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Girls, do you like being stared at in public?
There is a difference between being admired and being stared at.
Posted by geminicandIe
In Italy, guys not only stare but whistle after you and sometimes they'll even slap your ass.It's nice to feel like a woman. Desired woman=)
you've been to Italy and had that happen to you? touch you indecently like that?
Men in Europe usually aren't so crass though. Even Southern Europeans. They'll whistle and say something nice, but not go up and touch you like that.
Posted by geminicandIe
In Italy, guys not only stare but whistle after you and sometimes they'll even slap your ass.It's nice to feel like a woman. Desired woman=)
I'd go Lorena Bobbitt on their asses.
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it IS disrespectful to touch a woman like that.
Posted by geminicandIe
I was taught that one should be aware of people who don't look you in the eyes.Different cultures, different rules.
I always thought looking people in the eye was common courtesy until I realised it was rude to do so in Japan under certain circumstances lol. Then I realised I just have an eye fetish. oh well.
I can understand why girls think it is creepy to get stared at but I must say that when y'all are wearing yoga pants and exposing your cleavage it's like your asking to be stared at. I'm not complaining, just defending myself.
Posted by Tornadoday16
I can understand why girls think it is creepy to get stared at but I must say that when y'all are wearing yoga pants and exposing your cleavage it's like your asking to be stared at. I'm not complaining, just defending myself.
lol well if she's wearing yoga pants and exposing cleavage...she's going to get a different kind of look from people. Both genders and all ages. lmao
Play it off awkwardly if you're caught staring
I fuckin hate it, stop looking at me!
Plus you shouldn't trust people you don't know who are capable following you or overpowering you, cus you don't know how crazy they are. If a guys standing there looking at you like a creep, that's is not a far thought to have.
But in general I often just wish I was invisible to anyone who doesn't know me.
Posted by DonAmanMarat
If I must play the devils advocate here: How do you know someone is lookin at you when you weren't lookin at em first?
Cus you can see in your peripheral vision, that they've completely stopped what they are doing and their head is following your every step. And when you do look up, BAM! straight on awkward eye contact.
What if you're just staring into space thinking about something? And so happen to be looking at someone which more times than not it tends to be crotches rather than faces.
Posted by SanchoMuyTerrible
I hate it when a guy stares at me when he's with his woman :S creepy.most the time when I'm lookin at a Mexican or an Arab its in fears of a supposed shoot out...so we aint lookin at ya we lookin past ya.
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Can you please go take your aggression out on your teeny tiny penis, and leave people here alone.
Question: Is there guys out there who don't like being stared at? It's funny when you see the responses of a stare and relating it to some perverse behaviour rather than what silentkiller pointed out lol.
ugh *are
Posted by geminicandIe
I was taught that one should be aware of people who don't look you in the eyes.Different cultures, different rules.
Yes.
But mostly in conversation.
I usually day dream a lot so many people think I am staring at them when it's me..not being there.
Staring doesn't affect me either way. It's the remarks that go with it that bother me..a bit. Then again, we live in a world where society and women helped men objectify women like crazy so we reap what we sow.
I actually asked some male friends about this and they told me they ran into chicks who not only liked being stared at up and down, completely went
lol Satori..this site trolls me on quoting also.
They are nice men, but they know how to zoom into that precise kind of woman and play that ego gratification game to her. That's what some people (both men and women) are all about.
haha sucked in the quote!
@bliss: I suppose you're right I don't often think of that because I know I can handle myself in those situations. I mean I do work in a more dangerous part of town so I suppose I do avoid eye contact if I could during those times walking home down a dark alley or something.
But still does a stare always have to be perceived as sexual. What if you were wearing something so weird that I just had to do a doubletake to figure out what it is.
See I read this topic and a funny image popped into my head
*random sign staring at a chick*
Chick: THAT GUY IS CREEPY
*scorpio staring at a chick*
Chick: OMG THAT GUY IS INTENSE
lol
Posted by Damnata
See I read this topic and a funny image popped into my head*random sign staring at a chick*
Chick: THAT GUY IS CREEPY
*scorpio staring at a chick*
Chick: OMG THAT GUY IS INTENSElol
LMAO I was just about to say "what about the scorp stare!" To be fair they do give quite sensual looks 😉 also off topic OKC thread gogo
snoz, I wentwent
Posted by Damnata
lol Satori..this site trolls me on quoting also.They are nice men, but they know how to zoom into that precise kind of woman and play that ego gratification game to her. That's what some people (both men and women) are all about.
Is this anyone one for people who love drama?
I'll admit to undressing people with eyes.
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Not necessarily drama since we're talking moments so there's no time for drama to unfold.
Validation? People go about that in strange ways.
"People are strange..when you're a stranger..."
I'm in a singing mood.
Yup, if it's not coming from a deep need to be validated..it's nice. It's just fluff and lightness.
For the other kind..watch out. There is no amount of attention/adoration that will fill the pit they have in themselves. You lose that battle the moment you enter it.
wow I just totally replied in the wrong topic apologies
Most girls like attention, its often a positive sign so yes, generally.
Posted by geminicandIe
In Italy, guys not only stare but whistle after you and sometimes they'll even slap your ass.It's nice to feel like a woman. Desired woman=)
this must mean you're open 4 business and willing 2 bend over
If they are my type, sure why not? Men get in your pants regardless, don't they?
