Concerned about my Leo (.... I dont know if he is still “mine”)

Ok Leos..... please enlighten me just for my peace of mind. I met a Leo; and conversations were amazing and we got very into each other, we even have been talking about plans for the future ( near future). Yes, he is pretty busy and has a lot going on his agenda; plus moving to a new city. It was all great when all of a sudden he went off the grid. I have sent messages concerned and hoping he is ok, but my messages are not even been read. I only wrote twice because I do not want to seem annoying, but I am concerned that it will be almost 2 weeks and no signs of him🥺. What can you advice? Should I worry or be concerned? Is this a “I am no longer interested in you” kind of message? This is heart breaking for me because I have been alone for 5 years ( due to bad relationships I decided to close that door), however with this guy I opened that door again .... and now this happens...... HELP AND ADVICE WILL TRULY BE HELPFUL! Thanks to all 💕

It’s been 2 weeks and no sign of him, but how long have you guys been talking?

And you met online or in person?

Wont lie.... we met on a dating app.... and have been talking since April ( I know it seems quick and I kinda feel stupid 🙁)

Posted by AquariusGalvez

Wont lie.... we met on a dating app.... and have been talking since April ( I know it seems quick and I kinda feel stupid 🙁)

Have you two met up in person yet? And it's not quick at all, it's been a couple months.

You said he's pretty busy and has a lot going on in his agenda plus he's moving, in a pandemic. Maybe something happened, your messages have not even been read yet... Just wait and see, keep busy yourself... and try not to put all the eggs in one basket, talk to multiple people, I said talk not date... have options, be smart...

We have not fully met in person, due to distance.... video chat has been our means for that.

And yes I will keep busy, its just hard because I have this in the back of my head. 🥺

I will give it a bit more time ..... I can only hope for the best..... thank you 🙏🏻💕

Nothing annoys me more than someone who keeps texting thinking I'll reply faster. I won't. I just think the person is annoy af.

I can imagine it's the same for Leo guys.

I know you're concerned he's ignoring you & chances are he might after two weeks...let's be real.

And if it turns out he's ghosting you - don't waste your time on another text.

Sounds like he ghosted. If I'm not even reading the text it might mean I've blocked them. Leo's don't ignore anyone they are interested in. You haven't met in person....why are you getting so upset about someone you have never met?

Well , this is the weird part.... I did not text in an annoying matter, I only sent 2 texts saying hi and hoping all was well, and the texts were sent with 4 days apart...... so that is why it’s been a bit confusing for me.

Posted by AquariusGalvez

Well , this is the weird part.... I did not text in an annoying matter, I only sent 2 texts saying hi and hoping all was well, and the texts were sent with 4 days apart...... so that is why it’s been a bit confusing for me.

I understand.

You texted once he didn't reply and you texted again and he still hasn't. Double texting is what I meant was annoying.

I wouldn't put so much romantic hope on a guy I've never met and barely know.

I'm sorry this happened.

Be careful meeting guys online.

I know.... I’m stupid; it’s been a while I’ve had someone interested in me..... I blame myself fully for letting my heart take over my brain.

#feelinglikecrap

Posted by AquariusGalvez

I know.... I’m stupid; it’s been a while I’ve had someone interested in me..... I blame myself fully for letting my heart take over my brain.

#feelinglikecrap

Don't be so hard on yourself. Just leave him alone for now. We don't know what is going to happen. He might be busy and he might still contact you. Just move on for now.

If he comes back, you can decide what to do then. Dating is tough.

He may just not be as chatty as you and has ended his facade. These type of things lose momentum the longer you talk with someone. It's hard to keep up an act.

I've had a Leo do the same thing to me. They come back if they want to talk.

You just meant in April. I’m not sure why he wasn’t forgotten by the 2nd day.

Stop being lazy and enjoy other prospects.

