Geminis I need help

Hello,i need help dealing with this girl that i like because she is driving me crazy,like literally crazy.

And btw my English is not that good

So i have known her for a lot years since ,but i i went abroad to finish my studies,so we kept in touch on

Skype and Facebook.



So every time we talk she asks if i'm coming back to country and all ,but due to studies i only return home in summer so we don't really see each other that much every year but she is always on my mind.the problem is when we talk is it takes her sometimes a week ,2 weeks,a month to answer and it pisses me off ,because all the people can be busy but still answers,but when i talk to her she is excited and all .

One day i called keep it calling her all the day but she didn't respond it and she didn't apologize or anything and she left me hanging 2 weeks,so i thought that at this point she was avoiding me, until today ,she replied"believe me i didn't receive any of you calls or even a notification," because i asked her 2 weeks ago if she is not replying on purpose and i feel somehow disrespected and i don't like anymore those type of replies,and i end it the text with good luck,

so she said :"as you wish i only said the truth,good luck to you too".



Did she get bored of waiting?or she was really busy? i don't know if i trust her or not .

Did she get angry because of my reaction?



I don't know if i fix that or move on ,because i told her i prefer being honest with her so we can avoid problems,

should i call her tomorrow?

what do you think Geminis?

Say all you want to say, don't hold back.

You are crazy indeed, or have nothing to do with your life, if someone you barely have contact with drives you crazy. Stop calling her and you will be fine. Let her be, she is not interested. To ask when you come back it's an obvious question, it doesn't mean that she wants you to come back.

Be honest with her. Leave a detailed sincere message about your feelings, concerns and maybe something about what kind of future plannings you have for both of you. Be clear and leave her some thoughts to ponder on, don't be too emotional. I don't know if it's a Gemini thing, but for me, I find it more amusing if someone leave me a whole page of emotional texts and when you summarize it, it's barely 2 sentences worth of ideas. If you can call her, that would be better I suppose but sometimes in the heat of the moment we might forget what we want to convey to the other so a message would be good to lay everything out in black and white. As you have stated, she might take months to reply and there's nothing you can do about it, right? Do your best on your part, make peace with whatever she replied (or perhaps no reply at all) and decide your next step from there. Remember to live your life, if she's meant for you, she'll come to you eventually.

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Posted by KnightsOfZodiac
Say all you want to say, don't hold back.

What do you expect from her? To be a steady friend or have you asked her to be your gf? I'm not sure I got that...

You haven't given her a definite answer as to when you would be back. That's a red flag. Why should she attach herself to you esp when you haven't discussed anything concrete.

Are you planning to move back to her country? Have you discussed relationship with her? Looks to me relationship is what you want but you aren't clear enough about your intentions.

Btw what is your sun sign?

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Thanks for your feedback Blue_Froggie,

Yep of course it's more than a friend or i wouldn't post here.

Yes i told her my intentions and that i like her more than a friend and that i prefer to continue the discussion when we will meet and she said "sure"i'm serious about her but i don't know what she thinks

yeah i'm definitely planning to move back after i finish my studies

i'm pisces

Posted by Undine
You are crazy indeed, or have nothing to do with your life, if someone you barely have contact with drives you crazy. Stop calling her and you will be fine. Let her be, she is not interested. To ask when you come back it's an obvious question, it doesn't mean that she wants you to come back.

haha yea,i feel crazy because i'm over thinking stuff and that's not my normal behavior,true but she told me that she have absolutely no reason to ignore me and that she wants me to try again 🙂

btw if you know that someone likes you,why you ask him when he will come back if you are not interested.

Posted by nanobyte

Posted by KnightsOfZodiac
Hello,i need help dealing with this girl that i like because she is driving me crazy,like literally crazy.

And btw my English is not that good

So i have known her for a lot years since ,but i i went abroad to finish my studies,so we kept in touch on

Skype and Facebook.



So every time we talk she asks if i'm coming back to country and all ,but due to studies i only return home in summer so we don't really see each other that much every year but she is always on my mind.the problem is when we talk is it takes her sometimes a week ,2 weeks,a month to answer and it pisses me off because all the people can be busy but still answers,but when i talk to her she is excited and all .

