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Posted by Tom_Sawyer
Chuckcem, Leo dude, help me out if you would.

One of my best friends is a Leo.

Real asshole with a venomous tongue(sarcastic af and making fun of everyone) but overall a good cat with a good heart.

Anyways, we drink and party often, he brings the drugs like 60% of the time and helps out anytime, no questions asked.

So, I wanna show him my appreciation but he won't take money or gifts as a thank you.

Any idea how to solve this problem?


Leos will always take food or a party in our honor. Sounds like you have a party-Leo, so that should be easy to pull off.
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Posted by Rindaroo
Why would a Leo Male pine for an unrequited love for decades? Be there when she needed him, tell her he is just keeping in touch when he calls, tell her she is a friend? Ask her are you my friend?
It took too long to reconcile. Leo's tend to have a faster time table than other signs. If you take too long, we wonder about the delay. It's easier for us to keep you at arms length until we figure out your true intentions.
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Posted by jjpinki
do leo men hold grudges ??,we fell out yesterday ive already put a post asking advice about that ,, he sent friends request on fb today but he is being so cold and distant so wonder why he bothered when he doesnt seem to want to try and fix things,ive said sorry ive told him how bad i feel about the argument,so now im going to step back and say nothing else lol .
It's not so much a grudge, but if you betray our trust or hurt us, we typically won't come back the same way. He's probably willing to be friends, or he's looking to just keep tabs on you. Sounds like he is is being a bit passive aggressive, but it also depends on what the argument was about.
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thank u rindaroo ,i know i hurt him and trust me hes making sure i know it but im ok with that as long as he eventually gets back to how we were and get passed this .
Well I know this friend of mine really needs to fight about it lol. Communication is a huge thing for him. But, time to cool off is important too. It's not that they necessarily need an apology although that helps. More like they need to know you care.
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thank u rindaroo ,i know i hurt him and trust me hes making sure i know it but im ok with that as long as he eventually gets back to how we were and get passed this .
Well I know this friend of mine really needs to fight about it lol. Communication is a huge thing for him. But, time to cool off is important too. It's not that they necessarily need an apology although that helps. More like they need to know you care.
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^This.
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Why would a Leo Male pine for an unrequited love for decades? Be there when she needed him, tell her he is just keeping in touch when he calls, tell her she is a friend? Ask her are you my friend?
It took too long to reconcile. Leo's tend to have a faster time table than other signs. If you take too long, we wonder about the delay. It's easier for us to keep you at arms length until we figure out your true intentions.
I guess my question is why would he continue & not give up? Well there were 18 years with no contact & as soon as he found out I was divorced he came after me again. It was finally acted on then, and I suppose now there is hope even though it is not possible at the present time. So he does keep me at arms length but he never leaves, like he can't. Does this make any sense? Or is it all a fantasy for him? From your perspective of course.
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Sounds like he is interested, but he is unsure about your interest in him (or unsure if things will work out between you). He kept his distance when you were married and reemerged after your divorce. Leos are creatures of consistency. We will pursue when we like a person, it's just our nature. However, we will also protect our hearts adamantly when the circumstances aren't clear.

The real question is what do you want? We respect those that make their motivations clear to us.
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Posted by OrGasMe
There's this Leo guy I mentioned to you prior. He actually has a Libra moon and the rest of his placements are Virgo.

He Snapchats me nearly every day and acknowledges everything I ever post on any social media platform. But he sends me a lot of selfies or 'flexing' type pictures. I understand that he's proud of himself and I respect the hustle. But, had I not met him in person, I would never give him the time of day. It's a turnoff to get so many damn pictures of him and his body 24/7.

However, I know there's more to him then the vain pictures. So my question is... How should I react to his pictures? I know he sends them to other people and probably receives recognition. I'm not good at giving half-assed compliments. I'm either genuinely happy for someone or I don't say a word. Do you think he wants me to say something when he sends me pictures?

Also, just less then a year ago I was at a party and I got everyone to get naked. So last night I posted a picture of my friend's cleavage for shits and giggles and he commented on it saying that he 'remembered those amazing perky boobs' thinking that the picture was of mine.

I get that I'm a free-spirit and all... But would you take this as a red-flag? As in not serious about getting to know me and more invested in getting to know my body since he seems so focused on his own?

I understand how he could be focused on a sexual conquest as I bring it on myself by getting everyone naked all the time. LOL

But I'm truly not interested in hooking up with people.

PS... How are you Chuckcem? ?
(I'm good! Thanks for asking.)

This guy sounds like he puts a lot of emphasis on his looks. My question is, why do you feel there is more to him? Sounds like you're looking for something deeper and more mentally stimulating than what he's currently displaying. In which case, let him know that you want to get to know him in a more meaningful and less superficial way. Validating his current behavior won't get you the results you're looking for form him. Just know that this guy may not be that deep to being with.

Also be mindful of the energy you are putting out (especially to guys). Sounds like this guy may have a certain opinion of you based on your free spirit demeanor. Obviously you should be free to do what you want and be who you are, but also remember that the energy you put out, is the energy you'll get back.