Thank you 🥺🙏🏻💕

Posted by AquariusGalvez

Ok Leos..... please enlighten me just for my peace of mind. I met a Leo; and conversations were amazing and we got very into each other, we even have been talking about plans for the future ( near future). Yes, he is pretty busy and has a lot going on his agenda; plus moving to a new city. It was all great when all of a sudden he went off the grid. I have sent messages concerned and hoping he is ok, but my messages are not even been read. I only wrote twice because I do not want to seem annoying, but I am concerned that it will be almost 2 weeks and no signs of him🥺. What can you advice? Should I worry or be concerned? Is this a “I am no longer interested in you” kind of message? This is heart breaking for me because I have been alone for 5 years ( due to bad relationships I decided to close that door), however with this guy I opened that door again .... and now this happens...... HELP AND ADVICE WILL TRULY BE HELPFUL! Thanks to all 💕

So first just remember that we are heading into a Mercury Retrograde, so communication will break down a bit. More importantly though, it sounds like this Leo is going through several changes. The only time a Leo may "ghost" is if we get overwhelmed with life and work all at once. If he just moved to a new city, that could explain the absence. However this type of disappearance only lasts a few days to a week typically.

More importantly is that Leo males aren't great with texting and keeping up with our digital lives unless we are already invested in the situation. Leos are very physical people, so it is important that we hear and see from the person we like. Texting just does not have the same impact. If you're planning to snag a Leo guy in a long distance relationship, it is important that he meets you first (or at least hears your voice on the phone). This makes the situation real for us. Otherwise you run the risk of competing with every aspect of his life that is right in front of him. I know that for some signs, texting/messaging has become an important way to connect with people, but Leos need more.

The best thing you can do right now is continue with your life. If the Leo reaches back out, then you can talk about why he disappeared. If he does not contact you, then do not take it personally. It just means that the connection was not really there in the way that you both needed.

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Posted by AquariusGalvez

Ok Leos..... please enlighten me just for my peace of mind. I met a Leo; and conversations were amazing and we got very into each other, we even have been talking about plans for the future ( near future). Yes, he is pretty busy and has a lot going on his agenda; plus moving to a new city. It was all great when all of a sudden he went off the grid. I have sent messages concerned and hoping he is ok, but my messages are not even been read. I only wrote twice because I do not want to seem annoying, but I am concerned that it will be almost 2 weeks and no signs of him🥺. What can you advice? Should I worry or be concerned? Is this a “I am no longer interested in you” kind of message? This is heart breaking for me because I have been alone for 5 years ( due to bad relationships I decided to close that door), however with this guy I opened that door again .... and now this happens...... HELP AND ADVICE WILL TRULY BE HELPFUL! Thanks to all 💕

So first just remember that we are heading into a Mercury Retrograde, so communication will break down a bit. More importantly though, it sounds like this Leo is going through several changes. The only time a Leo may "ghost" is if we get overwhelmed with life and work all at once. If he just moved to a new city, that could explain the absence. However this type of disappearance only lasts a few days to a week typically.

More importantly is that Leo males aren't great with texting and keeping up with our digital lives unless we are already invested in the situation. Leos are very physical people, so it is important that we hear and see from the person we like. Texting just does not have the same impact. If you're planning to snag a Leo guy in a long distance relationship, it is important that he meets you first (or at least hears your voice on the phone). This makes the situation real for us. Otherwise you run the risk of competing with every aspect of his life that is right in front of him. I know that for some signs, texting/messaging has become an important way to connect with people, but Leos need more.

The best thing you can do right now is continue with your life. If the Leo reaches back out, then you can talk about why he disappeared. If he does not contact you, then do not take it personally. It just means that the connection was not really there in the way that you both needed.

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What do you think about Leo’s talking in the phone a lot, but not meeting up?

I just asked him what his problem was and if he had a girlfriend and he said no.

Do Leo’s get nervous? I asked him if I was too direct with him, he said no. So I’m not sure what the issue is.

He just called me today and first thing out of his mouth was “I just got finished swiping right a bunch of times on bumble” and I gave him a hard time about it- he laughed and said they were all ugly anyways and that I was unattainable.

