firebunny
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My dad is better. He never tells me what he wants me to do.
Yes, but by default.
Typical Asian parents!! 😛
Are you Asian, Teena?
Posted by TheCanBullI'm not so sure yet. If I don't get to adapt, I'm going to quit. I just don't like that somebody is forcing me not to quit when I needed it.
Awww so you are quitting because your health is not so good? boo hoo.
-GetMisted 2016.
Posted by AliensusedourbogrollIf I get enough money to invest in a house, I will do that. For now, I still have to live with my parents.Posted by firebunnySo you have no where else to go?
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Posted by firebunnyHalf yeah! 😉
Are you Asian, Teena?
If you want me to speak like an Asian
"She only wants the best for you man.She only wants you to succeed.Nothing wrong with that.She pushes few buttons only for you to work harder.Not that she doesn't care about your health.She very much does.But she doesn't want you to delve in self pity or things like that.She wants to see you doing well in life nothing else"
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" Eff it man!! It's a shame you're living with your parents.Get out of that house right now n go do something for yourself. Your mom is a mean person.You don't want such negativity around you.When you know you can do something n you're better off on your own,get yourself out if this mess.You are being controlled just coz you're staying with them.You don't want that?Move!! Wth are you waiting for?? "
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Posted by TeenaLol. I'm tired of listening to my mum.Posted by firebunnyHalf yeah! 😉
Are you Asian, Teena?
If you want me to speak like an Asian
"She only wants the best for you man.She only wants you to succeed.Nothing wrong with that.She pushes few buttons only for you to work harder.Not that she doesn't care about your health.She very much does.But she doesn't want you to delve in self pity or things like that.She wants you to see you doing well in life nothing else"
Now the English
" Eff it man!! It's a shame you're living with your parents.Get out of that house right now n go do something for yourself. Your mom is a mean person.You don't want such negativity around you.When you know you can do something n you're better off on your own,get yourself out if this mess.You are being controlled just coz you're staying with.You don't want that?Move!! Wth are you waiting for?? "
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Posted by AliensusedourbogrollIt could be. I'm just waiting for me to get enough money. If I'm able to do that, I won't even tell them that I'm moving out.Posted by firebunnyPosted by AliensusedourbogrollIf I get enough money to invest in a house, I will do that. For now, I still have to live with my parents.Posted by firebunnySo you have no where else to go?
Yes, but by default.
So renting isn't an option?
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Posted by firebunnyIt's ok!!! We all sometimes do get tired.But if you really are confident about the plan you made for yourself,go for it!Posted by TeenaLol. I'm tired of listening to my mum.Posted by firebunnyHalf yeah! 😉
Are you Asian, Teena?
If you want me to speak like an Asian
"She only wants the best for you man.She only wants you to succeed.Nothing wrong with that.She pushes few buttons only for you to work harder.Not that she doesn't care about your health.She very much does.But she doesn't want you to delve in self pity or things like that.She wants you to see you doing well in life nothing else"
Now the English
" Eff it man!! It's a shame you're living with your parents.Get out of that house right now n go do something for yourself. Your mom is a mean person.You don't want such negativity around you.When you know you can do something n you're better off on your own,get yourself out if this mess.You are being controlled just coz you're staying with.You don't want that?Move!! Wth are you waiting for?? "
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Posted by AliensusedourbogrollAnds' joint is too small for me. Besides, I don't like living in Manila. I want a provincial life. 🙂
Move in with Ands.
Posted by TheCanBullYeah I will. 😛
Sounds like you have a plan OP, stick with it, that's good 🙂
Posted by PristineThank you, Pristine. 🙂
It's always to someone's benefit to grow a backbone and fight for what you think is just and right...if push comes to shove @firebunny, then have the guts to leave toxic people like your mom behind and live your life the way you want it to...I'm aware that it sounds idealistic but it's not far-fetched from reality cuz at this point in your adult life you gotta have the will to pursue what you know is best for you than to always yield to what others want out of you for their own benefit, and not yours.
Health comes first
Your mother is wrecking your head and that is not doing what is best for you. You are a grown man fire bunny, follow your own path and find a way to be heard....stand up to her and she will begin to respect you
It's not her life..
