Posted by stillstillwaterPosted by starlordPosted by stillstillwaterPosted by AneemA04Posted by stillstillwaterPosted by AneemA04
Are you dating this guy?
Let's call it talking and long distance situationship.
Then there is no valid reason to punch him.
BUT! I would punch him anyway!
lol! There's a lot of reasons to punch him but on some levels you're right. that's why i have to reserve my super saiyan reflex and just think about this logically.
But he is going to get a talking to because he is leading me on telling me how "we'll be together everyday when he moves here etc".
A guy like that will say whatever to keep you "happy". Most guys will infact. And don't mean a word they say. I don't think it will have any effect on him giving him a piece of your mind or telling him, you'll never talk to him again. He won't care really and knows that you can't stop talking to him anyways.
The mistake here is actually believing in anything he says. Maybe hold onto that: know you can't believe a word he says and maybe your feelings will diminish over time and you'll be able to let him go eventually?!
actually i was thinking about this today that it would make mefeel better if i told him waht i thought of his shitty ass move. BUT then i was like that's too much effort given the state of affairs. So yeah just going to try to let it go now and i won't say that this is it... because i've said that in the past on this board like "I"m done. I'm blocking him" only to end up failing at that. So don't want to make false promises but i'm going to take steps towards that. I'm really disappointed in the scenario but hardly as heartbroken as i've been in the past over things so may be that's a good sign...click to expand
Posted by starlordPosted by stillstillwaterPosted by starlordPosted by stillstillwaterPosted by AneemA04Posted by stillstillwaterPosted by AneemA04
Are you dating this guy?
Let's call it talking and long distance situationship.
Then there is no valid reason to punch him.
BUT! I would punch him anyway!
lol! There's a lot of reasons to punch him but on some levels you're right. that's why i have to reserve my super saiyan reflex and just think about this logically.
But he is going to get a talking to because he is leading me on telling me how "we'll be together everyday when he moves here etc".
A guy like that will say whatever to keep you "happy". Most guys will infact. And don't mean a word they say. I don't think it will have any effect on him giving him a piece of your mind or telling him, you'll never talk to him again. He won't care really and knows that you can't stop talking to him anyways.
The mistake here is actually believing in anything he says. Maybe hold onto that: know you can't believe a word he says and maybe your feelings will diminish over time and you'll be able to let him go eventually?!
actually i was thinking about this today that it would make mefeel better if i told him waht i thought of his shitty ass move. BUT then i was like that's too much effort given the state of affairs. So yeah just going to try to let it go now and i won't say that this is it... because i've said that in the past on this board like "I"m done. I'm blocking him" only to end up failing at that. So don't want to make false promises but i'm going to take steps towards that. I'm really disappointed in the scenario but hardly as heartbroken as i've been in the past over things so may be that's a good sign...
Yeah saying nothing is the best I believe.
But we keep making mistakes, and often the same ones over and over untill we learn our lesson. This is probably one od those situations, so if you fall back into it, then that's just a part of it.
I wonder why it is so difficult for us to accept when we actually do not like guys because of their personality or at least the person they are with us. For some reason many will hold on to some distorted image of how and what this person is actually like. It's a pretend game. Maybe 'cause it just sux too much for realize how may shitty people who are out there. Struggling with this myself atm. Still attracted andthe guy is a good guy, but not to me. His personslity towards me is idiotic and deceitful, ALWAYS trying to put something over my eyes so I'll suck his dick or something. But it's hard for me to accept. Probably 'cause it would be so nice for once to meet someone who was not like that. But I gotta accept; he's a douchebag when it comes to me. Hard to watch these guys treat other people good also, which probably also helps us to hold on to something and not let go.click to expand
Posted by DamousPosted by stillstillwaterPosted by DamousPosted by stillstillwaterPosted by Damous
I can’t remember what my name’s were. Synapse, fame, etc
See that's a problem...I've had the same name for like 5 years now that i've been on this site.
Lol I’m so hurt. LucciF (not that other cap from a few years ago or whatever). I’ve had this tag 3 years
well damn lol i'm sorry. But are you even around that much? Supposedly you're a cap but i hardly see you post there.
Wait, is it possible you’re not the OG Stillwater?click to expand
Posted by stillstillwaterPosted by starlordPosted by stillstillwaterPosted by starlordPosted by stillstillwaterPosted by AneemA04Posted by stillstillwaterPosted by AneemA04
Are you dating this guy?
Let's call it talking and long distance situationship.
Then there is no valid reason to punch him.
BUT! I would punch him anyway!
lol! There's a lot of reasons to punch him but on some levels you're right. that's why i have to reserve my super saiyan reflex and just think about this logically.
But he is going to get a talking to because he is leading me on telling me how "we'll be together everyday when he moves here etc".
A guy like that will say whatever to keep you "happy". Most guys will infact. And don't mean a word they say. I don't think it will have any effect on him giving him a piece of your mind or telling him, you'll never talk to him again. He won't care really and knows that you can't stop talking to him anyways.
The mistake here is actually believing in anything he says. Maybe hold onto that: know you can't believe a word he says and maybe your feelings will diminish over time and you'll be able to let him go eventually?!
actually i was thinking about this today that it would make mefeel better if i told him waht i thought of his shitty ass move. BUT then i was like that's too much effort given the state of affairs. So yeah just going to try to let it go now and i won't say that this is it... because i've said that in the past on this board like "I"m done. I'm blocking him" only to end up failing at that. So don't want to make false promises but i'm going to take steps towards that. I'm really disappointed in the scenario but hardly as heartbroken as i've been in the past over things so may be that's a good sign...
Yeah saying nothing is the best I believe.
But we keep making mistakes, and often the same ones over and over untill we learn our lesson. This is probably one od those situations, so if you fall back into it, then that's just a part of it.
