@sbbaby
9 Years
Please help me understand
Understanding Capricorn Behavior in Relationships
Capricorn individuals often prioritize work and stability, which can lead to mixed signals in romantic situations. Their actions may seem caring but are often driven by practicality rather than romantic interest. When they pull back after emotional openness, it can be due to their focus on boundaries and professionalism. Recognizing these traits helps clarify their intentions and behavior.
Posted by Frostbite
You don't need to understand why he did that at this point. It would be a humiliation for a person with any dignity left in them to contemplate the existence of someone who "looks at them like some piece of dirt". Or at least I myself wouldn't bother analyzing this.
true that - screw him and get on with a life and to someone who deserves you ...
You are absolutely right, I feel so wounded because I was really into this guy and when this thunderstorm will pass, I will probably sede it for myself. I would like your opinions though.
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"https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/message/?id=7697256">Posted by Frostbite
You don't need to understand why he did that at this point. It would be a humiliation for a person with any dignity left in them to contemplate the existence of someone who "looks at them like some piece of dirt". Or at least I myself wouldn't bother analyzing this.
Posted by Capri-sun
He isn't interested and is using the job (you 2 working together) as his excuse
Could be. But waiting for Over a year to say it..
Unfortunately no
Posted by sbbaby
Unfortunately no
He's not single? Why hit on a guy thats taken? He never replied to your messages? I think he was just enjoying a flirt in work.
I did not mean to hit on a taken guy. I got to know him and I fell for his qualities.. Love unfortunately does not know logic. I wish I could forget about him so easily.
He said he "had his own experiences"
Posted by sbbaby
I did not mean to hit on a taken guy. I got to know him and I fell for his qualities.. Love unfortunately does not know logic. I wish I could forget about him so easily.
As soon as you started sending him private messages you were hitting on him. I'm not putting all the blame on you or judging you I'm just stating the facts. You're playing with fire trying to get involved with someone who's not single. I wouldn't call it love either, more like infatuation. Take it as a lesson learned and moved on. Moving jobs will help get over him.
I sent, every now and then, sweet messages to him and he was so happy when he read them,but never replied.
how do you know what he felt if he never responded to them...—
Sure it is a lesson, but never rejected anything coming from me. When I tried to distance myself from him, he was the one moving from his desk to sit next to me, asking me if I was dating, looking for eye contact and being utterly displeased if I talked to other males. He was always around, and I do not say I didn't throw myself at him, I just say this did not discouraged me,it just did the opposite and I do not understand what purpose it served.
I sent, every now and then, sweet messages to him and he was so happy when he read them,but never replied.
how do you know what he felt if he never responded to them...—
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Because I saw him once when he read a couple of messages I sent and he didn't read them right away,but hours later and we were in a room filled with people; he smiled and stared at me in a very loving way
I sent, every now and then, sweet messages to him and he was so happy when he read them,but never replied.
how do you know what he felt if he never responded to them...—
Because I saw him once when he read a couple of messages I sent and he didn't read them right away,but hours later and we were in a room filled with people; he smiled and stared at me in a very loving way
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You have no way of knowing if he read your messages. He could've been reading other emails or playing solitaire for all you know.
Him smiling at you hours later is not conclusively connected. Smile does not equal love or happiness.
You've created this fantasy of him and how he feels towards you and its all in your head. Come back down to earth with the rest of us.
I sent, every now and then, sweet messages to him and he was so happy when he read them,but never replied.
how do you know what he felt if he never responded to them...—
Because I saw him once when he read a couple of messages I sent and he didn't read them right away,but hours later and we were in a room filled with people; he smiled and stared at me in a very loving way
You have no way of knowing if he read your messages. He could've been reading other emails or playing solitaire for all you know.
Him smiling at you hours later is not conclusively connected. Smile does not equal love or happiness.
You've created this fantasy of him and how he feels towards you and its all in your head. Come back down to earth with the rest of us.
