@lisabethur8
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Do you like CONTROL or women/men who like control?
Understanding Attraction to Control in Relationships
Attraction to control often relates to Capricorn influence or placement in your chart. People attracted to such individuals may find controlling traits appealing because they see stability and ambition. Recognizing these tendencies helps clarify your preferences and relationship dynamics.
Not the most romantic, but the most reliable and the most supportive sign imo.
edit - oops. double posted business suit chick.
I need controlled lol!
Posted by LibraLovesHim
I need controlled lol!
you need control or need to be controlled? 😕
you have cappy moon though.
I read on the article that if you know DEPRIVATION, suffereing and hard work, you are attracted to the suffering of SATURN.
you were deprived as a child.
which is why it is so so easy to fall for cap energy, they understand suffereing and sadness, and sorrow, and hard work.
ohhh in the article, Saturn 7th house individuals LOVE saturnian folks.
I think I read around here that an individual with Saturn 7th house suffers in love because they can't find a person RELIABLE enough. so they marry or wait till old age, maybe 2nd Saturn return by late 50s early 60s? (just a guess) although I don't know any individuals who find love very late.
not all the time
The Caps I know aren't controlling, persay. Yes, control is important to them, but control over themselves, not others. They manipulate their own emotions and responses for the purposes of suppressing while they process and then either file away or discard.
However, this can be seen as controlling behavior or emotional manipulation of others if it involves them (the Cap) shutting down and disengaging during this "sorting out" process. This usually makes the other party upset, which can turn into an emotionally volatile situation the Cap would rather avoid, so they withdraw further.. all the while not realizing that perhaps their dislike and avoidance of drama only brings more of it into their life.
Hey Lisaa! long time no seeeee 👋
I have sun/venus in 10th house and 7th/8th house Capricorn.. I love people who have self-control, it's a great trait to possess. Capricorns are caring, helping, controlling but I like it :p
Posted by Skye
If he looked like
and stared at me like
and then came at me like
it would end something like
WHO IS HE
Omg. he's beautiful 😢
Posted by LibraLovesHim
I need controlled lol!you need control or need to be controlled? 😕
you have cappy moon though.
I read on the article that if you know DEPRIVATION, suffereing and hard work, you are attracted to the suffering of SATURN.
you were deprived as a child.
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I need to be controlled. My personality can be quite overpowering so I need a guy with a strong personality.
Looking back id say I was deprived of time from my parents as they worked so much.
I hope im not attracted to suffering 😕
I'm laid back, don't want to be controlled or control someone else
Posted by Deadpoop
To me control is as the cliche goes, an illusion. The only thing you can control is you, and if you ant control over someone else then you lack control over you to a degree. So the lust for control over anyone but yourself to me is weakness, for there is more power in letting go.
thats deep
Posted by lisabethur8
I was reading on sasstrology that if you are attracted to Capricorn energy, 10th house or personal planets in Cappy.those CONTROLLING individuals turn you on!!!
http://sasstrology.com/2016/08/four-reasons-why-you-would-fall-hard-for-a-capricorn.html
do you like your mate with some controlling flavor? 😛
Not really, no.
But it's good to see you.. 🤗
Posted by lisabethur8
I was reading on sasstrology that if you are attracted to Capricorn energy, 10th house or personal planets in Cappy.those CONTROLLING individuals turn you on!!!
http://sasstrology.com/2016/08/four-reasons-why-you-would-fall-hard-for-a-capricorn.html
do you like your mate with some controlling flavor? 😛
I love it when my cap takes control. He's so considerate of what I want and how I feel, that when he takes the wheel, I know it's a win-win deal.
As an Aries, I can always want my way, so when he puts his foot down - Mamamia! ?
@Skye The cap stare is deadly.
I like to give the illusion I'm easy to control, then by doing so their confident side wakes up mine and I give them my dominate side.
I like people who have good self control and can be assertive but not people who are domineering.
I don't want to control anyone.
If I give advice to someone, I just want it to be respected and for the person to decide for themselves if they'd like to try it, not just do it because they need someone to tell them what to do w/o any critical thinking on their part.
