Aerazo
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Posted by pinkbird03My relationships with Caps usually "move" Because I initiate contact.. I sort of jump on them haha ? I plan a way to get close to them, talk, and kiss them at least.. then I hold back a little to let them court me ? Although I only do this with someone I really really like (which is rare) in the time I've been single I've only seriously liked one guy and it's the Cap. Everyone else has been "meh".Posted by ladylibra21Omg why hasn't he kissed you yet— I definitely feel frustrated for you. At this point, I think you should just go for it and initiate it. Or if you don't want to do that, you can tell him you want to kiss him lol be aggressive. You got nothing to losePosted by AerazoPosted by ladylibra21
@Aerazo he went to a party at a house with 3 couples. We have people who are married at our job in the handbook strictly says that our job does not monitor personal relationships.
Hmmm, but how long have you been "talking(kiss and sex?)" have you asked him if he just wants to be fwb ? Have you been around his friends before ? I'm not saying he should have taken you, it all depends on what stage are you guys at. I know a friend who takes different girls to his house for dinner with parents and thanksgiving. I feel like events like that should be separate unless you already introduced them to the family.
No kissing or sex it has been a year we came close to it in Dec but nothing happened. He came to my show in October and brought 2 of his friends and then told other people to see it. He has met my family he went up and introduced himself to them at my show, but no I haven't met his family.
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Posted by ladylibra21Has he opened up to you as well? I know for guys this is hard but one of the things that Cap men look for is for someone who understands them, and support them in their careers, shared goals, be next to them whenever they need someone they can count on you. ?Posted by AerazoHe gets me emotionally. He can always tell where I'm at in moods no matter how much I try to mask it. Conversation is easy when we are together we talk about any and everything. We laugh so much. He make me feel safe.Posted by ladylibra21Hmm why do you like him so much to go through all the overtinking?Posted by AerazoPosted by ladylibra21
@Aerazo he went to a party at a house with 3 couples. We have people who are married at our job in the handbook strictly says that our job does not monitor personal relationships.
Hmmm, but how long have you been "talking(kiss and sex?)" have you asked him if he just wants to be fwb ? Have you been around his friends before ? I'm not saying he should have taken you, it all depends on what stage are you guys at. I know a friend who takes different girls to his house for dinner with parents and thanksgiving. I feel like events like that should be separate unless you already introduced them to the family.
No kissing or sex it has been a year we came close to it in Dec but nothing happened. He came to my show in October and brought 2 of his friends and then told other people to see it. He has met my family he went up and introduced himself to them at my show, but no I haven't met his family.
What do you see in him? or is it just an attraction?
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Posted by ParisianCappyPosted by Aerazolol capricorn we are weirdPosted by ParisianCappyPosted by Capri-sunPosted by ladylibra21Posted by ParisianCappyPosted by ladylibra21what do you mean ? you think i should ask directly to koniucha, if i can spend the night with her ?Posted by ParisianCappySee!! That's that indirect shit we talking about!! LmaoPosted by ladylibra21sry i didnt mean it, i was just trying to flirt with konichuaPosted by ParisianCappyLmao How am I a cold monster? All I have done is been there for his ass and that was the other thing I was upset yesterday as well and he knew that Talking about "cheer up buttercup." Why should I always be there for him if he's not always there for me?Posted by Koniuchaalol isnt that postit heart cute, OP IS A COLD MONSTERPosted by ladylibra21At this point, I'd ask what the heart note business is about. You don't have anything to lose. Just say, 'hey did you see who left this on my phone?'
First off let me say this is mostly venting.
So...I told myself New Year's Eve that if I didn't get some kind of contact saying happy new year from this guy then I was done. Because in my head if I mean something to you common sense would say you would wish me a happy new year. So he didn't so I started on my journey of letting go on New Year's Day. I get back to work and this dude is all in my face like constantly in my face like more than he normally is. I'm not paying him much attention because my new resolve is to move past this until I'm able to become friends with him. Near the end of the day he starts whispering stuff under his breath after he passes me. So I cornered him and I say what are you saying under your breath and he says don't worry about it laughing. So yesterday he comes in at the end of the day and we are talking and he is acting strange talking about random things like death a subject he normally stays away from. We also talked about him being passive aggressive and he said he would try to be more cheerful and not be passive aggressive. So sensing that he may need to talk after he made a point to tell me he was just going to sit at home and do nothing that night (as if he was bummed about it) I non-chalanly say let's go out and do karaoke or something and he changes the subject then leaves.
So I tell myself OK let's try this one last time try to ask him to hang out somewhere to see how he reacts. An hour later after I sent a text saying
"But no seriously what are you doing tonight? Let's go get a drink. Drinks on me. I won't make you do karaoke lol"
He replied: "Hey I just got home I would love to just not tonight I'm in a funk extra tired And yes no karaoke."
He use the same excuse he always uses. So I ignored him didn't even write back. He always seems to have time for everybody else but me.
So I was resigned to just let him go and work with him until I find another job. I was to show no emotion about the whole thing today. However, he comes in at the end of the day And says did you go out to karaoke. I look at him and all of my anger returns and I robotically say "No, no I did not. " I walked away and when I come back he had left my desk. He proceeded to walk by 3 times as I ignored him and worked on my time sheet (which I hate doing so you know I was pissed if I'd rather do my time sheet than talk to him).