I wouldn't say that the Leo commenting on the photo was a red flag, but I will say that he seems to see you in a certain light. If you're putting out sexual vibes, you're generally going to attract people who are looking for sex. Also remember guys are typically looking for sex regardless. If you want a guy to become acquainted with your mind, then engage him mentally and see if he can reciprocate. If he can't, then there's not much depth to him.
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Posted by Rozaeon
1) Why some leo men tends to be really abusive in relationship ? It's because of insecurities ?

2) Do they tend to lie or hide things ?

3) Are Leos really that self-centered ? Or it's just a minority who is like that ?

4) With which sign you feel more compatible with ?
1) If someone is abusive it generally stems from past trauma and/or low self esteem which results in a need to dominate or control. This is a trait that can be found in any of the signs, not just Leo.

2) Not really, though any sign can lie. Leos tend to be more direct and honest with our intentions, but again anyone can lie.

3) Leos can be self centered, arrogant, and ego focused when we are less mature or unevolved. Mature Leos are generally not this way though.

4) I personally get along with most if not all of the signs due to my placements. Leos in general tend to get along with everyone. We usually get along well with other fire and air signs though.
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1) Why some leo men tends to be really abusive in relationship ? It's because of insecurities ?

2) Do they tend to lie or hide things ?

3) Are Leos really that self-centered ? Or it's just a minority who is like that ?

4) With which sign you feel more compatible with ?
1) If someone is abusive it generally stems from past trauma and/or low self esteem which results in a need to dominate or control. This is a trait that can be found in any of the signs, not just Leo.

2) Not really, though any sign can lie. Leos tend to be more direct and honest with our intentions, but again anyone can lie.

3) Leos can be self centered, arrogant, and ego focused when we are less mature or unevolved. Mature Leos are generally not this way though.

4) I personally get along with most if not all of the signs due to my placements. Leos in general tend to get along with everyone. We usually get along well with other fire and air signs though.
First of all, thank you for your responses ^^

I know that this trait can be found in any of the signs, it's a topic that has nothing to do with astrology in the first place, i asked without thinking twice ( and honestly because i had a biased opinion because of what i've read and lived also in the past )

But my real question is do Leos prefer " submissive " kind of personality or a " strong " one ? Since you are

more dominant ( i think )

What are your placements ?
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We like our partners who can be our equals. Strong enough to stand up to us, but also willing to let us lead. Leo's don't like to be led or dominated fully (though we are more than willing to hand over the reins to our partner in the bedroom). Being to strong willed will cause a lover to butt heads with a Leo and a partner who is too submissive will bore us.

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Why would a Leo Male pine for an unrequited love for decades? Be there when she needed him, tell her he is just keeping in touch when he calls, tell her she is a friend? Ask her are you my friend?
It took too long to reconcile. Leo's tend to have a faster time table than other signs. If you take too long, we wonder about the delay. It's easier for us to keep you at arms length until we figure out your true intentions.
I guess my question is why would he continue & not give up? Well there were 18 years with no contact & as soon as he found out I was divorced he came after me again. It was finally acted on then, and I suppose now there is hope even though it is not possible at the present time. So he does keep me at arms length but he never leaves, like he can't. Does this make any sense? Or is it all a fantasy for him? From your perspective of course.
Sounds like he is interested, but he is unsure about your interest in him (or unsure if things will work out between you). He kept his distance when you were married and reemerged after your divorce. Leos are creatures of consistency. We will pursue when we like a person, it's just our nature. However, we will also protect our hearts adamantly when the circumstances aren't clear.

The real question is what do you want? We respect those that make their motivations clear to us.
That is a good question. I did want it all, but there were complications/obstacles. We live 700 miles away from each other is one that will not go away at least for 2 more years. I did try to move back 2 years ago but failed. About a year & half ago, I walked away because he did not do what I needed to see. There was a lot of letting go on my part. I started dating someone else that has become serious but not sure where the future lies & if I will still move back or not. He has accepted friendship & been quite selfless in some ways.. doing what I want ( as in friends as long as I'm in a relationship). Sometimes I wonder if it is just a timing thing & the time still isn't right, or if I am meant to walk a different path. He still doesn't show me what I needed to see. So I walk another path. Seems to me he should've given up by now. The connection is strong. idk what to think about it sometimes. He is a great friend at the very least. I had promised I would not stop being friends like I did when I got married before. At times, that is difficult & other times I can't imagine life without his friendship. Obviously, it's not clear.
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Did you specify what you needed to see from the Leo? Long distance can be tough, but Leo is one of the signs that can make it work.
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There's this Leo guy I mentioned to you prior. He actually has a Libra moon and the rest of his placements are Virgo.

He Snapchats me nearly every day and acknowledges everything I ever post on any social media platform. But he sends me a lot of selfies or 'flexing' type pictures. I understand that he's proud of himself and I respect the hustle. But, had I not met him in person, I would never give him the time of day. It's a turnoff to get so many damn pictures of him and his body 24/7.

However, I know there's more to him then the vain pictures. So my question is... How should I react to his pictures? I know he sends them to other people and probably receives recognition. I'm not good at giving half-assed compliments. I'm either genuinely happy for someone or I don't say a word. Do you think he wants me to say something when he sends me pictures?