Your mother is wrecking your head and that is not doing what is best for you. You are a grown man fire bunny, follow your own path and find a way to be heard....stand up to her and she will begin to respect you
It's not her life..
Posted by yupvirgooI don't know. Ugggh. Because I'm the middle child? I remember my mum asking me to treat her after my first salary knowing fully well it wasn't even enough to support myself. Ugggh.Posted by Teenalol i was thinking the same thing
Typical Asian parents!! 😛
@firebunny
i can feel your rage and frustration from you rant
but you seriously need to find a way to make it on your own- separate from your mommy
how come you're the only kid who didn't go to a more expensive school?click to expand
Posted by firebunny🍹 Middle child here as well !! But we all have been to same schools n stuff man.Sorry about your case.Posted by yupvirgooI don't know. Ugggh. Because I'm the middle child? I remember my mum asking me to treat her after my first salary knowing fully well it wasn't even enough to support myself. Ugggh.Posted by Teenalol i was thinking the same thing
Typical Asian parents!! 😛
@firebunny
i can feel your rage and frustration from you rant
but you seriously need to find a way to make it on your own- separate from your mommy
how come you're the only kid who didn't go to a more expensive school?click to expand
Posted by MyStarsShineWhen I pass the bar, I will prove them wrong that I can make it on my own. I don't know why my mum keeps on telling me I can't take care of myself. Instead of saying that, why don't she teach me to be self-sustaining? And yet she would tell me that she'll probably be gone ahead of me? @_@
Health comes first
Your mother is wrecking your head and that is not doing what is best for you. You are a grown man fire bunny, follow your own path and find a way to be heard....stand up to her and she will begin to respect you
It's not her life..
Posted by yupvirgooThis didn't happen once. @_@Posted by firebunnyhey it's just the first one.. what's your moon and rising sign?Posted by yupvirgooI don't know. Ugggh. Because I'm the middle child? I remember my mum asking me to treat her after my first salary knowing fully well it wasn't even enough to support myself. Ugggh.Posted by Teenalol i was thinking the same thing
Typical Asian parents!! 😛
@firebunny
i can feel your rage and frustration from you rant
but you seriously need to find a way to make it on your own- separate from your mommy
how come you're the only kid who didn't go to a more expensive school?
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Posted by TheCanBullPosted by GetMistedI know you have major issues with being positive or even accepting that your out of your own depth.Posted by TheCanBullDestroyed? Kyphosis and degenerative joint disease are genetic. Born with them.Posted by GetMistedI am happy for you, would you like me to get it arranged that a plaque is made for you with GetMisted destroyed his own knee's and feet just so he could live comfortablly financially, but not comfortable at all physically?Posted by TheCanBullNo other options were available at the time. Ran myself into the ground to help make it easier for me now.. And didn't bitch about it in the process or beg for pity.Posted by GetMistedThat's good.Posted by TheCanBullA well paying job, health insurance, and a family that doesn't resent me..Posted by GetMistedPosted by TheCanBullStruck a nerve, eh?
Awww so you are quitting because your health is not so good? boo hoo.
-GetMisted 2016.
You struck your own, you are in poor health 🙂
I think I'll count my blessings.
Happy for you. But running yourself into the ground when other routes are availible, not a wise idea, i respect you for it though.
I can have it done, give me your address and i will pay the shipping and you can display it all here for everyone to see.
A disability isn't going to keep me from living life or bettering myself.
Save your plaque for when you finally make it past the 2nd week of a job. Go get um bud.
I am not you, and you are not me.
When i said i could not walk for days it means i could not walk for days.
Why are you constantly trying to belittle me and 1 up me?
Because you have a health issue no one else can possibly feel physical pain, i like your reasoning, would you liek the super human award next?
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What does that have to do with the OP's question ?
Can you guys create your own thread if you want to fight?
