Libra women help!!

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Can I get a inbox.. On some help ?

Lovely77

Im not a libra sir huh?

Can you inbox me

Creepers be creepin'

Lol.. Can I get some advice

That's what these threads are for, dear. Coming here and acting like some freak ass creeper, calling out specific users just to message you privately isn't going to help you.

Chill out.. Not that serious jus trying get some
Advice ....and she seemed to know a lot about libra so calm down ..

Posted by Jay1112
Chill out.. Not that serious jus trying get some
Advice ....and she seemed to know a lot about libra so calm down ..

Oh honey, don't flatter yourself. I wasn't upset. Just explaining to your unaware self why nobody wanted to help.

Posted by Jay1112
I wonder why we do that .. It's so hard to communicate lol

I just need help understanding this..I am /was getting everything like we were in a relationship but as soon as I say anything about "us" I get I am not ready for that .. Idk when I will be ready for that and so on .. I am trying to understand what are we doing then .. Why are you saying "I love you " and telling the world about me if this isn't what you want .. Ya know

You're getting jerked around by someone who has NO idea what they want.

Assuming she's a she, she's playing you. Libra men and women are notorious for this. They see it as being friends or playing nice, but to the other person, it's a lot of confusing and user behavior.

In short, this person isn't as into you as you are into them.

I got you... That's what I been feeling!

Im new here and a Libra hi all! First post and thought id help someone out first before seeking help. But I agree, we love everyone (or its how ive noticed people can feel from us) BUT I have never ever told someone I love them and then claim not to be ready for an "us" that is very contradicting. Im not even usually the first one to fall in love OR say it. She doesnt know what she wants or what she is doing and maybe she says it in response to u saying it because otherwise she'll feel bad.

Posted by Jay1112
I wonder why we do that .. It's so hard to communicate lol

I just need help understanding this..I am /was getting everything like we were in a relationship but as soon as I say anything about "us" I get I am not ready for that .. Idk when I will be ready for that and so on .. I am trying to understand what are we doing then .. Why are you saying "I love you " and telling the world about me if this isn't what you want .. Ya know

Yeah sounds like she is unsure what was her last relationship like? Have you asked her why she loves you but doesn't want a relationship? I get that way after being hurt and it is a clear indicator that I shouldn't be involved with anyone, but in her case she did get involved so she may have some feelings for you there but she could be in a detached mindset meaning she knows something is there but it isn't the bursting wonderful feels we get wen we first fall in love. So she probably feels like there is love there but is uncertain. I'd say back off completely to protect yourself if you are giving her a lot of attention give her time to make up her mind with out you. She is enjoying her cake and eating it well if that isn't what you want backing off will give you both time to decide if it's what you really want. Just keep yourself distracted.

Btw she said "I love you first" and I don't think she in love she just says it when we leave each other ..also I guess I wanted a title on it ..

What are yall's ages? Younger people tend to freely throw "I love you" out there. So, her "I love you" may not have meant the same as yours.

She's not been out of her long term relationship long and has told you she's not ready for a commitment. Respect that.

You really want that commitment, but she needs time. Be patient, give her time, stay consistent OR cut bait and run.

Are you the only one she's dating? Yes, that speaks volumes. Again, be patient. No, see where it leads or end it with her and move on.

I'm a libra. If I bring you around my kids and family, I think you have very good potential for a serious relationship.

I think women like being with a cancer because of how we can make you feel .. And all the romantic stuff.. But when they really get to know us ..they get frustrated because they can not figure us out at all..I suck at communicating my feelings /emotion and I tend to disappear when I feel like I am being played with or hurt or just going through things.. And I did all that with her .. She likes to communicate feelings and I don't ...

@Jay1112 She sounds similar to me. I got out of a 5 year relationship with a Sag in April but truth be told I fell out of love with him 2 years before that so when he cheated it finally gave me an excuse to leave( we have a son together, his mother was dying I felt I needed to be there to get him through it for his sake and our sons) Anyway, I started dating a month or so after we broke up it was just at first for a bit of fun to see what was out there then I met this Gemini we were friends at first then we began talking night and day pouring our souls out to each other. I knew I wasn't ready for a relationship but I did only want him and I did fall in love with him. I was in the mindset to let things flow and be happy but when they got too serious he turn tail and ran and I realized the extent of how much I loved him even though we were friends and just having fun together. I kept saying to myself I didn't want to go through another disappointment with being in a relationship but disappointment happened anyway. So my point is she was probably in the mindset that she was just gonna be happy and when you mentioned a relationship a million and one thoughts came to her about how sudden everything was and she needed to take a few steps back to re-evaluate the situation

,but the thing about Libra is, if we feel too much pressure to make a decision we will take the easiest route and sometimes that route is ending things. We may regret ending it as soon as it happens but to make it fair and not leave someone hanging I will let them go even if it hurts me. Or like my last situation I let him go because he wanted what he wanted and I could have continued with what we had but just so I didn't cause problems with fighting about the situation I let him go.

Ladylibra that sounds just like her.. And I understand completely! I wasn't looking either but it just happend. She express more than twice how she feels about me and how I make her feel but maybe the time is just not right now.. But I will not wait.. Not that I am looking .. I guess the indecisiveness can drive me insane!!

Posted by Jay1112
Ladylibra that sounds just like her.. And I understand completely! I wasn't looking either but it just happend. She express more than twice how she feels about me and how I make her feel but maybe the time is just not right now.. But I will not wait.. Not that I am looking .. I guess the indecisiveness can drive me insane!!