Also, just less then a year ago I was at a party and I got everyone to get naked. So last night I posted a picture of my friend's cleavage for shits and giggles and he commented on it saying that he 'remembered those amazing perky boobs' thinking that the picture was of mine.

I get that I'm a free-spirit and all... But would you take this as a red-flag? As in not serious about getting to know me and more invested in getting to know my body since he seems so focused on his own?

I understand how he could be focused on a sexual conquest as I bring it on myself by getting everyone naked all the time. LOL

But I'm truly not interested in hooking up with people.

PS... How are you Chuckcem? ?
(I'm good! Thanks for asking.)

This guy sounds like he puts a lot of emphasis on his looks. My question is, why do you feel there is more to him? Sounds like you're looking for something deeper and more mentally stimulating than what he's currently displaying. In which case, let him know that you want to get to know him in a more meaningful and less superficial way. Validating his current behavior won't get you the results you're looking for form him. Just know that this guy may not be that deep to being with.

Also be mindful of the energy you are putting out (especially to guys). Sounds like this guy may have a certain opinion of you based on your free spirit demeanor. Obviously you should be free to do what you want and be who you are, but also remember that the energy you put out, is the energy you'll get back.

I wouldn't say that the Leo commenting on the photo was a red flag, but I will say that he seems to see you in a certain light. If you're putting out sexual vibes, you're generally going to attract people who are looking for sex. Also remember guys are typically looking for sex regardless. If you want a guy to become acquainted with your mind, then engage him mentally and see if he can reciprocate. If he can't, then there's not much depth to him.
There seemed to be more to him from the conversations we've had.

Yes I totally understand what you mean. Aside from DXP interactions, I haven't put 'sexual energy' out there like that in awhile. I think that I naturally do have to deal with having that aura. It's just who I am. But I haven't been into anything wild per usual for months. And I don't plan to.

I can understand someone genuinely giving me a compliment about my boobs. I freely compliment body parts all the time. But I think that his tone or the way that I took it was sexual. And that completely turned me off. The other thing is, he wanted to take me on a proper date when we first met. I agreed to it, and he hasn't initiated plans. That's a big turn-off for me.

You bring up good points. I think I'll let this one go unless he's willing to prove that he's interested in more then just sex.

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So I'd guess that a lot of assumptions concerning your character are being made from his end. It's possible that he's using the pictures to gauge your interest, but again if this is a turn off for you don't validate his behavior. You definitely want to know that he has more depth than he is currently displaying. I suggest bringing up the fact that he hasn't asked you out yet. (Is this the same guy who got the DUI?)
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There's this Leo guy I mentioned to you prior. He actually has a Libra moon and the rest of his placements are Virgo.

He Snapchats me nearly every day and acknowledges everything I ever post on any social media platform. But he sends me a lot of selfies or 'flexing' type pictures. I understand that he's proud of himself and I respect the hustle. But, had I not met him in person, I would never give him the time of day. It's a turnoff to get so many damn pictures of him and his body 24/7.

However, I know there's more to him then the vain pictures. So my question is... How should I react to his pictures? I know he sends them to other people and probably receives recognition. I'm not good at giving half-assed compliments. I'm either genuinely happy for someone or I don't say a word. Do you think he wants me to say something when he sends me pictures?

Also, just less then a year ago I was at a party and I got everyone to get naked. So last night I posted a picture of my friend's cleavage for shits and giggles and he commented on it saying that he 'remembered those amazing perky boobs' thinking that the picture was of mine.

I get that I'm a free-spirit and all... But would you take this as a red-flag? As in not serious about getting to know me and more invested in getting to know my body since he seems so focused on his own?

I understand how he could be focused on a sexual conquest as I bring it on myself by getting everyone naked all the time. LOL

But I'm truly not interested in hooking up with people.

PS... How are you Chuckcem? ?
(I'm good! Thanks for asking.)

This guy sounds like he puts a lot of emphasis on his looks. My question is, why do you feel there is more to him? Sounds like you're looking for something deeper and more mentally stimulating than what he's currently displaying. In which case, let him know that you want to get to know him in a more meaningful and less superficial way. Validating his current behavior won't get you the results you're looking for form him. Just know that this guy may not be that deep to being with.

Also be mindful of the energy you are putting out (especially to guys). Sounds like this guy may have a certain opinion of you based on your free spirit demeanor. Obviously you should be free to do what you want and be who you are, but also remember that the energy you put out, is the energy you'll get back.

I wouldn't say that the Leo commenting on the photo was a red flag, but I will say that he seems to see you in a certain light. If you're putting out sexual vibes, you're generally going to attract people who are looking for sex. Also remember guys are typically looking for sex regardless. If you want a guy to become acquainted with your mind, then engage him mentally and see if he can reciprocate. If he can't, then there's not much depth to him.
There seemed to be more to him from the conversations we've had.

Yes I totally understand what you mean. Aside from DXP interactions, I haven't put 'sexual energy' out there like that in awhile. I think that I naturally do have to deal with having that aura. It's just who I am. But I haven't been into anything wild per usual for months. And I don't plan to.