One day i called keep it calling her all the day but she didn't respond it and she didn't apologize or anything and she left me hanging 2 weeks,so i thought that at this point she was avoiding me, until today ,she replied"believe me i didn't receive any of you calls or even a notification," because i asked her 2 weeks ago if she is not replying on purpose and i feel somehow disrespected and i don't like anymore those type of replies,and i end it the text with good luck,

so she said :"as you wish i only said the truth,good luck to you too".



Did she get bored of waiting?or she was really busy? i don't know if i trust her or not

Did she get angry because of my reaction?



I don't know if i fix that or move on ,because i told her i prefer being honest with her so we can avoid problems,

should i call her tomorrow?

what do you think Geminis?

I don't know what country you're from, but you sound insane, insecure, and controlling. And a bit of a misogynist.

Who do you think you are to demand that she answer your call, and apologize for not responding? LOL.

Get real, dude. Here's a tip for you: You aren't entitled to anything, from anyone. She isn't required to respond to your texts or answer your calls. That is her choice and you can't make her do anything she doesn't want to do.

Gemini women don't like whiny crybaby men who stomp their feet like children when they don't get their way.

From what I read here, you will NEVER understand her and you will never be able to control her the way you clearly want to.

Are you a water sign? And what country are you in?

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Thanks nanobyte for your feedback,

haha interesting reply .

there is a bit of truth in what you said,but you lost some points in some stuff like WTF why misogynist.

You noticed all this from my text?? i'm in trouble haha,what do you study ?

yeah true you don't have to explain if you don't respect or care about the person,i don't know if you apply what you've just said with the people you know..

Lol i'm not crying ,what i know is treat people like you want yourself to be treated,and to treat them like they want to be treated everything goes in both ways .

nanobyte if you think i'm wrong than i'm illogical .

correct me if i'm wrong

Thanks.

Even if she has a lot of water and you a lot of air...pisces and gemini are a challenge.

Posted by arcito
Be honest with her. Leave a detailed sincere message about your feelings, concerns and maybe something about what kind of future plannings you have for both of you. Be clear and leave her some thoughts to ponder on, don't be too emotional. I don't know if it's a Gemini thing, but for me, I find it more amusing if someone leave me a whole page of emotional texts and when you summarize it, it's barely 2 sentences worth of ideas. If you can call her, that would be better I suppose but sometimes in the heat of the moment we might forget what we want to convey to the other so a message would be good to lay everything out in black and white. As you have stated, she might take months to reply and there's nothing you can do about it, right? Do your best on your part, make peace with whatever she replied (or perhaps no reply at all) and decide your next step from there. Remember to live your life, if she's meant for you, she'll come to you eventually.

Thanks Arcito,

I always check her out but the answer are mixed that's why i keep trying, ,no i'm not clingy person i really enjoy being alone ,i will try to send her something cool cuz i have my reason to not quit haha,i would love to surprise with actions more than with words,yep those gemini mixed signals are killing me lmao.

Thanks for you advice ,they are good.

Posted by Eddie_Vanjovi
You do need help. Stay away from this poor girl.

Yo broo,You need to kick out all those Negative vibes lmao

It's simple. If a Gemini wants you/likes you/is interested in you - WE WILL ALWAYS GET BACK TO YOU and WE ALWAYS WANT TO BE COMMUNICATING WITH YOU in whatever form and whether you're far or near.

If she isn't getting back to you ASAP then she just isn't interested. When she said OK good luck etc, it means she really just doesn't care and has been nice to you this whole time.

If she cared/was interested she wouldn't let it go so easily. She'd ask why? What's wrong? Let's talk about it etc. She would want to FIX it.

Honestly the more you push and ask why aren't you answering, are you ignoring me etc it will annoy her and she'll be gone. Just let her be. Let her think about you and miss you. We may be scatterbrained but if we want something/someone bad enough, WE WILL CHASE and do whatever until we have it/them.

You said you never see her...I'm confused. You mention you return home in summer, why not see her then?

OP, when you waiting for a month for her to text back - whennarenyoi starting to be pissed off? In first 10 days? Second 10 days or by the end of the month? —

Posted by LadyNeptune
You said you never see her...I'm confused. You mention you return home in summer, why not see her then?

By the time she'll respond to 'let's meet' - it'll be time for him to go back —?