One time he walked by, he pretended to trip up the stairs and made a big commotion about it limping past my desk to see if I would respond to it and ask if he was OK, I did not ask.
Then when I got up to ask people if they needed help I came back to my desk and my phone had a sticky note on it facedown I picked it up and there was a heart on the sticky note.
I am so mad ?. For someone who doesn't want shit to do with me, who doesn't make me a priority, you want to leave hearts on my phone? If he doesn't like me in that way why is he sending me mixed signals like that!
Is he fucking with my head?
I'm not sure what to do I haven't called him because I'm afraid I'll cuss him out. I could go in tomorrow and treat him like we are just co workers and not friends but I tired that today and failed.
Sigh I need wine for whine tonight. Bottoms up ?.
Lmao no I'm saying there is no way that look like a flirt. I think Cap men must think blinking at you is flirting too hahaha
Only if he's blushing while blinking
she don't understand.
6 Month for the first kiss minimum. but if you respect this rule a solid mariage will happen
6 months for first kiss—— what?
Id die longing to eat him for that long and not being able to taste him ?
I haven't even kissed him in the last month and half ?
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I just don't know if you guys are so focused into work or other things that you "forget" we need attention too... or is it a game that you play to get the attention? because as you can see, all of us who are here on this thread are usually giving caps attention and not receiving the same attention.
We don't leave because you guys always come back...so you are either immature to make a decision on what you want, or you have more than one to choose from.
Posted by ladylibra21Posted by Koniuchaa
Have you asked him directly how he feels about you? I think you should at this point. What is the worst that can happen?
I did. I didn't see him the next day after I did this. Then the next day he brought me in cannolis for my birthday. Still bonyrs or no to the question I asked though
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I know Caps are very romantic but they are also shy (3 of the ones I know are) they will respect you which is great, but is also hard for them to make moves.
If I were in your situation after a year has passed and you having feelings for him, I would just sit down with him and have a talk. Not an accusation type of talk... but conversational.
I usually wrote down or think of specific points I wanna mention which are key for them. FYI Don't talk way too much just go to the point.
I'd tell him that after all this time you've known him, you feel comfortable around him, (praise the things he does for you, so he feels like he is important to you) tell him you have feelings for him and that you want to be there for him as well. And ask him directly, I want to know how you feel about me?
Maybe that would be a wake up call for him to know that you have been there waiting on Him hut you are finally getting tired of his mixed signals and he needs to step up his game or he would lose you.
Posted by AerazoYea. My relationship was moving very slowly for awhile, but I screwed it up by talking about ending our relationship a couple of times because I felt no security. We are now friends who still talk everyday. I think his biggest issues with me are I'm sometimes too emotional and fear of me leaving because I've done it a lot.Posted by pinkbird03My relationships with Caps usually "move" Because I initiate contact.. I sort of jump on them haha ? I plan a way to get close to them, talk, and kiss them at least.. then I hold back a little to let them court me ? Although I only do this with someone I really really like (which is rare) in the time I've been single I've only seriously liked one guy and it's the Cap. Everyone else has been "meh".Posted by ladylibra21Omg why hasn't he kissed you yet— I definitely feel frustrated for you. At this point, I think you should just go for it and initiate it. Or if you don't want to do that, you can tell him you want to kiss him lol be aggressive. You got nothing to losePosted by AerazoPosted by ladylibra21
@Aerazo he went to a party at a house with 3 couples. We have people who are married at our job in the handbook strictly says that our job does not monitor personal relationships.
Hmmm, but how long have you been "talking(kiss and sex?)" have you asked him if he just wants to be fwb ? Have you been around his friends before ? I'm not saying he should have taken you, it all depends on what stage are you guys at. I know a friend who takes different girls to his house for dinner with parents and thanksgiving. I feel like events like that should be separate unless you already introduced them to the family.
No kissing or sex it has been a year we came close to it in Dec but nothing happened. He came to my show in October and brought 2 of his friends and then told other people to see it. He has met my family he went up and introduced himself to them at my show, but no I haven't met his family.
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Ok I lost my cool but maybe it is for the best. Maybe this will keep him from continuously hurting me
Posted by tizianilol it is snowing but no.
You hit him with a shovel?
Posted by ShadowcatNope, but i still talk to him everyday. I've known him for 10 months now. I'm definitely attached and have trouble distancing myself when I try.Posted by pinkbird03Did you guys get back together?
Funny. I'm feeling frustrated too tonight with my cap. I feel a strong connection with him yet I feel a million miles apart.
The heart note was very, very sweet. I think he does like you!
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Posted by AerazoOh, sorry if that was confusing. She asked after a few months I think and they ended up bf/gf for that length of time.Posted by SunMoonStarsWho would wait 8 years to ask that question—Posted by daron76OMG, this sounds like my Cap's story with his ex Leo.
Lawd....
Soo maybe its time to call him on his BS? I've been called on mine before. I was young (26). I didn't recognize this woman was interested in me and I thought we were just having a good time . We had been flirting for a while (she was a Leo) according to her- I thought we had just been joking around. One day we were leaving a fundraiser (so we had been drinking a little bit) while we were waiting for her cab she turned to me and said " So am I getting dick tonight or what?" It took that for me to realize what was going on her end. We spent the next 10 yrs as on and off sexual partners and good friends. So, while her method may not be a great for a "relationship" it did work to "get an itch scratched" 😛 .
