Captivate86
@Captivate86
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Posted by justlikeheaven
The cap with cap match is very tricky. I've read somewhere that it's "a match made in heaven" and it could be if both caps would get a bit out of their comfort zone; like reaching out constantly, talking about the relationship and feelings, overall communicating efficiently - but that's just a small step toward a healthy relationship.
Their fears, insecurities, lack of control, lack of trust, inability to relax and let things happen and many,many other complex and contradicting issues inside themselves stop them from having fulfilling love lives.

Posted by NostalgicCappyyPosted by justlikeheaven
The cap with cap match is very tricky. I've read somewhere that it's "a match made in heaven" and it could be if both caps would get a bit out of their comfort zone; like reaching out constantly, talking about the relationship and feelings, overall communicating efficiently - but that's just a small step toward a healthy relationship.
Their fears, insecurities, lack of control, lack of trust, inability to relax and let things happen and many,many other complex and contradicting issues inside themselves stop them from having fulfilling love lives.
I agree with all of this. But, I also think that it depends on our partner. If they give us security in the relationship, where we don't have to question how they feel about us, and where we stand, we can actually relax some and not overthink/overanalyze every little word.
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Posted by justlikeheavenAll.of.this. My goodness. This sounds like a page out of my life.Posted by NostalgicCappyyPosted by justlikeheaven
The cap with cap match is very tricky. I've read somewhere that it's "a match made in heaven" and it could be if both caps would get a bit out of their comfort zone; like reaching out constantly, talking about the relationship and feelings, overall communicating efficiently - but that's just a small step toward a healthy relationship.
Their fears, insecurities, lack of control, lack of trust, inability to relax and let things happen and many,many other complex and contradicting issues inside themselves stop them from having fulfilling love lives.
I agree with all of this. But, I also think that it depends on our partner. If they give us security in the relationship, where we don't have to question how they feel about us, and where we stand, we can actually relax some and not overthink/overanalyze every little word.
I agree with this too, we need someone to make us feel safe, accepted, appreciated and then we open up and give them the best of us.That's why cap w cap needs a lot of work, they are both clossed off, even if they do have feelings for one another they will never talk out of their own initiative, and if they will but the other person reaction wouldn't be as they hoped it would be then all is kinda over, 'cause rejection sucks.
Talking from experience here; when I confessed my love for my cap (after weeks of thinking and planning and worrying etc) he was shocked, 'because he wouldn't expect that, I was so distant and cool all the time, and the next step for a cap is to retreat, he retreated out of shock, I retreated because I sensed rejection.
After a few weeks we were the same cool,reserved people, going out and not talking about the obvious problem.Then once again one of us (most probably me) saying something sentimental then followed by retreat.A never-ending dance of confusion and fear of emotions.
It has to be two extremely mature, confident, risk-takers caps for this union to work.
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Posted by Captivate86What's with the gifts? Do you know each other for a long time?
Now I feel like an idiot. I had gotten him an Italian leather portfolio with his name engraved on it.

Posted by Captivate86Lmaooooooo i hate how cheap cap men are! Arggg it gets on my nerves. But they’ll buy Alexa -_-
Just a couple of months. I’m not sure. He came bearing gifts and I felt compelled to reciprocate with something thoughtful and...not from the dollar store.

Posted by Captivate86If you’re only with a cap for money or you think they’re gonna share with you their success then you got another thing coming lol
Yeah, I’m seriously rethinking this whole thing.
Not even Walmart or the grocery store. Fucking dollar store.

Posted by Captivate86
Yeah, I’m seriously rethinking this whole thing.
Not even Walmart or the grocery store. Fucking dollar store.

Posted by Captivate86😂😂😂 shouldn't laugh, but it's funny.
Just a couple of months. I’m not sure. He came bearing gifts and I felt compelled to reciprocate with something thoughtful and...not from the dollar store.

Posted by Captivate86Yea i totally get you. Maybe he was joking? Lol i can see that happening too
That’s true. I do appreciate his honesty. But I’m also wondering if he only told me because I wanted to get them for myself and I’d find out anyway. Lol
@MoonshineLeo That’s definitely not the case here. He’s older and more established in his career, but I’m pretty successful myself. I just thought that if I dated an older man, there would be clearer communication, something more of substance, and that I’d be treated like a lady.
I don’t know...it may seem shallow on my part, but if I were giving anyone a gift, it certainly wouldn’t be from a place like that.