Jeez
And then she'll give me guilt feelings about how she works hard for the family while I'm only studying at school? I was like, mum, you don't even work from 8 am to 5 pm. I see you everyday, I see you going to work at 8:30. Going home at 11:30. Going back to office at 2 pm or even 2:30. And then, leaving at 4 pm. You don't have a very hard job and you don't do anything at home after. And I'm studying like 6-7 hours a day and I have classes about 15 hours a week. Law school isn't easy but you've made me go through that! And you would say, you're working very hard for the family when your job isn't that difficult anyway?
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And then she'll give me guilt feelings about how she works hard for the family while I'm only studying at school? I was like, mum, you don't even work from 8 am to 5 pm. I see you everyday, I see you going to work at 8:30. Going home at 11:30. Going back to office at 2 pm or even 2:30. And then, leaving at 4 pm. You don't have a very hard job and you don't do anything at home after. And I'm studying like 6-7 hours a day and I have classes about 15 hours a week. Law school isn't easy but you've made me go through that! And you would say, you're working very hard for the family when your job isn't that difficult anyway?
You have to get out
The emotional manipulation stuff is well out of order
Posted by tizianiTiz, you're from Italy? I thought you're from England?
FB, it's kind of the same in Italy. The men there are indoctrinated early on by their family and told they cannot do it alone. While a big part of that is true, it gets to a point where you just have to take a vacation, go somewhere else and experience a different way of doing things. That's the most helpful thing I can suggest.
Posted by MyStarsShineYesss. @_@Posted by firebunny
And then she'll give me guilt feelings about how she works hard for the family while I'm only studying at school? I was like, mum, you don't even work from 8 am to 5 pm. I see you everyday, I see you going to work at 8:30. Going home at 11:30. Going back to office at 2 pm or even 2:30. And then, leaving at 4 pm. You don't have a very hard job and you don't do anything at home after. And I'm studying like 6-7 hours a day and I have classes about 15 hours a week. Law school isn't easy but you've made me go through that! And you would say, you're working very hard for the family when your job isn't that difficult anyway?
You have to get out
The emotional manipulation stuff is well out of order
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Posted by tizianiSuch a selfish and unhealthy way to bring up a child
FB, it's kind of the same in Italy. The men there are indoctrinated early on by their family and told they cannot do it alone. While a big part of that is true, it gets to a point where you just have to take a vacation, go somewhere else and experience a different way of doing things. That's the most helpful thing I can suggest.
*One of the biggest sicknesses this world has, is expectation. We all expect other people to be a certain way or to do a certain thing. Most people, they spend their whole lives under the wants of other people*
If you decide to quit, be sure not to burn any bridges. Give notice, finish what you started and leave on good terms. It won't hurt your reputation at all. People change jobs all the time. It is a million times better to resign than to be fired.
Do what is best for you and your health. Don't spend your life unhappy and physically ill in order to please other people. Your mom may be disappointed at first but she will adjust . Find something that you love.
Do what is best for you and your health. Don't spend your life unhappy and physically ill in order to please other people. Your mom may be disappointed at first but she will adjust . Find something that you love.
There are some nasty bitter cruel mothers out there
I would like to bang all their heads together
We have a very driven son.....his dad and I never needed to push him, but encourage and praise him to the highest. I told him as soon as he could understand, that health, happiness and love come first and that I would always accept him for who he is and what he chooses to do. He is choosing to study film directing and acting. I am delighted that he is following his dream and not doing something to please others. I also tell him "do a job that you love and you will never do a day's work in your life*
Mental and physical health come first.....some people would do well to learn that
I would like to bang all their heads together
We have a very driven son.....his dad and I never needed to push him, but encourage and praise him to the highest. I told him as soon as he could understand, that health, happiness and love come first and that I would always accept him for who he is and what he chooses to do. He is choosing to study film directing and acting. I am delighted that he is following his dream and not doing something to please others. I also tell him "do a job that you love and you will never do a day's work in your life*
Mental and physical health come first.....some people would do well to learn that
Posted by julietteI was referring generally to mothers. What I think is cruel may not be to othersPosted by MyStarsShine
There are some nasty bitter cruel mothers out there
I would like to bang all their heads together
We have a very driven son.....his dad and I never needed to push him, but encourage and praise him to the highest. I told him as soon as he could understand, that health, happiness and love come first and that I would always accept him for who he is and what he chooses to do. He is choosing to study film directing and acting. I am delighted that he is following his dream and not doing something to please others. I also tell him "do a job that you love and you will never do a day's work in your life*
Mental and physical health come first.....some people would do well to learn that
well that's a western attitude. i don't remembered i ever got praised or encouraged for anything. but that's a culture thing. that's how kids are raised. it's their way to show their concern. it's the same way they are raised. so cruel is not the right word cause the context is really different.
