@lovely77
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valentine's day nothing....
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It will be alright. And you're so right letting go is hard. But at least you know the ins and outs. Have courage love. Tomarrow is a new day. Your generous and big heart will be rewarded.
Erm, if you know this guy is a problem, which is why you come here for advice, why are you pulling out all the stops on Vday? What did you think that was going to accomplish? Buying this guy over isn't going to work at any level, and if you're desperate enough to lower YOUR standards to do that, it says a LOT about the relationship.
Sure, some people are going to pipe up with the traditional "well Vday doesn't mean much and some people don't believe in it" (just like how people lower your worth on your birthday by saying some people aren't into that stuff so it's okay if people don't do anything for you then either), but the fact remains that there's some sort of romantic thing between you two. You did something nice for him and he couldn't be bothered. Add this to the other issues you've had and what do you have?
Your answer. It's you that needs to step into action and remedy this for your own benefit.
@rockyroadicecream no hun i didnt ive been consistent and been there for a year 3 months helping this person and loving them. Its just as time went on i started seeing more and more red flags which made me evaluate everything. U need to read all my other posts. I dont pull stops only on valentine's day, i make sure my partner is very well loved no matter what day of the year it is. I didnt buy them over at all. I was giving them the benefit of the doubt. What im saying is im consistent no matter how someone treats me im going to always be a good person to the end...and i just wanted to post how on valentine's this is what they did. Yes im working on me and moving forward.
Posted by lovely77
@rockyroadicecream no hun i didnt ive been consistent and been there for a year 3 months helping this person and loving them. Its just as time went on i started seeing more and more red flags which made me evaluate everything. U need to read all my other posts. I dont pull stops only on valentine's day, i make sure my partner is very well loved no matter what day of the year it is. I didnt buy them over at all. I was giving them the benefit of the doubt. What im saying is im consistent no matter how someone treats me im going to always be a good person to the end...and i just wanted to post how on valentine's this is what they did. Yes im working on me and moving forward.
When is your libras birthday... and when is her ex's bday too?
Sept 27 and her ex is an Aquarius i believe @mysterioustaurus i just broke it off im tired no one is hurting here but me. Im a good person moving on now i cant deal lol
For a whole year all i wanted was simple gesture after everything i cant even get a written letter something anything im done. I was gone wait to April when i have my surgery to see if she would even care enough to be by my bedside i cant. I give ppl many chances show me who they r...in the end this is on me.
Posted by lovely77
Sept 27 and her ex is an Aquarius i believe @mysterioustaurus i just broke it off im tired no one is hurting here but me. Im a good person moving on now i cant deal lol
Good! Please move on.. you're too good for this, seriously
Posted by lovely77
i sent flowers candy a plant and 1000 to my libra
Am I reading this correctly? You gave your man $ 1000!?!
Sorry, your *woman. Just read through the whole thread.
gomen.... sorry this has happened.
but it is not really bad that it did.....
now you know who you deal with.
strive for better because you truly
deserve it.
some people are givers, others takers.
its time you find someone who gives.
find the strength and be well, dear.
I need a 1000 dollars
Yea im moving on... i need rest this is enough for me i tried.
That's great that you're moving on, hard as it is. Thanks for your honest posts about this - not easy stuff to face!
Being giving is a good thing, of course, and now you've done some clearing away so there can be room for someone to come into your life who will make it worthwhile and not painful.
It will be alright. And you're so right letting go is hard. But at least you know the ins and outs. Have courage love. Tomarrow is a new day. Your generous and big heart will be rewarded.
This is so gracious of you.
I'm so sorry, i know its hard to let go and move on, so just remember, you can't start a new chapter if you keep re-reading the last one. Good luck, you deserve to be loved and appreciated.
Wow, you poor thing. I wouldn't call it love - it sounds like codependency and love addiction. Honey if you are giving someone $ 1000 you need God to help you. There is a 12 step program called Sex and love addiction. slaa.org I think you should check it out. You sound like you have really poor self esteem; I thank Jesus for the strength he gives me to stay out of sick one sided relationships. Without Jesus, I would easily be in something sick like this. God will give strength if you ask. He will direct you and guide you if you follow this guidance you will get out of this sick obsessive highly dysfunctional toxic situation. You self esteem is profoundly low and the devil has you in deep bondage. I am not aroused when I am mistreated, I can't even look at the person..all Glory to God for his strength to love myself; you poor thing.