I wonder why it is so difficult for us to accept when we actually do not like guys because of their personality or at least the person they are with us. For some reason many will hold on to some distorted image of how and what this person is actually like. It's a pretend game. Maybe 'cause it just sux too much for realize how may shitty people who are out there. Struggling with this myself atm. Still attracted andthe guy is a good guy, but not to me. His personslity towards me is idiotic and deceitful, ALWAYS trying to put something over my eyes so I'll suck his dick or something. But it's hard for me to accept. Probably 'cause it would be so nice for once to meet someone who was not like that. But I gotta accept; he's a douchebag when it comes to me. Hard to watch these guys treat other people good also, which probably also helps us to hold on to something and not let go.
I think Selena Gomez said it best, "the heart wants what it wants".
We can try to rationalize our feelings and there's nothing wrong with that if you can learn from it. But I've learned that sometimes how we feel and how we connect with people is ethereal. My philosophy is fall fast & hard, and get out just as quick. You need to feel these emotions because they help you grow to the next level of your depth.
The more I embrace how I feel without allowing it to control me the more freedom I feel to move on. Does that make sense?click to expand
Posted by starlordPosted by stillstillwaterPosted by starlordPosted by stillstillwaterPosted by starlordPosted by stillstillwaterPosted by AneemA04Posted by stillstillwaterPosted by AneemA04
Are you dating this guy?
Let's call it talking and long distance situationship.
Then there is no valid reason to punch him.
BUT! I would punch him anyway!
lol! There's a lot of reasons to punch him but on some levels you're right. that's why i have to reserve my super saiyan reflex and just think about this logically.
But he is going to get a talking to because he is leading me on telling me how "we'll be together everyday when he moves here etc".
A guy like that will say whatever to keep you "happy". Most guys will infact. And don't mean a word they say. I don't think it will have any effect on him giving him a piece of your mind or telling him, you'll never talk to him again. He won't care really and knows that you can't stop talking to him anyways.
The mistake here is actually believing in anything he says. Maybe hold onto that: know you can't believe a word he says and maybe your feelings will diminish over time and you'll be able to let him go eventually?!
actually i was thinking about this today that it would make mefeel better if i told him waht i thought of his shitty ass move. BUT then i was like that's too much effort given the state of affairs. So yeah just going to try to let it go now and i won't say that this is it... because i've said that in the past on this board like "I"m done. I'm blocking him" only to end up failing at that. So don't want to make false promises but i'm going to take steps towards that. I'm really disappointed in the scenario but hardly as heartbroken as i've been in the past over things so may be that's a good sign...
Yeah saying nothing is the best I believe.
But we keep making mistakes, and often the same ones over and over untill we learn our lesson. This is probably one od those situations, so if you fall back into it, then that's just a part of it.
I wonder why it is so difficult for us to accept when we actually do not like guys because of their personality or at least the person they are with us. For some reason many will hold on to some distorted image of how and what this person is actually like. It's a pretend game. Maybe 'cause it just sux too much for realize how may shitty people who are out there. Struggling with this myself atm. Still attracted andthe guy is a good guy, but not to me. His personslity towards me is idiotic and deceitful, ALWAYS trying to put something over my eyes so I'll suck his dick or something. But it's hard for me to accept. Probably 'cause it would be so nice for once to meet someone who was not like that. But I gotta accept; he's a douchebag when it comes to me. Hard to watch these guys treat other people good also, which probably also helps us to hold on to something and not let go.
I think Selena Gomez said it best, "the heart wants what it wants".
We can try to rationalize our feelings and there's nothing wrong with that if you can learn from it. But I've learned that sometimes how we feel and how we connect with people is ethereal. My philosophy is fall fast & hard, and get out just as quick. You need to feel these emotions because they help you grow to the next level of your depth.
The more I embrace how I feel without allowing it to control me the more freedom I feel to move on. Does that make sense?
It actually really does. Guess I'm just sad about hearing and having all these things happening where guys get to treat someone as shit and be loved for it.
But it's def. a new perspective. Maybe I could stand to learn a little from it. But not sure that's the type of person I am.click to expand
Posted by starlordPosted by stillstillwaterPosted by starlordPosted by stillstillwaterPosted by starlordPosted by stillstillwaterPosted by AneemA04Posted by stillstillwaterPosted by AneemA04
Are you dating this guy?
Let's call it talking and long distance situationship.
Then there is no valid reason to punch him.
BUT! I would punch him anyway!
lol! There's a lot of reasons to punch him but on some levels you're right. that's why i have to reserve my super saiyan reflex and just think about this logically.
But he is going to get a talking to because he is leading me on telling me how "we'll be together everyday when he moves here etc".
A guy like that will say whatever to keep you "happy". Most guys will infact. And don't mean a word they say. I don't think it will have any effect on him giving him a piece of your mind or telling him, you'll never talk to him again. He won't care really and knows that you can't stop talking to him anyways.
The mistake here is actually believing in anything he says. Maybe hold onto that: know you can't believe a word he says and maybe your feelings will diminish over time and you'll be able to let him go eventually?!
actually i was thinking about this today that it would make mefeel better if i told him waht i thought of his shitty ass move. BUT then i was like that's too much effort given the state of affairs. So yeah just going to try to let it go now and i won't say that this is it... because i've said that in the past on this board like "I"m done. I'm blocking him" only to end up failing at that. So don't want to make false promises but i'm going to take steps towards that. I'm really disappointed in the scenario but hardly as heartbroken as i've been in the past over things so may be that's a good sign...
Yeah saying nothing is the best I believe.
But we keep making mistakes, and often the same ones over and over untill we learn our lesson. This is probably one od those situations, so if you fall back into it, then that's just a part of it.
I wonder why it is so difficult for us to accept when we actually do not like guys because of their personality or at least the person they are with us. For some reason many will hold on to some distorted image of how and what this person is actually like. It's a pretend game. Maybe 'cause it just sux too much for realize how may shitty people who are out there. Struggling with this myself atm. Still attracted andthe guy is a good guy, but not to me. His personslity towards me is idiotic and deceitful, ALWAYS trying to put something over my eyes so I'll suck his dick or something. But it's hard for me to accept. Probably 'cause it would be so nice for once to meet someone who was not like that. But I gotta accept; he's a douchebag when it comes to me. Hard to watch these guys treat other people good also, which probably also helps us to hold on to something and not let go.