I have no clue what his issue is cause he won’t tell me. He just acts scared to meet up.

We barely text. He calls me a lot though. But He says he can talk on the phone a long time without seeing a girl.

Is it really possible to get to know someone without seeing them, for Leo’s? Are you guys not as impatient as Sag peeps are?

I truly thank each of you for your advice, you guys rock and are awesome. I apologize for venting out through these means, I have been crying my eyes out over this simply because I am tired of disappointments in that area of my life.

I wasn't privy to your texts and video chats.

I suppose you can equate video conferencing to dates these days.

It's easy to lose touch online these days with so many options/distractions.

I think ghosting after dates and where people share quite a bit of personal information, show vulnerability, bond, etc... is really poor behaviour.

Some will say that if you've never met, then you can't ghost, as in it's not possible. I disagree, I think that it's not too much for people to expect to be treated like human beings. I've heard of a practice called "cloaking" where someone plans for a date, then doesn't show up and blocks the other person on social media. Something close to this has happened to me. I've been "cloaked" and I've been "ghosted".

Something might be going on in his life so give him a chance to come back and explain. Make sure you are careful. It is also possible that he's showing you who he is, and he may be a bullet to be dodged.

I think that two texts isn't absolutely terrible. Sometimes people get busy and miss a reply and then forget. A second text can be a friendly reminder. Do not send any more.

What you need to learn is to how to protect yourself. It is not healthy to get overly invested in someone, especially when you don't know them that well and haven't met them in real life. You need to keep one foot on land instead of diving in the water. Take it from a Pisces who likes to dive in dreamy, magical waters. 😉

Don't let this turn you off from finding the right person. If someone isn't interested in you, why would you want them. You deserve so much better, and then some. Sometimes we're authentic with someone and they don't appreciate it. It truly is their loss. Be cautious yes, but be yourself always.

Get active online and talk to some more men. The right guy is waiting for you. It could be Mr. Leo (remember, he needs to be real with you if he returns) or it could be someone else. Don't waste time with regret, learn from this. He could be with his ex (Venus retrograde remember?) or simply with another woman. He might not even be thinking about you at all and you are spending a lot of time and energy thinking about him. I don't expect you to eliminate him or your feelings from your mind. Try to get busy and focus on yourself, like you're doing here asking for advice.

People on here giving you advice value you as another human being. If someone else is not valuing you then find a man who will. He's out there. Don't lose faith. 🙂

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Posted by AquariusGalvez

Ok Leos..... please enlighten me just for my peace of mind. I met a Leo; and conversations were amazing and we got very into each other, we even have been talking about plans for the future ( near future). Yes, he is pretty busy and has a lot going on his agenda; plus moving to a new city. It was all great when all of a sudden he went off the grid. I have sent messages concerned and hoping he is ok, but my messages are not even been read. I only wrote twice because I do not want to seem annoying, but I am concerned that it will be almost 2 weeks and no signs of him🥺. What can you advice? Should I worry or be concerned? Is this a “I am no longer interested in you” kind of message? This is heart breaking for me because I have been alone for 5 years ( due to bad relationships I decided to close that door), however with this guy I opened that door again .... and now this happens...... HELP AND ADVICE WILL TRULY BE HELPFUL! Thanks to all 💕

So first just remember that we are heading into a Mercury Retrograde, so communication will break down a bit. More importantly though, it sounds like this Leo is going through several changes. The only time a Leo may "ghost" is if we get overwhelmed with life and work all at once. If he just moved to a new city, that could explain the absence. However this type of disappearance only lasts a few days to a week typically.

More importantly is that Leo males aren't great with texting and keeping up with our digital lives unless we are already invested in the situation. Leos are very physical people, so it is important that we hear and see from the person we like. Texting just does not have the same impact. If you're planning to snag a Leo guy in a long distance relationship, it is important that he meets you first (or at least hears your voice on the phone). This makes the situation real for us. Otherwise you run the risk of competing with every aspect of his life that is right in front of him. I know that for some signs, texting/messaging has become an important way to connect with people, but Leos need more.

