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Posted by SweetestFataleSounds like mental case to me. Sorry.
So a couple days ago Cap Man wakes me up in the middle of the night declaring he is "coming home to me, done feeling sorry for himself. On his way!". He comes over, sits me down, gets on his knees to my level and tells me he is falling in love...no "in love with me". I am shocked and don't know how to respond. I don't really respond, I do but its more about our general situation not the specifics of his revelation. We go to sleep and hold each other very tightly. I stay in bed way past my alarm to get as much time with him as I can. He gives me a ride to work, I kiss him sweetly before I go in. I thought my actions were speaking very loudly. A couple hours later I work up the nerve to tell him how I feel and he simply replies "let it go" and every time I try to bring it up "let it go". So I sent a long text first apologizing for my lack of response then detailing my feelings. I tell him I will not let it go unless he can look me in my eyes and tell me he didn't mean a word of it. He doesn't outright respond but the next day invites himself over. He comes over but is acting VERY distant/standoffish. I close the distance, I try to be demonstrative. We go to sleep. We wake up. I try again to breach the subject. He threatens to leave. I tell him to leave. I have a horrible day because I feel like we are not on good terms. I feel like I overreacted but he was being unreasonable. I never would have told him to leave if he didn't threaten it.
Any Cap clue as to why he is so adamant that I "let it go"?
I should make that his ringtone because he is definitely on some Elsa shit "conceal don't feel".
No need to apologize. I agree that it isn't a logical progression. That's why I'm so stumped.
Posted by ParisianCappyThis I can agree with also. I like him too. He may be a lost soul, but I don't think he's a lost cause.
that capricorn probably doesnt understand himself probably anothere lost soul, i like him
In reference to another post I made about him, I did see that he made a definitive step to improving his current work situation today. Part of me figures to just let him be and see what happens.
Posted by littlesnowI think he knows what he wants VERY well. I also think he knows very well what he wants from me. What he doesn't seem to comprehend that this is a 2 way street and I have every right to have expectations and request of him as well. Mirroring him would have us living together making babies and taking trips long before we ever ACTUALLY have the conversation he's telling me to let go. The problem is that with him there is no mirror. There is what he does and there is what he wont do. If I never push this conversation we will most likely continue on with no real issues except he gets to dictate when conversations start and stop to the detriment of actual communication.
he doesn't know what he wants, and you shouldn't either 🙂 play it safe and only mirror his actions
Posted by ParisianCappyI snorted out loud. omg dying!!
gemitati judging someone being a mental case. I LIKE WTF DID YOU LOOK THE SHIT THAT YOU ARE POSTING ON DXP 😆.
Op he's playing your emotions and attempting to manipulate the situation. Don't go to sleep until you outline your expectations and make it clear that him threatening to leave you isn't a healthy environment to develop love. Don't spoon until you make yourself heard.
Posted by littlesnowPosted by SweetestFatalewhats your signPosted by littlesnowI think he knows what he wants VERY well. I also think he knows very well what he wants from me. What he doesn't seem to comprehend that this is a 2 way street and I have every right to have expectations and request of him as well. Mirroring him would have us living together making babies and taking trips long before we ever ACTUALLY have the conversation he's telling me to let go. The problem is that with him there is no mirror. There is what he does and there is what he wont do. If I never push this conversation we will most likely continue on with no real issues except he gets to dictate when conversations start and stop to the detriment of actual communication.
he doesn't know what he wants, and you shouldn't either 🙂 play it safe and only mirror his actions
I think communication is your biggest issue and he doesn't want to communicate about that, maybe he feels uncomfortable. he probably likes you but he doesn't feel the need to confess his undying love for you-maybe not to that extent but you get the point. especially with guys, I noticed that if you're in a relationship, he expects you to know how he feels
but to me he seems very undecided maybe there's something going on in his life
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I'm a Taurus. There is a lot of stubborn Earth going on.
There is a lot going on in his life which is why he was feeling sorry for himself to begin with. I suppose he feels like telling me his feelings should be all it takes to usher us into "and they lived happily ever after" lol
Posted by LadyNeptuneI do agree that he's trying to pull rank. I don't think he was threatening leaving the relationship so much as just getting dressed and going home, but even so leaving isn't conducive to compromise. Thanks!
Op he's playing your emotions and attempting to manipulate the situation. Don't go to sleep until you outline your expectations and make it clear that him threatening to leave you isn't a healthy environment to develop love. Don't spoon until you make yourself heard.