I can understand someone genuinely giving me a compliment about my boobs. I freely compliment body parts all the time. But I think that his tone or the way that I took it was sexual. And that completely turned me off. The other thing is, he wanted to take me on a proper date when we first met. I agreed to it, and he hasn't initiated plans. That's a big turn-off for me.

You bring up good points. I think I'll let this one go unless he's willing to prove that he's interested in more then just sex.


So I'd guess that a lot of assumptions concerning your character are being made from his end. It's possible that he's using the pictures to gauge your interest, but again if this is a turn off for you don't validate his behavior. You definitely want to know that he has more depth than he is currently displaying. I suggest bringing up the fact that he hasn't asked you out yet. (Is this the same guy who got the DUI?)


I am really not interested in men that can't take the initiative. I used to be lenient and patient. But lately I've tightened my standards on people who don't follow-through. If he can't follow through with a first date, how is he supposed to follow-through with anything longer-term? Ultimately, I am ready for something serious. I don't expect a serious relationship right off the bat, but I want to know it's going somewhere. He has mentioned getting together or has reached out when he's out and about in my city.

But what I truly desire is to be treated like a woman. I guess if he has pre-conceived assumptions due to a crazy party night- so be it. So you think I should just call him out?

Yes it's the DUI guy.

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You're absolutely right. If a guy (especially a Leo) can't initiate a first date, it doesn't bode well. That being said, Leos can hesitate when we aren't sure if the other person is interested.

We can be very VERY protective of our hearts. Sometimes we need a partner who will say "Let's do this already!" It's the conviction that truly wins a Leo over. From there the Leo will make a considerable effort to see you if he is truly interested.

You're right though, you have no idea if he's sending pics to random women for the ego boost (which would also speak to his potentially superficial nature). There's no harm in giving him a nudge and calling him out on his lack of follow through.

If he doesn't shape up,throw this guy in the "maybe" pile and find someone who can be more direct.
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There's this Leo guy I mentioned to you prior. He actually has a Libra moon and the rest of his placements are Virgo.

He Snapchats me nearly every day and acknowledges everything I ever post on any social media platform. But he sends me a lot of selfies or 'flexing' type pictures. I understand that he's proud of himself and I respect the hustle. But, had I not met him in person, I would never give him the time of day. It's a turnoff to get so many damn pictures of him and his body 24/7.

However, I know there's more to him then the vain pictures. So my question is... How should I react to his pictures? I know he sends them to other people and probably receives recognition. I'm not good at giving half-assed compliments. I'm either genuinely happy for someone or I don't say a word. Do you think he wants me to say something when he sends me pictures?

Also, just less then a year ago I was at a party and I got everyone to get naked. So last night I posted a picture of my friend's cleavage for shits and giggles and he commented on it saying that he 'remembered those amazing perky boobs' thinking that the picture was of mine.

I get that I'm a free-spirit and all... But would you take this as a red-flag? As in not serious about getting to know me and more invested in getting to know my body since he seems so focused on his own?

I understand how he could be focused on a sexual conquest as I bring it on myself by getting everyone naked all the time. LOL

But I'm truly not interested in hooking up with people.

PS... How are you Chuckcem? ?
(I'm good! Thanks for asking.)

This guy sounds like he puts a lot of emphasis on his looks. My question is, why do you feel there is more to him? Sounds like you're looking for something deeper and more mentally stimulating than what he's currently displaying. In which case, let him know that you want to get to know him in a more meaningful and less superficial way. Validating his current behavior won't get you the results you're looking for form him. Just know that this guy may not be that deep to being with.

Also be mindful of the energy you are putting out (especially to guys). Sounds like this guy may have a certain opinion of you based on your free spirit demeanor. Obviously you should be free to do what you want and be who you are, but also remember that the energy you put out, is the energy you'll get back.

I wouldn't say that the Leo commenting on the photo was a red flag, but I will say that he seems to see you in a certain light. If you're putting out sexual vibes, you're generally going to attract people who are looking for sex. Also remember guys are typically looking for sex regardless. If you want a guy to become acquainted with your mind, then engage him mentally and see if he can reciprocate. If he can't, then there's not much depth to him.
There seemed to be more to him from the conversations we've had.

Yes I totally understand what you mean. Aside from DXP interactions, I haven't put 'sexual energy' out there like that in awhile. I think that I naturally do have to deal with having that aura. It's just who I am. But I haven't been into anything wild per usual for months. And I don't plan to.

I can understand someone genuinely giving me a compliment about my boobs. I freely compliment body parts all the time. But I think that his tone or the way that I took it was sexual. And that completely turned me off. The other thing is, he wanted to take me on a proper date when we first met. I agreed to it, and he hasn't initiated plans. That's a big turn-off for me.

You bring up good points. I think I'll let this one go unless he's willing to prove that he's interested in more then just sex.


So I'd guess that a lot of assumptions concerning your character are being made from his end. It's possible that he's using the pictures to gauge your interest, but again if this is a turn off for you don't validate his behavior. You definitely want to know that he has more depth than he is currently displaying. I suggest bringing up the fact that he hasn't asked you out yet. (Is this the same guy who got the DUI?)


