How do you curve your jealousy?

Fellow Leo's... how do you deal with your jealous tendencies? It's something I've been working on for years. I know it's unattractive and comes off as being insecure. But no matter how much I try to not get jealous, it's like a turtle head coming out of my ass wanting to make an appearance.

I've learned to try to keep it cool when I'm hearing or seeing what triggers it but inside I'm screaming.

*Don't tell me you don't get jealous... I know that is bullshit.* 😁🤗😚

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Fellow Leo's... how do you deal with your jealous tendencies? It's something I've been working on for years. I know it's unattractive and comes off as being insecure. But no matter how much I try to not get jealous, it's like a turtle head coming out of my ass wanting to make an appearance.

I've learned to try to keep it cool when I'm hearing or seeing what triggers it but inside I'm screaming.

*Don't tell me you don't get jealous... I know that is bullshit.* 😁🤗😚

I see if you don’t get jealous - you don’t care enough about this person...

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Yeah not getting jealous about someone I could care less about. Doesn't mean I don't care to some degree tho, but I probably dont consider that person someone I would be heart broken over yet.

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Not a Leo but I am your opposite being an Aqua. Im not a jealous type but I am territorial in my own right. There is a good amount of jealousy that shows you care like what Gemitati said. But going overboard such as wanting 100% of the other person's attention is just not 😂

I think whenever I get to the point when I feel like I'm about to get too jealous, I just tell myself that if that person loves me, he will choose me. He will do everything to keep me. And if the time comes that he's not able to do that, then maybe he's not right for me. I don't like feeling insecure or comparing myself. Especially if I'm the girlfriend or the wife. I'm basically not the side bitch for me to be competing with other bitches, if you know what I mean? Lol but if I'm not the main bitch, I don't have the right to feel any jealousy or insecurity. Lol

I think territorial is more what I'm talking about but there is a jealousy to that as well.

Why does everyone have to be a bitch lmao 😂

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Not a Leo but I am your opposite being an Aqua. Im not a jealous type but I am territorial in my own right. There is a good amount of jealousy that shows you care like what Gemitati said. But going overboard such as wanting 100% of the other person's attention is just not 😂

I think whenever I get to the point when I feel like I'm about to get too jealous, I just tell myself that if that person loves me, he will choose me. He will do everything to keep me. And if the time comes that he's not able to do that, then maybe he's not right for me. I don't like feeling insecure or comparing myself. Especially if I'm the girlfriend or the wife. I'm basically not the side bitch for me to be competing with other bitches, if you know what I mean? Lol but if I'm not the main bitch, I don't have the right to feel any jealousy or insecurity. Lol

I think territorial is more what I'm talking about but there is a jealousy to that as well.

Why does everyone have to be a bitch lmao 😂

Hahaha hahahaha we are all bishes 😂😂😂😂😂😂

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There is this bitch trying to get my Virgo man. He doesnt want her but shes not listening. He put her in the friend zone but the bitch thinks that's how their relationship is going to start. It's bothering me as you can see. Lol I've calmed down a little once I cleared my head but I want to find her now lmao

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Not a Leo but I am your opposite being an Aqua. Im not a jealous type but I am territorial in my own right. There is a good amount of jealousy that shows you care like what Gemitati said. But going overboard such as wanting 100% of the other person's attention is just not 😂

I think whenever I get to the point when I feel like I'm about to get too jealous, I just tell myself that if that person loves me, he will choose me. He will do everything to keep me. And if the time comes that he's not able to do that, then maybe he's not right for me. I don't like feeling insecure or comparing myself. Especially if I'm the girlfriend or the wife. I'm basically not the side bitch for me to be competing with other bitches, if you know what I mean? Lol but if I'm not the main bitch, I don't have the right to feel any jealousy or insecurity. Lol

I think territorial is more what I'm talking about but there is a jealousy to that as well.

Why does everyone have to be a bitch lmao 😂

Hahaha hahahaha we are all bishes 😂😂😂😂😂😂

There is this bitch trying to get my Virgo man. He doesnt want her but shes not listening. He put her in the friend zone but the bitch thinks that's how their relationship is going to start. It's bothering me as you can see. Lol I've calmed down a little once I cleared my head but I want to find her now lmao

How did they know each other? And also, how does she look like? What does she do that make you feel jealous? I need deets!!!!

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I have no idea what she looks like. I know they met a few months ago according to him and they hang out often. Go to dinner and she wanted him to go to the beach this weekend but he had to work... that's kind of how I found out about her. When I saw him Fri he said he had to let her know he couldn't go.

So, that is kind of where the jealousy comes in cause we hardly go anywhere like the beach. He mentioned dinners but I'm guessing she pays for him cause he has been struggling with work the past few months so I know his cash flow.

So he tells me that she is just a friend completly in the friend zone...if anything was going to happen then it would have already happened. He says to me that he told her "I've never touched you, we have never made out, held hands nothing, we are just friends hanging out" and her response was "that's how relationships start" he said he told her "not mine." ..... soo she is a bit delusional as far as that is concerned I guess. I cant say cause him and I slept together the first night we hung out together lol.

So when I wouldnt let it go... he tells me "shes old news...shes like an old pair of shoes that I'm wearing and you are seeing for the first time." So my response to that since we have known eachother for like 4 years is "well what the fuck does that make me?" And he says "you're my companion".....

So that is all I know so far. It's more territorial then jealousy. I don't like the fact that she is trying to date him.

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Fellow Leo's... how do you deal with your jealous tendencies? It's something I've been working on for years. I know it's unattractive and comes off as being insecure. But no matter how much I try to not get jealous, it's like a turtle head coming out of my ass wanting to make an appearance.

I've learned to try to keep it cool when I'm hearing or seeing what triggers it but inside I'm screaming.

*Don't tell me you don't get jealous... I know that is bullshit.* 😁🤗😚

i let it fire me up to do better; or, i ask myself why am i jealous of this quality someone has, when i can recreate that quality and have it too? and maybe they and i can be friends because I'll have it in common with them and it's something that we can rap about.

I love Leo energy and this has always bothered me with people that have strongly Leo traits.

Relationship wise, if I'm yours then I'm yours. Doesn't matter who I talk to, who talks to me, or what I do. Your my friend or s/o. You need to be able to trust me. Unless some boundaries are being crossed or something else disrespectful is happening, what does it matter? You know who I go home to, who matters to me over others, and how I feel.

If you feel threatened and must display your jealously do it tactfully. Some light pda, a playful comment, or some kind of banter is fine. It's actually a turn on personality and I'm a guy.

If we are platonic or bros take it as a sign you give a shit. Value and maintain the relationship. Try incorporating it into our dynamic. Or find someone yourself can do that with.

If you feel jealously over something else like someone's job, skill, or personality trait; take it to mean you like or admire it. Take a step back and think about why you think and feel this way. Up your own game, take pride in your own job or get one you do, practice and get better, go find friends like that yourself, or set a personal goal. Or hell just throw a compliment their way. Positive reinforcement and recognition is something we all like. At the very least it's nice to know your doing something right.

Whatever you do....don't express it in a negative way. Even if someone like myself understands you, at some point we are going to get sick of it and you will poison the well or get a bad reputation.

Signed, A fan of Leos.

