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0k then - phew!! It'd be nice though, to have that verbal interaction on the phone sometimes but maybe in time...who knows...I do know he knows how to use the phone other than for texting!!! His job entails he uses one - probably why he avoids it after work LOL.

Shirley....hang in there but go out and enjoy time with your friends and/or new guys - amazing how they can distract you 🙂

From whaa you are saying. I think it is not worth persuing. Walk away and stop contacting give it a month after that if he doesn't call at least 2-3 times. Let it go.

OOps that was for Shirley, not you chatz

QS - was it hard for you to catch these babes?

Two things could happen with that (if you can do it that is - stay away/stop communicating):

1) You'll get tired of waiting around and some other great guy will actually snap you up and it'll be his loss 😛

2) He'll go insane and wonder where on earth you got to and finally start giving back what you've given to him so freely.

But I have to warn you, that backing off and keeping away is so hard to do!!! Get some girlfriends together, order in some BAD food (yummmm), pour some wine, get a funny dvd and have a great night or weekend with them...Im sure their stories, etc will keep you amused enough to get through a couple of days - then it should get easier 🙂 keep yourself BUSY

Ha thanks Chatz - my friends are soooo sick of this man, they have told me ions ago to give it rest. LOL

He's not actually on my mind 24/7. Once in a while I do miss his company and wish it could be the same as before. I just cannot at this time see my life without him in it. Sad.

Yeah I know - I've had my friends even drag me out and made me leave my phone at home so that I didn't continually wait for the text that wasn't coming!!!

(((shirley))) we understand completely

"Combo could be wonderful. Understanding and communication is crutial. Nic, alcheme what say you—"

Sorry that I was late to the party, can this still be counted as fashionably late?!?

What say me? OH HELL YEAH! 🙂

Even in the most friendly sexual relationship it can be hot, fun, and sexy, and in one more than that...

But, from the hoops that some of the Libra lovers on the forum have had to jump through, it could be too trying for a Scorp (I would think). I certainly wouldn't have waited around for that long for someone that may or may not decide if they want me (once I know they do, that is a whole other story, though). Granted, that is speaking objectively... Having feelings for someone removes that objectivity, so it is possible I would. Definitely on of those questions you cannot truly answer or comprehend until you are personally in the situation.

And, Scorps are probably not the easiest relationship match with the Libra, on the surface. A Scorpio thrives on passion and starves in an environment seemingly void of it. But, to a Scorp, passion encompasses both the good and the bad, instilling tendencies towards conflict / anger as much as every other emotion. Libra's superficial natural tendencies would shy away from such disharmony.

And, no doubt there are more issues to arise. That being said, I think that a mature Libra man and a mature Scorp woman with a mutual desire for each other should have little problems overcoming their differences. Both having the resources, beliefs, desires, and foundations necessary to do what it takes to make it work and, on a truly unique level, comprehend their partner like most others are in capable of (and in that, for both, truly fulfill each other on a level they have each always desired)...

whoah heavy!!!

ditto but true

QS: He really cares and in his own way loves me. However he is damaged and unable to give me what I deserve. So again, it totally depends on where they are in life, mentally and timing is always a factor... Trust I know.

Well I have to admit my Libra wasn't damaged in any way but why on earth would beautiful, decent women pine over a damaged man, if he isn't calling you, I don't care what anyone says he isn't emotionally available which means he isn't that into you, regardless if he loves you, his actions show he isn't IN LOVE with you and he's using the relationship at his own convienance after you initiate contact, if he isn't making power moves to make your relationship solid (matter the reasons) then it's a sign to let him go on his way and stop contact. I'm not sayng he is being malicious because as QS said, it's about what's going in the guys life but obviously not initiating contact means one of his main priorities isn't you, if a guy sporadically contacts you, it's because he isn't serious about you, if you allow him back in every other week out of your own hopes and idea's then you TEACH him it's okay to just show up when he wants to and if this behavior isn't cool with you then cut ties because that can go on forever.

Women shouldn't be put in a position of despair because that's what it can and will lead to, it messes with our self esteem when we as women do all the work and the men aren't giving us the love we DESERVE, it's our right to have all the wonderful things a relationship possesses, if it's a constant struggle, a constant questioning of why's and what for's then it means that were wasting time on someone who isn't treating us the way we deserve as women to be treated.

