aquariusgirl2
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Capricorns and silence
I wish I was the silent type of Cap. I'm sure it is very odd being out in public with someone that has nothing to say, but I'm on the other end of the spectrum. Silence makes me so nervous that I get anxious and try to fill the space by saying anything. Just pointless talk because of my fear of silence.
Anyway I'd say if he's silent like that in public, then there is a possibility of disinterest or an inability to connect....or an enjoyment of you feeling awkward. Sounds weird, but my mother dated a Cap like that. As if he wanted to sit back, in silence, and watch her feel uncomfortable or have her anxiously trying to entertain, for his poker face enjoyment.
I get upset thinking about him lol.
I'd say just sit there silently too. Don't show that you feel awkward, just mirror his silence so he can see how ridiculous he's being. I take back saying possible lack of interest because he wouldn't be there if that were the case.
Anyway I'd say if he's silent like that in public, then there is a possibility of disinterest or an inability to connect....or an enjoyment of you feeling awkward. Sounds weird, but my mother dated a Cap like that. As if he wanted to sit back, in silence, and watch her feel uncomfortable or have her anxiously trying to entertain, for his poker face enjoyment.
I get upset thinking about him lol.
I'd say just sit there silently too. Don't show that you feel awkward, just mirror his silence so he can see how ridiculous he's being. I take back saying possible lack of interest because he wouldn't be there if that were the case.
Inana, what are your other placements?
Posted by aquariusgirl2
I feel a constant awkwardness with my Capricorn when we are together, like sat at a bar or on the couch.
He's silent. I've read that you give them this silence so they can collect their thoughts and space and then wait for them to come back to you.
However, it feels like (to me) that he's not interested or bored of me.
Is there anybody out there who interacts with Caps, who can give me good advice on how to cope with the silences? It's just a weird feeling that your both at a bar supposedly hanging out and there's zero conversation!
Yeah...don't go off what you read and be yourself !!!! The hell
You shouldn't go down this route, he is thinking about anything and everything. He isnt trying to be rude, in fact he probabally is just so trapped in his head that he wishes he could escape. I'm like this dude and I also dated an Aquarius. Turned into a real shit show real fast, but it's because we are so different, air and earth, there isn't much common ground (pun intended?). If you both are extremely dedicated to making this work, then go for it, otherwise it would be best to part ways now before you wound each other :/
You could be creating conversation in the moment but you're too worried about what you've read online....astrology doesn't work like that.
Posted by SunMoonStarsLeo rising
Inana, what are your other placements?
Leo moon
Capricorn mercury
Scorpio venus
Libra mars
I'm a Sap/Cap cuspie Dec. 23rd
IDK, when they're silent, it just means they don't know what to speak..enjoy the silence with them.
Posted by lnana04that's actually hot..
I wish I was the silent type of Cap. I'm sure it is very odd being out in public with someone that has nothing to say, but I'm on the other end of the spectrum. Silence makes me so nervous that I get anxious and try to fill the space by saying anything. Just pointless talk because of my fear of silence.
Anyway I'd say if he's silent like that in public, then there is a possibility of disinterest or an inability to connect....or an enjoyment of you feeling awkward. Sounds weird, but my mother dated a Cap like that. As if he wanted to sit back, in silence, and watch her feel uncomfortable or have her anxiously trying to entertain, for his poker face enjoyment.
I get upset thinking about him lol.
I'd say just sit there silently too. Don't show that you feel awkward, just mirror his silence so he can see how ridiculous he's being. I take back saying possible lack of interest because he wouldn't be there if that were the case.
My crush was like this..but I could see it in his eyes.. Even Cap moons are like this, that guy that bullied me was like this.
I've been getting the same silence from my Capricorn woman; it kinda pisses me off when someone tells you they are really into but then shuts down the communication for a while.
IDK, for me I feel like I have no pressure on me to entertain them when they are naturally silent people.. I am naturally silent too, I do speak but not continuously. Like that, I would know that maybe being boring would not be a problem for them.
I think it's a great thing.. finding people who are comfortable with silence or need no "entertainment" .. I'd say, just stay connected or "in tune" with them, and that's enough... or just be yourself. Small communication happens through body language, eyes, just being with them too : )
I think it's a great thing.. finding people who are comfortable with silence or need no "entertainment" .. I'd say, just stay connected or "in tune" with them, and that's enough... or just be yourself. Small communication happens through body language, eyes, just being with them too : )
Capricorn men talk a lot....when engaged in conversation by whomever they're with.
If you've upset them then they will become silent.
If you've upset them then they will become silent.