Not that you should have to put your self out there like that. I'm just sayin...
But, again.... ol boy... smh "utters under breath... this MF right here"
She pursued him and literally had to trick him into coming over and staying the night. They hung out for a while and one day she said "am I your gf or what??". She was never his type and obviously it didn't work out. They spent 8.5 years together.
Personally, I think pursuing a Cap who isn't that into you is hard and losing battle.
I'd mostly wait 6 months, I'd he doesn't want me to be his girlfriend I might agree to be fwb but by then I'd already know what he wants.click to expand
Posted by AerazoIt's good to be yourself. Definitely great to do your own thing and have stuff going on!Posted by SunMoonStarsI don't know how to be someone else so I've put him in place a few times.Posted by AerazoTotally know how you feel. I often feel like I'm walking on eggshells with my Cap.Posted by pinkbird03What's your sign?Posted by Capri-sunIt's not that easy. There's some strange connection that keeps us in each other's life. It's comforting for both of us, I believe. I've pretty much accepted the relationship for what it is. I don't have any expectations. I'd rather have this than not talking because I tried that and it only made me desire him even more. I can't help having feelings for him and that's not going to change right now.Posted by pinkbird03Posted by Capri-sunIt's hard when we only text. I just don't understand how we can talk everyday and build a friendship, but he doesn't want to hang out or date again. He doesn't want to date anyone right now is what he told me. But he lives right down the road. I drive by his house to go to the stores every week. It's just a very different relationship for me. I do feel like ladylibra also deals with the same exact type of relationship. It's not moving.Posted by daron76
Lawd....
Soo maybe its time to call him on his BS? I've been called on mine before. I was young (26). I didn't recognize this woman was interested in me and I thought we were just having a good time . We had been flirting for a while (she was a Leo) according to her- I thought we had just been joking around. One day we were leaving a fundraiser (so we had been drinking a little bit) while we were waiting for her cab she turned to me and said " So am I getting dick tonight or what?" It took that for me to realize what was going on her end. We spent the next 10 yrs as on and off sexual partners and good friends. So, while her method may not be a great for a "relationship" it did work to "get an itch scratched" 😛 .
Not that you should have to put your self out there like that. I'm just sayin...
But, again.... ol boy... smh "utters under breath... this MF right here"
But what does it take to get a cap to commit?
I'm not even sure how to answer that question from my perspective...
Either I like him enough to be willing to or I don't. It's not so much what the other person does or doesn't do, it's moreso my level of attraction to the person.
@pinkbird03 be attentive is the best I could come up with.
I have to be completely honest with you and I'm not trying to be harsh in any way.
I say that when either I'm going through something and haven't fully sorted myself or when I'm not interested or there are circumstances preventing me from wanting to commit.
So I believe it's best for you to move on confidently and close that chapter for good. Drop any & all feelings for him & if you so choose to revisit the friendship at that time do so, if not live a happy life without him. It's his loss...
I'm afraid it will never be anything more than what it is right now.
At the same time, I'm on a few dating sites talking to a lot of guys. Trying to find someone I like! I was talking to one guy that works for the company that owns my apartment complex. I met him twice and he's so dreamy! I want his number! I also bought a new dress and heels for tomorrow night! ?
Yes I feel the same with my Cap. that's why I'm wondering if they are the same way and if there is a way to make it easier or make sure we don't cross the line, my friend says that I treat him like if he's Glass. Careful not to say anything that would be overboard or sound psycho!
He told me his personality is complicated and most people understand him. I do feel like he appreciates that I'm still there for him when he wants to talk. but sometimes I give him space and sometimes I'm the one who goes away bc I need space from him.
As I've said before, I think we gotta be more like an Earth sign when dealing with Caps...
My ex of 11 yrs is also a Cap and we lived together for 8 yrs, I just ended the relationship over a year ago.
we got together at 16 later we had 2 beautiful kids. A lot of ups and downs and fights because of past issues he never got over them, but I'm sure it was bc of our immaturity.
He still says that he loves me but over the years my feelings for him turned into resentment.
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For me, I could stand to be more patient and more sensitive, so I've been trying that.
Ok Update: SO I lost my cool, I blame Mercury Retrograde and my built up furstration, but I think I am fine with it because maybe this hold will finally be broken.
So he comes in all jolly and red faced and is laughing I mean awkward weird kind of bubbly, but i am still angry because I want him to be straight with me. However I don't get around to asking about the heart note because I realize I feel too exposed at work. He says don't be in a funk and I say I am not the one who is in a funk you are remember? He starts laughing uncontrollably because he knows I am reffering to his text. He says im sorry I am trying to stop, but you are funny and I say oh you think I am funny you think this situation is funny? He cuts off laughing and says "now you are turning the text of what I said." He then says "you said you want me to stop being passive aggressive ok I wont laugh ill just bottle it up shove everything down." It is like we are both watching ourselves from the outside and how big this train wreck is becoming, but he can't stop rambling and i cant stop looking stoney faced.
