Libra sun+moon man upset, what do i do? (Page 2)

Posted by Jade_Alexander

Posted by Gem03

Posted by Jade_Alexander
I'm so confused.
You both can't sustain that kinda time together. And now youre butthurt that he apologized?
have you discussed what is sustainable, what kind of time you can share with one another without neglecting yourselves?
Girl, tell him its okay and that you need to set healthier boundaries. Cancelling last min sucks but he's human. And you should be busy having your own life too.
I couldn't imagine being with someone THAT much and think it's normal 3 weeks in.

1) I did not force him, or make him meet up with me that much. We simply clicked, and just kept wanting to see each other as much as possible. We both agree that things have been going fast between us but everything between us is natural+organic. Yes I completely agree that seeing each other almost every single day is not sustainable, especially since both of us have heavy air placements so we require time and space to function.

2) I was only butthurt because he canceled last minute and then he apologized, we talked and we compromised, that is all good.

3) The only thing I'm worried about is that he said "You are the first girl i have dated who is a princess, high maintenance. I don't want to waste your time or fail you. I need to see if I'm up for the challenge to be with someone like you. "
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How old is he? This sounds like a man who has some unworthiness issues and will over commit in hopes you choose him to validate his worth. He's not aware of it, but I see some trauma behaviors for sure.

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He is 28 years old

Posted by StubbornSag
You need him to be your Chandler then 😁 this is the perfect answer 😊

Awhhh that is true hehe 😄

So, since he had asked for the weekend, I gave him that. I texted him good morning and he said hi baby, I miss you. He went onto tell me what's really going on. He is in sales and makes commission. Turns out that management put in a new pay plan and as a result everyone is being forced to take a 5-10% pay cut.

He takes pride in his work and has solid work ethic so this hit him pretty hard. I think him telling me "You are the first girl i have dated who is a princess, high maintenance. I don't want to waste your time or fail you. I need to see if I'm up for the challenge to be with someone like you." Kinda makes sense (?) Idk maybe he thought he'd be failing me by not making as much money.

Yes, I'm staying by his side. I want a provider but I understand life happens and he has good work ethic+principles, so it will all be okay 🙂

Posted by IceStorm
8 hour dates and the expectation of seeing each other everyday sounds like another job 😩 I felt exhausted just reading about it.

he is a loner and he did what made him happy in the moment, and that since we spend so much time together I wouldn't mind. My issue isn't golf, my issue is being canceled on.

So basically your issue is your pride and ego. Someone cancelling plans is not disrespectful. Canceling plans is a part of life. Lol

The problem with relationships is people seem to forget that you are two individuals that have their own individual interests that developed before meeting the other person. It’s so important to maintain and honor those individual interests and hobbies in order to give space and an opportunity to breathe something other than the relationship.

After planting a seed, you nourish it by watering it a little bit by bit, day by day until it grows into a healthy plant. Like a seed, If you flood a budding relationship with expectations, demands and accusations of “disrespect”, you’re sure to drown it before anything healthy can grow from it. Learn to relax a little bit.

1) I'm big on loyalty, trust and respect, I have no desire to lower my expectations and standards. All I asked for is a couple hours of notice if he can't make it to our date I think thats a good compromise, and he agreed its fair. If we have a date at 8pm and he can't make it then just let me know in the afternoon that we gotta cancel, NOT LAST MINUTE. I got shit to do, things i can be taking care of if lets me know ahead of time that he can't make it for whatever reason. I can get ahead on chores/work/spa day/meet up with friends/whatever.

2) I fully understand hobbies and interests are important, alone time is important, which is why we are making time for it now that things have settled. Also time flies when we are with each other (his words). I didn't tie this man down.

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Posted by DonnaLibra
Okay, Libra sun, moon, mercury, mars and scorpio venus here; married to Gemini sun, moon, mars, mercury and venus. You are doing the exact same thing to him that my husband did to me when we first got together. Smothering the mess out of him. He wanted all of my time, all of the time. He's still somewhat that way. Libras need a lot of space to be happy. We need time to meditate and wander; basically do our own thing. Like him, I cancel plans at the last minute to, if something else catches my attention. I know, that's an asshole move; but I can't help it, trust me I've tried and failed. You have to start doing your own thing and give him a chance to miss you or he will grow tired of you. My suggestion is don't confront him or argue (which will be hard since you're a Gemini, LOL), just say "okay enjoy your golf." Then go off and do something else and not be available for a couple of days.

I’m not a libra but I have a libra stellium including rising and I relate with this so well. I feel smothered when the expectations are heavy. I think this is why I gravitate toward long distance relationships 🤣🤣🤣 having my space is so important otherwise I get REALLY irritable. But I also have Venus sextile Uranus in my natal chart, which might also be why it feels smothering to me.

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I have Venus square Uranus in my chart so I think that affects me too. I've always liked long distance relationships too.

Yall, things are going well between us. Id like to think he feels safe with me and trusts me, he opens up about what he is going through (work+family wise), family as in his siblings and parents. Are libra men sensitive though? Like its an air sign,

We were texting and I sent him a picture of his that I really liked (he sent it to me last week) and I said “my fav pic of you, so handsome”.

Him: “ Lol baby I look so weird. My head is kind if shaped like a potato”

Me: “ Baby you’re my handsome potato 💖”

Him: “ Lol thats a legitimate red flag actually. Just had a moment of realization with that”

Me: “wait what? What do you mean?”