QS is right, it's about were the guy is in his life and she made other valid points but my stance on the not calling is that he isn't that into you and it's best that she moves on and pursues other possibilities, it doesn't mean give up hope because her absence might just trigger something because my silence triggered a call from my libra when we had a disagreement, it took a few days but he came back around.

I know for a fact if a libra isn't including you in his life no matter were he is in life, he isn't that into you, YES he may love you but that doesn't mean he is in love with you and that makes a difference, a libra in love shares his time and energy and it doesn't seem this is the case.

again i'm not trying to put water on the flame or offend, just

again i'm not trying to put water on the flame or offend, just painting another picture and possibly help someone release themselves and move on to new possibilities.

Tiki, I totally agree with if he doesn't contact you at all and it definitely depends on the nature of the relationship.

My libra friend and I have like this two separate r/ship thing (according to me). We initially started as just friends, he confided in me about everything including his back and forth relationship with his ex... Then we crossed the line, hence our intense attraction for eachother. However, that was fine with me as I wasn't emotionally attached to him at that time, great sex, sexy guy and a buddy who confided in me.. He, then became emotional about us and admitted it and because at the time I wasn't I think I shot him down, when I told him I wasn't and we didnt' start this thing on that note. Didn't want to be attached to anyone at the time.

Okay, so we do the off in on thing with the FWB. In between his break ups and when they reconcile and break up he makes it a point to confide in me about his feelings etc. Jus recently my feelings started to change for him and I see he started feeling and acting differently. So, because I KNOW he isn't emotionally available and I know I like him differently, but I don't think anything other than being friends will work... So I agree with yout there. However, I am not one to chase a hopeless dream, way too cute for that. LOL!!! Although we (as women) cannot deny our feelings at times is all I am saying.

With my ex, I went through some of the same things... aloofness, not being available all the time. Until, I became unavailable most of the time, he then started back chasing, so he clearly was interested. He wasn't damaged either (meaning no recent relationship drama), moved in together, engaged and married. So again, it depends on the Libra guy and the place they are in their life at the time. This has proven to be true, with another Libra. Yours was probably just in a place to be with someone and ready is all. They all aren't automatically, some take time.

tiki33, read your posts here. Thank you. Don't know what else to say---it is salt water on a wound, but in a good way. Thanks.

Dang all the Libras seducing girls out there is going to turn this into a Libra bashing board instead of a Libra board.

tiki, my understanding exactly. Yeah, I know my situation is A LITTLE different, but same rules apply basically. I do like having my Libra friend as a friend, becasue of our connection outside of shaggin. However, I have to get my emotions in check before continuing or it could ruine a great friendship and who knows, if I am available still 🙂 (which I doubt) when his healing is complete, then maybe soemething will happen. That is a long way from present future though. As I know it takes Libra men a long time to get over someone emotionally.

OH, Nic you know we love you guys all the same. People are who they are regardless of what we wish they could be. These guys probably have their own threads about us going on in their heads... LOL!!!

I love men and I'm not going to think all men of a particular sign are players, the sweet isn't as sweet without the bitter and I know there are some great guys out there that are sincere (:

My girl alcheme, your insite is phenominal and I couldn't have described it better myself...


Wysdom, you sound like a replica of what I am going thruough... Funny the similarity... We shall see...

Wysdom, what sign are you?

wysdum....that was such a nice comment.....I won't give up 100% and yeah I hear what you're saying (so to speak)....I have faith (I am a leo afterall LOL) but yeah, its hard 😢

Wysdom, disregard the last message. You are clearly a scorp...

Wysdum, your situation mirrors mine so closely it's spooky. Good advice there.

Thanks for telling me they're worth it. Keep telling me that, okay?

Thank you! 'Cracks me up she tried to pawn him off on you. My oh my.

"Atom, it is funny how that works out, maybe it's a general libra quality, who knows, but they're worth it, in my opinion."

It would do a lot of Libras a lot of good to realize that the scorps natural intensity is not a product of scheming but a simple desire for the object of their affection to be happy. Realizing this could unscrew a lot of Libra guys insecurities about scorp girls.

"but he was a persistent leo"....OOOOOOooooh so Leos and Libras do work out sometimes 🙂

PERSISTENCE works out sometimes. . .

and that I am...persistant LOL

MAYBE he'll wake up and figure out what a lucky guy he is!

maybe, maybe not but he did like the perfume LOL.......I think he'll stay around til that runs out!! its like catnip to him 😛

KNEW that perfume would get to him! (Good job!).

lol yeah he wouldn't leave my side!!! mmmmmm