Anihp
@Anihp
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How can I not want to give up?
Easy come, easy go.
Posted by but_didyoudie
We need a fuller picture to understand where you're coming from. Your sign, his sign?
This reminds me of like a super serious verbal scene in a movie then it cut off into commercials. So many Qs right meow.
More than happy to give the info:
He - virgo sun/scorpio rising/aquarius moon/leo venus/Virgo mars
Me - libra sun/Virgo rising/Scorpio moon/libra venus/Virgo mars
Posted by AbbyNormal
Easy come, easy go.
It didn't come easy, though I wasn't so involved in the beginning.
I just told my Virgo this exact thing. He's so worried about getting ghosted since it happens so often but then he disappears for a few weeks. I think they like the flowing to and from with out getting bugged. But I told him it's gonna make me lose interest.
And then he ended up telling me that I don't call him enough. And I had to remind him there was no point in calling if he doesn't even answer a text, then he said I should leave a message so we can play phone tag and he will call back, texts he forgets about.
What it seems like on my end, is he gets me to try to do things he asks, just to see if I will do them. So I do it for a short time and if I don't get my own desired outcome, then I stop.
I just called AND left a message for him cause he asked me too. I will see what happens now. I only do things once lol
He has picked up his messaging though. He's messaging me from Instagram and text, but I said I would call him and so I did.
And then he ended up telling me that I don't call him enough. And I had to remind him there was no point in calling if he doesn't even answer a text, then he said I should leave a message so we can play phone tag and he will call back, texts he forgets about.
What it seems like on my end, is he gets me to try to do things he asks, just to see if I will do them. So I do it for a short time and if I don't get my own desired outcome, then I stop.
I just called AND left a message for him cause he asked me too. I will see what happens now. I only do things once lol
He has picked up his messaging though. He's messaging me from Instagram and text, but I said I would call him and so I did.
Posted by alexscariesPosted by AbbyNormal
Easy come, easy go.
Sometimes it's harder to come.click to expand
Change the partner...
Posted by but_didyoudiePosted by AnihpPosted by but_didyoudie
We need a fuller picture to understand where you're coming from. Your sign, his sign?
This reminds me of like a super serious verbal scene in a movie then it cut off into commercials. So many Qs right meow.
More than happy to give the info:
He - virgo sun/scorpio rising/aquarius moon/leo venus/Virgo mars
Me - libra sun/Virgo rising/Scorpio moon/libra venus/Virgo mars
Well if you like him, do what he said.. stop thinking about it... but still make time for him. You'll figure it out.click to expand
Thanks...He was talking about a plan when we meet, but he still seems busy now
Posted by but_didyoudie
whatever, Virgos are not that bad anyway
I agree if my assumption is wrong
Posted by saggurl88
I just told my Virgo this exact thing. He's so worried about getting ghosted since it happens so often but then he disappears for a few weeks. I think they like the flowing to and from with out getting bugged. But I told him it's gonna make me lose interest.
And then he ended up telling me that I don't call him enough. And I had to remind him there was no point in calling if he doesn't even answer a text, then he said I should leave a message so we can play phone tag and he will call back, texts he forgets about.
What it seems like on my end, is he gets me to try to do things he asks, just to see if I will do them. So I do it for a short time and if I don't get my own desired outcome, then I stop.
I just called AND left a message for him cause he asked me too. I will see what happens now. I only do things once lol
He has picked up his messaging though. He's messaging me from Instagram and text, but I said I would call him and so I did.
I'm kind of confused, he's the one who's afraid of being ghosted but disappears often? And while I was typing that, I realized that I'm like that, too! But I always respond yet hardly initiate.
This virgo man gives an impression that he's cool with msgs, so I don't know if he really cares. Just that every time I keep silent for 1-2 days, he drops a line or the like. Also, it's him who always asks to video chat.
I feel guilty for expecting to do all the work, but what if I'm one of the fish?
I feel guilty for expecting to do all the work, but what if I'm one of the fish?
expecting *him
Posted by AnihpPosted by saggurl88
I just told my Virgo this exact thing. He's so worried about getting ghosted since it happens so often but then he disappears for a few weeks. I think they like the flowing to and from with out getting bugged. But I told him it's gonna make me lose interest.