Him: “ Okay we can talk about it later. Its not really a red flag baby.”

I asked if he was upset and he reassured me he is not upset. I was like okay we will talk about it later. Then we talked about my fav show (he asked). Im so confused rn like WOT

Posted by Gem03
Yall, things are going well between us. Id like to think he feels safe with me and trusts me, he opens up about what he is going through (work+family wise), family as in his siblings and parents. Are libra men sensitive though? Like its an air sign,

We were texting and I sent him a picture of his that I really liked (he sent it to me last week) and I said “my fav pic of you, so handsome”.

Him: “ Lol baby I look so weird. My head is kind if shaped like a potato”

Me: “ Baby you’re my handsome potato 💖”

Him: “ Lol thats a legitimate red flag actually. Just had a moment of realization with that”

Me: “wait what? What do you mean?”

Him: “ Okay we can talk about it later. Its not really a red flag baby.”

I asked if he was upset and he reassured me he is not upset. I was like okay we will talk about it later. Then we talked about my fav show (he asked). Im so confused rn like WOT

Hmm. My guess from that interaction is, have you considered he may feel you guys are moving too quickly? Too much into him?

To you have your own things you do and outlets? Or are you revolving around him and your feelings towards him?

You maybe fretting too hard over any issues. That's the red flag that comes to mind.

Posted by Lostthoughts

Posted by Gem03
Yall, things are going well between us. Id like to think he feels safe with me and trusts me, he opens up about what he is going through (work+family wise), family as in his siblings and parents. Are libra men sensitive though? Like its an air sign,
We were texting and I sent him a picture of his that I really liked (he sent it to me last week) and I said “my fav pic of you, so handsome”.
Him: “ Lol baby I look so weird. My head is kind if shaped like a potato”
Me: “ Baby you’re my handsome potato 💖”
Him: “ Lol thats a legitimate red flag actually. Just had a moment of realization with that”
Me: “wait what? What do you mean?”
Him: “ Okay we can talk about it later. Its not really a red flag baby.”
I asked if he was upset and he reassured me he is not upset. I was like okay we will talk about it later. Then we talked about my fav show (he asked). Im so confused rn like WOT

Hmm. My guess from that interaction is, have you considered he may feel you guys are moving too quickly? Too much into him?

To you have your own things you do and outlets? Or are you revolving around him and your feelings towards him?

You maybe fretting too hard over any issues. That's the red flag that comes to mind.

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On Tuesday he called me and I said “Hey [libra man’s first name] whatsup?” and he went “wha? Its weird you saying my government name.” Because we almost always use pet names for each other (when its just us). He was taken aback because I didn’t call him pet name like I typically do when I pick up his call.

I think both of us are anxious individuals lol. Also, yes I have my own life and routine, its the first time a guy has been like “thats a legitimate red flag” when all I did was call him “my handsome potato” how is that a red flag?! Im confused, bc I was being playful.

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Posted by Lostthoughts

Posted by Gem03
Yall, things are going well between us. Id like to think he feels safe with me and trusts me, he opens up about what he is going through (work+family wise), family as in his siblings and parents. Are libra men sensitive though? Like its an air sign,
We were texting and I sent him a picture of his that I really liked (he sent it to me last week) and I said “my fav pic of you, so handsome”.
Him: “ Lol baby I look so weird. My head is kind if shaped like a potato”
Me: “ Baby you’re my handsome potato 💖”
Him: “ Lol thats a legitimate red flag actually. Just had a moment of realization with that”
Me: “wait what? What do you mean?”
Him: “ Okay we can talk about it later. Its not really a red flag baby.”
I asked if he was upset and he reassured me he is not upset. I was like okay we will talk about it later. Then we talked about my fav show (he asked). Im so confused rn like WOT

Hmm. My guess from that interaction is, have you considered he may feel you guys are moving too quickly? Too much into him?

To you have your own things you do and outlets? Or are you revolving around him and your feelings towards him?

You maybe fretting too hard over any issues. That's the red flag that comes to mind.

On Tuesday he called me and I said “Hey [libra man’s first name] whatsup?” and he went “wha? Its weird you saying my government name.” Because we almost always use pet names for each other (when its just us). He was taken aback because I didn’t call him pet name like I typically do when I pick up his call.

I think both of us are anxious individuals lol. Also, yes I have my own life and routine, its the first time a guy has been like “thats a legitimate red flag” when all I did was call him “my handsome potato” how is that a red flag?! Im confused, bc I was being playful.

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Lol ok I see. Then your both anxious type.

Lol Ya there going to be some rockniess. With that. I wish you luck.

P.S. You know he seems to have what you like down or it's natural to him.

What about him?

Do you know the things he likes. Love language so to speak?

Posted by Saturn_Returns
Too much Libra energy.

Also, his indecisiveness largely stems from his Venus. Dealing with a Libra Venus can be such a headfuck. They are ALWAYS conflicted and will never stick to their guns on anything.

It usually takes me a while to figure out compatibility and if I actually like the person. But if I do, then i'll try to make it work.

If it doesn't then I'll just move on as if the person doesn't exist. Although that's probably my Aqua moon shielding me.

