same game

we just found words for things that's probably been happening even yearssss ago

benching- keeping your options open

breadcrumbing- keeping the interest of your benchwarmers

ghosting/cloaking- moving on to someone else

cuffing- keep you warm for the holidays

uncuffing- open season for summer flings

cushioning- safety net

firedooring- one sided

haunting- watching IG stories even though they don't reach out anymore

catfishing- your picture from 20 years ago

negging- depends on what kind of daddy issue you have, too bad for them if your dad worshipped you

orbiting- much like benching and breadcrumbing

stashing/pocketing- keeps you like a dirty secret to keep options open

submarining- ghosts then comes back like nothing

meanwhile, back in 1950

She HAS to be a SAG!!!

https://www.vice.com/en_us/article/7xd3je/ghosted-watching-instagram-stories-haunting

Posted by saggurl88

She HAS to be a SAG!!!

https://www.vice.com/en_us/article/7xd3je/ghosted-watching-instagram-stories-haunting

i can see her being a sag

anyway, i like love bombing

benching is forgivable

stashing/pocketing is just eww

Posted by virgoOPPP

Posted by saggurl88

She HAS to be a SAG!!!

https://www.vice.com/en_us/article/7xd3je/ghosted-watching-instagram-stories-haunting

i can see her being a sag

anyway, i like love bombing

benching is forgivable

stashing/pocketing is just eww

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I think haunting pisses me off the worst. I don’t understand why people do it.

I think I would start a negging war, I wish someone would do that. It could be fun to see who can out meg who with back handed insults.

Love bombing is a new favorite of mine as well. I should start sending future prospects a link to it, so the know what I am expecting 😅❤️💞❣️

Posted by Phangus

So, is this what people with no social skills do? Mimic real social behavior, but give everything a negative spin, a title, and a video?

i think people should be good sports

some people just change their mind

some just are not that into you

best to just move on

@saggurl88 do you notice less attractive guys play more games? (those considered not conventionally attractive or even ugly)?

Posted by Black-Mamba

how about icing?

i think that's similar to the 'slow fade'... right?

Posted by MrsElleCappysnatch

Posted by MissKrabs

Lo found it

Mermaiding: bored after one day, went to the ocean and you never saw her again.

Zombieing: someone who ghosts you but breaks the silence after awhile, came back from the dead.

I read a different definition for mermaiding.....someone who dates you to get you to pay for stuff and then dumps you. 😂🤣

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classic pisces

Posted by Black-Mamba

Icing

My beautiful – actually quite stunning in precesense and mind – date reached out about five days after I left her a voicemail, saying she had gotten busy. A quick discussion with a buddy “in the know” led me to realize, I hadn’t been ghosted.

I’d been iced.

Icing isn’t the sweet stuff that you put on a cake; it’s when someone behaves very cool towards you. Responses come sporadically and will be more generic than specific. Trying to make plans will yield responses like “let me get back to you.”

You’re sweet and all…

Are you icing people? Stop. Really, not every guy or girl is a China Doll. It’s OK to play it like it is. Keep a good friend vs. just being a % $ .

Try this: So, here’s the thing: I like you. I like that you _____, and you would probably be great to be friends with.

Warning: If they agree that friendship is cool, make the next four or five – YES four or five – connections be in groups. Test that friendship is going to work. Constant advances aren’t OK. If that’s what it turns out to be, bail.

Feeling cool?

The good news with icing is that the other person is kinda into you. They do like you. Otherwise, they’d ghost. Chances are, they aren’t so sure. That’s worth a little bit of effort, right?

Icing is kind of weird. People do get busy. But, for me, if someone wants to spend time with you, they make the time. At very least, an “I wish I could see you, but I’m booked” text will fill the gap.

Dealing with icing takes a bit of commitment. Give yourself a strategy and stick to it. Flex if you have a reason other than “I really like them.”

My strategy is 2/4. I’ll reach out twice, four days apart. So, if I reach out to someone – phone, text, email – and they don’t respond in four days AND I really like them, I’ll call – note: call – them and ask a hard “when can we get together again?” But, that’s it. With icing, that second call is going to go to VM. If they do answer, chances are icing isn’t what’s going on – something else is.

If that second call is met with something other than a “let’s get together x,” I’m out. Yeah, doing simple math, I give people eight days to show me their interested. If they can’t show some sign of interest in eight days, they really aren’t interested.

… and sometimes, they do show a sign.

Simmering

This is the worst of the worst. Simmering is literally popping something on the back burner. You’re that something. You’re the other person’s plan B.

They’re looking for x and they might settle for you.

No one wants to be settled for, right?

If you’re a simmerer, just say you’re not interested. Maybe you kind of are, but do everyone a favor, just say you’re not. See, if you’re not interested, you can become interested. But, if you simmer someone, you’re just a $ #&% .

Even if you think you have good intentions, you’re being a $ #&% .

Don’t simmer. Please?

Losing steam?

When you’re being simmered, you have to be the strong one. That puts you in the awful position of having to bail on someone you actually like.

But, here’s the thing: you’re only around for their ego. Even if things would escalate to a relationship, chances are, you’re only arm candy for their ego. Like, brain-candy.

Don’t tell the simmerer, but the reality is quite simple: they’re just not ready for an adult relationship. In an adult relationship, you like someone and you want to give it a shot… or you’re not willing to give it a shot. Simmerers just aren’t willing to give it a shot.

i'm too impatient and egotistic to be iced or simmered

bet a 4 would play more games than a better-looking guy

gotta compensate

Posted by WaterRooster

I’m exhausted just reading all this

me too

my first house is just depressed thinking about how this goes on

Posted by Hell

Then we have the robot.

saw this story in 1950s comics about a man who hired this woman to be his wife so he'd blend in. she fell in love with him coz he gave her everything except he ignores her. then turns out in the end he's a robot planning to take over Earth.

classic robotzone.

happens when you're sentimental but the other party's all about the politics.

😭😭😭😭

also why are there so many gold diggers in 1950s comics?

"iT wAS a DifFerEnt tIME baCk tHen."

Posted by Black-Mamba

Posted by saggurl88

She HAS to be a SAG!!!

https://www.vice.com/en_us/article/7xd3je/ghosted-watching-instagram-stories-haunting

Great read.

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It makes me sad. It can be so confusing when these types of things happen this way, but I'm glad there are people who can figure it out and give others some relief.

Posted by virgoOPPP

@saggurl88 do you notice less attractive guys play more games? (those considered not conventionally attractive or even ugly)?

No love bug, it's the opposite for me because when I'm attracted to their looks, they get away with murder! 😭

If they aren't that attractive, I don't really care whether I lose them or not and they cling.

I wish I could treat guys that I'm attracted to like this, but I can barely even talk to them. My mind goes blank a lot when I'm too attracted, I don't even act normal. Emotions make me dumb. This is why NOT talking to them is a relief for me.

This can all fit under one easy word: toxic.

Don't touch toxic materials and wonder why ya got sick.

Also, someone being ugly or attractive doesn't factor into whether they'll be toxic. This has more to do with their character and however they cope with their environment. Current society is a hyper-competitive hell world. You against the world, and so, it's not surprising that everyone's playing zero-sum games with each-other.