And then he ended up telling me that I don't call him enough. And I had to remind him there was no point in calling if he doesn't even answer a text, then he said I should leave a message so we can play phone tag and he will call back, texts he forgets about.
What it seems like on my end, is he gets me to try to do things he asks, just to see if I will do them. So I do it for a short time and if I don't get my own desired outcome, then I stop.
I just called AND left a message for him cause he asked me too. I will see what happens now. I only do things once lol
He has picked up his messaging though. He's messaging me from Instagram and text, but I said I would call him and so I did.
I'm kind of confused, he's the one who's afraid of being ghosted but disappears often? And while I was typing that, I realized that I'm like that, too! But I always respond yet hardly initiate.
This virgo man gives an impression that he's cool with msgs, so I don't know if he really cares. Just that every time I keep silent for 1-2 days, he drops a line or the like. Also, it's him who always asks to video chat.
I feel guilty for expecting to do all the work, but what if I'm one of the fish?click to expand
Yes, he disappears often and wonders why people lose interest and stop answering his texts. I brought this to his attention the last time I saw him, and it seemed like that idea never crossed his mind. I don't think he has a good concept of time while he's in his head over in LaLa land. I do like that I can talk with him about anything and he takes it all in and processes it, even if it has to do with how he's treating me.
He's very accepting of any issues that I have with him and any work arounds that need to be done in order to get my needs met.
So it's very easy to tell him what I expect and want and then give him time to make it happen. It works for me cause I like getting way and when I'm happy, I will do everything I can to make him happy.
But I have patience for the things I want, so it doesn't bother me too much. I like aloof men who aren't worried about me lol
As far as messaging and calls, he just tells me what he needs and I try to do it. We've gone a week or more without a word cause both of us suck at communicating, but for some reason I'm fine with it. 2 days is nothing. That would be great communication between us lol
The thing that is said over and over again with Virgos is they don't waste their time, so if you are in their life, it's for a reason. I guess you just have to have patience and go with the flow. I'm just enjoying whatever time I have with him, while I can. He's way younger then me, so I don't even know why he's bothered and keeps coming back, but I like him so he can come and go as he pleases. I'm a very go with the flow type.
Posted by saggurl88Posted by AnihpPosted by saggurl88
I just told my Virgo this exact thing. He's so worried about getting ghosted since it happens so often but then he disappears for a few weeks. I think they like the flowing to and from with out getting bugged. But I told him it's gonna make me lose interest.
And then he ended up telling me that I don't call him enough. And I had to remind him there was no point in calling if he doesn't even answer a text, then he said I should leave a message so we can play phone tag and he will call back, texts he forgets about.
What it seems like on my end, is he gets me to try to do things he asks, just to see if I will do them. So I do it for a short time and if I don't get my own desired outcome, then I stop.
I just called AND left a message for him cause he asked me too. I will see what happens now. I only do things once lol
He has picked up his messaging though. He's messaging me from Instagram and text, but I said I would call him and so I did.
I'm kind of confused, he's the one who's afraid of being ghosted but disappears often? And while I was typing that, I realized that I'm like that, too! But I always respond yet hardly initiate.
This virgo man gives an impression that he's cool with msgs, so I don't know if he really cares. Just that every time I keep silent for 1-2 days, he drops a line or the like. Also, it's him who always asks to video chat.
I feel guilty for expecting to do all the work, but what if I'm one of the fish?
Yes, he disappears often and wonders why people lose interest and stop answering his texts. I brought this to his attention the last time I saw him, and it seemed like that idea never crossed his mind. I don't think he has a good concept of time while he's in his head over in LaLa land. I do like that I can talk with him about anything and he takes it all in and processes it, even if it has to do with how he's treating me.
He's very accepting of any issues that I have with him and any work arounds that need to be done in order to get my needs met.
So it's very easy to tell him what I expect and want and then give him time to make it happen. It works for me cause I like getting way and when I'm happy, I will do everything I can to make him happy.