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Not a Leo but I am your opposite being an Aqua. Im not a jealous type but I am territorial in my own right. There is a good amount of jealousy that shows you care like what Gemitati said. But going overboard such as wanting 100% of the other person's attention is just not 😂

I think whenever I get to the point when I feel like I'm about to get too jealous, I just tell myself that if that person loves me, he will choose me. He will do everything to keep me. And if the time comes that he's not able to do that, then maybe he's not right for me. I don't like feeling insecure or comparing myself. Especially if I'm the girlfriend or the wife. I'm basically not the side bitch for me to be competing with other bitches, if you know what I mean? Lol but if I'm not the main bitch, I don't have the right to feel any jealousy or insecurity. Lol

I think territorial is more what I'm talking about but there is a jealousy to that as well.

Why does everyone have to be a bitch lmao 😂

Hahaha hahahaha we are all bishes 😂😂😂😂😂😂

There is this bitch trying to get my Virgo man. He doesnt want her but shes not listening. He put her in the friend zone but the bitch thinks that's how their relationship is going to start. It's bothering me as you can see. Lol I've calmed down a little once I cleared my head but I want to find her now lmao

How did they know each other? And also, how does she look like? What does she do that make you feel jealous? I need deets!!!!

I have no idea what she looks like. I know they met a few months ago according to him and they hang out often. Go to dinner and she wanted him to go to the beach this weekend but he had to work... that's kind of how I found out about her. When I saw him Fri he said he had to let her know he couldn't go.

So, that is kind of where the jealousy comes in cause we hardly go anywhere like the beach. He mentioned dinners but I'm guessing she pays for him cause he has been struggling with work the past few months so I know his cash flow.

So he tells me that she is just a friend completly in the friend zone...if anything was going to happen then it would have already happened. He says to me that he told her "I've never touched you, we have never made out, held hands nothing, we are just friends hanging out" and her response was "that's how relationships start" he said he told her "not mine." ..... soo she is a bit delusional as far as that is concerned I guess. I cant say cause him and I slept together the first night we hung out together lol.

So when I wouldnt let it go... he tells me "shes old news...shes like an old pair of shoes that I'm wearing and you are seeing for the first time." So my response to that since we have known eachother for like 4 years is "well what the fuck does that make me?" And he says "you're my companion".....

So that is all I know so far. It's more territorial then jealousy. I don't like the fact that she is trying to date him.

So basically, he told you about her and you haven't seen any proof like a text or email etc?

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Not yet. I don't go through his phone.

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Not a Leo but I am your opposite being an Aqua. Im not a jealous type but I am territorial in my own right. There is a good amount of jealousy that shows you care like what Gemitati said. But going overboard such as wanting 100% of the other person's attention is just not 😂

I think whenever I get to the point when I feel like I'm about to get too jealous, I just tell myself that if that person loves me, he will choose me. He will do everything to keep me. And if the time comes that he's not able to do that, then maybe he's not right for me. I don't like feeling insecure or comparing myself. Especially if I'm the girlfriend or the wife. I'm basically not the side bitch for me to be competing with other bitches, if you know what I mean? Lol but if I'm not the main bitch, I don't have the right to feel any jealousy or insecurity. Lol

I think territorial is more what I'm talking about but there is a jealousy to that as well.

Why does everyone have to be a bitch lmao 😂

Hahaha hahahaha we are all bishes 😂😂😂😂😂😂

There is this bitch trying to get my Virgo man. He doesnt want her but shes not listening. He put her in the friend zone but the bitch thinks that's how their relationship is going to start. It's bothering me as you can see. Lol I've calmed down a little once I cleared my head but I want to find her now lmao

How did they know each other? And also, how does she look like? What does she do that make you feel jealous? I need deets!!!!

I have no idea what she looks like. I know they met a few months ago according to him and they hang out often. Go to dinner and she wanted him to go to the beach this weekend but he had to work... that's kind of how I found out about her. When I saw him Fri he said he had to let her know he couldn't go.

So, that is kind of where the jealousy comes in cause we hardly go anywhere like the beach. He mentioned dinners but I'm guessing she pays for him cause he has been struggling with work the past few months so I know his cash flow.

So he tells me that she is just a friend completly in the friend zone...if anything was going to happen then it would have already happened. He says to me that he told her "I've never touched you, we have never made out, held hands nothing, we are just friends hanging out" and her response was "that's how relationships start" he said he told her "not mine." ..... soo she is a bit delusional as far as that is concerned I guess. I cant say cause him and I slept together the first night we hung out together lol.

So when I wouldnt let it go... he tells me "shes old news...shes like an old pair of shoes that I'm wearing and you are seeing for the first time." So my response to that since we have known eachother for like 4 years is "well what the fuck does that make me?" And he says "you're my companion".....

So that is all I know so far. It's more territorial then jealousy. I don't like the fact that she is trying to date him.

So basically, he told you about her and you haven't seen any proof like a text or email etc?

Not yet. I don't go through his phone.

Hmmm well, I wouldn't jump into jealousy just yet. Unless he's mentioned her several times when he's with you. Then that would be strange. It's like his guilt or his excitement making him want to talk about her. You have to trust your instinct tho. Not because the man says he rejected her, means he actually did. And if you wanna express jealousy or make an effort to express jealousy, make sure that you have the facts like messages or other stuff to prove that she actually did what he said she did. Otherwise, you might be getting jealous over nothing.

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You're absolutely right.

Following this cause I'm possessive and jealous and the whole 9...I don't deny it in the least bit. Hell I got possessive and jealous over the Sag wanting to better himself with working out 😆🤦🏼‍♀️.

I've caught myself being possessive over the Leo too and he does to me...he can tell me all his sex shit but if I try to tell him...omg, he throws a straight tantrum "I don't wanna hear that shit...i don't care how long ago it was. You belong to me" ummm excuse me?! "Yeah, it's fucked up I know but you're mine no matter what" but I totally get it and all I can do is laugh.

I say pee on him...let her know he's yours. I'm kidding kind of lol. Do you guys take any pics together? Start and post em...make an excuse if he says anything...like "I really like this pic of me and I can't really crop you out cause it'll look funny" or something like that and tag his ass in it lol. Make it a point in some shape or form that you're there...of course in a tactful manner. Hard to do...at least for me cause I feel nothing but fire burning in my chest 🤦🏼‍♀️

I'm bad at this...don't listen to my advice 😆

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Following this cause I'm possessive and jealous and the whole 9...I don't deny it in the least bit. Hell I got possessive and jealous over the Sag wanting to better himself with working out 😆🤦🏼‍♀️.

I've caught myself being possessive over the Leo too and he does to me...he can tell me all his sex shit but if I try to tell him...omg, he throws a straight tantrum "I don't wanna hear that shit...i don't care how long ago it was. You belong to me" ummm excuse me?! "Yeah, it's fucked up I know but you're mine no matter what" but I totally get it and all I can do is laugh.

I say pee on him...let her know he's yours. I'm kidding kind of lol. Do you guys take any pics together? Start and post em...make an excuse if he says anything...like "I really like this pic of me and I can't really crop you out cause it'll look funny" or something like that and tag his ass in it lol. Make it a point in some shape or form that you're there...of course in a tactful manner. Hard to do...at least for me cause I feel nothing but fire burning in my chest 🤦🏼‍♀️

Lmao on peeing on him.... the thought actually did pass my mind for a split second.

He actually did take some pics of me the other night but he cant post those....anywhere 😂

I actually want to hear about his past sex stuff. I wish he would share it more with me. As long as it's "past" and not anything going on now. Yeah it might make me a little jelly but at the same time I want to know every detail.

Part of it makes me wonder if he is trying to make me jealous with that fucking Scorpio moon of his...

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Following this cause I'm possessive and jealous and the whole 9...I don't deny it in the least bit. Hell I got possessive and jealous over the Sag wanting to better himself with working out 😆🤦🏼‍♀️.

