when he does, she's like marry me already stop playing games and they stop being corny or Romantic. and the relationship is dull, it has no fun, creativity, it doesn't feel free.
I'd say look elsewhere if you want a different type of relationship.
Posted by ladylibra21
So right before he left he gave me another candy heart that said call me I looked at it then threw it at him. He said fine then don't. I said why, you never call me then turned away from him. When I looked back he was just standing there he didn't have anything to say then he left.Ah no! This is the kind of scene I would avoid at workplace.
I don't know how he's going handle this, but it would give me nightmares.
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It wasn't even a scene. No one was around I threw the little candy heart back and quietly told him why should I call you never call me.
Posted by ladylibra21
He just gave me a candy heart that said Love you and said here you go this is for you. I swear he is just fucking with me. He just loves to fuck with me. It makes me so angry!
Why do you let him?
Are you an idiot woman?
Cappie loves to act cheap to get a rise out of his lady.
It's just their warped sense of humor.
Cappie said to me that he'd bring me some Wendy's for Valentine's Day.
I just told him to shut up and he laughed.
They love to see you get emotional for them.
I don't see it as a big deal if you aren't dating someone else.
Now. like they said ^ if it's hurting you, then let him know..
Tell him, please make your your fucking mind, stop being a child and tell me what is it that you want out of this. It hurts me bc my feelings for you are real and you're just taking it like if it's a game. If you are not gonna do anything about this then leave me the fuck alone.
Walk away, cut him off, cold as ice.
That's what I would do.
Posted by ladylibra21
So right before he left he gave me another candy heart that said call me I looked at it then threw it at him. He said fine then don't. I said why, you never call me then turned away from him. When I looked back he was just standing there he didn't have anything to say then he left.
That's more like it. He's immature and messing with your feelings. He may now realise that he needs to grow up and man up. If he doesn't want you then he should let you go.
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He just gave me a candy heart that said Love you and said here you go this is for you. I swear he is just fucking with me. He just loves to fuck with me. It makes me so angry!