But I have patience for the things I want, so it doesn't bother me too much. I like aloof men who aren't worried about me lol
As far as messaging and calls, he just tells me what he needs and I try to do it. We've gone a week or more without a word cause both of us suck at communicating, but for some reason I'm fine with it. 2 days is nothing. That would be great communication between us lol
The thing that is said over and over again with Virgos is they don't waste their time, so if you are in their life, it's for a reason. I guess you just have to have patience and go with the flow. I'm just enjoying whatever time I have with him, while I can. He's way younger then me, so I don't even know why he's bothered and keeps coming back, but I like him so he can come and go as he pleases. I'm a very go with the flow type.click to expand
I wish I could simply express what I expect, which is also what he's been telling me.
Yea, I read that virgos don't waste their time, just I'm too "secretly" involved in this -ship.
And I'm not sure if my idea is fine: If I'm one of the fish, I quit.
Posted by AnihpPosted by saggurl88Posted by AnihpPosted by saggurl88
I just told my Virgo this exact thing. He's so worried about getting ghosted since it happens so often but then he disappears for a few weeks. I think they like the flowing to and from with out getting bugged. But I told him it's gonna make me lose interest.
And then he ended up telling me that I don't call him enough. And I had to remind him there was no point in calling if he doesn't even answer a text, then he said I should leave a message so we can play phone tag and he will call back, texts he forgets about.
What it seems like on my end, is he gets me to try to do things he asks, just to see if I will do them. So I do it for a short time and if I don't get my own desired outcome, then I stop.
I just called AND left a message for him cause he asked me too. I will see what happens now. I only do things once lol
He has picked up his messaging though. He's messaging me from Instagram and text, but I said I would call him and so I did.
I'm kind of confused, he's the one who's afraid of being ghosted but disappears often? And while I was typing that, I realized that I'm like that, too! But I always respond yet hardly initiate.
This virgo man gives an impression that he's cool with msgs, so I don't know if he really cares. Just that every time I keep silent for 1-2 days, he drops a line or the like. Also, it's him who always asks to video chat.
I feel guilty for expecting to do all the work, but what if I'm one of the fish?
Yes, he disappears often and wonders why people lose interest and stop answering his texts. I brought this to his attention the last time I saw him, and it seemed like that idea never crossed his mind. I don't think he has a good concept of time while he's in his head over in LaLa land. I do like that I can talk with him about anything and he takes it all in and processes it, even if it has to do with how he's treating me.
He's very accepting of any issues that I have with him and any work arounds that need to be done in order to get my needs met.
So it's very easy to tell him what I expect and want and then give him time to make it happen. It works for me cause I like getting way and when I'm happy, I will do everything I can to make him happy.
But I have patience for the things I want, so it doesn't bother me too much. I like aloof men who aren't worried about me lol
As far as messaging and calls, he just tells me what he needs and I try to do it. We've gone a week or more without a word cause both of us suck at communicating, but for some reason I'm fine with it. 2 days is nothing. That would be great communication between us lol
The thing that is said over and over again with Virgos is they don't waste their time, so if you are in their life, it's for a reason. I guess you just have to have patience and go with the flow. I'm just enjoying whatever time I have with him, while I can. He's way younger then me, so I don't even know why he's bothered and keeps coming back, but I like him so he can come and go as he pleases. I'm a very go with the flow type.
I wish I could simply express what I expect, which is also what he's been telling me.
Yea, I read that virgos don't waste their time, just I'm too "secretly" involved in this -ship.
And I'm not sure if my idea is fine: If I'm one of the fish, I quit.click to expand
You keep on talking about a fish. What fish? I'm too literal to read between the lines lol
Posted by saggurl88Posted by AnihpPosted by saggurl88Posted by AnihpPosted by saggurl88
I just told my Virgo this exact thing. He's so worried about getting ghosted since it happens so often but then he disappears for a few weeks. I think they like the flowing to and from with out getting bugged. But I told him it's gonna make me lose interest.
And then he ended up telling me that I don't call him enough. And I had to remind him there was no point in calling if he doesn't even answer a text, then he said I should leave a message so we can play phone tag and he will call back, texts he forgets about.
What it seems like on my end, is he gets me to try to do things he asks, just to see if I will do them. So I do it for a short time and if I don't get my own desired outcome, then I stop.