I've caught myself being possessive over the Leo too and he does to me...he can tell me all his sex shit but if I try to tell him...omg, he throws a straight tantrum "I don't wanna hear that shit...i don't care how long ago it was. You belong to me" ummm excuse me?! "Yeah, it's fucked up I know but you're mine no matter what" but I totally get it and all I can do is laugh.

I say pee on him...let her know he's yours. I'm kidding kind of lol. Do you guys take any pics together? Start and post em...make an excuse if he says anything...like "I really like this pic of me and I can't really crop you out cause it'll look funny" or something like that and tag his ass in it lol. Make it a point in some shape or form that you're there...of course in a tactful manner. Hard to do...at least for me cause I feel nothing but fire burning in my chest 🤦🏼‍♀️

Lmao on peeing on him.... the thought actually did pass my mind for a split second.

He actually did take some pics of me the other night but he cant post those....anywhere 😂

I actually want to hear about his past sex stuff. I wish he would share it more with me. As long as it's "past" and not anything going on now. Yeah it might make me a little jelly but at the same time I want to know every detail.

Part of it makes me wonder if he is trying to make me jealous with that fucking Scorpio moon of his...

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😆😆😆. I asked the leo if he was gonna pee on me with the way he was acting...he said he just might lol. He's a trip. Girl...he's shown me vids...and if I liked him like I used to...woah, that would've thrown me into a dramatic hot mess but it actually didn't bother me. When he mentioned some chick eyeing him at work...I was like do I need to go down there? 🤦🏼‍♀️. I'm like wait a minute, we ain't together for me to say anything but meh, I can't help it. I called him an attention whore and he's like yeah, I am 😆.

Ohhh yeah, that Scorp moon. Grrrr, that's probably why he won't spill it on any past sexual stuff and I wouldn't doubt in the least bit he's trying to get some sort of reaction out of you. They are calculating and manipulative without being right in your face about it. Like I can see it a mile a way but I still ask about em cause they make me second guess myself. Drives me crazy but I love em 🥺. They also love the possessiveness...shit turns them on. They love the dramatics behind closed doors... despite what they say (don't over do it cause that'll get old). If things are going to smoothly for a while ..they have to stir the pot a little...makes them feel alive or some shit... majority of the time its for reassurance.

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Not a Leo but I am your opposite being an Aqua. Im not a jealous type but I am territorial in my own right. There is a good amount of jealousy that shows you care like what Gemitati said. But going overboard such as wanting 100% of the other person's attention is just not 😂

I think whenever I get to the point when I feel like I'm about to get too jealous, I just tell myself that if that person loves me, he will choose me. He will do everything to keep me. And if the time comes that he's not able to do that, then maybe he's not right for me. I don't like feeling insecure or comparing myself. Especially if I'm the girlfriend or the wife. I'm basically not the side bitch for me to be competing with other bitches, if you know what I mean? Lol but if I'm not the main bitch, I don't have the right to feel any jealousy or insecurity. Lol

I think territorial is more what I'm talking about but there is a jealousy to that as well.

Why does everyone have to be a bitch lmao 😂

Hahaha hahahaha we are all bishes 😂😂😂😂😂😂

There is this bitch trying to get my Virgo man. He doesnt want her but shes not listening. He put her in the friend zone but the bitch thinks that's how their relationship is going to start. It's bothering me as you can see. Lol I've calmed down a little once I cleared my head but I want to find her now lmao

How did they know each other? And also, how does she look like? What does she do that make you feel jealous? I need deets!!!!

I have no idea what she looks like. I know they met a few months ago according to him and they hang out often. Go to dinner and she wanted him to go to the beach this weekend but he had to work... that's kind of how I found out about her. When I saw him Fri he said he had to let her know he couldn't go.

So, that is kind of where the jealousy comes in cause we hardly go anywhere like the beach. He mentioned dinners but I'm guessing she pays for him cause he has been struggling with work the past few months so I know his cash flow.

So he tells me that she is just a friend completly in the friend zone...if anything was going to happen then it would have already happened. He says to me that he told her "I've never touched you, we have never made out, held hands nothing, we are just friends hanging out" and her response was "that's how relationships start" he said he told her "not mine." ..... soo she is a bit delusional as far as that is concerned I guess. I cant say cause him and I slept together the first night we hung out together lol.

So when I wouldnt let it go... he tells me "shes old news...shes like an old pair of shoes that I'm wearing and you are seeing for the first time." So my response to that since we have known eachother for like 4 years is "well what the fuck does that make me?" And he says "you're my companion".....

So that is all I know so far. It's more territorial then jealousy. I don't like the fact that she is trying to date him.

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Oh Okay she actually went after him. So this changes things. It is not the same as a normal mixed platonic relationship at all. Tell him if she over steps again he has to drop her period. It's disrespectful to you and your relationship with him. After a while she will fade away or claim to wanting to be just friends with him. If that happens I recommend meeting and get to know her before he goes anywhere with her. It might be ackward until everyone gets relaxed but it's better than this poisoning your relationship. Invite her yourself.



Regardless if he was legitimately naive of her intent(I've been guilty of this) or he had some intentions in this situation, thank you for talking this out with him instead of getting passive aggressive or losing your shit. I'm not just saying this because my ex was a piece of work. It's the mature way to handle it. Communicating and hashing things out. It's important to state and assert your boundaries while giving him room to breath. Be mindful of what you lay down though. Don't be a Hypocrite. It causes resentment.

Oh ya, talk to him about going to the beach with you or the equivalent. You recognize that desire and it's possible so...voice it.

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Not a Leo but I am your opposite being an Aqua. Im not a jealous type but I am territorial in my own right. There is a good amount of jealousy that shows you care like what Gemitati said. But going overboard such as wanting 100% of the other person's attention is just not 😂

I think whenever I get to the point when I feel like I'm about to get too jealous, I just tell myself that if that person loves me, he will choose me. He will do everything to keep me. And if the time comes that he's not able to do that, then maybe he's not right for me. I don't like feeling insecure or comparing myself. Especially if I'm the girlfriend or the wife. I'm basically not the side bitch for me to be competing with other bitches, if you know what I mean? Lol but if I'm not the main bitch, I don't have the right to feel any jealousy or insecurity. Lol

I think territorial is more what I'm talking about but there is a jealousy to that as well.

Why does everyone have to be a bitch lmao 😂

Hahaha hahahaha we are all bishes 😂😂😂😂😂😂

There is this bitch trying to get my Virgo man. He doesnt want her but shes not listening. He put her in the friend zone but the bitch thinks that's how their relationship is going to start. It's bothering me as you can see. Lol I've calmed down a little once I cleared my head but I want to find her now lmao

How did they know each other? And also, how does she look like? What does she do that make you feel jealous? I need deets!!!!

I have no idea what she looks like. I know they met a few months ago according to him and they hang out often. Go to dinner and she wanted him to go to the beach this weekend but he had to work... that's kind of how I found out about her. When I saw him Fri he said he had to let her know he couldn't go.

So, that is kind of where the jealousy comes in cause we hardly go anywhere like the beach. He mentioned dinners but I'm guessing she pays for him cause he has been struggling with work the past few months so I know his cash flow.

So he tells me that she is just a friend completly in the friend zone...if anything was going to happen then it would have already happened. He says to me that he told her "I've never touched you, we have never made out, held hands nothing, we are just friends hanging out" and her response was "that's how relationships start" he said he told her "not mine." ..... soo she is a bit delusional as far as that is concerned I guess. I cant say cause him and I slept together the first night we hung out together lol.

