Capricorn BF says Im TOO NICE and need to be more AGGRESSIVE TOWARDS HIM (Page 2)

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ScorpioTruth I'll def worrk on not sugarcoating anymore...cause countless times to avoid any issues I just bite my tongue so I can bring peace but now that he thinks Im too nice...I'll be respectful but I wont keep letting him get away with stuff I don't like. Thanks

I'm still trying to decide whether I should move on or just start being myself because....Capricorn men are already hard to deal with...we been togther 7 months and when I got upset yesterday...and told him maybe he wants to be with those witches that use to slap him around and curse at him sooo that why I appear "too nice" and his response to me was I needed to shut up....yes CAPS ARE DIFFICULT BUT...I dont think I want to continue pursuing someone who has little respect for me and tell me to shut up...

Funny thing is when u give them the truth they can't take it. But want u to act a certain way. For me that's just how I am I love showering love on the one I care about so if I can't be me then the cap or gem or any of them doesn't deserve me since I'm too nice. Like the other cap said let him get cheated on by an ugly fire sign.

Only time I upset a cap guy was when I told the truth : that I had a much more high sex drive than him. And that was me putting it nicely 😂😂😂😂🤷🏼‍♀️ He couldn't take that.... Maybe that's why he turned into this super horny beast that constantly cross peoples lines with sexual talk and touching 🤔🤔🤔😂😂😂

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ScorpioTruth I'll def worrk on not sugarcoating anymore...cause countless times to avoid any issues I just bite my tongue so I can bring peace but now that he thinks Im too nice...I'll be respectful but I wont keep letting him get away with stuff I don't like. Thanks

I'm still trying to decide whether I should move on or just start being myself because....Capricorn men are already hard to deal with...we been togther 7 months and when I got upset yesterday...and told him maybe he wants to be with those witches that use to slap him around and curse at him sooo that why I appear "too nice" and his response to me was I needed to shut up....yes CAPS ARE DIFFICULT BUT...I dont think I want to continue pursuing someone who has little respect for me and tell me to shut up...

Funny thing is when u give them the truth they can't take it. But want u to act a certain way. For me that's just how I am I love showering love on the one I care about so if I can't be me then the cap or gem or any of them doesn't deserve me since I'm too nice. Like the other cap said let him get cheated on by an ugly fire sign.

Only time I upset a cap guy was when I told the truth : that I had a much more high sex drive than him. And that was me putting it nicely 😂😂😂😂🤷🏼‍♀️ He couldn't take that.... Maybe that's why he turned into this super horny beast that constantly cross peoples lines with sexual talk and touching 🤔🤔🤔😂😂😂

You’re reaching again.

Always reach for the stars you know 🌠🌠🌠

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Haha, you’re a dork.

But, Yep! 💛

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Posted by NostalgicCappyy

I was talking to a Taurus guy a few years ago, and he was Way too sweet. I mean like to the point, it was annoying. I could Not get serious about him or even have a real attraction because of it. If we had a disagreement or anything like that, he would apologize profusely and never stick up for himself or put me in my place. It was boring, and I couldn’t stay in that.

Then one day, he finally blew up at me for avoiding him, and making excuses about never responding, etc. That’s when I saw that he wasn’t some fake fruitcake, that would always kiss my ass. That day I was immediately attracted (after talking for a few years), and have to admit- turned on. The first time he actually said the F word and was yelling at me, it was like I was talking to a different person. When I told him, he said that he hid that side of himself because he thought he’d lose me. He was totally different after that.

Capricorns Need you to be genuine, be yourself, and Don’t be overly sweet or not know how to put us in our place if we fuck up. Being sweet is good, but there needs to be a balance. Show us you’re Real. We can be really good friends and be there for the weaker minded, but romantically we need someone with more of a backbone. As a Cap, this is how I am. I guess I can’t really speak for all of us though.

I hope that didn’t sound mean, I don’t mean for it to be.

I had a Cancer boyfriend like that and he allowed an open relationship. I was absolutely fine being adored. He was on me so much, my clothes would be wrinkled. He drove wity his hands down my panties.

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I mean, that sounds worth putting up with the ass kissing. But, I never slept with the guy to know if it was worth it for me. Glad you had fun though, 🙂

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ScorpioTruth I'll def worrk on not sugarcoating anymore...cause countless times to avoid any issues I just bite my tongue so I can bring peace but now that he thinks Im too nice...I'll be respectful but I wont keep letting him get away with stuff I don't like. Thanks

I'm still trying to decide whether I should move on or just start being myself because....Capricorn men are already hard to deal with...we been togther 7 months and when I got upset yesterday...and told him maybe he wants to be with those witches that use to slap him around and curse at him sooo that why I appear "too nice" and his response to me was I needed to shut up....yes CAPS ARE DIFFICULT BUT...I dont think I want to continue pursuing someone who has little respect for me and tell me to shut up...