Posted by Lostthoughts

Posted by Gem03

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Yall, things are going well between us. Id like to think he feels safe with me and trusts me, he opens up about what he is going through (work+family wise), family as in his siblings and parents. Are libra men sensitive though? Like its an air sign,
We were texting and I sent him a picture of his that I really liked (he sent it to me last week) and I said “my fav pic of you, so handsome”.
Him: “ Lol baby I look so weird. My head is kind if shaped like a potato”
Me: “ Baby you’re my handsome potato 💖”
Him: “ Lol thats a legitimate red flag actually. Just had a moment of realization with that”
Me: “wait what? What do you mean?”
Him: “ Okay we can talk about it later. Its not really a red flag baby.”
I asked if he was upset and he reassured me he is not upset. I was like okay we will talk about it later. Then we talked about my fav show (he asked). Im so confused rn like WOT

Hmm. My guess from that interaction is, have you considered he may feel you guys are moving too quickly? Too much into him?
To you have your own things you do and outlets? Or are you revolving around him and your feelings towards him?
You maybe fretting too hard over any issues. That's the red flag that comes to mind.

On Tuesday he called me and I said “Hey [libra man’s first name] whatsup?” and he went “wha? Its weird you saying my government name.” Because we almost always use pet names for each other (when its just us). He was taken aback because I didn’t call him pet name like I typically do when I pick up his call.

I think both of us are anxious individuals lol. Also, yes I have my own life and routine, its the first time a guy has been like “thats a legitimate red flag” when all I did was call him “my handsome potato” how is that a red flag?! Im confused, bc I was being playful.
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Lol ok I see. Then your both anxious type.

Lol Ya there going to be some rockniess. With that. I wish you luck.

P.S. You know he seems to have what you like down or it's natural to him.

What about him?

Do you know the things he likes. Love language so to speak?

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Update: he texted me good morning and sent me a picture of him. I told him hes handsome and that I want to wake up next to him.

I love how his mind works, that he meets my standards and we just click.

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Posted by Saturn_Returns
Too much Libra energy.
Also, his indecisiveness largely stems from his Venus. Dealing with a Libra Venus can be such a headfuck. They are ALWAYS conflicted and will never stick to their guns on anything.

It usually takes me a while to figure out compatibility and if I actually like the person. But if I do, then i'll try to make it work.

If it doesn't then I'll just move on as if the person doesn't exist. Although that's probably my Aqua moon shielding me.

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We’ve been seeing each other for 1.5 months now. I adore him.

Forgive me for saying so, but Geminis sometimes have boundary issues. Especially if they like you.

Libras don't like when someone already takes up a good chunk of our schedule, and then wants an explanation when you're not included in something. We're not clingy. Some of you are. Some of you need your hand held for everything and that doesn't fly.

If you make us ask your permission for freedom, we'll take that as a sign that your class is lacking. Don't be surprised if he ghosts. You ask too much.

If he really likes you then he'll forgive you but he won't stick around if you're a repeat offender. Don't push him.

I've had this exact problem with Geminis in the past. You don't follow basic guidelines. You dive in head first. You push people away because your demands are unreasonable.

Posted by DopeFly
Forgive me for saying so, but Geminis sometimes have boundary issues. Especially if they like you.

Libras don't like when someone already takes up a good chunk of our schedule, and then wants an explanation when you're not included in something. We're not clingy. Some of you are. Some of you need your hand held for everything and that doesn't fly.

If you make us ask your permission for freedom, we'll take that as a sign that your class is lacking. Don't be surprised if he ghosts. You ask too much.

If he really likes you then he'll forgive you but he won't stick around if you're a repeat offender. Don't push him.

I've had this exact problem with Geminis in the past. You don't follow basic guidelines. You dive in head first. You push people away because your demands are unreasonable.

yeahhhh I never lied to him, I am high maintenance and we talked about it. We compromised on him cancelling last minute so it's all good. At the very least he would not ghost me. I know that much lol. Also, he told me he likes that Im clingy/needy so each their own i guess

October 20: he ghosted me we didn’t fight or anything initially I thought he needed space so I gave him two days and then on October 23. I reached out to him and I got no response. I deleted his number I threw out his clothes hairspray and his umbrella, and got back on dating apps.

October 29 : he reaches out to me, saying he has a lot of explaining to do. It was lengthy, but he essentially said how he felt embarrassed and insecure about his looks his living situation, and his parents. He lives in the house with two roommates but he makes good money. He went on to say that I don’t deserve to be ghosted that I am perfect beautiful and smart, which is what he is looking for but all his insecurities kind of got in his own head and that’s his fault. He apologized and it was the first time where he was vulnerable with me about his insecurities, so I thought he was being genuine. I tell him I threw his things out and that I went back on dating apps. He laughed and said “why do I feel like I got cheated on”. He apologized 1 million times my naïve self decided to give him another chance.

On November 6 we actually did the deed for the first time. it just naturally happened. It was not planned or anything he told me he would never leave me and then then we planned on seeing each other on November 12 and spending the entire day together after November 6. He keeps consistent contact with me after nov 6 and everything is good. The last time I heard from him was November 11 he texted "I miss you baby ❤️" . November 12 Sunday comes around and I reach out to him like hey when are you coming? I get no response. I call and I get no response.

I decided to give him 24 hours and this morning I reached out to him. I got no response again. I texted saying “I hope your younger sister never goes through what I went through where she has sex with a man and then a week later he ghosts her. I blame myself for trusting you”. He knew how much sex meant to me and I'm not someone who sleeps with every man Im attracted to. I have now blocked him everywhere.