Posted by UnicornSagPosted by Captivate86You don't need an older man to treat you like a lady. You need a real gentleman. It has nothing to do with age, cause one can be that regardless on age and also be complete hillbilly also regardless on age...
That’s true. I do appreciate his honesty. But I’m also wondering if he only told me because I wanted to get them for myself and I’d find out anyway. Lol
@MoonshineLeo That’s definitely not the case here. He’s older and more established in his career, but I’m pretty successful myself. I just thought that if I dated an older man, there would be clearer communication, something more of substance, and that I’d be treated like a lady.
I don’t know...it may seem shallow on my part, but if I were giving anyone a gift, it certainly wouldn’t be from a place like that.
Regarding gift I must say it sort of a reminded me of my Sag friend who always checks price of the gift someone gave her...I really don't like it. I personally would never bother thinking about price, what matters to me is a thought and how much I/that person liked the gift. I'd say you wanted to be impressive with your gift, more than thoughtful so go with it. He was being thoughtful, you were impressive so let it be like that and think about it next time when you gift one another for whatever reason. You actually overdid your own gift so I wouldn't blame him in this scenario. I get that you may not like the price of his gift but remember that you actually liked that gift and wanted to buy more of those candles so why is the price a problem now? He wasn't aiming to impress you in the first place with a gift so you should simply take it as it is and not underestimate it cause now you know the price.
Anyway, I wouldn't base anything on gifts in the first place, have more consideration about how much he puts into the relationship with you, that's what counts the most after all.click to expand

Posted by Captivate86Nahhhh how are you gonna rethink something just because of where he bought you some candles? That’s nothin, hun.
Yeah, I’m seriously rethinking this whole thing.
Not even Walmart or the grocery store. Fucking dollar store.
Posted by MoonshineLeoPosted by Captivate86If you’re only with a cap for money or you think they’re gonna share with you their success then you got another thing coming lol
Yeah, I’m seriously rethinking this whole thing.
Not even Walmart or the grocery store. Fucking dollar store.
This is why you gotta have your own money. If my cap doesn’t wanna pay for it i got it but it would be nice for them to spend a little! Lolclick to expand
Posted by Captivate86Yes, please see it for what it is. I wouldn't waste an ounce of any more time on this guy...UNLESS he comes correct and is honest about what he's doing and why. His behavior reminds me sooo much of my mothers Cap ex. It can be really childish if you pay attention.
@Inana04 You hit the nail RIGHT on the head. I wasn’t explaining it correctly and coming across like a money-hungry ingrate. Not the case at all.
He did seem upset about something, but I have no idea what.
The knocking me down a few notches comment: you couldn’t have put it better. He knows prominent men try to date me, and it was almost like he took pleasure in trying to put me in my place and make himself memorable as “not another chump”. Only his ass played himself. Cockblocking himself just so he can feel like he wasn’t a fool pining over me. That’s not what I wanted. I just wanted something real.
I have a feeling he wasn’t at all expecting for me to remove him and block him from calling or texting. Hopefully he learns for the next woman. 44 years old and playing these damn games.

Posted by Captivate86
I am also a Capricorn. I am from January and he is from December.

Posted by Captivate86I’m fucking dying ! Lol. A Leo ex bought me a tank top from
Just a couple of months. I’m not sure. He came bearing gifts and I felt compelled to reciprocate with something thoughtful and...not from the dollar store.

Posted by lnana04Have you tried toPosted by MoonshineLeoPosted by Captivate86If you’re only with a cap for money or you think they’re gonna share with you their success then you got another thing coming lol
Yeah, I’m seriously rethinking this whole thing.
Not even Walmart or the grocery store. Fucking dollar store.
This is why you gotta have your own money. If my cap doesn’t wanna pay for it i got it but it would be nice for them to spend a little! Lol
It's not a money thing, it's effort.
Even if he said he made them that would show effort. Getting something from the dollar store AND telling someone you got them from there is the equivalent of saying this is what I think about you.
OP he's upset about something and being an @ss. Even if he really did get them from the dollar store he wouldn't let you know if he wasn't being an @ss smh.
Cap men can be spoiled and petty and become used to women almost throwing their interest at them.
If you are just as laid back as he is he doesn't know how to take it and will try to knock you down a few notches smh.
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Posted by Captivate86The last paragraph...why? Isn't a little too extreme?
@Inana04 You hit the nail RIGHT on the head. I wasn’t explaining it correctly and coming across like a money-hungry ingrate. Not the case at all.
He did seem upset about something, but I have no idea what.
The knocking me down a few notches comment: you couldn’t have put it better. He knows prominent men try to date me, and it was almost like he took pleasure in trying to put me in my place and make himself memorable as “not another chump”. Only his ass played himself. Cockblocking himself just so he can feel like he wasn’t a fool pining over me. That’s not what I wanted. I just wanted something real.
I have a feeling he wasn’t at all expecting for me to remove him and block him from calling or texting. Hopefully he learns for the next woman. 44 years old and playing these damn games.