I tried the same day, hours later. He said "Let it go."
No? Granted I have my own issues but damn, putting my feelings out there means nothing...building the courage to do that it's like "oh fuck it you didn't capitalize on my mood." That's petty to me. I don't want to beat it to death. All I've said is "can we discuss it now".
No? Granted I have my own issues but damn, putting my feelings out there means nothing...building the courage to do that it's like "oh fuck it you didn't capitalize on my mood." That's petty to me. I don't want to beat it to death. All I've said is "can we discuss it now".
At the end of the day I don't think either of us are going anywhere. He's expressed himself and I've expressed myself. The feelings are mutual. He's pretty emotionally expressive he's just quick to close the damn heart dam when he's done pouring. I'll have faith that it'll come up again and we it does I'll adjust accordingly.
Posted by SweetestFataleDude you said he's threatening to leave. That's a dick move on his part. He needs to shape up or ship out.Posted by LadyNeptuneI do agree that he's trying to pull rank. I don't think he was threatening leaving the relationship so much as just getting dressed and going home, but even so leaving isn't conducive to compromise. Thanks!
Op he's playing your emotions and attempting to manipulate the situation. Don't go to sleep until you outline your expectations and make it clear that him threatening to leave you isn't a healthy environment to develop love. Don't spoon until you make yourself heard.
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I try again to breach the subject. He threatens to leave. I tell him to leave.click to expand
I was thinking of sharing this song with him on Spotify as a kind of apology. I especially like the line "Put your arms, put your arms right there...you don't have to say a word. I'm glad I found you..." because I always tell him how much I enjoy being in his arms.
Do Caps need an actual apology (I have no problems doing that) or you think this would make him smile?
Do Caps need an actual apology (I have no problems doing that) or you think this would make him smile?
Posted by LadyNeptuneThreatens to leave as in "I'm going home" not "Drop it or you'll never see me again." Yeah its a dick move, a stubborn "cant you see how much I don't want to do this" move. Picking my battles, this is one I can stand to lose though... on account of wanting to win the war.Posted by SweetestFataleDude you said he's threatening to leave. That's a dick move on his part. He needs to shape up or ship out.Posted by LadyNeptuneI do agree that he's trying to pull rank. I don't think he was threatening leaving the relationship so much as just getting dressed and going home, but even so leaving isn't conducive to compromise. Thanks!
Op he's playing your emotions and attempting to manipulate the situation. Don't go to sleep until you outline your expectations and make it clear that him threatening to leave you isn't a healthy environment to develop love. Don't spoon until you make yourself heard.
Posted by SweetestFatale
I try again to breach the subject. He threatens to leave. I tell him to leave.click to expand
I feel as if there's more to the story but if it's as you say it is, I sense 2 things here, 1 is that he's either rebounding off a bad breakup (or you 2 are coming back to each other after your own breakup) and he's half in and half out, the second is that he's just half in and half out. You can pull him fully in, use consistent warmth and love like you Tauruses do, don't fully invest your heart though, on the inside. Until you feel he's fully invested..
Posted by ScorpioTruthI left out the part when I called him selfish. And he really isn't. I do feel like at that moment we were both considering ourselves more than the other, but he isn't selfish.Posted by SweetestFataleWhat are you apologizing for? What am I missing? I don't think he feels upset or betrayed, and I don't see a need for apologizing. I think if he was upset with you and felt he deserved an apology, I doubt he would be sleeping next to you and holding all night. Don't read too far into it. He made himself vulnerable and it was probably just uncomfortable. The more that you continue to probe him about the situation, the more weird you are going to make it. Just let him process his feelings and through your actions, let him know how you feel. He is intuitive, he will know.
I was thinking of sharing this song with him on Spotify as a kind of apology. I especially like the line "Put your arms, put your arms right there...you don't have to say a word. I'm glad I found you..." because I always tell him how much I enjoy being in his arms.
Do Caps need an actual apology (I have no problems doing that) or you think this would make him smile?
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Posted by DannyMCHe is coming off of a broken engagement. It's been a bit over a year for him. This is actually our first emotional disagreement. And that's what I figured to just back down and go back to what got him to those feelings. I realize this exchange will cause him to draw back. I can bring him back out. When he's back to the point of emotional overflow I'll give him what he needs to be comfortable.
