40 year olds, what advice do you offer to 30s, 20s and teens

This topic was created in the Miscellaneous forum by DMV on Sunday, December 26, 2021 and has 39 replies.

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I'm in my 30s but if I could give younger people one piece of advice

Don't try to impress bad people, and stay far away from those that do. That's anti-intelligence and it's how low hangers get rid of themselves.

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Just what make you think our youths of today wants to listen to us old timers? I myself never took advise from older folks when I was in my teens and twenties. I did what I want and unfortunately paid the ultimate price for not listening.

Though if I could tell my younger self one thing it would indeed be "don't be a hard head. Listen to your elders".

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Posted by Jumpin_Jupiter

Just what make you think our youths of today wants to listen to us old timers? I myself never took advise from older folks when I was in my teens and twenties. I did what I want and unfortunately paid the ultimate price for not listening.

Though if I could tell my younger self one thing it would indeed be "don't be a hard head. Listen to your elders".

Ironically what you offered was just that…advice

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Posted by DMV

Posted by Jumpin_Jupiter

Just what make you think our youths of today wants to listen to us old timers? I myself never took advise from older folks when I was in my teens and twenties. I did what I want and unfortunately paid the ultimate price for not listening.

Though if I could tell my younger self one thing it would indeed be "don't be a hard head. Listen to your elders".

Ironically what you offered was just that…advice

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Nah I was referring that advice to my younger self right now in my late 40s. Though I wish I could offer that advice to my young peers in person. I would more than likely to get laughed at and not taken serious advicing something like that to youngins.

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Posted by Jumpin_Jupiter

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Posted by Jumpin_Jupiter

Just what make you think our youths of today wants to listen to us old timers? I myself never took advise from older folks when I was in my teens and twenties. I did what I want and unfortunately paid the ultimate price for not listening.

Though if I could tell my younger self one thing it would indeed be "don't be a hard head. Listen to your elders".

Ironically what you offered was just that…advice

Nah I was referring that advice to my younger self right now in my late 40s. Though I wish I could offer that advice to my young peers in person. I would more than likely to get laughed at and not taken serious advicing something like that to youngins.

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I believe you said , “I myself never took advice from older folks when I was in my teens…”

That’s great advice.

From what I’ve gathered from the younger crowd, if you put it on social media, they absorb it better than In person.

That way they probably don’t feel lectured too

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Posted by GC11_

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1. Get an FU Fund - great piece of advice from Wendy Williams (cancer sun)

2. Wear sunscreen everyday, even when it’s cloudy out. Face, forearms and hands

3. No plan is a plan

1. Wendy Williams is problematic but I love her, and this advice is actually good.

2. My skincare routine involves moisturizer, do I need to use SPF on top of the moisturizer?

3. Pls elaborate??

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She gave that nugget when she was on the radio and I remembered hearing that in my twenties. It stuck with me.

I use my spf over my moisturizer

Imo, a 5 year plan is crazy and unrealistic. I would get that question during interviews and I found it to be a limiting question. So one time, I decided to answer honestly. “Wherever the wind blows me.”

Interviewee got all up in arms. You can’t answer like that. Blah blah blah. I actually gave you the best answer I could.

I’ve had so many plans go down due to life stepping in. So now, I don’t plan. I wait for the wind to blow.

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7 Years1,000+ Posts

Pay attention to your instincts.

You are important too. Take care of yourself first. It’s hard especially when you have kids, but important.

Just because someone you care about tells you what is wrong with you or you’ve done something wrong, doesn’t make it true. Again instincts.

Relax. Enjoy life. Perfection is overrated.

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Posted by GammaArietis

I’m in my 30s but I would tell my younger self and other younger people, don’t feel pressured to be in a relationship/ marriage. Keeping the wrong person in your life can set you so far off your path. There are so many other better and rewarding things in life than romantic love.

I’m sure there can be better and rewarding things in life than romantic love but what are some actual specific examples?

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Posted by GammaArietis

I’m in my 30s but I would tell my younger self and other younger people, don’t feel pressured to be in a relationship/ marriage. Keeping the wrong person in your life can set you so far off your path. There are so many other better and rewarding things in life than romantic love.