I am really not interested in men that can't take the initiative. I used to be lenient and patient. But lately I've tightened my standards on people who don't follow-through. If he can't follow through with a first date, how is he supposed to follow-through with anything longer-term? Ultimately, I am ready for something serious. I don't expect a serious relationship right off the bat, but I want to know it's going somewhere. He has mentioned getting together or has reached out when he's out and about in my city.

But what I truly desire is to be treated like a woman. I guess if he has pre-conceived assumptions due to a crazy party night- so be it. So you think I should just call him out?

Yes it's the DUI guy.


You're absolutely right. If a guy (especially a Leo) can't initiate a first date, it doesn't bode well. That being said, Leos can hesitate when we aren't sure if the other person is interested.

We can be very VERY protective of our hearts. Sometimes we need a partner who will say "Let's do this already!" It's the conviction that truly wins a Leo over. From there the Leo will make a considerable effort to see you if he is truly interested.

You're right though, you have no idea if he's sending pics to random women for the ego boost (which would also speak to his potentially superficial nature). There's no harm in giving him a nudge and calling him out on his lack of follow through.

If he doesn't shape up,throw this guy in the "maybe" pile and find someone who can be more direct.
Yes I can see that. And I'm admittedly not good at letting people know my true I nterest right away. I let people express themselves before I express myself. That's why I prefer someone who is confident in chasing me/being honest and straight forward.

I will toss him in the maybe pile. It's frustrating that he made such a big deal about getting my number and taking me out on a real date. He plotted with friend about the best way to approach me and went through a lot of effort attempting to impress me.

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Yeah also know Leo men don't like to chase per se, or rather we won't pursue an unclear target. There's a chance he may become more forward to get your attention, but if he has other viable admirers, he may not try too hard. Also if you met him in a party environment, he may have been more direct due to "liquid courage".

Just know there is an odd dance between Leos and Aquas where neither is truly sure about the other's intentions. Usually it's the Leo who needs to make the attempt after catching on to the Aqua's hints.
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Why would a Leo Male pine for an unrequited love for decades? Be there when she needed him, tell her he is just keeping in touch when he calls, tell her she is a friend? Ask her are you my friend?
It took too long to reconcile. Leo's tend to have a faster time table than other signs. If you take too long, we wonder about the delay. It's easier for us to keep you at arms length until we figure out your true intentions.
I guess my question is why would he continue & not give up? Well there were 18 years with no contact & as soon as he found out I was divorced he came after me again. It was finally acted on then, and I suppose now there is hope even though it is not possible at the present time. So he does keep me at arms length but he never leaves, like he can't. Does this make any sense? Or is it all a fantasy for him? From your perspective of course.
Sounds like he is interested, but he is unsure about your interest in him (or unsure if things will work out between you). He kept his distance when you were married and reemerged after your divorce. Leos are creatures of consistency. We will pursue when we like a person, it's just our nature. However, we will also protect our hearts adamantly when the circumstances aren't clear.

The real question is what do you want? We respect those that make their motivations clear to us.
That is a good question. I did want it all, but there were complications/obstacles. We live 700 miles away from each other is one that will not go away at least for 2 more years. I did try to move back 2 years ago but failed. About a year & half ago, I walked away because he did not do what I needed to see. There was a lot of letting go on my part. I started dating someone else that has become serious but not sure where the future lies & if I will still move back or not. He has accepted friendship & been quite selfless in some ways.. doing what I want ( as in friends as long as I'm in a relationship). Sometimes I wonder if it is just a timing thing & the time still isn't right, or if I am meant to walk a different path. He still doesn't show me what I needed to see. So I walk another path. Seems to me he should've given up by now. The connection is strong. idk what to think about it sometimes. He is a great friend at the very least. I had promised I would not stop being friends like I did when I got married before. At times, that is difficult & other times I can't imagine life without his friendship. Obviously, it's not clear.
Did you specify what you needed to see from the Leo? Long distance can be tough, but Leo is one of the signs that can make it work.


Yes i did, multiple times. He always tells me I need to move. Over a period of 2 years! I can't - it's a kids issue. He knows this & understands, supports my decision but when he's being emotional still asks me to move.
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Well he shouldn't expect you to move either. It would be one thing if you two were in a relationship, but you're not. Also it's understandable that your kids are a factor. Sounds like he's keeping the door open, but also waiting on you to make the first move. Of course this won't work until he shows you that he can do whatever it is you need him to do. So until he can meet your needs (granted as long as they are reasonable), there's nothing much you can do.
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What kind of gifts do you guys like to receive?

A Leo friend (platonic) of mine has recently passed a very rigorous exam, and I couldn't make it to his celebratory party, so I want to get him a gift to congratulate.
Something refined or something tasty will work. If you want to spend the money, having something engraved (like a watch, glass mug, or cuff links). Otherwise a bottle of something (scotch, brady, wine, etc, depending on his tastes) or gift card to a quality restaurant would work.
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@Chuckcem is there another way I can message you other then on here. For whatever reason my private messages don't work on here. I'm needing advise as I know you have had experience with the Leo and Scorpio relationship!
Yeah, though I just sent you a test message just in case. If it doesn't work let me know. Also you can ask to have your PMs fixed in this thread: https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/how-would-you-make-this-site-better/
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@Chuckcem is there another way I can message you other then on here. For whatever reason my private messages don't work on here. I'm needing advise as I know you have had experience with the Leo and Scorpio relationship!
Yeah, though I just sent you a test message just in case. If it doesn't work let me know. Also you can ask to have your PMs fixed in this thread: https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/how-would-you-make-this-site-better/
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Thank you, received and replied!
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Why do you think you know everything? Lmao
Not sure how I missed this. The nature of a Leo is to teach. Typically Leos are pretty knowledgeable on variety of subjects, but the ego may get in the way and lead to "know it all-ism". Some Leos my even jump the gun and try to give more information than they have themselves. This comes from the Leo's nature to "show off".
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Do you guys hate it if your woman is too busy?
How do you mean? We do like women with ambition.
Awesome!