I think Selena Gomez said it best, "the heart wants what it wants".
We can try to rationalize our feelings and there's nothing wrong with that if you can learn from it. But I've learned that sometimes how we feel and how we connect with people is ethereal. My philosophy is fall fast & hard, and get out just as quick. You need to feel these emotions because they help you grow to the next level of your depth.
The more I embrace how I feel without allowing it to control me the more freedom I feel to move on. Does that make sense?
It actually really does. Guess I'm just sad about hearing and having all these things happening where guys get to treat someone as shit and be loved for it.
But it's def. a new perspective. Maybe I could stand to learn a little from it. But not sure that's the type of person I am.click to expand
Posted by MissKrabsPosted by stillstillwaterPosted by starlordPosted by stillstillwaterPosted by starlordPosted by stillstillwaterPosted by starlordPosted by stillstillwaterPosted by AneemA04Posted by stillstillwaterPosted by AneemA04
Are you dating this guy?
Let's call it talking and long distance situationship.
Then there is no valid reason to punch him.
BUT! I would punch him anyway!
lol! There's a lot of reasons to punch him but on some levels you're right. that's why i have to reserve my super saiyan reflex and just think about this logically.
But he is going to get a talking to because he is leading me on telling me how "we'll be together everyday when he moves here etc".
A guy like that will say whatever to keep you "happy". Most guys will infact. And don't mean a word they say. I don't think it will have any effect on him giving him a piece of your mind or telling him, you'll never talk to him again. He won't care really and knows that you can't stop talking to him anyways.
The mistake here is actually believing in anything he says. Maybe hold onto that: know you can't believe a word he says and maybe your feelings will diminish over time and you'll be able to let him go eventually?!
actually i was thinking about this today that it would make mefeel better if i told him waht i thought of his shitty ass move. BUT then i was like that's too much effort given the state of affairs. So yeah just going to try to let it go now and i won't say that this is it... because i've said that in the past on this board like "I"m done. I'm blocking him" only to end up failing at that. So don't want to make false promises but i'm going to take steps towards that. I'm really disappointed in the scenario but hardly as heartbroken as i've been in the past over things so may be that's a good sign...
Yeah saying nothing is the best I believe.
But we keep making mistakes, and often the same ones over and over untill we learn our lesson. This is probably one od those situations, so if you fall back into it, then that's just a part of it.
I wonder why it is so difficult for us to accept when we actually do not like guys because of their personality or at least the person they are with us. For some reason many will hold on to some distorted image of how and what this person is actually like. It's a pretend game. Maybe 'cause it just sux too much for realize how may shitty people who are out there. Struggling with this myself atm. Still attracted andthe guy is a good guy, but not to me. His personslity towards me is idiotic and deceitful, ALWAYS trying to put something over my eyes so I'll suck his dick or something. But it's hard for me to accept. Probably 'cause it would be so nice for once to meet someone who was not like that. But I gotta accept; he's a douchebag when it comes to me. Hard to watch these guys treat other people good also, which probably also helps us to hold on to something and not let go.
I think Selena Gomez said it best, "the heart wants what it wants".
We can try to rationalize our feelings and there's nothing wrong with that if you can learn from it. But I've learned that sometimes how we feel and how we connect with people is ethereal. My philosophy is fall fast & hard, and get out just as quick. You need to feel these emotions because they help you grow to the next level of your depth.
The more I embrace how I feel without allowing it to control me the more freedom I feel to move on. Does that make sense?
It actually really does. Guess I'm just sad about hearing and having all these things happening where guys get to treat someone as shit and be loved for it.
But it's def. a new perspective. Maybe I could stand to learn a little from it. But not sure that's the type of person I am.
I totally want to delete this thread now because I didn't want to have these type of effects on people by sharing this experience. 😢
no! don't do it. if it helps i got so friend zoned from a cap man, my brain hurts. lets whine together.click to expand
Posted by rockyroadicecream
The only person you should be punching in the face is yourself because you're just being a dumb bitch about the whole thing.
How much does your self esteem suck that you're humiliating yourself like this??
Posted by Solaristic
So has he reached out yet? I'm living vicariously through you while my son sleeps haha.
Didn't feel like reading through all the pages
Posted by tiziani
Just praise God you don't have to do long distance anymore.
Look, no sex + naggy back and forth = no two people survive that. It's only human.
Posted by tizianiPosted by stillstillwaterPosted by tiziani
Just praise God you don't have to do long distance anymore.
Look, no sex + naggy back and forth = no two people survive that. It's only human.
lol very true...
"What you won't do, to do for love
You tried everything but you don't give up
In my world only you
Make me do for love what I would not do"
I usually listen to Usher in this phase.click to expand
Posted by xkraftPosted by tiziani
Just praise God you don't have to do long distance anymore.
Look, no sex + naggy back and forth = no two people survive that. It's only human.
I've been saying this forever. 😞
Stillwater, stop doing this to yourself. You're better than this. You're FUCKIN Stillwater FFS.click to expand
Posted by stillstillwaterPosted by Solaristic
So has he reached out yet? I'm living vicariously through you while my son sleeps haha.
Didn't feel like reading through all the pages
lol! No problem.
Yes he has. on Monday he said that he had some "madness" to deal with so he had to take the day to himself. Then I just screenshotted my previous msgs to him which were just asking if he was ok. He said yeah i'm ok. Then I didn't respond.
Today he messaged me again and sent me this song: Tribe called quest enough. Main chorus goes "Is this enough?
Is this enough love that I give to you?
Is this enough?
Is this enough time that I give to you?
Is this enough?
Tell me that you feel the same way I do
Is this enough?