Maybe becoming a nun isn't too bad of an idea.

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Posted by Lostthoughts

Posted by Gem03
Yall, things are going well between us. Id like to think he feels safe with me and trusts me, he opens up about what he is going through (work+family wise), family as in his siblings and parents. Are libra men sensitive though? Like its an air sign,
We were texting and I sent him a picture of his that I really liked (he sent it to me last week) and I said “my fav pic of you, so handsome”.
Him: “ Lol baby I look so weird. My head is kind if shaped like a potato”
Me: “ Baby you’re my handsome potato 💖”
Him: “ Lol thats a legitimate red flag actually. Just had a moment of realization with that”
Me: “wait what? What do you mean?”
Him: “ Okay we can talk about it later. Its not really a red flag baby.”
I asked if he was upset and he reassured me he is not upset. I was like okay we will talk about it later. Then we talked about my fav show (he asked). Im so confused rn like WOT

Hmm. My guess from that interaction is, have you considered he may feel you guys are moving too quickly? Too much into him?
To you have your own things you do and outlets? Or are you revolving around him and your feelings towards him?
You maybe fretting too hard over any issues. That's the red flag that comes to mind.

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On Tuesday he called me and I said “Hey [libra man’s first name] whatsup?” and he went “wha? Its weird you saying my government name.” Because we almost always use pet names for each other (when its just us). He was taken aback because I didn’t call him pet name like I typically do when I pick up his call.

I think both of us are anxious individuals lol. Also, yes I have my own life and routine, its the first time a guy has been like “thats a legitimate red flag” when all I did was call him “my handsome potato” how is that a red flag?! Im confused, bc I was being playful.

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LOL, that is what I did the first time my husband didn't call me by my pet name. I caught an attitude.

Posted by Gem03
October 20: he ghosted me we didn’t fight or anything initially I thought he needed space so I gave him two days and then on October 23. I reached out to him and I got no response. I deleted his number I threw out his clothes hairspray and his umbrella, and got back on dating apps.

October 29 : he reaches out to me, saying he has a lot of explaining to do. It was lengthy, but he essentially said how he felt embarrassed and insecure about his looks his living situation, and his parents. He lives in the house with two roommates but he makes good money. He went on to say that I don’t deserve to be ghosted that I am perfect beautiful and smart, which is what he is looking for but all his insecurities kind of got in his own head and that’s his fault. He apologized and it was the first time where he was vulnerable with me about his insecurities, so I thought he was being genuine. I tell him I threw his things out and that I went back on dating apps. He laughed and said “why do I feel like I got cheated on”. He apologized 1 million times my naïve self decided to give him another chance.

On November 6 we actually did the deed for the first time. it just naturally happened. It was not planned or anything he told me he would never leave me and then then we planned on seeing each other on November 12 and spending the entire day together after November 6. He keeps consistent contact with me after nov 6 and everything is good. The last time I heard from him was November 11 he texted "I miss you baby " . November 12 Sunday comes around and I reach out to him like hey when are you coming? I get no response. I call and I get no response.

I decided to give him 24 hours and this morning I reached out to him. I got no response again. I texted saying “I hope your younger sister never goes through what I went through where she has sex with a man and then a week later he ghosts her. I blame myself for trusting you”. He knew how much sex meant to me and I'm not someone who sleeps with every man Im attracted to. I have now blocked him everywhere.

Maybe becoming a nun isn't too bad of an idea.

Ugh, I just read this. Sorry, Dopefly was right. That stuff he told you about not being good enough, blah, blah, blah, I'm embarrassed to say I've used the same lines to end a situation. Block him and move on, he doesn't mean you any good.

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Posted by Lostthoughts

Posted by Gem03
Yall, things are going well between us. Id like to think he feels safe with me and trusts me, he opens up about what he is going through (work+family wise), family as in his siblings and parents. Are libra men sensitive though? Like its an air sign,
We were texting and I sent him a picture of his that I really liked (he sent it to me last week) and I said “my fav pic of you, so handsome”.
Him: “ Lol baby I look so weird. My head is kind if shaped like a potato”
Me: “ Baby you’re my handsome potato 💖”
Him: “ Lol thats a legitimate red flag actually. Just had a moment of realization with that”
Me: “wait what? What do you mean?”
Him: “ Okay we can talk about it later. Its not really a red flag baby.”
I asked if he was upset and he reassured me he is not upset. I was like okay we will talk about it later. Then we talked about my fav show (he asked). Im so confused rn like WOT

Hmm. My guess from that interaction is, have you considered he may feel you guys are moving too quickly? Too much into him?
To you have your own things you do and outlets? Or are you revolving around him and your feelings towards him?
You maybe fretting too hard over any issues. That's the red flag that comes to mind.

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On Tuesday he called me and I said “Hey [libra man’s first name] whatsup?” and he went “wha? Its weird you saying my government name.” Because we almost always use pet names for each other (when its just us). He was taken aback because I didn’t call him pet name like I typically do when I pick up his call.

I think both of us are anxious individuals lol. Also, yes I have my own life and routine, its the first time a guy has been like “thats a legitimate red flag” when all I did was call him “my handsome potato” how is that a red flag?! Im confused, bc I was being playful.