Posted by RumiL
Hey Lisaa! long time no seeeee 👋I have sun/venus in 10th house and 7th/8th house Capricorn.. I love people who have self-control, it's a great trait to possess. Capricorns are caring, helping, controlling but I like it :p
hey hey my fave aries gal on dxp lol
no wonder I like you, you have Capricorn. haha.
I know right? No sense in DENYING the control.
it's DISCIPLINE deep down, and it comes natural. 😛 😆
Posted by Deadpoop
To me control is as the cliche goes, an illusion. The only thing you can control is you, and if you ant control over someone else then you lack control over you to a degree. So the lust for control over anyone but yourself to me is weakness, for there is more power in letting go.
I agree!!
but sometimes, I just wanna lose control, and get angry. lol
like, "You bitch!!! don't talk to me like that!" but i'm usually very easy going. no one in real life is like that with me.
most people are very kind.
Posted by lisabethur8
I was reading on sasstrology that if you are attracted to Capricorn energy, 10th house or personal planets in Cappy.those CONTROLLING individuals turn you on!!!
http://sasstrology.com/2016/08/four-reasons-why-you-would-fall-hard-for-a-capricorn.html
do you like your mate with some controlling flavor? 😛
Not really, no.
But it's good to see you.. 🤗
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are you sure about that? 😛 j/k.
hiya!
we're leaving for another trip after the weekend though. I hope you all are having a great summer 2016
Posted by ParisianCappy
but the reading on sasstrolozy talk more that capricorn are serious asfuck i dont see the controll here.
lol actually they do mention "control" 😛
but it just sounds bad. but having control means you are DISCIPLINED.
it is a good trait really.
Posted by xXxAliciaXxX
Anyway to answer the question, I hate controlling men.I also hate seeing other people in relationships in which one partner is obviously very controlling over the other one.
Like someone else said, that's not healthy and it's actually a sign of weakness. Needing to control another individual like that.
HOWEVER, in the bedroom is a different story. I'm totally into that.
give examples, Alicia, what do you mean?
like the guy telling the girl she can't go out after dark?
she has a curfew because he is controlling...
hmm my husband is like that. 😆
haha.
I love the control!!!
Posted by Skye
If he looked like
and stared at me like
and then came at me like
it would end something like
Girl....
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the only Capricorn sun guy we've been watching tonight on tv where he's in, is Orlando Bloom!!
he's in the Hobbit. lol
family film. haha
Posted by CopperDove
I like people who have good self control and can be assertive but not people who are domineering.I don't want to control anyone.
If I give advice to someone, I just want it to be respected and for the person to decide for themselves if they'd like to try it, not just do it because they need someone to tell them what to do w/o any critical thinking on their part.
for me, I want a person to know that (if he's my partner in life, my beloved) that I don't him going out anywhere but staying in with me, all the time, and be tied to the HIP. lol
that's my secret wish. and if he goes out, hes only going out with guys that I have met and I know they are good guys who aren't nasty or disgusting behavior types. lol
sounds awfully controlling of me huh? 😆
but that's what I 'd like thank you very much.
and my man doesn't even have to know this, he just gets me.
Posted by xXxAliciaXxX
Anyway to answer the question, I hate controlling men.I also hate seeing other people in relationships in which one partner is obviously very controlling over the other one.
Like someone else said, that's not healthy and it's actually a sign of weakness. Needing to control another individual like that.
HOWEVER, in the bedroom is a different story. I'm totally into that.
give examples, Alicia, what do you mean?
like the guy telling the girl she can't go out after dark?
she has a curfew because he is controlling...
hmm my husband is like that. 😆
haha.
I love the control!!!
Yes. A man (or woman) taking control over your actions. Making decisions for you.
That's controlling.
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@Alicia, this song.....
is awesome..
Posted by CopperDove
I like people who have good self control and can be assertive but not people who are domineering.I don't want to control anyone.
If I give advice to someone, I just want it to be respected and for the person to decide for themselves if they'd like to try it, not just do it because they need someone to tell them what to do w/o any critical thinking on their part.
for me, I want a person to know that (if he's my partner in life, my beloved) that I don't him going out anywhere but staying in with me, all the time, and be tied to the HIP. lol
that's my secret wish. and if he goes out, hes only going out with guys that I have met and I know they are good guys who aren't nasty or disgusting behavior types. lol
sounds awfully controlling of me huh? 😆
but that's what I 'd like thank you very much.
and my man doesn't even have to know this, he just gets me.