So multiple unintentionally unanswered calls and really slow response is not a big deal then?
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That's not good from either end. If you're the one who is slow to call back and haven't answered his calls, that will turn the Leo away. If HE is the one who is slow to respond and not answering calls, you may not be on his priority list. At that point he may or may not be interested.
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Posted by halalbae
what are your thoughts on gemini men and women?
My mom's a Gemini and I tend to attract Gemini energy. Gemini women are fun, though a bit flighty. They can become easily bored if they feel they've won you over too quickly. They need to feel as if their man has some mystery around him. So to be with a Gemini woman is to constantly feel like you're moving in one direction or another. They are also extremely spontaneous so there is never a dull moment. They can be oddly practical in the fact that they can be extremely skeptical to the point of paranoia.

My grandfather was a Gemini and he was a brilliant man. Otherwise, I think that male Geminis are ok. I personally have not know too many of them. The younger male Geminis can be a tad annoying. They just have to talk and talk and talk, which can be confusing coming from a guy. They can be a bit pretentious, but that's also balanced by their child-like, almost hyper demeanor.

Both male and female Geminis tend to have a good sense of humor and may even indulge in practical jokes on occasion. They can also have a hard time focusing on a single thing and may bore quickly if something becomes to deep or complicated.
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Hello,

On our first date he told me his whole life story which was quite a sad upbringing with his dad who doesn't sound too nice. I told him a bit about my life but fear I've revealed too much of myself now. For example I told him about my mums abusive boyfriend and how I have to go there to my mums place to help her escape. I always hear to not say too much about this stuff on a first date, but he told me much more. I just feel very vulnerable now... his venus is in cancer like mine, but I'm a Taurus. Do you think it was too much? Usually I don't tell anybody stuff like this, but felt very open with him.
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Why would a Leo guy wait so long to take it to the bedroom? I thought most Leo's usually move fast in that sense... Been dating over a month and nothing. Just curious as to why he hasn't made a move yet in that direction. Never dated a Leo before so this is a completely new experience for me 🙂
This is a misconception. Can Leo guys rush into the bedroom? Yes. Is it a good decision? Debatable. It depends on the Leo. Rushing things into the bedroom can result in things ending just as quickly and blowing up in our face. Leos tend to learn from situations like these.

Taking time to date without sex can result in a relationship blossoming instead. A Leo will probably choose this approach if they've seen the results. So really, it's nothing to worry about. He could just be taking his time to get to know you. I didn't have sex with my Scorpio ex until 3 months after we started dating, granted there was some long distance thrown in, but it didn't bother me.

You only need to be concerned if the Leo doesn't seem to be all that present with you. If you seem to like him, more than he likes you, that could also be the reason he's not pushing things. He may be interested in you, but not enough to take it to that level. Leo guys can have a slower approach when we aren't 100% sure about a person.

Also know that you may not be the only person the Leo is dating. If your dates are casual and infrequent, he may not be fully invested yet. Contrary to popular belief, Leo men aren't necessarily whores. If he is dating other women, he may not be having sex with anyone until he becomes exclusive with one of you.
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Hello,

On our first date he told me his whole life story which was quite a sad upbringing with his dad who doesn't sound too nice. I told him a bit about my life but fear I've revealed too much of myself now. For example I told him about my mums abusive boyfriend and how I have to go there to my mums place to help her escape. I always hear to not say too much about this stuff on a first date, but he told me much more. I just feel very vulnerable now... his venus is in cancer like mine, but I'm a Taurus. Do you think it was too much? Usually I don't tell anybody stuff like this, but felt very open with him.
That's all fine. It would be one thing if you opened up before he did. If a Leo opens up (or adamantly prompts you to open), it's a good sign. Leos will share our vulnerable sides of ourselves as a means to connect. So you sharing your story was a good thing because it evens things out.
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Why would a Leo guy wait so long to take it to the bedroom? I thought most Leo's usually move fast in that sense... Been dating over a month and nothing. Just curious as to why he hasn't made a move yet in that direction. Never dated a Leo before so this is a completely new experience for me 🙂
This is a misconception. Can Leo guys rush into the bedroom? Yes. Is it a good decision? Debatable. It depends on the Leo. Rushing things into the bedroom can result in things ending just as quickly and blowing up in our face. Leos tend to learn from situations like these.

Taking time to date without sex can result in a relationship blossoming instead. A Leo will probably choose this approach if they've seen the results. So really, it's nothing to worry about. He could just be taking his time to get to know you. I didn't have sex with my Scorpio ex until 3 months after we started dating, granted there was some long distance thrown in, but it didn't bother me.