Do you drink alcohol? I recommend it - it may help loosen him up and become more chatty. I knew a cap who was the silent type, but when drinking he became touchy, feely, and chatty. I learned a lot from him and he eventually didn't need alcohol to talk to me.
Comfortable silence with your significant other is one of the nicest parts of a relationship. No need to talk nonstop. Someone who is constantlying chattering away is exhausting. If I can spend quiet time in my own thoughts or day dreams and someone allows that, it's really nice. Doesn't mean I'm thinking bad things, just that I can be with you and relax, rest and recharge. That's such a nice feeling and it's also a good indicator that there's long term potential in this relationship.
Someone who can't be quiet or is a chatter box won't last long. I will either get bored with them or get irritated by them.
Conversation should be natural and organic, not forced. If it's forced, it's not a pleasant interaction. Then nonpleasant feelings get associated with that person.
Talk when you want, but let it be meaningful or entertaining. Don't talk to fill the silence and don't say everything that runs through your mind.
Someone who can't be quiet or is a chatter box won't last long. I will either get bored with them or get irritated by them.
Conversation should be natural and organic, not forced. If it's forced, it's not a pleasant interaction. Then nonpleasant feelings get associated with that person.
Talk when you want, but let it be meaningful or entertaining. Don't talk to fill the silence and don't say everything that runs through your mind.
I answered before as if in an established relationship.
If the relationship is new, I fear sounding stupid and just don't know what to say.
So don't read too much into it is all I'm saying.
If the relationship is new, I fear sounding stupid and just don't know what to say.
So don't read too much into it is all I'm saying.
Posted by GeminiGuy76Lol wtf
I've been getting the same silence from my Capricorn woman; it kinda pisses me off when someone tells you they are really into but then shuts down the communication for a while.
Caps are silent, awkward, antisocial for a short period...until they feel more comfortable around the company they're with or find something to build upon. If there isn't a connection built, it can be discouraging. Fair warning, signs next to each other usually don't get along. Though natal charts make all signs unique, my brothers a Pisces and had an Aquarius as a best friend, though he had a Leo moon and Aries rising. I had an Aquarius immediate supervisor for years and for the life of me I never got to know them personally, didn't really care to, guy literally wore the same uniquely designed shirt every day of work. He got along with a Sagittarius, Aries and Libra to allow lazy work antics to occur and all those years neither of us cared to exchange more than greetings, maybe share jokes in a group of mutual friends. We respected each other, but it was just like meh...I fell hard for an Aquarius, but it was largely a crush, wrote love letters, they appreciated the gesture but writing wasn't a strong suit. Fell for another aquarius, talked on the phone, she wanted me to live with her, parents died, she became a doctor, even insisted on giving me an island she owned off of St. Simons, crazy sex drive, were going to live together but then they lost interest shortly before we were about to meet. No closure or anything, just cut me off likke an umbilical cord.
Posted by aquariusgirl2There are few different kinds of the Cap silences from my experience. *This is for the dating/seeing each other period. I don't know what it's like when Caps are married.*
I feel a constant awkwardness with my Capricorn when we are together, like sat at a bar or on the couch.
He's silent. I've read that you give them this silence so they can collect their thoughts and space and then wait for them to come back to you.
However, it feels like (to me) that he's not interested or bored of me.
Is there anybody out there who interacts with Caps, who can give me good advice on how to cope with the silences? It's just a weird feeling that your both at a bar supposedly hanging out and there's zero conversation!
1. You're hanging out, everything is fine between you two but he's just quiet.
- He probably doesn't have much to say about his life nor does he want to know about yours atm. What he wants is to make new shared memories with you. So in this case, be in the moment with him calmly and serenely. Like a Taurus.
2. You had a fight.
- He's probably mulling things over and deciding if he should continue his pursuit of you. I'd say just leave him alone. Act like a Virgo: reach out once, twice max (put the ball in his court) and let him come to you after that. There is a chance he won't, be prepared and accept that. If you're physically with him at the time, try to separate yourself for a short while (go work out, or run an errand) if it's a big fight. If it's a small squabble, break the ice with humour or change the subject.
3. Everything seemed fine when you were last together, but suddenly he's gone M.I.A.
- He's probably busy taking care of work and other life things. Just act like you normally do and pull back the texting/calling. If you want to reach out, make sure it's relevant. For example, if you guys talked about XYZ, send him a link to it. How he responds will let you know where he's at with his mood.
Thanks for the replies, as I know the Capricorn and silence thing is quite common.
I find that I'm quite chatty and sociable (with other people!) but i freeze up with him because I constantly wonder whether he'll find me irritating because his face just gives that impression he's super irritated by me.
I find that I'm quite chatty and sociable (with other people!) but i freeze up with him because I constantly wonder whether he'll find me irritating because his face just gives that impression he's super irritated by me.