Funny thing is when u give them the truth they can't take it. But want u to act a certain way. For me that's just how I am I love showering love on the one I care about so if I can't be me then the cap or gem or any of them doesn't deserve me since I'm too nice. Like the other cap said let him get cheated on by an ugly fire sign.

Only time I upset a cap guy was when I told the truth : that I had a much more high sex drive than him. And that was me putting it nicely 😂😂😂😂🤷🏼‍♀️ He couldn't take that.... Maybe that's why he turned into this super horny beast that constantly cross peoples lines with sexual talk and touching 🤔🤔🤔😂😂😂

You’re reaching again.

Always reach for the stars you know 🌠🌠🌠

Haha, you’re a dork.

But, Yep! 💛

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Def. am 😎

Posted by NostalgicCappyy

I was talking to a Taurus guy a few years ago, and he was Way too sweet. I mean like to the point, it was annoying. I could Not get serious about him or even have a real attraction because of it. If we had a disagreement or anything like that, he would apologize profusely and never stick up for himself or put me in my place. It was boring, and I couldn’t stay in that.

Then one day, he finally blew up at me for avoiding him, and making excuses about never responding, etc. That’s when I saw that he wasn’t some fake fruitcake, that would always kiss my ass. That day I was immediately attracted (after talking for a few years), and have to admit- turned on. The first time he actually said the F word and was yelling at me, it was like I was talking to a different person. When I told him, he said that he hid that side of himself because he thought he’d lose me. He was totally different after that.

Capricorns Need you to be genuine, be yourself, and Don’t be overly sweet or not know how to put us in our place if we fuck up. Being sweet is good, but there needs to be a balance. Show us you’re Real. We can be really good friends and be there for the weaker minded, but romantically we need someone with more of a backbone. As a Cap, this is how I am. I guess I can’t really speak for all of us though.

I hope that didn’t sound mean, I don’t mean for it to be.

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I was talking to a Taurus guy a few years ago, and he was Way too sweet. I mean like to the point, it was annoying. I could Not get serious about him or even have a real attraction because of it. If we had a disagreement or anything like that, he would apologize profusely and never stick up for himself or put me in my place. It was boring, and I couldn’t stay in that.

Then one day, he finally blew up at me for avoiding him, and making excuses about never responding, etc. That’s when I saw that he wasn’t some fake fruitcake, that would always kiss my ass. That day I was immediately attracted (after talking for a few years), and have to admit- turned on. The first time he actually said the F word and was yelling at me, it was like I was talking to a different person. When I told him, he said that he hid that side of himself because he thought he’d lose me. He was totally different after that.

Capricorns Need you to be genuine, be yourself, and Don’t be overly sweet or not know how to put us in our place if we fuck up. Being sweet is good, but there needs to be a balance. Show us you’re Real. We can be really good friends and be there for the weaker minded, but romantically we need someone with more of a backbone. As a Cap, this is how I am. I guess I can’t really speak for all of us though.

I hope that didn’t sound mean, I don’t mean for it to be.

I had a Cancer boyfriend like that and he allowed an open relationship. I was absolutely fine being adored. He was on me so much, my clothes would be wrinkled. He drove wity his hands down my panties.

I mean, that sounds worth putting up with the ass kissing. But, I never slept with the guy to know if it was worth it for me. Glad you had fun though, 🙂

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I don't understand what you mean.

I had a boyfriend like you and like NostalgicCappyy's Taurus.

I didn't chastise them for being "too nice" or provocate them to being "real" or mean. I enjoyed it.

It set the bar for what I expect and like.

So, I say find someone like you. Can you imagine the joy? It is awesome and luxurious... absolutely decadent.

As a little girl, I religuously watch a crime detective show called "Heart to Heart." Posh married couple solving crimes. All throughout they were loving and smooches and nicknames to include he was an impeccable gentleman while even fighting. I loved it. And, wanted similar for myself.

Posted by AriesBaby954

ScorpioTruth I'll def worrk on not sugarcoating anymore...cause countless times to avoid any issues I just bite my tongue so I can bring peace but now that he thinks Im too nice...I'll be respectful but I wont keep letting him get away with stuff I don't like. Thanks

I'm still trying to decide whether I should move on or just start being myself because....Capricorn men are already hard to deal with...we been togther 7 months and when I got upset yesterday...and told him maybe he wants to be with those witches that use to slap him around and curse at him sooo that why I appear "too nice" and his response to me was I needed to shut up....yes CAPS ARE DIFFICULT BUT...I dont think I want to continue pursuing someone who has little respect for me and tell me to shut up...