He leaves early and I talk to one of my friends and they say I should call him and ask to meet up instead of texting to get some answers. So I decide to call him immediately so he doesn't end up making plans or something. So I call him and say he what are you doing tonight? and he say's "Tonight, well I am ah......ah......ah.....Im gonna go hang out with my buddy clif." This sounded made up to me, but I let it go. I said ok well we need to set up sometime to sit down and talk. (Yes I know it sounded bad after I said it) He was like talk? What are we talking about this sounds serious" and I said it is not I mean it is but it i'snt. He say "Ok I got cha." (Sounds extremely uncomfortable). So I try to fill the silence by saying so when do you think you would be available to talk and he says "we will go out next week what about Monday Tues or Wed." I say I can't do any of those days because I have my son and he says the phone started to break up. Then after he heard me I said you don't have an hour this weekend where you can sit and talk with me? He mumbled something about football the said "maybe tomorrow. Maybe" So I said maybe? You know what don't worry about it. If you can't muster an hour of your time I don't think I have anything to say to you any ways. He starts to say something and I hang up. He calls back twice then texts me saying " I guess your voicemail box is full." You can't give me and hour of your time so I wont wast mine trying to talk. He said I was trying to figure out a good time. Then he says "lunch tomorrow 1-2", but at this point I am so pissed off that I say Sure I am sure you would just find another excuse. It's alright I am good.
And that was all she wrote.
I know I know I threw a tantrum, but I have had the patience of a saint with him for more than a year. Yesterday's newest mixed signal sent me over board.
So he comes in all jolly and red faced and is laughing I mean awkward weird kind of bubbly, but i am still angry because I want him to be straight with me. However I don't get around to asking about the heart note because I realize I feel too exposed at work. He says don't be in a funk and I say I am not the one who is in a funk you are remember? He starts laughing uncontrollably because he knows I am reffering to his text. He says im sorry I am trying to stop, but you are funny and I say oh you think I am funny you think this situation is funny? He cuts off laughing and says "now you are turning the text of what I said." He then says "you said you want me to stop being passive aggressive ok I wont laugh ill just bottle it up shove everything down." It is like we are both watching ourselves from the outside and how big this train wreck is becoming, but he can't stop rambling and i cant stop looking stoney faced.
He leaves early and I talk to one of my friends and they say I should call him and ask to meet up instead of texting to get some answers. So I decide to call him immediately so he doesn't end up making plans or something. So I call him and say he what are you doing tonight? and he say's "Tonight, well I am ah......ah......ah.....Im gonna go hang out with my buddy clif." This sounded made up to me, but I let it go. I said ok well we need to set up sometime to sit down and talk. (Yes I know it sounded bad after I said it) He was like talk? What are we talking about this sounds serious" and I said it is not I mean it is but it i'snt. He say "Ok I got cha." (Sounds extremely uncomfortable). So I try to fill the silence by saying so when do you think you would be available to talk and he says "we will go out next week what about Monday Tues or Wed." I say I can't do any of those days because I have my son and he says the phone started to break up. Then after he heard me I said you don't have an hour this weekend where you can sit and talk with me? He mumbled something about football the said "maybe tomorrow. Maybe" So I said maybe? You know what don't worry about it. If you can't muster an hour of your time I don't think I have anything to say to you any ways. He starts to say something and I hang up. He calls back twice then texts me saying " I guess your voicemail box is full." You can't give me and hour of your time so I wont wast mine trying to talk. He said I was trying to figure out a good time. Then he says "lunch tomorrow 1-2", but at this point I am so pissed off that I say Sure I am sure you would just find another excuse. It's alright I am good.
And that was all she wrote.
I know I know I threw a tantrum, but I have had the patience of a saint with him for more than a year. Yesterday's newest mixed signal sent me over board.
Posted by ladylibra21You should definitely go tomorrow. You really need to talk to him. But! Tomorrow is mercurys most intense part of the phase soooo I don't know ??♀️
Ok Update: SO I lost my cool, I blame Mercury Retrograde and my built up furstration, but I think I am fine with it because maybe this hold will finally be broken.
So he comes in all jolly and red faced and is laughing I mean awkward weird kind of bubbly, but i am still angry because I want him to be straight with me. However I don't get around to asking about the heart note because I realize I feel too exposed at work. He says don't be in a funk and I say I am not the one who is in a funk you are remember? He starts laughing uncontrollably because he knows I am reffering to his text. He says im sorry I am trying to stop, but you are funny and I say oh you think I am funny you think this situation is funny? He cuts off laughing and says "now you are turning the text of what I said." He then says "you said you want me to stop being passive aggressive ok I wont laugh ill just bottle it up shove everything down." It is like we are both watching ourselves from the outside and how big this train wreck is becoming, but he can't stop rambling and i cant stop looking stoney faced.
He leaves early and I talk to one of my friends and they say I should call him and ask to meet up instead of texting to get some answers. So I decide to call him immediately so he doesn't end up making plans or something. So I call him and say he what are you doing tonight? and he say's "Tonight, well I am ah......ah......ah.....Im gonna go hang out with my buddy clif." This sounded made up to me, but I let it go. I said ok well we need to set up sometime to sit down and talk. (Yes I know it sounded bad after I said it) He was like talk? What are we talking about this sounds serious" and I said it is not I mean it is but it i'snt. He say "Ok I got cha." (Sounds extremely uncomfortable). So I try to fill the silence by saying so when do you think you would be available to talk and he says "we will go out next week what about Monday Tues or Wed." I say I can't do any of those days because I have my son and he says the phone started to break up. Then after he heard me I said you don't have an hour this weekend where you can sit and talk with me? He mumbled something about football the said "maybe tomorrow. Maybe" So I said maybe? You know what don't worry about it. If you can't muster an hour of your time I don't think I have anything to say to you any ways. He starts to say something and I hang up. He calls back twice then texts me saying " I guess your voicemail box is full." You can't give me and hour of your time so I wont wast mine trying to talk. He said I was trying to figure out a good time. Then he says "lunch tomorrow 1-2", but at this point I am so pissed off that I say Sure I am sure you would just find another excuse. It's alright I am good.