You only need to be concerned if the Leo doesn't seem to be all that present with you. If you seem to like him, more than he likes you, that could also be the reason he's not pushing things. He may be interested in you, but not enough to take it to that level. Leo guys can have a slower approach when we aren't 100% sure about a person.

Also know that you may not be the only person the Leo is dating. If your dates are casual and infrequent, he may not be fully invested yet. Contrary to popular belief, Leo men aren't necessarily whores. If he is dating other women, he may not be having sex with anyone until he becomes exclusive with one of you.
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Makes sense! He has been very forward in the fact that he likes me and doesn't want to screw this up so maybe that's it. He works away so we try to get together as much as we can when he's back and his communication on everything has been stellar for sure.

He made a comment about me not having a password or lock on my phone this past weekend, and I just stated I have nothing to hide I never lock my phone... He immediately clarified that he doesn't either he just protects his banking info and went as far as handing me his phone and giving me his password lol. I handed it back to him saying I don't need to look and it's fine.. he also made the comment when I left his house the other night that he wants me to park in his driveway as that's my spot and no one elses... so I really don't believe he's seeing anyone else for sure.

So if he is just nervous and is taking his time that's fine. Like I said I've never dated a Leo before so he's a whole new realm for me lol.
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Why would a Leo guy wait so long to take it to the bedroom? I thought most Leo's usually move fast in that sense... Been dating over a month and nothing. Just curious as to why he hasn't made a move yet in that direction. Never dated a Leo before so this is a completely new experience for me 🙂
This is a misconception. Can Leo guys rush into the bedroom? Yes. Is it a good decision? Debatable. It depends on the Leo. Rushing things into the bedroom can result in things ending just as quickly and blowing up in our face. Leos tend to learn from situations like these.

Taking time to date without sex can result in a relationship blossoming instead. A Leo will probably choose this approach if they've seen the results. So really, it's nothing to worry about. He could just be taking his time to get to know you. I didn't have sex with my Scorpio ex until 3 months after we started dating, granted there was some long distance thrown in, but it didn't bother me.

You only need to be concerned if the Leo doesn't seem to be all that present with you. If you seem to like him, more than he likes you, that could also be the reason he's not pushing things. He may be interested in you, but not enough to take it to that level. Leo guys can have a slower approach when we aren't 100% sure about a person.

Also know that you may not be the only person the Leo is dating. If your dates are casual and infrequent, he may not be fully invested yet. Contrary to popular belief, Leo men aren't necessarily whores. If he is dating other women, he may not be having sex with anyone until he becomes exclusive with one of you.


Makes sense! He has been very forward in the fact that he likes me and doesn't want to screw this up so maybe that's it. He works away so we try to get together as much as we can when he's back and his communication on everything has been stellar for sure.

He made a comment about me not having a password or lock on my phone this past weekend, and I just stated I have nothing to hide I never lock my phone... He immediately clarified that he doesn't either he just protects his banking info and went as far as handing me his phone and giving me his password lol. I handed it back to him saying I don't need to look and it's fine.. he also made the comment when I left his house the other night that he wants me to park in his driveway as that's my spot and no one elses... so I really don't believe he's seeing anyone else for sure.

So if he is just nervous and is taking his time that's fine. Like I said I've never dated a Leo before so he's a whole new realm for me lol.
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Yeah sounds like he is interested in you, but it taking his time. Also if it takes him TOO long to make a move, just tell him that you want him to make a move. He could just be nervous.
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I been in this Leo forum a little too much lately..lol.

But I have one burning question..what's up with this Leo and his texting skills? He NEVER INITIATES well except maybe twice, and then he took days to reply to the conversation that he started.. and when I initiate,he responds n then keeps the convo going.. so is this a game... if he doesn't like to text then why won't he call or something? Am I doing to much chasing like what is it—?? Lbvs
Haha so I will say this, if he's responding that's a good thing. I had a woman tell me SEVERAL times to call her before I eventually did it. I liked her a lot, but I had my hesitations too. You may want to say something along the lines of, "Call me later" or "You should call me." This may open up the communication a bit more.

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Lol ok... but there are times when he just doesn't respond.. but started the convo...so confusing.. but yeah maybe I will try that... I'm starting to feel like maybe I'm doing to much... so if I just stop doing the initiating, will that trigger his pursuit?


It may if he's interested, otherwise it won't do anything. It's best to be direct with a Leo than try an trigger a pursuit though. If a Leo is playing games with you, they'll sense it if you start playing games back.
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Posted by pinkbird03
I find that Leo males always come on strong when I first start talking to them. Why?

This actually scares me off every time...
Wow I think I totally missed this question.

Leos can be VERY direct when we are interested in someone, or even when we're just flirting. We can also be heavy handed in our approach as we are not entirely subtle people. Just beware of the Leos who are all flash and no substance.
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Right, so the Cub phase is the emotionally immature stage. Leos are very energetic and full of ego at this point. The more negative traits can be prominent here including jealousy, possessiveness, and "show off" tendencies. Cubs tend to be more fearful and use their large egos to protect themselves. They are emotional creatures, prone to fits and tantrums. Cubs can be selfish and averse to change. This is often misunderstood as the children's phase, but adults can be Cubs too.