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...and I am not sure what kind of parent wouldn't praise their child....to me it's a part of loving them. They thrive on it
Posted by julietteThere was a case in my home town of a woman who refused to marry the man her parents had arranged for her, so she *tried* to run away. She was found several weeks later cut into little pieces in a trunk. Her brothers had murdered herPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by julietteI was referring generally to mothers. What I think is cruel may not be to othersPosted by MyStarsShine
There are some nasty bitter cruel mothers out there
I would like to bang all their heads together
We have a very driven son.....his dad and I never needed to push him, but encourage and praise him to the highest. I told him as soon as he could understand, that health, happiness and love come first and that I would always accept him for who he is and what he chooses to do. He is choosing to study film directing and acting. I am delighted that he is following his dream and not doing something to please others. I also tell him "do a job that you love and you will never do a day's work in your life*
Mental and physical health come first.....some people would do well to learn that
well that's a western attitude. i don't remembered i ever got praised or encouraged for anything. but that's a culture thing. that's how kids are raised. it's their way to show their concern. it's the same way they are raised. so cruel is not the right word cause the context is really different.
of course, it's all matter of perception. i'm just saying if it's a culture thing you don't perceive it as such a bad thing. it's evolution, you simply have to adapt. and as someone who is not from western countries, i'm all for support.
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Culture differences apart, i mean.......really?
Where are you from Juliette?
why don't you find a job where you can play videogames all day and relax on a couch
What is it that you want to do?
Go directly into private practice?
You say you ".. almost made it last year"
Almost made what?
Go directly into private practice?
You say you ".. almost made it last year"
Almost made what?
Posted by GetMistedPosted by HareEver quit a job because your feet had anxiety?Posted by GetMistedI can't do that. My Saturn influence won't let me.Posted by HareBe careful what you say here. People will accuse you of having an elitist mentality and no pity for the lazy.Posted by GetMistedWell FB said he had a cold and fever then said he was having health issues then said his job was causing the issues.Posted by HareTroll thread..
How is the job ruining your health?
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/miscellaneous/my-current-situation-someone-please-look-maybe-just-listen--7396799/?p=16
I mean...I got 5 colds this year..it's what happens when you work in an office. You sack up and deal with it.
Jesus fuck I didn't call in sick one day this year. My boss had to tell me to go home or be fired.
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If you have a lot of siblings, is it possible that your parents spent almost all their money to pay for their schooling, and are now panicking because they are almost out of money to help you with?
But ya...my parents def treated my brother & i differently. He was allowed to fail his classes and my parents didn't really do anything. But they disowned him eventually when he turned 18 (very very rare for Asian parents to do..they were just done with him I guess).
But with me, they were all over my case if I got even an A-. But they tried to stop me from moving out at 18, like crying and everything that I was their only child lol.
Asian parents are basically parents on difficulty mode "Extreme" 😛
But ya...my parents def treated my brother & i differently. He was allowed to fail his classes and my parents didn't really do anything. But they disowned him eventually when he turned 18 (very very rare for Asian parents to do..they were just done with him I guess).
But with me, they were all over my case if I got even an A-. But they tried to stop me from moving out at 18, like crying and everything that I was their only child lol.
Asian parents are basically parents on difficulty mode "Extreme" 😛
Posted by julietteNo. We have maids. She's the laziest mum ever. @_@Posted by firebunny
And then she'll give me guilt feelings about how she works hard for the family while I'm only studying at school? I was like, mum, you don't even work from 8 am to 5 pm. I see you everyday, I see you going to work at 8:30. Going home at 11:30. Going back to office at 2 pm or even 2:30. And then, leaving at 4 pm. You don't have a very hard job and you don't do anything at home after. And I'm studying like 6-7 hours a day and I have classes about 15 hours a week. Law school isn't easy but you've made me go through that! And you would say, you're working very hard for the family when your job isn't that difficult anyway?
and probably cooking and cleaning after you. or not?