I just called AND left a message for him cause he asked me too. I will see what happens now. I only do things once lol
He has picked up his messaging though. He's messaging me from Instagram and text, but I said I would call him and so I did.
I'm kind of confused, he's the one who's afraid of being ghosted but disappears often? And while I was typing that, I realized that I'm like that, too! But I always respond yet hardly initiate.
This virgo man gives an impression that he's cool with msgs, so I don't know if he really cares. Just that every time I keep silent for 1-2 days, he drops a line or the like. Also, it's him who always asks to video chat.
I feel guilty for expecting to do all the work, but what if I'm one of the fish?
Yes, he disappears often and wonders why people lose interest and stop answering his texts. I brought this to his attention the last time I saw him, and it seemed like that idea never crossed his mind. I don't think he has a good concept of time while he's in his head over in LaLa land. I do like that I can talk with him about anything and he takes it all in and processes it, even if it has to do with how he's treating me.
He's very accepting of any issues that I have with him and any work arounds that need to be done in order to get my needs met.
So it's very easy to tell him what I expect and want and then give him time to make it happen. It works for me cause I like getting way and when I'm happy, I will do everything I can to make him happy.
But I have patience for the things I want, so it doesn't bother me too much. I like aloof men who aren't worried about me lol
As far as messaging and calls, he just tells me what he needs and I try to do it. We've gone a week or more without a word cause both of us suck at communicating, but for some reason I'm fine with it. 2 days is nothing. That would be great communication between us lol
The thing that is said over and over again with Virgos is they don't waste their time, so if you are in their life, it's for a reason. I guess you just have to have patience and go with the flow. I'm just enjoying whatever time I have with him, while I can. He's way younger then me, so I don't even know why he's bothered and keeps coming back, but I like him so he can come and go as he pleases. I'm a very go with the flow type.
I wish I could simply express what I expect, which is also what he's been telling me.
Yea, I read that virgos don't waste their time, just I'm too "secretly" involved in this -ship.
And I'm not sure if my idea is fine: If I'm one of the fish, I quit.
You keep on talking about a fish. What fish? I'm too literal to read between the lines lolclick to expand
Sorry for the confusion!
My biggest concern is if he does the same to other girls
Posted by AnihpPosted by saggurl88Posted by AnihpPosted by saggurl88Posted by AnihpPosted by saggurl88
I just told my Virgo this exact thing. He's so worried about getting ghosted since it happens so often but then he disappears for a few weeks. I think they like the flowing to and from with out getting bugged. But I told him it's gonna make me lose interest.
And then he ended up telling me that I don't call him enough. And I had to remind him there was no point in calling if he doesn't even answer a text, then he said I should leave a message so we can play phone tag and he will call back, texts he forgets about.
What it seems like on my end, is he gets me to try to do things he asks, just to see if I will do them. So I do it for a short time and if I don't get my own desired outcome, then I stop.
I just called AND left a message for him cause he asked me too. I will see what happens now. I only do things once lol
He has picked up his messaging though. He's messaging me from Instagram and text, but I said I would call him and so I did.
I'm kind of confused, he's the one who's afraid of being ghosted but disappears often? And while I was typing that, I realized that I'm like that, too! But I always respond yet hardly initiate.
This virgo man gives an impression that he's cool with msgs, so I don't know if he really cares. Just that every time I keep silent for 1-2 days, he drops a line or the like. Also, it's him who always asks to video chat.
I feel guilty for expecting to do all the work, but what if I'm one of the fish?
Yes, he disappears often and wonders why people lose interest and stop answering his texts. I brought this to his attention the last time I saw him, and it seemed like that idea never crossed his mind. I don't think he has a good concept of time while he's in his head over in LaLa land. I do like that I can talk with him about anything and he takes it all in and processes it, even if it has to do with how he's treating me.
He's very accepting of any issues that I have with him and any work arounds that need to be done in order to get my needs met.
So it's very easy to tell him what I expect and want and then give him time to make it happen. It works for me cause I like getting way and when I'm happy, I will do everything I can to make him happy.