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I was next to him when he read them, I saw they were my messages..anyway, moving on.
Posted by sbbaby
Sure it is a lesson, but never rejected anything coming from me. When I tried to distance myself from him, he was the one moving from his desk to sit next to me, asking me if I was dating, looking for eye contact and being utterly displeased if I talked to other males. He was always around, and I do not say I didn't throw myself at him, I just say this did not discouraged me,it just did the opposite and I do not understand what purpose it served.It just sounds like he cares because you and him work together.
Might also be that he's enjoying the attention you're giving him.
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Thank you Sakura Flowers I thought that too
I sent, every now and then, sweet messages to him and he was so happy when he read them,but never replied.
how do you know what he felt if he never responded to them...—
Because I saw him once when he read a couple of messages I sent and he didn't read them right away,but hours later and we were in a room filled with people; he smiled and stared at me in a very loving way
You have no way of knowing if he read your messages. He could've been reading other emails or playing solitaire for all you know.
Him smiling at you hours later is not conclusively connected. Smile does not equal love or happiness.
You've created this fantasy of him and how he feels towards you and its all in your head. Come back down to earth with the rest of us.
I was next to him when he read them, I saw they were my messages..anyway, moving on.
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So if you were right next to him when he read them, why wouldn't he smile at you then??!
Its far more likely he was giving that so called 'loving look' to someone just behind you. Awkward.
Posted by sbbaby
I did not mean to hit on a taken guy. I got to know him and I fell for his qualities.. Love unfortunately does not know logic. I wish I could forget about him so easily.
When you give incomplete facts how can u except anyone to give right insite .
He is not single . Obviously he can give you a disgusted look.
Posted by sbbaby
My Capricorn works with me. He is my boss. He is always been sweet and started flirting and sending hot glances. For over a year. When I confessed my feelings for him, he rejected me because we work together. He didn't say he did not want me,he said it was because of the job. I sent, every now and then, sweet messages to him and he was so happy when he read them,but never replied.But he couldn't stand people getting next to me. I have announced him I am looking for another job because he knows I can't afford being a part time working single mom,and he seemed to support me in this. Today I asked him if I would work somewhere else, will something happen between the two of us and he looked at me like he never did like I was some piece of dirt,he wasn't upset, he really despised me and I cannot explain myself this behaviour.
He always told me he cared for me and always was there for me,now what? He seems like a psycho, it's all good until I open up about my feelings!
Caps love money and status. We rarely compromise our position at work for a fling.
Posted by sbbaby
My Capricorn works with me. He is my boss. He is always been sweet and started flirting and sending hot glances. For over a year. When I confessed my feelings for him, he rejected me because we work together. He didn't say he did not want me,he said it was because of the job. I sent, every now and then, sweet messages to him and he was so happy when he read them,but never replied.But he couldn't stand people getting next to me. I have announced him I am looking for another job because he knows I can't afford being a part time working single mom,and he seemed to support me in this. Today I asked him if I would work somewhere else, will something happen between the two of us and he looked at me like he never did like I was some piece of dirt,he wasn't upset, he really despised me and I cannot explain myself this behaviour.
He always told me he cared for me and always was there for me,now what? He seems like a psycho, it's all good until I open up about my feelings!
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My Capricorn works with me. He is my boss. He is always been sweet and started flirting and sending hot glances. For over a year. When I confessed my feelings for him, he rejected me because we work together. He didn't say he did not want me,he said it was because of the job. I sent, every now and then, sweet messages to him and he was so happy when he read them,but never replied.
But he couldn't stand people getting next to me. I have announced him I am looking for another job because he knows I can't afford being a part time working single mom,and he seemed to support me in this. Today I asked him if I would work somewhere else, will something happen between the two of us and he looked at me like he never did like I was some piece of dirt,he wasn't upset, he really despised me and I cannot explain myself this behaviour.
He always told me he cared for me and always was there for me,now what? He seems like a psycho, it's all good until I open up about my feelings!