Capricorn Women & Depression. What gets you depressed?

They never sleep long at night...But they're focused women, they don't get depressed that much unless it's over the usual things like an unfaithful partner or if they're taken for granted. Usually always cool women. They aren't the most positive of thinkers but that just preps you up for failure.

Posted by pooface222
Now I don't mean a bit down or even very unhappy.

But properly depressed! To the point that you are very low every day and you are not sleeping at night.

Xanax!

Not that it'll cure depression but it'll help you sleep. And blood test.

Are you asking why do we get depressed? Or what gets us over depression?

I think I get depressed because of extreme negative thinking and a general lack of fulfillment. I don't need anyone else to fulfill me, I have to find it within myself, and not being able to brings on a bit of depression. I also get slightly depressed when I'm on the internet, which is all the time, because deep down I know I'm procrastinating and escaping from work I need to do to improve my life.

What gets me over depression is working towards something, no matter how small. When I'm being productive, I'm in a better mood. Believe it or not, its hard sometimes to get to the point of actually being productive, but just working towards any and everything helps. Of course prayer, and spiritual music helps. Also, being grateful and thankful to GOD for everything. Showing gratitude at all times actually is helpful as well.

I get depressed when I feel like I'm failing at anything especially career wise or relationship wise.

I haven't found a good fix except to just work harder toward what I want. Maybe a good rest and self reflection.

Posted by lnana04
Are you asking why do we get depressed? Or what gets us over depression?

I think I get depressed because of extreme negative thinking and a general lack of fulfillment. I don't need anyone else to fulfill me, I have to find it within myself, and not being able to brings on a bit of depression. I also get slightly depressed when I'm on the internet, which is all the time, because deep down I know I'm procrastinating and escaping from work I need to do to improve my life.

What gets me over depression is working towards something, no matter how small. When I'm being productive, I'm in a better mood. Believe it or not, its hard sometimes to get to the point of actually being productive, but just working towards any and everything helps. Of course prayer, and spiritual music helps. Also, being grateful and thankful to GOD for everything. Showing gratitude at all times actually is helpful as well.

I was talking Why we get depressed.

For me it's having my life go wrong and only realising after the event, what I should have done. And I can't actually change it.

Usually what puts me into a "depression" is when I need to work towards something because it didn't work out the first time. Starting over basically. If I want to grow in something and it's not obtainable that will get me into that mood. Sometimes Capricorns are just so focused on so much that we check out. It seems like depression but it's more of a recharge for me to balance myself.

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Posted by lnana04
Are you asking why do we get depressed? Or what gets us over depression?

I think I get depressed because of extreme negative thinking and a general lack of fulfillment. I don't need anyone else to fulfill me, I have to find it within myself, and not being able to brings on a bit of depression. I also get slightly depressed when I'm on the internet, which is all the time, because deep down I know I'm procrastinating and escaping from work I need to do to improve my life.

What gets me over depression is working towards something, no matter how small. When I'm being productive, I'm in a better mood. Believe it or not, its hard sometimes to get to the point of actually being productive, but just working towards any and everything helps. Of course prayer, and spiritual music helps. Also, being grateful and thankful to GOD for everything. Showing gratitude at all times actually is helpful as well.

I was talking Why we get depressed.

For me it's having my life go wrong and only realising after the event, what I should have done. And I can't actually change it.

what area of life?

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Hi NineAvenue it's my whole life really.

Everything has gone wrong to the point that I feel my life is hanging by a thread!

I had a child to a man (husband), who without going into all the long details is an extremely selfish controlling bastard who I wanted to Leave 5 years ago!

I wasn't ready to divorce him so I stayed and had a baby.

Now..no offence to my little girl but I really shouldn't have done it! I hate his guts and having a baby with him has just made things worse!

I don't want to stay with him BUT if I divorce him I will gave to share our little girl. And I don't want to.

He treated me like shit for years! I'm just the idiot who never left him!

He forced me to moved house when I had just had our baby. We moved 6 months later. So it was 6 months of me fighting with him whole trying to just be a mum.

We moved to a house in the middle of nowhere where I hate. And I hate the house too. He loves it but is never in it as works all day.

I loved the house we left!

I had an affair with a man I sadly realised I couldn't be with because there was roo much going on in both our lives.