But I have patience for the things I want, so it doesn't bother me too much. I like aloof men who aren't worried about me lol
As far as messaging and calls, he just tells me what he needs and I try to do it. We've gone a week or more without a word cause both of us suck at communicating, but for some reason I'm fine with it. 2 days is nothing. That would be great communication between us lol
The thing that is said over and over again with Virgos is they don't waste their time, so if you are in their life, it's for a reason. I guess you just have to have patience and go with the flow. I'm just enjoying whatever time I have with him, while I can. He's way younger then me, so I don't even know why he's bothered and keeps coming back, but I like him so he can come and go as he pleases. I'm a very go with the flow type.
I wish I could simply express what I expect, which is also what he's been telling me.
Yea, I read that virgos don't waste their time, just I'm too "secretly" involved in this -ship.
And I'm not sure if my idea is fine: If I'm one of the fish, I quit.
You keep on talking about a fish. What fish? I'm too literal to read between the lines lol
Sorry for the confusion!
My biggest concern is if he does the same to other girlsclick to expand
Oh, well this is where you need to not worry about other women and just treat him how you want to treat him. You can't really let outside influences mess with you. You don't actually know what he's doing, so there really isn't a need to wonder and bother with it. It's insecurity on your part. Either way, he will either like you and choose you or you guys will get to know each other and won't like each other at all.
Men don't "play" women they are actually serious about. If he's flaunting stuff in your face, then yes, I would be worried, but then he would need to be dropped anyways, depending on if you like that sort of thing.
But worrying about the unknown and being insecure, is more trouble then what it's worth. Especially if he is treating you right and being caring and attentive.
Posted by saggurl88Posted by AnihpPosted by saggurl88Posted by AnihpPosted by saggurl88Posted by AnihpPosted by saggurl88
I just told my Virgo this exact thing. He's so worried about getting ghosted since it happens so often but then he disappears for a few weeks. I think they like the flowing to and from with out getting bugged. But I told him it's gonna make me lose interest.
And then he ended up telling me that I don't call him enough. And I had to remind him there was no point in calling if he doesn't even answer a text, then he said I should leave a message so we can play phone tag and he will call back, texts he forgets about.
What it seems like on my end, is he gets me to try to do things he asks, just to see if I will do them. So I do it for a short time and if I don't get my own desired outcome, then I stop.
I just called AND left a message for him cause he asked me too. I will see what happens now. I only do things once lol
He has picked up his messaging though. He's messaging me from Instagram and text, but I said I would call him and so I did.
I'm kind of confused, he's the one who's afraid of being ghosted but disappears often? And while I was typing that, I realized that I'm like that, too! But I always respond yet hardly initiate.
This virgo man gives an impression that he's cool with msgs, so I don't know if he really cares. Just that every time I keep silent for 1-2 days, he drops a line or the like. Also, it's him who always asks to video chat.
I feel guilty for expecting to do all the work, but what if I'm one of the fish?
Yes, he disappears often and wonders why people lose interest and stop answering his texts. I brought this to his attention the last time I saw him, and it seemed like that idea never crossed his mind. I don't think he has a good concept of time while he's in his head over in LaLa land. I do like that I can talk with him about anything and he takes it all in and processes it, even if it has to do with how he's treating me.
He's very accepting of any issues that I have with him and any work arounds that need to be done in order to get my needs met.
So it's very easy to tell him what I expect and want and then give him time to make it happen. It works for me cause I like getting way and when I'm happy, I will do everything I can to make him happy.
But I have patience for the things I want, so it doesn't bother me too much. I like aloof men who aren't worried about me lol
As far as messaging and calls, he just tells me what he needs and I try to do it. We've gone a week or more without a word cause both of us suck at communicating, but for some reason I'm fine with it. 2 days is nothing. That would be great communication between us lol
The thing that is said over and over again with Virgos is they don't waste their time, so if you are in their life, it's for a reason. I guess you just have to have patience and go with the flow. I'm just enjoying whatever time I have with him, while I can. He's way younger then me, so I don't even know why he's bothered and keeps coming back, but I like him so he can come and go as he pleases. I'm a very go with the flow type.
I wish I could simply express what I expect, which is also what he's been telling me.