So when I wouldnt let it go... he tells me "shes old news...shes like an old pair of shoes that I'm wearing and you are seeing for the first time." So my response to that since we have known eachother for like 4 years is "well what the fuck does that make me?" And he says "you're my companion".....

So that is all I know so far. It's more territorial then jealousy. I don't like the fact that she is trying to date him.

Oh Okay she actually went after him. So this changes things. It is not the same as a normal mixed platonic relationship at all. Tell him if she over steps again he has to drop her period. It's disrespectful to you and your relationship with him. After a while she will fade away or claim to wanting to be just friends with him. If that happens I recommend meeting and get to know her before he goes anywhere with her. It might be ackward until everyone gets relaxed but it's better than this poisoning your relationship. Invite her yourself.



Regardless if he was legitimately naive of her intent(I've been guilty of this) or he had some intentions in this situation, thank you for talking this out with him instead of getting passive aggressive or losing your shit. I'm not just saying this because my ex was a piece of work. It's the mature way to handle it. Communicating and hashing things out. It's important to state and assert your boundaries while giving him room to breath. Be mindful of what you lay down though. Don't be a Hypocrite. It causes resentment.

Oh ya, talk to him about going to the beach with you or the equivalent. You recognize that desire and it's possible so...voice it.

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Yeah, if what he is telling me is true then she wants to be more then just friends. I can't blame her. He is tall dark and handsome lol but I guess I can somewhat find comfort in knowing how much of an ass hole he can be when he isnt that interested in someone. Guess it depends on if she has thick skin or if she is to nieve with rose colored glasses on. As far as telling him not to be friends with her.... I can't do that. I wouldn't want him to do that to me. Plus, it might stop him from telling me about other females in the future. I have to play it cool until I can produce some solid proof as to what is going on.

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Following this cause I'm possessive and jealous and the whole 9...I don't deny it in the least bit. Hell I got possessive and jealous over the Sag wanting to better himself with working out 😆🤦🏼‍♀️.

I've caught myself being possessive over the Leo too and he does to me...he can tell me all his sex shit but if I try to tell him...omg, he throws a straight tantrum "I don't wanna hear that shit...i don't care how long ago it was. You belong to me" ummm excuse me?! "Yeah, it's fucked up I know but you're mine no matter what" but I totally get it and all I can do is laugh.

I say pee on him...let her know he's yours. I'm kidding kind of lol. Do you guys take any pics together? Start and post em...make an excuse if he says anything...like "I really like this pic of me and I can't really crop you out cause it'll look funny" or something like that and tag his ass in it lol. Make it a point in some shape or form that you're there...of course in a tactful manner. Hard to do...at least for me cause I feel nothing but fire burning in my chest 🤦🏼‍♀️

Lmao on peeing on him.... the thought actually did pass my mind for a split second.

He actually did take some pics of me the other night but he cant post those....anywhere 😂

I actually want to hear about his past sex stuff. I wish he would share it more with me. As long as it's "past" and not anything going on now. Yeah it might make me a little jelly but at the same time I want to know every detail.

Part of it makes me wonder if he is trying to make me jealous with that fucking Scorpio moon of his...

😆😆😆. I asked the leo if he was gonna pee on me with the way he was acting...he said he just might lol. He's a trip. Girl...he's shown me vids...and if I liked him like I used to...woah, that would've thrown me into a dramatic hot mess but it actually didn't bother me. When he mentioned some chick eyeing him at work...I was like do I need to go down there? 🤦🏼‍♀️. I'm like wait a minute, we ain't together for me to say anything but meh, I can't help it. I called him an attention whore and he's like yeah, I am 😆.

Ohhh yeah, that Scorp moon. Grrrr, that's probably why he won't spill it on any past sexual stuff and I wouldn't doubt in the least bit he's trying to get some sort of reaction out of you. They are calculating and manipulative without being right in your face about it. Like I can see it a mile a way but I still ask about em cause they make me second guess myself. Drives me crazy but I love em 🥺. They also love the possessiveness...shit turns them on. They love the dramatics behind closed doors... despite what they say (don't over do it cause that'll get old). If things are going to smoothly for a while ..they have to stir the pot a little...makes them feel alive or some shit... majority of the time its for reassurance.

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Yes, he def likes to stir the pot. When we first met it used to piss me off...but now I can usually recognize it. Sometimes he throws me off tho and I'm just like "wtf is going on?" ... I think that is the Virgo side of him....I think you told me once you dont even know what the hell you are saying half the time...lol... he does that and when I get confused he's just like "nevermind, I dont know". 😂

Oh I can do the dramatic... but I have not gone over the top with him.....yet. He got the sad dramatic where I broke down and cried and let him hold me..... he hasnt gotten the angry Leo dramatic yet. Lmao I've snapped at him a few times and been passive aggressive but that's about it. He actually usually calms me so that is a good thing. Not everyone can calm the lioness. He can be pretty alpha when need be.

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Following this cause I'm possessive and jealous and the whole 9...I don't deny it in the least bit. Hell I got possessive and jealous over the Sag wanting to better himself with working out 😆🤦🏼‍♀️.

I've caught myself being possessive over the Leo too and he does to me...he can tell me all his sex shit but if I try to tell him...omg, he throws a straight tantrum "I don't wanna hear that shit...i don't care how long ago it was. You belong to me" ummm excuse me?! "Yeah, it's fucked up I know but you're mine no matter what" but I totally get it and all I can do is laugh.

I say pee on him...let her know he's yours. I'm kidding kind of lol. Do you guys take any pics together? Start and post em...make an excuse if he says anything...like "I really like this pic of me and I can't really crop you out cause it'll look funny" or something like that and tag his ass in it lol. Make it a point in some shape or form that you're there...of course in a tactful manner. Hard to do...at least for me cause I feel nothing but fire burning in my chest 🤦🏼‍♀️

Lmao on peeing on him.... the thought actually did pass my mind for a split second.

He actually did take some pics of me the other night but he cant post those....anywhere 😂

I actually want to hear about his past sex stuff. I wish he would share it more with me. As long as it's "past" and not anything going on now. Yeah it might make me a little jelly but at the same time I want to know every detail.

Part of it makes me wonder if he is trying to make me jealous with that fucking Scorpio moon of his...

😆😆😆. I asked the leo if he was gonna pee on me with the way he was acting...he said he just might lol. He's a trip. Girl...he's shown me vids...and if I liked him like I used to...woah, that would've thrown me into a dramatic hot mess but it actually didn't bother me. When he mentioned some chick eyeing him at work...I was like do I need to go down there? 🤦🏼‍♀️. I'm like wait a minute, we ain't together for me to say anything but meh, I can't help it. I called him an attention whore and he's like yeah, I am 😆.

Ohhh yeah, that Scorp moon. Grrrr, that's probably why he won't spill it on any past sexual stuff and I wouldn't doubt in the least bit he's trying to get some sort of reaction out of you. They are calculating and manipulative without being right in your face about it. Like I can see it a mile a way but I still ask about em cause they make me second guess myself. Drives me crazy but I love em 🥺. They also love the possessiveness...shit turns them on. They love the dramatics behind closed doors... despite what they say (don't over do it cause that'll get old). If things are going to smoothly for a while ..they have to stir the pot a little...makes them feel alive or some shit... majority of the time its for reassurance.

Yes, he def likes to stir the pot. When we first met it used to piss me off...but now I can usually recognize it. Sometimes he throws me off tho and I'm just like "wtf is going on?" ... I think that is the Virgo side of him....I think you told me once you dont even know what the hell you are saying half the time...lol... he does that and when I get confused he's just like "nevermind, I dont know". 😂

Oh I can do the dramatic... but I have not gone over the top with him.....yet. He got the sad dramatic where I broke down and cried and let him hold me..... he hasnt gotten the angry Leo dramatic yet. Lmao I've snapped at him a few times and been passive aggressive but that's about it. He actually usually calms me so that is a good thing. Not everyone can calm the lioness. He can be pretty alpha when need be.