But if they are overly annoying or psycho, I tell them to fuck off and they leave me alone.
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So if that's the case why don't you bend over more often, miss hot shot? 😉
Wanna stare? K. Wanna talk shit? I'll ignore you.
God help you if you put your hands on me. Being in someone's personal space and touching them are 2 different things for me.
Posted by Damnata
Wanna stare? K. Wanna talk shit? I'll ignore you.God help you if you put your hands on me. Being in someone's personal space and touching them are 2 different things for me.
Agreed 150% . I'll ignore the hell out of you, but if you cross that boundary, I will beat your ass myself!
Posted by Damnata
Yup, if it's not coming from a deep need to be validated..it's nice. It's just fluff and lightness.For the other kind..watch out. There is no amount of attention/adoration that will fill the pit they have in themselves. You lose that battle the moment you enter it.
It's hard to know the difference sometimes, maybe it comes down to backbone.
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Trust me, it will be *GLARINGLY* obvious.
haha
-.-
Posted by Tornadoday16
Do you like getting a lot of looks from guys when out in public or is it really creepy?
Yes, I enjoy being starred at in public......
I also like when guys flirt with me too, from the down right raunchy vocal dudes (Aries, Capricorn) to the shy glances from across the room (Scorpio, Leo). 😄
Posted by Nemesis
this reminds me of a documentary i saw a couple of days ago (only caught the last bit damn) about the 60+ generation who seem to fade into the mass and hardly get any kind of recognition in our fast forward soctiey called vanity fair. never mind being stared at cause of your looks.what must it feel like to be ignored or hardly perceived? must be a pretty lonely feeling. if you don't have the looks anymore or can't keep up with the zeigeist; do you bring nothing to the table? when you reach a certain age - you don't count anymore? you are not attractive? you don't even get served with the same sort of respect a younger person does.
"What you are now we used to be; what we are now you will be..."
Ahh wow, what's the name of the Doc, Nem? I often think about those issues, especially as I watch my parents age, and have always feared aging because I know that in my society elders get no respect, and women especially are considered expendable once they're no longer considered viable sexually, which is typically earlier than men. My only comfort in aging is knowing that everyone has to do it lol, god willing.
But the fact that I someday won't have to worry about it doesn't stop me from hating sexual attention I get today from anyone but my significant other. It's just about respect, ya know, and we don't have it for our women or our elders.
My revenge will be that when I'm well beyond my prime, I'm going to dress sluttish and let it all hang out just to gross everyone the fuck out. Can't wait. 😄
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Scorps and revenge.. 😄
Posted by geminicandIe
You all need to leave house a bit more and mingle with different cultures. Smh!
You're an attention whore. That's the only reason you like it, admit it.
Normal people do not care for that behavior as it's rude and crass.
Umm no creeps me out. The other day a guy was staring and staring... Finally he walked up to me and said you have a beautiful face, really beautiful. LOL
Thank you? What about the rest of my body?
Weird.
Posted by aquapiscescusp
Umm no creeps me out. The other day a guy was staring and staring... Finally he walked up to me and said you have a beautiful face, really beautiful. LOLThank you? What about the rest of my body?
Weird.
Be glad he was focused on your face and NOT your body. You're complaining because he wasn't objectifying you? What the hell?
Posted by geminicandIe
In Italy, guys not only stare but whistle after you and sometimes they'll even slap your ass.It's nice to feel like a woman. Desired woman=)
id get really good at slapping guys in the face.
lightening quick
Posted by Tornadoday16
I can understand why girls think it is creepy to get stared at but I must say that when y'all are wearing yoga pants and exposing your cleavage it's like your asking to be stared at. I'm not complaining, just defending myself.
i was just at a meeting at a starbucks, and these three girls walked in with the shortest shorts i'd ever seen. their asses were hanging out. half an inch shorter and they would've been boy short underwear. i was staring. not to ogle. definitely to judge.
i guess the surprising part about it was that they were made to be that short.
to answer the op though??_ i don't mind staring that much. probably because i like to stare too. i try to avoid being rude about it though. i think peeking a look every once in a while is one thing, and gawking is completely different??_ that, i try to avoid.
Posted by aquapiscescusp
Umm no creeps me out. The other day a guy was staring and staring... Finally he walked up to me and said you have a beautiful face, really beautiful. LOLThank you? What about the rest of my body?
Weird.
Be glad he was focused on your face and NOT your body. You're complaining because he wasn't objectifying you? What the hell?
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Lol, true... Not used to it I guess 😉
Posted by Tornadoday16
I can understand why girls think it is creepy to get stared at but I must say that when y'all are wearing yoga pants and exposing your cleavage it's like your asking to be stared at. I'm not complaining, just defending myself.i was just at a meeting at a starbucks, and these three girls walked in with the shortest shorts i'd ever seen. their asses were hanging out. half an inch shorter and they would've been boy short underwear. i was staring. not to ogle. definitely to judge.
i guess the surprising part about it was that they were made to be that short.
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lol what were they trying to accomplish? 😛
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Do you like getting a lot of looks from guys when out in public or is it really creepy?