Yea, I read that virgos don't waste their time, just I'm too "secretly" involved in this -ship.
And I'm not sure if my idea is fine: If I'm one of the fish, I quit.
You keep on talking about a fish. What fish? I'm too literal to read between the lines lol
Sorry for the confusion!
My biggest concern is if he does the same to other girls
Oh, well this is where you need to not worry about other women and just treat him how you want to treat him. You can't really let outside influences mess with you. You don't actually know what he's doing, so there really isn't a need to wonder and bother with it. It's insecurity on your part. Either way, he will either like you and choose you or you guys will get to know each other and won't like each other at all.
Men don't "play" women they are actually serious about. If he's flaunting stuff in your face, then yes, I would be worried, but then he would need to be dropped anyways, depending on if you like that sort of thing.
But worrying about the unknown and being insecure, is more trouble then what it's worth. Especially if he is treating you right and being caring and attentive.click to expand
Oh, thank you so much for this!
It's true and I'm aware of my insecurity, and I don't know if I'd stop being like that if we become committed, that's why I don't really want a relationship
Posted by AnihpPosted by saggurl88Posted by AnihpPosted by saggurl88Posted by AnihpPosted by saggurl88Posted by AnihpPosted by saggurl88
I just told my Virgo this exact thing. He's so worried about getting ghosted since it happens so often but then he disappears for a few weeks. I think they like the flowing to and from with out getting bugged. But I told him it's gonna make me lose interest.
And then he ended up telling me that I don't call him enough. And I had to remind him there was no point in calling if he doesn't even answer a text, then he said I should leave a message so we can play phone tag and he will call back, texts he forgets about.
What it seems like on my end, is he gets me to try to do things he asks, just to see if I will do them. So I do it for a short time and if I don't get my own desired outcome, then I stop.
I just called AND left a message for him cause he asked me too. I will see what happens now. I only do things once lol
He has picked up his messaging though. He's messaging me from Instagram and text, but I said I would call him and so I did.
I'm kind of confused, he's the one who's afraid of being ghosted but disappears often? And while I was typing that, I realized that I'm like that, too! But I always respond yet hardly initiate.
This virgo man gives an impression that he's cool with msgs, so I don't know if he really cares. Just that every time I keep silent for 1-2 days, he drops a line or the like. Also, it's him who always asks to video chat.
I feel guilty for expecting to do all the work, but what if I'm one of the fish?
Yes, he disappears often and wonders why people lose interest and stop answering his texts. I brought this to his attention the last time I saw him, and it seemed like that idea never crossed his mind. I don't think he has a good concept of time while he's in his head over in LaLa land. I do like that I can talk with him about anything and he takes it all in and processes it, even if it has to do with how he's treating me.
He's very accepting of any issues that I have with him and any work arounds that need to be done in order to get my needs met.
So it's very easy to tell him what I expect and want and then give him time to make it happen. It works for me cause I like getting way and when I'm happy, I will do everything I can to make him happy.
But I have patience for the things I want, so it doesn't bother me too much. I like aloof men who aren't worried about me lol
As far as messaging and calls, he just tells me what he needs and I try to do it. We've gone a week or more without a word cause both of us suck at communicating, but for some reason I'm fine with it. 2 days is nothing. That would be great communication between us lol
The thing that is said over and over again with Virgos is they don't waste their time, so if you are in their life, it's for a reason. I guess you just have to have patience and go with the flow. I'm just enjoying whatever time I have with him, while I can. He's way younger then me, so I don't even know why he's bothered and keeps coming back, but I like him so he can come and go as he pleases. I'm a very go with the flow type.
I wish I could simply express what I expect, which is also what he's been telling me.
Yea, I read that virgos don't waste their time, just I'm too "secretly" involved in this -ship.
And I'm not sure if my idea is fine: If I'm one of the fish, I quit.
You keep on talking about a fish. What fish? I'm too literal to read between the lines lol
Sorry for the confusion!
My biggest concern is if he does the same to other girls
Oh, well this is where you need to not worry about other women and just treat him how you want to treat him. You can't really let outside influences mess with you. You don't actually know what he's doing, so there really isn't a need to wonder and bother with it. It's insecurity on your part. Either way, he will either like you and choose you or you guys will get to know each other and won't like each other at all.