And that was all she wrote.
I know I know I threw a tantrum, but I have had the patience of a saint with him for more than a year. Yesterday's newest mixed signal sent me over board.
Posted by pinkbird03Posted by ladylibra21You should definitely go tomorrow. You really need to talk to him. But! Tomorrow is mercurys most intense part of the phase soooo I don't know ??♀️
Ok Update: SO I lost my cool, I blame Mercury Retrograde and my built up furstration, but I think I am fine with it because maybe this hold will finally be broken.
So he comes in all jolly and red faced and is laughing I mean awkward weird kind of bubbly, but i am still angry because I want him to be straight with me. However I don't get around to asking about the heart note because I realize I feel too exposed at work. He says don't be in a funk and I say I am not the one who is in a funk you are remember? He starts laughing uncontrollably because he knows I am reffering to his text. He says im sorry I am trying to stop, but you are funny and I say oh you think I am funny you think this situation is funny? He cuts off laughing and says "now you are turning the text of what I said." He then says "you said you want me to stop being passive aggressive ok I wont laugh ill just bottle it up shove everything down." It is like we are both watching ourselves from the outside and how big this train wreck is becoming, but he can't stop rambling and i cant stop looking stoney faced.
He leaves early and I talk to one of my friends and they say I should call him and ask to meet up instead of texting to get some answers. So I decide to call him immediately so he doesn't end up making plans or something. So I call him and say he what are you doing tonight? and he say's "Tonight, well I am ah......ah......ah.....Im gonna go hang out with my buddy clif." This sounded made up to me, but I let it go. I said ok well we need to set up sometime to sit down and talk. (Yes I know it sounded bad after I said it) He was like talk? What are we talking about this sounds serious" and I said it is not I mean it is but it i'snt. He say "Ok I got cha." (Sounds extremely uncomfortable). So I try to fill the silence by saying so when do you think you would be available to talk and he says "we will go out next week what about Monday Tues or Wed." I say I can't do any of those days because I have my son and he says the phone started to break up. Then after he heard me I said you don't have an hour this weekend where you can sit and talk with me? He mumbled something about football the said "maybe tomorrow. Maybe" So I said maybe? You know what don't worry about it. If you can't muster an hour of your time I don't think I have anything to say to you any ways. He starts to say something and I hang up. He calls back twice then texts me saying " I guess your voicemail box is full." You can't give me and hour of your time so I wont wast mine trying to talk. He said I was trying to figure out a good time. Then he says "lunch tomorrow 1-2", but at this point I am so pissed off that I say Sure I am sure you would just find another excuse. It's alright I am good.
And that was all she wrote.
I know I know I threw a tantrum, but I have had the patience of a saint with him for more than a year. Yesterday's newest mixed signal sent me over board.
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Didn't schedule a place and I doubt he will go now or even call
Posted by ladylibra21Welllll u do seem in control of the situation! I think he sees thatPosted by pinkbird03Posted by ladylibra21You should definitely go tomorrow. You really need to talk to him. But! Tomorrow is mercurys most intense part of the phase soooo I don't know ??♀️
Ok Update: SO I lost my cool, I blame Mercury Retrograde and my built up furstration, but I think I am fine with it because maybe this hold will finally be broken.
So he comes in all jolly and red faced and is laughing I mean awkward weird kind of bubbly, but i am still angry because I want him to be straight with me. However I don't get around to asking about the heart note because I realize I feel too exposed at work. He says don't be in a funk and I say I am not the one who is in a funk you are remember? He starts laughing uncontrollably because he knows I am reffering to his text. He says im sorry I am trying to stop, but you are funny and I say oh you think I am funny you think this situation is funny? He cuts off laughing and says "now you are turning the text of what I said." He then says "you said you want me to stop being passive aggressive ok I wont laugh ill just bottle it up shove everything down." It is like we are both watching ourselves from the outside and how big this train wreck is becoming, but he can't stop rambling and i cant stop looking stoney faced.
He leaves early and I talk to one of my friends and they say I should call him and ask to meet up instead of texting to get some answers. So I decide to call him immediately so he doesn't end up making plans or something. So I call him and say he what are you doing tonight? and he say's "Tonight, well I am ah......ah......ah.....Im gonna go hang out with my buddy clif." This sounded made up to me, but I let it go. I said ok well we need to set up sometime to sit down and talk. (Yes I know it sounded bad after I said it) He was like talk? What are we talking about this sounds serious" and I said it is not I mean it is but it i'snt. He say "Ok I got cha." (Sounds extremely uncomfortable). So I try to fill the silence by saying so when do you think you would be available to talk and he says "we will go out next week what about Monday Tues or Wed." I say I can't do any of those days because I have my son and he says the phone started to break up. Then after he heard me I said you don't have an hour this weekend where you can sit and talk with me? He mumbled something about football the said "maybe tomorrow. Maybe" So I said maybe? You know what don't worry about it. If you can't muster an hour of your time I don't think I have anything to say to you any ways. He starts to say something and I hang up. He calls back twice then texts me saying " I guess your voicemail box is full." You can't give me and hour of your time so I wont wast mine trying to talk. He said I was trying to figure out a good time. Then he says "lunch tomorrow 1-2", but at this point I am so pissed off that I say Sure I am sure you would just find another excuse. It's alright I am good.