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Posted by julietteThank you for this advice. It sounds sound. 🙂
it's the same in my country. parents think they can control your life for the rest of theirs, no matter are you financially dependent or not. what worked for me is ignore. though mother still has comments about me like i'm just about to go to jail. there's even a saying here, god give me what my wife thinks of me doing in my free time, and never let what my mother thinks.
but i don't get the protocol. so you didn't pass the bar exam yet. here before you can open a private practice you have to do an internship in bigger firm for 2 years (and have a really low salary) and then you can do it on your own. are you doing an internship, or you just have some job unrelated to law?
Posted by HareI need 10-12 hours of sleep because of medications. With this work, I need to get up at 7 am. I'm still adjusting but if I don't get to adjust, I will resign. I've been absent for two days, trying to recuperate. I will come back on Monday. I love my job. It's just that I'm having a hard time waking up early.
How is the job ruining your health?
Posted by MyStarsShineI envy Westerners. You have this idea to just let your children choose their careers. Here in Asia, it's different. Our mothers try to intervene with our dreams and even hold high expectations. It's not always the case though because my siblings got to choose. I didn't.
There are some nasty bitter cruel mothers out there
I would like to bang all their heads together
We have a very driven son.....his dad and I never needed to push him, but encourage and praise him to the highest. I told him as soon as he could understand, that health, happiness and love come first and that I would always accept him for who he is and what he chooses to do. He is choosing to study film directing and acting. I am delighted that he is following his dream and not doing something to please others. I also tell him "do a job that you love and you will never do a day's work in your life*
Mental and physical health come first.....some people would do well to learn that
Posted by MontgomeryI want to start a newspaper business. I'm more entrepreneurial than someone who just works. I have this idea that when you have passion for something, you'll do good in it because you no longer have to work but just have fun.
What is it that you want to do?
Go directly into private practice?
You say you ".. almost made it last year"I almost passed the bar exams last year. I got 74.65% when the passing rate is 75% . But at that time, I had 35 sleepless nights. I didn't have sleepless nights anymore this year so I'm more confident I'll make it.
Almost made what?
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Posted by SeraphlightI'm the middle child.
Are you the youngest?
Posted by fugu2I only have 2 siblings. We are not poor. We just moved into a new mansion. My father is okay. He's not controlling and he never told me what he wants me to do. My mother, on the other hand, has a lot of dreams for me! But when I told her, I wanted to be an economist, she told me that my dreams are unreachable so she made me take up Accountancy. I'm a Virgo so I was able to adapt and love what she chose for me. But ever since then, she has been deciding what I'm going to do... like everything! I.e., what jobs and firms should I apply to, etc etc. Even right now, she wants me to hold on to my job.
If you have a lot of siblings, is it possible that your parents spent almost all their money to pay for their schooling, and are now panicking because they are almost out of money to help you with?
But ya...my parents def treated my brother & i differently. He was allowed to fail his classes and my parents didn't really do anything. But they disowned him eventually when he turned 18 (very very rare for Asian parents to do..they were just done with him I guess).
But with me, they were all over my case if I got even an A-. But they tried to stop me from moving out at 18, like crying and everything that I was their only child lol.
Asian parents are basically parents on difficulty mode "Extreme" 😛
Yesterday, I was planning to quit... but I still think I love my job... I just don't want my mum to decide for me. Heck, she even tells me whom to marry. My mum is like that with me. She's not like that with my siblings. My siblings get to choose. I didn't.
Posted by SeraphlightShe doesn't! She only works for about 5 hours a day! And she never does anything else at home!
It sounds like you both work hard. Both you and your mom.
Maybe you both need to see the good in each other. :-)
Posted by SeraphlightWhat's his job? Does he get sick if at all?
Every SINGLE holiday he gets ..he volunteers for something...sometimes a theater festival ...in jan it's for mental health.