Enough, enough, enough"
Like really??!?!
So I said to answer your question no it's not enough. I met someone else and we should stop talking. wish you the best and take care.
He was like stop being sensitive. I just had a situation that day. stop being dramatic. I explained to him that i was genuinely worried about him and he blocked me only for me to find out he was out to lunch. I said you were probably with another girl or your ex. Then basically after that it was an argument that he was saying it wasn't another girl, he just had a situation. I told him regardless of the reason, it just made me realize we're not not on the same page and I can't do this anymore. Continued going back and forth. Him saying that i'm rude and me telling him he's inconsiderate. Blah blah blah... He was just like chill out for a minute, why are yu being over the top. So given that he wasn't just saying bye. I told him how i felt that I don't deserve to be blocked while he's out having lunch when I was genuinely just concerned.
I said it's clear we don't have teh same feelings for each other. He told me that that's not teh case, it's just that he's being realistic since we're so far away and doesn't want to get himself worked out. Then i was brutally honest that i had a vacation coming up and was willing to spend half of it by visiting him. Then when this situation happened it made me realize that i'm in this alone and may be he's still stuck on his ex. Which is more than okay. He's not to blame for that. But personally me, I just can't do this anymore.
He hasn't responded to that last bit. At this point I prefer an amicable good bye but if he doesn't then just me letting go will have to be sufficient.
Long response but you asked 😉 lolclick to expand
Posted by SolaristicPosted by stillstillwaterPosted by Solaristic
So has he reached out yet? I'm living vicariously through you while my son sleeps haha.
Didn't feel like reading through all the pages
lol! No problem.
Yes he has. on Monday he said that he had some "madness" to deal with so he had to take the day to himself. Then I just screenshotted my previous msgs to him which were just asking if he was ok. He said yeah i'm ok. Then I didn't respond.
Today he messaged me again and sent me this song: Tribe called quest enough. Main chorus goes "Is this enough?
Is this enough love that I give to you?
Is this enough?
Is this enough time that I give to you?
Is this enough?
Tell me that you feel the same way I do
Is this enough?
Enough, enough, enough"
Like really??!?!
So I said to answer your question no it's not enough. I met someone else and we should stop talking. wish you the best and take care.
He was like stop being sensitive. I just had a situation that day. stop being dramatic. I explained to him that i was genuinely worried about him and he blocked me only for me to find out he was out to lunch. I said you were probably with another girl or your ex. Then basically after that it was an argument that he was saying it wasn't another girl, he just had a situation. I told him regardless of the reason, it just made me realize we're not not on the same page and I can't do this anymore. Continued going back and forth. Him saying that i'm rude and me telling him he's inconsiderate. Blah blah blah... He was just like chill out for a minute, why are yu being over the top. So given that he wasn't just saying bye. I told him how i felt that I don't deserve to be blocked while he's out having lunch when I was genuinely just concerned.
I said it's clear we don't have teh same feelings for each other. He told me that that's not teh case, it's just that he's being realistic since we're so far away and doesn't want to get himself worked out. Then i was brutally honest that i had a vacation coming up and was willing to spend half of it by visiting him. Then when this situation happened it made me realize that i'm in this alone and may be he's still stuck on his ex. Which is more than okay. He's not to blame for that. But personally me, I just can't do this anymore.
He hasn't responded to that last bit. At this point I prefer an amicable good bye but if he doesn't then just me letting go will have to be sufficient.
Long response but you asked 😉 lol
His reasoning still doesn't make sense. I mean, why was he mad & why not talk to you about it after he chilled out, ya knkw?? And the blocking is sketch and childish. I'm sorry 😢
But it's good to know you did what you felt is right then never know... hell, could be a blessing is disguise.
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Posted by stillstillwaterPosted by starlordPosted by stillstillwaterPosted by starlordPosted by stillstillwaterPosted by starlordPosted by stillstillwaterPosted by AneemA04Posted by stillstillwaterPosted by AneemA04
Are you dating this guy?
Let's call it talking and long distance situationship.
Then there is no valid reason to punch him.
BUT! I would punch him anyway!
lol! There's a lot of reasons to punch him but on some levels you're right. that's why i have to reserve my super saiyan reflex and just think about this logically.
But he is going to get a talking to because he is leading me on telling me how "we'll be together everyday when he moves here etc".
A guy like that will say whatever to keep you "happy". Most guys will infact. And don't mean a word they say. I don't think it will have any effect on him giving him a piece of your mind or telling him, you'll never talk to him again. He won't care really and knows that you can't stop talking to him anyways.
The mistake here is actually believing in anything he says. Maybe hold onto that: know you can't believe a word he says and maybe your feelings will diminish over time and you'll be able to let him go eventually?!
actually i was thinking about this today that it would make mefeel better if i told him waht i thought of his shitty ass move. BUT then i was like that's too much effort given the state of affairs. So yeah just going to try to let it go now and i won't say that this is it... because i've said that in the past on this board like "I"m done. I'm blocking him" only to end up failing at that. So don't want to make false promises but i'm going to take steps towards that. I'm really disappointed in the scenario but hardly as heartbroken as i've been in the past over things so may be that's a good sign...
Yeah saying nothing is the best I believe.
But we keep making mistakes, and often the same ones over and over untill we learn our lesson. This is probably one od those situations, so if you fall back into it, then that's just a part of it.
I wonder why it is so difficult for us to accept when we actually do not like guys because of their personality or at least the person they are with us. For some reason many will hold on to some distorted image of how and what this person is actually like. It's a pretend game. Maybe 'cause it just sux too much for realize how may shitty people who are out there. Struggling with this myself atm. Still attracted andthe guy is a good guy, but not to me. His personslity towards me is idiotic and deceitful, ALWAYS trying to put something over my eyes so I'll suck his dick or something. But it's hard for me to accept. Probably 'cause it would be so nice for once to meet someone who was not like that. But I gotta accept; he's a douchebag when it comes to me. Hard to watch these guys treat other people good also, which probably also helps us to hold on to something and not let go.