Men don't "play" women they are actually serious about. If he's flaunting stuff in your face, then yes, I would be worried, but then he would need to be dropped anyways, depending on if you like that sort of thing.
But worrying about the unknown and being insecure, is more trouble then what it's worth. Especially if he is treating you right and being caring and attentive.
Oh, thank you so much for this!
It's true and I'm aware of my insecurity, and I don't know if I'd stop being like that if we become committed, that's why I don't really want a relationshipclick to expand
You're welcome and only you can make that decision. 🙂
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I just told my Virgo this exact thing. He's so worried about getting ghosted since it happens so often but then he disappears for a few weeks. I think they like the flowing to and from with out getting bugged. But I told him it's gonna make me lose interest.
And then he ended up telling me that I don't call him enough. And I had to remind him there was no point in calling if he doesn't even answer a text, then he said I should leave a message so we can play phone tag and he will call back, texts he forgets about.
What it seems like on my end, is he gets me to try to do things he asks, just to see if I will do them. So I do it for a short time and if I don't get my own desired outcome, then I stop.
I just called AND left a message for him cause he asked me too. I will see what happens now. I only do things once lol
He has picked up his messaging though. He's messaging me from Instagram and text, but I said I would call him and so I did.
I'm kind of confused, he's the one who's afraid of being ghosted but disappears often? And while I was typing that, I realized that I'm like that, too! But I always respond yet hardly initiate.
This virgo man gives an impression that he's cool with msgs, so I don't know if he really cares. Just that every time I keep silent for 1-2 days, he drops a line or the like. Also, it's him who always asks to video chat.
I feel guilty for expecting to do all the work, but what if I'm one of the fish?
Yes, he disappears often and wonders why people lose interest and stop answering his texts. I brought this to his attention the last time I saw him, and it seemed like that idea never crossed his mind. I don't think he has a good concept of time while he's in his head over in LaLa land. I do like that I can talk with him about anything and he takes it all in and processes it, even if it has to do with how he's treating me.
He's very accepting of any issues that I have with him and any work arounds that need to be done in order to get my needs met.
So it's very easy to tell him what I expect and want and then give him time to make it happen. It works for me cause I like getting way and when I'm happy, I will do everything I can to make him happy.
But I have patience for the things I want, so it doesn't bother me too much. I like aloof men who aren't worried about me lol
As far as messaging and calls, he just tells me what he needs and I try to do it. We've gone a week or more without a word cause both of us suck at communicating, but for some reason I'm fine with it. 2 days is nothing. That would be great communication between us lol
The thing that is said over and over again with Virgos is they don't waste their time, so if you are in their life, it's for a reason. I guess you just have to have patience and go with the flow. I'm just enjoying whatever time I have with him, while I can. He's way younger then me, so I don't even know why he's bothered and keeps coming back, but I like him so he can come and go as he pleases. I'm a very go with the flow type.
I wish I could simply express what I expect, which is also what he's been telling me.
Yea, I read that virgos don't waste their time, just I'm too "secretly" involved in this -ship.
And I'm not sure if my idea is fine: If I'm one of the fish, I quit.
You keep on talking about a fish. What fish? I'm too literal to read between the lines lol
Sorry for the confusion!
My biggest concern is if he does the same to other girls
Oh, well this is where you need to not worry about other women and just treat him how you want to treat him. You can't really let outside influences mess with you. You don't actually know what he's doing, so there really isn't a need to wonder and bother with it. It's insecurity on your part. Either way, he will either like you and choose you or you guys will get to know each other and won't like each other at all.
Men don't "play" women they are actually serious about. If he's flaunting stuff in your face, then yes, I would be worried, but then he would need to be dropped anyways, depending on if you like that sort of thing.
But worrying about the unknown and being insecure, is more trouble then what it's worth. Especially if he is treating you right and being caring and attentive.
Oh, thank you so much for this!