Yeah but just keep a balance because we "Aries" can cross our limits in anger which would be too much for anyone to handle. So the key is "BALANCE"

@Ariesbaby stop being accommodating just because you like him, that's being fake. Learn how to say no. Raise your degree of difficulty for example have you ever seen a Goat climb a high terrain on a steep, dangerous, rocky, slippery, wet mountain and then watch that goat against the odds climb, fall down, get back up and climb until he reaches the very top. Against all odds the goat strive to get to the top. Well you're the Mountain and he's the goat. He doesn't want easy, he doesn't want an easy to get easy to have woman because she's boring, predictable an any man given the timing could slide in and take her if she's too nice. Focus on your life, give your attention to the things you love doing and don't make any man #1 until he has earned the right to be important above all else. Start hanging out with friends and go on out and have fun and forget about being nice. Don't be so damn available. And don't be dropping him off and picking him up. Don't cook. Don't clean his house nor do his laundry. Whatever you're doing to keep him around, stop it. Your "too nice" behavior is killing his attraction. He should earn these things & he know it & he want to earn it. Don't give and give and give just because you like a man.

Posted by AriesBaby954

Im Aries Sun, Virgo Moon

He is Capricorn Sun, Aquarius Moon and Scorpio rising

NO....HE isnt doing those things for me....just occasion eat out every other or so months...

Im the one with gift, cook meals which I stop after 3 times since we started dating, christmas gifts, just because gift and bday he ask for this January

You’re kind Ariesbaby. Don’t let anyone use you, don’t let anyone kill your kindness. Personally he doesn’t sound like an ideal match for you. You should be able to be yourself as well being reciprocated in some fashion for your efforts. If he isn’t doing things for you as well, move on.

I personally think you can be too nice to men, not YOU but in general. Read why men love and marry bitches. Be kind to your family and friends, the people who are deserving and lovIng towards you. The people who show up consistently, not the people who aren’t deserving, your love and kindness should be earned not given on a silver platter.

I’m an Aries too and know how generous and giving of ourselves we can be. Don’t make that mistake. Be YOU to the right people.

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pinkbird03 I ask him what he means he replies "I dont know"...I said but you said it I just want to know and he replies "I said I dunno"....THATS WHEN I GOT UPSET

He doesn’t sound comfortable sharing the details with you. You need to make him feel more comfortable. Don’t judge him. Or make a big deal out what what he’s saying. Sound interested and willing to give him what he wants.

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WTH kind of trash ass advice is this? You’re encouraging her to give MORE? She NEEDS to make him more comfortable? No he needs to make her comfortable and reciprocate her kindness in some fashion.

This dude is an ass and has taken advantage of her.

Posted by AriesBaby954

ScorpioTruth I'll def worrk on not sugarcoating anymore...cause countless times to avoid any issues I just bite my tongue so I can bring peace but now that he thinks Im too nice...I'll be respectful but I wont keep letting him get away with stuff I don't like. Thanks

I'm still trying to decide whether I should move on or just start being myself because....Capricorn men are already hard to deal with...we been togther 7 months and when I got upset yesterday...and told him maybe he wants to be with those witches that use to slap him around and curse at him sooo that why I appear "too nice" and his response to me was I needed to shut up....yes CAPS ARE DIFFICULT BUT...I dont think I want to continue pursuing someone who has little respect for me and tell me to shut up...

Move on baby, I don’t want you getting hurt behind this. Head the red flags and warnings and know you deserve better. Get with someone who worships you. My first real bf was a cap and boy he was a mess. The stories I could tell you.

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Posted by AriesBaby954

ScorpioTruth I'll def worrk on not sugarcoating anymore...cause countless times to avoid any issues I just bite my tongue so I can bring peace but now that he thinks Im too nice...I'll be respectful but I wont keep letting him get away with stuff I don't like. Thanks

I'm still trying to decide whether I should move on or just start being myself because....Capricorn men are already hard to deal with...we been togther 7 months and when I got upset yesterday...and told him maybe he wants to be with those witches that use to slap him around and curse at him sooo that why I appear "too nice" and his response to me was I needed to shut up....yes CAPS ARE DIFFICULT BUT...I dont think I want to continue pursuing someone who has little respect for me and tell me to shut up...

Find someone like you. Being adored is the cream of life that softens the worst days. Being adored feels like freedom and give you strength to power through life.