I only realised after he was gone why we couldn't be together. I was too busy being a mum and dealing with my husband and his BS to be able to tell the other guy that I can't be with him right now and maybe stop seeing each other until the time is right.

Result my husband and I have taken our rings off. We are sleeping in separate beds. I hate him. And I've lost the man I'm in love with - the affair guy.

I'm sad and lonely and I don't know what to do.

I want the other guy back - don't think it's going to happen. I want a house of my own with my little girl but I'm too scared to be alone as I'm depressed already. I'm not suicidal but I'm very low.

I should not have had a child. It's not fair on her. I knew at the time I shouldn't have done it. It felt wrong. But I thought things would be okay. They are worse!

Sorry for going on..I'm falling apart inside..

@Pooface....

Your depression is self-created.

You have the power to change it.

See your daughter as a blessing.

See the possibility of finding love with someone else as a bigger blessing.

Posted by TaurusBull1977
@Pooface....

Your depression is self-created.

You have the power to change it.

See your daughter as a blessing.

See the possibility of finding love with someone else as a bigger blessing.

Hi TaurusBull1977

Trust me I know my problems are all self-created. It's one of the reasons I'm depressed. I have brought this all on myself and now I'm paying the price.

The thing is, crazy as it may sound, the man I'm in love with was everything I've been looking for in a man. I've spent years looking for a man like that. He has everything I've ever wanted. My husband is everything I don't want.

I just don't think I will ever find a man like that again 😢

Thanks for replying. Really appreciate it..

Posted by MagicMona
what is 'properly depressed?'

Hi ..

Properly depressed as in its really affecting your life. You're finding it hard to function normally. You can't sleep at night or you don't want to get up.in the morning to face another day of just trying to get through it.

I've met one or 2 people who have said they're depressed and they are actually just a bit low. Because a day or 2 later they're fine again.

Depression is something that is ongoing, all day every day. It's something a person needs help with.

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Posted by lnana04
Are you asking why do we get depressed? Or what gets us over depression?

I think I get depressed because of extreme negative thinking and a general lack of fulfillment. I don't need anyone else to fulfill me, I have to find it within myself, and not being able to brings on a bit of depression. I also get slightly depressed when I'm on the internet, which is all the time, because deep down I know I'm procrastinating and escaping from work I need to do to improve my life.

What gets me over depression is working towards something, no matter how small. When I'm being productive, I'm in a better mood. Believe it or not, its hard sometimes to get to the point of actually being productive, but just working towards any and everything helps. Of course prayer, and spiritual music helps. Also, being grateful and thankful to GOD for everything. Showing gratitude at all times actually is helpful as well.

I was talking Why we get depressed.

For me it's having my life go wrong and only realising after the event, what I should have done. And I can't actually change it.

what area of life?

Hi NineAvenue it's my whole life really.

Everything has gone wrong to the point that I feel my life is hanging by a thread!

I had a child to a man (husband), who without going into all the long details is an extremely selfish controlling bastard who I wanted to Leave 5 years ago!

I wasn't ready to divorce him so I stayed and had a baby.

Now..no offence to my little girl but I really shouldn't have done it! I hate his guts and having a baby with him has just made things worse!

I don't want to stay with him BUT if I divorce him I will gave to share our little girl. And I don't want to.

He treated me like shit for years! I'm just the idiot who never left him!

He forced me to moved house when I had just had our baby. We moved 6 months later. So it was 6 months of me fighting with him whole trying to just be a mum.

We moved to a house in the middle of nowhere where I hate. And I hate the house too. He loves it but is never in it as works all day.

I loved the house we left!

I had an affair with a man I sadly realised I couldn't be with because there was roo much going on in both our lives.

I only realised after he was gone why we couldn't be together. I was too busy being a mum and dealing with my husband and his BS to be able to tell the other guy that I can't be with him right now and maybe stop seeing each other until the time is right.

Result my husband and I have taken our rings off. We are sleeping in separate beds. I hate him. And I've lost the man I'm in love with - the affair guy.

I'm sad and lonely and I don't know what to do.

I want the other guy back - don't think it's going to happen. I want a house of my own with my little girl but I'm too scared to be alone as I'm depressed already. I'm not suicidal but I'm very low.