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He’s was trying to joke back lol I’m sorry for how this played out. But don’t ever regret a good time. It’s okay to enjoy yourself outside of marriage. But I applaud you for sticking to your guns and just being yourself. If you have standards, that’s not a bad thing. Unfortunately, dating is a crap shoot.

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Posted by Gem03
October 20: he ghosted me we didn’t fight or anything initially I thought he needed space so I gave him two days and then on October 23. I reached out to him and I got no response. I deleted his number I threw out his clothes hairspray and his umbrella, and got back on dating apps.
October 29 : he reaches out to me, saying he has a lot of explaining to do. It was lengthy, but he essentially said how he felt embarrassed and insecure about his looks his living situation, and his parents. He lives in the house with two roommates but he makes good money. He went on to say that I don’t deserve to be ghosted that I am perfect beautiful and smart, which is what he is looking for but all his insecurities kind of got in his own head and that’s his fault. He apologized and it was the first time where he was vulnerable with me about his insecurities, so I thought he was being genuine. I tell him I threw his things out and that I went back on dating apps. He laughed and said “why do I feel like I got cheated on”. He apologized 1 million times my naïve self decided to give him another chance.
On November 6 we actually did the deed for the first time. it just naturally happened. It was not planned or anything he told me he would never leave me and then then we planned on seeing each other on November 12 and spending the entire day together after November 6. He keeps consistent contact with me after nov 6 and everything is good. The last time I heard from him was November 11 he texted "I miss you baby " . November 12 Sunday comes around and I reach out to him like hey when are you coming? I get no response. I call and I get no response.
I decided to give him 24 hours and this morning I reached out to him. I got no response again. I texted saying “I hope your younger sister never goes through what I went through where she has sex with a man and then a week later he ghosts her. I blame myself for trusting you”. He knew how much sex meant to me and I'm not someone who sleeps with every man Im attracted to. I have now blocked him everywhere.
Maybe becoming a nun isn't too bad of an idea.

them golfers are a tough bunch

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Libra men and their golf! My fathers one. His third and I think final wife is a Gemini and they’ve been married over 10 years now. But then again he was married to my Libra mom for 18 years before divorcing her and saying he never loved her to get an annulment 🤷‍♀️

I feel used 😢

You're practically writing a novella about your Libra lover's golf habits. So, let me get this straight. You found your Libra prince charming on Hinge just three weeks ago, and now you're in the midst of an emotional saga because he dared to prioritize golf over your plans? Drama much?

Firstly, you're gushing about your perfect connection, aligning core values, and sharing 8-hour dates. Now, suddenly, golf is tearing your relationship asunder. Is this a rom-com or a golfing tragedy?

And your solution is to lecture him about respect and demand better planning? Lady, it's three weeks in, not three years. Ease up on the relationship coaching.

Look, people have their interests, and apparently, golf is your Libra's thing. Maybe he's trying to signal he needs a breather from the intensity of your whirlwind romance. Your response? A detailed analysis of his astrological chart. Classic.

You're apologizing for what, exactly? Wanting to spend time together? Congratulations, welcome to dating. Your Libra might be questioning if he signed up for a relationship or a full-time schedule coordinator.

My advice? Take a deep breath, maybe hit a golf ball yourself, and let your Libra catch his breath. Or better yet, write a novel about your budding golf-centric love affair. I'm sure Hollywood is just waiting for this blockbuster.

Posted by Gem03
I feel used

I think that’s only natural when we make a decision out of fear that goes against our gut instinct or values. Take this as lesson learned. Don’t compromise on what really matters to you for anyone or thing. You’ll feel better about your decisions when you don’t let the fear get the best of you. It’s ok to feel foolish, it was a bit naive. But you really put yourself out there, no shame in that. Keep your chin up. Learn what you can about yourself and your needs from this. You’ll be just fine. And it sounds like you had a lot of fun, albeit short lived.

Posted by Dastard2020
You're practically writing a novella about your Libra lover's golf habits. So, let me get this straight. You found your Libra prince charming on Hinge just three weeks ago, and now you're in the midst of an emotional saga because he dared to prioritize golf over your plans? Drama much?

Firstly, you're gushing about your perfect connection, aligning core values, and sharing 8-hour dates. Now, suddenly, golf is tearing your relationship asunder. Is this a rom-com or a golfing tragedy?

And your solution is to lecture him about respect and demand better planning? Lady, it's three weeks in, not three years. Ease up on the relationship coaching.

Look, people have their interests, and apparently, golf is your Libra's thing. Maybe he's trying to signal he needs a breather from the intensity of your whirlwind romance. Your response? A detailed analysis of his astrological chart. Classic.

You're apologizing for what, exactly? Wanting to spend time together? Congratulations, welcome to dating. Your Libra might be questioning if he signed up for a relationship or a full-time schedule coordinator.

My advice? Take a deep breath, maybe hit a golf ball yourself, and let your Libra catch his breath. Or better yet, write a novel about your budding golf-centric love affair. I'm sure Hollywood is just waiting for this blockbuster.

You should’ve read all the updates instead of assuming him wanting alone time/golf time was ever a problem. His Lack of communication and him canceling at the last minute was a problem. If we are dating I wanna talk everyday if you need space then just say you need space we can talk/see each other a week later. I thought he was genuine but to have sex then go ghost exactly a week later shows his true colors. Its fucked up, even a text “I don’t want to see you again” would’ve been enough .