Posted by sakuraflowersYeh that's me 🙂 cool that u remembered mePosted by capvirgoSimilar placements can help, imo. I think truecap with Aqua Mars is engaged to an Aqua with Cap Venus. There's another Aqua with 6 Cap placements on here who is either engaged or married to a Cap.
Fair warning, signs next to each other usually don't get along.
I worked with a few Taurus people. The two I got along the best both had Taurus Sun with Taurus Mercury. I'm still in contact with one and I do really enjoy talking with him. I'm an Aries with 4 earth placements.click to expand
Yes, similar placements do help. My cap and I talk a lot but we also turn quiet and enjoy the moment ie when we are by the river. We usually don't have unneccessary talk. We always seem to find interesting things to talk about 🙂 his mercury is in sag - that also clicks with my sag mars.
I do have a co worker whose merc is in aqua - doesnt sit so well with my cap merc. I feel quickly annoyed as soon as she opens her mouth.
Posted by aquariusgirl2
I feel a constant awkwardness with my Capricorn when we are together, like sat at a bar or on the couch.
He's silent. I've read that you give them this silence so they can collect their thoughts and space and then wait for them to come back to you.
However, it feels like (to me) that he's not interested or bored of me.
Is there anybody out there who interacts with Caps, who can give me good advice on how to cope with the silences? It's just a weird feeling that your both at a bar supposedly hanging out and there's zero conversation!
To have someone be silent at a bar that I'm with would be really strange & boring for me. On a couch just hanging out that's cool. Not a Cap but have dealt with a lot of them. He sounds disinterested to me.
OP, how long have you been with your Cap ?
Capricorns are so confusing!!! Us girls always think they don't like us when they actually do...
Just remember they move extremely slow. It could take them several months to decide if they are in love. The fact that he's spending time with you shows that he likes you.
Just remember they move extremely slow. It could take them several months to decide if they are in love. The fact that he's spending time with you shows that he likes you.
I had a topic about this on the board but ended up writing an essay.
I spent the summer with my cap and we had some arguments because he just didn't talk about what "we" were.
I said I wanted to see him again and he replied with "we'll figure it out" and we were "61% " as if the experience was a test.
I still don't know whether he's still interested or not...
I spent the summer with my cap and we had some arguments because he just didn't talk about what "we" were.
I said I wanted to see him again and he replied with "we'll figure it out" and we were "61% " as if the experience was a test.
I still don't know whether he's still interested or not...
aquariusgirl2, I remember your post.
61% ? According to who and what?
It sounds like he was resentful??
61% ? According to who and what?
It sounds like he was resentful??
@sunmoonstars (and open to all of course!)
In my experience of Capricorn men (and I'm DONE with them after this), they're hooked on this notion of compatibility and being a right match.
We women of course, would like to know where we stand lest in case we're being used or wasting our time living our wonderful lives. So I asked him. And because of this coldness and silence, it felt like he was disinterested and wasted my time.
That comes across as unstable to them. So he he said our experience together was 61% (or the compatibility rating).
I don't even know how to respond back to that.
In my experience of Capricorn men (and I'm DONE with them after this), they're hooked on this notion of compatibility and being a right match.
We women of course, would like to know where we stand lest in case we're being used or wasting our time living our wonderful lives. So I asked him. And because of this coldness and silence, it felt like he was disinterested and wasted my time.
That comes across as unstable to them. So he he said our experience together was 61% (or the compatibility rating).
I don't even know how to respond back to that.
Posted by RumiL
IDK, for me I feel like I have no pressure on me to entertain them when they are naturally silent people.. I am naturally silent too, I do speak but not continuously. Like that, I would know that maybe being boring would not be a problem for them.
I think it's a great thing.. finding people who are comfortable with silence or need no "entertainment" .. I'd say, just stay connected or "in tune" with them, and that's enough... or just be yourself. Small communication happens through body language, eyes, just being with them too : )
Marry me, Im a Virgo..your favourite sign 😄
Posted by sakuraflowersShe is a piscesPosted by AquaNextDoorWith regards to you and your cap, that sounds awesome. 🙂 What's your coworker's sun sign? I don't get along quite well with some Aries Merc either. Some can "drive me up the wall".Posted by sakuraflowersYeh that's me 🙂 cool that u remembered mePosted by capvirgoSimilar placements can help, imo. I think truecap with Aqua Mars is engaged to an Aqua with Cap Venus. There's another Aqua with 6 Cap placements on here who is either engaged or married to a Cap.
Fair warning, signs next to each other usually don't get along.
I worked with a few Taurus people. The two I got along the best both had Taurus Sun with Taurus Mercury. I'm still in contact with one and I do really enjoy talking with him. I'm an Aries with 4 earth placements.