I feel as if there's more to the story but if it's as you say it is, I sense 2 things here, 1 is that he's either rebounding off a bad breakup (or you 2 are coming back to each other after your own breakup) and he's half in and half out, the second is that he's just half in and half out. You can pull him fully in, use consistent warmth and love like you Tauruses do, don't fully invest your heart though, on the inside. Until you feel he's fully invested..
Posted by ScorpioTruthHe poured a drink when he walked in, but didn't drink it until after his confession. And had me taste it. Rum & Red Bull
Was alcohol involved?
Posted by tizianiThe emotional overflows are his not mine lol. Im not usually emotional at all. I got emotional(mad) when he showed he'd rather go home than talk.
He sounds self involved so I think if you show him you can look at your exchanges from his perspective, like sakura did, then you can diffuse the situation and bring it back down to earth with less "emotional overflow" moments and more sincere ones. It will hopefully encourage him to come up out of himself.
Posted by tizianiI'll definitely do that more in the future. It's going to take some work to leave my logic for emotions. I suppose no harder than leaving emotions for logic. He's already confessed to being a hopeless romantic and I've admitted I am a doubtful romantic. Let's see if we can manage to find balance.Posted by SweetestFatalePosted by tizianiThe emotional overflows are his not mine lol. Im not usually emotional at all. I got emotional(mad) when he showed he'd rather go home than talk.
He sounds self involved so I think if you show him you can look at your exchanges from his perspective, like sakura did, then you can diffuse the situation and bring it back down to earth with less "emotional overflow" moments and more sincere ones. It will hopefully encourage him to come up out of himself.
Yeah I know lol I didn't mean to write it as if I thought you were being the dramatic one. According to your story, it's clearly him and I get what it's like to be in both positions.
I've been the emotionally punch-drunk one living out a cringey drama in front of her, and I've been on the other side where you are attracting the cringe side out of others I really care about.
The only thing I can say I found that works, is showing them you're willing and have put time into trying to see things from their point of view. Because, you never know, maybe he really does care enough about you to then be willing to do the same back. Then the relationship won't be stuck in emotional extremes.
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its the venus retrograde
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its the venus retrograde
What!! I didn't know Venus goes retrograde (do all planets?) I really hate Mercury retro. Let me go read up on Venus retro.
Ugh it's not retrograde yet, but it's in something called a shadow period. Sounds like fun *sarcasm*
Posted by SweetestFataleI think you're doing everything right, and he's bucking from the broken engagement still, the good thing is that you Taurus girls are consistent and loyal and Caps are too, hence his bucking in between what ended and where you 2 are now. I think time will change his inconsistency as long as you remain consistent. There's probably a strong lack of trust somewhere in him too because of the last relationship, it doesn't sound like it was a good break between the 2 of them. By that I mean he was emotionally invested in it and didn't want it to end. Or she cheated on him. There's something there... be consistent and over time you'll see more of the guy on his knees professing his love and less of the other girl that goes cold.Posted by DannyMCHe is coming off of a broken engagement. It's been a bit over a year for him. This is actually our first emotional disagreement. And that's what I figured to just back down and go back to what got him to those feelings. I realize this exchange will cause him to draw back. I can bring him back out. When he's back to the point of emotional overflow I'll give him what he needs to be comfortable.
I feel as if there's more to the story but if it's as you say it is, I sense 2 things here, 1 is that he's either rebounding off a bad breakup (or you 2 are coming back to each other after your own breakup) and he's half in and half out, the second is that he's just half in and half out. You can pull him fully in, use consistent warmth and love like you Tauruses do, don't fully invest your heart though, on the inside. Until you feel he's fully invested..
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Also, if he was (I know you said he wasn't) but if he was drunk at the time he might be embarrassed a lil bit of the way he acted. Sounds like a sag cusp.. lol
Posted by DannyMCI told him he was on the Sag Cusp and he so stubbornly stated that he IS NOT! lol He was bornPosted by SweetestFataleI think you're doing everything right, and he's bucking from the broken engagement still, the good thing is that you Taurus girls are consistent and loyal and Caps are too, hence his bucking in between what ended and where you 2 are now. I think time will change his inconsistency as long as you remain consistent. There's probably a strong lack of trust somewhere in him too because of the last relationship, it doesn't sound like it was a good break between the 2 of them. By that I mean he was emotionally invested in it and didn't want it to end. Or she cheated on him. There's something there... be consistent and over time you'll see more of the guy on his knees professing his love and less of the other girl that goes cold.Posted by DannyMCHe is coming off of a broken engagement. It's been a bit over a year for him. This is actually our first emotional disagreement. And that's what I figured to just back down and go back to what got him to those feelings. I realize this exchange will cause him to draw back. I can bring him back out. When he's back to the point of emotional overflow I'll give him what he needs to be comfortable.