I should not have had a child. It's not fair on her. I knew at the time I shouldn't have done it. It felt wrong. But I thought things would be okay. They are worse!

Sorry for going on..I'm falling apart inside..

what made you have the affair?

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I actually meant to leave my husband for the other man. Not have an affair.

I fell in love with this man but we walled into my life around the same time I was getting pregnant to my husband!

So ..long story short, things got worse between me and my husband - since we had a baby too!

The other guy started being near me and talking to me. To start with we just talked and got to know each other. No flirting nothing. But over a course of months I found myself really falling for him and my feelings started coming out. And so did his for me.

He made me happy in ways my husband never was, or will, be able to. So we started seeing each other. No sex though as we both have partners. The plan was to leave my husband but even though the relationship worked emotionally; financially and practically it didn't. Sadly. .

*he walked, Not we walled

Posted by pooface222
Now I don't mean a bit down or even very unhappy.

But properly depressed! To the point that you are very low every day and you are not sleeping at night.

I am feeling that too. Funny thing ..that while scrolling down posts here, i was just thinking about why i am feeling like this and i suddenly came across this post .

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Posted by pooface222
Now I don't mean a bit down or even very unhappy.

But properly depressed! To the point that you are very low every day and you are not sleeping at night.

I am feeling that too. Funny thing ..that while scrolling down posts here, i was just thinking about why i am feeling like this and i suddenly came across this post .

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Hi Marshmallow. .love your name by the way. I'm addicted to marshmallows! ?

Are you Capricorn too? I'm guessing you are. What's happening in your life that's making you depressed? You can pm if you don't want to write it here. .

Did you leave your husband?

Having a narcissistic mother.

Posted by pinkbird03
Did you leave your husband?

Not yet but I feel stronger now so need to do it. We've been sleeping in separate rooms and taken out wedding rings off for over a month now..

Posted by Toffee
I feel you, but I disagree with the notion that depression is "self-created"...if you are suffering from clinical depression, chances are it isn't something you can't prevent from happening due to situations beyond your control, so ease your burden by not blaming yourself for it, like who wants to suffer deliberately from depression in the first place?

As one like you who also suffers from mental illness like depression, the trait that will help us learn to help ourselves and fight our demons in this lifelong battle is compassion, and compassion starts with our self.

Hi Toffee. .

Thank.you for your lovely message. I do blame myself a lot, hence where part of the depression comes from. The self-created part is where I have (unintentionally) brought the depression on myself.

But yes you are right...Compassion is something which I need to work in. I can feel compass for others but for myself I tend to just beat myself up ?

@pooface222

Im so sorry to hear about you and your Aries husband. If it is for the long term best for you and your daughter then just go for it sooner rather than later. I know you have the strength to see this through.

In the long term it will be the best solution for all involved.

Posted by NineAvenue
ive seen many cap women wander away from the boyfriend or husband bc they did not have an emotional part to the relationship. to many.

the guy you had that with, you will think of him for a lifetime to come. true, yes. bc you could never really hide things from him ?

Hi sorry for late reply!

Thank you so much for your reply. It's true..you are right. I know very well that money doesn't bring happiness. I could have everything in the world that money could buy but if there is nothing emotional inside then it is just one empty hollow and lonely relationship.

We have nothing in common either. We don't talk to each other and we never really have. I've realised our relationship is just based on small talk. So boring. So lonely.

The rest of the time he sits on his laptop and watches tons on tv every night.

BORING BORING BORING

The thing that hurts me the most now is the man I'm in love with has gone. And I'm not surprised. He spent 2 years trying to get a relax with me, while I stayed miserable with my husband. He wanted to.leave his partner for.me too.

Thank again for listening x

Posted by pinkbird03
Did you leave your husband?

No sadly. I'm still with him!

I'm a Stupid Stupid COW! The reason I haven't is I cannot bear being away from my little girl. Which I will be in du ore! Egypt shared weekends etc.

My little girl is 3 now. I should have divorced 2 1/2 years ago when we first moved house. She would have grown up thinking that her life us normal with mum and dad apart.

These days I feel sick hearing her say 'I love mummy & daddy'. Or 'where's daddy?' When my husband has gone to work and she hasn't seen him yet. She asks where he is.

I just can't stand knowing how aware she is of both of us being there together every day.