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Posted by Gem03
I feel used

I think that’s only natural when we make a decision out of fear that goes against our gut instinct or values. Take this as lesson learned. Don’t compromise on what really matters to you for anyone or thing. You’ll feel better about your decisions when you don’t let the fear get the best of you. It’s ok to feel foolish, it was a bit naive. But you really put yourself out there, no shame in that. Keep your chin up. Learn what you can about yourself and your needs from this. You’ll be just fine. And it sounds like you had a lot of fun, albeit short lived.

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Thank you, I just hate this feeling.

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I'm so confused.
You both can't sustain that kinda time together. And now youre butthurt that he apologized?
have you discussed what is sustainable, what kind of time you can share with one another without neglecting yourselves?
Girl, tell him its okay and that you need to set healthier boundaries. Cancelling last min sucks but he's human. And you should be busy having your own life too.
I couldn't imagine being with someone THAT much and think it's normal 3 weeks in.

1) I did not force him, or make him meet up with me that much. We simply clicked, and just kept wanting to see each other as much as possible. We both agree that things have been going fast between us but everything between us is natural+organic. Yes I completely agree that seeing each other almost every single day is not sustainable, especially since both of us have heavy air placements so we require time and space to function.

2) I was only butthurt because he canceled last minute and then he apologized, we talked and we compromised, that is all good.

3) The only thing I'm worried about is that he said "You are the first girl i have dated who is a princess, high maintenance. I don't want to waste your time or fail you. I need to see if I'm up for the challenge to be with someone like you. "

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How convenient that everything just falls into place for you. Clicked, couldn't resist each other, and now, suddenly, you have concerns about sustainability of this situationship. Sounds like a well-crafted narrative to cover up the inevitable mess that follows.

Canceled plans, apologies, compromise. Is this a sitcom or your attempt at relationship management? Seems like you're playing the victim card, conveniently sweeping issues under the rug. Bravo on the performance.

And now, the grand revelation that you're the first girl he's dated who's a "princess" and "high maintenance." Is he trying to prepare you for an impending breakup, or is this his way of blaming you for any future shortcomings in the relationship? Color me skeptical about this sudden bout of self-awareness.

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Posted by Jade_Alexander
I'm so confused.
You both can't sustain that kinda time together. And now youre butthurt that he apologized?
have you discussed what is sustainable, what kind of time you can share with one another without neglecting yourselves?
Girl, tell him its okay and that you need to set healthier boundaries. Cancelling last min sucks but he's human. And you should be busy having your own life too.
I couldn't imagine being with someone THAT much and think it's normal 3 weeks in.

1) I did not force him, or make him meet up with me that much. We simply clicked, and just kept wanting to see each other as much as possible. We both agree that things have been going fast between us but everything between us is natural+organic. Yes I completely agree that seeing each other almost every single day is not sustainable, especially since both of us have heavy air placements so we require time and space to function.
2) I was only butthurt because he canceled last minute and then he apologized, we talked and we compromised, that is all good.
3) The only thing I'm worried about is that he said "You are the first girl i have dated who is a princess, high maintenance. I don't want to waste your time or fail you. I need to see if I'm up for the challenge to be with someone like you. "
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How convenient that everything just falls into place for you. Clicked, couldn't resist each other, and now, suddenly, you have concerns about sustainability of this situationship. Sounds like a well-crafted narrative to cover up the inevitable mess that follows.

Canceled plans, apologies, compromise. Is this a sitcom or your attempt at relationship management? Seems like you're playing the victim card, conveniently sweeping issues under the rug. Bravo on the performance.

And now, the grand revelation that you're the first girl he's dated who's a "princess" and "high maintenance." Is he trying to prepare you for an impending breakup, or is this his way of blaming you for any future shortcomings in the relationship? Color me skeptical about this sudden bout of self-awareness.

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I love how you are blaming me for his words and actions. When he first ghosted I walked away and he chose to come back that is on him. Me putting my trust in him was my fault. I wholeheartedly believe ghosting after sex is despicable (at least have the balls to text "I don't want to see you anymore").

Also that update was ages ago. You sound like a bitter person.

Posted by Gem03
I feel used

I’m sorry. 😞 That’s really crappy! Actions vs words, mixed messages are a problem. unfortunately when we don’t pay attention to something that happens then we get to learn a lesson. The other thing that happens is when there is a problem in a relationship & someone comes back without really dealing with the situation, damn promises and the same ole thing happens. It’s such a hard lesson 😢 Sorry that it turned out this way.

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Posted by Gem03
I feel used

I think that’s only natural when we make a decision out of fear that goes against our gut instinct or values. Take this as lesson learned. Don’t compromise on what really matters to you for anyone or thing. You’ll feel better about your decisions when you don’t let the fear get the best of you. It’s ok to feel foolish, it was a bit naive. But you really put yourself out there, no shame in that. Keep your chin up. Learn what you can about yourself and your needs from this. You’ll be just fine. And it sounds like you had a lot of fun, albeit short lived.
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Thank you, I just hate this feeling.

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I know. I’m sorry. I hate it too.

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October 20: he ghosted me we didn’t fight or anything initially I thought he needed space so I gave him two days and then on October 23. I reached out to him and I got no response. I deleted his number I threw out his clothes hairspray and his umbrella, and got back on dating apps.