I feel as if there's more to the story but if it's as you say it is, I sense 2 things here, 1 is that he's either rebounding off a bad breakup (or you 2 are coming back to each other after your own breakup) and he's half in and half out, the second is that he's just half in and half out. You can pull him fully in, use consistent warmth and love like you Tauruses do, don't fully invest your heart though, on the inside. Until you feel he's fully invested..
Also, if he was (I know you said he wasn't) but if he was drunk at the time he might be embarrassed a lil bit of the way he acted. Sounds like a sag cusp.. lolclick to expand
12/24. He said that because Cap starts on 12/19 he isn't on the cusp. I have every inclination he is, which is why I mentioned it to him. In a sort of twist, I am on the Aries/Taurus Cusp.
I'm pretty sure it wasn't a good break by the little he has mentioned of it. He was VERY ready to and was looking forward to being married. I don't know yet, what exactly caused the split.
Posted by SweetestFatalehahaha yup, he's a sag/cap cusp. Typo in my last response, I meant "like it wasn't a good break " The fact that he's mentioned very little of it is good though to me it says he isn't wanting to or trying to get back together with her, but something nasty happened and it hurt him.. some of us on the cusp or near it can be a little what would seem like, dual natured... from all fire to very reserved or even a lil embarrassed with ourselves at times. Don't judge the firey emotion if he gets embarrassed and he'll be good lolPosted by DannyMCI told him he was on the Sag Cusp and he so stubbornly stated that he IS NOT! lol He was bornPosted by SweetestFataleI think you're doing everything right, and he's bucking from the broken engagement still, the good thing is that you Taurus girls are consistent and loyal and Caps are too, hence his bucking in between what ended and where you 2 are now. I think time will change his inconsistency as long as you remain consistent. There's probably a strong lack of trust somewhere in him too because of the last relationship, it doesn't sound like it was a good break between the 2 of them. By that I mean he was emotionally invested in it and didn't want it to end. Or she cheated on him. There's something there... be consistent and over time you'll see more of the guy on his knees professing his love and less of the other girl that goes cold.Posted by DannyMCHe is coming off of a broken engagement. It's been a bit over a year for him. This is actually our first emotional disagreement. And that's what I figured to just back down and go back to what got him to those feelings. I realize this exchange will cause him to draw back. I can bring him back out. When he's back to the point of emotional overflow I'll give him what he needs to be comfortable.
I feel as if there's more to the story but if it's as you say it is, I sense 2 things here, 1 is that he's either rebounding off a bad breakup (or you 2 are coming back to each other after your own breakup) and he's half in and half out, the second is that he's just half in and half out. You can pull him fully in, use consistent warmth and love like you Tauruses do, don't fully invest your heart though, on the inside. Until you feel he's fully invested..
Also, if he was (I know you said he wasn't) but if he was drunk at the time he might be embarrassed a lil bit of the way he acted. Sounds like a sag cusp.. lol
12/24. He said that because Cap starts on 12/19 he isn't on the cusp. I have every inclination he is, which is why I mentioned it to him. In a sort of twist, I am on the Aries/Taurus Cusp.
I'm pretty sure it wasn't a good break by the little he has mentioned of it. He was VERY ready to and was looking forward to being married. I don't know yet, what exactly caused the split.
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I get the feeling you guys are a good fit, there were 2 other responses here that hit me and rang true as well, let me find them
Actually the majority of the responses here are solid. Step up the romance end with him, mirror that when he shows it and see how he reacts. I think he's missing that in his life. We like magnetism, we're deep and intense. I'm close to the same cusp he is, I find that magnetism with virgo's and libra's on the cusp. He may be looking to find that with you. I honestly never feel fully into a relationship if there isn't a mutual 3-fold mental/emotional and physical pull of like, intense magnetism, which isn't always a good thing lol but we need it, at least half the time, and we want you to need it too. Mirror what he feels when it takes it there, he's not playing hopeless romantic, he probably is one, he's trying to conquer your heart and he wants to see that you're into it and he's getting somewhere. Don't roll your eyes at this, so to speak, or boom, he'll go into a shell.
