Does the law of attraction work......

in terms of finding a mate?

new friends?

share stories.

Imo yes. It always has for me. Its come naturally to me though eg I was doing it long before I discovered it had a label. Everything i've ever desired i've always deeply imagined, felt, smelled, whatever it is. I've really not wanted much i've not received in life through this "instinctual" behaviour. Of course there is often the need to physically put yourself out there and insert yourself situations/relevant surroundings (you dont get much out of life from sitting at home)

I'm sorry if I haven't done a good job at explaining this, its not always easy for me translate this type of stuff into words.

Feel it, be it, receive it. Does that work?

Definitely!

I have always done it without thinking really about doing it.

What ever I put my focus on, I atrack.

It suit my personality. I am a very positive person.

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Law of attraction attracts energy, if you are positive, and happy , ambitious you attract opportunity, growth and good people, if you spread bad vibes and bad energy you attract the same. 🙂 It's like they say, the happyness and everything you want comes from the inside, if it's not coming from you everyone else will be able to destroy it, so it's permanent 🙂

👌😃

Posted by Raakac
Law of attraction attracts energy, if you are positive, and happy , ambitious you attract opportunity, growth and good people, if you spread bad vibes and bad energy you attract the same. 🙂 It's like they say, the happyness and everything you want comes from the inside, if it's not coming from you everyone else will be able to destroy it, so it's permanent 🙂

it's kind of hard

i've had a difficult life but at the same time being positive and essentially attracting people

who haven't had as difficult as a life...hence they are "happier" and more positive

is not really what i want.

those people aka former friends and love interests seem empty to me.

also i wouldn't refer to them as being good.

i don't want "coachella going , self absorbed , status hungry , fresh pressed juice loving , selfie taking "

people.

also happiness doesn't exactly come from inside..it comes from environment , resources and one's agency.

Absolutely. Only you need to be highly specific in order to work. Oh and the saying always goes " you get what you ask for"

I remember visualising myself a mate one night. Really hard while meditating...next month found the guy id be dating for a year and a half 😄.

Now only if I had been more specific 🤔

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Posted by Raakac
Law of attraction attracts energy, if you are positive, and happy , ambitious you attract opportunity, growth and good people, if you spread bad vibes and bad energy you attract the same. 🙂 It's like they say, the happyness and everything you want comes from the inside, if it's not coming from you everyone else will be able to destroy it, so it's permanent 🙂

it's kind of hard

i've had a difficult life but at the same time being positive and essentially attracting people

who haven't had as difficult as a life...hence they are "happier" and more positive

is not really what i want.

those people aka former friends and love interests seem empty to me.

also i wouldn't refer to them as being good.

i don't want "coachella going , self absorbed , status hungry , fresh pressed juice loving , selfie taking "

people.

also happiness doesn't exactly come from inside..it comes from environment , resources and one's agency.

I've had a diffucult life 2, still have, it's all about the mindset, not about what happens, one person might see an obstacle, other might see opportunity, given the same situation. 🙂 You attract what you need by expressing the energy around you and staying positive, just because people have dreams and are ambitious doesn't mean they are status hungry. And yeah, happiness comes from inside, the reall happiness when you're happy with who you are and comftable in your own skin. Most people aren't tho, many reasons, they let the world change them, they feel guilty when they do somthing bad or don't do something and so on, can be 100nds of reasons, either way.... 🙂 As i see it , people hang on idea that someone else will make them happy and in my head thats the biggest mistake, people should be able to be happy alone, what are you bringing into relationship if you're not happy? No good energy, just a energy that wants to be happy and take something from another person. Rather than both people bring happiness and positive energy, grow together, be together and at the same time be free together while chosing to stay with each other. 🙂 I guess each for his own, but i was able to change the way i think, and i can say it really helped me attract better energy around me 🙂 Sure i'm not saying it's always nice and easy, but keep thinking positive is the must for me, and it's kinda habit now, everyone can stay positive when it's good, when they have bills to pay, have nice people around and so on, the challenge is to stay positive when it starts to fail, it takes courage and belief to do that, either to start a broken relationship all over again, chose a new path or career, leave negative people behind and so on, people get comftable with people, jobs, relationships and so on, as long as it's comftable most of them will be ok with it even tho there is no real growth, joy , happiness.

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part of me agrees with you

but another part of me still has to push back

i don't think people attract natural disasters or cancer

or homelessness...

it's not because they have negative thoughts

and while it is important to try and fight and be resilient there is a line

self care is important..and part of self care is letting yourself fall apart

and realizing that there is inequality in society ...and that somethings are simply not your fault

it can be empowering....especially if you use those things to fuel actions that will improve your life and the community you are apart of

lastly in my case...

my friends or rather former friends are status hungry.



some people who become educated and ascend the social ladder do turn their nose down on people from their old neighborhoods who didn't have the same opportunity.

they desperately try to disassociate themselves from their past...because they have shame and or it reminds them of a painful or troubled upbringing.

these "positive" ambitious people also self medicate

via drugs , alcohol , traveling

and sometimes sex lol.