I’m sure there can be better and rewarding things in life than romantic love but what are some actual specific examples?

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Becoming an EGOT

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Posted by GammaArietis

I’m in my 30s but I would tell my younger self and other younger people, don’t feel pressured to be in a relationship/ marriage. Keeping the wrong person in your life can set you so far off your path. There are so many other better and rewarding things in life than romantic love.

I’m sure there can be better and rewarding things in life than romantic love but what are some actual specific examples?

Becoming an EGOT

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Ah yes, major career achievements. But what if you don't like working and just want to be pampered and provided for xD

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You are an amazing beautiful creature made out of the universe. Your ideas and efforts have value, believe in who you are and what your doing no matter how anyone else makes you feel.

If those fuckers are making you feel discouraged, those aren't your fucker, go find new fuckers that make you feel like magic. Except not crystal meth that's not the magic you need.

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Posted by SassyKiwi

Posted by GammaArietis

I’m in my 30s but I would tell my younger self and other younger people, don’t feel pressured to be in a relationship/ marriage. Keeping the wrong person in your life can set you so far off your path. There are so many other better and rewarding things in life than romantic love.

I’m sure there can be better and rewarding things in life than romantic love but what are some actual specific examples?

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Having peace on your heart , attaining inner happiness

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Posted by Truemara

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Posted by GammaArietis

I’m in my 30s but I would tell my younger self and other younger people, don’t feel pressured to be in a relationship/ marriage. Keeping the wrong person in your life can set you so far off your path. There are so many other better and rewarding things in life than romantic love.

I’m sure there can be better and rewarding things in life than romantic love but what are some actual specific examples?

Having peace on your heart , attaining inner happiness

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Those are definitely what everyone should be seeking regardless of their relationship status but I personally find it very beautiful to be able to build a life with a consistent long term partner and bring in children and all that shebang. I also think most men suck but we have to also be honest with ourselves if we want it as we also can’t expect the guy to be flawlessly perfect. So we just gotta be able to tolerate enough flaws of a person to make anything work in life. I feel like that message gets lost at some point of pushing the super independent woman image.

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Posted by DMV

Or if you could tell your younger self one thing, what would it be?

Identify luxuries vs necessities; figure out what can be tossed overboard.

Tally monthly spending. Save even $ 5 or $ 10 a month in a savings acct. you’ll impress yourself and hone discipline;

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Posted by DMV

Or if you could tell your younger self one thing, what would it be?

Don’t be distracted by sex. You’re sexual, but not as sexual as you think. In western society (and more and more due to globalization), it’s very easy to become overly focused on all aspects regarding sex, and even develop a sex addiction. This is because **We’re fed a constant diet that provoke all aspects related to sex from society** music, tv shows, advertising, media debates, career advancement, clothing, etc.

We’re attracted to the sensationalism, hypocrisy, taboo, bold rebelliousness, power it promises to provide us with. It tantalizes our senses. It’s

Euphoric. But it’s making your mind like baby food and wasting your valuable time. Just like heroine.

Detox from this effect. Google videos on staying invested in the game and keeping focused.

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Or if you could tell your younger self one thing, what would it be?

Lastly, the worst feeling in the world—is regret. Pay attn to how you handle yourself with e*very*one and e*very*thing. Trust me, on downtime, you look back and reminisce on memories you wish weren’t part of the mental archive. You can become deeply ashamed, even in present day. You can struggle with self respect due to past decision-making with a “what-were-you-thinking??” self- style d guilt trip even in the present . I’ve moved mountains to locate and beg forgiveness from people from my past. Just to have a better memory over the previous one.

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I 100% agree

If you wanna ask someone out, do it

If you wanna pour out your feelings, do it

You will never have t wonder what if…let the other person deal with that regret

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Posted by mysticmedusa

there is no perfect timing to do something, if you want to do it now is always the right time

do no harm but take no sh*t

speak softly and carry a big stick, for whacking the intentionally hard of hearing of course 😊😅

go on adventures. take risks. laugh at yourself. Keep a bit of magic within 🐱‍🏍

I agree with all of dis

Now, is the perfect time