There is an intense magnetism between us! There always has been. I did tell him that I felt that. When he first approached me I didn't think he was my type but there was something about him I couldn't walk away from.
Thank you for the insight. I will consider his emotions more seriously.
Thank you for the insight. I will consider his emotions more seriously.
Posted by SweetestFataleWelcome, I think you 2 will be fine 🙂
There is an intense magnetism between us! There always has been. I did tell him that I felt that. When he first approached me I didn't think he was my type but there was something about him I couldn't walk away from.
Thank you for the insight. I will consider his emotions more seriously.
Thank you PootyButt.
Just an update.
Yesterday I set something up to have us in a room together for hours. No not a hotel lol. It was 6 wonderful hours. I thought I was forcing him to spend time with me and he had plans of his own lol. I was surprised when he volunteered to pick me up, I thought we would meet there. He complimented me as soon as he saw me but added "I still don't like you." The first time I said "I like you but I think I can get over it." He kept complimenting me and saying he thought I got dolled up on purpose to tease him (of course he was right). He kissed my cheek and said "I still don't like you" again. I replied that time "Oh, I know. You love me." And then he brought up the other night "You just couldn't let it go...." he started, but it was good natured. I kept catching him staring at me and he was looking in my eyes whenever he could. Lol he was actually messing with me saying "You're kicking yourself you didn't speak up when you had the chance huh?". He was serenading me and just putting on the charm. Eventually I wore thin and kissed him and it was amazing as always. I have stars in my eyes!
Yesterday I set something up to have us in a room together for hours. No not a hotel lol. It was 6 wonderful hours. I thought I was forcing him to spend time with me and he had plans of his own lol. I was surprised when he volunteered to pick me up, I thought we would meet there. He complimented me as soon as he saw me but added "I still don't like you." The first time I said "I like you but I think I can get over it." He kept complimenting me and saying he thought I got dolled up on purpose to tease him (of course he was right). He kissed my cheek and said "I still don't like you" again. I replied that time "Oh, I know. You love me." And then he brought up the other night "You just couldn't let it go...." he started, but it was good natured. I kept catching him staring at me and he was looking in my eyes whenever he could. Lol he was actually messing with me saying "You're kicking yourself you didn't speak up when you had the chance huh?". He was serenading me and just putting on the charm. Eventually I wore thin and kissed him and it was amazing as always. I have stars in my eyes!
Posted by SweetestFataleI always send my cap music I love.. Specially ones that remind me of us.. or him.. He generally LOVES it.. or at least it puts a smile on his face for the day..
I was thinking of sharing this song with him on Spotify as a kind of apology. I especially like the line "Put your arms, put your arms right there...you don't have to say a word. I'm glad I found you..." because I always tell him how much I enjoy being in his arms.
Do Caps need an actual apology (I have no problems doing that) or you think this would make him smile?
They are serious people but not uptight.. Underneath that tough shell and hard exterior, they are caring, loving, romantic people. IMO.. It just takes them ALOT longer to expose themselves unlike the rest of us..
I love that song.. SEND IT GIRL! 😉
Posted by starwarsLOL! Sad, but true....
cap mens are cray i tell u the definition of drama queens
Posted by SweetestFataleAWW, good for you girl!!! Happy for you two!!! 🙂
Just an update.
Yesterday I set something up to have us in a room together for hours. No not a hotel lol. It was 6 wonderful hours. I thought I was forcing him to spend time with me and he had plans of his own lol. I was surprised when he volunteered to pick me up, I thought we would meet there. He complimented me as soon as he saw me but added "I still don't like you." The first time I said "I like you but I think I can get over it." He kept complimenting me and saying he thought I got dolled up on purpose to tease him (of course he was right). He kissed my cheek and said "I still don't like you" again. I replied that time "Oh, I know. You love me." And then he brought up the other night "You just couldn't let it go...." he started, but it was good natured. I kept catching him staring at me and he was looking in my eyes whenever he could. Lol he was actually messing with me saying "You're kicking yourself you didn't speak up when you had the chance huh?". He was serenading me and just putting on the charm. Eventually I wore thin and kissed him and it was amazing as always. I have stars in my eyes!