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Yep...my ex Pisces used to do all kinds of shit. This was before I really knew about astrology and didn't realize it then but looking back...it makes so much more sense. They can be just as or more dramatic than Leo's or leo moons. Hahaha...yeah, I don't know what I'm saying half the time and that's usually my go to line..."nevermind or idk" I know but if you didnt catch it the first time especially about something I'm not comfortable talking about...I ain't about to repeat it lol.

Awww I love that he makes you calm...its a hard thing to do when the lion comes out and not a lot of people can handle it. I think that's why I like hanging out with the Leo...I can be totally myself (I think I could with the Sag if we ever get the opportunity)... dramatic and all that and he'll shrug it off or pout but he's over it. I think I do the same for him...when he had his kid the other day...his kid was acting out a little, nothing huge...but the leo was also tipsy and he was being a little over bearing. I gently tapped him on the foot and he's like what...am I being too much? I said yeah a little bit and he's ok and he chilled out. Another time, his kid was asking for money for his vid game and the leo was being extra to get a rise outta him...the mom, texting him and was like not cool etc. He told me what she said and I was like...well, not to get into your business but she has a point. Normally he would mouth off...he just simply apologized and told her she was right...I bet she died right there 😆. I think the earthiness of the Virgo aspect helps to calm the fire with our logic approach to things I guess...but you also have a water moon...so his water moon helps in that area too I bet. Damn, that's so cute! ❤️

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Following this cause I'm possessive and jealous and the whole 9...I don't deny it in the least bit. Hell I got possessive and jealous over the Sag wanting to better himself with working out 😆🤦🏼‍♀️.

I've caught myself being possessive over the Leo too and he does to me...he can tell me all his sex shit but if I try to tell him...omg, he throws a straight tantrum "I don't wanna hear that shit...i don't care how long ago it was. You belong to me" ummm excuse me?! "Yeah, it's fucked up I know but you're mine no matter what" but I totally get it and all I can do is laugh.

I say pee on him...let her know he's yours. I'm kidding kind of lol. Do you guys take any pics together? Start and post em...make an excuse if he says anything...like "I really like this pic of me and I can't really crop you out cause it'll look funny" or something like that and tag his ass in it lol. Make it a point in some shape or form that you're there...of course in a tactful manner. Hard to do...at least for me cause I feel nothing but fire burning in my chest 🤦🏼‍♀️

Lmao on peeing on him.... the thought actually did pass my mind for a split second.

He actually did take some pics of me the other night but he cant post those....anywhere 😂

I actually want to hear about his past sex stuff. I wish he would share it more with me. As long as it's "past" and not anything going on now. Yeah it might make me a little jelly but at the same time I want to know every detail.

Part of it makes me wonder if he is trying to make me jealous with that fucking Scorpio moon of his...

😆😆😆. I asked the leo if he was gonna pee on me with the way he was acting...he said he just might lol. He's a trip. Girl...he's shown me vids...and if I liked him like I used to...woah, that would've thrown me into a dramatic hot mess but it actually didn't bother me. When he mentioned some chick eyeing him at work...I was like do I need to go down there? 🤦🏼‍♀️. I'm like wait a minute, we ain't together for me to say anything but meh, I can't help it. I called him an attention whore and he's like yeah, I am 😆.

Ohhh yeah, that Scorp moon. Grrrr, that's probably why he won't spill it on any past sexual stuff and I wouldn't doubt in the least bit he's trying to get some sort of reaction out of you. They are calculating and manipulative without being right in your face about it. Like I can see it a mile a way but I still ask about em cause they make me second guess myself. Drives me crazy but I love em 🥺. They also love the possessiveness...shit turns them on. They love the dramatics behind closed doors... despite what they say (don't over do it cause that'll get old). If things are going to smoothly for a while ..they have to stir the pot a little...makes them feel alive or some shit... majority of the time its for reassurance.

Yes, he def likes to stir the pot. When we first met it used to piss me off...but now I can usually recognize it. Sometimes he throws me off tho and I'm just like "wtf is going on?" ... I think that is the Virgo side of him....I think you told me once you dont even know what the hell you are saying half the time...lol... he does that and when I get confused he's just like "nevermind, I dont know". 😂

Oh I can do the dramatic... but I have not gone over the top with him.....yet. He got the sad dramatic where I broke down and cried and let him hold me..... he hasnt gotten the angry Leo dramatic yet. Lmao I've snapped at him a few times and been passive aggressive but that's about it. He actually usually calms me so that is a good thing. Not everyone can calm the lioness. He can be pretty alpha when need be.

Yep...my ex Pisces used to do all kinds of shit. This was before I really knew about astrology and didn't realize it then but looking back...it makes so much more sense. They can be just as or more dramatic than Leo's or leo moons. Hahaha...yeah, I don't know what I'm saying half the time and that's usually my go to line..."nevermind or idk" I know but if you didnt catch it the first time especially about something I'm not comfortable talking about...I ain't about to repeat it lol.

Awww I love that he makes you calm...its a hard thing to do when the lion comes out and not a lot of people can handle it. I think that's why I like hanging out with the Leo...I can be totally myself (I think I could with the Sag if we ever get the opportunity)... dramatic and all that and he'll shrug it off or pout but he's over it. I think I do the same for him...when he had his kid the other day...his kid was acting out a little, nothing huge...but the leo was also tipsy and he was being a little over bearing. I gently tapped him on the foot and he's like what...am I being too much? I said yeah a little bit and he's ok and he chilled out. Another time, his kid was asking for money for his vid game and the leo was being extra to get a rise outta him...the mom, texting him and was like not cool etc. He told me what she said and I was like...well, not to get into your business but she has a point. Normally he would mouth off...he just simply apologized and told her she was right...I bet she died right there 😆. I think the earthiness of the Virgo aspect helps to calm the fire with our logic approach to things I guess...but you also have a water moon...so his water moon helps in that area too I bet. Damn, that's so cute! ❤️

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Yes, not everyone can talk to us like that and get away with it. Sometimes it makes me even more angry if someone tells me how to act or calm down(I'm also Spanish so can you imagine 😂) Not a lot of people get that. My dad who is also a Leo always knows how to explain things to me... my Scorpio mom on the other hand...not so much lol.

But yeah, Leo dads are tough. I've had to put mine in his place a few times over the years. They like to joke but take it to far with the kids. I've learned to spot my dads sarcasm but he still sometimes gets me at 40.

I told the Virgo that I like talking to him because he grounds me. He liked that and told me I could go crazy with him and vent so he can ground me any time. I'll go crazy and send him like 20 text about something and he will respond with like a sentence and I'm like "ok. I'm good." Lol it's fucking weird.

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Following this cause I'm possessive and jealous and the whole 9...I don't deny it in the least bit. Hell I got possessive and jealous over the Sag wanting to better himself with working out 😆🤦🏼‍♀️.

I've caught myself being possessive over the Leo too and he does to me...he can tell me all his sex shit but if I try to tell him...omg, he throws a straight tantrum "I don't wanna hear that shit...i don't care how long ago it was. You belong to me" ummm excuse me?! "Yeah, it's fucked up I know but you're mine no matter what" but I totally get it and all I can do is laugh.