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Posted by Raakac

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Posted by Raakac
Law of attraction attracts energy, if you are positive, and happy , ambitious you attract opportunity, growth and good people, if you spread bad vibes and bad energy you attract the same. 🙂 It's like they say, the happyness and everything you want comes from the inside, if it's not coming from you everyone else will be able to destroy it, so it's permanent 🙂

it's kind of hard

i've had a difficult life but at the same time being positive and essentially attracting people

who haven't had as difficult as a life...hence they are "happier" and more positive

is not really what i want.

those people aka former friends and love interests seem empty to me.

also i wouldn't refer to them as being good.

i don't want "coachella going , self absorbed , status hungry , fresh pressed juice loving , selfie taking "

people.

also happiness doesn't exactly come from inside..it comes from environment , resources and one's agency.

I've had a diffucult life 2, still have, it's all about the mindset, not about what happens, one person might see an obstacle, other might see opportunity, given the same situation. 🙂 You attract what you need by expressing the energy around you and staying positive, just because people have dreams and are ambitious doesn't mean they are status hungry. And yeah, happiness comes from inside, the reall happiness when you're happy with who you are and comftable in your own skin. Most people aren't tho, many reasons, they let the world change them, they feel guilty when they do somthing bad or don't do something and so on, can be 100nds of reasons, either way.... 🙂 As i see it , people hang on idea that someone else will make them happy and in my head thats the biggest mistake, people should be able to be happy alone, what are you bringing into relationship if you're not happy? No good energy, just a energy that wants to be happy and take something from another person. Rather than both people bring happiness and positive energy, grow together, be together and at the same time be free together while chosing to stay with each other. 🙂 I guess each for his own, but i was able to change the way i think, and i can say it really helped me attract better energy around me 🙂 Sure i'm not saying it's always nice and easy, but keep thinking positive is the must for me, and it's kinda habit now, everyone can stay positive when it's good, when they have bills to pay, have nice people around and so on, the challenge is to stay positive when it starts to fail, it takes courage and belief to do that, either to start a broken relationship all over again, chose a new path or career, leave negative people behind and so on, people get comftable with people, jobs, relationships and so on, as long as it's comftable most of them will be ok with it even tho there is no real growth, joy , happiness.

part of me agrees with you

but another part of me still has to push back

i don't think people attract natural disasters or cancer

or homelessness...

it's not because they have negative thoughts

and while it is important to try and fight and be resilient there is a line

self care is important..and part of self care is letting yourself fall apart

and realizing that there is inequality in society ...and that somethings are simply not your fault

it can be empowering....especially if you use those things to fuel actions that will improve your life and the community you are apart of

lastly in my case...

my friends or rather former friends are status hungry.



some people who become educated and ascend the social ladder do turn their nose down on people from their old neighborhoods who didn't have the same opportunity.

they desperately try to disassociate themselves from their past...because they have shame and or it reminds them of a painful or troubled upbringing.

these "positive" ambitious people also self medicate

via drugs , alcohol , traveling

and sometimes sex lol.

Welcome to the side of depressive realism.

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Thanks for the welcome but I've been residing here over a decade.lol

Things just became even more "realistic" for me in my twenties.

God I love Brecht......

“Poverty makes you wise but it's a curse.”

Ironically reading quotes like this:

“To those who does not know the world is on fire, I have nothing to say.”

have always made me feel better.

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Posted by Raakac

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Posted by Raakac
Law of attraction attracts energy, if you are positive, and happy , ambitious you attract opportunity, growth and good people, if you spread bad vibes and bad energy you attract the same. 🙂 It's like they say, the happyness and everything you want comes from the inside, if it's not coming from you everyone else will be able to destroy it, so it's permanent 🙂

it's kind of hard

i've had a difficult life but at the same time being positive and essentially attracting people

who haven't had as difficult as a life...hence they are "happier" and more positive

is not really what i want.

those people aka former friends and love interests seem empty to me.

also i wouldn't refer to them as being good.

i don't want "coachella going , self absorbed , status hungry , fresh pressed juice loving , selfie taking "

people.

also happiness doesn't exactly come from inside..it comes from environment , resources and one's agency.