And that was all she wrote.
I know I know I threw a tantrum, but I have had the patience of a saint with him for more than a year. Yesterday's newest mixed signal sent me over board.
Didn't schedule a place and I doubt he will go now or even call
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Posted by Capri-sunHe just called me and we talked I apologize for throwing a tantrum he wanted to meet up but we decided to rescheduled for Wednesday and work out the details Monday. I was so surprised he called.
Keep us posted. I'm interested to know if you guys get a chance to talk or not. 🤗
Posted by ladylibra21He cares! ?Posted by Capri-sunHe just called me and we talked I apologize for throwing a tantrum he wanted to meet up but we decided to rescheduled for Wednesday and work out the details Monday. I was so surprised he called.
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Now it's time for you to figure out exactly what to say. I think you might have a bf soon!!
Posted by pinkbird03Posted by ladylibra21He cares! ?Posted by Capri-sunHe just called me and we talked I apologize for throwing a tantrum he wanted to meet up but we decided to rescheduled for Wednesday and work out the details Monday. I was so surprised he called.
Keep us posted. I'm interested to know if you guys get a chance to talk or not. 🤗
Now it's time for you to figure out exactly what to say. I think you might have a bf soon!!
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lol don't get my hopes up he probably wanted to just follow up and talk about it because I hardly ever get upset and he doesn't want me to be upset with him.
Posted by ladylibra21I think it's a great time to discuss your feelings. Don't you? Tell him what you want too.Posted by pinkbird03Posted by ladylibra21He cares! ?Posted by Capri-sunHe just called me and we talked I apologize for throwing a tantrum he wanted to meet up but we decided to rescheduled for Wednesday and work out the details Monday. I was so surprised he called.
Keep us posted. I'm interested to know if you guys get a chance to talk or not. 🤗
Now it's time for you to figure out exactly what to say. I think you might have a bf soon!!
lol don't get my hopes up he probably wanted to just follow up and talk about it because I hardly ever get upset and he doesn't want me to be upset with him.
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Posted by pinkbird03Very true I am so scared though I am terrified I know that I have to say everything that I need to say but it was just like even on the phone today when I apologize I told him you know that I can be an emotional person and I just hit emotional overload and it came out the way it did. He has to know what this is about.Posted by ladylibra21I think it's a great time to discuss your feelings. Don't you? Tell him what you want too.Posted by pinkbird03Posted by ladylibra21He cares! ?Posted by Capri-sunHe just called me and we talked I apologize for throwing a tantrum he wanted to meet up but we decided to rescheduled for Wednesday and work out the details Monday. I was so surprised he called.
Keep us posted. I'm interested to know if you guys get a chance to talk or not. 🤗
Now it's time for you to figure out exactly what to say. I think you might have a bf soon!!
lol don't get my hopes up he probably wanted to just follow up and talk about it because I hardly ever get upset and he doesn't want me to be upset with him.
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Posted by ladylibra21It's completely understandable. But you need to know where you stand with him and if there's a possibility to have a future with him. The guessing game is over.Posted by pinkbird03Very true I am so scared though I am terrified I know that I have to say everything that I need to say but it was just like even on the phone today when I apologize I told him you know that I can be an emotional person and I just hit emotional overload and it came out the way it did. He has to know what this is about.Posted by ladylibra21I think it's a great time to discuss your feelings. Don't you? Tell him what you want too.Posted by pinkbird03Posted by ladylibra21He cares! ?Posted by Capri-sunHe just called me and we talked I apologize for throwing a tantrum he wanted to meet up but we decided to rescheduled for Wednesday and work out the details Monday. I was so surprised he called.
Keep us posted. I'm interested to know if you guys get a chance to talk or not. 🤗
Now it's time for you to figure out exactly what to say. I think you might have a bf soon!!
lol don't get my hopes up he probably wanted to just follow up and talk about it because I hardly ever get upset and he doesn't want me to be upset with him.
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Posted by pinkbird03I am on the same boat with you, pink?
Funny. I'm feeling frustrated too tonight with my cap. I feel a strong connection with him yet I feel a million miles apart.
The heart note was very, very sweet. I think he does like you!
But how do you get a cap guy to commit—
Posted by VirgieneAww I'm sorry 😢 what's going on?Posted by pinkbird03I am on the same boat with you, pink?
Funny. I'm feeling frustrated too tonight with my cap. I feel a strong connection with him yet I feel a million miles apart.
The heart note was very, very sweet. I think he does like you!
But how do you get a cap guy to commit—
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@Cspri-Sun today is the day we "talk" he has been talking yet guarded the last 2 days so I am so nervous. So I was thinking about starting off like this: "So as I am sure you have figured out, I have feelings for you and I was wondering if you could see this eventually being more than a friendship? If not that is fine we can still be friends because I want you in my life, but I need to know which direction I should move with myself. If I need to move on that is important for me to know." Ugh I haven't even seen him and I feel so exposed already!