Posted by nats
It's simple. If a Gemini wants you/likes you/is interested in you - WE WILL ALWAYS GET BACK TO YOU and WE ALWAYS WANT TO BE COMMUNICATING WITH YOU in whatever form and whether you're far or near.

If she isn't getting back to you ASAP then she just isn't interested. When she said OK good luck etc, it means she really just doesn't care and has been nice to you this whole time.

If she cared/was interested she wouldn't let it go so easily. She'd ask why? What's wrong? Let's talk about it etc. She would want to FIX it.

Honestly the more you push and ask why aren't you answering, are you ignoring me etc it will annoy her and she'll be gone. Just let her be. Let her think about you and miss you. We may be scatterbrained but if we want something/someone bad enough, WE WILL CHASE and do whatever until we have it/them.

Thanks you for reply, bro,

I think that to so i decided to stop contacting her!,even thought i had an arguments with her about the fact that it takes her a while to answer and she replied with me a screenshot of her message with her friends and the dates of the answers and that i hass passed this level lol whateve.. ,she used to ask why and all those questions until i had an other arguments about a different story ,but i wasn't completely controlling myself so i did provoke her sometimes!

Thanks Nats

Posted by LadyNeptune
You said you never see her...I'm confused. You mention you return home in summer, why not see her then?

I will after the presentation of my project and after doing my things..

Posted by Gemitati
OP, when you waiting for a month for her to text back - whennarenyoi starting to be pissed off? In first 10 days? Second 10 days or by the end of the month? —

there is some stuff that my mind cannot control ...guys stuff lmao,and to be honest it pisses me off when she replies ,even you know that! haha!

I just can't! I bet she's turned off on so many levels. If she's not responding.... just move on. She doesn't like you like that.

Posted by KnightsOfZodiac

Posted by LadyNeptune
You said you never see her...I'm confused. You mention you return home in summer, why not see her then?

I will after the presentation of my project and after doing my things..

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So she ranks last, after your school and your 'things'. You can't get mad if she ALSO prioritized other things over you. After all she's just following your lead.

Stop being a hypocritical douchebag and throwing a bitch fit if she doesn't reply back to you within your timeframe. Be grateful she even replies at all. ...I'd have dropped your ass long ago.

Posted by Wineaux15
I just can't! I bet she's turned off on so many levels. If she's not responding.... just move on. She doesn't like you like that.

Yep i'm farm from being perfect but it depends on what levels.we are talking about!

ps:you can't what 😛

Posted by KnightsOfZodiac

Posted by Wineaux15
I just can't! I bet she's turned off on so many levels. If she's not responding.... just move on. She doesn't like you like that.

Yep i'm farm from being perfect but it depends on what levels.we are talking about!

ps:you can't what 😛

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I can't begin to understand why you'd try to control her. As an air sign (Aqua) married to a Pisces, when you sent that last text expressing how upset you were that she didn't respond.... I'd reply with a text full of choice words putting you in your place... and I'd move on. However, many of my Gemini friends refuse to be controlled unless the have really strong feelings for you... and even then they'd have their limits on the control factor. She probably was so annoyed she thought she'd better not respond in fear of hurting your feelings because they can be quite blunt. So at least she cared enough to spare your feelings.

Plus, The only water signs I've seen in long lasting relationships with Gems are Cancers. Otherwise they're typically most happiest with fellow Gems and Aquas....

Posted by Wineaux15

Posted by KnightsOfZodiac

Posted by Wineaux15
I just can't! I bet she's turned off on so many levels. If she's not responding.... just move on. She doesn't like you like that.

Yep i'm farm from being perfect but it depends on what levels.we are talking about!

ps:you can't what 😛

I can't begin to understand why you'd try to control her. As an air sign (Aqua) married to a Pisces, when you sent that last text expressing how upset you were that she didn't respond.... I'd reply with a text full of choice words putting you in your place... and I'd move on. However, many of my Gemini friends refuse to be controlled unless the have really strong feelings for you... and even then they'd have their limits on the control factor. She probably was so annoyed she thought she'd better not respond in fear of hurting your feelings because they can be quite blunt. So at least she cared enough to spare your feelings.

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Or she doesn't give a damn...which I am feeling in the air! ?

It seems like she responding to him while cleaning her inbox. Like Oops! Who's that? Oh! Him! Hi back to you! Deleted.

Otherwise how do you even find month old text?