Posted by ParisianCappyCap men want it their way.. OR NO way! lolPosted by poison_ivyLie, and Obey to capricornPosted by starwarsLOL! Sad, but true....
cap mens are cray i tell u the definition of drama queensclick to expand
every so often I'm submissive to his wants/needs but I still talk my shit. 😛
Posted by poison_ivyLol that's exactly how I am and I think he likes it! From day 1 I've given him a hard time lol. He likes turning "no's" into "yes" so I have to give him the no's. Granted I think this only works when emotions aren't involved.Posted by ParisianCappyCap men want it their way.. OR NO way! lolPosted by poison_ivyLie, and Obey to capricornPosted by starwarsLOL! Sad, but true....
cap mens are cray i tell u the definition of drama queens
every so often I'm submissive to his wants/needs but I still talk my shit. 😛click to expand
Posted by SweetestFataleI feel emotionally exhausted just READING that about what he did and said. It seems that it was a major deal for him to do what he did - like he's been thinking on it for so long. Meeting his honest revelation with silence seems to have really hurt him. The moment has passed. You won't ever get it back. What CAN happen is that you will reach that point again and it will be even better because you will be prepared to actually face it.
So a couple days ago Cap Man wakes me up in the middle of the night declaring he is "coming home to me, done feeling sorry for himself. On his way!". He comes over, sits me down, gets on his knees to my level and tells me he is falling in love...no "in love with me". I am shocked and don't know how to respond. I don't really respond, I do but its more about our general situation not the specifics of his revelation. We go to sleep and hold each other very tightly. I stay in bed way past my alarm to get as much time with him as I can. He gives me a ride to work, I kiss him sweetly before I go in. I thought my actions were speaking very loudly. A couple hours later I work up the nerve to tell him how I feel and he simply replies "let it go" and every time I try to bring it up "let it go". So I sent a long text first apologizing for my lack of response then detailing my feelings. I tell him I will not let it go unless he can look me in my eyes and tell me he didn't mean a word of it. He doesn't outright respond but the next day invites himself over. He comes over but is acting VERY distant/standoffish. I close the distance, I try to be demonstrative. I'm not usually assertive. We go to sleep. We wake up. I try again to breach the subject. He threatens to leave. I tell him to leave. I have a horrible day because I feel like we are not on good terms. I feel like I overreacted but he was being unreasonable. I never would have told him to leave if he didn't threaten it.
Any Cap clue as to why he is so adamant that I "let it go"?
I should make that his ringtone because he is definitely on some Elsa shit "conceal don't feel".
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Just an update.
Yesterday I set something up to have us in a room together for hours. No not a hotel lol. It was 6 wonderful hours. I thought I was forcing him to spend time with me and he had plans of his own lol. I was surprised when he volunteered to pick me up, I thought we would meet there. He complimented me as soon as he saw me but added "I still don't like you." The first time I said "I like you but I think I can get over it." He kept complimenting me and saying he thought I got dolled up on purpose to tease him (of course he was right). He kissed my cheek and said "I still don't like you" again. I replied that time "Oh, I know. You love me." And then he brought up the other night "You just couldn't let it go...." he started, but it was good natured. I kept catching him staring at me and he was looking in my eyes whenever he could. Lol he was actually messing with me saying "You're kicking yourself you didn't speak up when you had the chance huh?". He was serenading me and just putting on the charm. Eventually I wore thin and kissed him and it was amazing as always. I have stars in my eyes!
AHA! I was totally correct on his vibe! Proud of my cappy senses. Weeeeee!
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Now - live in the moment. Just jump. Get swept up by the current. Let your heart lead.
Posted by SweetestFataleLOL! I agree.. I think they like a woman to stand up to their dominate ways every so often.. I once told him "You won't ALWAYS have the last word.." He smirked, then said, "Yea okay.." They like a woman that can take their shit.. I don't think sensitive woman can handle a Capricorn man IMO... But to each it's own... Again, they want you to follow their lead but have no problem with a woman standing up for their needs/wants also... You may not get it exactly how you want it.. but they try.. smh lol..Posted by poison_ivyLol that's exactly how I am and I think he likes it! From day 1 I've given him a hard time lol. He likes turning "no's" into "yes" so I have to give him the no's. Granted I think this only works when emotions aren't involved.Posted by ParisianCappyCap men want it their way.. OR NO way! lolPosted by poison_ivyLie, and Obey to capricornPosted by starwarsLOL! Sad, but true....