This phase is very self-centric, hence the idea Cubs believes the world revolves around them. In this phase, the Leo has a hard time understanding the world from another person's perspective. Cubs are also very heavy handed, preferring the world to work their way. In fact the world exists a benefit to the Cub. This is also why many believe Leos always need to be the center of attention. The easiest way to describe this phase is "unnecessarily entitled".

The positive qualities are still budding in this phase and Cubs will exhibit natural leadership qualities. Cubs though often fearful, exhibit a strange self confidence too. This is where the creative and academic side of Leo is most prominent. Cubs are like sponges, eager to learn and able to retain large quantities of information. This of course can result in "know-it-all-ism". The sense of self expression exudes in a variety of forms, but the world is a vast canvas of possibility. A Cub may discover their favorite hobby or even the makings of their professional career in this phase. This is also why Leos are generally skilled and goal oriented later in life. Our goals are our core belief, our imaginary friend that we take with us into adulthood.

The Lion phase has had some time to mature and experience a world that is not completely centered around them. The sense of self is still strong and the unchecked ego of the cub has evolved into a sense of pride. Unlike the cub that has no real reason for it's sense of entitlement, a Lion has some experience to back up its arrogance. The Lion through the years has had a taste of power, fame and can see its talents at work. It's no longer hiding behind its ego as a means to compensate for its fear of the outside world.

The Lion can still be possessive and arrogant like the cub, but there will be a rationale behind it all. Logic begins to take over in a Leo's mind instead, where emotion once ruled solely in the heart. The Lion understands its power. The Lion has also had to endure some hardships or loss. The ability to understand the world through the eyes of others is possible in this phase. Lions can, and generally will, be the center of attention due to the relationships they have cultivated. This is where loyalty becomes most important to a Leo.

While the cub may have cultivated a number of friendships, the ability to hold on to those relationships was not as strong as in the Lion's phase. The Lion can see the power in numbers, in having a support structure of some kind. However these relationships in some ways still serve the ego of the Lion as well. The garnering of acquaintances is not a wholly altruistic endeavor. The Lion seeks to build a name and reputation for itself, and what better way to do it than by creating a network of contacts. An easy way to describe a lion is "noticeably connected".

The Lion is far more charming and well mannered in this phase. This is after all the phase when suitors are more prominent. If there is a harem of romantic options, it is created in this phase. The Lion is cocky and flaunts its strengths while hiding its weaknesses. The Lion appears very strong, but still retains the sensitivity of the cub. That is because the eternally optimistic energy of the cub never truly goes away. The world is still a rich tapestry to a Lion as a result, but it is hear where the Lion puts it's energy to good use.

Most Leos stop evolving at this phase, which is understandable. Relationships, reputation, and careers are built here. Evolving past this phase can be difficult to those looking for instant graitfication. (For the fellow nerds, think Pikachu. Sure evolving from Pichu to Pikachu makes sense, but going beyond to Raichu doesn't always sound appealing). The Lion believes itself to be at the top, which in many ways may be true, but isn't entirely accurate. The Lion still suffers from negative traits that can be detrimental to its confidence and self-esteem. The Lion still suffers from wanting to have its own needs met.

The Lion phase is also where the decans are easiest to observe too. I generally say the Leo decans breakdown into three categories: the academic, the artist, and the authority. I won't go into them here, but the evolution from Cub to Lion culminates in the emergence of the decan's traits.

The Sphinx phase is what every Leo unknowingly aspires to be. The Sphinx is highly revered for wisdom and is the most exalted phase of a Leo. The Sphinx had undergone self realization to the point that it has gained true understanding of itself and the world it. As a result it controls its environment in a way that a cub or lion simply can't.

In order for a Leo to evolve to a Sphinx, the lion must shed itself of its need for recognition and power. It must in that way shed it's sense of self. A Sphinx understands the golden rule, "do unto others as you would have them to do unto you." The Sphinx sheds its need to directly influence the world in order to gain higher knowledge. The influence of a Sphinx therefore is more indirect, with it leading by example rather than command.

If a cub is a prince, and a lion a king, then a Sphinx is a pioneer. It is a founding father that leads its people to prosperity not for its own personal gain, but for the benefit of future generations. A Sphinx's main goal is to teach, to better others through acts of service rather than acts of self. The Sphinx ideas can be similar to those found in Aquarius, being more humanitarian than the other phases. Unlike the cub that wants to move mountains, and the lion that can move mountains, the Sphinx doesn't need to move anything. It is satisfied, no longer needing to create out of need, but more so out of desire.

In a way the world almost seems to revolve around the Sphinx only in the sense that people desire its presence. It is not looking for attention, but will not shun it either. The Sphinx uses this nature of humanity to better it. The Sphinx no longer needs its network of relationships, but paradoxically is able to cultivate more friendships as a result. People gravitate to it because of the warmth it exudes. This is because the Sphinx has also purged itself of its destructive qualities, only keeping the positive aspects of the cub (creativity) and the lion (knowledge), to cultivate a demeanor that is "inexplicably wise".