Posted by Captivate86Girl you must be on some
No updates. :-/ He has no way of contacting me unless he shows up at my house. Which I’m secretly hoping he’ll do, but I know he won’t.

Posted by Captivate86Well he had a hard time trusting you because you’re being impulsive. And maybe you’re being impulsive because you’re young and feel self conscious about it. To me it sounds like a self fulfilling prophecy. You had doubts about
Yeah, that’s why I know he won’t. Plus, he was hurt pretty badly from his last relationship and I’m sure my impulsivity didn’t help to paint me as a safe place.
I like him. It was just one date...and I’m not willing to put my pride aside and look even more crazy than I already probably do. So, I’m just going to cut my losses.
I have no idea what my chart is. I’m typically not impulsive...unless it’s dealing with my fragile ego. It was only a couple of months, but I did like him a lot. I think he had trouble trusting that for some reason. It may have been the age difference.
Posted by lnana04Upset, no. When our image of ourselves or the positive image others have of us is threatened, that’s where the impulsivity kicks in.
I thought acting impulsively when upset was a Cap trait?
Y'all don't do that?

Posted by DeadInsideWhat's a king without his queen
..but i want power,

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should capricorn male forgive their conquest of the throne and just get in couple have a basic a family life

Posted by DeadInsideLoll so you have to be dead inside to be after the throne ...Posted by stillstillwaterbut they are both capricorns arent they both looking for a throne, or maybe that cap girl i still alive insidePosted by DeadInside
should capricorn male forgive their conquest of the throne and just get in couple have a basic a family life
Ssshhhhhh
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Posted by DeadInsideYou can’t let them take your life awayPosted by stillstillwatersomeone will kill you during your way to the thronePosted by DeadInsideLoll so you have to be dead inside to be after the throne ...Posted by stillstillwaterbut they are both capricorns arent they both looking for a throne, or maybe that cap girl i still alive insidePosted by DeadInside
should capricorn male forgive their conquest of the throne and just get in couple have a basic a family life
Ssshhhhhh
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Posted by DeadInsideThe other 11 signs!Posted by stillstillwaterwho told you that it was bad to be deadinsidePosted by DeadInsideYou can’t let them take your life awayPosted by stillstillwatersomeone will kill you during your way to the thronePosted by DeadInsideLoll so you have to be dead inside to be after the throne ...Posted by stillstillwaterbut they are both capricorns arent they both looking for a throne, or maybe that cap girl i still alive insidePosted by DeadInside
should capricorn male forgive their conquest of the throne and just get in couple have a basic a family life
Ssshhhhhh
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He’s more than 10 years older than I am and a single father. We went on our first date on Tuesday. He was such a sweetheart and very romantic. All through the evening, he kept making references of personal things about me that he picked up on his own from reading my social media. It was almost as if he was trying to show me that he made the effort to find out little details that I hadn’t shared with him yet. He knew my favorite color, my favorite food, and that I use Yiddish slang to express my frustration. Then he casually mentioned that he had “stalked” my social media extensively. I told him that he was free to and that I liked that he did that.
After dinner, we went to a park to take a long walk and just talked endlessly. We kissed and it was so amazing and passionate. We left and when he walked me to my door, I could tell he wanted to come in. So, I asked him to. He started turning on some candles he had brought me as gifts and we started kissing again. We laid on my sofa with him spooning me. He interlocked his fingers with mine and kept taking deep breaths of me, saying that he loved my scent. We fell asleep like that.
But...he’s been oddly distant since then and I don’t know what to think. I read that’s Capricorns don’t like being pressed for their thoughts or feelings, so I’ve just left him to be in his space. Plus, he’s a single dad, so he’s pretty busy too.
He keeps liking my stuff on social media, though.
If anyone can help me figure out what could possibly be going on, I’d be really thankful.