I've had a diffucult life 2, still have, it's all about the mindset, not about what happens, one person might see an obstacle, other might see opportunity, given the same situation. 🙂 You attract what you need by expressing the energy around you and staying positive, just because people have dreams and are ambitious doesn't mean they are status hungry. And yeah, happiness comes from inside, the reall happiness when you're happy with who you are and comftable in your own skin. Most people aren't tho, many reasons, they let the world change them, they feel guilty when they do somthing bad or don't do something and so on, can be 100nds of reasons, either way.... 🙂 As i see it , people hang on idea that someone else will make them happy and in my head thats the biggest mistake, people should be able to be happy alone, what are you bringing into relationship if you're not happy? No good energy, just a energy that wants to be happy and take something from another person. Rather than both people bring happiness and positive energy, grow together, be together and at the same time be free together while chosing to stay with each other. 🙂 I guess each for his own, but i was able to change the way i think, and i can say it really helped me attract better energy around me 🙂 Sure i'm not saying it's always nice and easy, but keep thinking positive is the must for me, and it's kinda habit now, everyone can stay positive when it's good, when they have bills to pay, have nice people around and so on, the challenge is to stay positive when it starts to fail, it takes courage and belief to do that, either to start a broken relationship all over again, chose a new path or career, leave negative people behind and so on, people get comftable with people, jobs, relationships and so on, as long as it's comftable most of them will be ok with it even tho there is no real growth, joy , happiness.

part of me agrees with you

but another part of me still has to push back

i don't think people attract natural disasters or cancer

or homelessness...

it's not because they have negative thoughts

and while it is important to try and fight and be resilient there is a line

self care is important..and part of self care is letting yourself fall apart

and realizing that there is inequality in society ...and that somethings are simply not your fault

it can be empowering....especially if you use those things to fuel actions that will improve your life and the community you are apart of

lastly in my case...

my friends or rather former friends are status hungry.



some people who become educated and ascend the social ladder do turn their nose down on people from their old neighborhoods who didn't have the same opportunity.

they desperately try to disassociate themselves from their past...because they have shame and or it reminds them of a painful or troubled upbringing.

these "positive" ambitious people also self medicate

via drugs , alcohol , traveling

and sometimes sex lol.

Welcome to the side of depressive realism.

Thanks for the welcome but I've been residing here over a decade.lol

Things just became even more "realistic" for me in my twenties.

Me too.

I just wanted you to know that those with depressive realism have a better perception and picture of the world than those who are "healthy and happy".

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Don’t agree.

The most important tool we have to be able to be happy is our mind.

When you control your mind, you can control your environment because you won’t react to it.

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Posted by Raakac
Law of attraction attracts energy, if you are positive, and happy , ambitious you attract opportunity, growth and good people, if you spread bad vibes and bad energy you attract the same. 🙂 It's like they say, the happyness and everything you want comes from the inside, if it's not coming from you everyone else will be able to destroy it, so it's permanent 🙂

it's kind of hard

i've had a difficult life but at the same time being positive and essentially attracting people

who haven't had as difficult as a life...hence they are "happier" and more positive

is not really what i want.

those people aka former friends and love interests seem empty to me.

also i wouldn't refer to them as being good.

i don't want "coachella going , self absorbed , status hungry , fresh pressed juice loving , selfie taking "

people.

also happiness doesn't exactly come from inside..it comes from environment , resources and one's agency.

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I had a hard life too.

I know what you mean.

You don’t want superficial people. You won’t relate to them because in reality you don’t have much in common.

You need people around you with your same life values.

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Posted by Adreamuponwaking

Posted by Raakac
Law of attraction attracts energy, if you are positive, and happy , ambitious you attract opportunity, growth and good people, if you spread bad vibes and bad energy you attract the same. 🙂 It's like they say, the happyness and everything you want comes from the inside, if it's not coming from you everyone else will be able to destroy it, so it's permanent 🙂

it's kind of hard

i've had a difficult life but at the same time being positive and essentially attracting people

who haven't had as difficult as a life...hence they are "happier" and more positive

is not really what i want.

those people aka former friends and love interests seem empty to me.

also i wouldn't refer to them as being good.

i don't want "coachella going , self absorbed , status hungry , fresh pressed juice loving , selfie taking "

people.

also happiness doesn't exactly come from inside..it comes from environment , resources and one's agency.

I had a hard life too.

I know what you mean.

You don’t want superficial people. You won’t relate to them because in reality you don’t have much in common.

You need people around you with your same life values.

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Exactly

like someone who's also had to struggle in someway and yet committed to making a life for themselves

still acknowledging / being proud of their past and engages in deep reflection.

They don't self medicate with drugs and avoid real conversations...because it produces "bad vibes"

Posted by Raakac

Posted by Adreamuponwaking

Posted by Raakac
Law of attraction attracts energy, if you are positive, and happy , ambitious you attract opportunity, growth and good people, if you spread bad vibes and bad energy you attract the same. 🙂 It's like they say, the happyness and everything you want comes from the inside, if it's not coming from you everyone else will be able to destroy it, so it's permanent 🙂

it's kind of hard

i've had a difficult life but at the same time being positive and essentially attracting people

who haven't had as difficult as a life...hence they are "happier" and more positive

is not really what i want.

those people aka former friends and love interests seem empty to me.

also i wouldn't refer to them as being good.

i don't want "coachella going , self absorbed , status hungry , fresh pressed juice loving , selfie taking "

people.

also happiness doesn't exactly come from inside..it comes from environment , resources and one's agency.