I think Selena Gomez said it best, "the heart wants what it wants".
We can try to rationalize our feelings and there's nothing wrong with that if you can learn from it. But I've learned that sometimes how we feel and how we connect with people is ethereal. My philosophy is fall fast & hard, and get out just as quick. You need to feel these emotions because they help you grow to the next level of your depth.
The more I embrace how I feel without allowing it to control me the more freedom I feel to move on. Does that make sense?
It actually really does. Guess I'm just sad about hearing and having all these things happening where guys get to treat someone as shit and be loved for it.
But it's def. a new perspective. Maybe I could stand to learn a little from it. But not sure that's the type of person I am.
I totally want to delete this thread now because I didn't want to have these type of effects on people by sharing this experience. 😢click to expand
Posted by starlordPosted by stillstillwaterPosted by starlordPosted by stillstillwaterPosted by starlordPosted by stillstillwaterPosted by starlordPosted by stillstillwaterPosted by AneemA04Posted by stillstillwaterPosted by AneemA04
Are you dating this guy?
Let's call it talking and long distance situationship.
Then there is no valid reason to punch him.
BUT! I would punch him anyway!
lol! There's a lot of reasons to punch him but on some levels you're right. that's why i have to reserve my super saiyan reflex and just think about this logically.
But he is going to get a talking to because he is leading me on telling me how "we'll be together everyday when he moves here etc".
A guy like that will say whatever to keep you "happy". Most guys will infact. And don't mean a word they say. I don't think it will have any effect on him giving him a piece of your mind or telling him, you'll never talk to him again. He won't care really and knows that you can't stop talking to him anyways.
The mistake here is actually believing in anything he says. Maybe hold onto that: know you can't believe a word he says and maybe your feelings will diminish over time and you'll be able to let him go eventually?!
actually i was thinking about this today that it would make mefeel better if i told him waht i thought of his shitty ass move. BUT then i was like that's too much effort given the state of affairs. So yeah just going to try to let it go now and i won't say that this is it... because i've said that in the past on this board like "I"m done. I'm blocking him" only to end up failing at that. So don't want to make false promises but i'm going to take steps towards that. I'm really disappointed in the scenario but hardly as heartbroken as i've been in the past over things so may be that's a good sign...
Yeah saying nothing is the best I believe.
But we keep making mistakes, and often the same ones over and over untill we learn our lesson. This is probably one od those situations, so if you fall back into it, then that's just a part of it.
I wonder why it is so difficult for us to accept when we actually do not like guys because of their personality or at least the person they are with us. For some reason many will hold on to some distorted image of how and what this person is actually like. It's a pretend game. Maybe 'cause it just sux too much for realize how may shitty people who are out there. Struggling with this myself atm. Still attracted andthe guy is a good guy, but not to me. His personslity towards me is idiotic and deceitful, ALWAYS trying to put something over my eyes so I'll suck his dick or something. But it's hard for me to accept. Probably 'cause it would be so nice for once to meet someone who was not like that. But I gotta accept; he's a douchebag when it comes to me. Hard to watch these guys treat other people good also, which probably also helps us to hold on to something and not let go.
I think Selena Gomez said it best, "the heart wants what it wants".
We can try to rationalize our feelings and there's nothing wrong with that if you can learn from it. But I've learned that sometimes how we feel and how we connect with people is ethereal. My philosophy is fall fast & hard, and get out just as quick. You need to feel these emotions because they help you grow to the next level of your depth.
The more I embrace how I feel without allowing it to control me the more freedom I feel to move on. Does that make sense?
It actually really does. Guess I'm just sad about hearing and having all these things happening where guys get to treat someone as shit and be loved for it.
But it's def. a new perspective. Maybe I could stand to learn a little from it. But not sure that's the type of person I am.
I totally want to delete this thread now because I didn't want to have these type of effects on people by sharing this experience. 😢
Ohmigod no don't do that! Just me being in a certain kind of mood. Feeling like people should be nicer to each other showing some respect. Like who the fuq does this guy think he is being such a douche bag to another person!!! Knee to the groin!!!click to expand
Posted by Timon
Dump him.
Posted by stillstillwaterPosted by starlordPosted by stillstillwaterPosted by starlordPosted by stillstillwaterPosted by starlordPosted by stillstillwaterPosted by starlordPosted by stillstillwaterPosted by AneemA04Posted by stillstillwaterPosted by AneemA04
Are you dating this guy?
Let's call it talking and long distance situationship.
Then there is no valid reason to punch him.
BUT! I would punch him anyway!
lol! There's a lot of reasons to punch him but on some levels you're right. that's why i have to reserve my super saiyan reflex and just think about this logically.
But he is going to get a talking to because he is leading me on telling me how "we'll be together everyday when he moves here etc".
A guy like that will say whatever to keep you "happy". Most guys will infact. And don't mean a word they say. I don't think it will have any effect on him giving him a piece of your mind or telling him, you'll never talk to him again. He won't care really and knows that you can't stop talking to him anyways.
The mistake here is actually believing in anything he says. Maybe hold onto that: know you can't believe a word he says and maybe your feelings will diminish over time and you'll be able to let him go eventually?!
actually i was thinking about this today that it would make mefeel better if i told him waht i thought of his shitty ass move. BUT then i was like that's too much effort given the state of affairs. So yeah just going to try to let it go now and i won't say that this is it... because i've said that in the past on this board like "I"m done. I'm blocking him" only to end up failing at that. So don't want to make false promises but i'm going to take steps towards that. I'm really disappointed in the scenario but hardly as heartbroken as i've been in the past over things so may be that's a good sign...
Yeah saying nothing is the best I believe.
But we keep making mistakes, and often the same ones over and over untill we learn our lesson. This is probably one od those situations, so if you fall back into it, then that's just a part of it.