Hope you make progress today and feel better about knowing which direction your relationship is heading! Good luck! ?
Posted by JohnTheBaptist100Thanks that gave me loads of confidence. I think I really just need to hear No. I have other wonderful people who want to date me but I can't move on until I hear no. I have tried.
OP, never chase a man.
If a man wants more than a friendship with a woman (regardless of sun sign) he will make it CRYSTAL CLEAR and with no doubts.
If there was no clarity then obviously it was a friendship that you could let build to see if a friendship can turn into a relationship and get to know the person first.
But you are a typical air sign and you guys always rush in...
He is an earth sign and a cap man at that... Cap men like Taurus like being in control and in charge. I don't think they are a sign who likes to be chased... they do the chasing... they will let you know what they want and if they want you and what their intentions are towards you.
Another word of caution, never shit on your own doorstep.. ie work romances should not be occurring. You work together and already it is causing a situation and you are not even in a relationship.. The cap man has probably been working out the scenarios in his mind and he would not want anything threatening his work life. Earth sign people take their work and working conditions very seriously. I suggest you leave things as they are : a WORK COLLEAGUE.
It's hard when we only text. I just don't understand how we can talk everyday and build a friendship, but he doesn't want to hang out or date again. He doesn't want to date anyone right now is what he told me. But he lives right down the road. I drive by his house to go to the stores every week. It's just a very different relationship for me. I do feel like ladylibra also deals with the same exact type of relationship. It's not moving.
Did he say he does not want to hang out or date? If he said that to me, I would believe him and keep shopping for Mr. Right.
Posted by TrulyTaurusWomanDid he say he does not want to hang out or date? If he said that to me, I would believe him and keep shopping for Mr. Right.
It's hard when we only text. I just don't understand how we can talk everyday and build a friendship, but he doesn't want to hang out or date again. He doesn't want to date anyone right now is what he told me. But he lives right down the road. I drive by his house to go to the stores every week. It's just a very different relationship for me. I do feel like ladylibra also deals with the same exact type of relationship. It's not moving.
We always talk about doing stuff, going to certain bars, out to dinner, aquarium, ice skating, etc. but we haven't in months. I know he's been very busy and also depressed. I feel a connection with him, but i know he's not interested by his lack of effort. I feel like saying something to him, but no words seem right. Perhaps silence is better. I'm no longer waiting for him though. I went out Friday night and talked to four different guys. I'm also on match.com. I'm a bit picky, which is my problem. It's hard because this cap was very special to me in a lot of ways that no other guy has been to me. I'll move on someday...
Posted by ladylibra21OMG! I did similar post about Capricorn man in here. About how he fucks with my emotions. On one hand when face to face is sweet, and wants my attention and so on (we work together too). But the moment I am not with him me offering to meet is always met with some excuse. I even asked him directly and I said it's cool if he doesnt like me, that I just want to know. To which he managed to answer completely ignoring the question. I DON'T understand. He is the first man in my entire life that makes me soooo fucking confused... If I write to him he answers and so on but he never writes first. On other hand he is acting almost like a boyfriend would act when we are at work, or during events. And every time I promise myself ok I am done, I will just act like he is one of many coworkers when I see him, he does something that makes me go wow. I just don't get it... And when I offer to meet up outside the work he never says no directly, he says we could some time, or yeah maybe, when I will be less busy... It's infuriating. By nature and in life I have one skill and is to "read people" in like few minutes of talking. But I just can't read him. Which adds another layer of GOD FUCKING DAMMIT 😄 I just don't understand how can someone be soooo sweet and considerate, and helpfull and so on and than switch to the state as if I don't exist... WHat adds another layer of fucked up is that sooo many coworkers think that me and him are a couple, and he never denies that. And yet I am left the one to say noo nooo we have never met outside the work so we are not couple (which makes me feel pain in my heart). 😢
First off let me say this is mostly venting.
So...I told myself New Year's Eve that if I didn't get some kind of contact saying happy new year from this guy then I was done. Because in my head if I mean something to you common sense would say you would wish me a happy new year. So he didn't so I started on my journey of letting go on New Year's Day. I get back to work and this dude is all in my face like constantly in my face like more than he normally is. I'm not paying him much attention because my new resolve is to move past this until I'm able to become friends with him. Near the end of the day he starts whispering stuff under his breath after he passes me. So I cornered him and I say what are you saying under your breath and he says don't worry about it laughing. So yesterday he comes in at the end of the day and we are talking and he is acting strange talking about random things like death a subject he normally stays away from. We also talked about him being passive aggressive and he said he would try to be more cheerful and not be passive aggressive. So sensing that he may need to talk after he made a point to tell me he was just going to sit at home and do nothing that night (as if he was bummed about it) I non-chalanly say let's go out and do karaoke or something and he changes the subject then leaves.
So I tell myself OK let's try this one last time try to ask him to hang out somewhere to see how he reacts. An hour later after I sent a text saying
"But no seriously what are you doing tonight? Let's go get a drink. Drinks on me. I won't make you do karaoke lol"
He replied: "Hey I just got home I would love to just not tonight I'm in a funk extra tired And yes no karaoke."
He use the same excuse he always uses. So I ignored him didn't even write back. He always seems to have time for everybody else but me.