Posted by MagicMona
You want me to scalp that broad? Say the word....Do you really got no shirt on? 0.o
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That scared me too for a sec
This is a parasitic relationship! Does not take long for someone to reply with a valentines day text or message. Dump her sorry ass!
Also you should've gave me the 1k. I would've cuddled and fed you.
Just out of curiosity, which celebrity would play your Libra girl in a biographical film?
Lolll @sensitiveblues i hear u i dont feel sorry for me. I know who i was dating and ive had enough.
Lmaooo i can hear the tone in ur voice @sensitiveblues thats true why.
Posted by SassyKiwi
Also you should've gave me the 1k. I would've cuddled and fed you.
LMAO
Right im hungry too lolll @sassykiwi
@librawoman77 i dont have really poor self esteem at all. I said my standard r low when it came to this person. Also we didnt have much sex im celibate and have been for 3 years i feel it clouds ur judgment at times. So the love I felt waa genuine and not sexual. I been praying and ask god for strength im working on that. We all have our weaknesses though.
Posted by lovely77
@rockyroadicecream no hun i didnt ive been consistent and been there for a year 3 months helping this person and loving them. Its just as time went on i started seeing more and more red flags which made me evaluate everything. U need to read all my other posts. I dont pull stops only on valentine's day, i make sure my partner is very well loved no matter what day of the year it is. I didnt buy them over at all. I was giving them the benefit of the doubt. What im saying is im consistent no matter how someone treats me im going to always be a good person to the end...and i just wanted to post how on valentine's this is what they did. Yes im working on me and moving forward.
Sweetie, at this point, it's not "taking care" of anyone. You're essentially continuing to coddle a shitty person. There is nothing wrong with wanting to do all that stuff. But given the past and the history, you went ahead and went all out anyway when you could have been a bit more conservative. You don't shower an abusive twat with presents when they've been a twat to you.
I understand your logic and reasoning behind it, but it just does not work in a situation like this and you were just provided with even more proof that you're wasting your time and energy on an asshole who should be pushed off a cliff for treating such a loving person like shit.
"Even though you've been a questionable asshole, I'm still going to shower you with gifts, attention, and love."
All that tells this person that it's okay to treat you badly. It's not even about "taking care of" at this point, it's just being a tad bit foolish and naive. Glad you want to move on. People who can't even appreciate your efforts should be dropped immediately. Given the holiday, I can see why this is the straw that broke the camel's back.
Posted by lovely77
@librawoman77 i dont have really poor self esteem at all. I said my standard r low when it came to this person. Also we didnt have much sex im celibate and have been for 3 years i feel it clouds ur judgment at times. So the love I felt waa genuine and not sexual. I been praying and ask god for strength im working on that. We all have our weaknesses though.
When a woman has high self-esteem she will not lower her standards for anybody; in addition she will pull out of an dating situation when she first notices her feelings are not being reciprocated. Yes we all have weaknesses but cancers weaknesses rub me the wrong way. I have found cancers to be stubborn over- emotional cry-babies who whine, moan and complain instead of developing the strong internal characteristics that will empower them to move out of their situation. That's why you didn't get a Valentine's Day gift. SHE AIN'T FEELING YOU! Can she be any louder with expressing that? I cut the cancer female I dated off, can't remember her last name. But two cardinals don't work; I despised her on a romantic level. I loved my Aquarius though.
Girl I am sorry you are coming across pretty desperate, weak, and borderline pathetic. She has lost respect for you and you will never be nothing than someone she can use. I am done with ever commenting on one of your pathetic threads about this Libra who can't give a shit about you.