I say pee on him...let her know he's yours. I'm kidding kind of lol. Do you guys take any pics together? Start and post em...make an excuse if he says anything...like "I really like this pic of me and I can't really crop you out cause it'll look funny" or something like that and tag his ass in it lol. Make it a point in some shape or form that you're there...of course in a tactful manner. Hard to do...at least for me cause I feel nothing but fire burning in my chest 🤦🏼‍♀️

Lmao on peeing on him.... the thought actually did pass my mind for a split second.

He actually did take some pics of me the other night but he cant post those....anywhere 😂

I actually want to hear about his past sex stuff. I wish he would share it more with me. As long as it's "past" and not anything going on now. Yeah it might make me a little jelly but at the same time I want to know every detail.

Part of it makes me wonder if he is trying to make me jealous with that fucking Scorpio moon of his...

😆😆😆. I asked the leo if he was gonna pee on me with the way he was acting...he said he just might lol. He's a trip. Girl...he's shown me vids...and if I liked him like I used to...woah, that would've thrown me into a dramatic hot mess but it actually didn't bother me. When he mentioned some chick eyeing him at work...I was like do I need to go down there? 🤦🏼‍♀️. I'm like wait a minute, we ain't together for me to say anything but meh, I can't help it. I called him an attention whore and he's like yeah, I am 😆.

Ohhh yeah, that Scorp moon. Grrrr, that's probably why he won't spill it on any past sexual stuff and I wouldn't doubt in the least bit he's trying to get some sort of reaction out of you. They are calculating and manipulative without being right in your face about it. Like I can see it a mile a way but I still ask about em cause they make me second guess myself. Drives me crazy but I love em 🥺. They also love the possessiveness...shit turns them on. They love the dramatics behind closed doors... despite what they say (don't over do it cause that'll get old). If things are going to smoothly for a while ..they have to stir the pot a little...makes them feel alive or some shit... majority of the time its for reassurance.

Yes, he def likes to stir the pot. When we first met it used to piss me off...but now I can usually recognize it. Sometimes he throws me off tho and I'm just like "wtf is going on?" ... I think that is the Virgo side of him....I think you told me once you dont even know what the hell you are saying half the time...lol... he does that and when I get confused he's just like "nevermind, I dont know". 😂

Oh I can do the dramatic... but I have not gone over the top with him.....yet. He got the sad dramatic where I broke down and cried and let him hold me..... he hasnt gotten the angry Leo dramatic yet. Lmao I've snapped at him a few times and been passive aggressive but that's about it. He actually usually calms me so that is a good thing. Not everyone can calm the lioness. He can be pretty alpha when need be.

Yep...my ex Pisces used to do all kinds of shit. This was before I really knew about astrology and didn't realize it then but looking back...it makes so much more sense. They can be just as or more dramatic than Leo's or leo moons. Hahaha...yeah, I don't know what I'm saying half the time and that's usually my go to line..."nevermind or idk" I know but if you didnt catch it the first time especially about something I'm not comfortable talking about...I ain't about to repeat it lol.

Awww I love that he makes you calm...its a hard thing to do when the lion comes out and not a lot of people can handle it. I think that's why I like hanging out with the Leo...I can be totally myself (I think I could with the Sag if we ever get the opportunity)... dramatic and all that and he'll shrug it off or pout but he's over it. I think I do the same for him...when he had his kid the other day...his kid was acting out a little, nothing huge...but the leo was also tipsy and he was being a little over bearing. I gently tapped him on the foot and he's like what...am I being too much? I said yeah a little bit and he's ok and he chilled out. Another time, his kid was asking for money for his vid game and the leo was being extra to get a rise outta him...the mom, texting him and was like not cool etc. He told me what she said and I was like...well, not to get into your business but she has a point. Normally he would mouth off...he just simply apologized and told her she was right...I bet she died right there 😆. I think the earthiness of the Virgo aspect helps to calm the fire with our logic approach to things I guess...but you also have a water moon...so his water moon helps in that area too I bet. Damn, that's so cute! ❤️

Yes, not everyone can talk to us like that and get away with it. Sometimes it makes me even more angry if someone tells me how to act or calm down(I'm also Spanish so can you imagine 😂) Not a lot of people get that. My dad who is also a Leo always knows how to explain things to me... my Scorpio mom on the other hand...not so much lol.

But yeah, Leo dads are tough. I've had to put mine in his place a few times over the years. They like to joke but take it to far with the kids. I've learned to spot my dads sarcasm but he still sometimes gets me at 40.

I told the Virgo that I like talking to him because he grounds me. He liked that and told me I could go crazy with him and vent so he can ground me any time. I'll go crazy and send him like 20 text about something and he will respond with like a sentence and I'm like "ok. I'm good." Lol it's fucking weird.

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Yessss I hate when someone tells me to calm down...like I will but I need to get it out first lol. Ugh...me and my Scorp Dad used to butt heads so much but there were times when he knew how to calm me down...other times, he provoked me more...such a love/hate relationship there. My Aqua mom...Lord have mercy...takes everything in me not to slap the shit outta her...she is wayyyy more dramatic than I am...you think she'd be easy going with her Sag moon...but nope...fire is fire lol.

Seeeeee...he loves that shit and he's got best of both worlds...the logical side and emotional side...so he'll be able to mold himself for the occasion. Not saying Scorps can't do that on their own...but when they are in a mood themselves...logic seems to go out the window...so the virgoness brings a little balance there for himself I imagine. I think that's why I tend to go for watery peeps...they know how to put all this fire out when I pop off... sometimes it's a little too much tho lol. The joys of being fire dominant 🤦🏼‍♀️

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Not a Leo but I am your opposite being an Aqua. Im not a jealous type but I am territorial in my own right. There is a good amount of jealousy that shows you care like what Gemitati said. But going overboard such as wanting 100% of the other person's attention is just not 😂

I think whenever I get to the point when I feel like I'm about to get too jealous, I just tell myself that if that person loves me, he will choose me. He will do everything to keep me. And if the time comes that he's not able to do that, then maybe he's not right for me. I don't like feeling insecure or comparing myself. Especially if I'm the girlfriend or the wife. I'm basically not the side bitch for me to be competing with other bitches, if you know what I mean? Lol but if I'm not the main bitch, I don't have the right to feel any jealousy or insecurity. Lol

I think territorial is more what I'm talking about but there is a jealousy to that as well.

Why does everyone have to be a bitch lmao 😂

Hahaha hahahaha we are all bishes 😂😂😂😂😂😂

There is this bitch trying to get my Virgo man. He doesnt want her but shes not listening. He put her in the friend zone but the bitch thinks that's how their relationship is going to start. It's bothering me as you can see. Lol I've calmed down a little once I cleared my head but I want to find her now lmao

How did they know each other? And also, how does she look like? What does she do that make you feel jealous? I need deets!!!!

I have no idea what she looks like. I know they met a few months ago according to him and they hang out often. Go to dinner and she wanted him to go to the beach this weekend but he had to work... that's kind of how I found out about her. When I saw him Fri he said he had to let her know he couldn't go.

So, that is kind of where the jealousy comes in cause we hardly go anywhere like the beach. He mentioned dinners but I'm guessing she pays for him cause he has been struggling with work the past few months so I know his cash flow.

So he tells me that she is just a friend completly in the friend zone...if anything was going to happen then it would have already happened. He says to me that he told her "I've never touched you, we have never made out, held hands nothing, we are just friends hanging out" and her response was "that's how relationships start" he said he told her "not mine." ..... soo she is a bit delusional as far as that is concerned I guess. I cant say cause him and I slept together the first night we hung out together lol.