cap mens are cray i tell u the definition of drama queens
every so often I'm submissive to his wants/needs but I still talk my shit. 😛
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Posted by poison_ivyI agree that they are not for the wilting flower type lol. I absolutely ADORE how dominant he is. I'm a very strong woman so finding a man to tame that in me is intoxicating. Lol it means it doesn't scare him! I definitely like a man who can lead but it won't be by dragging me along!Posted by SweetestFataleLOL! I agree.. I think they like a woman to stand up to their dominate ways every so often.. I once told him "You won't ALWAYS have the last word.." He smirked, then said, "Yea okay.." They like a woman that can take their shit.. I don't think sensitive woman can handle a Capricorn man IMO... But to each it's own... Again, they want you to follow their lead but have no problem with a woman standing up for their needs/wants also... You may not get it exactly how you want it.. but they try.. smh lol..Posted by poison_ivyLol that's exactly how I am and I think he likes it! From day 1 I've given him a hard time lol. He likes turning "no's" into "yes" so I have to give him the no's. Granted I think this only works when emotions aren't involved.Posted by ParisianCappyCap men want it their way.. OR NO way! lolPosted by poison_ivyLie, and Obey to capricornPosted by starwarsLOL! Sad, but true....
cap mens are cray i tell u the definition of drama queens
every so often I'm submissive to his wants/needs but I still talk my shit. 😛
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Posted by CAPS-LOCKLOL! You know I'm right! 😛Posted by poison_ivyPosted by SweetestFataleLOL! I agree.. I think they like a woman to stand up to their dominate ways every so often.. I once told him "You won't ALWAYS have the last word.." He smirked, then said, "Yea okay.." They like a woman that can take their shit.. I don't think sensitive woman can handle a Capricorn man IMO... But to each it's own... Again, they want you to follow their lead but have no problem with a woman standing up for their needs/wants also... You may not get it exactly how you want it.. but they try.. smh lol..Posted by poison_ivyLol that's exactly how I am and I think he likes it! From day 1 I've given him a hard time lol. He likes turning "no's" into "yes" so I have to give him the no's. Granted I think this only works when emotions aren't involved.Posted by ParisianCappyCap men want it their way.. OR NO way! lolPosted by poison_ivyLie, and Obey to capricornPosted by starwarsLOL! Sad, but true....
cap mens are cray i tell u the definition of drama queens
every so often I'm submissive to his wants/needs but I still talk my shit. 😛
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Posted by SweetestFataleDitto girl!! I'm a tough cookie.. & I love that he's patient with me and can "tame" me in a respectful way.. I've often been "puit in my place" & I'm not gonna lie, I be mad but turned tf on.. lol!Posted by poison_ivyI agree that they are not for the wilting flower type lol. I absolutely ADORE how dominant he is. I'm a very strong woman so finding a man to tame that in me is intoxicating. Lol it means it doesn't scare him! I definitely like a man who can lead but it won't be by dragging me along!Posted by SweetestFataleLOL! I agree.. I think they like a woman to stand up to their dominate ways every so often.. I once told him "You won't ALWAYS have the last word.." He smirked, then said, "Yea okay.." They like a woman that can take their shit.. I don't think sensitive woman can handle a Capricorn man IMO... But to each it's own... Again, they want you to follow their lead but have no problem with a woman standing up for their needs/wants also... You may not get it exactly how you want it.. but they try.. smh lol..Posted by poison_ivyLol that's exactly how I am and I think he likes it! From day 1 I've given him a hard time lol. He likes turning "no's" into "yes" so I have to give him the no's. Granted I think this only works when emotions aren't involved.Posted by ParisianCappyCap men want it their way.. OR NO way! lolPosted by poison_ivyLie, and Obey to capricornPosted by starwarsLOL! Sad, but true....
cap mens are cray i tell u the definition of drama queens
every so often I'm submissive to his wants/needs but I still talk my shit. 😛
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Posted by CAPS-LOCKPosted by poison_ivyOoo Im scared. Your sting is fatal ?Posted by CAPS-LOCKLOL! You know I'm right! 😛Posted by poison_ivyPosted by SweetestFataleLOL! I agree.. I think they like a woman to stand up to their dominate ways every so often.. I once told him "You won't ALWAYS have the last word.." He smirked, then said, "Yea okay.." They like a woman that can take their shit.. I don't think sensitive woman can handle a Capricorn man IMO... But to each it's own... Again, they want you to follow their lead but have no problem with a woman standing up for their needs/wants also... You may not get it exactly how you want it.. but they try.. smh lol..Posted by poison_ivyLol that's exactly how I am and I think he likes it! From day 1 I've given him a hard time lol. He likes turning "no's" into "yes" so I have to give him the no's. Granted I think this only works when emotions aren't involved.Posted by ParisianCappyCap men want it their way.. OR NO way! lolPosted by poison_ivyLie, and Obey to capricornPosted by starwarsLOL! Sad, but true....