Yes, similar placements do help. My cap and I talk a lot but we also turn quiet and enjoy the moment ie when we are by the river. We usually don't have unneccessary talk. We always seem to find interesting things to talk about 🙂 his mercury is in sag - that also clicks with my sag mars.
I do have a co worker whose merc is in aqua - doesnt sit so well with my cap merc. I feel quickly annoyed as soon as she opens her mouth.
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Posted by moonincap786The silence makes me feel uncomfortable too.
they do it on purpose to make it awkward - either their pissed or like someone said, want to make u feel uncomfortable. everything is intentional with them
I used to care and make small talk but now I conserve my energy and iif I have nothing I want to say I'll be quiet.
It's usually because you haven't found something that interests us
i think sometimes Capricorn doesn't know where to start with a conversation? At least, I never know how to start a conversation without making small talk, and I really hate small talk, but if you know this Capricorn well enough then initiating conversations should be a little easier.
Sometimes, though, if it's not the initiation, from my experience, it's because I'm not sure what would interest you. Before I had any stories of my own, I would often find myself boring and with little to say about myself, and if there's no similar interests, then that would make me grow even more quiet...
Sometimes, though, if it's not the initiation, from my experience, it's because I'm not sure what would interest you. Before I had any stories of my own, I would often find myself boring and with little to say about myself, and if there's no similar interests, then that would make me grow even more quiet...
My Cap did that as well, I didn't mind it much since it gave me time to eat my food at the restaurant we were at and time to admire his handsomeness. When he did finally talk it was quite entertaining and always had me giggling
Posted by aquariusgirl2YES. I have been dating a cap for nearly 9 months, and he is definitely introspective. Thing is, I am too because I'm an introvert. When we have conversations, there are gaps of silences that indicate either of us is reflecting before adding to the conversation. But, being a female Aries, I can also be energetically talkative. Whenever I'm in the mood to chatterbox, I'm more than happy to take the lead in the conversation. He'll sit quietly and listen with a bemused expression or a deeply introspective one, depending on what I'm saying. Usually one of two things happens: he is infected by my enthusiasm and joins in in his laidback way, or I tease him about being quiet and then continue on - it clears the room and negates any possible "awkwardness." Sometimes, I'll just randomly look into his eyes and tell him, "tell me something." That leaves it open for him to express whatever he'd like - sometimes it's something about his day, other times it's a childhood story or a moment from his past, sometimes it's something he wants my opinion on, or it may be something he'd observed during the day...
I feel a constant awkwardness with my Capricorn when we are together, like sat at a bar or on the couch.
He's silent. I've read that you give them this silence so they can collect their thoughts and space and then wait for them to come back to you.
However, it feels like (to me) that he's not interested or bored of me.
Is there anybody out there who interacts with Caps, who can give me good advice on how to cope with the silences? It's just a weird feeling that your both at a bar supposedly hanging out and there's zero conversation!
The BEST part about my cap (and this may be true for most caps) is that there is nothing I can't fix just by talking to him. And I mean nothing. He has a wonderful way of making any worries I may have disappear because if there is something on my mind (no matter how silly) he listens without judgement.
My suggestion would be to invite him to tell you something, and I think you cannot go wrong if you expressed how you feel to him.
Posted by AlienessLOL, my boyfriend almost ALWAYS picks on me because of the music I like, etc. For outsiders looking in, they may expect me to be offended, but I know better. His teasing is negated by his support: he hands me the USB cable in the car and asks me what I want to listen to, he actually sings along when he can, he sat through an evening of me going through YouTube, finding the songs I used to listen to (like old Britney and Backstreet Boys songs) and I felt nothing holding me back as I sang along and danced on the bed. The whole time, he was there with me. But he'll still say, at the end of a particularly cringy song that I love: "That was a bad song, Baby." Then he'll proceed to listen to the next one with me.
Reminds me of one cap i dated years back when i was toi young and he was a some years older. He criticised everything i said..even my likes in celebrities.. Any conversation with him was uncomfortable and i felt like we dint belong together. But then he tried kissing me n get physical i hated it. One day i just disappeared. Cut him off. And then he sent me an emo mail sometime later.
That was long back.. But i still feel we just cant get along. Aqua n caps.
Wow.
When yall are on the couch you should just wiggle onto his lap and kiss him.
Better than words, eh.
Warm up that ice.
When yall are on the couch you should just wiggle onto his lap and kiss him.
Better than words, eh.
Warm up that ice.
He's prob. just shy. Idk though, you guys may not be super compatible? I literally can't shut mine up. He's a dang chatterbox with me and me only.
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