I've had a diffucult life 2, still have, it's all about the mindset, not about what happens, one person might see an obstacle, other might see opportunity, given the same situation. 🙂 You attract what you need by expressing the energy around you and staying positive, just because people have dreams and are ambitious doesn't mean they are status hungry. And yeah, happiness comes from inside, the reall happiness when you're happy with who you are and comftable in your own skin. Most people aren't tho, many reasons, they let the world change them, they feel guilty when they do somthing bad or don't do something and so on, can be 100nds of reasons, either way.... 🙂 As i see it , people hang on idea that someone else will make them happy and in my head thats the biggest mistake, people should be able to be happy alone, what are you bringing into relationship if you're not happy? No good energy, just a energy that wants to be happy and take something from another person. Rather than both people bring happiness and positive energy, grow together, be together and at the same time be free together while chosing to stay with each other. 🙂 I guess each for his own, but i was able to change the way i think, and i can say it really helped me attract better energy around me 🙂 Sure i'm not saying it's always nice and easy, but keep thinking positive is the must for me, and it's kinda habit now, everyone can stay positive when it's good, when they have bills to pay, have nice people around and so on, the challenge is to stay positive when it starts to fail, it takes courage and belief to do that, either to start a broken relationship all over again, chose a new path or career, leave negative people behind and so on, people get comftable with people, jobs, relationships and so on, as long as it's comftable most of them will be ok with it even tho there is no real growth, joy , happiness.

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I was introduced to it with a book: the power of positive thinking. Omg, that book change my life.

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Law of attraction attracts energy, if you are positive, and happy , ambitious you attract opportunity, growth and good people, if you spread bad vibes and bad energy you attract the same. 🙂 It's like they say, the happyness and everything you want comes from the inside, if it's not coming from you everyone else will be able to destroy it, so it's permanent 🙂

it's kind of hard

i've had a difficult life but at the same time being positive and essentially attracting people

who haven't had as difficult as a life...hence they are "happier" and more positive

is not really what i want.

those people aka former friends and love interests seem empty to me.

also i wouldn't refer to them as being good.

i don't want "coachella going , self absorbed , status hungry , fresh pressed juice loving , selfie taking "

people.

also happiness doesn't exactly come from inside..it comes from environment , resources and one's agency.

I had a hard life too.

I know what you mean.

You don’t want superficial people. You won’t relate to them because in reality you don’t have much in common.

You need people around you with your same life values.

Exactly

like someone who's also had to struggle in someway and yet committed to making a life for themselves

still acknowledging / being proud of their past and engages in deep reflection.

They don't self medicate with drugs and avoid real conversations...because it produces "bad vibes"

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Yes, but at the same time is nice to mix with people that haven’t had a so hard life.

Most of my friends around me have had an easier life, but they have good values and I connect with them on that level. We don’t want to be superficial. Life is deeper than that.

I feel like a can be a example to them that life can be good even if shit has happened to you.

And I really believe that happiness can from inside. If you are happy with who you are regardless of the environment and circumstances around you. You can’t control life but you can control your mind to learn and be happy about anything that comes to you. Good or bad.

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Posted by Raakac
Law of attraction attracts energy, if you are positive, and happy , ambitious you attract opportunity, growth and good people, if you spread bad vibes and bad energy you attract the same. 🙂 It's like they say, the happyness and everything you want comes from the inside, if it's not coming from you everyone else will be able to destroy it, so it's permanent 🙂

it's kind of hard

i've had a difficult life but at the same time being positive and essentially attracting people

who haven't had as difficult as a life...hence they are "happier" and more positive

is not really what i want.

those people aka former friends and love interests seem empty to me.

also i wouldn't refer to them as being good.

i don't want "coachella going , self absorbed , status hungry , fresh pressed juice loving , selfie taking "

people.

also happiness doesn't exactly come from inside..it comes from environment , resources and one's agency.