Posted by SeraphlightI can say something else though. I can be very sweeet. I just don't think my mum is a hard-worker. Lol. Sometimes I go to her office and I only see her watching TV or chatting with her assistants. And she has many assistants for such light workload!Posted by firebunnyYou are NEVER going to butter her up with THAT attitude! lolPosted by SeraphlightShe doesn't! She only works for about 5 hours a day! And she never does anything else at home!
It sounds like you both work hard. Both you and your mom.
Maybe you both need to see the good in each other. :-)click to expand
Posted by SeraphlightIn Asia, even the poorest families have maids. No kidding. That's why my mum doesn't like living in the US. She can't live without maids! 😛Posted by yupvirgooPosted by SeraphlightOur house is pretty big and we're Asian so our parents stay with us too. My children has one nanny and there are two maids to cook and clean. But I also do some cooking and cleaning because I enjoy those things.Posted by yupvirgooWTF— Here I am cleaning my own house like a schmuck..lol..i'm kidding...Posted by SeraphlightAsians have maids.Posted by firebunnyYOU HAVE MAIDS ..WHO THE FUCK HAS MAIDS?? LolPosted by julietteNo. We have maids. She's the laziest mum ever. @_@Posted by firebunny
And then she'll give me guilt feelings about how she works hard for the family while I'm only studying at school? I was like, mum, you don't even work from 8 am to 5 pm. I see you everyday, I see you going to work at 8:30. Going home at 11:30. Going back to office at 2 pm or even 2:30. And then, leaving at 4 pm. You don't have a very hard job and you don't do anything at home after. And I'm studying like 6-7 hours a day and I have classes about 15 hours a week. Law school isn't easy but you've made me go through that! And you would say, you're working very hard for the family when your job isn't that difficult anyway?
and probably cooking and cleaning after you. or not?
I have two.
It's just i don't know anyone who does.
I've never known anyone with a nanny or a maid or a cook etc. I didn't mean to offend ..those would be luxury things to my family.
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Posted by yupvirgooIt is. My aunt who lives in California never had maids. My mum went there but is probably not coming back. I think I can live without maids. I like living on my own and I like doing house chores. It makes me feel good about myself. My mum is lazy. Well, she's a Taurus. Lol.Posted by SeraphlightIt's... more affordable in Asian countries than in the West I guess.Posted by yupvirgooPosted by SeraphlightOur house is pretty big and we're Asian so our parents stay with us too. My children has one nanny and there are two maids to cook and clean. But I also do some cooking and cleaning because I enjoy those things.Posted by yupvirgooWTF— Here I am cleaning my own house like a schmuck..lol..i'm kidding...Posted by SeraphlightAsians have maids.Posted by firebunnyYOU HAVE MAIDS ..WHO THE FUCK HAS MAIDS?? LolPosted by julietteNo. We have maids. She's the laziest mum ever. @_@Posted by firebunny
And then she'll give me guilt feelings about how she works hard for the family while I'm only studying at school? I was like, mum, you don't even work from 8 am to 5 pm. I see you everyday, I see you going to work at 8:30. Going home at 11:30. Going back to office at 2 pm or even 2:30. And then, leaving at 4 pm. You don't have a very hard job and you don't do anything at home after. And I'm studying like 6-7 hours a day and I have classes about 15 hours a week. Law school isn't easy but you've made me go through that! And you would say, you're working very hard for the family when your job isn't that difficult anyway?
and probably cooking and cleaning after you. or not?
I have two.
It's just i don't know anyone who does.
I've never known anyone with a nanny or a maid or a cook etc. I didn't mean to offend ..those would be luxury things to my family.