So when I wouldnt let it go... he tells me "shes old news...shes like an old pair of shoes that I'm wearing and you are seeing for the first time." So my response to that since we have known eachother for like 4 years is "well what the fuck does that make me?" And he says "you're my companion".....

So that is all I know so far. It's more territorial then jealousy. I don't like the fact that she is trying to date him.

Oh Okay she actually went after him. So this changes things. It is not the same as a normal mixed platonic relationship at all. Tell him if she over steps again he has to drop her period. It's disrespectful to you and your relationship with him. After a while she will fade away or claim to wanting to be just friends with him. If that happens I recommend meeting and get to know her before he goes anywhere with her. It might be ackward until everyone gets relaxed but it's better than this poisoning your relationship. Invite her yourself.



Regardless if he was legitimately naive of her intent(I've been guilty of this) or he had some intentions in this situation, thank you for talking this out with him instead of getting passive aggressive or losing your shit. I'm not just saying this because my ex was a piece of work. It's the mature way to handle it. Communicating and hashing things out. It's important to state and assert your boundaries while giving him room to breath. Be mindful of what you lay down though. Don't be a Hypocrite. It causes resentment.

Oh ya, talk to him about going to the beach with you or the equivalent. You recognize that desire and it's possible so...voice it.

Yeah, if what he is telling me is true then she wants to be more then just friends. I can't blame her. He is tall dark and handsome lol but I guess I can somewhat find comfort in knowing how much of an ass hole he can be when he isnt that interested in someone. Guess it depends on if she has thick skin or if she is to nieve with rose colored glasses on. As far as telling him not to be friends with her.... I can't do that. I wouldn't want him to do that to me. Plus, it might stop him from telling me about other females in the future. I have to play it cool until I can produce some solid proof as to what is going on.

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Your misunderstanding me. I never said or implied that. I'm guessing a part of you does want to handle it that way. I'm glad your not falling it to that negative mind trap and acting on it.

Let me put it another way. I'm sure most of us have been in her shoes at least once.Like you said you recognize he is desirable to others and know It's stupid to be threatened by that. It's understandable. So no harm no foul.

I'm thinking ahead in this situation and about likely outcomes. One being her fading away because that is her only interest in him or making another move. Which would be disrespecting to his wishes and your relationship.

Another outcome is her accepting him being off the market and wanting to be just friends. Depending how strongly she felt that might take some time. Expect some light teasing and slip ups of flirt from her in the transition. At some point it's a good idea to meet your s/o's friends anyway. It's a part of their life.

Personally anyone I would consider dating would make a good friend in the first place or I wouldn't be interested in them in the first place. Some people can do that no problem like myself. Others are too uptight or can't handle it on a emotional level. To me it's a matter of self-awareness and maturity. To each their own though.

I very much agree with what 7thouse said. Basically, letting someone go if they do not choose you and not restricting them from making that choice either way.

Once you go down that path of controlling your partner to that degree, the relationship will become unhealthy for both people. Also a waste of precious time. When you could have come across someone who will feel strongly enough to choose you and can be trusted not to let their genitals think for them.

I'm a pretty liberal person but even I can see the value of boundaries. It's not always about protect other people's feelings or social norms and constructs. Some times it is straight up common sense and recognizing certain aspects of biology and psychology. Everyone deserves the benefit of the doubt and the chance to demonstrate their maturity in these situations.

Keeping all that in mind. You should warn him about being in compromising situations with her. Wether he was naive about her intent or had intent himself, the benefit of a doubt no longer applies to her. Now it's a good idea for him to be cautious and put himself in compromising situations with her to avoid drama for a while.



Again like what 7thouse basically implied, if one day he steps out and cheats then obviously he doesn't feel strongly enough about you to not do that or I would like to throw in being mature enough to control himself. As a woman, if you were in her shoes, you could understand that request from another person's s/o. If only to make sure these intentions cool off and be readjusted.

All of that is the reason I said what I said😊

Edit: If you want to say nothing and silently shit test him and see what he does, that's cool too lol

I've personally eliminated a lot of drama and people's bullshit by being honest and taking into account others wishes and feelings. Admittedly, some people couldn't handle it and thought I was working some kind of angle. Others accepted it after a while and even returned the sentiment.

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Fellow Leo's... how do you deal with your jealous tendencies? It's something I've been working on for years. I know it's unattractive and comes off as being insecure. But no matter how much I try to not get jealous, it's like a turtle head coming out of my ass wanting to make an appearance.

I've learned to try to keep it cool when I'm hearing or seeing what triggers it but inside I'm screaming.

*Don't tell me you don't get jealous... I know that is bullshit.* 😁🤗😚

An interesting question indeed. Just remember that jealousy is simply a form of insecurity. There is nothing wrong with being a bit territorial or making your boundaries known. That is healthy. However when you try controlling other people's actions by imposing those boundaries on them, that gives rise to jealousy. The unfortunate truth is that jealousy stems from a place of lack/want, which can sabotage your thoughts if you are no careful.

One thing to ask yourself is, what is the source of your jealousy? Is the source is coming from you alone? Meaning is your jealousy stemming from a feeling of personal lack? If that is the case, you will need to work on that first. How do you do this? Literally find the aspects of yourself that you are uncomfortable with and improve them. Do you feel physically unattractive? Exercise/workout to improve your appearance and confidence levels. Do feel that you are uninteresting? Find a hobby and commit to learning everything about it for 3 to 6 months. Do you feel financially insecure? Start researching ways to make more money or consider going back to school to learn a new skill set. Just be honest with yourself about your problem areas and work on bettering them.

For example, I grew up as a the funny/nerdy guy who had glasses, braces, and not an ounce of muscle. It is safe to say that I was not a "looker" in high school. Then in college the glasses and braces came off, so my confidence rose along with my luck with women. After college my confidence rose again when I started making enough money to support myself, then rose even more when I started my own business. Then on top of that I started going to the gym and working on my physique. I went from being average to being able to lift anywhere from 200 to over 400 lbs (90.5 to 181 kg). I went from being confident to becoming downright intimidating to some people.

While that may sound negative, I realized that I only intimidated people who felt insecure themselves. They were projecting their own ideas on to me. They saw me as some muscular meathead instead of the well rounded person I actually was. I now see life more as a challenge than anything else. That is not to say that I never get jealous, but I treat jealousy for what it is, an emotional impulse. When I feel jealous, I rationalize it to make sure that I am not succumbing to my on insecurities. I seek the root of that insecure feeling and work to improve it.

That being said, if the source of your jealousy is not coming entirely from you, remove the source. I already saw someone post earlier that people will make you jealous to see if you care about them. This is an insecure and emotionally immature stance to take. A person who truly cares about you will not want to cause you undue pain by trying to make you jealous. In reality that person is conveying that they are in fact afraid to reveal their own feelings. As a result they try to force you to reveal your feelings instead. It is basically their attempt to control the outcome without confronting it themselves. It is true that if you care about someone, a little jealousy can be healthy. However that only pertains to secure situations (friendships, relationships etc) where there is honest communication. The only other time jealousy can be healthy is when a person has no idea how your feel about them or feels that you are taking them for granted. Then in that case a little jealousy can clear up the confusion created by inaction.

However if a person actively attempts to make you jealous, either subtly or overtly, it is best to distance yourself and remove your attention from them. In reality your attention gives them power. Remember that you can not control the actions of others, so do not let their actions influence your feelings. For example, if you have a friend who is constantly throwing their successes in your face, create some distance from them to see if they are deliberately trying to make you jealous. Use that potential jealousy as motivation to better yourself and potentially create a healthy rivalry. Additionally, if you have crush who seems to habitually flirt with other people to get a rise out of you, remove your attention from them. Give your attention to someone more deserving who does not play silly games. These people are using jealousy as a way of controlling your emotions to boost their own egos. It is their attempt at controlling the narrative.