I've had a diffucult life 2, still have, it's all about the mindset, not about what happens, one person might see an obstacle, other might see opportunity, given the same situation. 🙂 You attract what you need by expressing the energy around you and staying positive, just because people have dreams and are ambitious doesn't mean they are status hungry. And yeah, happiness comes from inside, the reall happiness when you're happy with who you are and comftable in your own skin. Most people aren't tho, many reasons, they let the world change them, they feel guilty when they do somthing bad or don't do something and so on, can be 100nds of reasons, either way.... 🙂 As i see it , people hang on idea that someone else will make them happy and in my head thats the biggest mistake, people should be able to be happy alone, what are you bringing into relationship if you're not happy? No good energy, just a energy that wants to be happy and take something from another person. Rather than both people bring happiness and positive energy, grow together, be together and at the same time be free together while chosing to stay with each other. 🙂 I guess each for his own, but i was able to change the way i think, and i can say it really helped me attract better energy around me 🙂 Sure i'm not saying it's always nice and easy, but keep thinking positive is the must for me, and it's kinda habit now, everyone can stay positive when it's good, when they have bills to pay, have nice people around and so on, the challenge is to stay positive when it starts to fail, it takes courage and belief to do that, either to start a broken relationship all over again, chose a new path or career, leave negative people behind and so on, people get comftable with people, jobs, relationships and so on, as long as it's comftable most of them will be ok with it even tho there is no real growth, joy , happiness.

part of me agrees with you

but another part of me still has to push back

i don't think people attract natural disasters or cancer

or homelessness...

it's not because they have negative thoughts

and while it is important to try and fight and be resilient there is a line

self care is important..and part of self care is letting yourself fall apart

and realizing that there is inequality in society ...and that somethings are simply not your fault

it can be empowering....especially if you use those things to fuel actions that will improve your life and the community you are apart of

lastly in my case...

my friends or rather former friends are status hungry.



some people who become educated and ascend the social ladder do turn their nose down on people from their old neighborhoods who didn't have the same opportunity.

they desperately try to disassociate themselves from their past...because they have shame and or it reminds them of a painful or troubled upbringing.

these "positive" ambitious people also self medicate

via drugs , alcohol , traveling

and sometimes sex lol.

Welcome to the side of depressive realism.

Thanks for the welcome but I've been residing here over a decade.lol

Things just became even more "realistic" for me in my twenties.

Me too.

I just wanted you to know that those with depressive realism have a better perception and picture of the world than those who are "healthy and happy".

Don’t agree.

The most important tool we have to be able to be happy is our mind.

When you control your mind, you can control your environment because you won’t react to it.

That would be stoicism and that's not what I meant or was referring to.

People overestimate the amount of positive influence they have. They have influence sure, but it's limited.

"In plain English, it means that if you are not depressed, when you have some control and bad things are happening, you believe you have no control. And when you have no control but good things are happening, then you believe you have control. If you are depressed, it does not matter, you judge your level of control accurately, regardless of the valence of the outcome."

https://scientiaportal.wordpress.com/tag/depressive-realism/

OP stated correctly that no amount of happy and/or positive attitude is going to save you calamity, economic turmoil etc.

That is textbook depressive realism.

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Thank’s for the link. I really enjoyed it. At first I thought you were calling me incompetent 😂

But this says a lot to me:

“A crucial question is whether depression itself leads people to be “realistic” or whether realistic people are more vulnerable to depression than other people”

And I believe it’s the second one.

I had tons of shit happen in my life. Tons. But I really think that even when the sky is falling down on me I still have control.

You either feel sorry for yourself, or learn from it and become stronger. When I am stronger I am happier and I atrack happiness.

When you feel sorry for yourself you don’t have any control and you will be stuck for so much longer. Everything around you will be worse.

I am realistic. I see what I don’t like in my life. I focus in what I want and not in what I don’t have and it always comes.

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Law of attraction attracts energy, if you are positive, and happy , ambitious you attract opportunity, growth and good people, if you spread bad vibes and bad energy you attract the same. 🙂 It's like they say, the happyness and everything you want comes from the inside, if it's not coming from you everyone else will be able to destroy it, so it's permanent 🙂

it's kind of hard

i've had a difficult life but at the same time being positive and essentially attracting people

who haven't had as difficult as a life...hence they are "happier" and more positive

is not really what i want.

those people aka former friends and love interests seem empty to me.

also i wouldn't refer to them as being good.

i don't want "coachella going , self absorbed , status hungry , fresh pressed juice loving , selfie taking "

people.

also happiness doesn't exactly come from inside..it comes from environment , resources and one's agency.

I've had a diffucult life 2, still have, it's all about the mindset, not about what happens, one person might see an obstacle, other might see opportunity, given the same situation. 🙂 You attract what you need by expressing the energy around you and staying positive, just because people have dreams and are ambitious doesn't mean they are status hungry. And yeah, happiness comes from inside, the reall happiness when you're happy with who you are and comftable in your own skin. Most people aren't tho, many reasons, they let the world change them, they feel guilty when they do somthing bad or don't do something and so on, can be 100nds of reasons, either way.... 🙂 As i see it , people hang on idea that someone else will make them happy and in my head thats the biggest mistake, people should be able to be happy alone, what are you bringing into relationship if you're not happy? No good energy, just a energy that wants to be happy and take something from another person. Rather than both people bring happiness and positive energy, grow together, be together and at the same time be free together while chosing to stay with each other. 🙂 I guess each for his own, but i was able to change the way i think, and i can say it really helped me attract better energy around me 🙂 Sure i'm not saying it's always nice and easy, but keep thinking positive is the must for me, and it's kinda habit now, everyone can stay positive when it's good, when they have bills to pay, have nice people around and so on, the challenge is to stay positive when it starts to fail, it takes courage and belief to do that, either to start a broken relationship all over again, chose a new path or career, leave negative people behind and so on, people get comftable with people, jobs, relationships and so on, as long as it's comftable most of them will be ok with it even tho there is no real growth, joy , happiness.

