First thing after a breakup?

Leos, how do you generally cope with a break up or the end of a relationship? What is literally the FIRST thing you do when someone breaks up with you? (I feel as if breakups that are initiated by the Leo are treated relatively the same, but feel free to give that answer as well).

Self Initiated Break Up: I'm not a fan of rebounds, so I'll generally take a time out from dating and just hang with friends and focus on hobbies/career. Sounds lame, but if I ended a relationship, I probably need some "me" time.

Not Self Initiated Break Up: Start an immediate mental count of potential romantic options that have been floating in the background. I don't believe in cheating nor do I really date multiple people at once (just gets pricey). Once I find a woman I like interacting with, I generally focus my efforts on courting her. However, that doesn't mean I suddenly become blind to my options. If someone showed me interest at some point and my relationship ends, that person will probably get a call. My logic is, I didn't end the relationship, why should I have to suffer? Granted I'll still take the time to sort through my emotions, but I don't plan on wallowing too long and boosting the ex's ego.

Posted by CaramelizedCoffee
Why do you have potentials around? If you always have backups what makes you work for a relationship?

This doesn't sound like something I'd be comfortable with

Like knowing my guy has plenty of options just would make me insecure

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Posted by CaramelizedCoffee
Why do you have potentials around? If you always have backups what makes you work for a relationship?

This doesn't sound like something I'd be comfortable with

Like knowing my guy has plenty of options just would make me insecure

It's not that I keep them around, I'm just aware of them. Generally when I'm single I get hit on by a few different women. Then at some point I start seriously dating someone and I completely focus on that person. I stop talking to the others who were more casual. If another woman tries to get my attention I'll let her know that I'm currently involved with someone else.

If you have a Leo's attention, you have nothing to worry about, but know that someone else may be waiting for that attention too.

Posted by CaramelizedCoffee
As a cancer that doesn't work me, there shouldn't be anyone wanting his attention because he should be cutting everyone off

Just because he's with you doesn't mean he becomes invisible to other people. You have to assume that if you're attracted to him, others will be too. That doesn't mean you'll have to worry about competition, but if the Leo senses you're insecure, he'll probably back away. Leos admire self confident people.

Also know that most men feel the way you're describing all of the time. We automatically assume the women we're with have other options, even if they aren't entertaining them (past boy friends, guys in the friend zone, past crushes, etc). Therefore a man who is confident in himself will opt to be her best option. By doing so he can eclipse any potential competitors.

It's the same with Leo men and women. If we're with you that means you are the best, so there's no point in use looking at other people. Just be confident you're the best for a Leo and you'll have nothing to worry about.