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Posted by yupvirgooI really don't mind too but I always feel slighted whenever she tells me that I'm still not self-sustaining when it's not even my decision to go to law school. LOL.Posted by firebunnyHmm.. my wife is a Taurus and she is lazy lol but I don't really mind.Posted by yupvirgooIt is. My aunt who lives in California never had maids. My mum went there but is probably not coming back. I think I can live without maids. I like living on my own and I like doing house chores. It makes me feel good about myself. My mum is lazy. Well, she's a Taurus. Lol.Posted by SeraphlightIt's... more affordable in Asian countries than in the West I guess.Posted by yupvirgooPosted by SeraphlightOur house is pretty big and we're Asian so our parents stay with us too. My children has one nanny and there are two maids to cook and clean. But I also do some cooking and cleaning because I enjoy those things.Posted by yupvirgooWTF— Here I am cleaning my own house like a schmuck..lol..i'm kidding...Posted by SeraphlightAsians have maids.Posted by firebunnyYOU HAVE MAIDS ..WHO THE FUCK HAS MAIDS?? LolPosted by julietteNo. We have maids. She's the laziest mum ever. @_@Posted by firebunny
And then she'll give me guilt feelings about how she works hard for the family while I'm only studying at school? I was like, mum, you don't even work from 8 am to 5 pm. I see you everyday, I see you going to work at 8:30. Going home at 11:30. Going back to office at 2 pm or even 2:30. And then, leaving at 4 pm. You don't have a very hard job and you don't do anything at home after. And I'm studying like 6-7 hours a day and I have classes about 15 hours a week. Law school isn't easy but you've made me go through that! And you would say, you're working very hard for the family when your job isn't that difficult anyway?
and probably cooking and cleaning after you. or not?
I have two.
It's just i don't know anyone who does.
I've never known anyone with a nanny or a maid or a cook etc. I didn't mean to offend ..those would be luxury things to my family.
*chuckles
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Posted by SeraphlightIt's just giving me more pressure tbh and I don't like it when she says that... when her work doesn't even demand much at all... I mean, if compared to how much I try hard to pass my subjects. Lol. On the other hand, my father never tells me the same thing even though he's a lawyer and he works a lot lot more than my mum does! @_@Posted by firebunnyI help my mom in her business and take free lance work sometimes..but it's not full time...nowhere near that...i was thinking of going to law school but with the expense etc ...i am scared i would not like it...i am lucky my family said they would aid financially...but they support whatever i want to do...I think..i wouldn't care if they didn't...there is certain pressure ..but well it's on other things really...other stresses. Which i don't want to go into here.Posted by yupvirgooI really don't mind too but I always feel slighted whenever she tells me that I'm still not self-sustaining when it's not even my decision to go to law school. LOL.Posted by firebunnyHmm.. my wife is a Taurus and she is lazy lol but I don't really mind.Posted by yupvirgooIt is. My aunt who lives in California never had maids. My mum went there but is probably not coming back. I think I can live without maids. I like living on my own and I like doing house chores. It makes me feel good about myself. My mum is lazy. Well, she's a Taurus. Lol.Posted by SeraphlightIt's... more affordable in Asian countries than in the West I guess.Posted by yupvirgooPosted by SeraphlightOur house is pretty big and we're Asian so our parents stay with us too. My children has one nanny and there are two maids to cook and clean. But I also do some cooking and cleaning because I enjoy those things.Posted by yupvirgooWTF— Here I am cleaning my own house like a schmuck..lol..i'm kidding...Posted by SeraphlightAsians have maids.Posted by firebunnyYOU HAVE MAIDS ..WHO THE FUCK HAS MAIDS?? LolPosted by julietteNo. We have maids. She's the laziest mum ever. @_@Posted by firebunny
And then she'll give me guilt feelings about how she works hard for the family while I'm only studying at school? I was like, mum, you don't even work from 8 am to 5 pm. I see you everyday, I see you going to work at 8:30. Going home at 11:30. Going back to office at 2 pm or even 2:30. And then, leaving at 4 pm. You don't have a very hard job and you don't do anything at home after. And I'm studying like 6-7 hours a day and I have classes about 15 hours a week. Law school isn't easy but you've made me go through that! And you would say, you're working very hard for the family when your job isn't that difficult anyway?
and probably cooking and cleaning after you. or not?
I have two.
It's just i don't know anyone who does.
I've never known anyone with a nanny or a maid or a cook etc. I didn't mean to offend ..those would be luxury things to my family.
*chuckles
I guess don't let her outer criticism become your inner critic. It's what i have to do with people sometimes ....it's really hard i know.click to expand
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