part of me agrees with you

but another part of me still has to push back

i don't think people attract natural disasters or cancer

or homelessness...

it's not because they have negative thoughts

and while it is important to try and fight and be resilient there is a line

self care is important..and part of self care is letting yourself fall apart

and realizing that there is inequality in society ...and that somethings are simply not your fault

it can be empowering....especially if you use those things to fuel actions that will improve your life and the community you are apart of

lastly in my case...

my friends or rather former friends are status hungry.



some people who become educated and ascend the social ladder do turn their nose down on people from their old neighborhoods who didn't have the same opportunity.

they desperately try to disassociate themselves from their past...because they have shame and or it reminds them of a painful or troubled upbringing.

these "positive" ambitious people also self medicate

via drugs , alcohol , traveling

and sometimes sex lol.

Welcome to the side of depressive realism.

Thanks for the welcome but I've been residing here over a decade.lol

Things just became even more "realistic" for me in my twenties.

Me too.

I just wanted you to know that those with depressive realism have a better perception and picture of the world than those who are "healthy and happy".

Don’t agree.

The most important tool we have to be able to be happy is our mind.

When you control your mind, you can control your environment because you won’t react to it.

That would be stoicism and that's not what I meant or was referring to.

People overestimate the amount of positive influence they have. They have influence sure, but it's limited.

"In plain English, it means that if you are not depressed, when you have some control and bad things are happening, you believe you have no control. And when you have no control but good things are happening, then you believe you have control. If you are depressed, it does not matter, you judge your level of control accurately, regardless of the valence of the outcome."

https://scientiaportal.wordpress.com/tag/depressive-realism/

OP stated correctly that no amount of happy and/or positive attitude is going to save you calamity, economic turmoil etc.

That is textbook depressive realism.

Thank’s for the link. I really enjoyed it. At first I thought you were calling me incompetent 😂

But this says a lot to me:

“A crucial question is whether depression itself leads people to be “realistic” or whether realistic people are more vulnerable to depression than other people”

And I believe it’s the second one.

I had tons of shit happen in my life. Tons. But I really think that even when the sky is falling down on me I still have control.

You either feel sorry for yourself, or learn from it and become stronger. When I am stronger I am happier and I atrack happiness.

When you feel sorry for yourself you don’t have any control and you will be stuck for so much longer. Everything around you will be worse.

I am realistic. I see what I don’t like in my life. I focus in what I want and not in what I don’t have and it always comes.

I'd tell you if I'd consider you incompetent. 😛

I'm not sure though if it's primarly one thing. I think it can be both.

Happy and upbeat people can learn a lot through depression and become more realistic while those who are more realistic should gain some resilience through their realism because they are simply used to it more than the other group.

I know what you mean with taking control of your life and take the initaive and you're right for the most part but being realistis implies to see what things you can do with your current ressources and what not.

Feeling sorry for yourself and going all the way down also can make you a lot stronger than most other approaches.

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😂 Thank’s!

I am agreeing with you here.

I think I am happier now because I can notice all the little things.

Without the shit I probably would be blind.

So yes. I have definitely being down and feeling sorry for myself but I never stay there for long. The more shit I had to endure the more precious being out of the hole becames.

Life is too short for that.

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Law of attraction attracts energy, if you are positive, and happy , ambitious you attract opportunity, growth and good people, if you spread bad vibes and bad energy you attract the same. 🙂 It's like they say, the happyness and everything you want comes from the inside, if it's not coming from you everyone else will be able to destroy it, so it's permanent 🙂

it's kind of hard

i've had a difficult life but at the same time being positive and essentially attracting people

who haven't had as difficult as a life...hence they are "happier" and more positive

is not really what i want.

those people aka former friends and love interests seem empty to me.

also i wouldn't refer to them as being good.

i don't want "coachella going , self absorbed , status hungry , fresh pressed juice loving , selfie taking "

people.

also happiness doesn't exactly come from inside..it comes from environment , resources and one's agency.