Personally, I have to have it like that.

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I can imagine! Sounds amazing. I think you’re right.

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pinkbird03 I ask him what he means he replies "I dont know"...I said but you said it I just want to know and he replies "I said I dunno"....THATS WHEN I GOT UPSET

He doesn’t sound comfortable sharing the details with you. You need to make him feel more comfortable. Don’t judge him. Or make a big deal out what what he’s saying. Sound interested and willing to give him what he wants.

WTH kind of trash ass advice is this? You’re encouraging her to give MORE? She NEEDS to make him more comfortable? No he needs to make her comfortable and reciprocate her kindness in some fashion.

This dude is an ass and has taken advantage of her.

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Trash advice? You’re so rude. Glad I’m not you. Just saying. 🙂

Quick update everybody. I stop being extra nice and holding my tongue when I want to speak my mind and we are doing better....BUT Im gonna keep this going and not be so available all the time. I notice he wants to talk more, hangout more and last week for the FIRST TIME when we had sex he made it worth it instead of being his boring self and me making sure I ride it and satisfy him...I backed off and showed him I have a backbone and He actually putting in more work....maybe I should dissappear and see what that do JK. Thanks everyone for the advice. I Think sometimes he tests me though cause he will say one thing but his action will contradict it...I think he is afraid of being hurt but I know deep down inside he thinking about forever with me...it slipped out a few times and I would just act like I didnt hear him cause he will try to cover up like I didnt just hear him say something about marriage and wanting me to be in his life for a very long time... @tiki33 @pinkbird03

Posted by AriesBaby954

I have been officially dating this Capricorn Man since this past August 2018. We known each other for over decade. I notice his coldness and read about him on here and taking what he says trying to make it work because like making sure Im positive, being patient with him, being his peacemaker, and making sure the sex is good, gave him a nice bday recently like he ask for with a hotel by the beach and all of that. Now he tells me im too nice and need to be aggressive. I kind of got upset at him because I felt like he was saying all I was doing was a waste and I now felt I may have overreacted but now I dont know what to do about him saying Im too nice. In a relationship, I was thinking dealing with him to be the example I want to see in this relationship.

I didn’t read all the other posts so apologize if it’s repetitive or out of sequence with the conversation.

Don’t do everything for him. Don’t do more than he does for you. Caps don’t want a mom, we’re independent.

Caps can be overbearing and we need someone to put us in our place. We like people who call us out on our shit.

If you’re “too nice”, I see it as fake. Not one is that nice all the time. I’d also think you were pretending to be something you’re not (not saying you’re not nice). It’s just we all have a bad day and I’d want to see you in a bad day occasionally.

Plus, men will get bored with too nice. Men like a challenge and nice 24/7, doing stuff for them all the time is not a challenge.

Basically, too nice is a doormat.

On another perspective, when he says too nice, it could be that he knows he’s not doing the same for you and though he might not feel guilty, he will be turned off because he knows he doesn’t deserve it and wonders why you allow yourself to keep doing things he doesn’t deserve.

Cap men, shut up...you know I’m right. 🤗

Posted by AriesBaby954

I have been officially dating this Capricorn Man since this past August 2018. We known each other for over decade. I notice his coldness and read about him on here and taking what he says trying to make it work because like making sure Im positive, being patient with him, being his peacemaker, and making sure the sex is good, gave him a nice bday recently like he ask for with a hotel by the beach and all of that. Now he tells me im too nice and need to be aggressive. I kind of got upset at him because I felt like he was saying all I was doing was a waste and I now felt I may have overreacted but now I dont know what to do about him saying Im too nice. In a relationship, I was thinking dealing with him to be the example I want to see in this relationship.

I didn’t read all the other posts so apologize if it’s repetitive or out of sequence with the conversation.

Don’t do everything for him. Don’t do more than he does for you. Caps don’t want a mom, we’re independent.

Caps can be overbearing and we need someone to put us in our place. We like people who call us out on our shit.

If you’re “too nice”, I see it as fake. Not one is that nice all the time. I’d also think you were pretending to be something you’re not (not saying you’re not nice). It’s just we all have a bad day and I’d want to see you in a bad day occasionally.

Plus, men will get bored with too nice. Men like a challenge and nice 24/7, doing stuff for them all the time is not a challenge.

Basically, too nice is a doormat.

On another perspective, when he says too nice, it could be that he knows he’s not doing the same for you and though he might not feel guilty, he will be turned off because he knows he doesn’t deserve it and wonders why you allow yourself to keep doing things he doesn’t deserve.