I wonder why it is so difficult for us to accept when we actually do not like guys because of their personality or at least the person they are with us. For some reason many will hold on to some distorted image of how and what this person is actually like. It's a pretend game. Maybe 'cause it just sux too much for realize how may shitty people who are out there. Struggling with this myself atm. Still attracted andthe guy is a good guy, but not to me. His personslity towards me is idiotic and deceitful, ALWAYS trying to put something over my eyes so I'll suck his dick or something. But it's hard for me to accept. Probably 'cause it would be so nice for once to meet someone who was not like that. But I gotta accept; he's a douchebag when it comes to me. Hard to watch these guys treat other people good also, which probably also helps us to hold on to something and not let go.
I think Selena Gomez said it best, "the heart wants what it wants".
We can try to rationalize our feelings and there's nothing wrong with that if you can learn from it. But I've learned that sometimes how we feel and how we connect with people is ethereal. My philosophy is fall fast & hard, and get out just as quick. You need to feel these emotions because they help you grow to the next level of your depth.
The more I embrace how I feel without allowing it to control me the more freedom I feel to move on. Does that make sense?
It actually really does. Guess I'm just sad about hearing and having all these things happening where guys get to treat someone as shit and be loved for it.
But it's def. a new perspective. Maybe I could stand to learn a little from it. But not sure that's the type of person I am.
I totally want to delete this thread now because I didn't want to have these type of effects on people by sharing this experience. 😢
Ohmigod no don't do that! Just me being in a certain kind of mood. Feeling like people should be nicer to each other showing some respect. Like who the fuq does this guy think he is being such a douche bag to another person!!! Knee to the groin!!!
Thanks hun! Some people will inevitably be hard on you for being human and having feelings but I'm not the one at fault here for believing in something greater.
Exactly...what happened to kindness? Given the amount of history we have, i deserve bit more honesty & sincerity. If that's not happening like many people pointed out it's time to walk away. Iclick to expand
Posted by Koni
I guess we all need to go through these things to realize one day we deserve better
Posted by SolaristicPosted by stillstillwaterPosted by Solaristic
What are you going to do?
I don't know... address it. Next time he contacts me I'm going to ask him call me asap or forget talking to me ever again. Then discuss what is going on with him.
Yea, addressing it seems smart. I mean, you want to know why. What if he doesn't contact you?click to expand
Posted by GemCurioPosted by stillstillwaterPosted by starlordPosted by stillstillwaterPosted by AneemA04Posted by stillstillwaterPosted by AneemA04
Are you dating this guy?
Let's call it talking and long distance situationship.
Then there is no valid reason to punch him.
BUT! I would punch him anyway!
lol! There's a lot of reasons to punch him but on some levels you're right. that's why i have to reserve my super saiyan reflex and just think about this logically.
But he is going to get a talking to because he is leading me on telling me how "we'll be together everyday when he moves here etc".
A guy like that will say whatever to keep you "happy". Most guys will infact. And don't mean a word they say. I don't think it will have any effect on him giving him a piece of your mind or telling him, you'll never talk to him again. He won't care really and knows that you can't stop talking to him anyways.
The mistake here is actually believing in anything he says. Maybe hold onto that: know you can't believe a word he says and maybe your feelings will diminish over time and you'll be able to let him go eventually?!
actually i was thinking about this today that it would make mefeel better if i told him waht i thought of his shitty ass move. BUT then i was like that's too much effort given the state of affairs. So yeah just going to try to let it go now and i won't say that this is it... because i've said that in the past on this board like "I"m done. I'm blocking him" only to end up failing at that. So don't want to make false promises but i'm going to take steps towards that. I'm really disappointed in the scenario but hardly as heartbroken as i've been in the past over things so may be that's a good sign...
So you not as broken over him doing his quarterly routine... Good baby girl you're practically conditioned... Make way for a pimp...Hyenas coming thru!!
You need to learn to love yourself. Life is about doing better. Not than her.. Not than that clown on TV, but whoever you were yesterday... Be more than that person.. DO BETTER!!click to expand
Posted by KoniPosted by GemitatiPosted by Koni
Why keep talking to him then?
No other options. Think Koni! Think...lmao
Yes sorry 🤦🏻♀️click to expand
Posted by KoniPosted by stillstillwaterPosted by KoniPosted by GemitatiPosted by Koni
Why keep talking to him then?
No other options. Think Koni! Think...lmao
Yes sorry 🤦🏻♀️
Good job on joining the dumbass train. what's wrong with you guys?
I’m joking. I don’t feel that way about youclick to expand
Posted by GemCurioPosted by stillstillwater
@gemcurio just taking out the ax on me jeez.
If you die here and now to this bullshyt, then you can rise smarter, bigger, faster stronger...
I'm waiting for @stillstillwater to turn into this.. Nobody ruins my mastery of the English language..click to expand
Posted by stillstillwater
@gemcurio check out your home girl @gemitati on this thread...
Posted by stillstillwaterPosted by KoniPosted by GemitatiPosted by Koni
Why keep talking to him then?
No other options. Think Koni! Think...lmao
Yes sorry 🤦🏻♀️
Good job on joining the dumbass train. what's wrong with you guys?click to expand
Posted by GemCurioPosted by stillstillwater
@gemcurio just taking out the ax on me jeez.
If you die here and now to this bullshyt, then you can rise smarter, bigger, faster stronger...
I'm waiting for @stillstillwater to turn into this.. Nobody ruins my mastery of the English language..click to expand
Posted by GemCurioPosted by GemitatiPosted by stillstillwater
@gemcurio check out your home girl @gemitati on this thread...
How do you know I am at home?
Lmao
@gemcurio...are we hommies?
What am I supposed to be looking at exactly—click to expand
Posted by KoniPosted by GemitatiPosted by Koni
I guess we all need to go through these things to realize one day we deserve better
Urghhh...how do we ‘deserve’ if ‘we’ are too stupid to realize someone worth a shit and ‘we’ keep trying to get them to notice ‘us’ when they block/unblock and post pics with other women? Do ‘we’ really deserve better? Urghhh...