Oh yea i read post By you i dont like you at all and you rub me the wrong way, im glad you work well with your Aquarius have a good day @librawoman77 everyone gives their opinions but you just come off real negative to me frfr lol
No one told u to comment though ur not doing me any favors here lol. And two cardinals can work sorry yours didnt im sure it was ur attitude because you come off negative girl bye @librawoman77 some ppl just need to come for someone. Its one thing to give criticism which im ok with but to come at me like u know me is unacceptable u dont even know me besides what ive written yet u call me pathetic and whining? Last time i checked i owned up to my part and was calm and humbled. Im not the one and your not the two.
i think in this moment it is wise to adopt a bit of buddhism and that is (really paraphrasing here in a terrible way) that misery is borne from expectations. you gave a present with an agenda. you're trying to buy her love and you expected that she would return your generosity with affection and attention.
you know and everyone here knows she is an arsehole who is using you. it's hard letting go but past behaviour should indicate how she is going to respond to you in the future.
you can keep dealing with her if you want (although i think everyone here would advise against it) but stop expecting her to behave any differently than what she has shown you so far. this is where you get hurt. you hurt yourself because you refuse to accept that she is not the person you think she is.
you can't be consistent regardless how someone treats you. that's ludicrous. so if someone beats you everyday you will treat them the same as the person who showers you with love? what you will be left with is the person who beats you everyday because the person who showers you with love will want no part of that. if everyone is special, then no one is.
Ur always so wise @jeane
Awww im sorry @blackphase
Yea @sensitiveblues u had me laughing last night though lol
Be strong & move on. She doesn't deserve you
Posted by lovely77
No one told u to comment though ur not doing me any favors here lol. And two cardinals can work sorry yours didnt im sure it was ur attitude because you come off negative girl bye @librawoman77 some ppl just need to come for someone. Its one thing to give criticism which im ok with but to come at me like u know me is unacceptable u dont even know me besides what ive written yet u call me pathetic and whining? Last time i checked i owned up to my part and was calm and humbled. Im not the one and your not the two.
You need to realize that "negative" and "real" are not interchangeable. I am so sick of weenies overusing the "positive" and "negative" language in every day situations when it basically replaces "real" and "optimistic," or "negative" is used to basically say "I don't like what you're saying because it pops my fantasy bubble."
Delusional, unrealistic people overuse these terms. Just more pussification of our society, tbh.
Posted by lovely77
Ur always so wise @jeaneclick to expand
Really? Because I said you were trying to buy this person and you denied it and got all butthurt.
Jesus, make up your mind, woman.
Im confused by your response i have no issues with what you said @rockyroadicecream but i can tell when someone comment is being overly too negative everyone made their comment and response but this particular to me seemed too much and it was just overboard. I know the difference between real and negative and she took it way too personal to me. Everyone gave good and bad responses plenty of times in which they were right. But i dont play those personal negative comments at all.
Posted by lovely77
Im confused by your response i have no issues with what you said @rockyroadicecream but i can tell when someone comment is being overly too negative everyone made their comment and response but this particular to me seemed too much and it was just overboard. I know the difference between real and negative and she took it way too personal to me. Everyone gave good and bad responses plenty of times in which they were right. But i dont play those personal negative comments at all.
Why are you confused? I don't have any issues with you either, but you're being incredibly irrational about all of this. Someone is telling you how you're coming across and being real with you and you retort with "ew negative."
And no, you weren't referring to just her one comment, but her entire posting history.
I'm not saying you have to tolerate it if you think it's a personal attack, but try to live in reality. It's questionable if you do considering your lala land approach to this lame fuck Libra you've been wasting time with. Like Jeane pointed out (and I did as well), you can't sit there and continue to treat someone the exact same despite how they treat you, like showering this silly bitch with love, affection, and presents when she clearly showed she has no respect for you or your time and doesn't appreciate you.
That's not living in reality, that's being borderline delusional. The sooner you become more realistic about what's really going on in the world, the less likely you are to get hurt by situations like this.
Which brings me back to the point about "positive" and "negative" being used to death anymore. Generally, it's fine, but I've noticed that people who use that type of language a little too often are also people who tend to be a bit delusional and are trying to deflect how big and bad reality can be.
Someone who's an emotional drain, treats you like shit, and uses you- THAT is a negative person- aka your Libra, which strangely enough, you seem to have no issues keeping around this whole time.
Someone who tells you how it is and calls you out on what you need to do to- that is not a negative person. Yet you're readily dismissing that without batting an eye.
Do you see the problem here?
Don't think I'm personally attacking you, or butthurt, or whatever you perceived this as my having some sort of "problem" with you. I'm just being frank and telling you how all this can affect you, big picture. You seem like a sweet girl and don't deserve to be treated like shit by some stupid, user bitch.