October 29 : he reaches out to me, saying he has a lot of explaining to do. It was lengthy, but he essentially said how he felt embarrassed and insecure about his looks his living situation, and his parents. He lives in the house with two roommates but he makes good money. He went on to say that I don’t deserve to be ghosted that I am perfect beautiful and smart, which is what he is looking for but all his insecurities kind of got in his own head and that’s his fault. He apologized and it was the first time where he was vulnerable with me about his insecurities, so I thought he was being genuine. I tell him I threw his things out and that I went back on dating apps. He laughed and said “why do I feel like I got cheated on”. He apologized 1 million times my naïve self decided to give him another chance.

On November 6 we actually did the deed for the first time. it just naturally happened. It was not planned or anything he told me he would never leave me and then then we planned on seeing each other on November 12 and spending the entire day together after November 6. He keeps consistent contact with me after nov 6 and everything is good. The last time I heard from him was November 11 he texted "I miss you baby " . November 12 Sunday comes around and I reach out to him like hey when are you coming? I get no response. I call and I get no response.

I decided to give him 24 hours and this morning I reached out to him. I got no response again. I texted saying “I hope your younger sister never goes through what I went through where she has sex with a man and then a week later he ghosts her. I blame myself for trusting you”. He knew how much sex meant to me and I'm not someone who sleeps with every man Im attracted to. I have now blocked him everywhere.

Maybe becoming a nun isn't too bad of an idea.

You're not eligible for an adult relationship. Let's just get that out of the way first.

I see a childish narcissist with self pity. Tons of baggage and whining.

Any takers? It wouldn't be a Libra, because we'd catch all the red flags before the two month mark.

I gave you far too much credit in my first response in this thread. You're an energy taker. It's enough to drive someone perfectly sane to kill you.

You're not mature enough for sexual activity, either. Nobody here will disagree. Sorry.

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Posted by Gem03
October 20: he ghosted me we didn’t fight or anything initially I thought he needed space so I gave him two days and then on October 23. I reached out to him and I got no response. I deleted his number I threw out his clothes hairspray and his umbrella, and got back on dating apps.
October 29 : he reaches out to me, saying he has a lot of explaining to do. It was lengthy, but he essentially said how he felt embarrassed and insecure about his looks his living situation, and his parents. He lives in the house with two roommates but he makes good money. He went on to say that I don’t deserve to be ghosted that I am perfect beautiful and smart, which is what he is looking for but all his insecurities kind of got in his own head and that’s his fault. He apologized and it was the first time where he was vulnerable with me about his insecurities, so I thought he was being genuine. I tell him I threw his things out and that I went back on dating apps. He laughed and said “why do I feel like I got cheated on”. He apologized 1 million times my naïve self decided to give him another chance.
On November 6 we actually did the deed for the first time. it just naturally happened. It was not planned or anything he told me he would never leave me and then then we planned on seeing each other on November 12 and spending the entire day together after November 6. He keeps consistent contact with me after nov 6 and everything is good. The last time I heard from him was November 11 he texted "I miss you baby " . November 12 Sunday comes around and I reach out to him like hey when are you coming? I get no response. I call and I get no response.
I decided to give him 24 hours and this morning I reached out to him. I got no response again. I texted saying “I hope your younger sister never goes through what I went through where she has sex with a man and then a week later he ghosts her. I blame myself for trusting you”. He knew how much sex meant to me and I'm not someone who sleeps with every man Im attracted to. I have now blocked him everywhere.
Maybe becoming a nun isn't too bad of an idea.

You're not eligible for an adult relationship. Let's just get that out of the way first.

I see a childish narcissist with self pity. Tons of baggage and whining.

Any takers? It wouldn't be a Libra, because we'd catch all the red flags before the two month mark.

I gave you far too much credit in my first response in this thread. You're an energy taker. It's enough to drive someone perfectly sane to kill you.

You're not mature enough for sexual activity, either. Nobody here will disagree. Sorry.

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God forbid I feel sad over being ghosted a week after sex. I just wanted communication and I don’t think thats asking for a lot. He told me he was seeing me on nov 12 and he doesn’t show up, doesn’t even say a word. I wait until Monday morning and still nothing. I have never dealt with someone so flaky. I regret not blocking his number when he ghosted me on October 20.

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October 20: he ghosted me we didn’t fight or anything initially I thought he needed space so I gave him two days and then on October 23. I reached out to him and I got no response. I deleted his number I threw out his clothes hairspray and his umbrella, and got back on dating apps.
October 29 : he reaches out to me, saying he has a lot of explaining to do. It was lengthy, but he essentially said how he felt embarrassed and insecure about his looks his living situation, and his parents. He lives in the house with two roommates but he makes good money. He went on to say that I don’t deserve to be ghosted that I am perfect beautiful and smart, which is what he is looking for but all his insecurities kind of got in his own head and that’s his fault. He apologized and it was the first time where he was vulnerable with me about his insecurities, so I thought he was being genuine. I tell him I threw his things out and that I went back on dating apps. He laughed and said “why do I feel like I got cheated on”. He apologized 1 million times my naïve self decided to give him another chance.
On November 6 we actually did the deed for the first time. it just naturally happened. It was not planned or anything he told me he would never leave me and then then we planned on seeing each other on November 12 and spending the entire day together after November 6. He keeps consistent contact with me after nov 6 and everything is good. The last time I heard from him was November 11 he texted "I miss you baby " . November 12 Sunday comes around and I reach out to him like hey when are you coming? I get no response. I call and I get no response.
I decided to give him 24 hours and this morning I reached out to him. I got no response again. I texted saying “I hope your younger sister never goes through what I went through where she has sex with a man and then a week later he ghosts her. I blame myself for trusting you”. He knew how much sex meant to me and I'm not someone who sleeps with every man Im attracted to. I have now blocked him everywhere.
Maybe becoming a nun isn't too bad of an idea.