The best thing you can do right now is continue with your life. If the Leo reaches back out, then you can talk about why he disappeared. If he does not contact you, then do not take it personally. It just means that the connection was not really there in the way that you both needed.

What do you think about Leo’s talking in the phone a lot, but not meeting up?

I just asked him what his problem was and if he had a girlfriend and he said no.

Do Leo’s get nervous? I asked him if I was too direct with him, he said no. So I’m not sure what the issue is.

He just called me today and first thing out of his mouth was “I just got finished swiping right a bunch of times on bumble” and I gave him a hard time about it- he laughed and said they were all ugly anyways and that I was unattainable.

I have no clue what his issue is cause he won’t tell me. He just acts scared to meet up.

We barely text. He calls me a lot though. But He says he can talk on the phone a long time without seeing a girl.

Is it really possible to get to know someone without seeing them, for Leo’s? Are you guys not as impatient as Sag peeps are?

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Just for perspective, do you know his placements? Either way, contrary to popular belief, a Leo guy will take his time when he is unsure about someone. If the Leo guy is calling you or accepting calls, that means that he sees you mostly in a positive light. The good thing about us fixed signs is that there are very few shades of gray in our thinking. If we like you then we like you, if we do not then we do not. That being said if a Leo man is not making an attempt to see you (outside of COVID-19 related issues), that means he has reservations. He either does not trust you, does not trust himself, or does not trust the current situation.

Personally, I love Sags, a good number of my friends are Sagittarius. The only long distance relationship I have been in was with a Sagittarius woman and technically nothing went wrong between us even though I ended it. Sags are typically fun folk, but can also appear not to take life too seriously. Obviously this is not entirely true, but this outward display can make a Leo hesitant to approach a Sag. Again, I can not speak on behalf on all Leos or all Sags. However when it comes to our love lives, Leos are looking for a partner who can love us for the long haul. Remember that Leo is a fixed sign, and all fixed signs seek to essentially own a piece of their partner. This aspect can be difficult for a Sag to accept. Likewise Sags have a reputation of being flighty and a bit oblivious to other people's feelings, so a Leo may choose not to pursue a Sag as a result.

So to answer your question, yes Leos can get nervous. It is possible that the Leo feels insecure in himself and chooses to keep you at arms length. It also possible that he likes your attention, but is not completely comfortable with your personality. If he said that you are "unattainable", he may be aware that you get a lot of attention from other guys. He may not trust that your interest in him is genuine. Again this is either because he does trust you to be faithful or he does not trust himself to not become a jealous mess.

To answer your question, Leos can be far more patient than Sags when we have our mind fixed on a goal. While fires signs are not known for our patience in general, the fixed quality of a Leo means that we can fixate on something/someone for a long period of time. Just imagine a lion in the wild. You never see lions just running around, it is a waste of valuable energy. Lions usually wait and stalk before making an attempt, which makes them both patient and opportunistic hunters. One way to know if Leos truly like you is if you SEE us. Hearing from a Leo is a good start, but it is important to be around Leos to gauge our romantic interest.

Also know there s no such thing as being too direct with a Leo if we already like you as a person. Even if we do not know you, it is never bad to be direct with a Leo, we appreciate it since most people are indirect in our eyes. I personally prefer and practically only date direct women. In fact I think the only woman I have dated who did not pursue me first was a girl I dated in high school.

Have a friend text him from their phone just to see if he answers.

Hey! Sorry to hear that, been there, done that. I would say you have to move on. Block him, do not allow him to think he can pick you up where he has left you. Interested people always have time for reply, that is the question of motivation.

Well guess what guys? HE APPEARED! He apologized for being off the grid , it was not his intention for that to be taken as something against me. Moving, working, and adapting to a new place has been hectic for him. I feel relieved that he is doing well and things are still on for us, but I learned from this experience not to let my guard down and not create too much expectations..... until we meet in physically in person I am just gonna let things flow, maintain communication ( however I will let him lead the most on that, dont want to seem pushy or annoying). Now to see how the universe conspires and hopefully it will wave towards us.