Divorce means having to explain!

Eg 'Mummy & Daddy have 2 houses now' and so starts all the lies to protect her from pain.

*Which i will be in Divorce. Eg shared weekends

Posted by RamOnFire1
@pooface222

Im so sorry to hear about you and your Aries husband. If it is for the long term best for you and your daughter then just go for it sooner rather than later. I know you have the strength to see this through.

In the long term it will be the best solution for all involved.

Hi RamOnFire1.thank you to for your reply. I need to do something soon. I've wasted 5 years of my life already. I was 40 in January!

I can't believe it! I was 36 the first time I wanted Divorce.

I need to be strong! x

Posted by lightseed
Having a narcissistic mother.

God! Sorry to hear that! My sister is the same ?

Posted by pooface222

Posted by pinkbird03
Did you leave your husband?

No sadly. I'm still with him!

I'm a Stupid Stupid COW! The reason I haven't is I cannot bear being away from my little girl. Which I will be in du ore! Egypt shared weekends etc.

My little girl is 3 now. I should have divorced 2 1/2 years ago when we first moved house. She would have grown up thinking that her life us normal with mum and dad apart.

These days I feel sick hearing her say 'I love mummy & daddy'. Or 'where's daddy?' When my husband has gone to work and she hasn't seen him yet. She asks where he is.

I just can't stand knowing how aware she is of both of us being there together every day.

Divorce means having to explain!

Eg 'Mummy & Daddy have 2 houses now' and so starts all the lies to protect her from pain.

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Some relationship experts believe you shouldn't get a divorce until your kids are 18. It's not about you. It's about the child you are raising and taking care of. It's what's best for her. I do agree with this. But I can understand why u want a divorce too.

How's your relationship with your husband? Do you fight a lot? Or Can you be civil together?

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Posted by pooface222

Posted by pinkbird03
Did you leave your husband?

No sadly. I'm still with him!

I'm a Stupid Stupid COW! The reason I haven't is I cannot bear being away from my little girl. Which I will be in du ore! Egypt shared weekends etc.

My little girl is 3 now. I should have divorced 2 1/2 years ago when we first moved house. She would have grown up thinking that her life us normal with mum and dad apart.

These days I feel sick hearing her say 'I love mummy & daddy'. Or 'where's daddy?' When my husband has gone to work and she hasn't seen him yet. She asks where he is.

I just can't stand knowing how aware she is of both of us being there together every day.

Divorce means having to explain!

Eg 'Mummy & Daddy have 2 houses now' and so starts all the lies to protect her from pain.

Some relationship experts believe you shouldn't get a divorce until your kids are 18. It's not about you. It's about the child you are raising and taking care of. It's what's best for her. I do agree with this. But I can understand why u want a divorce too.

How's your relationship with your husband? Do you fight a lot? Or Can you be civil together?

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Well it's complicated. My husband never ever talks about our marriage. For years he has just carried on as if we are fine.

He is Passive-Aggressive! I hate it! At the moment we argue when I start it. BUT he says things of a deliberately critical nitpicky nature and it winds me up! Often in front of our little girl. I'm wondering if he does it on purpose! Because when I raise my voice etc he tells me to calm down and control myself!

He's pretty twisted to be honest!

Posted by NineAvenue

Posted by pooface222

Posted by lnana04
Are you asking why do we get depressed? Or what gets us over depression?

I think I get depressed because of extreme negative thinking and a general lack of fulfillment. I don't need anyone else to fulfill me, I have to find it within myself, and not being able to brings on a bit of depression. I also get slightly depressed when I'm on the internet, which is all the time, because deep down I know I'm procrastinating and escaping from work I need to do to improve my life.

What gets me over depression is working towards something, no matter how small. When I'm being productive, I'm in a better mood. Believe it or not, its hard sometimes to get to the point of actually being productive, but just working towards any and everything helps. Of course prayer, and spiritual music helps. Also, being grateful and thankful to GOD for everything. Showing gratitude at all times actually is helpful as well.

I was talking Why we get depressed.

For me it's having my life go wrong and only realising after the event, what I should have done. And I can't actually change it.

what area of life?

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Relationships ?

Sadly for me relationships affect my life more than anything else. Probably because I put so much of myself into them..