I've had a diffucult life 2, still have, it's all about the mindset, not about what happens, one person might see an obstacle, other might see opportunity, given the same situation. 🙂 You attract what you need by expressing the energy around you and staying positive, just because people have dreams and are ambitious doesn't mean they are status hungry. And yeah, happiness comes from inside, the reall happiness when you're happy with who you are and comftable in your own skin. Most people aren't tho, many reasons, they let the world change them, they feel guilty when they do somthing bad or don't do something and so on, can be 100nds of reasons, either way.... 🙂 As i see it , people hang on idea that someone else will make them happy and in my head thats the biggest mistake, people should be able to be happy alone, what are you bringing into relationship if you're not happy? No good energy, just a energy that wants to be happy and take something from another person. Rather than both people bring happiness and positive energy, grow together, be together and at the same time be free together while chosing to stay with each other. 🙂 I guess each for his own, but i was able to change the way i think, and i can say it really helped me attract better energy around me 🙂 Sure i'm not saying it's always nice and easy, but keep thinking positive is the must for me, and it's kinda habit now, everyone can stay positive when it's good, when they have bills to pay, have nice people around and so on, the challenge is to stay positive when it starts to fail, it takes courage and belief to do that, either to start a broken relationship all over again, chose a new path or career, leave negative people behind and so on, people get comftable with people, jobs, relationships and so on, as long as it's comftable most of them will be ok with it even tho there is no real growth, joy , happiness.

part of me agrees with you

but another part of me still has to push back

i don't think people attract natural disasters or cancer

or homelessness...

it's not because they have negative thoughts

and while it is important to try and fight and be resilient there is a line

self care is important..and part of self care is letting yourself fall apart

and realizing that there is inequality in society ...and that somethings are simply not your fault

it can be empowering....especially if you use those things to fuel actions that will improve your life and the community you are apart of

lastly in my case...

my friends or rather former friends are status hungry.



some people who become educated and ascend the social ladder do turn their nose down on people from their old neighborhoods who didn't have the same opportunity.

they desperately try to disassociate themselves from their past...because they have shame and or it reminds them of a painful or troubled upbringing.

these "positive" ambitious people also self medicate

via drugs , alcohol , traveling

and sometimes sex lol.

Welcome to the side of depressive realism.

Thanks for the welcome but I've been residing here over a decade.lol

Things just became even more "realistic" for me in my twenties.

Me too.

I just wanted you to know that those with depressive realism have a better perception and picture of the world than those who are "healthy and happy".

Don’t agree.

The most important tool we have to be able to be happy is our mind.

When you control your mind, you can control your environment because you won’t react to it.

That would be stoicism and that's not what I meant or was referring to.

People overestimate the amount of positive influence they have. They have influence sure, but it's limited.

"In plain English, it means that if you are not depressed, when you have some control and bad things are happening, you believe you have no control. And when you have no control but good things are happening, then you believe you have control. If you are depressed, it does not matter, you judge your level of control accurately, regardless of the valence of the outcome."

https://scientiaportal.wordpress.com/tag/depressive-realism/

OP stated correctly that no amount of happy and/or positive attitude is going to save you calamity, economic turmoil etc.

That is textbook depressive realism.

Thank’s for the link. I really enjoyed it. At first I thought you were calling me incompetent 😂

But this says a lot to me:

“A crucial question is whether depression itself leads people to be “realistic” or whether realistic people are more vulnerable to depression than other people”

And I believe it’s the second one.

I had tons of shit happen in my life. Tons. But I really think that even when the sky is falling down on me I still have control.

You either feel sorry for yourself, or learn from it and become stronger. When I am stronger I am happier and I atrack happiness.

When you feel sorry for yourself you don’t have any control and you will be stuck for so much longer. Everything around you will be worse.

I am realistic. I see what I don’t like in my life. I focus in what I want and not in what I don’t have and it always comes.

I'd tell you if I'd consider you incompetent. 😛

I'm not sure though if it's primarly one thing. I think it can be both.

Happy and upbeat people can learn a lot through depression and become more realistic while those who are more realistic should gain some resilience through their realism because they are simply used to it more than the other group.

I know what you mean with taking control of your life and take the initaive and you're right for the most part but being realistis implies to see what things you can do with your current ressources and what not.

Feeling sorry for yourself and going all the way down also can make you a lot stronger than most other approaches.

😂 Thank’s!

I am agreeing with you here.

I think I am happier now because I can notice all the little things.

Without the shit I probably would be blind.

So yes. I have definitely being down and feeling sorry for myself but I never stay there for long. The more shit I had to endure the more precious being out of the hole becames.

Life is too short for that.

Shame you had to go through that all the better that you found the required strength to grow from this.

Sometimes one need to go through some shit to realize the following:

"It's the little things

That convince me to stay

It's your fingertips

And the music they play

To the beat of my heart

And the rhythm our bodies make"

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Ah, you know! You have to play with the cards you get. I just like to win.