Posted by AquariusGalvez

Well guess what guys? HE APPEARED! He apologized for being off the grid , it was not his intention for that to be taken as something against me. Moving, working, and adapting to a new place has been hectic for him. I feel relieved that he is doing well and things are still on for us, but I learned from this experience not to let my guard down and not create too much expectations..... until we meet in physically in person I am just gonna let things flow, maintain communication ( however I will let him lead the most on that, dont want to seem pushy or annoying). Now to see how the universe conspires and hopefully it will wave towards us.

One thing to remember is that texting/messaging is not going to be the Leo's priority UNTIL he meets you. Do not be shocked if you wind up initiating a lot of the communication. Leos are very physical people, so at some point this gap will need to be bridged. He probably will not be able to connect deeply until spending time with you in person. When a Leo is busy, texting can get in the way, so do not cling to it as your primary source of communication or as the means to build the foundation of the relationship. If he becomes lazy with texting, you will need to resort to a more personal form of communication, such as phone calls and Facetiming.

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Have a friend text him from their phone just to see if he answers.

This type of thing is never a good resort lol

Yeah.... he has answered, but I will not be the one to initiate it anymore...... at least not for a while; this already has set a “base” as to whether this is meant to be or not..... I will suggest more live video chats and not rely on so much text. We’ll see what happens; we aquarians are very stubborn and sometimes it takes these kinds of stumbling, sometimes even more than once, to realize the true picture. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Leos are bad texters unless we really love or like you.

Given that it’s early, you’re not gonna get the part of Leo that makes it a mission to text you back. Don’t take it personally. If you pull back too much after he starts talking to you then he won’t bother anymore.

Ultimately we don’t need stubborn or eye for eye people. We just need someone who will understand and give us our space when we are in space somewhere.

Posted by Piscis_Hominis

I wasn't privy to your texts and video chats.

I suppose you can equate video conferencing to dates these days.

It's easy to lose touch online these days with so many options/distractions.

I think ghosting after dates and where people share quite a bit of personal information, show vulnerability, bond, etc... is really poor behaviour.

Some will say that if you've never met, then you can't ghost, as in it's not possible. I disagree, I think that it's not too much for people to expect to be treated like human beings. I've heard of a practice called "cloaking" where someone plans for a date, then doesn't show up and blocks the other person on social media. Something close to this has happened to me. I've been "cloaked" and I've been "ghosted".

Something might be going on in his life so give him a chance to come back and explain. Make sure you are careful. It is also possible that he's showing you who he is, and he may be a bullet to be dodged.

I think that two texts isn't absolutely terrible. Sometimes people get busy and miss a reply and then forget. A second text can be a friendly reminder. Do not send any more.

What you need to learn is to how to protect yourself. It is not healthy to get overly invested in someone, especially when you don't know them that well and haven't met them in real life. You need to keep one foot on land instead of diving in the water. Take it from a Pisces who likes to dive in dreamy, magical waters. 😉

Don't let this turn you off from finding the right person. If someone isn't interested in you, why would you want them. You deserve so much better, and then some. Sometimes we're authentic with someone and they don't appreciate it. It truly is their loss. Be cautious yes, but be yourself always.

Get active online and talk to some more men. The right guy is waiting for you. It could be Mr. Leo (remember, he needs to be real with you if he returns) or it could be someone else. Don't waste time with regret, learn from this. He could be with his ex (Venus retrograde remember?) or simply with another woman. He might not even be thinking about you at all and you are spending a lot of time and energy thinking about him. I don't expect you to eliminate him or your feelings from your mind. Try to get busy and focus on yourself, like you're doing here asking for advice.

People on here giving you advice value you as another human being. If someone else is not valuing you then find a man who will. He's out there. Don't lose faith. 🙂

Love the way you think and take the time to help.