It's true and I'm aware of my insecurity, and I don't know if I'd stop being like that if we become committed, that's why I don't really want a relationship
You're welcome and only you can make that decision. 🙂click to expand
❤️ thank you still for listening and advising, hope to come back with a satisfying outcome
Posted by dilettantePosted by AnihpPosted by saggurl88Posted by AnihpPosted by saggurl88Posted by AnihpPosted by saggurl88Posted by AnihpPosted by saggurl88
I just told my Virgo this exact thing. He's so worried about getting ghosted since it happens so often but then he disappears for a few weeks. I think they like the flowing to and from with out getting bugged. But I told him it's gonna make me lose interest.
And then he ended up telling me that I don't call him enough. And I had to remind him there was no point in calling if he doesn't even answer a text, then he said I should leave a message so we can play phone tag and he will call back, texts he forgets about.
What it seems like on my end, is he gets me to try to do things he asks, just to see if I will do them. So I do it for a short time and if I don't get my own desired outcome, then I stop.
I just called AND left a message for him cause he asked me too. I will see what happens now. I only do things once lol
He has picked up his messaging though. He's messaging me from Instagram and text, but I said I would call him and so I did.
I'm kind of confused, he's the one who's afraid of being ghosted but disappears often? And while I was typing that, I realized that I'm like that, too! But I always respond yet hardly initiate.
This virgo man gives an impression that he's cool with msgs, so I don't know if he really cares. Just that every time I keep silent for 1-2 days, he drops a line or the like. Also, it's him who always asks to video chat.
I feel guilty for expecting to do all the work, but what if I'm one of the fish?
Yes, he disappears often and wonders why people lose interest and stop answering his texts. I brought this to his attention the last time I saw him, and it seemed like that idea never crossed his mind. I don't think he has a good concept of time while he's in his head over in LaLa land. I do like that I can talk with him about anything and he takes it all in and processes it, even if it has to do with how he's treating me.
He's very accepting of any issues that I have with him and any work arounds that need to be done in order to get my needs met.
So it's very easy to tell him what I expect and want and then give him time to make it happen. It works for me cause I like getting way and when I'm happy, I will do everything I can to make him happy.
But I have patience for the things I want, so it doesn't bother me too much. I like aloof men who aren't worried about me lol
As far as messaging and calls, he just tells me what he needs and I try to do it. We've gone a week or more without a word cause both of us suck at communicating, but for some reason I'm fine with it. 2 days is nothing. That would be great communication between us lol
The thing that is said over and over again with Virgos is they don't waste their time, so if you are in their life, it's for a reason. I guess you just have to have patience and go with the flow. I'm just enjoying whatever time I have with him, while I can. He's way younger then me, so I don't even know why he's bothered and keeps coming back, but I like him so he can come and go as he pleases. I'm a very go with the flow type.
I wish I could simply express what I expect, which is also what he's been telling me.
Yea, I read that virgos don't waste their time, just I'm too "secretly" involved in this -ship.
And I'm not sure if my idea is fine: If I'm one of the fish, I quit.
You keep on talking about a fish. What fish? I'm too literal to read between the lines lol
Sorry for the confusion!
My biggest concern is if he does the same to other girls
Oh, well this is where you need to not worry about other women and just treat him how you want to treat him. You can't really let outside influences mess with you. You don't actually know what he's doing, so there really isn't a need to wonder and bother with it. It's insecurity on your part. Either way, he will either like you and choose you or you guys will get to know each other and won't like each other at all.
Men don't "play" women they are actually serious about. If he's flaunting stuff in your face, then yes, I would be worried, but then he would need to be dropped anyways, depending on if you like that sort of thing.
But worrying about the unknown and being insecure, is more trouble then what it's worth. Especially if he is treating you right and being caring and attentive.
Oh, thank you so much for this!
It's true and I'm aware of my insecurity, and I don't know if I'd stop being like that if we become committed, that's why I don't really want a relationship
honestly, i can relate to the “maybe if we are committed my insecurities will go away”
but ime that doesnt happen. there is something happening that is triggering your insecurity. if it’s lack of communication, & you’ve addressed it, & it hasnt changed... it’s likely commitment wont change that.
dont wait for someone to change bc it likely wont happen.click to expand
that's what i think: i'd still feel insecure until i solve it myself
now i only need to know that he's got no one, or i'm done
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