You are right, some people don’t deserve betterclick to expand
Posted by GemCurioPosted by GemitatiPosted by GemCurioPosted by GemitatiPosted by stillstillwater
@gemcurio check out your home girl @gemitati on this thread...
How do you know I am at home?
Lmao
@gemcurio...are we hommies?
What am I supposed to be looking at exactly—
The globe! Finding me and tell me if we are hommies? Lol
I don't trust my Mama!!! Nah... We're not enemies, but what's your angle @Gemitati??
You don't need me to help you raise hell... And you don't even talk to people like that unless you trying to shut them down. What you trying to do??click to expand
Posted by Gemitati
Still,
May I say that I haven’t seen anything positive about this dude except he is torturing you and you being all over him enjoying it...
Just for the member of the dumb train...have you ever written anything positive about him and I’ve just missed it being...dumb?
Or you haven’t and I am just right about my assumption that he doesn’t give a fuck about you?
Except when he has nothing better to do with anybody else and reaching out to you because he bored out of his mind knowing that you are going to BE THERE by request?
Posted by GemCurioPosted by GemitatiPosted by GemCurioPosted by GemitatiPosted by GemCurioPosted by GemitatiPosted by stillstillwater
@gemcurio check out your home girl @gemitati on this thread...
How do you know I am at home?
Lmao
@gemcurio...are we hommies?
What am I supposed to be looking at exactly—
The globe! Finding me and tell me if we are hommies? Lol
I don't trust my Mama!!! Nah... We're not enemies, but what's your angle @Gemitati??
You don't need me to help you raise hell... And you don't even talk to people like that unless you trying to shut them down. What you trying to do??
Sorry for your Mamma!
I think OP just losing her shit because she has no team who tells her ‘you are going to be together. He loves you. He is just young and shy asshole...’
Please don’t post that google eyes anymore...scared shit outnof me...lmao
Aren't you ladies tired of fighting yet— I mean every turn on the Capricorn Topics and the Gemini Topics everybody constantly seeing...click to expand
Posted by stillstillwaterPosted by Gemitati
Still,
May I say that I haven’t seen anything positive about this dude except he is torturing you and you being all over him enjoying it...
Just for the member of the dumb train...have you ever written anything positive about him and I’ve just missed it being...dumb?
Or you haven’t and I am just right about my assumption that he doesn’t give a fuck about you?
Except when he has nothing better to do with anybody else and reaching out to you because he bored out of his mind knowing that you are going to BE THERE by request?
you're right...the pros list is short and i don't make posts about the good things.
But the aspects I enjoyed from him is that he gave me solid advice on work and friends, sweet comments, made me feel good...and overall i just enjoyed our rapport. I could tell him things that i would be afraid to tell other people and he never made me feel pathetic/sad about my problems and he would try to cheer me up.
Albeit it was minimum effort but we thought about the things in similar ways, compatible, and I liked having that sounding board. He was just an inspiration to me.click to expand
Posted by GemitatiPosted by GemCurioPosted by GemitatiPosted by GemCurioPosted by GemitatiPosted by stillstillwater
@gemcurio check out your home girl @gemitati on this thread...
How do you know I am at home?
Lmao
@gemcurio...are we hommies?
What am I supposed to be looking at exactly—
The globe! Finding me and tell me if we are hommies? Lol
I don't trust my Mama!!! Nah... We're not enemies, but what's your angle @Gemitati??
You don't need me to help you raise hell... And you don't even talk to people like that unless you trying to shut them down. What you trying to do??
Sorry for your Mamma!
I think OP just losing her shit because she has no team who tells her ‘you are going to be together. He loves you. He is just young and shy asshole...’
Please don’t post that google eyes anymore...scared shit outnof me...lmaoclick to expand
Posted by stillstillwaterPosted by GemitatiPosted by GemCurioPosted by GemitatiPosted by GemCurioPosted by GemitatiPosted by stillstillwater
@gemcurio check out your home girl @gemitati on this thread...
How do you know I am at home?
Lmao
@gemcurio...are we hommies?
What am I supposed to be looking at exactly—
The globe! Finding me and tell me if we are hommies? Lol
I don't trust my Mama!!! Nah... We're not enemies, but what's your angle @Gemitati??
You don't need me to help you raise hell... And you don't even talk to people like that unless you trying to shut them down. What you trying to do??
Sorry for your Mamma!
I think OP just losing her shit because she has no team who tells her ‘you are going to be together. He loves you. He is just young and shy asshole...’
Please don’t post that google eyes anymore...scared shit outnof me...lmao
That's not true at all. You're just being very rude about it. I've actually have taken into account how bad this situation has got and i've known it all along but kept trying to ignore it.
So having people saying the same thing does help make it more of a reality, believe it or not.click to expand
Posted by GemitatiPosted by SolaristicPosted by stillstillwaterPosted by Solaristic
What are you going to do?
I don't know... address it. Next time he contacts me I'm going to ask him call me asap or forget talking to me ever again. Then discuss what is going on with him.
Yea, addressing it seems smart. I mean, you want to know why. What if he doesn't contact you?
Easy! Then she will contact him! Lolclick to expand
Posted by GemCurioPosted by GemitatiPosted by GemCurioPosted by GemitatiPosted by GemCurioPosted by GemitatiPosted by GemCurioPosted by GemitatiPosted by stillstillwater
@gemcurio check out your home girl @gemitati on this thread...
How do you know I am at home?
Lmao
@gemcurio...are we hommies?
What am I supposed to be looking at exactly—
The globe! Finding me and tell me if we are hommies? Lol
I don't trust my Mama!!! Nah... We're not enemies, but what's your angle @Gemitati??
You don't need me to help you raise hell... And you don't even talk to people like that unless you trying to shut them down. What you trying to do??
Sorry for your Mamma!