Im not going to read ur long post @rockyroadicecream ppl including you before have giving real comments am I wrong? Ok its difference between straight real and just plain attitude nasty her first post was real ok coo moving on all that extra stuff was unnecessary lol thats it
Yes ive read some her responses to others before to me she come off very rude babe sorry she does this is dxp ive read some of the realist comments from ppl and no one got out hand took overboard like she does thats my story im sticking to it. As many comments ppl gave im an adult and in real life i dont accept attitude from ppl at all period sorry she has an attitude to me @rockyroadicecream
Yea and your comments are real i respect them too you dont come off rude to me at all she did @rockyroadicecream you gave a real response to me and so did a few others. I can literally feel the tension in her response lol. But its all good maybe i read her responses wrong, but i didn't read yours wrong and you told me like it is too so why single her out because she is extra extra
Posted by lovely77
Yea and your comments are real i respect them too you dont come off rude to me at all she did @rockyroadicecream you gave a real response to me and so did a few others. I can literally feel the tension in her response lol. But its all good maybe i read her responses wrong, but i didn't read yours wrong and you told me like it is too so why single her out because she is extra extra
Rockyroad has the nerves to comment on someone's rude comment? LOL! LMAO, That is hilarious! That is hilarious! Rockyroad has said the most evil, heinous, barbaric, sinister, demonic cruel comments than anyone else on this forum! That is hilarious.
Girl, If someone gave me $ 1000 for Valentine's Day, I would never let them go. I like it when someone puts their money where their mouth is. It's so easy so easy to talk talk talk.... Talk talk talk....But money talks; it talks loud and clear. I would never ever ever let someone go who gave me a $ 1000, you are SHOWING her with action that you been business about her. I think you didn't get a present because she is stunned! Libras have a way of balancing the scales; we think it's fair. 🙂 I think you made an investment that will pay off perhaps down the line. She was probably silence by the realness of the gifts! Trust me it paved a very deep root between you two. What do you like about her soo much? Why are you attracted to an air sign? Do you know your placements like your Venus or moon? Is her Venus in Scorpio? If I was her I would dump every mutha and concentrate soley on you. I mean how much more sincere can you be?
Posted by lovely77
Oh yea i read post By you i dont like you at all and you rub me the wrong way, im glad you work well with your Aquarius have a good day @librawoman77 everyone gives their opinions but you just come off real negative to me frfr lol
Oh I am losing sleep over you not liking me. Please please like me, or maybe I should give you some money to buy your affections. LOL,
Oh u finally responded? Okayyy good morning and good day @librawoman77 have a blessed day.
Yea she is moon on cancer venus in scorpio and has alot of water placements @shrewdsharp i just wanted point out too its not about gifts for me its about lil things etc im not a materialistic person but everyone made good points here good and bad etc i accept good bad criticism. I know when someone is being extra snooty in their response lol
Your immature im a grown woman its a way u can give ur criticism and response in an adult matter thats all im saying, carry on good day @librawoman77 i have no energy or time to argue or be rude to strangers u have a safe Tuesday. I dont understand how in one response u mentioned god..yet ur second response u snap out and was like im pathetic weak this and that and how u dump a cancer like what does that have to do with anything? Everyone else gave an adult cristism and u went left with urs like u were irritated with me or something ...dont comment on my stuff then.
She actually was on ur side and said nothing bad at all, she gave constructive cristism and was fair i respect that @librawoman77
Oh OP can I give you some money to change your mind? LOL, LMAO.
You need a hug frfr @librawoman77 lol i have plenty money babe u keep ur change boo. Was that a nice godly response from you? Sounds sarcastic lol 🙂
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Didn't get anything for valentine's card nothing. But i sent flowers candy a plant and 1000 to my libra its ok. Yes im one of those low standard ppl. We all learn and im working on building my standards. I guess im a little sad but i know what type of person im dealing with. The real question is learning to love yourself. I pray for myself to gain strength. Its hard letting go i need help. I know coming here for advise all the time isnt healthy either i know what i need to do. I appreciate everyone and their advise its just hard when u love someone amd they just blow u off. Im a strong person though.