That is super nice 😊

Not sure if it's considered law of attraction or just premonition. But I dreamt of my current Aries boo some years ago even down to little details like his voice, eye color, occupation and where and how we would me meet.. and the challenges that could be in our lives

Low and beyond, he pretty much poofed into my life under those very particular events..

Kinda crazy.. but

Yea

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Law of attraction attracts energy, if you are positive, and happy , ambitious you attract opportunity, growth and good people, if you spread bad vibes and bad energy you attract the same. It's like they say, the happyness and everything you want comes from the inside, if it's not coming from you everyone else will be able to destroy it, so it's permanent

it's kind of hard

i've had a difficult life but at the same time being positive and essentially attracting people
who haven't had as difficult as a life...hence they are "happier" and more positive

is not really what i want.

those people aka former friends and love interests seem empty to me.

also i wouldn't refer to them as being good.

i don't want "coachella going , self absorbed , status hungry , fresh pressed juice loving , selfie taking "
people.

also happiness doesn't exactly come from inside..it comes from environment , resources and one's agency.

I've had a diffucult life 2, still have, it's all about the mindset, not about what happens, one person might see an obstacle, other might see opportunity, given the same situation. You attract what you need by expressing the energy around you and staying positive, just because people have dreams and are ambitious doesn't mean they are status hungry. And yeah, happiness comes from inside, the reall happiness when you're happy with who you are and comftable in your own skin. Most people aren't tho, many reasons, they let the world change them, they feel guilty when they do somthing bad or don't do something and so on, can be 100nds of reasons, either way.... As i see it , people hang on idea that someone else will make them happy and in my head thats the biggest mistake, people should be able to be happy alone, what are you bringing into relationship if you're not happy? No good energy, just a energy that wants to be happy and take something from another person. Rather than both people bring happiness and positive energy, grow together, be together and at the same time be free together while chosing to stay with each other. I guess each for his own, but i was able to change the way i think, and i can say it really helped me attract better energy around me Sure i'm not saying it's always nice and easy, but keep thinking positive is the must for me, and it's kinda habit now, everyone can stay positive when it's good, when they have bills to pay, have nice people around and so on, the challenge is to stay positive when it starts to fail, it takes courage and belief to do that, either to start a broken relationship all over again, chose a new path or career, leave negative people behind and so on, people get comftable with people, jobs, relationships and so on, as long as it's comftable most of them will be ok with it even tho there is no real growth, joy , happiness. click to expand

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Perfectly put!! This I can agree with, 100% as it is what I practice now.

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i don't want "coachella going , self absorbed , status hungry , fresh pressed juice loving , selfie taking "

Okay, I get the other things, but what's wrong with fresh pressed juice? lol I make my own and drink it daily.

As far as the law of attraction, I believe a SMALL part of it is mystical, but a lot of it is just confirmation bias. "What the mind can conceive, it can achieve." You can attain whatever your mind manifests when you combine it with positive thinking, mindfulness, commitment etc., but it's not something that will magically occur as you sit around and do nothing.

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In terms of finding a mate? New friends?

Nah, I think people are confusing what is actually goin on. The LoA is about what you /will/. I think it's actually your /actions/ that have a magnetic pull to them. Changing your mindset and will can influence your actions, and thus change your push and pull.

The times people seem "drawn" to me, is when I am acting confident and powerful. My mind isn't focused on attracting anyone, only on being wrapped up in my own independent world and focusing my energy to be very active and interactive. click to expand

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in terms of finding a mate?

new friends?

I pray now,

But years ago I wanted a man to love me,

Every time I saw 111 or 1111 on the clock, I would say in my mind "he loves me", and id think of him, fast forward: I moved in with him and he would always say he loved me.

Not sure if this was the law of attraction but it was faith..

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in terms of finding a mate?

new friends?

I pray now,

But years ago I wanted a man to love me,
Every time I saw 111 or 1111 on the clock, I would say in my mind "he loves me", and id think of him, fast forward: I moved in with him and he would always say he loved me.

Not sure if this was the law of attraction but it was faith.. click to expand

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true story?

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in terms of finding a mate?

new friends?

I pray now,

But years ago I wanted a man to love me,
Every time I saw 111 or 1111 on the clock, I would say in my mind "he loves me", and id think of him, fast forward: I moved in with him and he would always say he loved me.

Not sure if this was the law of attraction but it was faith.. click to expand

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i want to do this not for love but for great sex with a particular person even if it's just one time.lol

she's in love and in a relationship with another person.

i want her to be happy..that's the most important thing.

maybe she'll have an open relationship later.

i wished for that with my ex who is now married and that totally happened..except i wasn't into her anymore by the time her and her husband were trying to get with me

So I was walking around Manhattan yesterday thinking about her. I was day dreaming like she was there with me when I looked down and saw that she texted that she dreamt we were in nyc together.