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It's great that, from what you've described in many posts, you have a good relationship and a lot of understanding with each other. 🙂
Posted by Deadpoop
To me control is as the cliche goes, an illusion. The only thing you can control is you, and if you ant control over someone else then you lack control over you to a degree. So the lust for control over anyone but yourself to me is weakness, for there is more power in letting go.I agree!!
but sometimes, I just wanna lose control, and get angry. lol
like, "You bitch!!! don't talk to me like that!" but i'm usually very easy going. no one in real life is like that with me.
most people are very kind.
I think you should take up painting. It'll help the pent up release.
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😆
Cap in tenth.
I don't want to be completely dominated or controlled but some assertiveness with tact and a little fire is always welcomed.
Can't really bare a pushover.
Posted by RumiL
Hey Lisaa! long time no seeeee 👋I have sun/venus in 10th house and 7th/8th house Capricorn.. I love people who have self-control, it's a great trait to possess. Capricorns are caring, helping, controlling but I like it :p
hey hey my fave aries gal on dxp lol
no wonder I like you, you have Capricorn. haha.
I know right? No sense in DENYING the control.
it's DISCIPLINE deep down, and it comes natural. 😛 😆
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Haha, you have affinity for people with some Saturnine influence? :p ...cos me too me tooo!! : D I have Saturn in a close trine aspect with my moon/rising sign too < 3
SO true. How can one not admire discipline and self-control? It feels safe and sane to be around Saturnine peeps :-)
Glad to see you Lisa.. missed you 🙂
Jared Leto is a Capricorn...
Yes, this is very sexy!
Jay Ellis is a Capricorn
Omari Hardwick (Capricorn)
Capricorn...
The "Take Charge" energy is very attractive.
Most of the guys I've dated had 10 house suns, I noticed a few of my very close friends have 10 house Suns too. I love cap energy as my Mars is there. But I have to reject that. Caps have hurt me deeply.
Posted by Andalusia
The Caps I know aren't controlling, persay. Yes, control is important to them, but control over themselves, not others. They manipulate their own emotions and responses for the purposes of suppressing while they process and then either file away or discard.However, this can be seen as controlling behavior or emotional manipulation of others if it involves them (the Cap) shutting down and disengaging during this "sorting out" process. This usually makes the other party upset, which can turn into an emotionally volatile situation the Cap would rather avoid, so they withdraw further.. all the while not realizing that perhaps their dislike and avoidance of drama only brings more of it into their life.
This in fact is the most accurate and similar explanation that I received from a Capricorn that I am talking to right now. I stated to him that he comes off as an emotionless cold person with no sense of humor and then weeks later this is the explanation I received from him last night. I am tremendously attracted to him and his mind. I am a woman who likes control but don't have any Capricorn placements.
The Capricorns that I have interacted with (family members, friends) sense of control comes in the form of structure, organization, order and cleanliness.
The primary objective is NOT to control the person, but to control the outcome.
They're Master Builders, not Puppet Masters. The end goal is to "Create" not to "Suppress."
Build Now. Create your Future. No Emotional Distractions. The practical eye is aligned witth the objective ear.
The Cappie quietly observes and actively listens.
The other individual is given free will to be part of this vision or to simply walk way.
If a relationship 'exists'...and the Cappie appears to be 'controlling,' then the other party gave them the illusion that they were on board (during the preliminary stages)...but reneged.
Now the Cappie is working overtime to create the vision....and this includes taking over.
So no, the Cappie doesn't control the person.
Now the Cappie is just being given the 'ENTIRE' responsibility to control the outcome.
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I was reading on sasstrology that if you are attracted to Capricorn energy, 10th house or personal planets in Cappy.
those CONTROLLING individuals turn you on!!!
http://sasstrology.com/2016/08/four-reasons-why-you-would-fall-hard-for-a-capricorn.html
do you like your mate with some controlling flavor? 😛