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Virginity. How old is too old?
Understanding Virginity and Age Factors
Virginity age varies widely and is influenced by personal choices and cultural norms. There is no specific age considered too old to be a virgin. Respecting individual decisions about timing and readiness is important in understanding this personal aspect of sexuality.
I've never taken someone's virginity, but I think if you're not married then you're never too old. If I could do it all again I would wait until I was married, or at least engaged. You can't miss something you never had. Knowing that it would hurt, is one huge reason I held onto mines longer than everyone else at school. Lol.
I would reverse this question to being —how young is too young to lose it??. Personally I think all should at least wait until they are in like their senior or junior year in high school. At that point you might understand the act a little more, and possibly be able to understand the consequences. I held onto mines until I was a senior, and then when I finally lost it I lost it someone older, about (3yrs) older, whom I'd known since childhood, and he did not go to my school, nor did anyone at my school know him. I did it like that on purpose. I trusted him, and he knew what he was doing, and I was old enough to handle the situation (I've always been mature for my age, though) then I didn't have to worry about the whole school knowing my business because he didn't even go there.
But I don't think people are too old to be a virgin. If you haven't found someone worthy, or patient enough then I think it's beautiful that you can hold onto it for so long, especially these days. Shoot you could easily lose it, because this generation is handing it out like it should be sold at the mall. Smh.
Posted by duchessedenemours
I know a lot of older virgins, mostly because in that country it's hard to find a place to have sex since people live at home until they are much older (30s). In America it's fairly easy to access in comparison to places where you have to usually pay 40 bucks an hour for a space and cultural mores on top of that.Oldest I've known was 26. She's really conservative (but no longer a virgin now at 27 haha).
What country is that? :p
40 bucks an hour? Ya...no haha
Posted by pinklibra
I've never taken someone's virginity, but I think if you're not married then you're never too old. If I could do it all again I would wait until I was married, or at least engaged. You can't miss something you never had. Knowing that it would hurt, is one huge reason I held onto mines longer than everyone else at school. Lol.I would reverse this question to being —how young is too young to lose it??. Personally I think all should at least wait until they are in like their senior or junior year in high school. At that point you might understand the act a little more, and possibly be able to understand the consequences. I held onto mines until I was a senior, and then when I finally lost it I lost it someone older, about (3yrs) older, whom I'd known since childhood, and he did not go to my school, nor did anyone at my school know him. I did it like that on purpose. I trusted him, and he knew what he was doing, and I was old enough to handle the situation (I've always been mature for my age, though) then I didn't have to worry about the whole school knowing my business because he didn't even go there.
But I don't think people are too old to be a virgin. If you haven't found someone worthy, or patient enough then I think it's beautiful that you can hold onto it for so long, especially these days. Shoot you could easily lose it, because this generation is handing it out like it should be sold at the mall. Smh.
I'm on the same page. I'm not sure if I would wait until marriage or not but I wish I would've taken it slower. I did lose mine my jr or senior year of high school but even then I had higher expectations of how it would go down lol. Don't we all...
I just meant how is too old to you personally. Personally, I think being a virgin is endearing 🙂 unless they're an arse...then they can stay a virgin.
Well i'm a Virgin at 23, & i don't see anything wrong with it. I have to have good bond with someone & trust before i just sleep with them. But i do have knowledge of sex & i have kissed a lot before. Just wanting for the person worth giving to. It'll happen when it's time. I actually like being one
Posted by 2BlackIndian3 It'll happen when it's time.
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ THIS!!
But to sum it up-I think healthy sexuality develops throughout the lifetime and it's never too late to lose it. Many people die a virgin too. No big deal.
I like the way you worded that
True true.
I took his virginity and it was a bit awkward because he couldn't get the deed done...BUT recently he asked me "to go steady" hahah and everything has gotten better sexually. He's a very quick learner and I think he was just nervous
But up there with one of the greatest sexual partners. So ya...being a virgin means nada.
well let me chip in. lost mine at 19. I've only had sex once(the day I lost my virginity) I was determined to do it and i just don't quit anyway. never saw the guy again, thank God. id loveto do it again except im not sexually attracted to anyone at the moment. i wanted to do it with the leo(the first guy i wanted to have sex with ever since losing it, God im picky) but he waited for me to lead, i was kind of shy and thought he didn't want to or something. the feeling went away 😢 and the fact that im slow to arousal does not help at all!
Posted by 2BlackIndian3
Well i'm a Virgin at 23, & i don't see anything wrong with it. I have to have good bond with someone & trust before i just sleep with them. But i do have knowledge of sex & i have kissed a lot before. Just wanting for the person worth giving to. It'll happen when it's time. I actually like being one
BlackIndian, you rock. I dig a man who has the balls to say what you said and the heart to wait for true love. Not many of you gems left.
I'm one, I'm 28..
Posted by 2BlackIndian3
Well i'm a Virgin at 23, & i don't see anything wrong with it. I have to have good bond with someone & trust before i just sleep with them. But i do have knowledge of sex & i have kissed a lot before. Just wanting for the person worth giving to. It'll happen when it's time. I actually like being oneBlackIndian, you rock. I dig a man who has the balls to say what you said and the heart to wait for true love. Not many of you gems left.
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What has been your experience with virgins in your adult life? How old were they?
I'm not sure what it is, but I seem to attract em. I met a guy recently and I'm blown away by his intellect, smile and kindness (Libra). He said he had a secret and I figured it out, virgin...at 25. Nothing is wrong with that but I took someone's virginity at 17. And my on again, off again bf/2nd love was also a virgin...at the age of 23. It can be weird.
I actually just recently took the Libra's virginity AND taught him to make out...lol. He had not done absolutely anythang!