Either way, you have complete control over how you approach your own jealous impulses.

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Posted by SeaLion

Fellow Leo's... how do you deal with your jealous tendencies? It's something I've been working on for years. I know it's unattractive and comes off as being insecure. But no matter how much I try to not get jealous, it's like a turtle head coming out of my ass wanting to make an appearance.

I've learned to try to keep it cool when I'm hearing or seeing what triggers it but inside I'm screaming.

*Don't tell me you don't get jealous... I know that is bullshit.* 😁🤗😚

An interesting question indeed. Just remember that jealousy is simply a form of insecurity. There is nothing wrong with being a bit territorial or making your boundaries known. That is healthy. However when you try controlling other people's actions by imposing those boundaries on them, that gives rise to jealousy. The unfortunate truth is that jealousy stems from a place of lack/want, which can sabotage your thoughts if you are no careful.

One thing to ask yourself is, what is the source of your jealousy? Is the source is coming from you alone? Meaning is your jealousy stemming from a feeling of personal lack? If that is the case, you will need to work on that first. How do you do this? Literally find the aspects of yourself that you are uncomfortable with and improve them. Do you feel physically unattractive? Exercise/workout to improve your appearance and confidence levels. Do feel that you are uninteresting? Find a hobby and commit to learning everything about it for 3 to 6 months. Do you feel financially insecure? Start researching ways to make more money or consider going back to school to learn a new skill set. Just be honest with yourself about your problem areas and work on bettering them.

For example, I grew up as a the funny/nerdy guy who had glasses, braces, and not an ounce of muscle. It is safe to say that I was not a "looker" in high school. Then in college the glasses and braces came off, so my confidence rose along with my luck with women. After college my confidence rose again when I started making enough money to support myself, then rose even more when I started my own business. Then on top of that I started going to the gym and working on my physique. I went from being average to being able to lift anywhere from 200 to over 400 lbs (90.5 to 181 kg). I went from being confident to becoming downright intimidating to some people.

While that may sound negative, I realized that I only intimidated people who felt insecure themselves. They were projecting their own ideas on to me. They saw me as some muscular meathead instead of the well rounded person I actually was. I now see life more as a challenge than anything else. That is not to say that I never get jealous, but I treat jealousy for what it is, an emotional impulse. When I feel jealous, I rationalize it to make sure that I am not succumbing to my on insecurities. I seek the root of that insecure feeling and work to improve it.

That being said, if the source of your jealousy is not coming entirely from you, remove the source. I already saw someone post earlier that people will make you jealous to see if you care about them. This is an insecure and emotionally immature stance to take. A person who truly cares about you will not want to cause you undue pain by trying to make you jealous. In reality that person is conveying that they are in fact afraid to reveal their own feelings. As a result they try to force you to reveal your feelings instead. It is basically their attempt to control the outcome without confronting it themselves. It is true that if you care about someone, a little jealousy can be healthy. However that only pertains to secure situations (friendships, relationships etc) where there is honest communication. The only other time jealousy can be healthy is when a person has no idea how your feel about them or feels that you are taking them for granted. Then in that case a little jealousy can clear up the confusion created by inaction.

However if a person actively attempts to make you jealous, either subtly or overtly, it is best to distance yourself and remove your attention from them. In reality your attention gives them power. Remember that you can not control the actions of others, so do not let their actions influence your feelings. For example, if you have a friend who is constantly throwing their successes in your face, create some distance from them to see if they are deliberately trying to make you jealous. Use that potential jealousy as motivation to better yourself and potentially create a healthy rivalry. Additionally, if you have crush who seems to habitually flirt with other people to get a rise out of you, remove your attention from them. Give your attention to someone more deserving who does not play silly games. These people are using jealousy as a way of controlling your emotions to boost their own egos. It is their attempt at controlling the narrative.

Either way, you have complete control over how you approach your own jealous impulses.

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Thank you. I did do some reevaluating of the situation and I'm now contemplating it all. ❤ You are right. Some of it is some of my own insecurities.

Posted by SeaLion

Fellow Leo's... how do you deal with your jealous tendencies? It's something I've been working on for years. I know it's unattractive and comes off as being insecure. But no matter how much I try to not get jealous, it's like a turtle head coming out of my ass wanting to make an appearance.

I've learned to try to keep it cool when I'm hearing or seeing what triggers it but inside I'm screaming.

*Don't tell me you don't get jealous... I know that is bullshit.* 😁🤗😚

hello sealion. I'm not a leo, but i have a leo friend who is very very jealous. Im not jealous at all on the contrary. I always tell him, 'hey if she wants to disrespect whatever you have, she will. And that's on her, not you. Don't worry about what is beyond you.'

Hope it helps mate. Stay positive.

1. He should tell this girl he’s dating you if he hasn’t.

2. If this guy is openly talking to you about this girl, he’s not hiding anything. It’s the girl(s) he doesn’t talk about that you need to worry about.

Don’t you have a Fwb with him? Didn’t you talk about meeting another Virgo recently?

Posted by MyStarsShine

Don’t you have a Fwb with him? Didn’t you talk about meeting another Virgo recently?

It's more then FWB now... but yeah I talked about the other Virgo but I have not actually met him face to face yet, we just DM each other on Facebook maybe once a week..... and I havent done anything because of my feelings for the other one....

I wouldn't be upset about it if he had told me about this months ago when he first met and started hanging out with her....when he has been constantly asking me if I have gone out with other guys....

Anyway, I'm not angry about it. Just turned off. The whole thing has given me the opportunity to step back a bit and evaluate everything. I honestly dont think he is being manipulative, just stupid...and I don't have time for that. 🙄

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Posted by MyStarsShine

Don’t you have a Fwb with him? Didn’t you talk about meeting another Virgo recently?

It's more then FWB now... but yeah I talked about the other Virgo but I have not actually met him face to face yet, we just DM each other on Facebook maybe once a week..... and I havent done anything because of my feelings for the other one....

I wouldn't be upset about it if he had told me about this months ago when he first met and started hanging out with her....when he has been constantly asking me if I have gone out with other guys....

Anyway, I'm not angry about it. Just turned off. The whole thing has given me the opportunity to step back a bit and evaluate everything. I honestly dont think he is being manipulative, just stupid...and I don't have time for that. 🙄

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Yes you’ve a right to be turned off ... i would be too

Wow! Jealous? Girl you are like mellow. If a guy told me this I'd be dumping him or saying never talk to her again lol

I think the way your approaching this is vey loving. Good for you haha Jealousy is not a loving act...

Oh wait is he not your boyfriend? Oh well I guess it's a grey area than...Are you going to make it official?

Posted by SagInTheSun898

Oh wait is he not your boyfriend? Oh well I guess it's a grey area than...Are you going to make it official?

I dunno. There has been a lot of tension between us since I posted this. I was on the verge of ending it all last week and we got into a bit of a fight over something else. He smoothed things over but at the same time it kind of triggered me to shut off my feelings and I'm on the verge of not really giving a shit anymore.

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Posted by SagInTheSun898

Oh wait is he not your boyfriend? Oh well I guess it's a grey area than...Are you going to make it official?

I dunno. There has been a lot of tension between us since I posted this. I was on the verge of ending it all last week and we got into a bit of a fight over something else. He smoothed things over but at the same time it kind of triggered me to shut off my feelings and I'm on the verge of not really giving a shit anymore.

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Sure that's fair. That situation would cause me a lot of anxiety