So I was resigned to just let him go and work with him until I find another job. I was to show no emotion about the whole thing today. However, he comes in at the end of the day And says did you go out to karaoke. I look at him and all of my anger returns and I robotically say "No, no I did not. " I walked away and when I come back he had left my desk. He proceeded to walk by 3 times as I ignored him and worked on my time sheet (which I hate doing so you know I was pissed if I'd rather do my time sheet than talk to him).
One time he walked by, he pretended to trip up the stairs and made a big commotion about it limping past my desk to see if I would respond to it and ask if he was OK, I did not ask.
Then when I got up to ask people if they needed help I came back to my desk and my phone had a sticky note on it facedown I picked it up and there was a heart on the sticky note.
I am so mad ?. For someone who doesn't want shit to do with me, who doesn't make me a priority, you want to leave hearts on my phone? If he doesn't like me in that way why is he sending me mixed signals like that!
Is he fucking with my head?
I'm not sure what to do I haven't called him because I'm afraid I'll cuss him out. I could go in tomorrow and treat him like we are just co workers and not friends but I tired that today and failed.
Sigh I need wine for whine tonight. Bottoms up ?.
Anyhow so trust me I know how you feel... And I think at this rate I will loose my sanity slowly 😄
Posted by RoanaI feel your pain girl and it is probably just that you work together. When I talked to my Cap tonight he gave me 3 reasons why he hasn't made a move yet and work was the first one.Posted by ladylibra21OMG! I did similar post about Capricorn man in here. About how he fucks with my emotions. On one hand when face to face is sweet, and wants my attention and so on (we work together too). But the moment I am not with him me offering to meet is always met with some excuse. I even asked him directly and I said it's cool if he doesnt like me, that I just want to know. To which he managed to answer completely ignoring the question. I DON'T understand. He is the first man in my entire life that makes me soooo fucking confused... If I write to him he answers and so on but he never writes first. On other hand he is acting almost like a boyfriend would act when we are at work, or during events. And every time I promise myself ok I am done, I will just act like he is one of many coworkers when I see him, he does something that makes me go wow. I just don't get it... And when I offer to meet up outside the work he never says no directly, he says we could some time, or yeah maybe, when I will be less busy... It's infuriating. By nature and in life I have one skill and is to "read people" in like few minutes of talking. But I just can't read him. Which adds another layer of GOD FUCKING DAMMIT 😄 I just don't understand how can someone be soooo sweet and considerate, and helpfull and so on and than switch to the state as if I don't exist... WHat adds another layer of fucked up is that sooo many coworkers think that me and him are a couple, and he never denies that. And yet I am left the one to say noo nooo we have never met outside the work so we are not couple (which makes me feel pain in my heart). 😢
First off let me say this is mostly venting.
So...I told myself New Year's Eve that if I didn't get some kind of contact saying happy new year from this guy then I was done. Because in my head if I mean something to you common sense would say you would wish me a happy new year. So he didn't so I started on my journey of letting go on New Year's Day. I get back to work and this dude is all in my face like constantly in my face like more than he normally is. I'm not paying him much attention because my new resolve is to move past this until I'm able to become friends with him. Near the end of the day he starts whispering stuff under his breath after he passes me. So I cornered him and I say what are you saying under your breath and he says don't worry about it laughing. So yesterday he comes in at the end of the day and we are talking and he is acting strange talking about random things like death a subject he normally stays away from. We also talked about him being passive aggressive and he said he would try to be more cheerful and not be passive aggressive. So sensing that he may need to talk after he made a point to tell me he was just going to sit at home and do nothing that night (as if he was bummed about it) I non-chalanly say let's go out and do karaoke or something and he changes the subject then leaves.
So I tell myself OK let's try this one last time try to ask him to hang out somewhere to see how he reacts. An hour later after I sent a text saying
"But no seriously what are you doing tonight? Let's go get a drink. Drinks on me. I won't make you do karaoke lol"
He replied: "Hey I just got home I would love to just not tonight I'm in a funk extra tired And yes no karaoke."
He use the same excuse he always uses. So I ignored him didn't even write back. He always seems to have time for everybody else but me.
So I was resigned to just let him go and work with him until I find another job. I was to show no emotion about the whole thing today. However, he comes in at the end of the day And says did you go out to karaoke. I look at him and all of my anger returns and I robotically say "No, no I did not. " I walked away and when I come back he had left my desk. He proceeded to walk by 3 times as I ignored him and worked on my time sheet (which I hate doing so you know I was pissed if I'd rather do my time sheet than talk to him).
One time he walked by, he pretended to trip up the stairs and made a big commotion about it limping past my desk to see if I would respond to it and ask if he was OK, I did not ask.
Then when I got up to ask people if they needed help I came back to my desk and my phone had a sticky note on it facedown I picked it up and there was a heart on the sticky note.
I am so mad ?. For someone who doesn't want shit to do with me, who doesn't make me a priority, you want to leave hearts on my phone? If he doesn't like me in that way why is he sending me mixed signals like that!
Is he fucking with my head?
I'm not sure what to do I haven't called him because I'm afraid I'll cuss him out. I could go in tomorrow and treat him like we are just co workers and not friends but I tired that today and failed.
Sigh I need wine for whine tonight. Bottoms up ?.
Anyhow so trust me I know how you feel... And I think at this rate I will loose my sanity slowly 😄click to expand
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