You're not eligible for an adult relationship. Let's just get that out of the way first.

I see a childish narcissist with self pity. Tons of baggage and whining.

Any takers? It wouldn't be a Libra, because we'd catch all the red flags before the two month mark.

I gave you far too much credit in my first response in this thread. You're an energy taker. It's enough to drive someone perfectly sane to kill you.

You're not mature enough for sexual activity, either. Nobody here will disagree. Sorry.

God forbid I feel sad over being ghosted a week after sex. I just wanted communication and I don’t think thats asking for a lot. He told me he was seeing me on nov 12 and he doesn’t show up, doesn’t even say a word. I wait until Monday morning and still nothing. I have never dealt with someone so flaky. I regret not blocking his number when he ghosted me on October 20.

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No

You asked too much of him and then kept bothering him when he clearly wanted space. You chewed him out over one golf outing and then became even more annoying.

There's actually no blame in it for anyone but you

it doesn’t sound like the Libra is* interested, so it’s best to move on. (From my experience if a Libra is interested you can’t get rid of them)

Best of luck 🤞

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it doesn’t sound like the Libra isn’t interested, so it’s best to move on. (From my experience if a Libra is interested you can’t get rid of them)

Best of luck 🤞

I think with any man who genuinely likes you, he won't ever let you feel abandoned. I def regret having sex with him. If a man likes you he won't have trouble communicating.

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Posted by Gem03
October 20: he ghosted me we didn’t fight or anything initially I thought he needed space so I gave him two days and then on October 23. I reached out to him and I got no response. I deleted his number I threw out his clothes hairspray and his umbrella, and got back on dating apps.
October 29 : he reaches out to me, saying he has a lot of explaining to do. It was lengthy, but he essentially said how he felt embarrassed and insecure about his looks his living situation, and his parents. He lives in the house with two roommates but he makes good money. He went on to say that I don’t deserve to be ghosted that I am perfect beautiful and smart, which is what he is looking for but all his insecurities kind of got in his own head and that’s his fault. He apologized and it was the first time where he was vulnerable with me about his insecurities, so I thought he was being genuine. I tell him I threw his things out and that I went back on dating apps. He laughed and said “why do I feel like I got cheated on”. He apologized 1 million times my naïve self decided to give him another chance.
On November 6 we actually did the deed for the first time. it just naturally happened. It was not planned or anything he told me he would never leave me and then then we planned on seeing each other on November 12 and spending the entire day together after November 6. He keeps consistent contact with me after nov 6 and everything is good. The last time I heard from him was November 11 he texted "I miss you baby " . November 12 Sunday comes around and I reach out to him like hey when are you coming? I get no response. I call and I get no response.
I decided to give him 24 hours and this morning I reached out to him. I got no response again. I texted saying “I hope your younger sister never goes through what I went through where she has sex with a man and then a week later he ghosts her. I blame myself for trusting you”. He knew how much sex meant to me and I'm not someone who sleeps with every man Im attracted to. I have now blocked him everywhere.
Maybe becoming a nun isn't too bad of an idea.

You're not eligible for an adult relationship. Let's just get that out of the way first.
I see a childish narcissist with self pity. Tons of baggage and whining.
Any takers? It wouldn't be a Libra, because we'd catch all the red flags before the two month mark.
I gave you far too much credit in my first response in this thread. You're an energy taker. It's enough to drive someone perfectly sane to kill you.
You're not mature enough for sexual activity, either. Nobody here will disagree. Sorry.

God forbid I feel sad over being ghosted a week after sex. I just wanted communication and I don’t think thats asking for a lot. He told me he was seeing me on nov 12 and he doesn’t show up, doesn’t even say a word. I wait until Monday morning and still nothing. I have never dealt with someone so flaky. I regret not blocking his number when he ghosted me on October 20.
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No

You asked too much of him and then kept bothering him when he clearly wanted space. You chewed him out over one golf outing and then became even more annoying.

There's actually no blame in it for anyone but you

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So making plans with someone and then ignoring them is okay? I think part of being an adult is being able to communicate your needs, "Hey Im sorry but let's meet up tomorrow".

In early october he had no problem communicating he needed the weekend to himself and to golf (this was the convo when he said I'm the first high maintenance girl he has dated), but now that we have had sex he can't type a lil text communicating he wants some space? be for real now

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it doesn’t sound like the Libra isn’t interested, so it’s best to move on. (From my experience if a Libra is interested you can’t get rid of them)
Best of luck 🤞

I think with any man who genuinely likes you, he won't ever let you feel abandoned. I def regret having sex with him. If a man likes you he won't have trouble communicating.

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I am with AbbyNormal on this one, but also be kind to yourself. It’s okay to make mistakes! Try to forgive yourself.