cap mens are cray i tell u the definition of drama queens
every so often I'm submissive to his wants/needs but I still talk my shit. 😛
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This thread is getting good lol We do like to be dominant.. the hardest for me was Leo sun Cap moon girl, plus she was Dominican with fire placements - and I was her first. In the end a breakup and seeing me with other women submitted her. Too late though -
My first was a Cap lol. Unfortunately he is a January Cap. Lol he actually contacted me just a few weeks ago and I told him I had found a new Capricorn man. I know they like them saucy but not evil. It seems like December Caps are WAY more considerate and stable. Still passionate, fun and smart tho.
Posted by CAPR1LICIOUSYou're right, they are. I guess since I'm a Taurus and like traditional roles and I appreciate the former. Lol although my Cap and I have bumped heads about child rearing. He's old school with it and I'm more new age (his words).Posted by SweetestFataleMy cousin brother is a December Cap. I agree with you, December Caps are more stable, but they tend to be very old fashioned.
My first was a Cap lol. Unfortunately he is a January Cap. Lol he actually contacted me just a few weeks ago and I told him I had found a new Capricorn man. I know they like them saucy but not evil. It seems like December Caps are WAY more considerate and stable. Still passionate, fun and smart tho.
I respect my cousin brother a lot and he has always been there for me, but I lose patience with his regressive views on society and gender roles.
The January Caps are more liberal and outgoing, in my opinion.click to expand
Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by ParisianCappyI snorted out loud. omg dying!!
gemitati judging someone being a mental case. I LIKE WTF DID YOU LOOK THE SHIT THAT YOU ARE POSTING ON DXP 😆.click to expand
I am glad you understood what this freak was saying! Because I have no idea! Not that I care...
Posted by SweetestFataleThis is correct, we are lol 🙂
My first was a Cap lol. Unfortunately he is a January Cap. Lol he actually contacted me just a few weeks ago and I told him I had found a new Capricorn man. I know they like them saucy but not evil. It seems like December Caps are WAY more considerate and stable. Still passionate, fun and smart tho.
Posted by CAPR1LICIOUS"but they tend to be very old fashioned." This is true too, doesn't mean we aren't progressive thoughPosted by SweetestFataleMy cousin brother is a December Cap. I agree with you, December Caps are more stable, but they tend to be very old fashioned.
My first was a Cap lol. Unfortunately he is a January Cap. Lol he actually contacted me just a few weeks ago and I told him I had found a new Capricorn man. I know they like them saucy but not evil. It seems like December Caps are WAY more considerate and stable. Still passionate, fun and smart tho.
I respect my cousin brother a lot and he has always been there for me, but I lose patience with his regressive views on society and gender roles.
The January Caps are more liberal and outgoing, in my opinion.click to expand
Posted by CAPR1LICIOUSWith him not having children it seems like he's always watching a woman for motherly traits. He made it clear he is looking for a wife and would lIke children. We discussed children the first time we met lol. He's mentioned it many times since then. I think he's dropping hints. I too want at least another child so perhaps in the future if things continue as well as they are now. We'd be older parents but I'm ok with that. I can tell he'd be a stern but fun Dad.Posted by SweetestFataleYou guys are discussing children already? That's adorable! Lol.Posted by CAPR1LICIOUSYou're right, they are. I guess since I'm a Taurus and like traditional roles and I appreciate the former. Lol although my Cap and I have bumped heads about child rearing. He's old school with it and I'm more new age (his words).Posted by SweetestFataleMy cousin brother is a December Cap. I agree with you, December Caps are more stable, but they tend to be very old fashioned.
My first was a Cap lol. Unfortunately he is a January Cap. Lol he actually contacted me just a few weeks ago and I told him I had found a new Capricorn man. I know they like them saucy but not evil. It seems like December Caps are WAY more considerate and stable. Still passionate, fun and smart tho.
I respect my cousin brother a lot and he has always been there for me, but I lose patience with his regressive views on society and gender roles.
The January Caps are more liberal and outgoing, in my opinion.
My sister is a Taurus as well. She loves traditional roles too. 🙂
I can do the traditional stuff, if I really love someone, but even a hint of male chauvinism is enough to turn me off.
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