Cap men, shut up...you know I’m right. 🤗

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Capricorn men are intuitive and he probably knows you’re trying desperately to be the “perfect” girlfriend by trying to be his peace and constantly appeasing him. He wants a girlfriend, not a robot.

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Capricorn men are intuitive and he probably knows you’re trying desperately to be the “perfect” girlfriend by trying to be his peace and constantly appeasing him. He wants a girlfriend, not a robot.

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Capricorn men are intuitive and he probably knows you’re trying desperately to be the “perfect” girlfriend by trying to be his peace and constantly appeasing him. He wants a girlfriend, not a robot.

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Posted by ScorpioTruth

Capricorn men are intuitive and he probably knows you’re trying desperately to be the “perfect” girlfriend by trying to be his peace and constantly appeasing him. He wants a girlfriend, not a robot.

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@HeartofTopazz Lol

It was never dating, so it's not the same at all, but I have to laugh at all this.

I knew a cap. As a reply to why he thought guys didn't get feelings for me, he said I put up with too much and was always ready to go, I think he meant like I was always available.

But when I really set a line and critizised him, he lost aaaaaall attraction to me straight away and now thinks I'm crazy.

I mean in my situation is was all for the best so our little thing could be put to an end. But I have to laugh at how he got super attracted to the docile me, critizise me for being docile and then is like eeeeeew when I stood up for myself 😂😂😂😂😂

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Posted by AriesBaby954

I have been officially dating this Capricorn Man since this past August 2018. We known each other for over decade. I notice his coldness and read about him on here and taking what he says trying to make it work because like making sure Im positive, being patient with him, being his peacemaker, and making sure the sex is good, gave him a nice bday recently like he ask for with a hotel by the beach and all of that. Now he tells me im too nice and need to be aggressive. I kind of got upset at him because I felt like he was saying all I was doing was a waste and I now felt I may have overreacted but now I dont know what to do about him saying Im too nice. In a relationship, I was thinking dealing with him to be the example I want to see in this relationship.

I didn’t read all the other posts so apologize if it’s repetitive or out of sequence with the conversation.

Don’t do everything for him. Don’t do more than he does for you. Caps don’t want a mom, we’re independent.

Caps can be overbearing and we need someone to put us in our place. We like people who call us out on our shit.

If you’re “too nice”, I see it as fake. Not one is that nice all the time. I’d also think you were pretending to be something you’re not (not saying you’re not nice). It’s just we all have a bad day and I’d want to see you in a bad day occasionally.

Plus, men will get bored with too nice. Men like a challenge and nice 24/7, doing stuff for them all the time is not a challenge.

Basically, too nice is a doormat.

On another perspective, when he says too nice, it could be that he knows he’s not doing the same for you and though he might not feel guilty, he will be turned off because he knows he doesn’t deserve it and wonders why you allow yourself to keep doing things he doesn’t deserve.

Cap men, shut up...you know I’m right. 🤗

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Hey truecap welcome back. How are you n your aqua hubby. Hope you both are doing good 😊

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I have been officially dating this Capricorn Man since this past August 2018. We known each other for over decade. I notice his coldness and read about him on here and taking what he says trying to make it work because like making sure Im positive, being patient with him, being his peacemaker, and making sure the sex is good, gave him a nice bday recently like he ask for with a hotel by the beach and all of that. Now he tells me im too nice and need to be aggressive. I kind of got upset at him because I felt like he was saying all I was doing was a waste and I now felt I may have overreacted but now I dont know what to do about him saying Im too nice. In a relationship, I was thinking dealing with him to be the example I want to see in this relationship.

I didn’t read all the other posts so apologize if it’s repetitive or out of sequence with the conversation.

Don’t do everything for him. Don’t do more than he does for you. Caps don’t want a mom, we’re independent.

Caps can be overbearing and we need someone to put us in our place. We like people who call us out on our shit.

If you’re “too nice”, I see it as fake. Not one is that nice all the time. I’d also think you were pretending to be something you’re not (not saying you’re not nice). It’s just we all have a bad day and I’d want to see you in a bad day occasionally.

Plus, men will get bored with too nice. Men like a challenge and nice 24/7, doing stuff for them all the time is not a challenge.

Basically, too nice is a doormat.

On another perspective, when he says too nice, it could be that he knows he’s not doing the same for you and though he might not feel guilty, he will be turned off because he knows he doesn’t deserve it and wonders why you allow yourself to keep doing things he doesn’t deserve.

Cap men, shut up...you know I’m right. 🤗

Hey truecap welcome back. How are you n your aqua hubby. Hope you both are doing good 😊

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Thanks! We’re doing great! Never been happier.