If the indecision doesn't work for you, it would be best to pull back entirely. I would suggest apologizing for the blow up (Libras don't like that stuff). If you decide to stick around, pump the brakes and let her come back around to you. If she comes back lay off of the need to label the relationship. Play it cool, but don't go cold. Honestly that would be my advice even if you are dealing with any other zodiac sign. If she's 8 months out of a long term marriage, you probably don't want to move that quickly with her. You may also want to consider that this could be a rebound for her, even if it's 8 months out.

And it doesn't work with anyone .. My disappearing acts didn't work well with my gemni ex .. Leo ex.. Virgo ex.. It drive them all crazy to the point where they were swinging bats lol but I can get my feelings out through emails tho

Yeah not communicating your emotions and disappearing will definitely drive a wounded Libra away.

She doesn't seem like a good fit for you either.

Scorpio or a Taurus maybe? IDK but definitely not a Libra though.. She'll mirror your behavior and you won't like it.

I don't really like Scorpio women wayy to much emotion for me.. Lol but communicating emotions for me is just being scared of hurting someone feelings or getting my feelings hurt.. If I'm really feeling you and I tell you this or that .. What if you just decide to leave.

Funny thing Jane84 I think that's what she is doing right now .. She actually said she was gonna disappear on me like I did her smh...

i know cancers are private with their issues that's why you probably didn't want to post here... But you need to give more info to get advice. I'm a libra woman and I'm dating a cancer man and I tell everyone about him because I like him. However when he asks what are we doing I have said I didn't want a relationship because I felt as though he didn't want a relationship and I didn't want to scare him off by wanting a relationship and I was hoping he would say he wanted a relationship and I can admit I want one as well. It's crazy I know but if she is acting as though she wants to be with you but says she doesn't want a relationship it's may be because she doesn't know what you want. I like direct communication if you don't say exactly out of your mouth what you want I won't know. Have you ever told her you didn't want a relationship or that you weren't ready for a relationship ? If so she is just saying that so she won't scare you off. If you haven't said directly to her that your interested in being in a relationship she is gonna to deny wanting a relationship with you until she feels as though you want one as well.

Also if her previous relationship was hurtful and you guys have an argument she may have said it out of emotion. As a libra I don't like consistent arguing and fighting it drains the love out of a relationship and makes me just unhappy and hurt. So maybe the argument yall had reminded her of past hurts from other relationships and it may not be she doesn't want a relationship it may be she doesn't want to experience that hurt that she experience before in a relationship. She needs you to make her feel secure and she needs to know you love her genuinely. you could of hurt her when you disappeared as well.

She said she's gonna disappear on you like you did her, which means that did hurt her and she wants you to know that and also wants to know why you did it and if you'll donit again.

You look scary and intimidating..

I'm not scary .. Im a cool loving dude ,,but I was direct in saying I wanted to be with her .. She was talking about marriage in the beginning and I wasn't for that at first ..until we hung out more and I like the way she made me feel..and the whole disappearing thing I didn't even know she felt the way she felt about it until a month later ..its sad because I feel like it's over and we had so much fun together .. I really don't think she contact me again

Lovelylibra how's it working out with your cancer?

Posted by Jay1112
I'm not scary .. Im a cool loving dude ,,but I was direct in saying I wanted to be with her .. She was talking about marriage in the beginning and I wasn't for that at first ..until we hung out more and I like the way she made me feel..and the whole disappearing thing I didn't even know she felt the way she felt about it until a month later ..its sad because I feel like it's over and we had so much fun together .. I really don't think she contact me again

Lovelylibra how's it working out with your cancer?

Have you communicated this change in feelings to her?

Yes I communicated every feeling I had for her.. I don't know what the issue is tho..

You should inbox me ladylibra .. I can give you advice and tell your more

I tried to message you, but you have to go to settings and enable your messaging

Im very expressive with my intentions and feelings. I agree cancers withhold stuff especially if i feel it doesn't relate to u at all. I keep my business to myself and u will never know whats going on. Give her time and space. U obviously care about her alot if u posting it on here. As others said libras cna be communicative but avoids arguments kind of.....lol. they don't like when u come for them but some come for u in arguments. And for me i dont do disappearing acts unless u playing games with me then i will give u a hard time etc. So i feel its more to this story because atleast for cancer women we r very direct and honest i dont hold back. I will be aloof quiet ignore u etc when i dont trust u and u keep doing stuff to hurt me. So idk why she throwing the disappearing act...did she hurt u? Libras not all...love to play victim sometimes when they bring on alot of the arguments. U should open up more tell ur partners how u feel wat u want.

I agree with chux...rebound with libra may not be good. Some may not forget about ex they need space to heal too. Dont blow up no one likes blow ups. Also if u want more be clear if she or u both cant offer to eachother what u need then bow out of the situation.

So she hit me up.. Do we talk about it or act like nothing never happend?

Granted, I'm not a Libra, but I'd give this advice regarding any woman. Talk to her (nicely), but be prepared to do more listening. Feel out the conversation because she apparently wants to speak with you, but don't be overbearing emotionally (don't dominate the conversation with your feelings). Don't pretend the situation didn't happen, you will need to be direct with her (in a cool fashion). Be cool, logical, and honest. Apologize for the blow up, but not for your feelings toward her. Let her know you will do better in the future (and then actually stick to that).

Lovely77 ..I disappear when I am hurt I disappear when I'm going through things .. And if I open up to someone and they just played me

Yea i know what u mean and i personally wouldnt bring it up. Just let it be. Pick right time to talk about it if need be. Sometimes libras brush issues under the rug so she not gone bring it up at all. Just let it be act like nothing happened but if it bothers u talk about it calmly nicely where it wont be argument