I think OP just losing her shit because she has no team who tells her ‘you are going to be together. He loves you. He is just young and shy asshole...’
Please don’t post that google eyes anymore...scared shit outnof me...lmao
Aren't you ladies tired of fighting yet— I mean every turn on the Capricorn Topics and the Gemini Topics everybody constantly seeing...
I’ve watched those midgets fighting forever...does it seem like they will ever get tired? Lmao...
I don't know..lol Are you and @stillstillwater ready to unite on some positive woman power shyt??
BTW there not midgets. Those are two little girls that grew up and I think one became a Capricorn and the other one became a Gemini... On DXP...click to expand
Posted by GemitatiPosted by stillstillwaterPosted by Gemitati
Still,
May I say that I haven’t seen anything positive about this dude except he is torturing you and you being all over him enjoying it...
Just for the member of the dumb train...have you ever written anything positive about him and I’ve just missed it being...dumb?
Or you haven’t and I am just right about my assumption that he doesn’t give a fuck about you?
Except when he has nothing better to do with anybody else and reaching out to you because he bored out of his mind knowing that you are going to BE THERE by request?
you're right...the pros list is short and i don't make posts about the good things.
But the aspects I enjoyed from him is that he gave me solid advice on work and friends, sweet comments, made me feel good...and overall i just enjoyed our rapport. I could tell him things that i would be afraid to tell other people and he never made me feel pathetic/sad about my problems and he would try to cheer me up.
Albeit it was minimum effort but we thought about the things in similar ways, compatible, and I liked having that sounding board. He was just an inspiration to me.
So he is your friend! When have you started feeling that he is a lover?
click to expand
Posted by stillstillwaterPosted by GemitatiPosted by stillstillwaterPosted by Gemitati
Still,
May I say that I haven’t seen anything positive about this dude except he is torturing you and you being all over him enjoying it...
Just for the member of the dumb train...have you ever written anything positive about him and I’ve just missed it being...dumb?
Or you haven’t and I am just right about my assumption that he doesn’t give a fuck about you?
Except when he has nothing better to do with anybody else and reaching out to you because he bored out of his mind knowing that you are going to BE THERE by request?
you're right...the pros list is short and i don't make posts about the good things.
But the aspects I enjoyed from him is that he gave me solid advice on work and friends, sweet comments, made me feel good...and overall i just enjoyed our rapport. I could tell him things that i would be afraid to tell other people and he never made me feel pathetic/sad about my problems and he would try to cheer me up.
Albeit it was minimum effort but we thought about the things in similar ways, compatible, and I liked having that sounding board. He was just an inspiration to me.
So he is your friend! When have you started feeling that he is a lover?
It's a long story but we've been romantic from the start and from day one to even know he does tell me he wants to be with me and that I shouldn't feel lonely without him because we'll be together *soon* as he moves here... etc
But as you can see his actions say otherwise pretty much everything you said.click to expand
Posted by GemitatiPosted by stillstillwaterPosted by GemitatiPosted by GemCurioPosted by GemitatiPosted by GemCurioPosted by GemitatiPosted by stillstillwater
@gemcurio check out your home girl @gemitati on this thread...
How do you know I am at home?
Lmao
@gemcurio...are we hommies?
What am I supposed to be looking at exactly—
The globe! Finding me and tell me if we are hommies? Lol
I don't trust my Mama!!! Nah... We're not enemies, but what's your angle @Gemitati??
You don't need me to help you raise hell... And you don't even talk to people like that unless you trying to shut them down. What you trying to do??
Sorry for your Mamma!
I think OP just losing her shit because she has no team who tells her ‘you are going to be together. He loves you. He is just young and shy asshole...’
Please don’t post that google eyes anymore...scared shit outnof me...lmao
That's not true at all. You're just being very rude about it. I've actually have taken into account how bad this situation has got and i've known it all along but kept trying to ignore it.
So having people saying the same thing does help make it more of a reality, believe it or not.
I know. You are aware of him being a friend and not a lover. You want him to become a lover. He is feeling it and rejecting you so you wouldn’t come between him and his real life.
Then he is asking you how are you doing. You forgetting blocking and shit and losing your mind. You forgiving him. And he knows you will. Because what’s the big deal? You are a woman who wants him and he knows it but he wants orgies! And he knows you wouldn’t partake!
He has you as a ‘buddy’ and you think of it as more.
Stand by. Wait. Don’t push it. Maybe he will get fed up if orgies and calm down...but how long is it going to take? Will you be still in child bearing age? Just saying. Nobody forbid you from being attracting to him BUT don’t dwell on him.
Love him but keep your options open! There must be some options...click to expand
Posted by GemitatiPosted by stillstillwaterPosted by GemitatiPosted by stillstillwaterPosted by Gemitati
Still,
May I say that I haven’t seen anything positive about this dude except he is torturing you and you being all over him enjoying it...
Just for the member of the dumb train...have you ever written anything positive about him and I’ve just missed it being...dumb?
Or you haven’t and I am just right about my assumption that he doesn’t give a fuck about you?
Except when he has nothing better to do with anybody else and reaching out to you because he bored out of his mind knowing that you are going to BE THERE by request?
you're right...the pros list is short and i don't make posts about the good things.
But the aspects I enjoyed from him is that he gave me solid advice on work and friends, sweet comments, made me feel good...and overall i just enjoyed our rapport. I could tell him things that i would be afraid to tell other people and he never made me feel pathetic/sad about my problems and he would try to cheer me up.
Albeit it was minimum effort but we thought about the things in similar ways, compatible, and I liked having that sounding board. He was just an inspiration to me.
So he is your friend! When have you started feeling that he is a lover?
It's a long story but we've been romantic from the start and from day one to even know he does tell me he wants to be with me and that I shouldn't feel lonely without him because we'll be together *soon* as he moves here... etc
But as you can see his actions say otherwise pretty much everything you said.
Is he moving? Or...just saying?click to expand
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